How They Met | The Gary Owen Show

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@cartersmom0629 6 жыл бұрын

I love that he called her immediately. He said "you are gonna meet a lot of guys in 3 days". And if more men thought like that it would be a lot more happy couples

@ericsonjacques7643 6 жыл бұрын

Yo I'm so doing that

@mikes3827 6 жыл бұрын

+Carter's mom I like your attitude, but to be honest, the 3-day "rule" is usually the norm--but not because guys want it that way! From myself, to almost every male friend & family member I've known, you ALWAYS hear the "Gotta play it cool, or she'll think I'm desperate" from guys. Even though I've played along with that BS, I NEVER understood it. In other words, if I like a female, I want to talk to her. Why wait?? My best friend (John) is sooooo misogynistic now, and a lot of it is from all the BS he's gone through with exes. Not saying at times he isn't also at fault, but while I'm pulling for him to fall in love and meet "the one" I honestly don't see it. He and I talk about the games and "rules" and we both agree they're BS, but unfortunately John is too far jaded because of all the BS.

@nlee4566 5 жыл бұрын

When I meet a girl I'm excited about...I'm.not waiting 3 damn days lol It's ASAP.

@carstellamoore8863 5 жыл бұрын

Wow that's how my husband was just kept showing up picking me up from work being thier consistently meet on POF dating site

@pctshooter 5 жыл бұрын

I'm almost 52 years old and I've never heard of the 3-day rule.

@amarie2328 6 жыл бұрын

I only came here to hear the voice of the lady that said "Everybody in this house either came out of me or came in me" lol I HAD to

@rodwilliams7457 6 жыл бұрын

A Marie she said that lol

@amarie2328 6 жыл бұрын

Hell yes lol

@SweatyHanes 6 жыл бұрын

You eat that muthafuckin frosting 😂

@AnnaMaeBullock 5 жыл бұрын

rebecca he's himself, not acting. And she probably earns more as an attorney than he does in stand up.

@evolvedtactics1714 5 жыл бұрын

@rebecca sound jealous

@btiaf777 7 жыл бұрын

his wife is beautiful

@prudym7305 6 жыл бұрын

+Mia he's a 5 too so it works

@92You. 5 жыл бұрын

You're a hating ass bitch Mia.

@sammycoleman7727 5 жыл бұрын

Tia Bell sho u right

@pellajack423 5 жыл бұрын

@Mia I agree. She's not even a 5 in my opinion. More like a 2 or 3. Gary too.

@samlsd9711 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, she's so beautiful I agree.

@akwaabab8504 5 жыл бұрын

that's right! when a guy is in to you, he don't play no effing games! cause he don't want you spending time with no one else!!!

@keisi1574 5 жыл бұрын

Akwaaba B You're lookin' good in your picture. And you got all them subscribers!! I'll call you in two days...

@rosalindmarfo8750 5 жыл бұрын

Eishh, I see my Ghanaian sister 👋

@cassiusclayreels 5 жыл бұрын

So why do y'all play games? Lol

@ant604 5 жыл бұрын

@@cassiusclayreels maybe cause the dude doesn't want you?

@keithnpee 5 жыл бұрын

Nice to have had a dad to grow up with. See white privilege makes it possible for him to be attractive to a women otherwise would not be. No he personally didnt do it, but his ancestors and those controlling Hollywood made it possible for him and any other white man.

@ThatLadyDray 7 жыл бұрын

😂 his face when he said "A year " like do you KNOW how much work I had to put in? 😂😂😂

@VS9050909 7 жыл бұрын

ThatLadyDray I had too rewind just to make sure I really heard that 365 day crap right😳... That's just not right I tell you😔. 😅😅😅

@ThatLadyDray 7 жыл бұрын

VS9050909 😂

@lorrainesimser446 6 жыл бұрын

CoffeeAt Midnight lol it’s facts tho

@lvroom5126 5 жыл бұрын

Think how much work people put into buying a car or other material things. If you think they are worth it, a person deserves the same if not more effort. You value what you work hard for.

@ConsiderTheCrows 3 жыл бұрын

Just talking for a year? Damn. She vetted the hell out of him.

@haitianprodigy8600 4 жыл бұрын

"I don't wanna do nothing else, I wanna tell jokes"😀😀😀. He believed in himself and his lady believed and supported him. No man can loose with that perfect combo.

@laragreene8328 4 жыл бұрын

I think she'll get tired of him!

@mariamchalikyan3537 4 жыл бұрын

L.M. Green, they’ve been married for a long while now and have 2 almost grown sons. Her life is very comfortable I do t think she’s going anywhere.

@laragreene8328 4 жыл бұрын

@@mariamchalikyan3537 I did post in another place that I really didnt know them or anything about them.....I just thought he seemed creepy...lol. Thanks for the info!

@mariamchalikyan3537 4 жыл бұрын

L.M. Green, they actually have 3 kids. She has a son from a previous relationship. She got with him when he was broke and unknown and now they’re doing really well and the kids are too old to divorce and live off of child support. Ya, I think she’s there to stay. 😂

@Rxinynxghts 2 жыл бұрын

@@mariamchalikyan3537 u were wrong lol

@Lollita23 5 жыл бұрын

I love how she's lowkey roasting him but you can see how much she loves him when she looks at him. The best couples have a good sense of humor with each other. 💜

@president1906 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, this didn’t age well

@Yangmang Жыл бұрын

Bet that's why he wanted a divorce.

@Lollita23 Жыл бұрын

@@president1906 Ha, I didn’t even hear about this.. lol

@thomasandersen5349 3 ай бұрын

Yup. And you know he knows not to trip, he's looking every direction except right at her during the light roasting. It's a moment to appreciate.

@Ivan_LFC 23 күн бұрын

She was about the $$$$!

@__CJLORRAINE__ 7 жыл бұрын

"You're gonna meet a LOTTA dudes, in three days. "😀😁 Awwwwww

@GandalftheWise 3 жыл бұрын

They broke up. Sorry swirler

@Rxinynxghts 2 жыл бұрын

@@GandalftheWise lol

@TheStarr15 7 жыл бұрын

I'm obsessed with them. They are honestly so cute.

@globalrei 6 жыл бұрын

Starr H. Hellllllllllll no blacks should stay with blacks

@theconsciousobserver6829 6 жыл бұрын

Sister love your own men

@kayladelgado6946 6 жыл бұрын

Young Style someones mad

@CreativeSTS 5 жыл бұрын

Starr H. Wouldnt be cute to u if it was a black man and a white woman. U would hate it. Hate u bitches

@92You. 5 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't be great if you wasn't so ignorant, Mike? Shut yo punk ass up bitch, we can't stand you either. P.S, from a Black woman.

@nyc220guy 9 ай бұрын

You can see in his body language and hear it in her speech that they were not on good terms back then. All things come to the light eventually. I hope they're both doing well now and happy. Especially in regards to their kids.

@itsjemmabond 7 ай бұрын

He's having a new baby with his new girlfriend now

@DLBMOS Ай бұрын

He fed up with her by then...

@peacepocket 21 күн бұрын

He looks miserable

@ifeyazoie 8 күн бұрын

Exactly what I was saying in my comment after seeing this and coming from one of her current interview shorts Gary Owen will figure it out all he gotta do is give it to god and god will make sure his relationship with his kids isn't broken because of their mother bitterness

@bassman3272 7 жыл бұрын

daaaaang gary I knew she was black but didnt knw she was GORGEOUS!!!!

@lisajackson2329 6 жыл бұрын

Bass Man Gary is hiding something

@sagittarius420cheefie 6 жыл бұрын

Mia She got a decent face😄

@92You. 5 жыл бұрын

Who know's how you look. I'm betting it's not all of that. Shut up, bitch!

@rafthethinker4948 5 жыл бұрын

SAAAME

@Jennymule1 5 жыл бұрын

@Mia she's beautiful..stop it🙄

@rickymwamba9681 3 жыл бұрын

He really had a crush on her. He loved her then and still loves her today!

@bangnee 17 күн бұрын

That didn't age well.

@octaviakf 7 жыл бұрын

I had no idea folks were suppose to wait 3 days before they call hummm that must be west coast rules b/c east coast they call you as soon as you give them you're number to make sure its correct LOL

@Mizzbabyblue12 7 жыл бұрын

so true lol even though I live in Canada

@sweetnsexcr2727 7 жыл бұрын

TRUTH!

@Aishaa_aa 6 жыл бұрын

octaviakf I am from Germany , Berlin and its the same shit here

@toneyzion 6 жыл бұрын

octaviakf lol truth

@avilik13 6 жыл бұрын

Keep in mind this was the 90s and not many had cellphones so you couldn't really ring anyone unless you got home to use the landline. And the 3 day rule was so you didn't come off desperate lol

@Godluv4L 7 жыл бұрын

omg she is stunnig

@keepreal4853 6 жыл бұрын

Mr. Darko TV bruh😂

@sagittarius420cheefie 6 жыл бұрын

She is pretty cute.

@RedzClapz 6 жыл бұрын

I need to find me a beautiful darkskin woman like her.

@JMARTIN1947 5 жыл бұрын

10/10 She is gorgeous

@Artliker1234 4 жыл бұрын

Draço Büss dark skin??? Huh

@teemiller7499 4 жыл бұрын

I love Gary as a Comedian first and second I love the man he is. So true to who HE is as a Man. His views on things are not Black or White but just REAL and Truthful. These two are adorable and Hilarious!🥰

@hairculturerlchair6115 25 күн бұрын

He doesn’t look happy.:.hell he was over her here 🤣🤣🤣🤣💯

@katricejohnson9849 3 күн бұрын

Okay, that part😊

@LittySmitty 5 жыл бұрын

Gary seems like he remembers more about their relationship than she do

@jsmith1214 5 жыл бұрын

thats because women only care about "what have you done for me lately". men remembers good stuff for life

@fightermma 4 жыл бұрын

She's about that money not about that love

@AR-ii3ly 4 жыл бұрын

That’s guys for you. Women don’t care about all that love bull doodie.

@JamesJones-qg6us 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly.. She only wants money.

@gwash9733 4 жыл бұрын

When they met he had no money soooo...

@filmtressmu8552 7 жыл бұрын

lol, So THAT'S how they met. Cute. Not boring this is the kind of relationship that flourish. Simple and easy. The problem is people bring too much drama into their households. The home is supposed to be smooth and easy. Leave the chaos for the workplace and other stuff. Keep the home comfortable and serene.

@MichelleHernandezcraftymaven 5 жыл бұрын

Agreed- although talking on the phone for a yer doesn't sound too easy. He did his work, drama free.

@cateriomurry9443 3 жыл бұрын

They broke up now 😂😂😂 just worry about yourself 👎

@georgecorrea8530 4 жыл бұрын

One of the major key factors of a great relationship is chemistry. They definitely vibe well together.

@Stories10190 Жыл бұрын

They divorced now

@JimmyDanger44 6 жыл бұрын

Gary gives me hope

@foxxezzplayezartzgamesz_6216 5 жыл бұрын

rebecca black? Gary acts like Gary... His manner of speaking is regional not cultural... When did he act black though?. What is acting black?

@Macmittens411 5 жыл бұрын

Just don't get any of them that wear weaves UGH!!

@kw7142 5 жыл бұрын

this is so weird seeing another villa fan here lool

@MeMe-ht2hd 5 жыл бұрын

Match.com Jimmy.

@reigningbrownbeauty4396 5 жыл бұрын

@@Macmittens411 so awoman that wears weave in her hair can't be a good woman 😂😂😂?

@sarahsahar5622 7 жыл бұрын

they look good together, very cute!

@dmoney9285 6 жыл бұрын

Sarah Sahar He only looks cute to you because he's funny, try and picture him being boring and subdued and they wouldn't go together at all...

@therealmamabeardontcare 7 жыл бұрын

he was right. a dude wait three days to call me im not talking. some women set themselves up for failure and r use to losers

@user-lj7zf5xy4h 5 жыл бұрын

Lol I was just thinking that when I saw your comment. She’s really obsessed with the “rules”. Stuff like that doesn’t matter especially nowadays.

@Truthful_Goddess06 5 жыл бұрын

alex evans 3 days I will be talking to another person or moving on with my life. Lol females do the most.. Smh

@thomashurlhi1987 5 жыл бұрын

Lol that dumb af

@MikeSmith-zo6eu 4 жыл бұрын

alex evans you must be obsessed with yourself, if you want talk to someone bc they don’t text u right away

@rollandcurtis874 4 жыл бұрын

Calling that day? He's an effing SIMP for that. He plays no effing games because he has no effing games. AMS taught us to call 2 weeks later. Period.

@replenishholisticcenterllc2187 4 жыл бұрын

I love how he loves his wife😏

@vernessatucker8647 4 жыл бұрын

I'm in love with them already! She's a beauty queen.

@marvinthemartian857 6 жыл бұрын

"he wasn't very funny" "I was the warm up" Hahaha

@charlesmosquera6279 3 жыл бұрын

Gary, the way your wife looks at you is so tender, so caring, so in love. You're a beautiful couple. God bless you and your family.

@Archer335 4 жыл бұрын

It’s funny how they feel so comfortable correcting each other. Cute couple!

@clarkkent2816 5 жыл бұрын

Great video. He caught her eye because he was funny, persistent in chasing her and had lots of patience.

@goldchef2754 4 жыл бұрын

Clark Kent sounds like he caught her eye cuz he was white

@sharayscorner 4 жыл бұрын

I know she gave him her number that night because she came back to the club specifically to see him 😊

@davidpeters2403 4 жыл бұрын

Hello Beautiful 😘

@joemoschetta1541 4 жыл бұрын

italian men and black women rock it ,

@linda1stimp 5 жыл бұрын

He just left Dallas New Years Eve!! He bought the house down and has been here with us for this holiday for his 3rd year!! We love us some Gary Owens keeping it 100😍

@blksnkmoan7469 4 жыл бұрын

I would've fell for him too💯 Gary looks like he is such a sweetheart 😍

@joeyjonesSoCal 5 жыл бұрын

May these two be together forever. They still look at each other like it’s the first time. Gives hope...

@brianbonilla9276 Жыл бұрын

This didn't age well 😅

@AshiyaWhitley-ShawVeganAthlete 7 жыл бұрын

They are a beautiful couple.

@Mia7189 7 жыл бұрын

Cute couple. She reminds me of the actress who played 'Hilary' in 'The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air'

@KLartrandM 6 жыл бұрын

I think she looks similar to Kerry Washington

@carstellamoore8863 5 жыл бұрын

Look alike

@carstellamoore8863 5 жыл бұрын

@That Guy why so mean? work on that

@donaway6 3 жыл бұрын

She is real...

@nemo227 3 жыл бұрын

My wife and I have been married for 54 years and, from my experience, this couple may work out.

@tymirra8769 3 жыл бұрын

awh, holy hell; congratulations! My marriage lasted 6 years :/ But my lady and I now, I believe in for all of time. :) we're both 34 years old so I believe we have at least 50 more years. :)

@nemo227 3 жыл бұрын

@@tymirra8769 It gets better and better as you tend to learn more about yourself.

@stanleyb2320 7 жыл бұрын

Didn't have all those different things going on which meant he had time to invest in her.

@sagittarius420cheefie 6 жыл бұрын

rebecca Gary does not think he is black. He jokes about his whiteness all the time.

@92You. 5 жыл бұрын

Rebecca, shut yo bitch ass up. You sound stupid!

@EdSuavePerez 5 жыл бұрын

@rebecca gary said in an interview that he never tries to act black, always himself.

@Joelcebada 5 жыл бұрын

@rebecca why are you such a hater it's 2018 shut up

@Jennymule1 5 жыл бұрын

@@Joelcebada Exactly and clearly he was broke back then how the hell he buy her...smh

@socrates7996 5 жыл бұрын

bro this man is a real man Much respect to this guy.

@reneebrady8389 5 жыл бұрын

Gary Owen is one of my absolute favorite comics!! His wife is stunning!

@lisa196409 5 жыл бұрын

Mine too

@blainemarcano 3 жыл бұрын

"That's it? You don't do nothin else?" "I don't wanna do nothin else." I love it.

@stevieporter1 6 жыл бұрын

Gary, you tha MAN!!! You two are perfect together. Love has no color!! You go BOY!!

@bossladyblue3689 7 жыл бұрын

I just hope the T.V show doesn't mess up things for them.A lot of people do these t.v show and put to much of there personal life out for us to see and then it turn on them.

@Laitalafraise 5 жыл бұрын

You are right.

@GmonkeyJ777 5 жыл бұрын

Its like a curse or something.

@BennyNegroFromQueens 3 жыл бұрын

Damn, u called it

@pinkivy98 7 жыл бұрын

I don't usually like that many reality shows but this show is soooo funny. Love every one on the show. 😅

@brandib269 3 жыл бұрын

KZfaq petty as hell for recommending me this!!😂😂😂😂

@Mr.Nyongo 3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣😂 that's why I'm here.

@olutoyinlovelimind8197 5 жыл бұрын

Love them. They both are so lucky to find each other.

@mekadoz6586 7 жыл бұрын

That was sweet

@ayamethompson9435 4 жыл бұрын

I can’t stop smiling. I love it

@GiftFromGod4U 5 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness...this is the cutest and realest story. When he said, "I know I'm supposed to wait 3 days...but you gon' meet A LOT of guys in 3 days so..." --- Yeah...he was different for all the right reasons. No games...seize the moment. 💙

@snysny3945 5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Beautiful... I can watch the two of you for hours. You two are soooooooooooooo beautiful together.

@lvroom5126 5 жыл бұрын

You value what you work hard for. I respect both of them for how they treated each other to get where they are. Building a relationship for the future.

@luvingg 7 жыл бұрын

This show is so funny !!! Initially, I thought it was going to be so dry, but I literally LOL !!! Check out the Church episode

@jordanharrington1890 6 жыл бұрын

LMBO YEEESSS!!!

@smallsmall5062 15 күн бұрын

That's cute!!!! He called her immediately!!! So cute🤗

@lashonday.wright8955 6 жыл бұрын

I never knew the story of how Gary Owens and his Wife met and this is just so beautiful and funny! Blessings to you two always!

@justforme6076 7 жыл бұрын

love it....you going have a lot a dudes talking to you in 3 days...

@jenellegriles7731 4 жыл бұрын

Love some Gary Owen! Beautiful couple

@DrRodox. 4 жыл бұрын

Its an another level when the woman is confident and smart.

@Beautiful2219 4 жыл бұрын

It’s beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

@Tabby.cat2 5 жыл бұрын

“He don’t care about the rules” 👏👏👏👏!!!

@scholarshipsforcollegeedu1897 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for making these videos! Being a chocolate lover myself, it's so nice to see other couples like my wife and I.

@miahunter7676 6 жыл бұрын

I binged watched this show. Mr. Owen is so funny and his family is beautiful and funny as heck and hope there will be a Season 2!

@tedreynolds6363 4 жыл бұрын

Gary, home run bro! She's BEAUTIFUL!

@exclusiveme89 7 жыл бұрын

Nice Interview!!!!!

@agochoa 4 жыл бұрын

He deffinitely did something right.

@MzMinnesnowtapop1 3 жыл бұрын

Awwww...i smiled through the whole clip

@benjamincuevas199 4 жыл бұрын

Gary is my hero!

@fattyfatty4484 4 жыл бұрын

I'm attracted to Korean men I'm African American there I said it 😂

@bgt9005 4 жыл бұрын

North or south?

@KenLuciano300 4 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with it just weird as hell

@christophervolo6704 3 жыл бұрын

Super weird 😭😭

@tonycannig5746 3 жыл бұрын

Hey, if they rock your boat, go for it !

@jdd5886 3 жыл бұрын

But why though?

@craigpatterson6225 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Sucks that these 2 Incredible people separated. Damn , I really loved these two together. Miss that show too ! Good Luck to Both ❤️🙏🏾👍🏾✌🏾

@monicajones5943 4 жыл бұрын

2019😀 This Love story made my day. Thanks for Posting👍

@BlackJack661 6 жыл бұрын

Love this story, great folks! Hang in there.

@huntley62 4 жыл бұрын

It’s simple.....love has no color. It’s human being ❤️

@TheLicktysplitz 5 жыл бұрын

He's such a sweetie!

@jesussavesyeshedoes 3 жыл бұрын

Awww cute story. I love when the man just knows the woman he's met is the one.

@andyyinni7451 4 жыл бұрын

So happy for you Gary

@karonhamilton7314 4 жыл бұрын

They are so cute! I just love them, love knows no color

@reddalchemy5970 6 жыл бұрын

They are adorable!

@atonementatonement1886 4 жыл бұрын

That’s what it is about LOVE IT DOESN’T HAVE A COLOR IT HAS TOGETHERNESS ONE LOVE TO ALL BLESSINGS

@jenniferbrockel2587 6 жыл бұрын

Hadn’t heard of Gary Owens until 2 days ago but OMG funny. Spreading this laughter if love to EVERYONE I know. Gorgeous wife btw. And loved the story of how you met. So sweet 😍👸🏻💎

@seanjenkins8010 7 жыл бұрын

you gotta love those family

@davidpeters2403 5 жыл бұрын

I do love her I would love her even more in bed

@danacarter5313 7 жыл бұрын

I always wondered how they met!

@daphnewilliams9842 5 жыл бұрын

That an beautiful way to meet someone special 💗💕💕

@hectorhernandez4993 3 жыл бұрын

I’m happy he’s happy just telling jokes cause he’s really likable dude and she’s seems like a perfect fit for him

@djwilliams1749 3 жыл бұрын

They look great together. I wish them the very best with their lives...

@brooketaylor6787 Жыл бұрын

They going through a divorce now

@djwilliams1749 Жыл бұрын

@@brooketaylor6787 Alright. Wrote that two years ago. Thank you...

@brooketaylor6787 Жыл бұрын

@@djwilliams1749 I know I’m just reflecting

@brooketaylor6787 Жыл бұрын

@@djwilliams1749 I know I’m just reflecting

@terrystarks2507 6 жыл бұрын

such a beatiful couple...I love it!

@blackleather4422 4 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorite comedians.

@jeannetteduette6704 5 жыл бұрын

You two are a match made in heaven. You are more than a married couple, you are friends too.

@ICanSayKatarina 7 жыл бұрын

they so cute

@tigerstorages 6 жыл бұрын

I'm impressed that he remembered her outfit :-)

@jclark21218 6 жыл бұрын

What's classic about the two of them - is the cake frosting story. i swear the god, i fell in love with gary owen. honest!

@rachelrideaux6014 3 жыл бұрын

She's beautiful Gary ,your whole family ❤️

@halfdollar86 5 жыл бұрын

Just discovered Gary. Dude is hilarious. Makes me wonder who else I’m missing.

@majamaja2363 5 жыл бұрын

Halfdollar 86 hehe same here

@MariaChungWilloughby 7 жыл бұрын

lol...the wife is so real lol

@kimberlyanderson1013 9 күн бұрын

Gary was already in disconnect here. Being able to be friends at the end of the day is 🔑. I pray that they'll have a great friendship after the dust settles, for the sake of their g-babies~

@JV-qb5pr 3 жыл бұрын

This is cool. Blessings to the Owens Family.

@TMDLIFEHess 4 жыл бұрын

He’s funny & she’s beautiful! I bet they made some gorgeous babies!

@LDNRABIN 7 жыл бұрын

It's great to see the story of how he managed to capture the attention of a woman clearly out of his league.

@jolielive3 7 жыл бұрын

OMG....but you didn't lie, did you? I was watching this vid like...dude married way above his "looks-grade" lol

@LDNRABIN 7 жыл бұрын

He should teach a course at The Learning Annex ;0

@MegaCadette55 7 жыл бұрын

Leah R but she had a kid tho.I am not saying that takes anything from her beauty but when a woman has a kid,her optins get narrower

@avilik13 6 жыл бұрын

Rosa despite having a child she was still getting the attention of athletes and actors- way bigger names than him. I saw Gary tell a story in another video about how he answered her phone and it was Matt Damon. He was courting her at the time lol

@xoangelicaf0523 6 жыл бұрын

Rosa having a kid don’t stop shit. They make men like you even more knowing you can love and care for another human besides yourself