I actually don’t care if this whole channel doesn’t even mention makeup anymore. I love watching you and Steven and baby O❤️ And of course the doggies. I love the stories the story times and all of that. Don’t rush back into makeup girl don’t even worry about it. How about a story of all of this from Steven’s point of view? How is Steven doing?
@servinnancy73 жыл бұрын
Yesss very well said and yes that would love to see that a guys perspective on how they feel going through or seeing their significant other in pain or what goes through their would love stevens side story
@samantha80313 жыл бұрын
AGREEEED! please bring steven into a video like this or ask him to upload to his channel :) i think a guys prespective should be heard
@almasandoval6703 жыл бұрын
Then unfollowed. You are in the wrong channel. Where are you going that you have to do your makeup anyway.
@samantha80313 жыл бұрын
@@almasandoval670 why comment? are you looking for someone to beg you to stay? off you go!! theres plenty of make up channels for you to get lost in. drama!
@melindahernandez56293 жыл бұрын
@@almasandoval670 alma baby i think you read my comment wrong hunny! but go awf
@chxrrio3 жыл бұрын
I love how I don’t even have a boyfriend but here I am, learning what I need post pregnancy 😂
@Taylorlevine09203 жыл бұрын
Girl same. No plans to have babies for years but here i am 😂
@Berkaniaa893 жыл бұрын
Same😅
@xSoReckles933 жыл бұрын
Same😂 I love watching baby and pregnancy video’s but no baby’s for me right now
@NasiaGeorgakopoulou3 жыл бұрын
Sameee
@Smt_.x3 жыл бұрын
Same. But I think most of us haven’t been taught about any of this. And I personally need to know what I’m signing up for before I even consider having kids 😭
@PharaohJay4173 жыл бұрын
As an expecting father, this was super helpful. It has provided me with some different things to look out for with my fiancee. In addition, it gave me a bunch of helpful items to add to the baby registry for her. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
@giovannaelyssaacuna3483 жыл бұрын
sir, you dropped this 👑
@PharaohJay4173 жыл бұрын
@@giovannaelyssaacuna348 this made me literally LOL at work, so thank you. Hope you have a great day.
@giovannaelyssaacuna3483 жыл бұрын
@@PharaohJay417 lol I love to see it! Same to you! 😊
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@Sona77.2 жыл бұрын
You’re such a good husband!
@dianaortiz85223 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad that Steven advocated for you. I’m also a nurse, and I’m very familiar with nurse Ratchet’s like that. Not only do they make their patient’s life difficult, they also make their coworkers lives difficult. Any whooo... I’m super happy for you guys. ♥️
@melissanewman12473 жыл бұрын
Ugh my experience.🙄 I had my husband ask for a different nurse. She really made me feel horrible maybe it was because I just had a baby idk but I cried.
@BeautybyLianixX3 жыл бұрын
Wow thank u for sharing this ! My son is now 8 and I had a bad experience with nurses too. I thought it was just me.. I’m 4 months pregnant and scared because I don’t want to switch doctors but she’s affiliated with the same hospital where I had my bad experience. This time around I will speak up if I’m feeling mistreated!
@kyliedelgado31463 жыл бұрын
Please do baby must haves 🙏🏼 and what you bought and didn’t use/didn’t need 🙏🏼❤️🦋
@rosemarygutierrez67473 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!! Please!!!!
@mariaLOVE12123 жыл бұрын
Yesss!
@alysha52143 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@daxxark11653 жыл бұрын
Me, 23, single and not pregnant: wow I kinda want everything
@DesiPerkins3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@jojootero3 жыл бұрын
SAME!!!!
@giocondamirra82223 жыл бұрын
Literally same😂
@olgalucianaranjo79873 жыл бұрын
Me, 26, single af: same.
@jackojackk3 жыл бұрын
😂😂💀
@SusieColmenero3 жыл бұрын
Society is so pressed on women “snatching back” post partum. Not all of us have that bounce back ability. We have to as a society accept women where they are and not pressure us to becoming that perfect magazine mom everyone is so obsessed with. Own your transition and let women ride the waves of coming into motherhood! No postpartum experience is linear.
@katrinamartinez11443 жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree more, thank you for saying this.
@tailorandmakeup22123 жыл бұрын
Ride the waves of coming into motherhood. That’s is the best description I’ve ever heard about it. 🙌🙌
@linneawesterdahl23753 жыл бұрын
I’m pregnant for the first time and since I’m so young everyone tell me you won’t even be able to tell I’ve been pregnant after birth. That freaks me out. I don’t want aaaany expectations on me and my body. It is what it is and it will be what it will be. :/
@MichelleOrtiz34172 жыл бұрын
It's like people we carried and grew our baby for 9/10 months it doesn't take a week to bounce back everyone's body is different. At about 6 months postpartum I started feeling like myself again it was a roller coaster no doubt
@XforeverXyoungXbabeX3 жыл бұрын
Would Steven ever film a video of his side of the postpartum experience? I know you touched on somethings that he does to support you. My partner and I have been watching your parental journey and he often wonders about dad tips. Love you guys and congratulations again!!
@SaharaColeman3 жыл бұрын
Just to hear Desi talking about Postpartum after being pregnant, she’s come such a long way and I’m so happy to see a little mini Perkins 😇
@janinebean42763 жыл бұрын
That’s so rude that the nurse rolled her eyes at you and said “it’s normal” when you were SHAKING like that and so scared, like it might be obvious to HER, cause she sees it all the time, but obviously YOU don’t see that all the time, it’s your first time giving birth or seeing someone give birth!
@almasandoval6703 жыл бұрын
I opted for no epidural. The nurse for my First born was a champ. The nurse for my second in a private hospital told me if you don’t want the pain that is why there is epidural. My mother in law said is it sometimes some repercussions after that. She rolled her eyes and said people all over the world came to us do you think we can tell you to do something if you have repercussions after that.
@celinachavez57573 жыл бұрын
I actually never wanted to leave a comment because I figured “they aren’t going to read it or care” but I had my twins on the same day you had Ocean so we were pregnant at the same time. I also had a hard time breastfeeding and my babies also lost weight. It was such a break down for me, but knowing that you went through the same thing makes me feel a lot better. This is also my first pregnancy so we are in this together. Your videos have definitely helped me as I am a first time mom as well. I remember on your fertility journey the IVF DR asking you how many eggs you wanted to be implanted and you said having two the first time around is going to be hard....well let me tell you it was a good choice. Having twins is soooooooo hard. So glad you have all the help you need. Stay strong mommy.
@juleswick3 жыл бұрын
Hi! I just read your comment and I’m not a mama BUT I was 6lbs 5oz when I was born; my mom had the same experience with me when I was a baby. She thought that I was latching on and getting enough milk etc. I was her second baby so she thought things were fine and had no idea that in fact I wasn’t feeding correctly and had lost weight. I dropped down to 5lbs or something. Her doc told her to switch to formula (which TBH she was totally ok with!) so she did and it was smooth sailing. I turned out great LOL 😂 and my mama is AMAZING and strong & the BEST MAMA, just like YOU!! 💖
@dnrainwater3 жыл бұрын
Also, to any new moms watching, FED IS BEST. Period. If anyone tells you different, they’re wrong. I promise you when they go to college, they don’t ask your kids if they were breastfed or formula fed. Motherhood is hard enough, make it easier for yourself where you can ❤️
@amberj39413 жыл бұрын
Girl this was the most REAL postpartum video I’ve ever seen, I mean that in the best way. So many moms will need this, you’re being that person who is breaking the barrier and letting women know what they need postpartum but also letting them know so so many moms go through hardships right after a baby comes. It’s the most amazing time but at the same time a mix of emotions with ups and downs. I’ve been super honest with friends and give them lists on what to get etc. Anyway I just want to say we love you desi! Big hugs! You and Steven are doing amazing!
@nagyluca59173 жыл бұрын
Agreed! Love her honesty and talk about everything! ❤️
@Jolenuzza3 жыл бұрын
Agree! Such a great video!!!
@TheSharandJoeShow3 жыл бұрын
Agreed, my mom stayed with me for a few weeks after birth and when she left I bawled my eyes out...and the thing is I am not an emotional person..
@geobruin3 жыл бұрын
I’m always amazed at how much hate there is for mothers. Breastfeeding? Great. Formula? Great! C-section? Awesome. Vaginal birth? Cool! Women are already subjected to so much hate and negativity, if you do your best every day for your kids, that’s what matters. Happy for you and your growing family! ♥️ thanks for sharing your story.
@ErinKathleen3 жыл бұрын
Seriously! ❤️❤️❤️
@_zina90543 жыл бұрын
For real everyone is different idk why we are always competing with each other 😔
@shulamitkalish30603 жыл бұрын
👏 🙏 👏 🙏. People need to hear this. The mommy shaming, the woman to woman shaming just needs to stop. We woman are amazing, what we’re capable of us amazing. Ok that’s all.
@Sara-vj3md3 жыл бұрын
Yes!! “Breast is best”... please, “feed your baby and mind your damn business” should be the phrase!!
@annie229013 жыл бұрын
I am literally so happy that someone is talking about everything! Because a lot of women make giving birth like the most amazing glorious thing in the world, and let me tell you it is not! There is a lot that goes on and a lot to learn and know that no one talks about! I am so happy you are explaining everything to the tea!
@fernandagonzalez72703 жыл бұрын
For real! Like the Women That get special pretty gowns to give birth. I’m like.... girlllll you are NOT ready for the body fluids about to exit you. Lmao 😂
@annie229013 жыл бұрын
@@fernandagonzalez7270 Hahahah exactly! when I had my first baby, after my baby came out, the doctor told me to push again! I thought I was having another baby (twins), but it’s was for the placenta, I had no idea hahahahaha so embarrassing
@unerevuese2 жыл бұрын
I can't stress enough how important it is to have a labor nurse who you vibe with honestly. My labor nurses were incredible.
@ashleyswierpel66083 жыл бұрын
I had horrific postpartum to the point I almost committed suicide. Thank God I have the best husband. No one tells you how hard your first child is to adjust to. I always tell people how wonderful it is to be a mom, but it is also the hardest thing.
@mariewhoo76163 жыл бұрын
I am so glad you’re here 💜
@ashleyswierpel66083 жыл бұрын
@@mariewhoo7616 ❤️❤️❤️ thank you! me too! It’s amazing what a support to can be to mothers when you have a story like mine❤️❤️❤️❤️
@DesiPerkins3 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry! It is so hard to go through such a huge shift. I don’t think anyone can prepare someone until they have their own baby. I’m glad you had such a great support system
@ashleyswierpel66083 жыл бұрын
@@DesiPerkins it is. I had babies 17m apart so it was a journey! We ended up stopping after two, because of how hard it was on me. But then we fostered babies for 3 years in flint and that was a blessing!!!!
@marylu22163 жыл бұрын
🤗 BIG HUG!! Its so incredibly HARD to be a mom!! You are VERY lucky you had a supportive husband. We were on the same boat.... I have postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. My husband thought/thinks I made it all up and was and still is horrible with me. He absolutely does not understand anything nor can I make him understand. I can't even talk about it because it enrages him. My "best friend" just disappeared so I felt abandoned, lost, and lonely. My only support system was my mom but unfortunately she passed away the day after Christmas. You can imagine how I felt and still feel. I push through for my kids but that first year was HELL to say the least.
@shellseabruffett30553 жыл бұрын
Take all of the “free” things the hospital provides for you. Once its been taken out of its original shipping packaging and placed in your room its deemed a biohazard. They just throw it all away opened or unopened.
@honaishlove3 жыл бұрын
Postpartum nurse: I second this. I literally make all my patients take it home even if they don’t “need it”.
@dnrainwater3 жыл бұрын
Yep. This! They also factor it in to the cost of your hospital bill. TAKE IT!
@madutz003 жыл бұрын
As a FTM, this hit hard for me. The story about the nurse, the breastfeeding struggle and just mourning the life pre-baby was all relatable. Now at almost 5 months post partum, I feel much better about myself.. And now I cant even picture life without my baby.
@samanthaclaire64493 жыл бұрын
i’m 22. two cats, one dog. and i’m SCARRED. all the mommas out there are true super heroes. congrats desi🥺
@simonedasilva7513 жыл бұрын
IM 23 AND DONT HAVE KIDS BUT IM HERE FOR THIS
@juliasophie78973 жыл бұрын
Me too 1997 Team 😍
@simonedasilva7513 жыл бұрын
@@juliasophie7897 I’m not ready to be 24 ugh
@Jclyyn3 жыл бұрын
@@simonedasilva751 I’m 22 and not ready to be 23 🥲
@areebaaziz63893 жыл бұрын
Sameeee
@mirnyagabrielli3 жыл бұрын
I’m not planning on having kids anytime soon but that doesn’t mean I didn’t watch this ENTIRE video minute for minute lol. This was so interesting!!!
@laBuffiesuzanne3 жыл бұрын
Desi this is beautiful! I’m 67, mother and grandmother. My advice is: cherish every single moment, because one day you will turn around and be me. Time goes by so fast, enjoy the journey!!! Blessings to you!🙏❤️🙏❤️
@talisiasandoval15973 жыл бұрын
me watching this at 18, with no kids and not planning on having any for a long time: “wow. this is good to know” hahaha you’re a warrior desi, all moms are
@calyssalongoria35963 жыл бұрын
Thanks 💞
@kaileeslife3 жыл бұрын
I’m not pregnant, haven’t had a baby, don’t plan on having a baby any time soon but I’m sure gone watch this whole video
@vanessacastillo81913 жыл бұрын
MEEEE
@jocelynverduzco40953 жыл бұрын
Same 🙌
@izamarsolis52963 жыл бұрын
Same
@lashawnamoore83743 жыл бұрын
Me too😂🤍🤍. I'm so appreciative of her sharing her experience .
@taraanthony63263 жыл бұрын
The best advice I can give to new mothers is, don’t be so hard on yourself. Perfection is an unattainable goal and you will question every decision trying to achieve it.
@savannahnisble45053 жыл бұрын
I’m not pregnant, nor will I be in the next 5 years but I just loved watching your whole journey from the beginning to now motherhood!! So proud.
@p0keDAmo0seyXD3 жыл бұрын
It’s insane to me how mommas have done this on their own for centuries...so much info and support out there nowadays! You are a warrior, and I learned so many new things in this vid that people haven’t shared. Thank you!!
@hidyy3 жыл бұрын
The nurse you get really makes a difference. So sad you had a bad experience with that nurse!
@MM-gz7oe3 жыл бұрын
It totally does but we have to remember that some people respond better to a more direct approach. She didn’t and so she got another nurse and that’s okay.
@nicolepaciello94663 жыл бұрын
Your hair!!! Obsessed with the 90s Mariah Carey curls 😍
@petrarosenqvist13943 жыл бұрын
Hi ☺️ I am a mother of 5 children, of which the oldest is 23 and the youngest is 9. This must be the best childbirth, post-childbirth and breast-feeding etc. video I've ever seen! You tell all the less comfortable and painful things that come with having a baby! You are an absolutely inspiring woman! This video should be shown to all the first-time mothers!!! Congratulations to the whole family on the newborn boy 💙! Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮, which is located near the North Pole ❄️⛄️(where Santa lives 🎅🏻)...
@Sofia-ee6yc3 жыл бұрын
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Terkkuja sinullekin ☺️
@kelseyd86613 жыл бұрын
You can tell Desi is a true gardener because she pronounced it “perennial” instead of “perineal” 😂
@capab46333 жыл бұрын
Girl, I can't imagine how tough all these things have been, but you are BURSTING with confidence talking about them now, you sound like you've given birth 20 times already. Your kid is lucky to have you as a mom!
@callmeclaireee3 жыл бұрын
Am I ready for a baby? No. Am I taking notes? Absolutely. And I’m so happy that your friend was able to make you feel ok about having to formula feed. Formula feeding is still feeding and that’s all that matters. Moms shouldn’t feel ashamed for having to supplement. All that matters is that your baby eats. 🖤
@adrianashallys3 жыл бұрын
I recently found out that I am pregnant, I am just about six to seven weeks, and it’s been a very tough and stressful week. You sharing your story has helped me put things in perspective and provided me with hope that even through difficult times we can and will come out of it strong and empowered. Blessings to you and your family, and I pray you continue to feel better each and every day and get through those tough days❤️❤️❤️
@kylieikerd13 жыл бұрын
We love a transparent queen ❤️ as a mom of two I can’t stress enough how important this is for first time mothers to see. Normalize all the beautiful and not so beautiful parts of having a baby. You are the best, Desi.
@jennypasajaja3 жыл бұрын
yes it is! I am so thankful for this!
@beebri143 жыл бұрын
The whole time I was pregnant, I told myself I wouldn’t put pressure on myself to breast feed or feel guilty if breast feeding didn’t work out for me, and then my baby was born and I did exactly that. I felt like such a failure but the fact is that he’s healthy and happy and that’s all that matters. Our mental health is so important as moms and although I am still ‘mourning’ over not being able to breast feed, I know I’m still doing my best for my baby. And you are too!! We have to support and uplift each other!
@daisyavila96533 жыл бұрын
I’ve never cried so much, I felt this so much. The tears hit hard about breastfeeding for me and having to supplement with formula but I tell myself everyday that she’s eating good and happy. Being a first time mom isn’t easy but like you said so rewarding!
@nickybenher5953 жыл бұрын
Women that haven't had a baby yet! KEEP THIS VIDEO FOR REFERENCE! Ya'll are SO LUCKY. KZfaq wasn't a thing back when I had my first baby and the feeling of having no idea what I was doing consumed me. Thanks Desi for posting this! I am so happy for you 💜
@Aaliyah-dn7jq3 жыл бұрын
I’m 8 weeks pregnant and the people in my family haven’t even been this real with their births! Thank you for being so honest through your motherhood journey 💕😭
@vongaimaphoo3 жыл бұрын
I’m almost clocking on my 1st trimester and it’s so true this journey can be lonely because nobody is as real to sort of prepare you for the journey 😢😢. These have probably been the loneliest 3 months of my life .
@juanrebram3 жыл бұрын
@sheikarose not everyone goes through this. This is dramatic. It IS painful (I didnt get and epidural with any of my kids, THATS painful.. but when you're numbed with an epidural, its so not). The afted care is definitely not a that and going to the bathroom does not hurt.. only with a c section as I did with my last. Your vagina does not hurt afterwards either. Stitches, if you have them feel uncomfortable but is definitely not painful as she describes. You've got to remember some people define discomfort as dramatic pain. It really is NOT all that she is sharing. Do not get scared or anxious about childbirth. Its the most beautiful experience ever and everyone I mean EVERY ONE is different and has a different experience. In my opinion, she is being way to dramatic. Or perhaps maybe she is not, she just may be one that is hugh maintenance and does not do well with discomfort.
@masonsadventures16923 жыл бұрын
Breast feeding was the thing that messed me up!!! I felt sooo bad that I failed my kid that I gave in and gave him formula! I was in so much pain and literally sat there crying feeling like the worst mom for giving him formula! But my son is fine he’s healthy and people need to stop making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding!
@marials92453 жыл бұрын
Dixie Garza same here! My delibery and post partum went perfect, but breatfeeding was a nightmare and I gave up. With my second child I did not even try breastfeeding. There is a lot of stigma arround women who dont breastfeed.....
@sjn1413 жыл бұрын
Dixie Garza I definitely agree with you. My little one is 2 weeks & 6 days old and he can’t latch on correctly. Every time I had to breastfeed I would go in so confident after watching videos and what not and told myself this is it we are going to latch correctly but @ the end of it I would just end up in tears. I thought it was my fault he couldn’t latch on correctly and that I was letting him down. I wasn’t opposed to formula but it felt like I had failed my son. It took my mother in law like Desi said to say it’s okay if you can’t breastfeed or baby can’t latch. It’s okay to give him formula, he is still going to grow up healthy and strong. At the moment all my mommy guilt went away and I felt relieved to hear someone say it’s okay if you can’t breastfeed. I read so many articles how it’s best to breastfeed to be completely honest those article and support groups only made me feel worst. So it’s refreshing hear someone say hey everything is going to be okay ☺️☺️
@sandrasolano81893 жыл бұрын
I FEEL YOU THANK YOU FOR SAYING IT OUT LOUD😍🙏🏻❤️ you are not alone Desi
@victoriam22673 жыл бұрын
Same
@masonsadventures16923 жыл бұрын
@@sjn141 yess trust me it will be okay!!!! I sat there a mess for a couple days after making my decision but he is okay!! He’s is 1year old now and the same size and weight as my friends son (same age) who was breastfed. My son couldn’t latch either and I was bleeding and clogged ducts! It was a mess! There’s just too much pressure from everyone and other moms shaming others like “oh wow you don’t breastfeed?” But you got this mom!!! 👍🏽
@amishakumar57143 жыл бұрын
DESIIIII!! Your subscriber count is 333 right now which is an angel number. It literally means ''Take this as a sign you’re on the right path, your prayers have been heard, and you’re heading in the right direction''. WHICH IS CRAZY because Ocean is a little miracle baby we all know you waited forever for 🥺🥺🥺❤️
@jessiikerz3 жыл бұрын
Listening to your breastfeeding journey was like reliving my experience I feel like a lot of women go through the same thing but no one talks about it, thank you for this
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I had my baby 4 months ago and one thing that was a GODSEND after pushing and tearing was a numbing spray. I highly recommend using one especially to help with the sting of the stitches!
@AlianaR3 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy to see you back on KZfaq! Ocean is such an absolute cutie, you and Steven are amazing parents 💙
@Maya-rp9im3 жыл бұрын
This makes me appreciate my mom even more if that’s even possible 🥺❤️
@biankiz863 жыл бұрын
38 weeks here and I already don’t recognize myself at times when I look at myself some days. I can’t wait to meet my baby girl! Pregnancy is hard and I could just imagine how postpartum/breastfeeding is going to be like. Sending all the beautiful mamas a big hug! We got this! 😘
@jenniferburkett69543 жыл бұрын
Oh girl, same on so many of these. We had the best nurse then right before delivery WORST nurse change. My milk never came in and I was devastated. Our pedi told me to supplement and pump when I could but I never got my milk so could never pump. And body image...someone told me, it takes 9 months for your body to make a baby, it takes 9 months to get your body back. And I found it to be true. Once my daughter turned 1 I felt like I was finally back to “normal”. It’s the most amazing emotional journey. I’ve loved seeing yours, thank you for letting us be a part.
@nailsbysenia_3 жыл бұрын
That’s crazy, I didn’t know the trembling was a thing. I had an induced labor on October 24th but I wasn’t planning to take the epidural till my whole lower body was in shakes that I was in more pain from that than the actual contractions. That was the worst feeling but got through it. We women are amazing!
@jenniferaragon93 жыл бұрын
Labor hormones along with side effects from the medicine in the epidural can lead to shivers/shakes. Uncomfortable but normal. There’s medicine that can help counteract the shakes a bit if they get too intense.
@nailsbysenia_3 жыл бұрын
@@jenniferaragon9 My legs were trembling before the epidural or anything was given to me, when they put the balloon catheter in me and right after they had taken the balloon out of me. The shakes I got from the epidural were completely different. I think it was just my body’s reaction to preparing for the baby.
@hkhgkrb3 жыл бұрын
I’m due in 3 weeks and I’ve been waiting for this video since ocean was born 🥺
@lealiwag57013 жыл бұрын
When you got to the part about breastfeeding. I actually got emotional and was holding back tears. My son was born exactly 1 month before Ocean. And breastfeeding was one of the hardest parts of postpartum. I never was able to do it. It actually was the main factor of my depression ): still talking about breastfeeding gets me emotional because my baby wasn’t gaining weight either.
@melissacoviello28863 жыл бұрын
It’s a hard thing to go through for sure, but even if you had to use formula, you did what was better for your baby. I’ve had 4 boys. With my oldest had no clue what I was doing, I was 19, I went from a B cup to a DD and no one I knew had any experience with breastfeeding. With my next the baby had such a small mouth he literally couldn’t nurse, the next 2 were 4.5 oz, and 4.8 oz, and needed higher calorie intake so after the first two weeks in the hospital they needed formula too. So I pumped ever few hours, and then added formula and then fed the baby. My youngest was so small, and struggled with latching even on a bottle because he was tongue tied (but not in a normal way that was fixable) so I had to feed him a bottle every 3 hours until he was 6 months old, even in the middle of the night. Ugh.
@jasminbautista58563 жыл бұрын
Don’t worry ! You’re not the only one girl.. I couldn’t breast feed either. I keep telling myself maybe I didn’t try hard enough and beat my self up over it. But we shouldn’t. 🥺 We did what we could.
@kellykiskotagan3 жыл бұрын
Awwww same babe, I felt so horrible and still sometimes do that I couldn’t breastfeed but at the end of the day our babies are healthy and loved and that’s all that matters!
@lealiwag57013 жыл бұрын
@@kellykiskotagan exactly!!! 🥰🥰 wow I didn’t expect my comment to even be seen/read by anyone! Thanks for commenting and sharing your feelings too 🥰
@juleswick3 жыл бұрын
I’m not a mama yet but I just gotta say that reading everyones comments is so heartwarming! It’s been a minute since I’ve read such genuinely kind & supportive comments on KZfaq! No matter what obstacles we go through in life it’s ALWAYS nice knowing we aren’t the only ones! You all are incredible MAMAS! 💖
@Dana-ij3nq3 жыл бұрын
i gave birth over 25 years ago and had exactly the same situation where a new nurse with a not so great vibe take over and it is still part of my memory to this day! Well done for taking action, i wish we had back then too,
@mairav13 жыл бұрын
The breastfeeding topic really hit me as it was so difficult for me. I was judged by family and I felt like an even worse mother. Now pregnant with my second and I really pray that someday people will stop looking down upon moms that can’t breastfeed. Much love to you as you are doing an amazing job with ocean ❤️
@xoAlanaa3 жыл бұрын
Pleeease do a baby must haves! I really appreciated this video- I'm pregnant and due April 1st. Trying to mentally prepare myself but also freaking out. Thank you!
@Ash2121Mass3 жыл бұрын
Best wishes to you especially for a safe delivery! God speed.
@sarahcolonia89063 жыл бұрын
You can do this, Mama! You are literally MADE for it ❤️ Trust your Body and your Baby ✨ (My son was born April 1st! But 11 years ago already 🙂)
@peoplearestrange2343 жыл бұрын
That's so good that the nurses go with you afterwards to help you. I gave birth in the UK and they were just like "right off you go to the toilet and take a shower!" and I literally passed out in there and they only realised then that I'd lost too much blood whilst being anemic already. Being a first time mum can be scary if you don't have the right care and support
@aalexrrodriguez3 жыл бұрын
This video speaks to me on sooo many levels. I am four months postpartum and I have had all the same experiences as you, mama. Women are freakin amazing. I’m just saying.
@mkievit3253 жыл бұрын
This is sooo helpful Desi! Please please do a video on what you are using vs. what you're not! Ocean is lucky to have you as his mommy
@DesiPerkins3 жыл бұрын
This I have to do because I feel like I got so much that I never used!
@jackieb14953 жыл бұрын
I gave birth at 22 to my beautiful son; my parents were both there I wasn’t even embarrassed giving birth I embraced it!! I embraced how powerful and gifted women are , we literally give birth to new generations. I felt so powerful and amazed of what my body can do! So congratulations to you Desi✨🦋 welcome to motherhood 💗💗💗
@almasandoval6703 жыл бұрын
I gave birth to my son at 21 and my mother in law was there for him and my daughter 4 years later
@silviaramos84393 жыл бұрын
This needs to be on all sorts of media outlets. When I gave birth, being a labor and delivery nurse, postpartum was very hard. No one ever prepares you for the hormonal shifts, self adjusting issues, and new emotions you have to navigate. Everyone focuses on the baby and you might look good, but, sometimes you don’t feel good. Having a GREAT support team makes or breaks your pp journey. And I think a lot of people don’t understand that. I cannot thank enough for opening up and being honest with the vulnerable states you experience during postpartum. You’re doing awesome!
@Reenigrl223 жыл бұрын
I’m going to be a first time mom and it’s so wonderful to hear you and everyone in the comments sharing their experiences and advice. Definitely makes me feel less lonely! Also would love a baby must haves!!
@melfemat3 жыл бұрын
Desi!!! You were literally my inspiration to get pregnant. You made me realize how beautiful it would be to be a mom.. and now, i am 23 weeks pregnant, expecting a baby boy 🥰 Thank you!
@katiebrown2593 жыл бұрын
I’m 19...single and pregnant and it’s been sooo hard but these videos make me feel like things will be okay❤️ thank you I hope you continue to do good :)
@kristinadjordjevic47753 жыл бұрын
I wish you all the best♥️You can do it girl♥️😊
@marilynlobo81923 жыл бұрын
This is so accurate, that lazst push when you feel like you're about to give up they come out!!
@brennabishop35803 жыл бұрын
You were my favorite you tuber before you were pregnant, and now that you’ve had Ocean your videos help me so so much. I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly last November, and every single video you’ve posted has helped me so so much because i feel completely clueless. Thank you, Desi
@christiniajennison97513 жыл бұрын
Talking about the milk supply and finding out you weren’t producing enough that hit home. Same thing was happening to me 😔🥺. Thanks for making us feel not alone!
@MariamNouser3 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@sandrasolano81893 жыл бұрын
Same here🥺
@sm83153 жыл бұрын
Fenugreek seeds really help in milk production. In India we have a whole diet for post parfum milk production
@Queenjackyy073 жыл бұрын
I literally just broke down when you spoke about breastfeeding. I had a similar experience as yours and I can totally relate it was one of the hardest things ever. Girl I love how transparent you are💖
@jazz4283 жыл бұрын
Anyone else get phantom let down pains just from watching this? Just me. Cool. Also, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU desi for sharing this. This is filled with so much great input and options for new moms. I wish I had, had something like this with both of mine. Bless you.
@aylindelgado1253 жыл бұрын
Tengo tiempo sabiendo que no quiero ser mamá, pero ver este video me hace asegurarlo más How strong you are Desi, full respect for you and all the mamas out there
@ariannag24023 жыл бұрын
I’m a ftm & gave birth in October. The labor & delivery nurses are angels. I know it’s their job to help every step of the way but it felt extra comforting to have them since my mom couldn’t be there (only one support person which was my bf) When they showed me how to use the bathroom/all the ins & outs, I legit felt that motherly energy I needed. The best ppl!
@DesiPerkins3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I ended up with such an amazing nurse in the end and she felt like a mom. It was so nice.
@laurengrimaldi24223 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on baby Ocean and for your new journey of motherhood! Your happiness and warmth is contagious 💙
@AzucenaReyesSerrano3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, wow. I’m nowhere near to becoming a mother but I watched this and I really enjoyed learning what women actually go through when giving birth. Things that no one tell you about! Power the women! 💪🏽✨ congratulations desi, so happy for you! ❣️
@NicoleMarieDelmo3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!! My daughter will be 16 months in a few days...my husband and I went through 4 years of infertility before having her. I remember I was sooooo excited to finally be a mom but then every night at 7pm on the dot I would cry and just feel soooo sad for no reason. I def battled some post partum depression and anxiety but Im happy to say it didnt last too long and now my daughters my best friend and I feel sooo blessed to be a mom!
@Undercoverneird3 жыл бұрын
I got ripped off, for our first child, our son, I had to have an emergency Csection, then with our second our daughter I also had to have a emergency Csection 2 wks before her due date. So both my pregnancies I had Csections. I really wanted to push! Lol I used to practice when I was going to the bathroom🤣🤣🤣 while I was pregnant with our son, I seriously would pretend when I was alone in the bathroom using the potty that I was pushing the baby out. I really wanted to experience the whole birthing process. It’s great hearing you and the baby are adjusting well and motherhood has come naturally to you. 💙💙💙💙
@SixFortySeven3 жыл бұрын
I couldn't push, and had to have a c section because of medical reasons. Not pushing does not make us lesser.
@MeredithHammett3 жыл бұрын
You are still wonder woman in my eyes.
@Embraceyourcurls243 жыл бұрын
Yeah two c sections as well. Emergency c section with the first and then medical reasons for the second.
@itsJudysLife3 жыл бұрын
YES YES AND YES! Our poor coochies
@theeluannesantos3 жыл бұрын
Yet we keep doing it 🤣😂
@Fellyfell20123 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 JUDY 😂😭
@Jenilovr3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@missliz853 жыл бұрын
😂
@CassandraGonzalez3 жыл бұрын
Exactly thissss!!
@Aprilsworld253 жыл бұрын
Yes, exactly how I feel about sleep. Pays off when my babies smile at me. Mommy of 2 under 2. Motherhood is precious!
@sandraleitelt22233 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I’m 2 weeks postpartum with my second and literally every emotion you described about breastfeeding, body image, and hormonal shifts I’m feeling. You put into words what I’m having trouble verbalizing. You have no idea how much I appreciate not feeling alone.
@jezellopez3 жыл бұрын
I didn’t even realize you could get hemorrhoids from pushing, new fear unlocked 👁👄👁
@danielanereu37993 жыл бұрын
Oh yes and sometimes for life:) New friends:)
@samanthadominguez34473 жыл бұрын
My midwife told me they’re gifts our babies give to us lol like thanks.. 😂
@shelby36693 жыл бұрын
I had two C sections.. never had to push and still have them. Most women get them during pregnancy from the pressure of the baby. And most women have them for life.
@mariewhoo76163 жыл бұрын
I have been waiting for this!! I LOVE watching Ocean grow. His smile, his deep dimples, proud tia over here!
@JenniferLopezJ3 жыл бұрын
Same!!!
@crystale56253 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing girl. Motherhood is so hard and it can feel lonely sometimes. The truth is all those feelings for the most part are normal just no one talks about it for fear of being judged.
@xomarinanicole3 жыл бұрын
I literally didn’t know how to describe my hormones and feelings after birth because it wasn’t necessarily PPD but you described it perfectly like a shift of identities and becoming a new person almost was spot on
@maycea.66543 жыл бұрын
What i learned in school is that some people can have Post Partum Blues, which seems to be what Desi described (off days, where you feel super bad, but it’s temporary and you get better) VS. Post-Partum Depression which is more serious and does NOT get better with time
@jessicaportillodeleon43953 жыл бұрын
I found out a week ago that my baby's heart stopped beating. Due to how far along I was, I was induced. I was in labor for three days. Not having my daughter with me is the hardest thing I've ever had to endure in my life. When my milk came in I bawled my eyes out. PPD makes everything a little worse.
@abbey-rose3 жыл бұрын
Sending you lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
@jessicaportillodeleon43953 жыл бұрын
@@abbey-rose thank you ❤️
@bd961513 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best 🖤
@natalialopez9873 жыл бұрын
Sending you love
@ZeroHootsGiveth3 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry 😥😥😥
@BeautyByAnneMarie3 жыл бұрын
Always love your videos and I'm so happy for you and your husband!
@bryanmagbitang40713 жыл бұрын
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@crystalvargas67742 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad this popped up on my page again. I’m a new mom and I’ve been struggling a little bit. My hormones are all over the place and I’ve been a crying reck 😅 it’s been rough but I’m so so happy to have my baby girl 💗 thank you for being so open. I don’t feel so alone. You’re amazing Desi 💗
@corinaguerrero54603 жыл бұрын
This has been the most honest post-partum video I’ve ever seen. Thanks you for being so vulnerable and honest with us. I went through all the same thoughts as you so you are not alone. My daughter is now 5 and I will say sleep will come. Hang in there. 😘😘😘
@c_starzaragoza74823 жыл бұрын
This video helped me so much, motherhood is so hard mentally and physically but so rewarding. Feels nice that I’m not alone. Thanks for sharing your story , Ocean is so blessed ❤️
@jocelynb143 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your breastfeeding story! I’m struggling right now trying to breastfeed my newborn. And knowing I’m not the only one who felt like a “failure” is comforting. Thank you Desi💙
@KristinCarranco3 жыл бұрын
I gave birth 10/19/2020 to my first born son. I love watching your stories and videos. I feel like I can relate so much. Thank you for being open and honest ❤️
@maleriemafnas50103 жыл бұрын
Ive watched for years and this journey has brought me to tears! I couldn't be happier for a complete stranger that shared so many beautiful vulnerable moments~ If God gave Desi a message and opportunity to make her mark, she has this world in graffiti lol! Thank you guys, so much love and blessings!
@thesinglemomsummit26183 жыл бұрын
Omg I just got so emotional when you were talking about breast feeding. The same exact thing happened to me. I tried so hard. My breast hurt me so bad. I had a horrible time. Then finally I just decided I was not going to keep torturing myself I supplemented as well and took that pressure of of myself. I learned to give myself grace! You should to sis
@jenabeagle61893 жыл бұрын
I’m so opposite, I literally loved how I felt after giving birth (beside my body) and had so much energy to now feeling lack luster and missing that feeling. I’m so beside myself in moments of being a mom I wish I could get back to that energy! .. and happiness ugh
@paulinazepeda84913 жыл бұрын
Desi I’ve seen many postpartum vids. You gave the most real raw true after postpartum. Mom of four here so I know it’s not easy but it’s definitely very rewarding. Keep it up we have good days and not so good ones but at the end of the day it’s all worth it. Your doing a great job momma.👍🏻
@sabaviles3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, Desi. This video should be seen by every mother-to-be for its honesty!
@amandathechaos20223 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on baby Ocean, he’s so adorable and your rockin the mom life 🥰
@elizabethsagarnaga2013 жыл бұрын
Congratulations desi on baby Ocean he’s so precious, and so glad you’re doing well. I’m so sorry you had a bad experience with that one nurse. When I had my daughter my nurse was amazing she wouldn’t leave my side and without her and my husband I don’t think I would’ve been able to do so well. I’m currently in college and hoping I get into the nursing program I want to major in Labor and delivery or Postpartum. My goal is to help other mothers bring their babies into the world. Sending so much love you’re way❤️❤️
@tessajericho3 жыл бұрын
What an amazing story! I wish you all the best in your pursuits 😊❤️
@elizabethsagarnaga2013 жыл бұрын
@@tessajericho Thank you so much for your kind words.❤️
@nataliemolina50983 жыл бұрын
Bursting into tears over the thought of your child feeling hungry. Omg. My husband and I don’t have children yet, but I remember when my mom had this happen to her with my little brother. He became jaundiced because she hadn’t quite realized he wasn’t feeding enough. She cried so hard when she realized she couldn’t feed him enough. I could sense her guilt as a child myself.
@rosecourtenay17533 жыл бұрын
Omg my baby is now 4 and hearing you speak is having me relive all those feelings. Motherhood really is a transformation. It tears you down and builds you in to a new person. Congrats on baby O love
@joeyshyarchuleta10203 жыл бұрын
I just had my baby girl in October and to know that you are experiencing the same thing makes me feel so better
@HolaPriscilla3 жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful soul you are. Thank you truly for sharing your whole journey from beginning until now with us. You are truly a beauty to watch.
@stephaniefarrell34963 жыл бұрын
I’m almost 3 weeks with my son. Every dad should watch this. It’s hard for a mom to express but it shares everything you want them to know and how your feeling.
@mistywilson35203 жыл бұрын
Just wanted to say a shout out to all the ob nurses out there, yes they too have bad days, unfortunately not every woman who gets pregnant is healthy physically and mentally. They see the best and the worst. The are there. They see things that would give you shivers and sometimes they witness unbelievable miracles. I'm sorry your nurse was having a moment in her head. Maybe she had to deliver a baby that was addicted the night before and was still hurting from that. We will never know. Just wanted to say that nurses are amazing people. They deserve more credit for what they do. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!! Being a mom is an amazing journey ♡♡