i had a girl in college that was comfortable enough with me that I could directly compliment her (like, O Hi Beautiful) without her getting freaked out which NEVER happened. aaaaaand nope still friendzoned

wherethetatosat you have to make your intentions clear from the beginning you want a romantic relationship not a friendship relationship. It’s scary but that’s usually what happens, romantic interest isn’t conveyed as much as you are feeling, id just suggest flirting more

SleepyPanda simple but effective. Let the girl know you got a pair by letting her know your interested and respect both your and her time. Avoid the sunk time fallacy from the start.

sacr3d_g6om9try that a typo or are you suggesting to let the context set the meaning.

@@brokeneyes6615 typo lol

i'm very inroverted, but shen any gender or convesation i my eye contact,this is a very pporly argument.

Alcohol worked for me. It is Just a matter of downgrade overthinking to thinking reasonably

huh, I hate the stuff.

lol, alcohol is like a key of life around my neck. Im like this guy tho, slightly introverted, nothing that problematic for me really.

I hate alcohol, plus I don't want a relationship that happened because of me not being the true myself due to being drunk. I consider that relationship fake.

haha same :D

Lol, when someone pulls up at a stop light blasting music from their speakers I respond the same

Vampires... they don't eat blood, they eat energy

I just think in my head Shhhhhhh there's no need to talk so loudly :p

Fr when somebody decides to sit right next to you when there are other seats available takes my mood from a 10 to 3 real quick. Especially if they stink

Hey Wade, that didn't happen to you because you're an introvert... That happens to my clients of all personality profiles - If you want to learn to approach women successfully, you need to be willing to have lots of rejections and you get better at it. Everyone does unfortunately

Yea, names are pointless, i usually ask names as im leaving... if theres no substance names dont stick, ive known people for years and talk to them everyday, never knowing thier name... besides it being to awkward to ask after so long, names arent necessary... if you pry for personal info so soon, it comes off as prying, to approach is prying, people usually think that people want something from them

@@fattyjaybird7505 No it's not in fact if someone comes up and says sth unless you really get into conversation and forget about then actually not introducing yourself is being a real piece of nasty work with no manners. It's that simple. If a woman is unwilling to give her name I would be unwilling to even hold up conversation. And fact is that the fact that he needs to grow thicker skin doesn't mean that woman is not a piece of rude s**t. It's not okay to be rude cause you are not interested. Saying "My name is XYZ" And then saying something about having a boyfriend is less intrusive. But don't be rude about it also. Just put it in when it's time. Like if you talk about what you enjoy doing or sth

@@jakubrogacz6829 true, yea i agree with you, i was trying to relate to the mindset of someone who does a name refusal... i would definitely say they would be someone i wouldnt want to be around... but i couldnt imagine being a girl that this happens to "all the time" ...

@@fattyjaybird7505 Well while i agree that having to be centre of attention is annoying ( as an introvert in fact it makes me tired as huge hell )... well just don't put on tight clothes and make up then. Just go around looing normal and then it wouldn't happen. Don't go to clubs. Then you will be happy someone asks your name on streets. But most importantly being polite is not about being self serving and comfortable being polite is being good to an asshole because you have a shred of honour. Also as I said most women get attention but also most women fight for attention. And in most cases they try "seduction", let me tell you one thing. Seduction is good when you want someone to start pursuing you. But if you have this guy that you fawn over just move your butt and ask him. If he doesn't want you then you can look for someone that does and if he wants you you lost nothing. Only thing then you must watch is not having sex too early or he will tell you he likes you back to get it if he is popular guy. Also from experience I maybe ever talked to two women on street. most of shy men aren't that much arrogant to try chatting up. It's mostly pickup artists anyway that do so.

As an introvert the realisation that nobody really cares what youre doing there helped me feeling comfortable.

As an introvert I'd rather go there than at a club or at a concert. Gym is nice to stay fit, lounge bars are cool to relax and yoga ins't too bad too.

The gym is OK for me, as long as everybody's minding his own buisness

Why would an introvert hate gym or yoga class?

youre conflating introversion with social anxiety

Spot on

I think it's not that much about spending time alone. It's more about being able to focus. I'm an introvert and for me it doesn't matter if I spend time alone or with a single other person to charge my battery (if I have a connection with that person). Because in both cases I can focus on a single person, on a single subject and can have deep and meaningful conversation (introspective with myself or with the other person). And that is what you're trained to do as an introvert. I think that it just isn't possible to have deep conversation with more than one (or maybe two) other people, it's just not how communication dynamics work.

Extrovert, more like vampire.. siphons the energy out of other people... :D

There is actually another battery too, the introverted extrovert. which charges up his/her social skills by being with people. gradually becoming better with his/hers social skills. but as soon as they are left for themself alot of them has issues putting out all that chargeup, leading to sleep issues and other issues related to relaxing.

My Batteries only charges when i sleep

You're welcome mate

@@SchoolOfAttraction The more you think about this the more you'll find inconsistencies in yourself. Women feel much more than us you just need to make her feel good. Gimmicks and tricks don't work. What works is you.

Lol, and how do you know there isn't? :P

hahaha , I think it was out of place

😂😂

they were looking at a apple wireless keyboard too lol, not even a screen

The more you think about this the more you'll find inconsistencies in yourself. Women feel much more than us you just need to make her feel good. Gimmicks and tricks don't work. What works is you.

Same. Just that nowadays it's even harder to find quality people alltogether. 🙁

I dont have the anxiety. But more like a discomfort.

@@davidbolha true. A lot of people from my age want to party in big crowds and drink untill they pass out. I rather go to a nice...more chilled down place to talk and laugh with friends or so

@@matthijsvanemous7046 Well they do say your 30s are the new 20s or something (I'm 36 btw). 😕 I actually prefer solitude more then anything. Always have. Doing tech stuff or watching some good antizionist documentaries or books. 😊

@@davidbolha and why are you interested in anti-zionism? just curious...

Thank you

@Gromph Baenre thanks 👍

@@kc270352 *Thank's

Introvert vs extrovert comes from the Myers-Briggs test, and as such is not well-defined at all.

That's true but since they spend more time alone than extroverts they're less experienced with social situations so it would make sense that in general they'd be less comfortable and confident in those situations.

It's just logics.

Does it? I just love extroverts. They are everything I'm not. They seems to enjoy life, and I actually want some of that. I feel like we can learn something from each other, and grow in the process... Sorry I'm in love with an extrovert 😅 and I feel, most girls I'm drawn into, are extroverts... Yup, I'm conflicted 😂

@@Fremder14 Same bro i feel you

obviously its the best thing you could do, but they need to trust eachother, otherwise it doesnt work

@@Fremder14 2 magnets that are exactly the same don't stick together, however opposites attract and bring out both the worst and best of you if you can adapt 👍🏽

Same here, that opened my eyes. Looking back it was good that it happened, so I know what to avoid next time. Glad to hear that more people went through this.

@@Chris3015 it all makes sense now!

Go listen to "Tiger by the tail" by Buck Owens or "Fastest growing heartbreak in the West" by Ringo Starr, they'll become your theme songs.

Well you have to give compliments she's earned, not just 'gosh you sure are pretty" :P

@@SchoolOfAttraction 🤣🤣🤣

I can vouch for the fact that it does no good whatsoever.

sixaj finally found a positive introvert comment

@@colonel_crackers6586 😎😎

Same here, i made a girl go from saying " im not interested in having a relationship" to saying "i cant stop thinking about you" "i want to see you and i love you" after having a 2 hours conversation

@@USGishumura boss move💯

Bingo. Add to this that I'm on the more intelligent side, and the "mysterious guy" suddenly becomes a "super genius", lol.

That explains why people spill their guts when talking to me. I thought there was just something about me that brought that out in people. I guess it's just I'm very introverted and therefore seem very trustworthy.

Sales people are extroverts. Politicians

juntjoo nunya 😂

What if I need to be alone to get recharged but at the same time I need to talk to a lot of people to feel energized and confident?

Thank you!

You're a God

Genius, thanks.

Wow

Bless you

Great to hear Tito!

I too am an extreme introvert. Small talk is one of my greatest dislikes.

It is the small talk that leads you to the deep one. Else it is like throwing darts and you are more likely to meet extroverts than introverts that way.

If you want to qualify them; do it later! It's not exactly an ice breaker, But it's definitely a good question later in the conversation. Not sure I'd use that one to qualify people though.

@@TheTinKunt I know right! I'm an introvert also, and it's frustrating to hear so many introverts claim to be great listeners but hate small talk, or want a deep connection but are not a people person, much less sociable. Like most introverts, I'm pretty reserved when I meet someone, so I can't imagine being locked in an hours long conversation after we just met. So what do you do for fun where you live?

I don't have friends i can't do that.

Anti social? :p

@@asdadfafafafffallslsldd8068 I was joking ido have friends ahah. But im still an introvert. I have 2 faces. With friends i smile etc... The rest of the time i look like a psycho ahah

Hello Abed.

Asperger's Syndrome?

You're welcome Char!

Unlimited believe try see iT from another perspective my Guy

They do like guys who are shallow goofs like Seinfeld. Many of them put it right in the ad or profile. 90% looks 10% coming across like Seinfeld. Conversation doesn't matter, they prefer a good listener. Many of them yap on and on and all you can do is nod your head and say "I see"

I appreciate it bud!

i feel the same, but i motivate myself to learn to small talk and flirt because i now its gonna come in handy one day. and its starting to be great fun. idk

I find it amazing u never got bullied or picked on :))) what country do you live in ? (maybe its rude to ask but i'm curious)

@@AssassinT10 No, it's not rude to me. I live in the United states, Montana more specifically which means it was a smaller school and a smaller town maybe about 500 kids/older kids (k-12). But I think what happened is I wasn't really weird when they talk to me and in elementary I used to give my class everything like I even baked cake/cupcakes all the time for them and expected nothing in return but I just chose not to be apart of the conversations and I guess they respected that, but I'm not sure. This ended up being alot longer than I thought it was going to be.

@@zerobrownies399 Well, I guess that explains it :)

I really have no idea what I am, and your comment made me even doubt myself more, are there extroverts that are shy and have social anxiety? Because that's exactly how I feel, I really do feel energized talking in a group of people, because i'm quite funny and everyone likes that so whenever a group of people laugh at something funny I say I feel really good and have a good time, sometimes i'm really comfortable talking in a group of friends, but to get to that point it's extremely hard for me, my head always gives me bad thoughts on how I could make a fool of myself in front of everybody, negative thoughts, sometimes I really want to talk and give my opinion, join the conversation, but the words won't come out, i'm extremely nervous and can't get the words out of my mouth, so I end up not saying anything, even tho I really want to participate it's really hard, I find it way easier having just one on one conversations, I feel way more comfortable, so I might be an introvert as well because I like to spend a lot of time on my own, like A LOT, in the jobs i've had I always like to eat alone, people think it's weird because they think i'm an extrovert but I just want to be alone, i'm incredibly introspective, and sometimes when i'm eating with a group of people I don't even get hungry because of the anxiety I have, that's why I just want to be alone and not worry about what people may think and enjoy my food, I don't want to be thinking constantly what to say next or do next, I just want to rest and be alone, in other words, socializing for me is like getting in a pool of really cold water, at first you don't want to, and once you're in in feels like hell, but in a few minutes you get used to it and then you don't even want to get out of the pool, that's how it is for me, you can say I like talking to a lot of people but it gives me anxiety, and at the same time I like being alone for a lot of time and not worry about all of that

No, that's quite normal - But you likely can't spend too much time around an extrovert - like spending an afternoon etc. is fine - but all day for a number of days will likely make you want to escape

I think having extrovert friends is pretty important for introverts. As for me, I am definitley introvert and two of my best friends are highly extroverts. I know them both pretty much all my life and they always challenged me to get out of my comfort zone, which means being alone. Without them I would have missed so many crazy experiences and hadn't met that many interesting people. I am very thankful for having them. Even when they can be annoying as hell :D

No, they like us, some of them, the ones with introspection

Nah there's always extroverts that adopt us haha

​@@SchoolOfAttraction I'm a very introverted dude in a relationship with a very extroverted lady, and because of other personality traits like high openness we seem to find a lot of things to talk about, and I enjoy that I don't have to be the one to come up with most conversations, while she finds my depth of thought appealing (it sounds a bit douchey, I simply mean i have a lot more information than her about some things she's interested in hence I can entertain her). So we get along great, it's just a matter of wanting someone to compliment and cover up for your weaknesses.

Lol you and everyone! :P Actually that suggests you're not so much of an introvert when sober as much as you are shy when sober.

@@SchoolOfAttraction that's not true, not everyone are more extrovert when drunk , some go way quieter than usual.

Chocobo kei being dead drunk is not the same as polishing your social skills with a good buzz. Alcohol removes anxiety and makes you more risk willing. Nobody gets more quiet after drinking some alcohol. Makes no sense.

for me that varies if im being drunk with people i know more extro vs drunk with people i dont know dont even exist

I stutter as well, but I notice, when I actively try to speak slower, close my eyes, or even better, think the words I want to say before I say them, I stop stuttering!

You're welcome Wil

Damn straight!

Hell, yeah! Introverts unite!... Separately, in their own homes... :)

@@KristoffDoe 😅😅😅😅😅😅

@@KristoffDoe 50 miles away

Cheers mate, there are a number of strategies to increase dopamine - but one alternative to consider is to increase dopamine sensitivity instead.. By lowering the frequency of dopamine rushes - things like reducing porn consumption etc.

Forget the dopamine. I can teach you how to really get any girl you want. Email me at raymundosconsulting@gmail.com.

Thanks mate!

You're welcome Hat

Well that's only if deep talk is the ONLY thing you do - You still have to create some edge, build some sexual tension etc. Otherwise, yes, you will end up just being a friend for sure.

You have to display your intentions, if you stay just all in in the talks and you dont give out any signs, dont be surprised then.

with all honesty put it this way when you get fz a few times for our introvert personality you learn quickly to lead with the im not looking for new friends when you are dealing with someone you are interested in fz shit gets old and is a wasted energy/time you could do without :D

The real introvert mating/dating strategy is to wait around while she enjoys her life for 10-15 years; be sure to make a lot of money using your introvert ability to actually make and do things. Then you can become a stepdad for a few years before she divorces you and steals your house.

If you are looking to score girls and not ladies, I agree.

Glad to hear it!

Thanks for the feedback Kavana!

Hey Ronald, thanks bud, I definitely plan to be releasing some more introverts guides!

I think that introverts have more chance of building long-term relationships than they will land quick hookups.

@@Stoney3K Huh? A relationship seems like the worst possible thing to me as an introvert.

Cheers Steve!

Cheers Syntherus!

Most of my closest friends over the years, even today, have been females with husbands or boyfriends. I know the feeling!

Yeah small talk is draining for all us introverts - you sort of have to learn to be GOOD at small talk, and also good at quickly leading into more meaty topics, so you can escape it ;)

So FYI - MBTI isn't based on any real science - the psychology field has a very dim view of MBTI because it's just a made up test. So its definitions of introvert and extrovert are also off base slightly.

Cheers Luis

@POO POO ON ISRAEL That is entirely a very good possibility, I have an analytical mind if you couldn't tell, sometimes I do indeed overthink things and perhaps try to change something that really doesn't need to be. Thanks for the comment.

ChapDatText good luck with that. If you succeed, let me know how you found one... 😞

@@jekyle1980 I changed my mind. Now I'm looking for an independent nerdy girl

ChapDatText well introverts can be independent too. But either way, good luck finding a nerdy, single woman who doesn’t look disgusting. 😕 I’ve been searching for that combo for years and years with no luck.

@@jekyle1980 I can help. Contact me at raymundosconsulting@gmail.com to discuss it.

You're welcome mate!

It's also much more broadly applicable because it fits all ages and demographic groups. The videos to which you refer are only valid for the immature, shallow, skanky hos that hand around bars.

Awesome mate - we need more aussies on the channel :)

@@SchoolOfAttraction oh I’m in Victoria and I think your in queens land.

Yep, I sure am

You're welcome bud, glad to hear it!

chances are, introvert girls might find that unattractive/annoying. depends though

@@RikThunder33 yes, they could be annoyed by that, but not instantly. Just after a few hours, but your chance will be lost by that time lol

@@groovesan *shrug* depends on the environment.

@@RikThunder33 No, it depends on your own game and skills. I can help you with that. My email is raymundosconsulting@gmail.com.

@@raymundosconsulting I'm good. xD Thanks.

Thanks Alexandre!

How? Can i have an example

Alexander Diaz I'd give you a example but I’m too busy being paralyzed lost in your eyes. I can confirm this flipping of words works because I did it my girlfriend lmao

Cursed Khien I want more examples

@@jimmynoben9597 I would give you more examples but what I really wanna give you is my heart.

@@LyricalViking bro plz explain.I dont know anything about flirting..plz give some morr examples

Heh yeah - I really don't like large groups of people - but to me being on stage, is a weird kind of 1:1 conversation with the audience just being a single person

@@SchoolOfAttraction When I say close friends though I mean I have to know them for years before I am able to be close to them.

Same thing happens to me!!!

It's just a terrible strategy for meeting women to friend them first - Also women HATE that experience 98% of the time - Women are frequently paranoid that their good male friends are suddenly going to get 'weird' on them.

You're welcome bud!

then ur just an extrovert with social anxiety

b4t b0y oh ok. Well maybe then I am

Wow, that's really great to see you going in and self-educating further! 16PF remains one of my favourites because of how well researched it is.

@@SchoolOfAttraction I can definitely see why! It's hard to pull useful information out of a lot of the other tests without getting super deep into them. 16PF just made a ton of sense from the start!

Cheers mate!

Kira Lee damn, he was a lucky guy

Peanut Butter Jelly Bitch how so?

Kira Lee you probably didn’t date the right introvert. Some introverts are very narcissistic and don’t provide anything in any relationship which is why they are alone most of the time.

@@dsantiago1000 I said extrovert

Kira Lee whoops. Sorry I misread 😅