people that gossip at work should just be fired. because they are NOT working. too many losers spend all day worrying about the next person and spreading rumors.
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
People are what they were taught - many of these behaviours can be changed - and speaking up is a part of the process. If we don’t, then the behaviors go on
@peytonwooley2332 Жыл бұрын
Too many lazy useless ppl that go to "work" to just do nothing but talk/gossip with co workers and brownnose to bosses, Then the actual good useful strong workers get backlash.. same crap everywhere.
@Bunny11344Ай бұрын
@@nyacoustics8373 thank you!! Someone finally said it!!! They’re too busy gossiping and they make it so obvious too
@lkw56992 жыл бұрын
The most toxic coworkers at my job have been there the longest. One tries to triangulate and the younger coworkers follow suit. It's best to ignore them and not engage in any gossip. Management does nothing
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
It is often what I see as well - is that the ones who have been there the longest are the toxic employees ... and those who have just been hired - there is the onboarding process where toxic employees will bring new staff into the fold, so it is really those who made it past onboarding unscathed that are sometimes in the best position to make a change. Of course I do love a new employee with a voice!
@eviis34792 жыл бұрын
You get it
@Anonymous_Anon8822 жыл бұрын
Management may or may not try their best (generally) but the overarching systems enable gossipy, narcissistic people. That’s why it’s down to folk like us to de-nable these stupid idiots.
@kazama850 Жыл бұрын
True story
@Chris-tg3qy9 ай бұрын
Yep. It’s hard for some of the new ones to ignore it because they want to be part of the group, but if you stay away from it or at least the majority of it then you will be trusted and probably promoted. I have worked at different levels and I noticed the entry level jobs such as admin support roles tend to be the worst areas.
@debbiekillewald8384 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I hate gossiping so much and I can't stand it when I fall into adding to it.
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
🎉🎉
@kill3rclown690 Жыл бұрын
dont talk about ur life thats giving them fuel to talk about u i learned that when i was fresh out of high school. Dont add them on social media either
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
If there are things you don’t want known, then I agree. You no longer control the information once it is told - Great tip on social media. I would also add don’t put anything on social media that you would not want seen
@kill3rclown690 Жыл бұрын
@Tammy Dunnett, Communication Skills for Work definitely I wouldn't add them on any socials
@icannotthinkofausernamee2 жыл бұрын
My work colleagues are all gossipers, its such a toxic environment. Everyone knows everything about everyone so the only solution is to isolate in my office. I dont want to be part of them🤦🏻♀️
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Good choice. Sometimes staying away from the gossip is a good idea. Have you downloaded the safe conversation starters? There is a great script in there to stop gossip
@sandrasews37652 жыл бұрын
Me neither, they talk about they’re life , so detailed who did drugs, I’m like seriously 😳 do people really need to talk about these kinds of issues. They get loud and overreact for everything. I’ve been there for a month I started to look for another job. So toxic. They want to know drama. I told my coworkers 1 day I don’t like drama , me my husband and kids are boring so they don’t ask me about anything.
@elizabethsuju15012 ай бұрын
Everyone at my job knows everything about everyone. Who does what for how many cookies?? It's really annoying!! I'm so tired of hearing about their personal relationships with their live-in boyfriends & their step kids & the boyfriends ex-wives. It's like damn! I literally know their sex lives,their kids up & downs,I know way more things about these people than I honestly care to know. I know they talk about me & frankly I don't give a damn but I'm tired of hearing about it. Any suggestions to stop hearing about it??
@DeathAngleZoe2 жыл бұрын
I am literally watching this while at work right now. My co-workers shut me out of conversations, gossip about my the second I walk away from them, and constantly put me down. This is so helpful.
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry to hear you are going through this ... I hope you have been able to put in some boundaries that make you feel better
@Jellibean832 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry, hun. I know EXACTLY how you feel. 😢
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
@@Jellibean83 oh dear - if you know it that means you are either going through it or have experienced it
@DarkestDesires936 ай бұрын
Witnessed it yesterday and one of them called me a dumb bitch behind my back years ago, so I don't talk to him, I know what he's about, always watches me
@LiarsSweet2 ай бұрын
The toxic gossipers are usually the worst performers on the floor because they are not actually doing anything. While the target is usually the best performer in an attempt to secure their jobs.
@tammydunnettleadership2 ай бұрын
It is true that high performers are targeted
@dawnanderson7153Ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. I've been on every side of this. I need to set better boundaries.
@tammydunnettleadershipАй бұрын
You’re welcome
@ChillyChase4 ай бұрын
The bottom line is people talk too damn much. People who gossip are miserable souls. If people was to go to work and focus on work and do your hours and get out. The only way people should talk is if it's a job situation if it's not just ignore them and keep it moving that's the only way to break that cycle. Sometimes you have to just let people know we're you stand so the next time they will know not come around you with that nonsense.
@tammydunnettleadership4 ай бұрын
A world of “should” does nothing to address the reality
@3ma_lengend2 жыл бұрын
I went throught a few toxic work places in two of those work environments it got intense I was very stress out and I had a lot on my mind now I'm doing Uber and Door dash I cut most of that stress in half when made this move
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Yes sometimes leaving is the right decision- what are you doing to heal and empower yourself in future situations?
@3ma_lengend2 жыл бұрын
@@tammydunnettleadership maybe looking into Starting a business I'm looking at that I've always wanted to go that route
@3ma_lengend2 жыл бұрын
@@tammydunnettleadership I'm still trying to figure that out
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
This may sound counterintuitive- because when we are in a toxic environment we focus on protecting ourselves- now is the time to look i ward and explore what you do / dont do that may have contributed to the situation
@wolfesound Жыл бұрын
I would use the same answer in both situations. Please do not bring me any gossip about me or anyone else. Then shift the focus to something actually useful and set clear boundaries with this person. Going to john is just gonna drag us into the shitty vortex. Let your work speak.
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
That is a great script to add to our toolbelt
@wolfesound Жыл бұрын
@@tammydunnettleadership Thank you. Your content helps us navigate the minefield in some places.
@chilloften Жыл бұрын
The ratchet folk talk right in front of you, about you, to others.
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
What do you do when it happens?
@yubelwish Жыл бұрын
@@tammydunnettleadership speaking for myself I act as if I don't hear anything. My rule is if they didn't say it to me or mention my name, than it is not about me.I wear my wireless earbuds whether that is on or not, read or get engrossed in my work.
@susanforster3 жыл бұрын
Specific skills and values. Great work.
@tammydunnettleadership3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Which one do you find yourself in - the receiver of gossip or the one who is gossiped about?
@sabrinabinam18932 жыл бұрын
Sooooo 👏 amazingly put into words. Also the way you say 'about' is SUPER CUTE 😍
@Marleyquinnspins2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like Canadian accent it’s cool about always sounds like aBOAT
@tammydunnettleadership3 жыл бұрын
How is gossip showing up in your life? Have you noticed any toxic gossip?
@NancyChang9402 жыл бұрын
Omg you are AMAZING!! I love all your videos. Please keep it up. You have been my go to for everyday workplace management. You literally live in my car (haha... I have you on replay) great ideas!!!
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
What has been your biggest takeaway?
@kathylemon3893 Жыл бұрын
Great information, thank you!
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
Thanks for taking the time to write! I appreciate the feedback
@ihaveissues7503 Жыл бұрын
I don't agree with something you said. I wouldn't tell the bully how his gossiping made me feel. He's expecting a reaction and I would not give that to them. Instead I would ask politely that next time there's a problem with me, they came to discuss that with me in person. Period
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
Thanks for adding to the conversation. The strategy you use is also a great tool to have in the communication toolbelt. A reaction is different than a conversion. You may feel upset and communicating that is sharing the impact. :)
@wintermatherne252410 ай бұрын
Not if the goal is to upset you. I I was your bully and you told me how it made you feel, I’d think “Good. Mission accomplished.”
@ihaveissues750310 ай бұрын
@@wintermatherne2524 that's what I'm saying
@cutieandanuk6611 күн бұрын
That's all nice on the paper, most people that I know that gossip are immature and would never be honest. They gossip because it's their habit and they love to humiliate others, if faced or asked, they would jsut create another web of lies and gossip. I find the best way is to avod them and just keep converations very short, brief, walk away once they get into the " gossip and shitting on others" mood.
@tammydunnettleadership9 күн бұрын
You have a strategy that will keep you out of the gossip ring. Walking away is an option - if the behaviour is not stopping, what is your next move?
@WonderfulWizardofHR2 жыл бұрын
The tips you share in your video are great! As an HR professional we often try to get employees to work out issues personally before escalating the situation. This video is a great tool for any small business owner, manager or HR professional to watch and share with any employees who may be going through this. Thank you for posting.
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the comment. As an HR professional I imagine you have a lot of teaching moments!
@Whatevadantewante Жыл бұрын
This is great. Thank you!
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
You are welcome!
@Musicalpa2 жыл бұрын
How do you deal with a case where your coworker is gossiping, lying, and slandering you but is unwilling to talk with you about it when you confront them about what they're saying to others?
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
It may be a few things to try. Confrontation is not usually a place people feel safe to talk - let alone confess. There are several strategies I share in my FB group (leadership communication) and even more support inside my Conquer Conflict program that may support you
@evagonzalez117010 ай бұрын
If I was to confront the person would just deny, she’s a huge fake so I cut off any “friendship” with the person
@tammydunnettleadership10 ай бұрын
Setting boundaries is a great strategy
@sherwinsalvatori69972 жыл бұрын
How about a workplace filled with men that gossip and like confusion
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Gossip is gossip - the strategies can work in either workplace. If the behaviour does not stop, it then becomes about your next step
@wintermatherne252410 ай бұрын
They must be gay
@terrencemilton508810 ай бұрын
Honestly, if I had a wish it would be that at the work place find someone else to be obsessed with. Understand....😡😡😡
@tammydunnettleadership9 ай бұрын
It would be better if they did not bother anyone ;)
@xenonkey77702 жыл бұрын
If I don’t feel comfortable talking to the two parties that I heard gossiping about me could I go to my supervisor? Have been a victim of workplace bullying. Got away from the previous site and experiencing this at the new site. I don’t feel like I can handle confrontation
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the question. It is a pattern I often see (and experienced myself) - leaving one job does not mean we are in the clear. These lessons will continue to show up until we lean into them Quick question and then some thoughts Have you downloaded the Safe Conversation Starters? It will give you a scripted way to address this Second. Yes you can talk with your supervisor and I always suggest you go not just with a problem- but with a solution This can be “I need your advice on something … I believe I am the subject of office gossip, and I am unsure what to say to bring it up. How would you recommend I do that?” You’re solution is to get their advice. It positions them as a resource and they are likely to support you
@xenonkey77702 жыл бұрын
Hi Thanks for responding. I haven’t downloaded the conversation starters no. I will try to ask my supervisor for advice.
@classic75772 жыл бұрын
Should we not confirm the person who gossip about us?
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Great strategy!
@emorytraylor2 жыл бұрын
Is it a good ideal to threatening them?
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
No. Threats generally do not work, and it creates more disconnection
@emorytraylor2 жыл бұрын
@@tammydunnettleadership thank you I'm just so stressed out because my colleagues are very disrespectful. Their always trying to exposed my personal life when it really isn't their business. It's sad that alot of adults conduct themselves as children.
@tammydunnettleadership2 жыл бұрын
Sorry for the late reply - your comment was put in the area for review as the site thought it might be spam. I am also sorry you are going through this. If it is not their business, just tell them you are not interested in discussing things right now ;)
@joelstratman2872 Жыл бұрын
Or they feel superior over someone coz they are not in the so called clique coz they are different from them I over heard some people talking about a friend of mine at work saying oh did you hear what so and so did when I over heard it it made me so angry I don't give the gossipers the light of day anymore they think they are so big coz they have a title but in the past they got in trouble themselves hypocrites
@tammydunnettleadership Жыл бұрын
If you want a script to say to them that will stop them from gossiping, I have a free download 😊. You may feel less angry with them if you communicate a boundary
@dakine423810 ай бұрын
Doesnt work..being callwd out made the person more resentful
@tammydunnettleadership10 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear you did not have success. I hope you found another route
@vboyer712 жыл бұрын
👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@Nguoiren3 ай бұрын
gossipers are toxic! they definitely won't even talk to you. seeing that you are coming to see them they will just probably mock you and that is it. that's not a good advice.