This is the last video on this topic for a while. We're talking trauma treatment all of March! Let me know if this video is helpful to you!!
@93Crash1013 жыл бұрын
Do you have any advice on actually dealing with these people directly. A relative of mine died recently and now I am legally required to deal with my aunt's (who is a very nasty piece of work herself) crazy husband. As soon as funeral, inheritence and one property dispute are dealt with I am going to completely cut contact, but right now confrontations are unavoidable.
@tiablasangoriti83473 жыл бұрын
Yes, It was helpful. I loved the intro.
@tiablasangoriti83473 жыл бұрын
I would love to work with you. I like the way you present information about trauma and Narcissistic Abuse. I'll stay tuned for more pearls of wisdom.
@hisalone71663 жыл бұрын
It’s so difficult when it’s your daughter and she uses your grandchildren to punish us for her shortcomings......
@sophiegriffin83512 жыл бұрын
I would tell you the same thing I tell my grandma. Those kids are family and we love them, but unless they are in danger or if you aren't willing to take them away from their mom just stay out of it for your own good. It sucks for them, but trust me passive confrontation never works with this people or even for those kids (despite your maternal insticts telling you otherwise). It's better if you keep a distance, even if you here from them only once a month, regardless of the shorcomings they tell you about keep distance. For the worst cases shortcomings are always a thing in their life.
@vap322 Жыл бұрын
I cried the whole time watching this, as I'm dealing with a sister who is so uncaring, unemphatic, selfish, and just does things that hurt people. She drains me of everything, and always has. Now at 42, I am thinking it's about time I move on. Hardest decision I've ever made.
@hello-gj7iu Жыл бұрын
oh my god same 😦😊
@eriomnyc60734 ай бұрын
Usually there is an empath and a sociopath or narcissist in the family . I am empath too- don’t feel bad - they don’t feel bad for you , the best thing you can do is let them go and don’t go back
@marybischoff-moore86152 ай бұрын
I have watched a lot of influencers like yourself in this field and I have to tell you you are one of the sharpest praise God for you …. you have explained things that no one else has in a way no one else has literally blown out of my mind with your wisdom thank you❤️
@user-oz7nw9sq7y3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been learning to recognize these types before inviting them into my life. You cannot get away, so the best thing is just to get them out of your life. If it is your mother; father; brother; sister; friend; neighbor etc. etc. You have to get them out of your life. They are insane sick miserable disordered people and you will end up sick yourself. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@TherapistTamaraHill3 жыл бұрын
I can't disagree. You're right. Run...in most cases.
@Chericherry42 жыл бұрын
I'd rather manage the situation and not cut the person out, as long as I can get by with seeing the person just a couple times a year.
@magicmank68933 жыл бұрын
I'm dealing with one at work at the moment I try to stay away from this person as much as possible she's very negative and hateful sapping my energy
@ificouldtalk89523 жыл бұрын
Same here and he is my direct manager! I have been trying to study gather up ways in order to destroy him and venge foryself and all the people he messed up.
@taketheredpill14523 жыл бұрын
excellent stuff. I had to learn that all the long way, so nice to see it summarized. I'd add that, for me, emotional processing was the answer. That means, upon waking and going to bed, I spend as much time as my body needs, or I can handle, working through my emotional state. This is paying attention to what my body and subconscious are telling me. Yes, the messages and the realities I need to become conscious of are scary but the beauty is that by taking it SLOWLY I become immune to the fear. SLOW is a huge factor in this. Doing the work is enough, so taking it slow is a massive priority. This is also why I walk at the gym. Emotion is tied into fat, particularly for emotional eaters, so losing weight quickly means a huge dump of emotion onto our plates, which we can't handle and then we binge to stabilize. Better to walk and deal with our thoughts as we are walking.
@PraveenSrJ012 жыл бұрын
Sounds exactly like the relationship with my parents.
@dark7angel456 Жыл бұрын
Me too. They are haters and scary woth no empathy
@TheTugboatgirl2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this information. I didn't realize that I was already practicing your tips until I watched this video. But it has been confirmation that I am on the right path to cutting a toxic person out of my life and I'm so much happier without them living rent free in my head.
@TherapistTamaraHill2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome! That's good to know. You're on the right track.
@katherinevernier4945 Жыл бұрын
It’s so hard to come across someone like you. Again thank you for putting these videos out there
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
You're welcome. I appreciate that these kind words. Thank you! I'm glad that I can be here to help.
@flowerchildfreedom474 Жыл бұрын
He makes me feel like I'm losing my mind at times , he has no boundaries. When he doesn't pay rent he will lie about it or make an excuse such as I don't like the landlord or he's a drunk etc . He says things like that about any friendships I try to create so now I have 0 friends as I don't want to feel like crap anymore . I just don't have the tools to know how to stop it
@ip39315 ай бұрын
I just do not know who and what to trust at the moment!
@TherapistTamaraHill5 ай бұрын
I totally understand that.😔
@katherinevernier4945 Жыл бұрын
I again wish you were my therapist
@skylinebusta28422 жыл бұрын
I’m dealing with a sociopath in my life and even though he drains my mental state everyday and psychologically manipulates me to do his bidding, he is still caring and I consider him my close friend. Every time I try to distant myself he will try to say things like I’m a piece a shit, “you’re a bad friend”, or “after all the things I’ve done for you…”. I been distancing myself from him for a while now to benefit both of us, but he just doesn’t get it and I can feel a sense of hate he has towards me now. Maybe it’s for the best, even though he is my only friend. Maybe what he saw is that I have no friends, so it made it easy for me to be used , or maybe I’m just crazy and should be grateful for the only friend I have.
@surprisesofjoyfulness81472 жыл бұрын
You're not crazy. He is unhealthy for you. You can go and make OTHER friends. Better ones. They cut you off at the knees just to keep you weak, isolated and theirs. Kick him to the curb. Better no friends ( for a time) than a "friend" that behaves as an enemy.
@chrystaljaneorica27243 жыл бұрын
And thank you, I've learned so much.
@TherapistTamaraHill3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!! Thanks for watching.
@-HASH-MAN-4 жыл бұрын
Much love, great information, many thanks.
@TherapistTamaraHill4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome. Glad it was helpful! Thank you!!
@Chericherry42 жыл бұрын
Just what I was searching for, thank you.
@TherapistTamaraHill2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@susanritchey18494 жыл бұрын
Thank you...I always feel like I get some education when I watch your videos. Your information gives me insight as to how I can handle situations in my life. Thanks so much...please keep posting your videos.
@TherapistTamaraHill4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! Thank you😊
@bethsimm31444 жыл бұрын
Ive been attending weekly dbt sessions and it is useful to some, but i feel the way to move forward for me is to learn about me and why i have some really odd ways of thinking and worrying and also a sense worthlessness that i know is unhealthy but its a fact that i need to unlearn In DBT they say when you have a thought just notice it and let it pass without judgment. I understand the logic in that but i feel like i am pushing things away that have surfaced for a reason, i might be wrong but i want to challenge my thoughts and process the trauma then let it go and move on
@bethsimm31444 жыл бұрын
That comment was in fact with reference to your mention of finding your own therapy and and seeing what works best. Im sorry 🤦♀️😵
@jtFacts774 жыл бұрын
Ok. So prior to this video, I thought a "punch to the face" (only for men of course), was the solution for dealing with Sociopaths and Unhealthy people. After listening to you, I will try your way😁😂🤣.
@TherapistTamaraHill4 жыл бұрын
🤦♀️🤣🤷♀️ Well, some people feel that way! The therapeutic way I would suggest.
@mrlonglegs19464 жыл бұрын
"only for men of course" sounds a tad sexist don't you think?
@lorijones55612 жыл бұрын
What if this person is my mom and is a delusional elderly that took care of me my whole life ? 😔😫
@TherapistTamaraHill2 жыл бұрын
This is horrible. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm not clear on what the question is but I'm guessing you are referring to walking away? It will certainly be more difficult in this scenario.
@omegaforeverpahrump44367 ай бұрын
I can’t get away from this person I work with this person I’d be out of a job if I wanted more of a healthy lifestyle my work loves her so much they think that she’s a savior and she’s caused so many people to quit attacking people been there for 10 years I’m using your information so I can deal with this person at work. It’s horrible.
@TherapistTamaraHill7 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry. That sounds very imprisoning and it is. I've seen this scenario happen to my clients in the past. You have to find any way you can to set boundaries, make your boundaries known, and stick to them. One thing she cannot fight you on is consistency. Then I would look for ways to "document" her behaviors and prove that she is harassing you. You want firm proof as well and not just a record of things that "might" be seen as harassment. An example of this might be email exchanges, text messages, or video footage of her around you. Hang in there.
@ARH8304 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@TherapistTamaraHill4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!!
@nensi58133 жыл бұрын
Your videos are really helpful
@TherapistTamaraHill3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that!🙂 Thank you.
@surprisesofjoyfulness81472 жыл бұрын
Is it just me,or is there more sociopaths now? It's as common as a cold,and they group together! Yikes!
@TherapistTamaraHill2 жыл бұрын
Either that or we're just more knowledgeable about it as a society. It's always hard to tell. It's just mental illness. Is it getting worse in our world or are we just more knowledgeable and therefore it seems like we see it quite a bit.
@Lonnieplaxico4 жыл бұрын
Another great video.
@TherapistTamaraHill4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Lonnieplaxico4 жыл бұрын
You are welcome...
@truthteller19732 жыл бұрын
Love your videos really apprdocte them👑💜
@TherapistTamaraHill2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!❤ Glad to hear that.
@sogb6202 жыл бұрын
I’m dealing with one of the people that ran the Elan School. She is playing mind games and married to my partner’s father. She is controlling and has accused my partner of mental illness with the employees. This is scary! I need help with this!
@TherapistTamaraHill2 жыл бұрын
This is scary. I'm so sorry. Once you learn their patterns and how they behave, you can survive and get stronger. I might do a video coming up really soon, live, where I give you tips on managing these people. I welcome you.
@sheilaslaten10613 жыл бұрын
I'm asking for help with a 4yr old sociopath how do you handle them, teach, train them, when there are other children and adults who also have deal with the child's sociopathic behavior.
@rpm33053 жыл бұрын
Read "Survival Strategies for Parenting Children with Bipolar Disorder: Innovative Parenting and Counseling Techniques for Helping Children with Bipolar Disorder and the Conditions that May Occur with It. " Good luck.
@surprisesofjoyfulness81472 жыл бұрын
Well,sociopaths or potential sociopaths DO NOT respond to punishment. They respond to Reward.Their brains release 4× more dopamine when they get a reward. Reward good behaviour. Teach empathy in little lessons. No shaming. None .it makes them worse! Hope this is helpful.
@Anna-gg1wp3 жыл бұрын
Run away...change ur adress change ur name chnage ur wig color, change country!!!!
@TherapistTamaraHill3 жыл бұрын
🤭🤫 On a serious note, I agree!
@Anna-gg1wp3 жыл бұрын
@@TherapistTamaraHill 😂
@Judah2019 Жыл бұрын
Where or how do you find healthier people. My therapist is saying the same will happen it happen once I become more healthy or can it happen now?
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
I think the key word here is "healthier" and not perfect. I often explain to my clients that we are all broken in some way and we all face a "heart problem," meaning that no one in this life is going to be "perfect" or "better" than the other. The issue for many of my clients seems to be that they cling to unhealthy connections because of trauma, interest, stimulation when with them, or some other reason. I encourage then to follow after those individuals who have a healthy idea as to where they want to be in life, have healthy values, and can add (not detract) from your life. To find these people sometimes means we have to improve our own self-esteem and wait for them to cross paths with us, OR intentionally place ourselves in positions where these people may be (i.e., church, healthy spiritual groups, clubs, therapy programs, social clubs, etc). I hope this helps!
@japamebqkbvqw9 ай бұрын
I have a friend named Rei, he's probably a sociopath. He had a very close friend but he just said "I used you for entertainment, and you were fun to manipulate". I don't really like the guy and I blocked him, but I'm thinking a way to contact him again. I once texted him a loong message on discord about his behaviour and he needs to change. He just read the message and started yelling at me tomorrow on school... Well I'm really scared of him but I guess *there is nothing we can do.*
@jodygirl28 күн бұрын
What if you are married to one? Should you divorce?
@JohnSmith-no2me2 жыл бұрын
What about tips on how to deal with a child that suffers from sociopathic tendicies
@marksmith38924 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!
@TherapistTamaraHill4 жыл бұрын
LOL 😆
@chrystaljaneorica27243 жыл бұрын
I'm trying to help someone dear to me. He's obviously a sociopath. But how?
@TherapistTamaraHill3 жыл бұрын
It's a good question but a difficult situation. Treatment of these individuals is close to impossible in most cases because of their inability to experience and show empathy. They also struggle with accountability and management of relationships. They lack a lot of traits and characteristics that help to make healthy relationships. If you find a specialist and the person is willingly going to counseling, there may be some therapeutic work that can be done.
@mariahconklin41502 жыл бұрын
@@TherapistTamaraHill I’m dating one and it’s been pretty tough. He constantly mirrors me to keep me close and when he sees that I’m close he seems to be somewhat hurtful or maybe it’s just my BPD. It kind of sucks. Been depressed for a day. I’m considering ending things unfortunately. Idk if it’s my BPD though which he seems to somehow trigger it or I trigger it myself. I have no problem discarding him which is painful not only for myself but for him also. Thanks to all of our parents and how much they suck we are who we are. We’re both messed up it’s sad.