Y'all it's 2023. I'm addicted to my phone and I honestly feel like I'm missing out on life. We gotta get our lives back. Let's get our lives back

I love how honest you are. you aren’t trying to demean others like some KZfaqrs do. instead of shaming people for being on their phones, you say like “hell yeah, I do it too!” and I love that.

I just got a kindle and my main goal this year is whenever I notice I'm bored and reach for my phone, to instead grab my kindle and do some reading. Good luck to everyone else who's battling phone addiction in the new year, we got this 🥳

Personally I think it can just be the phone itself and not even social media. I deleted socials, all of them, and found myself scrolling on news sites, the weather, music, my notes, pictures, etc. As soon as I deleted a problem app I’d have another problem app without even realizing until I checked my weekly screentime. Worst part is, I’m very antisocial. I don’t respond to texts, emails, calls, for near weeks at a time. I just, get stuck in the comfort of doing nothing. Phone addiction is something that for people like me, a very serious problem that can only be fixed by completely removing the phone. Unfortunately that causes issues like not being able to bank, check in at the gym, clock in at work, etc. They’re just everything nowadays. I wish that employers and other people were more open to those who want to use flip phones but that’s just not an option for me. Hopefully with the help of therapy and treating some of my other mental health issues, my phone addiction will improve but damn, it is an awful thing humanity has created.

I think phones aren't addictive i think the apps which are in it are addictive if you agree....

I've gotten to the point where I hate being on KZfaq because I see nothing that interests me, everything bored me but I stay there because I feel obliged to do so because it's what I'm used/supposed to (be) doing at this point of the day. And that feeling gets mixed up with the whole "I'm too tired to do anything right now so I'll just binge watch KZfaq ad nauseam until I go to bed early and tomorrow I'll be more rested" spoiler alert: I never feel rested the day after because I couldn't sleep until 3am

I love the fact that you recognize, that people not only want to break their phone addiction to be more productive and do work. Sometimes what we miss because of shitty scrolling entertainment is actually good entertainment such as books or movies

1. bring awareness (knowing how much screen time etc.) 2. swapping old habits (for example change your lock screen to remind you of your goals + read more books) 3. environmental change (not charging your phone in your bedroom, don't have it next to your bed) 4. turn off notifications 5. try mindfulness

I really appreciate the scientific look at it because then I don't feel like crying over how much I hate myself for having a phone addiction. I just look at it technically and then feel more motivated to change. Thank you.

This is definitely something I want to change next year I absolutely hate how much time I spend on my phone and will definitely be using these tips to improve my addiction 🙏🏽

Deleting tiktok was the best decision I’ve made in 2022, maybe even the best decision ever

anyone else been trying to stop for YEARS. i’ve been successful for weeks and months, but it slowly creeps back in.

"you're connected but alone" Hits hard

I was so addicted to twitter, until I decided waking up with anxiety over an app is just not worth it. You really don't realize how much time you have to do better things until you distance yourself from social media. I hope to stick to it with other social medias!

A tip for people, if you like art or writing, carry a sketchbook around with you. Instead of going on your phone, draw something. If you still want to go on social media, find things you actually enjoy and give yourself 30 mins-1hr of it a day, (you can use screen time on your phone).

Something that I think might also be useful is to have a "commonplace notebook". I always find myself opening my phone and either forgetting what I was supposed to do or getting distracted just like the spotify example you gave lol. Using a commonplace notebook helped me a lot because there's nothing that could possibly distract me if all I needed to do is capture a thought or list something down. I think debloating my phone and switching to browser versions of apps also helped because I only check when I think I need to instead of whenever a notification pops up.

my phone addiction has made my attention span so short. i literally can't focus on stuff for long and i literally get so bored easily. i feel like i don't have any real interests anymore cause of the overindulgence of media i take in daily. last week i literally had a total of 65 hours per week. i need to change.

i’m still working on my phone addiction. my first step was deleting tik tok and HOLY SHIT i feel so much better already.

I'm working on my addiction. It's not the phone but it's definitely the apps that are at fault. They are literally designed to have our attention. I quit Instagram earlee this year but youtube has definitely been pretty hard. I think because of the pandemic people have become less social for obvious reasons but it would be something easier to overcome if EVERYONE as a collective would work on their addictions. You might be working hard to change but when you start seeing those around you are actually where you were a month ago, it's hard to make new friends or have a genuine conversation now. Everyone is in their phones. I remember a time when there were no apps. It was indeed an amazing time.

Thanks for the video! I'm a 19 years old guy from Kazakhstan (near with Russia), and I have a phone addiction too. It's so bad, cause last 2 years I feel how my life pointless passes. It was a 2 week since I deleted most of my social network apps, unless messengers for a talking with my homies and family. Also, I've finally started learn english language with serials and videos like this, so sorry if I writed something wrong or not correct. Hope all of us can deal with this addiction together!

the addiction is really hard to overcome. i have stopped all social media usage for a little over 3 weeks now i still check my DMs once every week so i don’t accidentally ignore my friends that i can’t contact elsewhere. i’m pretty happy with my self control so far, i don’t feel any « withdrawal » symptoms or urges to check tiktok even tho i have it on my phone. unfortunately i think i may have compensated with youtube…i’m pretty sure the time i spend on yt skyrocketed since i like listening to videos as background noise. it’d be good if there was a platform with random documentaries or just gibberish that sounds like a very boring presentation just so i can focus on my tasks while still feeling like i’m procrastinating i found that reading books helped me regulate my sleep schedule a lot better…it depends on the book but the physical aspect of holding a book, no matter how interesting it is, will always get me tired from holding it, changing positions so i can be comfortable, adapting to the dim light in my room etc so 100% of the time i’ll end up sleeping earlier than i would’ve if i was using my phone to anyone struggling with the addiction, good luck! you can start by reducing your screen time every day or try finding something more interesting. try not using it outside or while in the public transport, it do be boring sometimes but being bored isn’t a bad thing and far from abnormal, being overstimulated and constantly producing dopamine on the other hand is what’s abnormal. i’m not gonna lie, it IS hard but the more you resist it the easier it gets.

Thank you. I recently realized that all my problems I have (Sleep problems, School problems , emotional problems etc.). That all comes from social media. I always thought that social media would help me out and it only satisfied me, it made me feel like im in a different world. But actually all this started because of social media. I don't have many online friends (2) , I have more rl friends and I'm proud of that. But still hearing how one of my friend is on her phone for only 1 hour a day makes me think if I should try that too. And I will. I want to. I want to make my dreams come true. I only played them in my head and I always said to my self "I'm going to start tomorrow" and did I do it ? No. I was on social media. I want to change that. I have a love for books and I have soooo many that I want to read but I always get distracted by my phone. I want to make my dreams come true. I want to be proud of myself and even (maybe) cure my problems! Cause also because of social media I had to fight through some deep depression last year that I luckily managed to control a little bit. I just want to say that it is never late to start and if you think of starting it.. then do it now..in the future you will regret not doing it earlier. Like me I want to be a dancer , a pro handball player and an artist! All this ! But have I started practicing? No. That's why I will start now. Start my dream. I wish everyone a happy new year and stay healthy ^^

I deleted all social media’s 3 weeks ago and I feel so much better. I know it’s hard to just delete it but just do it it’s better. Good luck if your trying to have a break from social media

I try to trick myself into thinking time on social media is productive… getting rid of notifications, catching up, gathering inspiration. But, I then spend too much time ‘consuming’ and not creating and doing. Sometimes it’s easier to live our lives through others… watching through screens and not ‘experiencing’ life. I really want to get better at lowering my screen time. Good luck to everyone trying this too 💜

We're a generation more interested in showing ourselves than knowing ourselves.

"we are connected but alone" I felt that.

making your screen black and white definitely effects the attractiveness of your phone. you know when you look at those bright colors the dopamine hits way harder. ive just started using my phone that way myself and my screentime decreased automatically. everyone should give it a try

It's really important to have a goad, or a point of doing something. You will spend much less energy doing something with goal, rather than menaninglessly. Make/create a goal, and will have much mmore energy left to do other things. Thank you, Ruri!

Online friendships emotionally drained me so I'm here fr help lol ..!!

I'm in middle school and I already really struggle with putting my phone down. I always say that I'll do something tomorrow, but it never happens. Thank you for the tips. It really helps!

my screen time is 10 hours even on a school day where phones are taken away. i’m so addicted, i really wish to begin my reading journey again

Love the way you present this problem. No shaming, just understanding

I love the kindle idea it’s so smart, we are so used to our phone and how easy it is to transport its a great replacement

Good on you for bringing this up! The little kids with phones will have the hardest time.

Excellent video Ruri! The things you talk about goes beyond phone addiction.

i always wanted to spend less time on my phone, but i always didn't have enough motivation to do something instead. but this video really motivates me to do something about my addiction. thank you :)

LOVE ur 5 day challenge. i realized its vague in a good way but effective so i will use it to dettach myself from other harmful habits

You're so motivating ! You push us to be better persons and that's really cool. Let's all become better versions of ourselves together

Wow, I loved this video, really, you inspire me with those phrases, our actual society is so lost, that's why it's so important has people as you. Thank you, and never stop those videos.

I really llike this and i like how u distinguished mindless scrolling and social media usage vs. intentionally using technology, i really hope to improve this next year, not just with my phone but also my computer.

as somebody who has been on a large social media break, i have been feeling better. mentally and emotionally!

I watched this video a couple of days ago, and I’ve just gotta say turning off the notifications social media (in my case youtube) has helped me a ton! I’ve been trying to get off of it for a while now and its really helped and I just wanted to come back and say thank you!

My screen time used to be 12 hours a day on average. Just being aware of it caused me to lower that. My goal is 4 hours or less!

ive kinda just hit the point where i cant find anything good to watch and im not really following a ton of ppl on social media so i get bored really fast. ive been craving more real life interactions and doing things outside of my phone. i just wish ppl irl were easier and nicer to connect with. everyone is so judgy.

I want to live differently. I REALLY MEAN IT.

This video came at the right time as I was starting my detox, in social media, I just consume videos from now on.

I quit social media about one year ago, and my sense of self-control and happiness really skyrocketed. I remember when I and my wife went to a restaurant where they had a singer event, My wife was so busy taking photos and snapchatting. I was busy enjoying the food and the place vibes. The next day in the morning I still had the happiness of that evening, my wife was trapped in her Snapchat memories and busy answering her friend's direct messages.

I love this video. Currently trying to cure my social media addiction

I'm glad you gave us tips, that's what I need. If I just try to stop using my phone without a plan, it doesn't work.

Love the Vivienne Westwood necklace and love how honest u are about ur own habits in everyday life.

I think one thing that works good is to create a daily life you will be happy with. Because a lot of social media addiction is an escape from diffoculties in life.

In this year i will improve my life with self discipline and putting my phone away

i really need this rn. my social media addiction is at the point where i'm constantly procrastinating on my real life work. i often don't work at all when i'm supposed to be working from home. the lockscreen idea is great and i'll try it first

Oh my god I am so so so grateful for this video, you finally gave me the inspiration to change❤️❤️

This video really helped me to find out that I’m too much addicted on my phone. Now that I accept it… I’ll try my best to get over it so I deleted all of my social media accounts for 2 weeks so let’s try it !

The things I have keep in my routine is mindfulness , reading book and association The things I trouble with is digital distractions I spend over time than I aspect for my day and night. Crazy helpful , thanks so much Ruri Ohama I just follow you . Can’t wait to watch your next video !!

I needed this video so bad. I found it while I was my KZfaq rabbit hole while I’m supposed to be doing homework. I’ll definitely look into the 30 day challenge and the boom as well!

Because of my addiction, I did some stupid things that now I regret. In the past two months, I have realized the true cost of my addiction, and I hope to get my life back. Thank you for this video.

My 2023 New Year's Resolution was to stop being on my phone and work on myself. I just didn't know how to start. You don't know how thankful I am for you to make this video. Thank you, have a good day! :)

I lit haven't even watched the video yet, but by looking at the comments i can relate to everyone. We need to stop over using social media, and start also to connect with real people as a society again!

This video is really gonna help me because I’ve been glued to my screen constantly seeing everyone happy beautiful and pretty and then I am feel like I must constantly change myself to things that aren’t necessary I see things that aren’t there and I even hate my friends because they show me how much of a failure I am so this is much needed for me because it is my summer break and I am in school still and I really need this I need to change and you just gave it to me thank you❤

BEAUTIFUL VIDEO MISS RURI THANK YOU FOR SPREADING AWARENESS

The reason why I use my phone a lot is because everything is in it. My calendar, my notes, my reminders, my tasks, and etc are on it. Even my money managing, Quran and prayer times are in it. I use it as a productivity machine. And I constantly try to find new apps to improve my productivity.

Love this! Great content and ideas! I definitely am way more mindful these days with my phone. I don't look at my phone before bed, after I get out of bed, and when I am with other people. Just minor changes like that have made a huge difference in my life and my relationship with others.

A while ago I deleted TikTok. In the first days I always searched for something on my phone, even though I didn't even know what. Whenever I was bored I used to open TikTok and scroll around. I'm so glad I got rid of it

thank you for being honest about your own addiction... i feel much less alone in this struggle now so yea... good video :)

Ruri your content is superb! They're so knowledgeable and by watching them people learn and be motivate. 😍😍

I think God sent you as a message to me, I have so many things I want to learn and do but my addiction is holding me back, it even took a toll on my grades. 2 weeks ago I deleted tiktok it's to addictive and I don't think I will be downloading it back in a long time. This new year I really want to make a change in my habits and I hope to become why smarter than I am when I start my reading habit. Thank you so much. I hope to learn new languages as well.

ty for making me understand that reading books is way more interesting than scrolling my phone for hours, i always thought reading books that give u no knowledge is useless but it is honestly better than social media. tysm , take care

Hi, Ruri I just wanna say thank you because you changed my life completely. I applied your tips and it worked. My days are so balanced I'm thankful for all your advice. I used to hate studying I was depressed and I successfully recovered from most of my mental illnesses and now I enjoy studying. I stopped procrastination and I started to read again. So yeah that you for everything and keep going I hope the best for you.❤️ (Sorry if I wrote something incorrectly English is not my first language).

The part towards the end where you discuss the paradox of making small improvements was super interesting, although obvious in hindsight

I slowly started to lower my social media consumption and i swear i feel so much better after i deleted apps like snap and instagram.Like a refreshed version of my self with less doubt and more confident.It might take long but it‘s definitely worth it trust me

Thank you for showing me how addicted i was, i'm currently starting the challenge.

Having phone addiction is like having full time job and more...wow. How true this is.

My problem with quitting my addiction to things like social media and pinterest and even spotify that it's not always useless content, all of it is chosen by me so its mostly good or useful. Quality memes, interesting or informative articles (mostly) and good art and music, but the apps are designed in a way they make you consume these in the most shallow way possible for countless hours, even when you don't enjoy it, until you get tired of whole artforms and get depressed. And a compilation of your favourite content is definitely not more important than doing creative things and getting inspiration from that, reading books or socializing. The solution would be installing separate apps for reading news and articles. And also the intent thing and putting books to places are really good ways of beating the addiction. Before having a phone, as a child I used to read the textbooks in random places the same way I read internet content now, we could have way less mental problems like depression and more educated people by simply putting books into peoples hands lol.

I haven't had social media in about 8 years and I have never been less attracted to it. I walk down the street or through the gym and just see people staring down with no attention to their surroundings.

4:55 Seeing that face has motivated me with the vengeance to conquer the phone addiction! With God all things are possible! Today I took a break from social media, did good, got lots done today. 🙏🏻❤🕊🙌🏻

Hi Ruri , im thankfull that i found your video a couple of months ago, i wasnt even thinking of phone addiction back then, but thanks to you i managed to self diagnose and changed my daily habits. I didnt actually quit using my phone because thats just impossible😂, but i managed to limit it significantly, because of that i learned a few skills and now have a new hobby and i consider myself happier than before, thank you for making this video.

Sinceramente, ou você fica por "exagero" nas redes sociais, até que não perceba já estar viciado nelas, ou simplesmente impõe, por vontade e instrução, para atingir um nível "saudável" quanto ao seu uso, na boa, um vídeo mais que necessário... Muito obrigado! E sucesso para você, Ruri! ❤️

I failed my uni test because while giving the test i had this constant urge to stop and check my phone there was this constant thought in my subconscious to look for the phone. My addiction is getting really bad 😭💔

Incredibly well done on the explanation of the issue and how to help ! Thank you for all your hard work to bring this to us !

You changed my point of view and hopefully my life, thank you!

2023 and I'll change myself for good

It's strange but sometimes I'm doing meaningful meaningfulness scrolling. Like I'm giving myself this pleasure of just doing nothing but learning new things random and getting inspired

It's crazy how social media change alot in our family lives, comunication , etc... I often observe people in restaurants, or in public how much they actually carry a conversation with whoever they are with. I grew up with no social media and comunication was very important....🤔 "Pops"#truschoolsports🥊🥊

Thank you for this video. In 2021, I deleted all my social media apps and didn't use them for almost a week because my mental health was getting bad from all the hate I see on the internet. I can honestly say that I felt so much happier at the end of the week and I was much more productive. I hope that I can learn to limit my meaningless screen-time and scrolling on my phone again. My current daily average is nearly 8 hours, I would love to reduce to at least 5 hours.

I deleted my Facebook account and uninstalled Facebook from my phone. Life became so much relaxing, productive and refreshing after that 😊.

Guys we have to realise that social media is like that ex toxic lover who we have to get rid of but couldn't becuz we loved that toxic person so much. We know about that he or she is a toxic person when they physically and mentally hurt us very badly but still stick to him or her like they are the one and only last person and hope of love on earth and break up only after we are completely broken. So if we don't get rid of our addiction we are definitely going to be that brokiest brokey on earth in future and regret everything we are doing now. So recently I deleted my social media accounts. Trust me I feel very like some burnden had been lifted up from my chest. Before that I used to scroll phone all day and that made me depressed cuz I wasn't able to focus on anything. Though I had time i felt like i didn't have any time. But now I do so much things in just one hour I couldn't spend time on my hobbies. My attention span and concentration were affected very badly. And also I had FOMO so it was difficult to delete social media accounts. But when I felt depressed i decided to delete and deactivated my accounts immediately.. i felt very good after doing that. I don't feel like I miss some trends or jokes on those platforms. But still I need time to heal my attention span and concentration levels now. It's very boring ofc. But as a book lover replaced book in place of phone. And also i started focusing on my hobbies. Still I feel like something is missing. But still Im trying to heal myself from this addiction. But social media is something that i definitely won't be active for the next few years until I achieve my dreams.

“Active but ineffective” is the best way that I have heard the feeling be describe of how it feels to end a day of using tech. At college, when I had free time, it all went you KZfaq and video games. Sometimes engulfing entire days if it’s the weekend. And when the day was done, it was depressing even thought I felt like I was having an enjoyable experience throughout the day. That’s how I’m gonna describe it from now on. Thank you so much for this video!

This inspired me. Thank you! 💚 more videos like this to help me stay motivated- thank you again!

I was planning to stop my social media or phone addiction, but I saw your channel and here I am again watching and watching your videos lol. Btw, you really have a great content

I remember getting my first phone as a teenager, and it was a cheap brick with a numpad. I loved it. These days, I see small children with iPhone 14's and I just feel like we've failed as a race

Im trying to quit social media since one week now and trying to put videos on my channel here to help my self for that and stay motivated. Keep going guys its just a matter of time, we need to live our life not watching other life and missing ours ♥️

Most hours on my phone is to watch KZfaq videos and listen to podcasts for self growth. Phone is a great tool if we use it to better ourselves.

Thanks so much for this video, I have ADHD, and I feel social media especially preys on people like me. Let's all attempt to get our lives back!

thank you so much. I am 13 and I have horrible social media addiction. For many months I didn't even realise it!! I was just doing everything my friends, cousins, people around my age were doing. But at some point I saw these habits changing me into the worse side. I was always doing all my homework and even more. Now I usualy try to do it but one or two asignments are still left unfinished. My room was always clean. Now it's messy almost all the time. I had perfect routine: some calming music is playing in the background, I'm cleaning mess that formed during the day. After that I read and went to bed. Now I would go to sleep at about 1 in the morning!! My grades became much lower. And than I became friends with one girl who never had a phone. Her parents will get her one than she will attend university. And I saw how bright she was. That she was actually real. How she absolutely adored books!! And now I see that something must change. Thank you so much, have a great day!!

my addition is so bad that associated every task with my phone, its aways in the background streaming music or videos and if i actually want to watch videos for fun i cant watch them without playing games on my phone or scrolling, i have been reading painting and planting all my life but these healthy habits have been dying, i WILL change and i thank you for helping.

Well made video essay! Shared your honest opinions and facts very well.

I‘d love to see you follow these steps! More motivation if we do the challenge as a community :)

Wonderful points aside, the production value of this video is so amazing. It’s so nicely paced and concise, it’s visually pleasing and the music pairs really well with the content of the vid. I promise to try to break my phone addiction AFTER i subscribe and binge all ur vids lol