Jordan Peterson. You will never truly know how many lives you will save.

Yes, the meaning of “Don’t cast pearls before swine” means do not share things you deem of value with those who can’t see its worth!

“ you’re not obligated to drown with them”

I pray for his quick return to full health. God bless him.

Checking himself into rehab is him practicing what he preaches... his treating himself like someone his responsible to help. I thank God for granting us a great teacher...May he find Good health

I've had to leave my family and friends behind. My path is one I will probably walk alone. I was afraid. I am afraid. But I cannot stay in an environment that takes more than it gives. I want fullness of being and life more than I want acceptance from the majority. I am grateful for the hells I've come through. Symbolically, I have died and been reborn many times. And much of me has been cut away. But I no longer suffer many diseases passed to me from my upbringing. And I will not go back.

This made me cry. I just realized I have to do something I knew I had to do but was hoping it wouldn’t come to it. This will hurt.

Jordan speaks the truth and sometimes its like a slap to the face. Sometimes that's what you need😯

''Knowledge is speaking. Wisdom is listening.'' -Jimi Hendrix

I just found out the girlfriend I've lived with for 6 years, has cheated on me while I was away. I'm devastated, even though I've been putting up with such disrespectful behavior for so long. I want to give her another chance. But its killing me. I feel as though. If I stay I will be ashamed. And if I have her leave, I can get better and one day hold my head high. So finding this today is a gift to think about.

the way he speaks is pure wizardry

This man moves me to the right path...

Never clapped for a youtube video but this was just exemplary!

"Don't cast pearls before swine" - keeping that in mind for dealing with all of my classmates in college =).

Great wisdom. As parents we often sacrifice our health to provide. A wise woman ( My Mom) said to me, if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of your family.

I had to learn this hard lesson when divorcing my abusive but very ill first husband. He was dying because he didn't want to do the work he had to do to get well. Finally, he ran out of time. It was sad, but if I had stayed in that codependent situation, I would have died as well. Some friends and family did not understand my actions, but I had to make the hard decisions so that I could live. Life is better now.

"Give not that which is holy to the dogs. Neither cast ye your pearls before swine lest they trampled them underfeet and turn again and rend you". Mathew 7:6 KJV (King James Version).

Yes ! Me First - then you. Not selfish, just real life reality. You must first help yourself before you can help others.

Powerful message. I was in a toxic relation. I tried to help her. She was always sad and angry about everything no matter how. I understood very late that I was wasting my time trying to show her that life in not that horrible

Praying for he and his wife to get healing. Also, that his mind will be opened to the understanding of saving faith. Sometimes the best and brightest don’t want to humble themselves before God.

This men is brilliant and he has a lot of knowledge that we doesn't know . The Sad part is Dr. Jordan Peterson has checked himself into rehab . You're pray will be so helpful, if you pray for him . I swear to God , if my health was in my hand I'll give him , Bc father Peterson has sacrificed himself for us a lot . And His wife is fighting a cancer. This Father sacrificed for us and now is our Time to pray for him. May God give him a full health he and his wife . Also God bless you brother for this Video ❤🙏

This is a man worth listening to.

He's an inspirational and an incredibly man. I am so sorry he is suffering from heavy world overload. He's a lightning rod...and that's a huge responsibility. Sometimes it's too much. He and his wife are in my prayers. May God protect and heal his hurting soul.

"If they aren't willing to NOT BE LOST you can't help them..." Every coach and therapist needs to hear this. Family too that are struggling with members who have addictions or other challenges. I give thanks for JP's common sense wisdom that illuminates and also emancipates. Blessings.

This man is has a great mind and it is wrapped around reality ! Thank god for a public figure that gets it .

Get your life together and manifest the reality of an alternative mode of being. Awesome!

You can't help someone who's lost if they're not willing to be not lost. Stop helping. Go have your life. Go help someone else who's lost but willing to be found. So true.

This is so true. We have to offer help to others from a position of safety.

Im always enlightened by your words on what life is esp the way you explain it is so intellectual and clear. God bless you.

I pray you live a long and healthy life and keep imparting your wisdom to the world.

You didn't get that 2nd Bible reference exactly right. It wasn't Jesus' mother. It was a man who said he'd follow Jesus, but first he must bury his father. Jesus said, "let the dead bury the dead," meaning to let those who are spiritually dead bury the physically dead, because now, the task He was undertaking was urgent at this point and dedication was what He needed. The time you might be thinking of His mother, was when His mother and brothers wanted to see Him, and Jesus looked at the disciples and said, " who are my brothers and mother? Then He indicated those around Him doing the Father's will. Bible references: Matthew 8:21,22 Matthew 12:47-50

You are the only one to state painful truths that are struggled over.....yet there seems to be no solution. Thank you for the video.

A truly intelligent caring rational human being. 🙏

No more drinking with depression or with losers in bars 😂

Thanks for this. I have a half-brother who is going off the rails. I realize the best way to move ahead, the best way to help him ..... is to show him what success is, rather than trying to explain things to him. He won't listen to any words, but maybe if I lead by example, that will help.

It's a hard lesson to learn but you truly don't have to light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm

Blessings of good health for you and your family!

This sudden misfortune and crisis by no means dismisses nor will ever discredit Dr Petersons powerful, profound and heartfelt message to me and I hope to all. This only hurts me in the worst way as someone currently making better, wiser, stronger and selfless choices due to Dr. Jordan’s effective way to emphasize how everything I do matters. I’m a Christian man that fears god and praying this only allows Jordan’s heart to open up to the lord through gods mighty challenge. You got this Jordan. God-Speed.

Absolutely correct some of us have learned the hard way.

So so true , have been in situations exactly as he is describing , we must not continue to force “help” on those that are not ready to accept it . Believe years ago the term was coined as “tough love “ and it is 100% accurate . Great clip for as many as possible to see 🤔

I wish I found Jordan Peterson a long time ago

God bless you Jordan and your family, you are an inspiration. Your words have helped me enormously. Thank you for caring.

I’m glad that I came across this video. I’d like to share my story while I’m here. I’ve always been someone that had a hands-on approach to problem solving. If there was ever an issue, rather than attending to emotional needs, I would try to either address the problem directly or at least change how I interacted with it. When I reached a point in my life though where more emotion-focused coping of was needed of me, I lacked expertise. I overtime became better at being emotionally supportive. However, the people in my life who I supported valued my support and any wisdom I had to offer, but whenever drama would emerge, such appreciation went out the window. One quality I was proud of, and one that others seemed to desire, was that I had no problems in my life. Of course, I did face challenges that define that living experience, but when it came to personal struggles and inconveniences, I always overcame them and never otherwise gave into despair and was genuinely a happy person. My problem-focused copping, I believe, is why that quality emerged. With my friends, whenever there was drama-be it with other friends, romantic partners, parents, etc- I acted like a pseudo-Jesus figure: I integrated emotional help (long supportive talks, careful listening, spending money, etc) and my natural propensity for problem-solving (directly involving myself into a conflict as a mediating third party, offering any advice whether I was asked, and otherwise plunging myself into a forest fire trying to put it out with a water pale). After doing this all throughout high school, and after a recent situation, I came to realize something… Whenever I would involve myself into a situation WHEN ASKED, and if things would go well, I was appreciated, but such appreciation would never be remembered. Whenever I would get involved without being asked and things wouldn’t work out so well, I would be accused of making things worse. After going through many cycles of this, I came to realize that I was always wasting my words and my efforts… When things were already a disaster, and when I would step in and help, if a good outcome emerged, I would be acknowledged a little, but no to the same extent that I was negatively ridiculed for when I would help and things would go terribly. My good deeps were never remembered, but when bad outcomes would arise, I would be scapegoated and given complete blame. I will admit that there have been times where my interventions were perhaps not needed and common wisdom should have otherwise kept me at a safe distance. However, whenever the people around me were in despair and I’d help, I’d never be given full thanks, and when things did not unfold well, the conflicting parties would come together in unison out of the belief that it was always my fault. I have been accused of wanting to take control of every situation and wanting to seek out drama for the sake of wanting to watch the world burn. In times of harmony, my efforts for helping achieve it would undervalued, and in times where things were in discord before I showed up, I would be scapegoated for the discord altogether (even in times when my help was asked). I’ve learned that it’s perhaps better to not get involved in other peoples problems, even if at their bequest. There have been many times where I set myself on fire if it meant others could keep warm. Although I would always make a conscious effort to act with integrity, people only care about your intentions if they elicit the outcome they want. I’ve learned that if I walk along a clam path, look across, and see others burning alive, it’s not my responsibility to help, as I risk myself being burned, and I risked being help responsible for their burn marks if I try to PUT OUT the fire. For all of those who like to help others when they can, remember that the struggles that occur outside of your direct involvement happen for a reason, and it cannot and should not be your responsibility to help. They have to do it themselves. If anyone has any critiques of my character in all of this, please leave them bellow. I know that my perception of events is probably biased in my favor, so I’ll acknowledge knowing that I have never been a saint myself. In any case, I know I’m not a bad person, but I’ve noticed this pattern instantiate itself (where I offer help, and my intentions would subsequently be villainized and misunderstood) many times over, and this is the wisdom I’ve extracted from it.

“ If someone who is sinking has their hands around u r neck and is pulling u down, u don’t have to feel obligated to drown with them” good quote.

This is so harsh yet so true.

I learned that lesson the hard way for 20 years trying to help my cussin because I really thought he was family but his family didn’t even care about me or my family for how I tried to really help him and it costed me a lot. Very good video, thank you 🙏

very hard to accept, for both of me, the helping one and the one in deep misery

I have had to walk away from each of my family members (mother, father, sister and brother) one at a time. I know that people do not realize how hard that is to do and how many times the question "Could I have done more?" pops into my head. When I was 20 or so, I went to my family doctor and told him I needed professional help. He asked me what my problems were. When I finished telling him he said those were not my problems but rather my family's problems and if I could not see that perhaps I did need help. He referred me to self-help books. I left thinking he was wrong but did take his advice about the books. They started me on my journey. I look back now and wonder what my life would have been like if I did accept that they were my family's problems and went on with my life then but I was not ready. It is a tough decision to walk away. Each person has to do it on their own timetable. At 66 I finally have the peace of mind that I yearned for all my life.

I remember a situation many years ago trying to help someone get their act together, to no avail. Although I was not close to the person it still bothered me that I failed. One day I came across Proverbs 27:22 "Though you grind a fool in a mortar, grinding them like grain with a pestle, you will not remove their folly from them." I felt total peace after that.

I would like to add that you may keep praying for this person even if you have to separate yourself from them

I remember another saying "you can't reason someone out of a position that they themself did not reason thenself into" And i will never forget that

Many of my old friends left me, now I know why. I gotta change!!! Thanks Jordan!!!

It’s hard to do but eventually it must be done.

One of his best; at his most philosophical.

It's so enlightening when someone can articulate what you've been trying to

He is an Earth Angel 👼 . Enlightened , but he is still human he also needs help and prayers. Thank you for empowering us...

While watching this video. I realized that it happens with parents a lot. They often try to help the one who doesn't want to be helped. But they never give up. Because they can't stop offering the hand, just because you didn't take it. They will make sure that you realize you're falling. And you must take their hand. I have very mixed feelings when it comes to parents. They can't help themselves from being the savior. It's all they know. I would be glad to see anyone respond to my videos. I just want to be helped. So if you can. 😅

Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant!

I have such reverence for this soul.

I needed to hear this tonight. I care very much for a friend. She is ruining so much in her life. I have tried so much to help her. It's hard to watch. As much as I love her, I had to step back. Now, I realize I did the best thing I could have done.

In my case it’s my daughter 💕 I want to help. Approaching “feet first” is really, really hard. She’s floundering and it is hard to determine if she wants help (she says she does) or if she’s “unfindable” and actually quite unwillingly to learn and change (based upon repeated behaviors). I want to hold her, help her...and yet she continues to say and do things that I can only describe as.... misguided. Misguided is the single best word I can find to describe her behavior and actions, unwise is another. There are many derogatory terms I might otherwise use as well, but simply labeling troubling behaviors and beliefs isn’t going to help her change them. If she even wants to change...therein lies my dilemma...😔

"Don't cast your pearls before swines"....hmmmm, that hit me in my chest hard Sir!

I think with his indepth wisdom he can carry a great burden. Or with such humility his self being is so sensitive he his embodiment boils over with gratitude. I have so much empathy and passion for this human being. His Family is burdened with being intolerant and allergic to almost everything. They have found the balance in diet. As he said it was hell on its effect on their Social life. God Bless and strengthen you and all your Family. Of all you all deserve it☺❤☺

There's so much common sense to most of what he says, which, I believe, accounts for his appeal. He articulates what we intuitively know. I discovered Peterson 2 years ago when casually studying philosophy and making my way through my own existential crisis, and it was a breath of fresh air. He says what I want to hear because it's what I know to be true about finding meaning and purpose in life, i just needed it to be articulated by someone else. He has helped me gain confidence in myself, I haven't had any due to being badly bullied in grade school. One of the few people I truly respect.

man that is hard . been there .

Wow I needed this !!

This brilliant teacher is a gifted and authentic human being. The very fact he is in rehabilitation shows that he practices what he preaches. Praying God's strength, peace, and power for full restoration.

Dr. Peterson rocks!

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves

Thanks for the videos! Keep it up.

I really like this piece by the doctor. This one touched me at a time that I needed to hear this!

So much wisdom in just a short video. I've been crying deep inside for quite sometime now. My relationship with my brother has been ugly and I've tried so many ways to get us on the loving track. He refuses my help. He hates me to the core. I've apologized countless times for any wrong I did him, those that I can remember and even those I might have forgotten. I've tried giving advice, lending a helping hand, being there in need, asked for his help even, tried to get him to participate in acts of love. All I get is threats and revenge. But tonight, I've learnt something very big in this video. I'm smiling as I wait for a new day to live. To move on. To be tougher and a little wiser. Thank you KZfaq.

Man o man does this sound like some people I know. They are impervious to their own self-destructive behavior no matter how many examples of good alternatives they are given. Sometimes the horse just will not drink, no matter how thirsty it is.

"dont save her, she dont want to be saved" j cole

It's so true, it's called tough love....🔥🔥🔥real talk Mr Jordan 🙏🙏

We have had to do this with our 37 yr old very angry, manipulative narcissist son. Hardest thing in the world to do. After years of psychological abuse and manipulation, many gifts of money, cars, etc to try to keep him off the streets, we told him we were done. Last year we gave him the last car and said “No more.” He’s also got a significant weed habit, maybe other drugs. Don’t know. We’re in our 60’s and finally feel we deserve these last few years in peace. He’s back recently of course, so this little video is timely. Thanks.

If you're feeling lost, reach out for help. We all need to be heard, we all need support and guidance sometimes. When things are not ok, speak out and reach out for help, we all go through difficult situations and we all need support.

You always put the oxygen mask on YOURSELF FIRST

I Hope and Wish and Pray the Very Best for him now!!

Telling it like it is.TY Jordan

Wow..this is topical for me..letting go of a woman I thought was it..it fucking sucks..this helps tho thank you..absolutely love your videos

I just listened to this yesterday and then you upload it! Spooky

Dr Peterson is a story telling genius!! Thank you for sharing your brilliance...I listen to you for the transcendent message...much love to everyone here.

A lot of wisdom spoken in this piece. Thank you.

thank you for this message today. I needed this today to recomfirm my decision to walk away& end a relationship with a narcissist ex after 4 years!! god bless you!!

Yay !! This works . :)

It is so sad when you desperately want to help someone you love but they're not willing to let you, but it's absolutely true that you can't go on banging your head on a wall,it has to stop.

"manifest the mode of an alternative way of being". Stunning

The Story about Jesus, his mother and uncle is FAR from what the New Testament actually says. But he still makes his point.

Love him...even if he did get two different New Testament stories mixed up. God willing some day he will read it all himself for further enlightenment.

I was there in person for this, along with many other of the lectures of that series. The whole series is so powerful. Including much of the Q&A after each night. Really the best way to consume these, at least in my humble opinion, is by chugging coffee and then sitting through the entire flowing 2-3 hours without one pause (and run to toilet if necessary but no pause ;) ) and get the real theatre experience. Not for everyone. But wow this series is missed. I hope someday he attempts it again. Godspeed for family health and vitality, cheer and spiritual stamina, Dr Peterson!

Oh my God. You have no idea how you just helped me in a family situation right now. Thank you. And thank God that you exist.

As hard as it is, you have to stop helping people who don't take your hand! It's their decision and you have to accept it, otherwise you will lose your energy and sanity!

Have you ever tried to give your best to someone thinking this will help and they turn on you, use it against you? Some people are like wild pigs, hurtful, harmful, full of huffing and puff wanting to gore you. I pray for Jordon for rest within. Often today, people would rather fail than get help. Jesus required the person asking for help.

Wow! That is so deep. The wisdom of the Word filtered through the mind of a wise man is so striking.

It’s a hard truth but exactly what I needed to hear right now.

If you want a horse to drink...make it thirsty..

Read the book. GET the book. CMJ Canada

El Maestro so much love and respect to Dr. Peterson

There's alot to be thankful for your motivation you did well and i'm one of it , your lectures and motivation will be remembered most especially your pshychological ways of teaching .....God bless to you Professor Jordan Peterson and wish you all the best and forward .