He is damn right. I fought with my parents, tried to change them, please them, every time I ended feeling worse. If there's little bit of goodness in them , they will never treat their children badly. They are toxic, so stay away from them

Parents are supposed to take care of you, love and guide you not emotionally damage you 💔

Even if you were faithful/loyal to them, they will never return that.

What's worse is that they're acting like angels when with total strangers but when they're with you they act as to make your life a living hell

Im sick of crying everyday bc of them...

It's heartbreaking to see so many PPL looked up for such a video 😢

My mother in all terms. I sometimes wonder why can't I have a mother who just understands me and laughs with me ?why cant I have normal conversation with her, without having the fear of getting judged. I miss having a mother as the world say mothers are.

I cannot wait til I get to university and I can escape this hellplace called home

#3 is extremely important. My mother used anything/everything I said against me. No matter what it was

I ran away 2 years ago and it was the best decision I could have done. Feeling now better than ever and I don‘t have to feel guilty for things I like and do :)

My father is so pathetic, he shows off how supportive he is, but he uses so many hurtful words , to make me feel down. He thinks himself as Google, and everything and everyone are wrong. He doesn't support and care for me. He forced me to pursue something else instead of following my dreams. Because of him I have been facing PTSD since last 5 years. I did all the mistakes that you said because I was so stupid to believe him. I hate him most in the whole world.

Man all I want is a mom that loves me.

He is absolutely right, I can never satisfy my mother no matter what I do, she treats me worst than her servant.

My way is get away from them. That's what I did. If you can't get away and go live somewhere else, then lower your expectations of them and don't tell em shit.

He speaks the truth. I've ALWAS failed to accept that I have an unpleasable parent. Truly negative humans will see their world through their own negative eyes & negative viewpoints. Can't change this. Time to limit exposure & reinforce boundaries.

This sentence crushed me : they will never change. I'm 14 and I just want some good parents and I thought they could change but ur right bro

A kid deserves a parent not all parents deserve a kid Edit: thank you for so many Likes

Finally someone with a solution instead of trying to justify their behaviour.

The most hurtful is that they're only toxic toward you not your siblings

What hits you hard is when you finally realize how your parents have been. When you finally realize they have been toxic towards you all your life. Even if its in a subtle way. Its hard to want to believe your parents would be this way

Told my mum she’s hurt me a lot. Thought it would help if I let her know. I got yelled at and called ungrateful and given the silent treatment until I apologised

I hate my dad, he is so narcissistic self absorbed and so toxic, it's absolute hell living with a father especially who has been toxic to their daughters. Truly evil and disgusting

All I want is freedom and peace

how to deal with toxic parents? Simply, you dont.

Thank youu so much U have no idea how badly I needed this .. All I have ever done in my life is love my parents but in return I got curses, hate , discouragement nothing else ...I am only 15 right now and I am dealing with really bad stress ...Well today I promised myself that I will never be like my parents NEVER !!!!!! If ever god blesses me with a child ,I will raise that child giving all my love , care and I will do anything for that child ....😞😞😞😞 I WILL NEVER GIVE THAT CHILD A PAINFUL CHILDHOOD LIKE I AM HAVING RIGHT NOW .. MY PARENTS DIDNT CARE ABOUT MY STRESS, THEY DIDNT CARE ABOUT ME WHEN I WAS IN DEPRESSION , THEY NEVER MOTIVATED ME FOR MY DEAMS ...BUT I DONT CARE ABOUT THEM ANYMORE ,I LOVE MYSELF HOWEVER I AM , WHATEVER I WILL BE IN FUTURE

I have a living environment that is not good for me. I'm just praying to god that one day, i'll free myself from my parents. As i work for independence, may god bless my days with patience until that day comes. For those who are going to the same as me, i wish all the best. We're not alone. We have each other. Let's work hard 💪🏽 ya'll

Never let your super toxic parents know how much you earn.If you do you'll regret it.

"The best revenge is not to be your enemy." -Marcus Aurelius

Idk why after knowing also it's useless to try to change them I try to change them thinking they are my parents they can understand my feelings. In result I only receive tears.

I will never understand how ur own parents can be so so hurtful not thinking about what they have said.

It hurts when the one who should care us will destroy us

If u always please them, they'll control u like a little child.

Mine keep jumping over the boundaries and ruin my mental peace.

My parents always step over my boundaries

Yes, very true! Be mindful of what you share with them. They will use it in the most horrible way possible

"Have an exit plan" way ahead of you lol iv two tents and a sleeping bag on the ready..so close to just booking it out of here..my whole family is toxic

Damn I needed this, my parents always break promises and lie, they think it’s funny when I cry, they laugh at me for things I feel confident in, they embarrass me infront of friends and only when friends are over, I don’t feel comfortable with them or telling them anything cuz they say “no, your favorite color is pink and will always be pink” WHEN PINK IS MY LEAST FAVORITE 😭😭😭

The best way to not be manipulated by a narcissist is to not even to talk to them. Simply don’t give them an opportunity

After so much pain that my parents caused me, everything starts to make sense now, I am in tears right now. Thank you.

The shamefull point is that: Even our parents are toxic to us..!!

Very accurate. Also, it's also important to have financial independence, without it, it's difficult to completely shield from their toxic behavior.

I'm currently going through this, an extremely narcissistic father who never respects me, always putting me down, he thinks giving me food and shelter is a luxury which I'm getting (I wasn't born out of thin air and other parents don't give their children hay straw to eat), he always belittles me, never satisfied with anything I do, doesn't accept his mistakes and if I talk back he threatens me with physical violence and to remove me from the house.

#3 keep fighting them. They'll hurt you, but you will also inflict some damage on them . Dont let them step over you

the 3rd point is so important. never expect or wait or hope for them to change. it's only going to hurt you more & more.

That's right! Several years ago when I was like 18 - 22 my parents could not believe that I was a young adult and I was growing up. So every time I would try to change them it would come back at me 10 times harder. So, what I did is not give a shit.

I block my mom to avoid all the hurtful messages and she reaching out to my husband insulting us now . He now blocks her too. It’s so sad, we never reply to her toxic messages. It angers her more

He’s right. The sooner in age , the better, or arrested development.

My mom is an angel but my dad is a whole opposite thing God has gifted me

Thanks Sir I'm having immense pressure and mental breakdowns because of my mother. I often think she treats me like a product and not a human. It's a long time for the exit plan but once I exit I will never be har son

An abuser is always someone who was abused.Its a cycle and not having kids or getting therapy is the only way out of it. -To every future parent

And five don't wait that they will apologize in front of you. They don't kill themselves guilty they think that you are guilty and they will never say sorry.

Toxic and manipulative

Ur right about that. Then when ever you want to leave. They find a way to get you back.

You're so right.. They'll never change & fight you harder & leave you in worse pain.😞

This made me cry BECAUSE I know it's true but the thought of other people feeling like I do hurts. That said this man seems pretty healthy and that gives me hope. I'm so so hopeless rn. Life looks so bleek and bland and nothing brings me joy everyone I have ever loved has hurt me.

I can’t even fight with my parents I just walk away. Sometimes for weeks I don’t sleep at home because I don’t feel comfortable.

This is why I want to accomplish my exit plan. I can't deal wit my mean ass mom all the time.

You are correct...I wanna move out when I grow up...also I'm the only child.. there's no one to look after them..I feel bad but at the same time I wanna heal..I don't know what to do

the way my parents changed drastically the day i got married will be the mystery of this lifetime for me, home doesn't feel like home anymore, moving out seems to be the best option now for all our sakes

they make me see no reasons to live,always make me feel like the bad one in every situation,they always treat me like am still a child and shouldn't have an opinion of my own or mind of my own,they always tell me am ungrateful.Worst of all mom uses all my secrets against me and they love misinterpreting every situation in my life,l always feel useless and unwanted.l get insulted always with the things they offer me,l feel like a big bounding to them.l pray God blesses me some day and take away this heavy pain in my heart

Yes brother, I also understood this in my whole life that there is no solution for such perents .

My father relates to everything in this list. No. 9 and maybe 10 sums one such example, there were two slices of cake in the fridge ( I brought one cake for myself from starbucks and the other cake was a free cake from a hotpot restaurant that we ate at for my father's birthday ), my father ate my starbucks cake. When I told my father that he ate my cake, instead of just saying sorry, he proceeds to lecture me and gulit rid me by saying things like "I have to stop it with that mentality" and "I paid for the food, the rent etc." I know its just cake and I know this doesn't compare to the stories shared in this section but small things like this really frustrate me.

I just left both of them alone and I felt so much better. If that meant sleeping on a friend's couch or anything then so be it

but how am i supposed to have an exit plan if im broke

So so true...i want to share something because it just feels overwhelming. My parents recently in about 6 to 7 months...always fight. Every day they will say something provoking to each other.. and also insult them in bad way...i as a child alone can't bear it anymore...i started reading wattpad because it was the only escape and it almost became a habit. I don't know what to do, what ever i do is less...these days, i get angry, sad so frequently...as an average student when i think i did much better then earlier, i get happy but my parents one sentence "so you made mistakes" and the face expression make me scared and sad at the same time...i feel like if i do one thing wrong then also they will be unhappy.... No peace and no one with whom i could share... Even my choices are changing...i no longer read fun books or anything but i don't know what is the condition of my hurt but i like to read abuse stories....because it makes me feel connected...

“they will never change” that hit hard but its true thanks

I share too much , and im fighting to stop doing this.

The having an escape plan. I wish I had it. I'm still stuck in this situation, trying to have said plan now but I feel so hopeless.

12 years old had to admit to myself that my "Mother" didn't love me and that she was exactly like my narcissistic grandfather and that I would never have a loving mother or normal childhood and that wasn't my fault. I live everyday trying to not become like her or to become a victim to someone like her again.

I'm going to 11th grade , I want to get rid of them beating me everyday I'm tired of this.

Love my mum dearly but my dad is extremely narcissistic. When I move out I will try to convince her to leave this abuse

M so tired of being patient and big all the time.

This may look funny but this guy is practical, sometimes you cannot fix them.

Just want a dad who doesn't treat me,my sister and my mom like burden ,mistake and regret

It breaking me that people [me too] really need an exit Plan cuz of their family

all the points he has mentioned are so damn true i have experienced them all

The worst damn thing in the world is having a parents who don't even understand you.. And make you feel like you're not even enough if you done anything

You're right, and I have a toxic older sister as well. I just wanted them to Always love me. I've been in a vulnerable state since I lost my first and only child, 5mths later I lost my father to covid, 1 month after that, I got injured at my job and lost my career. I was away from home for so long. I thought the loss would bring us together. It was all fake, when I spent my money on them instead of just leaving again. Ive realized my worst two enemies started at home. And I have this anger in me that I actually thought about murdering both of them, and rotting in prison or receiving the death penalty. Sad thing is, those thoughts brought me comfort. This is all wrong, I know and now im in a stuck situation. Yet I know I have to get away from these people and never look back. Its so much more, but hearing you say this is just reassuring me. That, I will never get love from them. And since I've destroyed relationships, im alone. So therapy is needed. Yes I believe in God, I know its because of the creator ive made it this far. Yet its so much you can take, and now I must make moves to distance myself before I do something that will destroy my life, and in the end. They still win😢

"Parents aren't people who made you, parents are people who raise, love and cherish you!" - Random person

I oftenly overshared things that I'm experiencing to them, and as I'd expect they will use it as a backfire if i did some atomic mistake, When they do that I'm always so afraid for what the result of my plan might ended up, because in my religion parent will and pray is a very strong spell, I'm afraid that my plan will fail miserably, but I always remember some internet stranger have said to me it sounds like "The god is at an absolute higher position than your parent, so if you so sure about what you're up to, just give it all to god" and ever since then I almost never have any problem with my plan, even after I got some beef with my parent. Just rely on god for everything because he's the only one who's fair and in the end your parent is just human.

My mother is exactly like this she keeps pressuring me sometimes i felt like im the black sheep of the family im no good for her. I don't have the support i needed when im struggling especially when i lost my job. 😢

If I stop pleasing them, it's still a loss.

I cut my biological father almost a year-and-a-half ago and never look forward to ever contacting him again he took advantage of me and he took advantage of many other people in the family and blackmail me and that's something you don't forget or forgive.

i just want to move out

I hope for one day they will be more laws for this.

Thank you, finding supportive people online was my first step into healing ❤

Bro, my parent's always say "Shut-Up" if i'am right at once and if i still talk, then they'll slap me + They want to have right at everything, everytime i try to say something, they either don't listen, say Shut-Up or try to have right at everything, i mean, they think they can say/do what they want with me by insulting. Every small Thing, they say Shut-Up, so that they argue better against me and that's what makes me mostly Angry😡. At the end, after we argued, they start to insult again😡.

Thanks 🙏 blessings to everyone here I needed this 31 yrs dealing with my mental health my parents are coke addicts and my dad abuses beer also they enjoy treating me bad I’m the black sheep even if I’m disabled from my feet I got myself in college and moving out soon on my own it’s true don’t try to change them it will never work We don’t choose our parents

My mother gave a hellish life to a point of breaking me physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Poisoned me multiple of times, agitated and manipulated my emotions that leads me to become bedridden for years. I truly need your prayers right now.

Mental health is much harder to show up and much more harder to tolerate. Its easier to say my tooth is aching rather than saying my heart is broken. Toxicity in a surrounding we are witnessing daily can really tear up someone 🙃.

This hits hard, like, really fkn hard

Ahh just walk away from everyone and return to laugh on their bodies when they’ve died😂

My Father is a narcissistic sociopath and I've inherited anger issues from him.

All children deserve a parent but not all parents deserve a child - A wise man❤

i was harrassed but my mom started blaming me for that and she didn't supported me and the most lovely thing here is she appreciates that guy

Can’t afford counseling these comments are all I got.. how as a man do you step back from your mother, knowing she needs me, but the relationship Is killing us both

This man is so right. He is so happy only if I could. Be so happy.

I'm more sad when I see my classmates with their super cool parents😢.

My parents are so cruel I don't know how to escape from them only option left is to leave this world and lay peacefully on god's lap

all of the points are so dame true.