I stopped dating. And i found my authentic self. I stopped censoring my clothes and hair because i thought my true way of dressing was not sexy or attractive to men. I made myself more mainstream. I didn't feel free. When i stopped dating i freed myself from all that. I started dressing in ways that made me happy. I am quirky and awkward and sexy clothes don't suit my deepest, most authentic self. Now that i am free, i wear my loose dresses, bloomers, short bangs, knee socks, whatever without a single thought of whether men will like this. I HAVE NEVER FELT SO FREE AND SO MUCH INTEGRITY OF WHO I AM!!. if i decide to start dating again, my aim is to not go back. If a person is the right person for me, they will be attracted to my authentic self. Period.

Stepping into your true self is one of the hardest but most rewarding things you can do for your overall health as an adult. I think it starts with not needing to explain yourself to everyone and learning how to advocate for the things you want in life. Best of luck to everyone who's on their own journey back to themselves!

When you depend on people to build you up they'll have the same power to break you down. You don't need their validation to know your worth.❤️❤️Selfhelpchampion

"Who are you when you have nothing to prove, no one to impress, and nothing to earn" This will be my additional mantra.

It's great to see this... I have healed myself as well. Weedborn oils have helped me a lot.

My life has drastically changed for the better since I started loving myself and being myself

3 things i appreciate about myself: went no contact with abusive ex, 24 hrs off weed & at 47, i am in the best shape of my life-not perfect but i own my life now.

1) I'm always willing to learn 2) I'm observant 3) I have incredible grit : )

Trying to be myself again after 8 years of gaslighting...

1) I am compassionate 2) I have an amazing work ethic 3) I am energetic and Joyful ~ thank you for making this content that has helped me and I'm sure many many others!

I've noticed that whenever I feel natural, like I'm behaving like my true self, I keep getting looks from others where the look on their face is like: "What the hell are YOU doing? What gives YOU the right to be confident and filled with unapologetic self-belief?" It's actually hilarious the more conscious I become of who I am. Self concept is what EVERYTHING hinges on.

1. I'm a fast learner 2. I can lift heavy stuff 3. I'm an explorer 4. i have good singing skill 5. I have cute eyes The more I watch your video, the more I found many stuff from myself that is worth of a high appreciation from my ownself. Thank you so much ♥️

My three things: 1. I 'm a talented writer. 2. I try things that interest me (playing instruments, performing stand-up comedy, telling stories in front of audiences) 3. I appreciate the wonders of the natural world.

This is a video I really needed, being myself unapologetically is the goal I’ve been aspiring to fulfill!! ❤️

I'm dependable, genuine, loved.

I appreciate my sense of humor, my resilience, and my adaptability❣

I was brought up with a brother who pumped my head with jealousy, humiliation and insecurity. It took years and years for me to get the loser comments out of my system. I never understood the self deprecation mindset others live by. Excellent video Friend.

(1).. appreciate the fact that I don't want to die the way I'm living sad...(2).. I appreciate the fact that I need help...(3).. I appreciate the fact that I'm finally seeking it....

You got to be kidding me! I am in weekly counseling. And this is exactly the subject I talked to her about. I’m not part of the society yet but always contemplate it. I can’t believe the subject matter. Actually I can’t believe because when we work with God he works with us especially when we want to open ourselves and change for the better. Watch out if you ask the Holy Spirit to help you. He will!!!

I’m loyal, real and accepting

I never realized how much other people's opinion of me mattered, until I saw myself compromising on my core beliefs hoping my boyfriend would fall for me. I finally realized no matter how much I tried to conform, I was not being true to myself, and would not like myself as long as I allowed myself to be manipulated by another person. It is better to be alone, and be authentic then try to make others like you and be miserable. The moment you let your guard down, and get pounced on by another person, you either become a door mat, or develop a backbone and say to yourself, "there is someone out there who would love me for me."

I appreciate my 1. Body 2. My personality 3. My sense of humour🧡 I recognize that i run and own a well known hair business. I recognize that im more calmer now. I recognize that im growing in my career with all the knowledge

Things i appreciate about myself: i'm a hardworker, resilient and have a good ability to take and grow from constructive criticism.

1) I am taking strides to be my best self 2) I am passionate 3) I am caring

I love being myself it's everyone else who has the problem

3 things I appreciate about myself 1. I am a loving person 2. I am grateful 3. I am eager to learn more things to make myself better

I'm passionate, kind and reliable.

My favourite word to everyone, is yeah, I'm fine. It's never true, never want to look vulnerable. I hate that about myself 🙄

I love how you talk, how you smile, how your nose is soooo symmetrical, and also the content of what you say.

Always needing my family or partner to give me praise, but when they do I dont believe it anyway

Being authentic isn’t necessarily just for “men “ and “women”….it is also for folks who identify as both male and female or neither, non- binary. Language is powerful. I encourage everyone to use inclusive, non polarizing language. Thank you for all you do!

How to build a healthy self image: 1. Manage your thoughts and stop criticizing yourself * notice when you’re criticizing yourself and replace it with something positive 2. Look in the mirror and appreciate what you see * look for things to appreciate and say something positive to yourself 3. Your view of your authentic self is flawed * we don’t like ourselves when we’re inauthentic * your authentic self is beautiful and attractive. People want to see who you really are 4. Make appreciations list * when you write it down, it makes it real * write down things you appreciate about yourself: what are you good at ? 5. Make a recognition list: *what did you do well? * what have you accomplished? * Recognize your successes and growth 5. Let yourself do things you like despite what people might think * Own what you like and dislike *You can’t control what other people think about you 6. Just let yourself be yourself *Who are you outside of your defenses, masks you wear and who you think you should be * Who are you when you have nothing to prove , no one to impress, nothing to earn ? You’re just You You are good enough and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. Being good enough doesn’t mean we don’t have to have room to grow. Worth and growth are completely different things. I hope this helps someone ❤

At 60 years of age, I like that I'm still learning and stretching. (Watching these videos is a part of that) 2. I like that I find beauty in simple things around me. 3. I like that I'm friends with my aging parents and adult children. 4. I like that I talk to strangers easily and often! 5. I like that I enjoy cooking for others. 6. I like that my body is soft and cuddly! 7. I like that bright colors in my home and clothing reflect my joy. 8. I like that I am a good listener and empathetic but not easily manipulated. 9. I like Julia Kristina!!! THANK YOU! ♥️

Gaslighting is hard to break free from....thank you

Honestly all your videos are amazing, I have been listening to u for weeks now. And You have really helped me, thank you ☺️ And I am really looking forward to new ones

Approval is someone else's opinion of how you should be and "their" definition of greatness. Acceptance is appreciating you for who you are and what incredible difference (uniqueness) you bring to the table...and that's priceless!!!🥰😎🤪

I’m a loyal friend I show up for my life each day with enthusiasm , I have a good sense of humour and laugh easily

I just have to add a third statement! I hate when she does short videos I always love the long ones because the more it goes the more you learn. She is that awesome! Alway straight to the point.

I could not care less about what other people think of my appearance- my passions, or indeed, my life. I have to work on myself- please myself- create a life for myself that reflects my true self.

Calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace. It’s never too late to change your attitude about something you can’t change. Just decide to make the best of it. Take life day by day and be grateful for the little things. No excuses. Let go of all the purposeless drama, aimless time-wasters, and mental clutter that keeps getting in your way.. Take care of your mind and the way you speak to yourself. Don’t let negative self-talk weaken you. Talk like you are blessed. Walk like you are blessed. Think like you are blessed. Work like you are blessed. And you will be, one way or another. Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change (or when it’s time to recalibrate your expectations). That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient, and remind yourself that you will never have to force anything that’s truly meant to be. Just do your best, then adopt a “whatever happens, happens” mindset. Don’t try to force things-let go and allow the right blessings to flow.

This is so true.. the more vulnerable and connected a person, the more beautifully authentic and likeable.

"I am", is a powerful set of words. "I am kind" , also powerful.

Three things I appreciate about myself: • I can be flexible • I can be honest with self about how I feel •no matter how bad I’m feeling I manage to cook and clean and generally comfort myself during dark times and I always come out feeling nurtured.

I appreciate my abilities and skills and the choices I have made.

I appreciate my athletic body, ability to learn quickly, and fortitude :)

i know my worth. Growing up... no matter what I did, it wasn't good enough. I just accepted that without question... guess what. That never leaves you. But, you can still live a good life.

I am creative. I am empathetic. I am driven. My creativity can rewrite the story of my life. My empathy is my willingness to help others even after everything. When I have the mind for it, I can do anything.

Im 20 and i feel overwhelmed when i see just how much i still have to learn and grow in life.

Thank you Julia, I m so blessed to being able to listen to u, big love from Kazakhstan🎄

I am compassionate, ambitious and supportive.

Being depressed for 10 years I learned to put a mask because I was afraid that people will notice

"We can't DO our way into feeling good about ourselves". This really hit me. As a child I always felt helpless when it came to helping my mom/others. I was told I could help by DOING chores, or being obedient. As an adult, I've noticed that I only feel momentarily good about myself based on the actions I do and what people say about them. It doesn't last obviously, so this video was an eye opener for me.

I love that I am... Passionate about making music Both creative and logical Imperfect, but loyal and caring.

I have been hanging out the past few weeks and listening to a handful of your videos while I work on the computer. Your voice is so soothing, but very uplifting and powerful as well. I have a very difficult time with self-image, and it was even the subject of long conversation last night between me and my partner, so I thought it was a little funny that this was the first video on my feed this morning. We got into an agrument last night about being naked. I am not really comfortable being naked, in any compacity outside of a shower or intimacy, and he sees no reason why I should be bothered by it. I, honestly allowed things to go on much longer than they needed to, because that's what I do, but he eventually got frustrated and told me that "You hate yourself so much that you've let yourself image distort everything around you. I'm not even that bad." Something about that and thinking about all of the bs that we have had to deal with this past year together, it made things a little more clear to me. Listening to your video today helped a great deal as well, and I appreciate all of the videos that you have been doing. So many of them have been helping me out recently, and so thank you for all of the help that you give us!

I appreciate that I never give up on myself.

HI Julia, MY name is Raymond John. I am not new here. I do think you have every right to love you for you, because you Love others by helping us realize what some of us need to understand so that we become better at Loving ourselves even if just a little at first. You are awesome, and I appreciate you too for your videos. Thank You!!!

Good Stuff, thank you so much for sharing. Yes, I like you because I see and appreciate you are being authentic. Best wishes for success and happiness to you! 💫💖💫

The best thing I've come to realise is that I live my life without caring what others think of me. And no, I'm not saying this from an arogance-place. I'm saying this from a place "my life, my choices".💗

Something that really helped was asking myself, "Who am I when I'm not worried about other people?" I feel like I always turn it into something so complex that tire myself out, when really, it's just who I am behind closed doors and when I'm having fun- Thank you so much

OMG, I can’t believe you used to think so negative about yourself! You are beautiful. What you say already made me love myself more. Thanks!

I came across this and felt the need to really listen. I came out of an 18 year relationship that was abusive physically and mentally with gaslighting, making me believe I was not worthy or respected. I know I still have a lot of healing and understanding of myself, as I tend to try to understand others first but forget my own self worth. I am looking forward to listen to these discussions and reminders on how to live my life the way I want and need to.

I just found you Julia and I loved this video. What really resonated with me was when you talked about ‘outsourcing our sense of selves’ I do it all the time 🙁 but until now I had not been able to define it. I try to be perfect so that there is no possibility to be criticized...and of course it does not work. Thank you 💕

My understanding,my loyalty, my thirst for knowledge.

I would be so honored to have you as my therapist.

So many "a-ha" moments. Thank you 🌺

I have a tendency to push others away. I say to myself it's best to be alone so I don't keep getting hurt by others.

Your description of standing in front of mirror naked and going through body parts and how they have helped us is so moving. Almost had me in tears. In her book Dying To Be Me, Anita Moorjani, who had a near death experience and came back to life, says this very same thing. Her biggest message to all humans is to love yourself as fully and completely as you can. She has a KZfaq channel as well with all this info. Thank you so much for your channel. Your videos are absolutely phenomenal. I love and appreciate you! ❤️

Thanks again for taking time out to getting us to appreciate ourselves more. I appreciate having more patience for fellow survivors of traumatic brain injury.

I just started listening to your KZfaq videos last night. I just broke up with ANOTHER narcissist. I’m an empath and attract them like crazy. Also, my mother was a narcissist so I consider their characteristics as being normal. But, once their crazy comes out and they expose themselves, I leave like a bat out of hell. Lol......yes, you do have to keep a sense of humor. I like myself a lot but I watch your videos because I need to work on boundaries and not being so nice. I know I am getting better at these things but any advice is useful. I want to say that the first videos I saw of yours that you looked stressed and I wasn’t sure. But, like you said in this video, the more authentic you started coming out. I really like you too. You do a great job and provide those of us that want to improve our lives with great information and you are very genuine. So, thank you.

Thank you so much for your inspirational videos! I love your energy!

I’ve definitely been struggling with self image. Thank you for this 🙏🏼❤️

This is all pure gold. I am going to watch this again and take notes! Thanks a lot, Julia!

I think she is so right about seeing yourself on video.

Thank you, Julia. This is just what I needed today.

Julia, you are a dealbreaker for me, thank you for your videos!

This is just what I needed to find, already feeling more positive about myself!

Hey Julia, I love all of your videos! You've helped me with so many aspects of my life. Please keep these videos coming. You are very good at what you do 😀

I appreciate my courage, willingness to learn and sensitivity ❤ Thank you. You inspired me ⚘

Thanks Julia! You're awesome, I shared with several friends. So happy I discovered you!

I appreciate making an habit of waking up at 6 in morning and meditating to start off my day. I appreciate giving the morning 3 hrs totally to myself, off from social media, just spending on crafts and skills that I mostly enjoy. I appreciate myself from choosing art as an carrear rather going for my dads choice to be an accountant.

Thanks Julia! Every video I see from you helps me a lot.

The analysis about relationship with self is incredibly important. Thank you

I found your channel in my feed and can't thank you enough!! Perfect timing!

Literally watched this twice to make sure I heard everything. Thank you!

I am new to Julia Kirstina’s videos and am loving them. I find them so encouraging and helpful. Great content and delivery!😀

I am grateful for you! Your channel is amazing and you provide great insight and knowledge!

ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!🙌🏻

Thank you Julia..just what I need to hear. You are giving us such wonderful gifts with your videos! Thank you thank you 😊

Thank you Julia Kristina! Great tips and ones I need to drive home to myself! I will work on it but the naked body thing will be the most stressful!

Watching yourself. Great advice.

This video was perfect for me, thank you so much ❤

Thank you for your videos! I love your work. Learning to love myself and learning to love my body again

Julia, thank you for everything that you do. you always give the best advice and help me understand what’s going on deep down. the way you speak is clear and concise and makes me feel safe and grounded. I really needed this video! ❤️

Time spent with your videos is always time well spent...my heartfelt appreciation is yours!

Thank you, so good to have met you!

I usually just listen to the audio of your videos, Julia, and I feel I get SO much a from them. But watching you definitely causes certain messages to sink in deeper

Love your energy! Thanks for sharing , please keep posting 💜💜😍❤️

Julia, you are amazing. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you so much.

I love u and what u spread so much. Thank you for being you!♥️🧞‍♀️

Oh my gosh! Life changing!