As an autistic person - we talk a lot about "masking" in order to blend in. It can be a beneficial skill, but it is also tremendously exhausting and in extreme cases leaves you feeling as though you don't even have an authentic self under the mask. It's about balance and a compromise between being able to do things like have a job, socialize, and survive the grocery store while being true to yourself.

Cats are good with the whole self-conscious issue - they are totaly them selves! :-)

Awesome! I join the crowd's standing ovation! 🤩 Lately someone told me 'when you are scared, focus on love'. Same works for self-consciousness: focus on the love, for what you are doing, for your why, for the company you are in, for yourself. There's less space for being afraid or self-conscious when you are busy 'loving your living' 😃

I’ve used a laugh track, applause track, and a spotlight in my last two videos and I felt so weird doing it. Seeing you taking the same approach makes me feel less alone in my weirdness. 😂 Haha thanks. I love it. In regards to other people’s options. As my father in law would say, “fuck em”.

Self consciousness has harmed me so harshly I really feel hurt about it at this point.

Discomfort either way - you nailed it.

We are all light beings, so shine bright like the diamonds we are! People will notice your light, and so what? Be yourself, shine even brighter and give them a show! You never know who you may inspire to be more themselves by just being you! Love the content as always Lefie!!

Came back to this now in 2023. Just what I needed to hear ❤

Your channel is one of my favorites channels on KZfaq! Thanks for being honest and unapologetically you! Our society needs more Lefie's!

it only took me 20 years to think this way. Thanks lefie. love when you post

Thank you Lefie! Your videos help me start my day. Please keep doing what you are doing. Bravo! 🕺🏻👍

Always love your ideas - what you say and how you put them "on the stage". The internet is a better place because of you. ❤️

The thing I've been self-conscious about recently is where I have lunch at work. There's a door at the back of our library that leads to two toilets and a shower room. I decided I wanted a private place to have lunch, so I set up a table and a chair in the shower room. The only thing is, I'm becoming super self-conscious about the people who attend the library seeing me leave the toilet area after 30 mins with an entire backpack with my lunch etc in it. Not to mention that I eat in the dark with only the flashlight on my phone so my iPad screen looks better while I'm watching things - so if I leave while others come out of the toilet, they see me leaving a dark little room with a little table and chair... but that never happens because I listen out to make sure that nobody else is there when I leave to avoid any potential awkward interactions. I can't really tell if there's any problem with all this. If there is, I probably shouldn't care though. Most of my colleagues know and they treat it with a similar kind of "This is probably weird." So we don't openly talk about it either. But I guess at the end of the day, it's just the same old "Who gives a s**t what I do? Even if it is supposedly 'weird', I have the last laugh because I have a nice little cubby hole to eat my lunch every day." ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Great video. Being self-conscious is almost a freeze state. It stops one from moving forward and getting on with the business of living life to the full.

This paired well with my daily stoic reading for today. 💜

Always a pleasure Lefie. This should help me on my interview today. 😆

*Je ne me soucie jamais du regard des autres sur moi, mon apparence, ma gestuelle, mes débordements de joie ou de tristesse..par contre je me soucie BEAUCOUP de mon regard sur moi et celui-là est très très DUR !* *Continue Lefie je t'aime bien 💖🇫🇷*

I love the way you filmed this video, the originality is off the charts.

That was awesome! I love all the different things you have been trying out to grow as a person. I don't feel alone because I do the same. Thank you Lefie!

Lefie giving us the 👌sign the whole time :)

Holy cow, I really needed to hear this. I have really bad social anxiety about being out in public 😅

Just had a recording session today for the application I’m making for the Conservatory I want to attend and your video came out at the perfect time. Thank you ❤️ love your content

right when i need it, thanks lefie!

You are perfect the way you are even when your not being creative yourself is just what you did on this video i haven't been watching your videos alit but over the years you have grown ti be a really inspiration

I love your videos. You are awesome!

This is a great vid. Thank you!

loved this!

Love your work

Welcome, Lefie

Very well said! ☺

hilarious i loved it!!!:)

I love singing, My only problem is I’m very self conscious if im sing by myself infront of people (Edit): I have always tried to fit in not wanting anyone to laugh or think bad about me, This has helped me hearing it from someone else.

What a fun video!

I would go to see this live! 😁👍👑

Missed your uploads!

Gracias

Ohh this was so good!

Nice TED Talk 😆👏

Thank you, lefie

Hi Lefie, yes people will look at you because you're an impressive beautiful/blond (same thing to loads of people) woman who is assumed to take a leadership role? Tall people get that a lot, it's kind of human nature to look up to a 'powerhouse'.

🙏🏻🙏🏻

Well, well, look who's inside again! :)

Missing you. Hope you're doing great.

Yay! Came back to this video.. Lefie... Where are youuuu how are youuuu

☺️

Nice

She's gone. 😢 I hope she is well....

I just saw this post this post movie The Green Ray don't know the person's name but you have resemblance (this is an appreciation -good comment)

Splendid video! 👍 Does anyone know HOW TALL Lefie is??? I've been following a long time, but never before heard that she classifies herself as taller than most women. Thanks! 💗

Don't you dare change!

One of my worst foes, thank you.

This also might help: just live in a country that invades another county for no reason so all you think about is war badumtss🥁 cured

why no colours?

🌷🌷😇🌷🌷

Would you consider dating a short guy?

good

Are you ever coming back? I guess not!

In other words - how to not give a fuck. That is something to aspire to - it makes life so much easier. But take care to keep the balance! There is not much between being comfortable and being an asshole :D Regarding bend yourself: the important bit is to stay true to yourself and made a deliberate decision to bend. read the room and behave accordingly :)

Is anyone else worried about her?

I hope you will come back in 2024

Of course people look at you. That kinda 💩 happens to beautiful women.

Is it me or I can't like this video ???