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This talk has motivated me to get up at 6 to workout tomorrow morning instead of my regular evening workouts. I am alive, i am here to live, perfect, get better and grow stronger emotionally, physically and grow competent. I am here to face my fears and grow beyond that. I am aiming to continue loosing all my fears with each day as i target them everyday. Good night! ✅

I had crippling anxiety. For almost 2 years straight I would have panic attacks all day everyday. I would be panicking so much I would get disassociation and my senses would become really weird. At some points I couldn't see properly as if what I was looking at wasn't registering in my brain properly, I couldn't hear properly, people were talking to me and it sounded like they were just making funny noises, I felt like I was walking on cushioned ground and couldn't really feel my feet on the ground properly so was walking like I was drunk. I genuinely felt like I was going to die of heart attacks every day! The part of this video where he talks about facing the fear hit a chord with me because that's exactly how I got over my anxiety. Everytime I got my first panic attack of the day I would try to run from it and basically create more fear in my head. I would worry that I was going to end up feeling that horrible way where my senses got all screwed up again, which would ultimately cause that to happen. One day towards the end of this anxiety period, I was so fed up of it all I was ready to let it kill me and put me out my misery. I said into my self 'f*cking bring it on, give me your worst you c*nt' what happend next to me was amazing.... no more panic attack that day for the first time in almost 2 years. I had panic attacks try and creep up on me everyday for the next few months but I would use that same technique again 'give me your worst you c*nt' and the panic attacks were stopped in their tracks. 6 years later, every couple months or so, a panic attack tried to sneak up on me and I just laugh and challenge it and I've never had one beat me ever since! Bit of a lot story but I hope my advice works for anyone reading this. If you run, it'll chase you! If you turn and chase it, it will run from you!

Grew up without a father in the home. I appreciate these posts

15:17 Having Emotional Mastery 17:20 3 stages of Emotional Mastery 17:36 Wearing yr Heart on yr Sleeve Becoming Emotionally numb Feeling ur Emotions but not letting them affect yr Actions. 23:57 Non Attachment 28:27 Killing yr Father 34:41 Conquering Fear - dont try to stop Fear, have courage instead 45:30

I like those advice, he was really transparent, no ego was involved just a man who want to help other men to become a men.

Just found this channel because I searched about Stefan's book. This speech is amazing! Thank you for your work.

Can fully appreciate this speech. I didnt start learning to be a man until I was in my 40s. The transition started in my 30s but it took a long time to break free. Im also on the precipice of doing speeches like this one to help others move forward but havent made that move yet.

No anger is not feminine, anger is the thing that tells you that you're having an injustice perpetrated against you, or you're living in such a way that's harmful to you psychologically or physically.

Finally, a real a authentic representation of a real man! As a women, I and every woman I know want all of these things in a man.

Best speech ever!!! Action packed with gems

watching this at 5 am is a vibe

As a woman I love this message too!

One of the best from the entire series. Kudos, 21 and John S.

Great content with lot of value for me at this point in my life where im trying to block every single emotion coming my way ....thank you bro great job !

John's transformation is amazing, very inspiring, really teaches how to be a man.

Arnold got drop kicked:i thought someone bumped into me. Whomen got cold approached: he made me feel uncomfortable. Let's be men.

As a mamma of a teen boy I look forward to these videos. I am a single mom. Their dad is around but he has a victim mindset. Praying that his dad get his shit together specially for my boy as he will benefit from it.

I am so glad you guys released this

The way of the superior man is a great book. Glad he mentioned it. It’s actually free as an audio on KZfaq.

Big ups to john this speech was an 11/10

This guy is good I'm so great full for people like this

Nice to see the guy who got me started on stage

Awesome speech. It all makes sense. Simple. Elegant.

Great speech. Thanks for that.

I gotta admit I seriously thought I was going to get attacked at my character and someone finally said I'm a man. Like, manhood takes many forms.

Great speach!

Tell her you don't care if she cheats on you. You will find out if she truly only wants to be with you thereafter.

Man this guy is good!

If the punisher day so must be true.

Pure Gold 👌

thought the dude was john bernthal for a minute

This is epic

Great presentation. Thanks for sharing guys. I like how this event and this channel shows different strategies and opinions. Then men get to pick which one is the right fit for them. Great content

best advice ever :)

#1 Be Responsible

Great speech. Thanks. Very much headache for german men. Lot to think about it and integrate what fixed for me in my System And: Great Shirt ;)

Regarding Fear:

Asante.

Guys, stop chasing women bruh you assume the role of a peasant when you do that all this b.s. manipulation (game), bruh and then the expensive premium courses man stop that sh*. Live your life the way you want it spend time with your buddies and then if women happen want to come along the way let them but do not make them your purpose. Stop this stuff on game and stuff, we can see through that sh* it just shows how In-confidence you are. Live Learn and Conquer there is so much out there to explore. All in all I really hope you guys understand and God Bless bros.

Go on John Bullcock

Lol the red hat, what a joke Anyways great talk John loved it. Very inspiring

Money = Freedom

Sunrise Hoodie. TFM. Undead chronic. Hammerhamd. Sandman.

Men should seek out physical competition with other men, and men should seek out to physically strengthen themselves. Our bodies are built for strength, and our physical strength is very closely linked to our mental health. Men were meant to be in competition with other men, and meant to be strong because we live in a physical world with physical challenges.

It's not that no one cares that you're a victim, you'll actually find that people extend you compassion, and are angry on your behalf at the injustice that has been perpetrated against you. The hard part of life is that you need to find a way to not be a victim. If that means that there are people that are threatening towards you, or overtly disrespectful towards you you need to learn how to stand up for yourself whether that be through fighting, or through strongly fighting for your own interests. In other words don't be a doormat. We're certainly going to have things that happen to us that are outside of our control, what's inside of our control is that we focus on having good lives being strong people in the face of difficulty, and through that creating a good life for ourselves. People will be angry and indignant on your behalf, but you have to continue on with life, and you have to pursue life with strength and determination. The reason that it's bad to go around with the victim mentality, is that you're not your own advocate, and when life offers you opportunity you don't aggressively seek it out, you don't stand up you don't carry yourself forward into the world with confidence and determination. You could say I'm fat and be sad about the fact that you're fat, or you can get up and start running down the road. You can say I'm poor, and how unfortunate it is that I'm poor, or you can go to a job, stick your hand out to shake another man's hand and decide that you're going to improve your condition. You can't create a good life for yourself without the determination to be strong in the face of challenges. Here's the last thing that I have to say,. If you go around looking at your abilities as being Limited you've already robbed yourself of your own potential. If you go around defeated before you begin, you don't get to enjoy life as much. Yeah you could have been respected but you won't be, yeah you could have had a beautiful wife but you won't get one, yeah you could have had some money in your pocket and had a decent job but you won't have one, yeah you could have had a lot of joy and fruit of your own successes but you won't have them. This is often the plague of those who are impoverished, and this is the plague of people who see themselves as weak rather than strong. Get up go out into the world and look at the weaknesses that you have as your enemies, and seek to close those gaps.

Just bought “The Way Of Men”. Anticipating the arrival 🥳🥳

My problem is one thing... yes, I have accepted that life is unfair and you gotta play the game with the stack you're dealt but what if you're gonna lose the game anyway no matter how hard you try (losing means not getting things that you wish for yourself)...What's the point in playing it? This is where I'm at in life...

Well it doesn’t hurt John that he’s so handsome either.

Speech starts "Having a penis doesn't make you a man" Wow, that's very progressive of you to say. Good job 👏👍👌

Thank God for this video!

Just learned some valuable knowledge thanks

Dr Frankl needs more dialog

It's been MGTOW since an adolescent.

Anyone got any pointers. Struggling with the non attachment side of things. Anyone got a good line in the sand or frame of reference for when you feel a woman has treated you wrongly. And how to act around that. Basically the difference between u not being a bitch and getting over it and continuing seeing her without causing drama about what shes done.(not falling into victim hood) Or you owning your emotion and saying hey i wont be treated like that and cutting her off moving on. I know it depends on the situation. But any ways to know whether its you in the wrong or her in he wrong. Thanks

..its the punisher! ..

I'm transgender and I sit down wearing two masks when I pee

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John Berthal

Great speach

Shane from the Walking Dead

30:40

Victim ... Villain ... Victor

But you have to see the story for it is not falsify your own interpretations.. I get not being a victim but empathy is something all humans seek.

Daaaaaaaaaaaamn! This is one of the BEST teachings ever! They should add this to the bible

You never really know a woman until you meet her in divorce court. #Mgtow #Leykis101 #Redpill

There are genuine women in the world who are waiting for a beautiful relationship and marriage. Stop playing the victim card! Be a man! Get married, have two crazy kids, a dog and a cat, and start going fishing, hunting, exploring nature with your family. Thus you won't die a farting old rat.

i actually like this guy

Looks > Everything

Kanye is right!

That entire kill your father rant is incorrect. 100% Values should not change with generation. The fucks the point of family if everyone wants to go their own way.

It’s sad to see the puto on stage.... lowers your creditability with me... I’m the spearhead of this movement! Believe it.

being a man ain't gonna get you shit, what gets you shit is a handsome face and a financially well off family background.

Good speech but too many F words.

With John's recent video, I commend him for allowing this content to still air. I have seen a tainting and separation within the manosphere in the last few years. An insidious parasite infecting the mind of gurus and young 'black pill' 'MGTOW' men, forcing more division, separation and manipulation. Hopefully the path can be corrected.

Horse Face mindset ,yay

I just came here to click on the dislike button

A guy nervously and stutteringly telling me that being a man is: get muscles, get money and get whamen.. oke my guy..🙄😂🤣 what a muppet

Using swear words is cheap, tawdry, totally unnecessary, and utterly disgusting.