Homemaker Vlog: doughnut girl for a day, baking from scratch, rainy photoshoot + time on the FARM

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Chocolate cream cheese cupcakes:
2 c. sugar
3 c. flour
1/2 c. cocoa
2 tsp. vanilla
2 tsp. baking soda
2 tbsp. vinegar
2/3 c. vegetable oil
2 c. water
Filling:
8 oz. cream cheese
1/2 c. sugar
1 egg
1/4 tsp. salt
1 c. chocolate chips
Whisk dry ingredients together. Add wet ingredients and mix until just thoroughly combined to make chocolate cake batter. In a separate bowl, beat together cream cheese, sugar, egg, and salt. Add chocolate chips. Fill cupcake papers half full with chocolate batter. Top with a teaspoon of filling in the middle of the cup. Bake at 375° 20-30 minutes.
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00:00 Life lately
3:54 Baking time
5:30 Afternoon shenanigans
7:58 Supper prep
13:02 Green house adventures
14:48 Car chat-- HELPmeeting 101
18:33 Working on the soft pretzel wagon
20:34 Josh fills us in
23:26 Running errands in Southern Lanc. Co.
24:55 Rainy photoshoot
26:58 Prickly pear lemonade
30:31 Fun on the farm
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@eidemiller1 Жыл бұрын

When my husband quit his job after 25 years to start his own business I was supportive but cried out of worry for days. 11 years later our business failed and he is back to working for someone. I am so proud of him for going after his dreams. He will never wonder what could have happened. You & Josh will do great and will roll with whatever comes your way.

@Mmeme2023 Жыл бұрын

I love that your husband was willing to go back to being employee, I hear so many stories of men who get too caught up with the dream of entrepreneurship that they remain in a cycle that destroys the family

@lisas2538 Жыл бұрын

That’s scary to quit a job after 25 years. He did a brave thing. My dad did the same thing and I was young so I didn’t understand how scary that must have been for he and my mom. And now he’s passed and I can’t tell him. So tell your husband I think he’s brave. 😊

@dotgoodwin4312 Жыл бұрын

I feel like more parents r teaching their kids how to cook these days. That's such a positive thing! Thank u for sharing your adventures!!

@AngiDas Жыл бұрын

I think you and Josh are a good example of what a partnership is. You are supposed to support each other and also discuss things and be there for the ups and downs. I know that you and Josh both have a good work ethic so I feel like this will succeed. Please feel free to share links in a way we can help Josh in this new venture. Also, the little baskets are super cute. I wanted to add a little edit on. You and Josh both are allowed to give each other grace because it is a big change for him and you and your family and there will be growing pains. But I think you both know what’s right for your family.

@cindykaye3152 Жыл бұрын

Anti-fatigue floor mats would help Josh's back pain & ease the stress on your joints. I worked on my feet for decades when I was y'all's age & I'm paying for it now. Give the mats a try. I promise, your body will thank you in the future! God bless!!!

@sarahspitzfaden Жыл бұрын

What an insight into the loneliness men might feel as heads of the household especially at times of uncertainty and change - offering a place of refuge and partnership to them. I also loved what Josh said about sharing in one’s work - so much of it is all about having someone to share in this life together ❤ PS - I love that I’m not the only one that runs around with her kids playing all the games 😂 Exhausting but so fun

@sherryblack7586 Жыл бұрын

Get Josh one of those support belts for his back. They are amazing.

@kelleybell6873 Жыл бұрын

This is true there are even ones with magnetics

@maddy-books Жыл бұрын

Aww that clip of Miller with the kitten was adorable!

@Yesica1993 Жыл бұрын

I know, right? Two of my favorite things, babies & kittens!

@pama.6410 Жыл бұрын

Love the chokehold that was obviously very tender because the kitty was so calm!

@CharlottesWright Жыл бұрын

You inspired me to be more verbally supportive of my husband today, one thing that draws me & my sister to your videos is how transparent and genuine you are❤️ I want to be a mom like you, keep up God's work!

@jennylhenry78 Жыл бұрын

The older ours got we've made sure that one night a week is family night. We usually had tacos or pizzas (everyone's favorite) and then popcorn and a movie, sometimes we play games. It's SO good to have time for just us. And also, we've done a date night at home every week too. We make macncheese for the children and they go to their rooms and hour early and read books or play quietly with toys while we enjoy an uninterrupted meal and watch something or have a meaningful chat. So nice for "us" to not get lost in the shuffle.

@janellmichael2166 Жыл бұрын

My friend and I went to visit the Ark and the Creation Museum last week. They were phenomenal! That's so exciting that Josh got to work on that project. WOW!

@jackimanley3056 Жыл бұрын

My husband was a pastor in Lancaster county up until December 2022. Our little church unfortunately didn't make it after the previous two years. Sadly my husband lost his job and he decided to go a different route and now is a chaplain at a prison five hours away from Lancaster. We definitely takked about it alot together. I love what you said about being a helpmate, so actually help. Im thankful my husband values my opinion, input, and perspective. It definitely helps our relationship stay strong. Great video :)

@SJD36 Жыл бұрын

Excellent points you made on our role as a wife. I believe we have much to contribute as their help meet and yes that means our brains and intuition like you put it! Take care Megan ❤ I hope you stay encouraged as you filter through the comments . Not everyone will be understanding or kind, but stay strong as your heart seems to be to do the best you can as a mom and wife. Much love and prayers ~Sarah

@kimvoorhis4481 Жыл бұрын

Ok. Yes. My husband discusses things with me too. That’s how a marriage should work. But the thing that got me was when you kept saying “I hope it will work”. You said that several times. No, I don’t know your lives. But I know mine. After we’ve prayed & made the decision, then it’s up to me to support whatever decision we have made. Anyways. Just had to say that. Nice video. God bless.

@wandagordon6453 Жыл бұрын

Love when you show Lancaster scenery. Sweet family time together. God bless your precious family! ❤️😀

@jodystancliff7864 Жыл бұрын

Evonnie has a real eye for picking out flowers! Can't wait to see how your mailbox looks. Also, now I'm craving donuts. 🙂

@evmenke Жыл бұрын

Definitely understand the uncertainty of a husband starting something new.. in the same boat right now. Praying for peace and blessings! Love your channel!

@laurawade4115 Жыл бұрын

Your mom seems like a beautiful person…inside and out!

@Liffster Жыл бұрын

This was one of your best videos about your family dynamics (and fills in some gaps from a previous one about Josh's job change) and life in beautiful Lancaster County. I think it's one many of us will watch more than once, admiring all you are able to accomplish in a single day. Although, as a mother of 5, I do half-remember some days that were just a blur of activity and getting stuff done!

@fisherfamily9620 Жыл бұрын

So excited for this one! This is my fav kinda video❤️ thanks Megan!

@gigib4076 Жыл бұрын

Love, love, love this video! Great job Megan❤️

@micahroyster4502 Жыл бұрын

Very excited to watch this video Megan! Have a great weekend 😊

@maryellenboudria1172 Жыл бұрын

Hi I don’t know if you will read this comment with all you get, but, here goes. I love your vlog! Sharing your family with a stranger like me is awesome. I feel like I’m apart of your life. You are a great Mom, wife and daughter to your family and wish more people could learn from you and the way you balance your life! I never want your vlogs to end and look forward to the next one. I live in New England and wish I lived closer to visit your area of the world. Keep up the great vlogs!!!!

@Karenm1969 Жыл бұрын

So sweet to see you and your daughter cooking together in the kitchen…brings back many fond memories of my youth!

@ozarkview928 Жыл бұрын

I’m so excited to see the patio project 👏

@petro3441 Жыл бұрын

Great to spend time with you and the family. Love the parts where you and Evonnie prep meals together❤

@colleenreimer Жыл бұрын

That looks like a wonderful mothers day! Miller is so adorable 😍

@judyrempel9465 Жыл бұрын

I just loved this video! I also grew up with those cupcakes😅 You're an inspiration, Megan! Thanks for sharing this little sneak peek into your life😁

@kalliewilliamson Жыл бұрын

I adore your chatty vlogs and getting to go along with you on your adventures. I so appreciate your appreciation for the area in which you live. So often we take our local area for granted and forget to soak up the wonderful things about it and almost play tourist in our own town. As an aside, your Momma is so pretty, Megan!

@carolwhisenhunt7504 Жыл бұрын

I'd been missing getting to see Evonnie since she's been in school. She's a great helper in the kitchen. You and josh have beautiful babies. I can't wait to see the patio. Great video Megan.

@deannabrock5951 Жыл бұрын

That’s cool that you and Josh got to help build the ark in Kentucky, my niece just got to visit there on her school field trip, I’ve not got to go yet but looking forward to it one day 💖💖

@maureenpalardy4912 Жыл бұрын

Hello Megan... I so love watching your videos. The landscapes remind me of my most favorite trip to Lancaster, PA. I wish Josh good luck on his new venture.

@Barefoot_Lass Жыл бұрын

Best doughnuts ever!! Absolutely Heavenly! Can’t wait to taste the pretzels next time! So glad that I made the trip out and got to meet you and Josh. 😊 So love your channel. Oh, I have to add that you are even prettier in person! 🙂

@kelsbells1006 Жыл бұрын

Josh is thriving and he seems so happy! I know your support and that from others has helped him along his new path!

@tiggerhaynes Жыл бұрын

Oh Megan, how fun. Doughnuts, my fave. Josh seems to be so happy and has a more relaxed look. Always love to see the children. Thank you for sharing!

@AbsoluteMdot Жыл бұрын

You live such a beautiful, wholesome and simple life! and I love it!! I truly enjoy watching your vlogs.

@cristinalancia8920 Жыл бұрын

Great content, I loved every minute of it. It's almost like being there with you and your lovely family. I love the active way in which you support your husband. And of course, who can resist such a sweet kitten with Miller. 🍼🐈💐

@bettyangstadt4242 Жыл бұрын

Loved this video…Evonnie is such a little homemaker. She’s going to be a wonderful mom someday. She loves learning to cook and she is just so grown up in so many ways, I enjoy watching all your children, you and Josh are fantastic parents, it shows!

@lisalovesstitchin Жыл бұрын

I love seeing Josh's new job, it looks fun. Your mother's day gift is gorgeous, I love the floral punnet.

@belinda_c219 Жыл бұрын

I think stepping out of comfort zone is a hard decision but it's so good to challenge yourself in order to grow and to explore different options. You never know what you would be so successful at or end up being your future career, until you have tried it. Well done guys. So wonderful to hear that Josh got to work on the Ark building project. I live in Australia but one day hope to visit the US especially Pennysylvania. Miller with the kitten was just adorable. Enjoy summer. God bless. 😍

@sarahrking Жыл бұрын

Miller is too adorable- I love seeing little children with animals ❤😍 We have baby piglets on our farm, and it’s so fun to have little kids come over to see the piggies!!

@inezswaffield48 Жыл бұрын

Your vlogs are incredible! Your children are beyond beautidul and you are a wonderful family. Change is good and it is good to see you supporting Josh! At least he is not spending as much time as he was doing paperwork etc!

@paigeschannel3588 Жыл бұрын

I love your parents farm and home! It’s so beautiful with the fields and the animals.

@pama.6410 Жыл бұрын

Lots of happiness in this video. Sure seems like the right path!

@marilynlopez2630 Жыл бұрын

Megan, that was a great video! 😊

@tiffanymackey2382 Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you're not afraid to use your brain and influence in your marriage partnership and that you encourage other women to do the same. I'm blessed to have a husband who values my input as well.

@ashleyp9970 Жыл бұрын

Evonnie is so precious ❤ you guys are raising amazing sweet pumpkins !

@godisgood2919 Жыл бұрын

You can chop the parts of broccoli you don't want to eat and use them in salads. When I buy salad mixes, they have broccoli in them and I like the crunch. :)

@stephanieboncuk5201 Жыл бұрын

I agree with everything you’ve said, and we need to pray about it too. I support my husband also.

@crystalbrooks7875 Жыл бұрын

We have a deli in East Tennessee, we open in may, and close in October! It doubles, then triples by the time we open and close! Josh will do amazing! It just takes time for everyone to get there and buy their goodies, then they will be hooked! Much love and prayers, from Wears Valley, TN ! Honeysuckle Meadows pool and deli! 🥰🥰

@carolberubee Жыл бұрын

I love what you said about wives supporting, but also being participants and partners with, their husbands. Evonnie is growing fast and she's so smart!

@janeevans4758 Жыл бұрын

Back ache & cooking unfortunately go hand in hand 🤦‍♀️,it isn't good though I have to say..Still a nice hot soak in the tub does wonders 😊. Looked like you have a beautiful few days. Have a fab weekend.

@cynthiafisher9907 Жыл бұрын

@@janeevans4758Thanks for reminding me of a good hot soak in the tub. I have a jacuzzi tub, but I haven’t soaked in it for a long, long time. My back has been painful lately from heaving digging and rototilling in the garden. I am overdue for a hot bath!

@Mymamy Жыл бұрын

A couple that works together is wonderful ❤ you have supported each other in each of your journey’s .. this is the greatest lesson for your children! I recently helped my son (he is 44 and I am 67) rehab a house he bought for investment .. we worked together for a year !! Such a blessing ❤️❤️❤️ We made memories to last forever !

@annadinkledine1254 Жыл бұрын

I'm excited to learn about this donut place. I don't live terribly far from the Tennessee donut location and I'm so excited to try it!

@MeganFoxUnlocked Жыл бұрын

You should check it out! But not too often!! ;)

@dianecervantes9095 Жыл бұрын

That was an awesome video and you have a beautiful family. You’re very blessed and have a blessed Thursday afternoon.❤

@kate_700 Жыл бұрын

I’m dreaming of September Farm’s donuts and pretzels! My oh my! I live in Alaska but it’s on my travel bucket list! 😍

@lynnellb Жыл бұрын

I totally get what you mean about your husband’s job. It’s great to be supportive. I also believe it’s necessary to point out issues they may probably not have thought about. That’s the point of a partnership right? Anyways, wish you guys all the best with this new change.

@Yesica1993 Жыл бұрын

Oh, I wish I lived there so I could try your donuts/pretzels and support you! I never would have pictured Josh doing this type of work. I didn't realize he didn't like construction. I'm happy for him! Take it from someone who's older than you, the worst feeling is getting older and realizing you never took the chance to do this or that thing you really wanted to do. One day you wake up and realize life circumstances are such that... it's no longer possible. Health declines when you get older. Family life gets more complicated the older kids get. Financial situation may not be as stable. Etc. So if you have an opportunity for something when you're young, go for it! It's much easier when you're in your 20s-30s than in your 50s and onward.

@cowtownjanet4450 Жыл бұрын

This great grandma truly identifies with everything you said here. You just don’t realize how very much you miss those days❣️

@francesahrens1578 Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your eloquence about wives being there for husbands…. That Evonne is a sweetheart ❤️!

@brianpace7866 Жыл бұрын

You have a great spirit and positive energy even in the rain! Every vid you have that same happy spirit. I know all of us enjoy it and it picks up our day. Megan Fox a legend in the making! 📸☔💃

@MeganFoxUnlocked Жыл бұрын

Josh helped me to see that it could be fun for all of us. The kids loved it!

@susanmoran692 Жыл бұрын

I loved how you went and worked a day with Josh. I bet it was fun! Your children are growing so fast Millers first hair cut💙. I need to try that drink. 🌺🌸💜

@ibamuad Жыл бұрын

Your videos are literally my safe space. You're all so amazing 🫶🏻

@chloeruth937 Жыл бұрын

Girl! your pumping out these videos faster than I can watch! ❤❤

@MeganFoxUnlocked Жыл бұрын

Oh wow! I post once a week + our podcast style series right now. I should probably do more, but I just don't have the time!

@chloeruth937 Жыл бұрын

@@MeganFoxUnlocked Your crazy! 😂😅 Keep it comin'! love le verse at the end, I love your testimony for the Lord! 🤍

@yvonnehawkins2783 Жыл бұрын

What fun, getting to work with your husband and a family walk in the park. The drink and cupcakes look delicious and I love ove the doughnut making. Thank you God bless y'all.

@cherylknepp8894 Жыл бұрын

This was 1 of your best videos 😊. Loved all of it....

@janetk7196 Жыл бұрын

Love this! So much fun. 😊😁😊

@Dana-mb1hd Жыл бұрын

Megan💖 I lit your sunny haze candle and it smells amazing!!! Love your channel can’t wait to watch and finally relax!💖🙏💖

@MeganFoxUnlocked Жыл бұрын

That's my favorite scent this round!! Glad you love it!

@Sam_A_Modern_Day_Hobbit Жыл бұрын

That is so cool you guys helped build the ark!! I haven't been there yet but it's my plan to go visit for my birthday in 2024. We live in Upstate NY., so it's quite the drive.

@pyewacketpeggy8329 Жыл бұрын

Josh has nailed it with the food trailer. I live in Austin. They are portable and gain their own reputation. Really profitable. Sorry to harp on ,but people rent them for weddings. What he is doing is good.

@misyylake1222 Жыл бұрын

Great video ! I could tell you were holding back in the car to let your husband talk about his job and finish what he was saying without interrupting and taking over. Nice to see you listened to your viewers from the last video ! Looks like you all had some fun family time 😍

@dianefuller3242 Жыл бұрын

Such a good point on sharing your own acquired wisdom/opinion when your husband is making a decision. You're right, they don't want a silent partner-I have definitely been guilty of this!

@renegarofalo1569 Жыл бұрын

You seem particularly happy in this blog!

@reneegoodin1317 Жыл бұрын

Way to go guys....donuts look yummy!!! ❤

@suzanneyorkville Жыл бұрын

I have friends who started out with a donut van and they did events. Due to demand they did expand and they did very well.

@GipsiMarisol Жыл бұрын

😊 I felt the balance of supporting each other was restored and loved loved loved so many things in this video😊

@becca.carroll 8 ай бұрын

Heyyy I'm just across the Susquehanna in York County. Fun to see someone who knows the Lord and wants to represent Him! Keep up the hard work... He never tires and always encourages. Doughnuts look delicious... Next time we make it to Lancaster we'll have to stop!

@marilynloucks1121 Жыл бұрын

your comment about the mansion on the hill made me remember how my kids used to love the hymn "I've got a mansion, just over the hilltop..." really enjoyed the variety of this vlog. I remember you mentioning your feelings about your husband's change of career and wanted to share that my husband left his job as a police officer in Southern Ontario Canada and we moved more north to a quieter life but not sure what we would do at first but we figured it out after a few years. Our kids were 3 and 4 when we made the move and they're now 17 and 19. He doesn't make what he used to make but together we do...and his stress level and enjoyment of life increased so much. It was scary at first but we made it through...coming up on 23 years married.

@desertdweller8374 Жыл бұрын

I swear, Megan... I always miss you by a day or two. LOL We were in Lititz Springs Park every morning for a daily walk (while visiting our daughter in Manheim) and I know we were there on the same day. I'm cracking up! I am going to run into you one day! We walk that park every morning because it's soooo beautiful!!! I just love your family and your beautiful spirit. You are a true HELP Meet!

@janbeard494 Жыл бұрын

Love Millers haircut. I want that little orange kitty. So cute.

@GraceWoods-zo8cv Жыл бұрын

My daughter and I went to September Farm after your first video and it was so much fun and very delicious.

@Nanasews4 Жыл бұрын

Those cup cakes were what my family called Black Bottom Cup Cakes. We never added the chip until we placed the cream cheese mixture on top , then sprinkled 5 to 7 chocolate chips on top...but taste the same. I live in Lancaster county also. Funny how each family has their own names for certain things.

@thefarmerswifecanada Жыл бұрын

Thoroughly enjoyed this vlog! You looked so cute at work with your husband. Those doughnuts looked spectacular! ❤

@LoisMary1 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful video!

@eversosophi9653 Жыл бұрын

you can save your vegetable scraps in the freezer for making soup stock 💕

@valeriebass701 Жыл бұрын

My cousin and I do bus trips. We cone to Lancaster at least 1 tike a year. So, I am excited to bring them to September Farm.

@Shelpacemar Жыл бұрын

Cool going to work with hubby!

@jackiemaccaskill2111 Жыл бұрын

Can’t wait to watch Thank you ❤ Xo

@Dingle1234 Жыл бұрын

I remember the first lesson I ever got in pacifism was playing cops and robbers, and our father sternly telling us to NEVER point our finger (pistol) at anyone. He said if you wouldn't do it in real life, you should never do it in pretend. He didn't mind us being cops, just not cops with guns.

@cayleecaroline Жыл бұрын

Josh seems happier! ☺️

@karlah3004 Жыл бұрын

I never commented on the video you made with Josh but I don’t agree with you here when you said you weren’t putting him down. You may not have meant to, but you were putting him down. Yes, you should always be honest with your spouse and it’s okay to have concerns! It’s the rude comments and over talking that was hard to watch for me. The statement and laughing about his cooking when clearly that’s his new job wasn’t nice. You could see in Josh’s face he felt defeated before he even started. Men thrive on knowing they are appreciated and worthy. You made the comment about the silent husband, maybe he is silent sometimes because of how you may respond? I’m glad to see this video you let him finish speaking and didn’t just down his work. I hope that doesn’t come across mean. This is just my honest take from what I watched. Not being hateful in any way. Just want to provide the constructive criticism. I love your channel and will continue to watch but it was something that wasn’t pleasing to watch. 😢

@leedezern6862 Жыл бұрын

September Farms looks like a cool place

@darlenethompson9325 Жыл бұрын

Getting beef from friends or families is great. Meat last for many years in the freezer. Love this video.

@ladycymbeline Жыл бұрын

First! Hi Megan, Have a great Memorial Day weekend!

@MeganFoxUnlocked Жыл бұрын

So glad you're here!!

@andreahall335 Жыл бұрын

To me prickly pear taste like a cantaloupe and watermelon mixed together. My grandmother in Mexico has them around her house and I love them❤️

@LadyAndieJane Жыл бұрын

You are such a beautiful soul.. I hope to find mama friends like you someday ❤

@NoNameNumberTwo Жыл бұрын

17:00 This part reminded me of a person playing golf and his caddy. Yes, the caddy is a support person, but don’t they sometimes give feedback on what club the player should use? You make a really good point about us doing our husbands a disservice if we don’t offer reasonable input. I also think it brings couples closer together when they can honestly talk things through. 🙂