Master superb thank you

Forgive me for sharing this view please, because I feel, so many of us know these truths from Buddha teachings, but we overlook to acknowledge 🙏 Whatever that happens outside of us, is what's within us, it's universal law to reflect what we may feel we have healed, but if any not so good behaviours show up, it's like a check up to remind us and envisage our reaction to give clarification if we have healed or still need to work on healing. I hope I make sense please 🙏 I feel, it is for us to thank the energies of the person who have behaved in a not so good manner so that globally we can vibrate to heal those energies in them too, so they don't have to behave in such ways to hurt others, but also heal the ones who are affected as pain is just a part of a thought that looks in the perceptions of each's own experiences. Thank you 🙏

So true

Somehow I don't understand this point of view. We can control how ppl treat us. When unjust or toxic ppl are treated assertively, they will stop treating us like like that or be more cautious. Some sick ppl need to be ignored, but most will respond to assertiveness.

@@jasminesarahalexander the point here is you want to live in peace and happy and not to lower yourself to the same level of toxic or bad people treated you. Bad people do bad things to you doesn’t mean you do bad things back to them. They don’t deserve your words or time, walk away is best solution. By the way, control yourself is already difficult, it’s impossible to control others. May you live in peace and happy!

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Sigh So true

True, alwaz

Sadly so true. I am surrounded by them. Heaven and the Budda help me.

hit a little too close to home

He s my boy friendk

"Prove them wrong with your success, not with your words."

@@ranc1977 what if we r not intelligent or smart enough to be successful in life , then what is the solution in life ?

​@@shreyasreenath9197 "what if we r not intelligent or smart enough to be successful in life" Then you need to redefine the definition of success. And also you need to realize concept called "External reference locus of control" where herd mentality, or groupthink is forcing you to believe what is success. The world is full of paradoxes, biases, double binding which means there is no absolute truth unless unkind or violent - there is no generally accepted truth. If you allow other people to define truth for you - you will lose your self worth, you will lose your identity and you will develop toxic shame and mental instability - since society will give you contradictory messages how to manage, handle and make decisions in life. Remember the donkey story - where other citizens condemn and criticize man and woman riding the donkey. Whatever they do with the donkey: ride on it, walk by it, carry it - there will always be criticism and mocking and dissatisfaction coming from other people. Being kind and treating people with respect even when they do not deserve it, does not take much IQ, and that is successful in itself.

@@ranc1977 I need to practice it from today with lots of patience . thank you @ranc 1

@@shreyasreenath9197 Yeah, when you understand this, it will make earthquake shifts inside ourselves. For starters, we will become aware how many toxic people we attracted in our lives, it will be like awakening from coma or hypnosis, and - natural consequence will be cutting contact with many of them. This also include making new contacts or reinforcing old ones, which are more healthier. Up next are toxic habits. And it will be coming up with new radical ideas which may entail many changes - for the better. This is what will happen when our self worth is inside us and we are focused on it as oppose to other people's opinions and orders and criticism.

Nicky put. Thank you ♥️ Nicely put, that is 💕♥️

Yes..we have to do only this..

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They never miss u.. because they are not kind of that person

Intelligence

Thank you Dr. For documenting the teachings in short bullets 🙏🏽 I’ll write this down on my personal journal

Ys that's very true

Weak ppl express anger? Hmmm

@@GigiEtienne Yeah i also feel kinda weird about that one. Like shouldn't a healthy person acknowledge all their emotions?

@@GigiEtienne Expressing anger is not the same as feeling anger. We can feel angry without acting on it.

Thanks very much for this information. 👏

True. Such a shame it's not one of mine. It's honestly my biggest struggle. It sounds so easy, doesn't it?

Toxic people dominate and degrade me…. I love it 🔥🌈🤭🤭😘

People need to learn not to give a shit lol

Sociopaths and narcissists use "calmness" and a soft voice to manipulate and to control, and to play innocent in order to blame the real victim.

@user. Yes, both Buddha & Jesus taught loving kindness. And when we view the world & respond to it from a spiritual perspective we are protected by the Dhamma.❤

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Dukkha, Samudaya, Nirodha & Marga. The Four Noble Truths They are the truth of suffering, the truth of the cause of suffering, the truth of the end of suffering, and the truth of the path that leads to the end of suffering. More simply put, suffering exists; it has a cause; it has an end; and it has a cause to bring about its end.

@@elizabethvarghese5511 The Four Noble Truths are central teachings in Buddhism that outline the nature of suffering and the path to its cessation. They were the first teachings given by the Buddha after his enlightenment. 1. Dukkha: The Truth of Suffering - **Understanding Dukkha**: The first noble truth is often summarized as "life is suffering," but this is an oversimplification. Dukkha encompasses not only overt suffering like pain and sorrow but also a more subtle dissatisfaction that pervades all forms of life due to impermanence. Even joy and happiness are seen as dukkha because they are impermanent and eventually lead to suffering when they cease. - **Types of Dukkha**: Traditionally, dukkha is categorized into three types: 1. **Dukkha-dukkha**: The suffering of suffering. This refers to obvious suffering and pain. 2. **Viparinama-dukkha**: The suffering of change. This refers to the suffering caused by the change, such as the loss of loved ones or the end of pleasure. 3. **Sankhara-dukkha**: The suffering of conditioning. This is a more subtle form of suffering that arises from our mental formations and attachments, even in the absence of overt pain or change. ### 2. Samudaya: The Truth of the Cause of Suffering - **The Role of Desire**: The second truth identifies desire or craving as the root cause of suffering. This includes not just desires for pleasure but also the desire for existence or non-existence. - **Three Types of Desire**: 1. **Kama-tanha**: Craving for sensual pleasures. 2. **Bhava-tanha**: Craving for existence, or becoming. 3. **Vibhava-tanha**: Craving for non-existence, or cessation. ### 3. Nirodha: The Truth of the Cessation of Suffering - **Achieving Nirvana**: The cessation of suffering is achieved by extinguishing tanha (craving). Nirvana, the ultimate goal of Buddhism, is a state of liberation and freedom from suffering. It's described as a state of peace and release where there is no more craving, aversion, or delusion. ### 4. Magga: The Truth of the Path to the Cessation of Suffering - **The Noble Eightfold Path**: This is the practical guideline to ethical and mental development with the goal of freeing the individual from attachments and delusions; it leads to understanding the truth of all things. It is often divided into three core sections: 1. **Wisdom (Panna)**: - Right View: Understanding the Four Noble Truths. - Right Intention: Commitment to ethical and mental self-improvement. 2. **Ethical Conduct (Sila)**: - Right Speech: Speaking truthfully and kindly. - Right Action: Acting in non-harmful ways. - Right Livelihood: A non-harmful occupation. 3. **Mental Discipline (Samadhi)**: - Right Effort: Cultivating positive states of mind. - Right Mindfulness: Being aware and mindful of thoughts, feelings, and actions. - Right Concentration: Developing deep concentration through meditation. ### Practical Application To apply these truths in one's life, one begins with understanding and accepting the reality of suffering and its cause. Practicing mindfulness and meditation helps in observing one's mind and reducing attachments and aversions. Ethical living strengthens this practice by minimizing harm to oneself and others, creating a supportive environment for spiritual growth. The Eightfold Path is not necessarily sequential; it's a holistic practice where progress in one area can support growth in others. By walking this path, one gradually uproots the causes of suffering, leading to greater peace, liberation, and enlightenment.

age just a number if u young inside I have very toxic hatefull someone my gift to him silence because he's pure evil for so many years

I love your stories

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It's been two months. Has your stress disappeared ?

Thankyou

I agree completely & live by this 🙏

Yes walking away is a solution but what if they start triggering you. How can we let go everytime?

@@sakshibagga3771 it’s hard, so hard, but not impossible. The more you practice, the easier it will get. Don’t beat yourself up for slipping up, just commit to trying again the next time. Something that helped me was asking myself if I wanted this person to have power over me, because when someone gets a reaction out of you, that is their power over you. Nobody treating you poorly should get that power. Besides, what they want is to get a rise out of you, so by not reacting or by walking away, you completely remove their power over you, you deny them what they want, and, most importantly, you are protecting your peace. ❤️‍🩹 You got this!

how I walk away from super toxic mother/brother-in-law?

Lara D true

I knew i felt uneasy about his advice, and you articulated it well why. These are impossible standards to meet to be completely unphased by a dude screaming at you.

The message is not that you should smile at angry people. It’s that you shouldn’t let their anger and harsh words in your head.

Yes, I love what he says but I have to agree with that. I vividly remember one time i decided to try not to hear what my husband was screaming at me, just be positive and smile..he got so angry I had to run out of the house and hide in the woods. I guess the advice is good if you sre dealing with normal people, but not with batshit crazy ones.

100% correct! “WIPE that SMILE off your face or I’ll do it for you!” Have been blessed with times when people were ‘blame shifting’ or ‘shame dumping’ on me & was instantly able to see that it was THEIR ISSUE & my silent look was one of curiosity on many levels.

Are you incorporating buddhist wisdom more in your life?

It is a philosophy which encourages you to dig down and find and apply your own philosophy ❤

11. Be vegan.

That would go against point #1. Plants are living beings.

@tansuee7757 What do you mean by No sexual misconduct?

@@globe2555 lol, raping or misconducting with other humans , except ur accepted partners .. it's for lay men , afterall monks don't have partners but eventhey can misconduct , so simply as that ... it's to remove ur lust ..

@@rabbitcreative That should be on the top of the list Veganism is the future

True! Also you can manifest toxic behavior just from the environment and/or people around you! Please don’t always point the finger at yourself! As the culprit

Yes

Wow! This is so true and humbling. Wise words for those of us on the journey.

absolutely true.

I don't think so only those who think they are too great turn out to be toxic I have never done anything toxic so far

I so much agree n believe the same, it'll not easy though, but I try as much possible.. Coz of course I distance myself Or nott even enter that place, but the thoughts are there in mind which somewhere hurts me badly.. But still I try to avoid such people.. And keep telling them in mind.. God bless you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

So true they are projecting their own fears on us !

"That's the way to love them but to love myself, too." Thank you for this. ❤

It is not your job to save anyone and you will be go down with them if you try to save them! This isn’t Christianity which is the point lol

Everyone is basically in a 3-foot deep kiddy pool choosing to drown and refuse to just stand up and stop drowning

I am so proud to hear when someone praises our lord buddha.he is above all the gods and brahmas in this universe.thank you for mentioning good about our lord Buddha.

what about a WADDDLING TORNADO Woman huge ranting irate woman!

@@stepstoknowinggod PM

@@kalpanikaushalya2948 I’m

Smiling and looking at the toxic person! From Gautama Buddha k!

Great advice, 🙏

So true but easier said than done

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This is practical advise. When somebody is yelling at you or abusing you, it is his problem, not yours. Just think that something is wrong with them....he is suffering from some issues...

Good advice. I dont smile I dont talk but keep quiet . But it takes on my health.

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My 42yr old daughter is mean.My anxiety is so bad because of the games she plays. She is vindictive towards me. My anxiety is so bad.And she lives inside me.There is no getting away

Claire Willatt. If you want to learn and understand more about God’s Word in depth. Listen to this podcast titled, Steps To Knowing God It’s available on all podcast platforms and it will help you grow spiritually. Blessings

@@stepstoknowinggod it’s my understanding Buddha is not god… sooo what are you promoting?? Just curious what your message is here…

@@suecastillo4056 exactly! Buddha is not God and will never be God. Am promoting the the true and living God. The creator of the heavens and earth.

@@suecastillo4056 - ❤️ your ‘SILENCE’.

@@stepstoknowinggod omg Bible basher

Good one mate. Charles Bukowski and Allan Watts, will remind you, you are a miracle, a God. Hoe amazing life is .. 'aroha' from New Zealand. Nicko

I heard the saying that prayer is you talking to the universe and meditation is the universe talking to you. I find listening to be preferable to talking.

@@cherylkeys1284 - Well ‘SAID’.

Same here. Namaste.

I like this Mexican Buddhist

powerful words

Was he really a violent person??

@@rruwanweerasinghe4482 yes … it was, unfortunately

Oh I love that! Well done 🙂 Edit: in how you handled it. I hope you're not around that person anymore and are safe

So true, I wish we could get away from toxic relationships, but they are a result of our own karmic accounts with them. It is better to finish the accounts in this life itself so that there is hope to get harmonious happy people in next life. For me there is no escape...so, I drown myself in spiritual activities and knowledge. It gives a lot of solace .

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Yeah....what if the ball hits you in the eye, breaks your glasses and you need medical attention. Pay it no mind, just smile, it's just a toxic ball in your face.

This. Thank you. 😊

What happens when that ball smashes you in the face while unaware of it in front of many familiar people who laugh hysterically aiming to humiliate you?

Sometimes the ball hits you in the head though.

Wow❤

Dionna. If you want to learn and understand more about God’s Word in depth. Listen to this podcast titled, Steps To Knowing God It’s available on all podcast platforms and it will help you grow spiritually. Blessings

Buddha means happiness.!.. .

You did it and you are the real diciple of lord Buddha

Aw! Congratulations! I truly relate!! 🫂

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Me too; I was offered mediation, but I thought that once they know for sure the impact of their behaviour, that will encourage them to continue.

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@@manasirpriyogaan9438 thankyou, rose

You nailed it.

I understand you, I feel you.

I don't think the Buddha taught to cut people off.

@@hellofromdave actually my friend a catholic priest on EWTN just commented sometimes it’s best to stay away from someone to avoid sin! I wonder if a monk would agree?

@@hellofromdave NO CONTACT with those that hurt you---mentally or physically. Blessings to all that do not understand or have not experienced this kind of hurt in their lives...yet

@@christophercardenas157 but the best thing is to train your mind to not be affected by toxic people. Avoiding them is not the best way. But if you feel like you can't do it yet it's better to avoid. But if you learn how to not be affected then even if you meet toxic people in the future you can live without pain

@@lillilmeowmeow4262 Avoiding them is...the best way...it's better to avoid...(and) not be affected (by) toxic people...(then) in the (present and) future you can live without pain. Again, Blessings to all that do not understand or have not experienced this kind of... toxic people... hurt in their lives...yet

Great ! I had been listening to different versions of this story. But the way you explained is fantastic and made me listen to your talk again. I am aware when I get angry and realise it exposes my weak mind. Hence in the process of acquiring that state of compassion, self-love, calmness and positivity. Thank you on this Guru poornima Day!

True

I am a believer in keeping silent when I deal with the toxic person in my life. You see, when he is abusing me verbally, I have found that by reacting, no matter how innocently, like sometimes I have said I didn’t do that it’s not my fault. You see saying that always makes him say more rude things to me. So ifHe says rude things to me, I usually just sit and innocently listen to his crap. I have tried to defend myself, and he never listens to my self-defense or supports me in any way when he is being abusive.

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Yes me too. It’s so hard when it’s your family hurting you. I also am working on this. Not reacting.

Not all

This is so true. I have noticed this also. And they will seek you out. They know that you're avoiding them, but they will literally hunt you down.

Relatable

Correct! These people just want to get into a conversation and they are quite desperate in doing so. Their dedication is highly commendable. 😂🤦

beneath anger lies grief

I love this.