Time Stamps if anyone wants: 1. 2:43 2. 7:35 3. 19:35 4. 31:30 5. 38:34 6. 46:37 7. 55:50 8. 59:38 🌸 Thanks for another lovely podcast.

I hope you all find this video helpful :)

This woman is so underrated. Thanks 👍

This is something I really needed, I have serious trust issues and feel largely unable to show vulnerability!! 💜

I changed my official name 3 years ago. New ID, birth certificate and everything. Best decision I ever made. If someone calls me by my old name, I physically react. It's like a physiological trauma response. It feels like someone's walked over my grave, chills run up my spine, my heart feels like it's being crushed, I feel like I've been punched hard in the stomach, I feel sick and sometimes shake and tear up. I changed it when working long term with a really kind and empathetic psychologist. Honestly best decision I made - it helped me "leave the years and years of trauma behind". I don't necessarily think it's a decision everyone should make and isn't a decision to be taken lightly. I thought about it for 4 years before actually going through with it. But if considered carefully, I think it can be very helpful for traumatised victims to move on and leave the past behind them (especially if there's experiences of complex relational/interpersonal trauma).

Therapy...when having a pensieve would be great 😁 sharing, what i thought to be insignificant details, is how I found out that my childhood was abusive and it actually wasn't normal or okay.

Thanks for answering my question on maladaptive daydreaming!! A lot of discussion/questions over on the reddit community are about : why does music trigger MaDD? why is pacing/rocking back and forth such a distinctive part of MaDD? why do our daydreams have such clear storylines/characters? why do we all see our daydreams from different perspectives (first person, third person)? why do our daydreams contain idealised versions of ourselves? (A LOT of us are celebrities in our daydreams/ are admired in some other way). Thanks!! :)

I think you are super brave for showing vulnerability....we definitely learn and find comfort and courage through shared experiences! Xoxo

Thanks Kati, for answering my question! (question number one.) I can now see the bigger picture. You're absolutely right, my therapist can't see my memories/thoughts so every detail I share with her can be valuable. 😊

I feel like these are more personal than the regular videos. Love them. Thank you.

recently I went through one of the worst mental health times in my life. part of recovery was watching your videos. I wish I had a therapist like you.

That feelings wheel was sooo helpful, just what I needed, had a online talk w. Someone about disire, which I have never experienced and I don't know what happened really the other person said I was wrong or misunderstood me. So I started crying & I didn't know why I was crying. Like the emotions behind the crying other than sad & fear. But now thx to the wheel I know that I felt remorseful and lonely and greatly confused.

If I may take your puzzle analogy a step further, after getting the border finished, I sort colors and patterns and assemble those clusters of pieces separately into smaller pictures. Then I continue until I see how they all fit into the bigger picture. The benefit of an actual jigsaw puzzle though, that is not there in the scattered and shattered memories, is that I know in advance what the finished picture will look like.

Hi Kati I wanna thankx u for your videos they have really helped me in these dark times I'm going through right now. My psychiatrist and therapist have recently left and they haven't replaced them and it couldn't have happened at a worst time. I'm struggling with my P.T.S.D right now and everything that goes with it Hypervigliant, flashbacks and night terrors. I'm using the tools I've been taught in therapy but your videos have really reinforced them and helped me in many other ways. Thankx u for all u do.

Hi Kati. Your podcast seems to be growing well so congrats! If I could add some feedback, would be to create highlights of all the podcasts on a separate channel, for the people who are unable to finish the whole podcast

Another good one!!!..🤗... Good job 👏🏽 Kati!!!👍🏾👍🏾😘

Hello everyone here in the comments also people I have met on here a few times before hello kati I took time to watch and listen to the questions you answer all was helpful for 2 days I haven't felt well with headache s and feeling sick aches your video helps to give me a smile and feel relaxed even while I'm feeling rough thank you for being here in your podcast s for all of us much love to you 😊

Yay. Can't wait till question 7!! I saw that one in the post yesterday and was intrigued..so kudos to whoever asked it :-)

Katie you are changing the world. Know that for certain.

Breath of fresh air..! (Is he talking me ? ) Yes Kati...that's you !

Thank you for this. When you do this format it feels so authentic and connected. I think you're exactly right that vulnerability is so important and that vulnerability and personal stories have a huge role in education. I don't think you have to choose one versus the other, or that it doesn't "count" as education this way ❤️❤️

I absolutely love brene brown and have read all her books aswell as listened to the audiobooks I too learn from her stories. Being vulnerable is exhausting however it is the power of being human that I am able to connect with people I am grateful for your realness videos the educational videos are great but I exceptionally love the one you are human and allow your emotions to flow

Katie, I find myself frequently saying “I adore you “while I’m listening to your videos.... they are so fucking refreshing and genuine! I am a newly licensed therapist and I’m finding your wisdom so immensely helpful as I build my private practice, especially in the areas of trauma and eating disorders and DID. I don’t know what it is but I feel such joy when you say things like “oops I burped “or “I’m all over the place “... You make me feel OK for being a similar kind of therapist. Just wanted to express my gratitude. A California Lcsw

Very helpful thank you kati, send you hugs

Perfect timing! I’ve been struggling a lot with opening up in group therapy and this really helps. Thanks again, Kati.

First time I listen to the podcast on Spotify first and then see it here😃

I'm really glad you got to that last question!!! I totally felt what you said. I've been struggling with this forever and I'm slowly moving on and I'm starting to open up in therapy. Everything you say is soooo true. Thank you so much for everything you do. ❤💙🧡

I had sooo many interesting take sways from this! I can totally relate to the name changing thing. My surname was changed from my fathers surname to my (now ex) step fathers surname when I was about 11. They were both horribly violent and I had no desire to have either of their surnames or to be associated with them in anyway. As soon as I turned 18, my friends and I put some surnames in a hat and voila - my surname was chosen! I’m now 28 and sometimes I feel weird about it when I’m reminded of it, but I never regret it! It’s such an empowering feeling and it really allowed me to separate myself from these people that I didn’t want to be associated with.

This video came at the perfect time. I love that you're writing a book on trauma! Will you be covering generational trauma as well? It needs to be discussed a lot more than it is, especially while we're becoming more comfortable with discussing mental health. Trauma is passed through generations and learning how to unpack that can ease so much suffering, especially in the black community. In my Liberian family we don't talk about mental health, but as I've gotten older the anxiety I've always had I can now realize several of the women in my family have as well. Anyway, thank you for always answering the questions I'm too afraid to ask my therapist!

Thank you for opening up Katie, it's really nice to know we aren't alone. I always listen to your videos when I feel upset now instead of smoking and it's been really soothing and makes me feel not crazy so thank you. ❤️

Hi Kati, Thankyou so much for being who you are, for being vulnerable and for being truthful, you have helped me so much. You taught me it's ok to be vulnerable and ask for help! Xxxx

Please have Shauna Ray on your show to talk about the effects and how to seal with online building. It's a perfect opportunity to speak about your trauma book. Love you x

"I get bullied online a lot and I just block everybody because people are fucking assholes" - it's my goal to feel like that. I take EVERYthing said to me to the core. Thank you for continually being a role model for us (while also staying real and relatable).

you look so good with your hair up!

I so hope you answer one of my questions for your next video!! Love your videos!!

If you don't have one of those fancy rollers for relaxing your muscles, you can also used a tennis ball or golf ball to massage your shoulders

Hi kati..thanks for all the videos...wondering what to do as I think I probably need to talk my life through as it’s a mess but I physically can’t say anything to anyone and don’t trust people anymore and I’m not close to anyone could I have some advice please? Xx

Thank you for answering the second question. I struggled with the exact same thing since childhood, and your response helped a lot.

Thank-you for the Podcast. I too have found vulnerability a necessary tool in my own healing. I laughed at this moment .. 33:23 "I'm going to go totally Old Lady 👵 on you use some BENGAY. "

UH needed this. thanks katie🥰

Katie you are helping so many people.

those feeling charts are pretty useless if you are not aware that your body reacts to something. that is as helpful as a dictionary for someone who cant read and write. to learn emotions you need first learn to raise your awareness to a level that you are able to realize that there is an emotion going on. after that point you can use a feeling chart to identify it.

Thank you very much for answering ( question 2 here :) ) it was very useful!

This helped me so much. Thank you so much kati. Ive been struggling with this lately and you gave me some good tips

Vulnerability is strength. Contrary to what those in fear of it, condemn....

I like Kati's hoodie, although isn't it a bit warm in that in May in California?

every episode is hugely interesting. Kati is amazing. thank you :)

Thank you so much for this Kati, made my day go quickly which is brilliant ❤️

1. 2:40 Hi Kati, is there ever a time when you think by yourself in a session; "Well, you didn't need to share THIS.. But okay...??" every Sunday I send my therapist an email with a update from my week. She asks for it, so I didn't come up with the idea. But sometimes I'm struggling with it. I want to include small things because I think maybe it belongs to something bigger. But I'm afraid my therapist finds it weird and thinks I'm crazy. 2. 7:28 Hi Kati, "happy thursdayyy!" I was raised in an environment where I stopped opening up to my parents very young. I can't remember telling them anything emotion or problems related from the age of 8 even if I was struggling. I had no one else to talk to either. Now as an adult, since I never learned to open up, I struggle to do so. What would you suggest to start gradually being more comfortable talking and opening up? A bit related to someone else's question from last week but directed toward what we, ourselves could do to improve. Thank you very much for all you do! 3. 19:35 How does it feel when the videos that blow up on your main channel are about you? Since your Kati Morton channel is for education, does it feel strange/unexpected that your viewers genuinely care about you as a person, not just your educational content? 4. 31:32 I have my exams in less than a month...and they will determine if i get to college or not. I feel really sad and can't focus at all. I feel like my negative emotions overpower my ability to remember things and to think straight... Anything that I can do to stop overthinking? Thanks♥ 5. 38:30 Hi Kati, how do I learn to trust people again? Growing up everyone I trusted stabbed me in and back and eventually I stopped trusting everyone. This caused me to bury all of my emotions. On the outside I look like I'm happy but on the inside I'm not. Nobody knows I'm hurting on the inside because I am too scared to tell them. I am afraid they are just going to stab me in the back just like everyone else did while I was growing up(I am not in therapy) How do I learn to trust people again so I can tell someone how I really feel? 6. 46:38 Hey Kati! I’d love some more info on maladaptive daydreaming. I can lose hours a day lost in my own mind. I’m part of a Reddit community with over 35k members so it’s obviously a fairly large issue but with barely any info on it. What causes it? Have you ever had any clients experience this and how did you approach the issue as a therapist? 7. 55:52 Hey Kati! What do you think of people changing their names as a response to trauma? Ive heard of some people doing this when their name is a constant reminder of the negativity of the past... 8. 59:36 Hi Kati, How do you deal with being uncomfortable being vulnerable in session and talking about your past? I feel like if there is a wall up between my past and everything else, I can talk about other things just fine

it would be so fun to see a day in the life!

"Flash cards used to save my bacon." 😂😂😂👍👍👍

Another great Ask Kati Anything

I feel this i don't know how resonating it is. The education or information you provide is i should say more digestible or it is easier to acknowledge and accept the facts you are telling which are often different from what we all have been doing or have our beliefs. like there is conflict sometimes. So when we have the opportunity to connect with you as a person and not as an educator, it gives us some connection and people try to latch on more on this. Probably that's some factor in the increase in the reach of the videos that are about you.

When I turned 20, I changed my first name and made my birthname my middle name instead. At the time I didn't realize the trigger behind it, but in school and such it always made me feel uncomfortable when strangers could call my name despite me not knowing who they were at all. But now, having grown more and gotten to know myself better I realize that the discomfort most likely came from that... dragged out chaotic childhood of having my parents scream my name over and over which 90% of the time would result in some kind of abuse. Having come to that realization alone makes me feel like less of a "weirdo" for doing so, though it's a big of a bother when people ask me why I changed. I don't mind explaining but... I do get kinda scared that people will think I'm oversharing. orz It has helped me to put some distance between my past and my present self though and for now it works. One day I will get therapy and deal with these things though. ^^;

about the more personal video's: i adore them! we genuinely love you as a person and not just the crazy/impressive amount of knowledge you provide. you could talk about how fucking annoying it is when leggings have the awkward seems at the knee part for 50 minutes and i would still watch it because it's you and you're amazing!! it was a personal and real video that i really enjoyed and you had the entire kinions groupchat crying. sending love ❤

I’ve stopped opening up because my feelings and thoughts frequently change quickly and sometimes dramatically. I’m not sure who or what I am sometimes because I’m all over the place and I think I wore out the friends and family I used to open up to

Interesting! The video about your struggles is for sure very good an worth a lot. I kind of only "know" that. Because at the moment I can't feel with you. I can not go there, it feels too dangerous to get emotional. That's why I can't learn from it, it is like too high leveled for me at the moment ;)

OMFG I'm legit in the middle of my legal name change because I want to distance myself from all the shit I've been through! Whoever asked question 7 rocks! I got extremely suicidal in the Summer, to the point of making a list of funeral homes and writing out the plan and boxing up/getting rid of my stuff. I'd been watching AskAMortician to aid in my funeral planning. There's a series on there called Morbid Minute where she ends every video with, "And remember, some day you WILL die." And it struck me that this boat has already set sail. I don't have to jump overboard and swim. And then I started to wonder why suicide rates are "constantly on the rise" according to the media. We can't just pack up and walk away anymore. The only way out I could see was death, but who says that death has to actually be physical and permanent? Why can't I just cut all ties to my abusers and the escape the corner I've found myself backed into and just start over somewhere? Sure, I still have this psychological U-Haul I carry around with me, but I don't have to flinch every time someone calls my name because it's a different name. I don't have to cry when I get mail. Also, I'm a little disappointed because I totally thought this made me some kind of "trauma survivor mastermind" and it turns out I'm not. I mean, I'm still alive, so in a way I guess I am.

Thank you, this is very helpful.

I have started to open up and it feels so good to experience the real and deep emotions that come with it but I am still worried I will be rejected if I say anything "wrong" to those people I care about. I wonder how I can move on from needing their validation all the time...

I probably missed it, but do we know when this next book will be out? I'm really looking forward to this one!

You look/are gorgeous... wowwww i just love your face (not in a creepy way) lol, hope ur well, great video!! 🧡🌻

Just started therapy, it's so scary 😫 I'm normally really quiet and shy so this is a huge change 😬 anyone have any tips for me? I have the hardest time saying things out loud to my therapist. Thankfully he lets me email him what I'm thinking but I still want to be able to say what I want without getting really emotional or scared

....when I read the topic for AKA today....my stomach did a bit of a flip.....does this mean it might hit close to home.....?????

About the maladaptive daydreaming - I've been using the term to describe my experiences, but I guess I'm not using the right term? What I experience isn't dissociation. I have a dissociative disorder, and the daydreaming I do is separate. I can bring myself in and out of the daydream, I can remember what was going on around me, but it's like I have these scenarios, like a whole other life, playing out in my head. The issue for me is that I feel anxious when I CAN'T get back to that daydream for a while, because I have to work or go to school or whatever. I can't get anything done and also daydream because it takes so much of my brain power away from the real world. But I honestly don't want to give it up, even though I know it's interfering with me living my life, and even though it makes me feel sad because what's happening in my head can't ever become real. It's like an eating disorder I guess, in that I know it's unhealthy and I do want to get healthier, but I don't want to give up this thing that makes me feel good. So I guess that's not MaDD? I guess I don't really need there to be a specific term for it, but I wonder if there is one.

I never open up, never did, I don't know why. I have litteraly NO CLUE.

Trust is one that has hurt me deeply and loneliness is my friend, that is why I have no real friends and I have a great girlfriend and I need to be better at loving her ...... trust myself and learn too live.

Hey Kati I have a question what can it mean to feel so much like pain and all of these emotions like if something really traumatic happened to me but I don’t remember? Love you Kati

So I'm texting a friend, chatting on discord, and half listening to this, so I might not have gotten the whole gist of everything. But can people who've been abused really trust their instincts when it comes to whom they should trust? My psychiatrist said it's normal for people who were abused as children to be drawn to abusive people as adults, because it's what we're accustomed to, which is why so many of us who had abusive childhoods end up in abusive relationships. Can we trust ourselves to find someone trustworthy?

9:50 does anybody know where I can find out more about WASP(?) Type families? looking it up on google and katies channel didn't get me any results

After what I've been through with my family in the past 3 years, if I had my maiden name still, I would absolutely change it. I want no connection with it.

What do you mean by community tab? Where do I find that

Katie I hope you can help me with this question I haven’t seen a therapist for almost 2 maybe almost 3 years now off an hour with different therapist I even had a change psychiatrist because he really was old school and he didn’t know how to talk with the person who is transgender and I finally said no more of him so I got me a new psychiatrist me and her been working together for quite a while now as well as I have a great therapist now that’s fantastic my question is is I have multiple mental health diagnoses and a less than stellar childhood and I recently just gained a new mental health diagnosis that I was pushing for because all my life I’ve been hearing people talking to me in my mind and I have been trying to ignore them pretty much all the time and I usually crop up more every time I’ve had trauma hit I just don’t remember all my traumas nor do I personally want to know but yet I know I need to face on the diagnoses that I have been given is at first borderline personality disorder bipolar to PTSD generalized anxiety disorder and I’ve had for quite a long time insomnia now I’ve been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder I have a lot of traumas I’m trying to encourage my alters to come out and talk with my therapist but they won’t and they don’t want to because apparently they’re too afraid to talk so they have been talking through me and I’ve been relating what they have said to every to my therapist I have realized that I have dissociative identity disorder because of all the times that I try to suppress certain things and The fat little things would trigger my alters to come coconsciousness where I can talk with them they could talk with me one at a time and I have one that’s basically a protector her name is Lesa and she’s able to talk with all of them but they’re not talking with each other and they’re not excepting the fact that they are a part of a system but I have it so I have excepted that I have a system which is called the chaos system and I is Danielle am host of the system but I’m also an altar with them and I want them to come forward and tell my therapist about all the traumas that they’re carrying because it’s hard for me to progress and get better unless I can deal with the traumas but a little while back before I ended up in the hospital this last time with my mental health I had all of my traumas had been hitting me all at once and I just can’t make them out I know there are things that make me afraid that I don’t like and I know I’ve had verbal abuse and physical abuse the verbal from my sister the physical from my brother we’re all three adopted and I’ve just spent all of my life as much as possible alone because I can’t trust people and I can’t really rely on people because of being a foster child I was stuck in the system always worried about if I was going to get adopted will I ever get adopted when I age out of the system to be on the streets or I’ll just the whole myriad of other things and right now I’m trying to get to the point were my alters will trust my therapist they just don’t feel safe or comfortable except going through me and then letting me feel the brunt of everything and I’m just wondering how I can get to that point that I can get them to ask if you’re comfortable enough to know that this message would be a lot longer if I told you all about the first five alters that I have I will give you this much outline on them so you kind of get an idea the first one is Lesa she’s 27 and she is a construction worker and my second one is a three-year-old she lives with Lesa and she only stays in her room she won’t come out and she’s blonde haired and just a short small little thing and then I have a fairy her name is Tinker Bell she’s inquisitive but she’s also very scared and afraid of things but yet she likes to she’s always curious about everything but she’s just too frayed to venture and my newest one her name is Jade and she is a homeless runaway she wears only black and she has literally absolutely no trust in anyone and Lesa has offered for her to move in with her she’s even going as far as subject to go to school to sign papers pretending to be her sister and saying that her parents have passed away and stuff and so Lesa is willing to help her with that much she lives in a old refrigerator box and all the old style wood ones a very old style wood one and she lives in that all the time and then I have a persecutor he tries to get me to harm myself and he’s actually gone as far as making me cry and feel like I’m totally worthless that I should kill myself well I thought him but how can I get through past all this part to finding out all of my traumas without completely overwhelming my system because I do have periods of blackouts as far as having amnesia to where I don’t remember either seconds minutes I haven’t gone up against ours yet can you help me to figure out some of this thank you for reading this long message I greatly appreciate it PS my therapist did tell me that since they don’t want to come out to talk directly to her that I can relay everything from them to her and that way she can work with them and learn more about them but I want to make it a comfortable situation where they will come out one by one each session to where they can work it out with her and she can then help them individually and I don’t have to see the traumas that easily or that quickly because apparently I’ve had some pretty bad stuff happen and they scare me very much well as I want to get the system to work together and except if they’re all a part of a system

47:36 Please, Kati, confirm that was the right word in this context. It's important for me, because i learn english from internet and i feel like that "for whoever" made an imprint in my head and i'll be using it instead of "for whomever". PS This is just a joke, please do not respond, feel free to laugh a little and move along. (:

I love u so much ♥️

What if you don't trust the therapist you're assigned to?

Where do I send my question? Link, please?!

Thank you so much You are spot on I’m checking google for feelings

Where should I type my question?

wtf is a crisis text line?? I NEED ONE WHERE IS IT????!

Why did you stop being vegan?

I've become handicapped and I'm single. I can't see myself in a relationship because i feel it would be a burden on someone