Fantastic. I waited until I was 28 to come out because of family pressures etc. When I did, that closet door blew open with a bang. And yes, it will be Ok. I am 71 now, celebrating a 41st anniversary with my Husband John. A marvelous adventure!!

This guy helped me in the first 4 minutes of the video and helped me realise that I’m straight. Just wanna say thanks to this guy for helping more than anyone else or anything and to everyone else this video helped, show this guy the respect he deserves. Much love bro

Anyone else cry when he said it's going to be ok? No? Just me? Cool-

I have denied my sexuality for years, telling myself, "I'm not gay". At 75, finally admit I'm gay, after two marriages and cheating bc I needed a male. Most times in sex with a woman, my thoughts were of men. Denial as I learn too late, is a waste of life.

I wish i found this video when i finally realized i was gay. I previously identified as bi because of some female "crushes" i had in my childhood, but when i started puberty, those feeling went away. I was in 9th grade and was suffering of internalized homophobia, i thought i was broken and everytime i asked myself if i was gay, my brain would be like "You're not gay, remember that random girl when you were random age?" and i just couldn't accept the fact that i was exclusively attracted to my same sex. Now i'm semi-out and proud, but it hurt a lot in that moment. I'm glad a lot of people realized they were gay/lesbian because of this video, keep up the good work 👍

Why is his voice making me emotional… I’m almost in tears for absolutely no reason! Help-

Because of this video it made me confident to tell my self I’m gay

I know I'm bi, but I get into these moments where I'm constantly questioning my sexuality. I'm strongly attracted to men which is why I think I'm gay but I still have feelings for women too. It's just not as much as men.

Nice video and very encouraging words. It wasn't until my 40's that I finally admitted to myself that I was gay and after spending my entire life in denial it was such a relief. Nearly twenty years later I am still learning how to navigate this self acceptance journey that I have been on, each day brings a little more confidence and self assurance. This video is an affirmation of where I have been and where I am going.

Admitting to myself I was gay took years since I had suppressed it for so long. Thanks for your balanced, compassionate and thoughtful approach.

Sometimes even when a person knows they’re gay they put up shields due to the expectation & pressures of those around them & feeling admitting it will cause others, many of whom a person likes to exclude them. Outside pressures are hard to ignore. Fear of rejection can indeed hamper self acceptance.

That closing section hit hard, all of your words made tears form in my eyes, thank you.

Much deeper and higher quality video than I was expecting. Thank you.

honestly, this is an awesome and amazing video, your voice, what you say, the comfort you give, all of this video is so great and i wish more people would see it

ive been struggling for months and months about my sexuality. I've finally realized that this is who i am. I am gay and my name is koko.

I’m surprised this very well explanation about sexuality and neat visual drawings hasn’t been seen enough. I was thinking about finding sources that help explain this topic and this just so happens to be perfect! I hope more people can see this and understand themselves so there’s less confusion in this world! 💕😊

Wow the music, your voice, is sooo relaxing and the video is so comforting thank you

After this i just wanna cry and hug someone but idk who

This helped me,my therapist told my not to be so sure I’m a lesbian sense I’m still a kid,And that I’ve convinced myself I’m lesbian because I told him I think I was born this way. But know I know I’m a lesbian.

This is a wonderful presentation. I'm old now and the generations after me are standing on our shoulders to reach out beyond yourselves to do things we never thought possible. With all the hate and homophobia I've encountered in my life, it would be a lie to say it hasn't changed me forever. But every new generation of queer young adults can push the boundaries of self esteem further and further. How do you know your gay(?), the same way heteros know they're straight.

this was very inspirational thank you so much!!!!

Exceedingly well done! Thanks so much!

Yeah I’m gay. And I’m proud :)

Thank you for making me realize i was a lesbian. The only thing that was holding me back from accepting my true identity was religion specifically christianity and internallized homophobia. I accept this new chapter of my life. Also because i was afraid of how my family would perceive me and how they would judge me.

I'm really questioning my sexuality right now. I had sex with a woman a week ago and mid-sex I thought of having sex with a man. It was a brief mental image but it shook me to have had it at all. My family has been asking me if I am gay lately too. Although I've had sex with about 25 women in my life, I still find myself attracted to men. Maybe even more so than women, but I repress it strongly. The journey for me is to derepress it, look at it and see whats really there.

HNCOD! Next time I'm asked about my orientation, I'm showing them this video. I know some people who need it drawn out like this. Great job ! 🌈

This really made me think about everything and everyone I know I feel that my decision will make me happier. It almost makes me feel… free… safe… happier. Thank you, I will save this video when I’m feeling down.

Cheers for this video and much love from all the way down in Australia. A most informative video, so many thanks. It certainly has me thinking (and questioning) now in a positive light. Thanks once again... ❤

This has help me open my eyes to see who I can be. Thank you so much 😊

Thank you so much this video helped me a lot ❤️

What a great video! I am going to need to watch this again. I feel like I am having a conversation with a really trustworthy, wise and emotionally intelligent friend.

proud of you my friend! great video👍

I just want to say that rainbow you drew was amazing! you have great art skills. Edit: This was at time 1:37

thank you this helped me a loooot ❤❤❤

first i want to give major props to the men, he explained very well and gived good advice. now that out of the way, i want to share the moment i realise i was gay. i grew up in a christian family in mexico, in that country is shameful that a boy of 10 years and up doesn't have a gf, for that reason is pushed upon everyone, in all my years of just dating here and there no girl/woman made me feel anything, in fact i felt dead inside devoid of all emotions and zero attraction but due to religion and social construts i could only do that, after moving to the US i started to avoid dating since i didn't felt the preasure i had before, with time i started to meet new people among them was a guy who was gay and handsome, i had a hard time not losing myself while looking at him, for the first time in my life i felt butterflies in my stomach, always happy when we met for a group hangout but guilty for feeling that way, one day a question came up from one of our friend "how did you found out you like men?" that question froze me, the answer send me in a loop of despair and panic, "i feel exited with another men, unlike being with a women" that was when my world failed on me and started to question every emotion and memory i had, my friends, people i passed on the street, actors i saw in movies, every sensation up until that very moment, i spent a month seperated from the group fighting my self, considering it wrong, all my religous belifs fell on me and crashing any happines i had, one day feed up with it all i wanted to prove if i was or not gay, i called my friend and with a simple question, answer and action found out that indeed i am gay, 16 years wasted pretending i liked women, pretending i wanted to be with one, to marry one, all of the chaged and i have to say, i am trully happy now. find the answer like in the first minutes of the video only you can say if you are not, good luck out there and god is with you all.

Thank you just thank you for this video 😊

I...might be...lesbian...

Im confused, in my 21 years i never had a real relationship and by means i prefer not to mention right now, i think maybe im gay, well, more specifically bi, but the gay part is new for me and, well, im kinda afraid and confused because i dont know if its true, if im lying to myself or what, i commited a lot of mistakes throug my life, i dont want fail this one too

Thank you for made me calm down ❤

This helped a lot

Very helpful. Thanks for getting me to break out of my shell and admit who i really am.

Really excellent video. This is precisely how to go about determining your orientation.

Wow, that was good. Really good, thank you.

THIS HELPED ME SO MUCH THANK YOU

Growing up was just a normal guy, I even liked this one girl, but as I got older things changed, I had feelings for guys. So yes you can know that your gay.

This calming video really did let me just lay down, and reflect, your calming voice really did help me actually feel relaxed while reflecting, and after a while of reflecting, I have come out, proud to say, I *am* gay 🏳️‍🌈

2:00... So far I'm thinking that this is state of mind as nothing external can tell you your state of mind... But you know something a state of mind is influenced externally and can change over time... I will continue to watch with an open mind

I just want to say this video is the best guide to exploring your sexuality I have found so far. I have not yet come to a conclusion about this and I think I dont really need to. But this video is so nice, calm and crafted with love and care. I just want to compliment it.

Thanks so much for helping me!

What beautiful words abd thoughts. You seem like such a good man. Hugs from Ireland x

Thank you for this! I have now realized that I am in fact a gay man!

When I saw the thumbnail for this vid my first thought was, "Someone thinks "How do I know I'm gay" can be answered in 10 minutes and some change. Yea, right". I'm going to save and share this video.

Thank you, for everything🌈

Thanks for the amazing video! First of all, love your drawing. Second, this really did help me better understand my sexuality. I'm now realizing that I'm almost definitely gay, and the tips in this video helped and will help me tons.

Thank you very much for making and sharing this very positive and gentle video. It's very enlightening and healing.

I really don’t know my sexuality, but after this video I’ve thought and came to the conclusion gay, bi, straight, or whatever, the thought of marrying a guy doesn’t sound that nice to me. But dating a guy when I’m younger does sound like something that suits me. Would this still make me gay or not?

I just found out that I'm bi I needed years to accept it but I can't deny something that I enjoyed even though it's a secret you guys should be proud

At 44, I'm just now coming to terms with my sexuality. I have NO problem with me being gay, some other people seem to have a problem with me being gay lol.

this has helped me so much. Thanks

THANK YOU❤

It's videos like this one that remind me that the world is not that bad and there are good people in it. I love how you talk about how you are the only one who can tell if your are gay or not it took me so long to admit it to myself I was always under the fear of "I can't be gay that's weird!" and I was like that till one day I just broke and said... What if it's okay to be weird? What if it's okay and not werid and just weird to me. I started talking to other gay people and opened up that possibility and bam I just accepted it. It's okay to be gay and it's no more weird than being straight or any other attraction it's just you. And that's okay.

Really means a lot🥺🥺

Thank you so much. This really helped me figure out who I really am!

I’ve been having super weird thoughts ever since I tried pychodelics for the first time. I’m looking at this video and I couldn’t stop thinking of the girl I’m trying to take serious. It’s not necessarily a desire but more of a curiosity of what’s on the other side. Seeing this video allowed me to see I really do love her, yet, I’m never able to settle down. I’m currently struggling with porn addiction and I get bored very easily and want to go onto the next if that makes any sense. I’m questioning not just my sexuality but literally everything that makes me happy. I really do feel like I’m losing my mind. Nothing matters but the line.

Very true. Looking back, my exploring years were beautiful. Exactly as described. Scary, uncertain, gradually inevitable, not even wanting to avoid anything. And living my dream ever since. Extremely happy. It’s what the word gay means after all. I wish I could grant that feeling of discovery to straight people, but usually they don’t go through years of doubt.

Thanks sm for this vid, it really helped me reflect on not just who I like or not but how I like certain individuals. Just stressed out to tell people because I'm worried people will treat me a little differently, for instance in team sports...Plus, It's so hard to find people my type in a school full of either really straight people or really gay/les people. Don't know what to do, should I not tell people so I might have more chances or tell people so I can date who I really like, but at the risk of frequent rejection or not having as many options? :(

really helpful thx!

I finally know thank you from the depths of my heart thank you

i been wondering about this for a while, gonna experiment to help figure out if I'm stuck in the closet. thanks for this video it really helped work through some stuff. happy pride month guyys

I am still learning about my sexuality but i wish i’d seen this video earlier; there were so many things people assumed or made gestures at me, only you can tell if you are gay or straight or bisexual,and people should respect it as such.

I am still confused. My main issue is that I dont know if I like somene as a friend or romanticaly. Currently I think I have a crush on one of my male friends but maybr I just want to be in love and I chose him to be my "crush". When I ask myself if I want to hold hands or kiss him my answer changes depending on my mood. When I first started to take interest in sexuality I looked mainly at men and was not interested in women. I told myself I was doing research by looking at men because I am a man too but looking back I just wanted to look at men lol. But in the past I didnt have any crushes. When I was 11 years old for example no one came to my mind when someone asked what was my crush. This crush I have on a male friend right now could be the first crush I ever had to be honest because I never felt like this before. But I am only 16 years old right now and I have a whole lifetime to figure this out. Note: English is not my native language, sorry if you had trouble understanding.

This video helped me accept that i am demi sexual, thanks

Thank you❤

This video is scarily underrated

insightful!!!!

honestly I was slowly coming to terms with being gay but this solidified the "maybe, maybe not" feeling I had

Thank you.

Guess I'm not gay. Thank you for making me realize some things that I felt weird hanging out with my guy friends.

this really helped me out i finally accepted how i was and why i am gay like the first time some boy touched my hand and i touched a little tingle in my pants this helped out very much thankyou

This helps a lot with Hocd/SOocd and anxiety

thank you for letting me know that I am gay I was confused at the beginning now I know my track all the respect man

I’m nine and this really helped. Thank you

Awesome video

I can relate to it cause I only realized that I am gay Cause I had lost interest in girls during the pandemic lockdown in 2020 it gave me time to think about my life and my sexuality, after some time I realized that I am more emotionally romantically and sexually attracted to guys cause I feel more comfortable round them than I do towards girls cause I consider girls to be like my sisters and friends.... even though most people won't accept my sexuality..... I am happy and proud of myself for who I am 🥰❤️💯🏳️‍🌈

Sweet! 😊

I am a gay man. Thank you for helping me with this.

On a tangential note, I love the hairy-arm of the llustrator?

Thank you so much for this video. It really helped me realize that I need to be honest with myself. And I realized that I am gay and I have to be OK with it cause. There's nothing I can do to change it no matter how much I want to be straight 💯

I'm a lesbian but I like just listening to others people's journeys because I didn't write mine down and I wish I did

I hope I'm not the only one watching this already out to everyone I know XD

I still don't know because if I'm in a room full of men and women, it's kinda hard to see what is turning me on. But I'm still exploring to learn more about myself.

I think I'm gay but my parents might disown me

So true

Just looking at people in general make me feel empty 🙃

i love it thanks for making me realize thati am gay

The fact that I am gay was medically proven during electronic shock therapy. The Dr put me in a locked booth and put a wire ring that measures temperature changes on my private parts and showed me about 1000 pictures of naked men and 1000 pictures of naked women. When my body temperature rose when I saw the men, they delivered high voltages of electricity through other wires that were attached to punish me for being gay. The machine never recorded anything when I saw all those pictures of nude women. There isn't anything anyone can do to influence the outcome of those tests. It was highly abusive. I didn't have to go through all that abuse to know I am gay. But it didn't change me to become straight destroy despite their promises. I now know that the entire medical profession declassified homosexuality as an illness 50 years ago this year (2023). A 51 year marriage to my accepting wife didn't change a thing. She had MS for 26 years and I cared for her all that time. She was not able to stand or walk for the last 15 years. She is no longer with us. I am now finally free to be who I am but I am not looking for a husband. Too old now.

This helped so much ima about to ask out my friend

How tf did I get here 😭

How about a situation where I'm unsure because I can't navigate the mixture of feelings I've been having? Btw, I absolutely love this video! Well done! About 6 months ago, I had a man flirt with me in a way that no one ever has done before. He's is co-owner with his wife of a local bar and grille. They openly enjoy into the, "cuckold" thing in their marriage. I don't know for certain if he's bisexual but I strongly believe he is. His flirtations have been pretty brazen and its pushed buttons inside of me that I never knew I had. I have been bisexual for the past 9 years but never really thought of myself as having any specific lean in either direction. I did figure that if I ever moved in with someone or married again, it would be with a woman. Whenever I was with a man, I was always in the more dominate role. In the past couple of years I have found myself becoming more open to the idea of maybe living with a man and a woman at the same time. Even thinking I'd probably be perfectly happy if it was, instead, just with a man alone. I have military PTSD and it obviously affects my dating life. And the whole of my entire life as well...obviously. I've been struggling with it pretty bad in the past couple years but am receiving treatment at the VA. Also, I'd stopped dating women altogether for the last 3 years and have only gone on a couple dates with a man. Can I tell you that dating sucks?! At this point, I was already questioning myself as to whether or not I am still bisexual or if maybe I am becoming gay. I have no fear about being fluid and embracing change, I just never really thought I would ever go to one extreme or the other. All this tells me that I still have a desire floating around somewhere in the back of my mind. That I do want a significant relationship but then the PTSD feelings and thoughts mix in. The bar owner and I have not gotten beyond flirting, so far. About 2 weeks ago, I learned that he left his wife for a younger employee. I'd had no idea anything like that was happening in his life. Even so, it's possible he might go back to his wife as she's made it clear to everyone that she'll take him back. I'm quite certain that until his life settles a bit, I'm not wanting to jump into that kind of mess....says the reasonable side of my brain. However, when I ask myself what I'd do if he made a move, I realize the answer is, yes!! I would jump at the chance to be his and to be in his life. And now let's add this...I want him to be in the more dominate role! I want to be submissive to him! And why is this?? I'm in love with him. Surprisingly, shockingly incredible even, as it sounds, I've not had even 1 sexual fantasy play out in my mind about him. OBVIOUSLY I want that so badly my brain feels like it'll explode but I just can't seem to go there in my minds eye, like I normally would. Whenever I'm around him, I actually get weak in the knees. My brain hits emergency stop and my mouth goes dry, my palms get soaked and I shake all over. I totally lose my mind and I can't help it!! Is this how love works?? I've NEVER been in love with anyone before. I feel so lost and confused by these new feelings. I thought I loved my ex-wife but, looking back? I've been single 13 years now after a 22 year marriage and can finally see that I only married her because her parents and my parents had put us together. I believe she and I both felt obligated to get married, more than anything else. I grew up in an extremely abusive home. Then what happened to me in the military. 15 years ago, getting a back injury that was supposed to leave me bed ridden for the rest of my life. Then, 2 years later the ex-wife and her mother coming to me and telling me that if I could not work to support my family that I was not a man. So they took the kids and left me. 2 years later, my back miraculously got better. Not kidding here. I rolled on my back one night and all 4 herniated discs popped back into place at the same time. Slowly, I got back on my feet and started working again. Then, the ex-wife wanted to talk about dating again. I said, "And if I got crippled in a car accident tomorrow? Ummm, no". When I look back at my life, I do not believe I can point to any one person and say that I ever experienced love of any kind, from anyone. And one evening, about 6 months ago, a man flirted with me and has caused me to experience feelings I never knew I could! Now, when I talk to others and attraction gets sparked, I find myself stopping dead in my tracks because I suddenly get hit with an overwhelming sensation that I am cheating on my man! Ugh!! I can honestly say that in the last 6 months I've been UNABLE to date anybody because of those feelings. Which makes no sense! Am I kidding me here!? Come on brain, why are you working AGAINST me? There is NO relationship and might never be one. So, with all that background, here's my question. Am I possibly going, "gay" so to speak, because I'm in love or could it be I'm desperately wanting someone to save me. Save me from the darker feelings and thoughts my past always throws at me? To save me from being alone and unwanted? From learning all those darker thoughts were...right? How can I trust whatever actions I take if I don't understand the feelings beneath them? For the first time in my life, I begin to understand how a womens feelings can be so powerful as to cause her to stick with a toxic partner. They can see and understand everything just fine but their feelings won't let them go. When I reflect, I realize that I'll go with him at the drop of a hat, almost as if I'm being controlled. I can't stop thinking about him and wishing for things that are totally unreasonable. Feels like I have a 15-year-old girl in the back of my head who just won't shut up! Lol I still find women attractive and even sexually attractive but as of late, I WAS thinking only about men but now I only think of this one man.

When your little heart goes pitter patter for your team mate and your little man raises to attention , lol ! Gotta be a clue !