How To Calm Down When You're Angry
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6 жыл бұрынIt's only human to get angry but sometimes it can get out of hand. In this video, we learn about how to calm down when we're angry, a skill we need to learn.
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Kirk & Kim Duncan
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Kirk Duncan - President/Founder of 3 Key Elements, provides contemporary training and a greater perspective for fine-tuning personal, family, and business communications. He trains you how to implement these techniques, and experience improved relationships, increased awareness, and more productivity and effectiveness in your life.
Kim Duncan - Vice President of 3 Key Elements, loves to teach others about the abundant power that a woman has when she embraces her feminine energy-in the home, in the workplace, in the community, and in the world.
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@3KeyElements 2 жыл бұрын
If you've dealt with anger, you might have also hurt someone you love at some point... I created this FREE guide just for you: 3ke.to/Trust
@shyper4362 Жыл бұрын
Actually, I have - my brother. Multiple times. Physically mostly, fortunately. Luckily, I didn't hurt him mentally, but I fear that it could happen too.
@seaflower1520 11 ай бұрын
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@primeagar4555 4 жыл бұрын
I watched this video while angry, it pissed me off so much that he took so long to get to the points that I threw my phone and broke it.
@windex_volleyball 4 жыл бұрын
Prime Agar same!!!!!
@gabrielleoshaughnessy9255 4 жыл бұрын
So now watch the video again and learn something. You really need to.
@volt8185 4 жыл бұрын
Ugh same
@Blurr1d0. 4 жыл бұрын
Gabrielle O'Shaughnessy so then who are you to tell others? gtfo
@SourGrapesandParmesan 4 жыл бұрын
I was about to watch the video but then I read your comment and I started laughing and my anger went away. Thanks 😊
@SultenZone 4 жыл бұрын
I think I realized what it was for me. "Anxiety > Irritation > Feeling Of Being Ignored > Anger"
@fazedoodo2545 4 жыл бұрын
SultenZone same
@3rrr478 3 жыл бұрын
Anxiety sucks Xd
@andrewreyna742 3 жыл бұрын
100%
@apersonwhoexists._.5579 3 жыл бұрын
Same here
@pixele4321 3 жыл бұрын
111 likes
@li.d0709 3 жыл бұрын
Everybody who was angry skipt the first part me included
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
yeah when I got in the video and was watching it I almost killed my flat notebook aka laptop aka evoo same Li.D 070
@Childcreamator 4 жыл бұрын
Bro I was so mad this video was pissing me off at first
@hailiedarby8489 4 жыл бұрын
Midnight Daylight Vibez i was so angry at just this guys voice then i got bored and that helped, not really the aim of the video to make someone bored but that’s what it did
@AkaSuzukiOtakuDesu 3 жыл бұрын
same
@hollisreinger4347 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly
@SelenaOlalde 4 жыл бұрын
Honestly I went to therapy for anger issues when I was in high school my therapist told me it’s like a Triangle first she told me to Feel. She said before we get angry we usually feel it in our body first like we can feel it on our face, fist, whole body, etc. She then said realize ur angry by knowing where u feel it. She then told me when u realize this feeling stop to Think that’s the second part of the triangle. Third take a positive Action. It u ever just need to walk away cause u can’t handle the anger do it but think about it and come back to it when ur ready to handle the situation.
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
thats sad im going to cry thats so sad
@samuraishindu954 3 жыл бұрын
No one is reading your essay bethany. But if you turned it in to your kindegarden teacher she would happily giver you a D+
@samuraishindu954 3 жыл бұрын
@@ravenfive 😐😑
@massages_for_world_peace8909 3 жыл бұрын
What are some positive actions you have tried that worked?
@slowsipz7361 2 жыл бұрын
I read your comment and appreciated it.
@michaelisaiah240 4 жыл бұрын
It took so long for him to explain it I wasn't mad anymore
@ko.1903 3 жыл бұрын
LMFAOOO
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
I know write
@samuraishindu954 3 жыл бұрын
@@ravenfive go back to school and tell me if the reply you just left makes any sence
@amandarebc3233 3 жыл бұрын
me too LOL
@privatepenguin2496 3 жыл бұрын
It worked lmao
@nanipena9872 4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes when I’m angry I cry or I just go to my room in peace I also pray. Thanks for this lesson I appreciate.
@jorionjorequim201 4 жыл бұрын
I just can stand watching my classmates getting hurt or being bullied by others. I can't stop the fight with words, so when I use my fist to stop it I will get out of control. If I just don't do anything and try to supress it I just get really mad and can't concentrate on anything.
@jessicacampbell6389 3 жыл бұрын
I feel this
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
your the sweetie omg your so nice next say imagine how you would feel take a sec and wile the bully starts thinking tell the person that is getting bulled oh yeah tell them to run dont get hurt. by the way im using my moms boyfrinds acount im a girl
@naynagopaul6155 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I'm often irritated with my mom and I got really mad recently. Being angry and staying that way is toxic and I needed an outlet to channel my anger. Writing down and mapping my emotions helps me visualize these patterns better so I don't have to get pissed off
@Carla-hu5rh 4 жыл бұрын
Lol “So you’ve been triggered” 😂 I started cracking up. Thank you! This really helped me understand my anger! I appreciate you! I’m tired of living in regrets. Silence is MORE.
@raymondbillups2002 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. The biggest things I learned was to write it down as an outlet, Anger is built off other emotions, own it and do not blame others. I think I blamed others in the past and it only lead to more pain. I will reflect on these tips for the rest of my life.
@classyrobot5648 3 жыл бұрын
I watched the video, thank you. You're right. Anger is a reaction, and I need to own the fact that, yes I might be upset with someone because of something they did, but the anger is mine and mine alone. I need to try that chart drawing thing, because I've been an angry person all my life and these last three years have been... Pretty terrible. Went to some dark places. I'm sick of it. I don't want to be angry anymore. Genuinely, thank you
@greenboy5444 Жыл бұрын
Same here 💯 and I'm rooting 4 u bro 💪🏿👌🏿👌🏿🤙🏿🤙🏿
@jpage99999 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this.I have felt such a powerless internal rage and anger to situations in my life and I can see how it's ruing my life. Your diagram has given me hope to tackle it. Lord have mercy, I don't WANT to be angry, it's such a internal implosion, bouncing around like a rabid caged animal. I will work on implementing your strategies right away. Thank you and God bless.
@3KeyElements 5 жыл бұрын
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@kentmerzlock3366 5 жыл бұрын
I used this immediately after coming home from Royalty & Romance. Something happened & I got ANGRY. I could have undone an amazing weekend of education and inspiration in 5 min talking to my spouse, instead I watched this. Powerful! Thank You!
@3KeyElements 5 жыл бұрын
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@wendyopthof5349 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you, for the great lesson. I have been writing our what I'm angry about since I learned this from you and it is making a big difference for the better.
@angela8351 4 жыл бұрын
You have helped me today. I felt totally helpless about a situation and have been trying so hard to somehow recover or work it out. This is a major step in the right direction. Thank you so much!!!
@shicklic7362 3 жыл бұрын
I always am so embarrassed in my self because i love basketball and when ever i miss shots... i think people are just looking at me and talking about me so i will get sadness embarrassment and frustration... Thx so much for helping me!
@Drum3Matrix 5 жыл бұрын
I love how you are good at drawing what I feel on the inside - or mapping things out!
@3KeyElements 5 жыл бұрын
I glad my drawings make sense and add a visual to what we have happening on the inside.
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
HAH same Colton Buchanan
@gracegrapes8377 3 жыл бұрын
man great job at explaining this in an easy to digest way, just recently went through an anger storm blameing others and felt like crappola, i'm gonna apply this newfound revelation of dealing with this anger at the root. Thank you!
@doc2590 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you, i didn't know any of this. I fly into a rage internally, I rarely say anything, because I'm to angry to speak, and I have enough control not to punch anything. Yet the rage I feel inside is torture.
@alimccreery755 Жыл бұрын
I needed to listen to this because I have two narcissists in my life in which I’m educating myself as to what’s really going on. The tracking part is what I need to pay attention to because as everyone knows triggering is what narcissists do. I’m getting a grip on why I’m reacting and not responding. It’s important for me to realize when I’m around assholes I need to just get away in order to save myself. Thank you for your video. 👍
@pamiewatkins7354 5 жыл бұрын
This will work for me that's just what I was going through on the couch and it was all going to the top of anger and then the exact thing I need to forgive find the lesson, releasing turmoil I'm glad you got me on the blaming because I need to work on that ,cut it out!
@jenbyrne8184 3 жыл бұрын
This. Video changed my life. I have been suffering with bouts of anger. Nothing was working and I had tried it all. Even medications. Social workers, doctors. I watched this video and something shifted I felt for the first time in my 34 years of life that someone understood me. That was huge for me . I didn’t feel so un normal or the mad one or the one who always gets mad. I was at such a bad point that relationships were being infected. Loosing jobs, loosing everything around me.
@classyrobot5648 3 жыл бұрын
The little "So... You're triggered." At the beginning actually made me laugh hard. Thank you
@Pridembttrthnyu 2 жыл бұрын
I know this video is 3 years old but I gotta say 2 things. 1. You're absolutely right 2. Thank you so much
@nata9832 3 жыл бұрын
The best lesson. Cause I don’t know how to control my anger I’m destroying my self, my health. Thank you
@kcbooks1354 4 жыл бұрын
I got so angry I started to cry but I found this and it really helped me. Thank you so very much.
@gg.6633 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this! It was the extra push I needed. I’ll be starting to journal my thoughts and feelings by next week...
@adrianneelliott1519 6 жыл бұрын
I tried this yesterday and it made a world of difference! Thank you Kirk!!!!
@samuraishindu954 3 жыл бұрын
Geez chill on the laffy taffy Adrianne 🤭
@gaelg8664 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this explanation both so simple and so clear. I get angry too frequently and it makes me feel down. I'm pretty sure ir's going to help me to overcome this. Have a great day! Take care!
@georgenawilson2843 6 жыл бұрын
This helped me more then I can say. I am going to take these steps, I have a lot of "anger" that is horrible, I keep it all in, and my blood pressure is 160/104. I will let you know how it works.
@livelife1672 5 жыл бұрын
Hmmmm
@longyearsbehind 5 жыл бұрын
Funny enough I m always aware what emotions building up in fact im even observing them when they’re bulding on top of each other even knowing in what situations I ve build this emotions at very first in my past. But just that build up so fast or they are so stubborn and obviously keep coming back to me that I can’t stop getting to anger point
@mysticwonder12892 5 жыл бұрын
I have this exact same struggle.
@gramcliches1980 4 жыл бұрын
I feel you. It's difficult to draw back passion, whether it is positive or negatively misguided
@jhanavirajesh 4 жыл бұрын
Same here.....
@alexbauer502 3 жыл бұрын
I just wanna cry it all out to someone that understand me.
@nbsomething 4 жыл бұрын
I was somewhat angry when I clicked on this video, and I see this grinning guy who looks geuinely so friendly, and I couldn't help but smile
@agentakatosh4591 3 жыл бұрын
Could not be me
@delfinilarosa5094 3 жыл бұрын
"so, you're angry" 0.1s later: *calmed down* thank you so much for the video!
@toddmccullough7778 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much! I really needed to see this!
@georgenawilson2843 2 жыл бұрын
I just re-watched this, and again learned so much. I am doing better, much better. But I found myself slipping back a little, and looked this up again. Thank you So MUCH!!
@kaliforniasgold 4 жыл бұрын
When he said, “You got triggered…” I started to cry. Now I am laughing. Mine was irritation, frustration, and embarrassment.
@some1special95 5 жыл бұрын
wow, this has just described the past 2 years of Hell i have been living in...... i felt like i was in a spider web, things just got worse and worse and when i was pulled out of the situation i took a look at myself and could not believe the person looking back at me....tired & old, I did not recognise myself....very scary. I am blessed to now have the opportunity to heal and move forward....as i left South Africa, I felt sure I may never return, this was the end of the road for me.....now i have hope that I can heal and move forward as I make my way back to the USA, and this journey through Turkey & Egypt will be my healing journey. Sorry this is so long, Thank you for putting out what i knew all along was the root cause, but that faint knowing was overridden by the anger. thank you for your Empath related videos.
@aurorasoto5985 3 жыл бұрын
I feel you I just left a narcissist in Dec.24,2021 moved my body from Austin Texas to Portland Oregon and just started my healing process. Didn't realize I was empath I was emotionally abused on a daily bases and didn't even know what was happening.
@jackyjb5856 2 жыл бұрын
Brilliant….I came here feeling like I know where this, my emotional state, is going… feeling irritated and disappointed… tried studying to distract me but couldn’t concentrate… ended up googling how to calm down and your vid appeared. Having watched it I Feel liberated and want to share it with other ppl … thanks for sharing !
@AlexanderORiordan 2 жыл бұрын
Shock, sadness, helplessness, imploding anger. Thank you for this video. Something I saw on the web triggered me and I've just been fuming to myself for the past 3 hours.
@madhuribiswas5322 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. Helped me alot
@sylvanavargas239 2 жыл бұрын
I love the part when you get to the points for forgiveness forgiving yourself and forgiving others usually is great to put it in prayer as well thank you for this great video not experiencing anger at the moment but always was curious on how to deal with it especially as an empath
@michellejoy6752 Жыл бұрын
Married to a self absorbed narcissist is debilitating. The door is always open for him to enter, to talk about himself, what he’s doing, what he’s thinking, what he’s observed/noticed. Then when I attempt to respond/contribute to the conversation his response is “that’s not what “I” “I” “I” was talking about” ,or “I have to go or I will be late”. I am there to talk ‘AT’, not to talk ‘with’. This has taken me from being an extremely calm, level woman - to feeling as if I could explode to the point of being nothing more than flesh, blood, and bones dripping from the ceiling, and down the walls. Narcissists are extremely detrimental to the health of others.
@DjayEbk 4 жыл бұрын
thank u i have real anger problems and ik what ik capable of when im mad🙏🏽
@anishsasi2000 3 жыл бұрын
thanks man , it is very helpful , i was very angry with my mom , and now i am calmed down
@anthonydavythompsonstevens4297 Жыл бұрын
Thanks For Sharing! Much Appreciated .Will Implement 👍😀❤️
@rayburton4867 4 жыл бұрын
This is good stuff! Thank you for posting!
@hudsonllc1739 3 жыл бұрын
Truly. Thank you so much.
@stacielivinthedream8510 4 жыл бұрын
Zeeee beeest!!!! Edit: OMG this is truly The best teaching I've ever heard on how I feel and how I've come to where I've gotten now!!!! It was a trail of huge disappointments and attacks in the last 2.5 months especially!!!
@elissarhussineliwi5100 6 жыл бұрын
thank you amazing analysis
@donnieonipad2378 4 жыл бұрын
I was so angry I started crying
@donnieonipad2378 3 жыл бұрын
@jyleena yes
@donnieonipad2378 3 жыл бұрын
@jyleena 👑👑
@taduntss3832 3 жыл бұрын
the moment when ure so pissed off plus in the middle of his discussion the internet connection got so slow and the video just stopped. what a wonderful life.
@justonegoodvideo 3 жыл бұрын
I love this advice and the way you broke it down! Thank you! :)
@pamelarouch7144 4 жыл бұрын
As a visual learner, I found this really helpful.
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
I found this annoting that he said you can die from anger
@gemmatucker1380 4 жыл бұрын
Ive never seen your channel before but i liked and subscribed because this video really helped me.
@staceycarroll674 Жыл бұрын
I needed this. Thank you
@leduyluc6546 2 жыл бұрын
i watch this video while angry, and this really calm me down, and start to think about positive thing, but i have to accept the facts thats my family always being mean with me so i have no one to talk with, no friend, no one want to talk with me
@sweetcruz4946 3 жыл бұрын
wow this one was the best one so far THANK YOU❤️❤️
@thespartanchannel 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks man! I always wait until after I've exploded to write about it... I'll try tackling the baby steps first. Got here by searching "how to calm rage" xP Ughhhhh I have so much of it lol
@Fabian7227 4 жыл бұрын
Today I got so upset/angry with some customers that I got shaky and actually felt really bad stomach pain resulting from that moment. I didn’t explode, I just kept it all inside and it took me a while to calm down. I never want to feel that way again.
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
very sad im sorry Chicken leg
@sonny8851 3 жыл бұрын
I got so angry over school that I thru my chair and broke my tooth and now I’m suspended and it’s not even my fault I have anger issues
@Fabian7227 3 жыл бұрын
What led to that?
@alexmunrocue7991 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your help!
@0nly._y0u19 3 жыл бұрын
my own anger gets me angrier Like the feeling of anger gets me SO UNCOMFORTABLE I start screaming but inside and that gets me even more angrier. I really don’t know how that works or if that makes any sense :/ When I’m angry I feel like my chest gets tighter and it becomes hard to breathe, idk why
@G4By_okokokok_lalalalala 3 жыл бұрын
This video popped up in a perfect time on my feed..Thank you
@JasonMiller-yp4ql Жыл бұрын
Thank you So Much Brother!
@nyb9707 3 жыл бұрын
Very true. And really helpful, it is a process. Track back.
@elijahknight7162 3 жыл бұрын
The moment that he said youre angry i calm down immediately.
@c0ntra605 4 жыл бұрын
thank you. My head doesn’t hurt that much anymore
@zohraimam6597 Жыл бұрын
Thank You ! 🎉
@Cimaazimi11 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much you have given me hope 🙏🏻
@TIHealthandFitness 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video. Very helpful
@limitlessu7980 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@Supisara05 4 жыл бұрын
Thankgoodness i found this video. It might not seem like much, but on Minecraft, me & my brother wanted to build a whole city, so we started out with a hotel ran by us, & I just finished my brothers mansion. 2 days after, he broke the mansion i spent hours on. To make things worse, he hit me & didn't let me use our dads phone for just 5 minutes..
@jayaletcimy2849 4 жыл бұрын
9:25 this is where the important part comes in i was angry and i watched this video this outlet thing literally helped me alot thx so much
@criselynmarfil5416 3 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much!!
@Mary-ui4im 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your awesome teaching. What a help!
@discoeur 3 жыл бұрын
This really helps alot thank you!! Do you have a video on different possible outlets besides writing it down?
@Outfox90sbaby 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@parissk5315 Жыл бұрын
I'm so thankful for this video. This video can break generational curses and it's helping me break mine!
@TheFeature06 3 жыл бұрын
the laggy connection is really helping
@colettedesjardins8026 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this lesson. This will help me now and in the future. 😊🦋
@3KeyElements 5 жыл бұрын
That's great - thanks for watching.
@LukasJamesonHin 2 жыл бұрын
seriously thank you...
@hannaw8141 4 жыл бұрын
Ur an awesome teacher, thank you!
@ABellamy 2 жыл бұрын
Wow… very deep! Thanks 🙏🏽 ☺️
@owencurnock4613 3 жыл бұрын
I keep on breaking stuff when I get angry then I have a feeling of guilt for ages until I get found out.
@DaarkDestiny 4 жыл бұрын
If you find yourself becoming emotionally charged a lot while you're with some in particular! Remove them from your life!
@ravenfive 3 жыл бұрын
no no dont. show them this okay skip the 1st pt
@unclestfu555 3 жыл бұрын
HOW DO I REMOVE MY BROTHER FROM MY LIFE?
@swisscheeseplease97 3 жыл бұрын
Terrible advice
@blanka5661 3 жыл бұрын
Horrible advice
@debrushton6778 5 жыл бұрын
You’re simply brilliant! Thank you 🙏
@3KeyElements 5 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you found the value you need right now. Thanks for watching.
@stephenwweber 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this.
@3KeyElements 2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@wobblybottomboo 3 жыл бұрын
Thanx it Reilly helps
@lele-pu6nj 3 жыл бұрын
thanks dude i was angry at first but now i am calm thanks
@dniellele 4 жыл бұрын
Who else’s friend pretended they weren’t allowed to meet up but then you see their friends snap chat story and they’re together
@gothicc420 3 жыл бұрын
This has been truly insightful thank you
@thejeanpaulchannel 3 жыл бұрын
thank you
@kristianjaytorres4321 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much sir godbless🙏
@karenzilverberg4699 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks.
@fullnelson2961 2 жыл бұрын
I needed this.
@zeenatabbaa3545 2 жыл бұрын
Helpful simple thanks
@rosecontrena2274 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks again 👍
@jan_barba 4 жыл бұрын
I go from calm straight to the red angry part
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