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Everytime my gut feelings told me something was wrong with a women, i should have listen. Everytime. Trust your instincts.

" If you are feeling depressed, you are in the past. If you are anxious, then you are in the future. If you are at peace, you are here right now." -Lao Tzu

I was in a 20 year marriage. She began treating me like crap: cold, distant, disdainful. My trust went out the window. Figured she was sleeping with someone else. Then she became violent to both our daughter and I. I stayed through 2 long years to keep the daughter safe till she graduated HS and went off to college. Soon after the daughter left for college, I packed all my stuff in 4 hours and left. I had called in a team of movers. The wife was remorseful and wanted me back. I proceeded with the divorce.

You only become a man once you get over the first woman that takes your soul. There are two types of men 1) he never recovers 2) he becomes better.

The person who is most in love is the person with the most to lose. Simple fact.

Here's a solution: Let go of the things you can't control.

I'd agree: never try to revive a failed romance. BUT I will say this: I dated a girl for 3 years, loved her insanely (too much really compared to who she turned out to be) and she reciprocated, so we thought we where going the distance, or at least I thought so. She had other plans though, and we broke up. I was lost and couldn't figure out why it fell apart. 6 months later we took another crack at it, and 1,5 years later it went to shit, and this time for good. And this time I had no misgivings about who she really was (a crazy, egotistical narcissist who was completely incapable of self-reflection and empathy... Avoid these people at all costs!!!!). The point is this: I got closure. The amazing, beautiful, sexy, fun girl I thought dumped me the first time around, turned into an ugly, horrible witch the second time. I don't think I'd have recovered, if I didn't get the chance to "see her" for real. Proceed at your own risk though... It's a dangerous strategy for closure, but it worked out in my case.

Knowing that "You don't own her" and "She isn't yours" is very empowering. Enjoy the relationship while it last whether it's a month, a year, or a lifetime.

i dealt with trust issues by not allowing myself to be overcome by jealousy. if she wants to wander thats fine, i constantly flirt too. does this mean i have an ace up my sleeve, no it means im now ready to move on when infidelity or untrustworthiness shows itself. being single isnt always roses but sometimes its better than being needlessly hurt.

You can never build anything solid with someone you don't trust. As painful as it is, accept it and move on, otherwise you are simply wasting your time and prolonging the pain that is about to come your way. Learnt this the hard way. The best thing you can do is learn to break up like a man and move on (no calling and texting them - cut all ties). Start your new life without them and rebuild.

I say hit the gym and do things that make you feel great. It's all about being the best version of yourself. if something doesn't feel right then it's probably best to let it go. be the best you and you will attract what you want in life. much respect -Aaron

1. That little voice in your head is usually right so listen up. 2. If you maintain a dominant frame there will be no question as to whether or not you can trust her. She will be constantly trying show you why she deserves to hitch her wagon to your star. If she's not doing that for you, then she's either doing it for someone else or keeping an eye out for someone she can do it for.

This is one of your best videos. My GF cut me off yesterday (Valentine's Day, no less) via a nasty text. I snooped her phone and discovered her texting with a guy she was romantically involved with at the same time we met. Lesson learned: no more monogamy, no more exclusive dating...ever. Stick a fork in me because I'm done!

I have trust issues. However it's exhausting to feel that way. So I'm in the process of accepting reality. The reality of uncertainties. That nothing on this earth is guaranteed even your life and everything. So I just wanna flow with the tide and accept whatever that comes my way.

My ex girlfriend broke up with me for no reason at all about a month ago. She came back and said she missed me and wanted to meet up and talk shit out. So I told her if she wanted to talk shit out she knows exactly where i live. And of course she never wanted to take the sweet time out of her day to come over. So If it's not sex, I really don't have shit to offer for her 😂

As soon as a woman leaves you for another man it is futile to try to get her back. She is like a cat and chasing her will just make her run away farther. Her heart is no longer for you. She is done, love her enough to let her go and be happy that she found a better partner for her needs due to better compatibility and feel that u are still good just not compatible with her hypergamy needs

Richard, I was married for ten years (tied the knot right out of high school because we were good Christians and all that jazz), divorced about a year ago and I am very, very tentatively looking to start dating. I don't even really know where to begin, having never dated anyone or really even been single since the onset of puberty. It's a really intimidating idea- I've realized that I have been oblivious of the games people play with each other and the way that men and women operate in dating situations. It really seems as though it's a competition or a battle from the very beginning- all these shit tests and hoops to jump though. I digress- I don't know how I've come across your channel, but the past few days I've binge-watched most of your relationship videos, and I want to thank you for a really interesting window into a man's brain and for the insight that I will definitely be utilizing as I try to figure out what sort of woman I want to grow into and the kind of man I would like to be with. So, thank you.

My experience, once a relationship ends I’ve never been able to rebuild it. I’ve tried many times. I had an x cheat on me and I caught her. Once that happened there was nothing but anxiety. As hard as it is, Rich is right. You have to move on. They will continue to destroy you over and over just for their own gains.

My pop from another block!

Spot on. Subtle brilliance here. The moment you start to worry about trust, you (should) know you’ve fallen out of your frame.

a girl i met in college was 5 years older. when we met i was 22 she was 27. she never trusted me and it caused hell in our realtionship. Never understood what i could do to make her trust me. I learned that a women that does not trust will not commit 100% and if any thing goes wrong she will end the realtionship

I agree, once you break up, new is always better. Any time when you go back to ex, it will be always a drama, problems, resentment of the thing you broke up or something else that did not work in relationship. It is hard, I am not saying you should hate your ex, no, you should remember the good and the bad(the bad, so you do not repeat the same mistakes), wish them luck and move on.

there goes a red pill saying "she's not yours, it's just your turn." it's a good reminder to play your part and keep it going

36-year-old male red pill here and you confirmed what I already knew. I do not trust anyone and I know I cannot be in a relationship but I've accepted it and building myself financially and not worrying about dating.

The reason we can have trust issues is because we don't trust ourselves. We allow the words coming out of someone's mouth to dictate how we feel about a certain situation instead of listening to our own voice/intuition/guidance. We can get mad at people who lack integrity all we want, but at the end of the day we are the ones who are lying to ourselves by believing them even when we know deep down something feels off. The less intune we are with ourselves, the easier it is to get strung along and played like a puppet by deceptive people.

I took a girl back after she cheated and learned trust is like a piece of paper crumbled up. You can straiten it back out but it will never be the same. Took her back out of scarcity and fear of loneliness and now see myself as the prize and her loss if she wants some loser

i solved my trust issues by simply not trusting ANYONE!

It's amazing how quickly a girl goes from I'm all yours to denying they even said that when their feelings change.... Never take a woman's words to have any truth in them

Sniff out that she's lying, and simply call her on it. Tell her you expect honestly and no games, and if she bounces, she bounces. I'm in my late 40s and know for a fact a lot of women simply never grow up. They are all about control, and it gets tiring really quick. So I say "OK, you win. I'm out." Then they realize they failed as I walk away. Nobody needs that.

Minute 4:47 a guy is peeing in the background...

How I deal with it is going back to when I was younger. I had an abundance mindset. I didn’t realize that when I was younger. But I didn’t care if a woman cheated on me or whatever. I was able to move on by still doing what I wanted and if she betrayed me I just walked away with no issues and spent my time with someone or something else. When I got older I had forgotten that. But it still applies today. Your time is the most valuable thing you can give to yourself or anyone. Don’t waste it looking for trouble. And definitely don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t value it.

I made the mistake of making my ex my whole world. I ended up having terrible self esteem issues and I started chasing her and became valueless in her eyes. Ultimately she started cheating on me which I see why now. She knew she could do it to me. I walked away broken but now I see the silver lining. I'm not bitter from that relationship but never again will I make a woman my life focus.

Something very important I've learned about trust is to not make someone pay for another person's mistreatment of you. Not only is it not fair, all you really end up doing is mistreating them first. Keep in mind that most people have the same deal breakers in relationships. Instead of obsessing about it, extend the trust a new person deserves, they already know what not to do. If they choose to break that trust, leave. No talking things out, they already knew. It's a lot less stressful and simpler that way

Right on Man. I'm three minutes in and the video is so much more, and so much better, than the title seems to indicate. Great Job. Thank-you.

The person I loved the most, also did hurt me the most. Two years later and I’m still licking my wounds what she did to me.

the fact is that women don't love men the way men love women, but that's not our biggest problem, our big problem is the legal system and if we men don't stand together to change the system to a more level ground it will just keep getting worse.

What you said about dirt is so danm true. Learned that early this year at 24 years old. Respect from Montreal!!

I'm so blessed to be simple and happy with a simple man.

I solved a shit ton of problems by choosing to give staying single a try. The first few years were tricky but I got used to it. A few years later singlehood had become so easy and comfy I decided to abolish dating altogether, that was 5 years ago. It's not for everyone but it is an option and it keeps me perfectly content. I have always been independent and cherished my alone time so it was not a terribly big step for me. There may come a day when I regret the choice or change my mind but for now my interest in a relationship is just not there.

Im always looking forward to your next video. Keep up the great work!

Amazing video, thanks for these awesome and realistic facts that you've pointed out!

This is one of your best videos. So many great lines.

Yup, I got back w/ an old ex-gf from almost 20 years before....BIG mistake, she was much more insane!

This reminds me of a story of a workmate of mine who divorced the same women twice. First divorce she was not happy with the settlement and they ended up getting back together. Ended up remarrying. While he was out of town on business, he went to the ATM to pull out some money. To make a long story short, she drained all of the money out of all their joint accounts while he was out of town. Moral of the story, there is a reason why people break up, and it usually isn't wise to restart a relationship. Great advice on the energy is better invested starting a new relationship. I need to by the book "The rationale male", sounds like it would have saved me a lot of headaches.

1) I trust no woman.2) I stay far away from them.3) I keep my money.4) I keep my house.5) I keep my sanity.Good night.

I intending on sending you an email on my experience later. Good knowledge that you are offering here, very logical and realistic info.

The heart is deceitful above all things.

I have the book and love it, I can't believe how much I have to learn I'm amazed.... Thanks brother 🙏🏼

The one with the most to lose is in the weakest position.

Thanks for your videos, they have a lot of truth in them

I watch this video every week

thanks you for ur videos they really help me out to see I'm not going thru this alone and getting advice on what not to do.

I realized I only experienced trust issues of my own with a s/o in the past simply because I hadn’t done enough work to build as much value in myself as I would have liked. It had nothing to do with the other person. I just needed to improve myself so I felt secure in who I was.

I generally walk into any relationship whether intimate or business, with a mindset where I give freely of my trust. The other person either maintains that level or works their way downhill from there. Perhaps this is naive but unless I get an immediate, visceral, gut feeling that this person is shady AF, I tend to give the benefit of the doubt. Also, there is much to be said about instinct or gut feeling, but unless you actually have red-handed proof or evidence, you can never accuse someone merely based on a hunch or suspicion. Especially in an intimate relationship. You will destroy that relationship if you are wrong and the other person may view your accusations as projection and now not trust you! If you really feel strongly about your gut feeling....walk.

Ha Ha Ha, the 20 or so seconds leading up to the 3:00 mark - Such great advice and well finished. Love your vids, keep it up.

Moved in with my now ex after 6 months together. I played on just staying with her for 2 weeks till I found a place...cause I moved near closer to her for a job...when I tried to move out she got all pissed saying it was just back peddling the relationship....so I agreed to stay....man that was 14 months of fighting. Getting thrown out on a monthly basis.

Richard, thanks for your videos. I'm 28, single, and crafting the rest of my life by spending a lot of time what it is I actually want to do with my day. I don't need a lot of money, the American dream, etc. I just want to gain wisdom patiently and explore the beauty of nature, ancient wisdom, and becoming a musician/therapist. I've even mentioned the red pill to my mom and she is very open to men's view of the constant warfare between the sexes because she knows how 'clever' she's been with my dad and her current husband. Anyway, I feel so glad there's a community out there speaking up for a man's journey in this society. My conscience doesn't love the p&d approach, and I'm wondering if sex is worth it at all.... feel me?

I was with this one girl for 8 months, and around the two month mark I began to notice how her behavior would change, even down to how she would speak. I had a feeling something was off or that she was talking to multiple other guys, which she was. Likewise, I changed up my behavior, but I did so with mini goals in mind to see if I can pick up the smaller details to make up the full picture for the rest of the time I spent with her. I didn’t want to jump to conclusions, so I enjoyed what good came out of it until I finally painted the picture, went on a whim, and fished to see if I can get the truth out of her. Confident in my progressive understanding of what was going on behind the scenes I confronted asking who she was speaking to, and evidently got my answer. From that point on I haven’t been in contact with her since, almost 6 months now!

The Bible says: A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Boys think twice be choosing a wife, also if you bang around be serious to what you do and count always with consequence. means if you not giving seroiusity to relationship she will leave you for better opportunity. But be also kind of men women would want to have a relationship with, it will makes your life so easy

Trust issues & abandonment issues go hand and hand. I would say I typically have very low trust issues with men I have been in relationships with, only recently were my boundaries too low & I let the wrong men in too closely and they just proved all my "trust issues" correct. Which hence, gives me some solid trust issues now. lol. I dealt with it by asking him about it, I can be very direct in that way. Anyhow, I would highly recommend working on your own personal growth in all areas to reduce any and all levels of insecurity in your life, the more developed, accomplished, insightful and secure you are as an individual the better partner you are for someone else. All you can do is work on yourself. Period.

Damn Rich I loved this video. You are spot on with your perspectives. I just go with the flow. If she is a buckminster now. I enjoy the ride, because I know it's going to end. When it's over, there's always someone else to take her place. I like being free. If I need feminine intimacy it's not hard to find.

Excellent video as usual!

Like the honesty in your videos! It would be great if you could do a video on males women should avoid!!!

One of your BEST videos

Vid is 5 years old, what a timeless video.

I trust nothing. That’s how I saved myself from lots of heartbreak.

Thanks for the Advice, it has helped me immensely.

I like watching your videos because you make a lot of sense. It doesn't hurt that you come from a different time (Yeah, I'm dating you. Raw and Delirious? Good stuff.) I can relate. I'd only be guessing how young most of your male audience is because of their mindset. They weren't raised the same way so they think very differently. They need a voice of experience. It's all been done before; maybe a little differently but not as much as they think.

I have to disagree on only one thing: Living with the [then] girlfriend can be great. My experience was superb and I miss it greatly. Cooking meals together was fun and romantic--loads of chemistry there, few beers after work, shopping and decorating together, hanging out and talking into late nights. Best part of my day was ringing the doorbell, seeing her open the door, tilt her cheek for me to kiss after a hard days' work... Miss that most of all. Never had an issue living together unlike most people. THE problem she was single mom of two and I didn't trust her with her ex coming over--later she told me he was which was unfair to me and to her kids.

BRAVO....looking for trouble will result in you ALWAYS finding it. However, saying one thing and doing another has grown to be my pet peeve. I was married for over 20 years and for many of those, I knew that he would lie occassionally (usually about how much money he had spent), but I was young and I chose to focus on other things (kids, home, his good points, ect.), and although I knew he would lie, it was never over what I then percieved to be "big things". After a build up to his mid life freak out, that ended up with loosing a 20 year business, multiple vehicles, basically a loss of all financial security we had both worked so hard for for so long. He has since gotten clean, and I had recently started letting him come hang out on weekends, but insisted if he wanted a relationship, counseling was a deal breaking necessity to address, not just the drug use, but also communication issues and the complete loss of trust. He recently texted me telling me that there was no pay off for him getting clean....that it is a hard thing to do, but he did it for me, and felt like after 3 months, I SHOULD TRUST HIM AGAIN. (After over a year of drug use and escalating daily deciet, mind you.) I don't even have to explain to a logical grown person all the things wrong with that statement, but it did clarify one very important thing for ME. The papers have been filled out for weeks, but they will be filed on Monday, and we can all TRUST THAT. ~♡~ Again, balanced and intelligent video, thoughtful responses....starting to get addicted to this channel. Good content, for sure, plus you MUST be a freaking genius, considering how much of the time you express opinions aligned perfectly with my own...lol. Great minds, I guess. ;-)

Whats up man, hust want to drop some love, like your clips keep on keepin on!! *better version*

This was a good topic, you did a great job :-)

Women with Trust issues can be the worst experience... I moved in with a single mom & later into the relationship she admitted to me she kept tabs aka Stalked my ex's Facebook page once a month...I could not believe she admitted that. WOW!

The circumstance does not make the man, it merely reveals him to himself... ~ James Allen.. As A Man Thinkith-

Trust and Women, don't belong in the same sentence.... Thanks for all the videos!! 4:52 spot on...

Cool jacket and shirt Richard. Where are they from? Thanks for all the great content. Kudos.

You're the truth big bro!

So enjoy it for as long as you can.

Open your eyes not your heart. Especially with women! Keep it red pill simple.

Sooo basically since you will 100% find dirt on a woman if you go looking for it... the lesson is don't date. They will all do you wrong, lie to you, or betray you/your trust at some point. Its just the nature of things. Adapt, sleep with them, and keep it pushing to the next one.

You r a great guy with powerful Words👍👍👍👍

Thank you for your work.

Thanks for the video.

Carry yourself as the prize.

great video!!

Long distance relationships EQUALS Long distance cheating, just my opinion. My best advice is to avoid long distance romance. Recipe for disaster

Thanks I really needed this

Can't agree more! Although I don't consider myself a red pill guy it is true!

In God, I Trust - in all others, I monitor.

Thanks, pops! 🙏🏽

Hey Mr. Entrepreneur behind the wheel, love your videos very good stuff. I am curious as to weather you have any opinions on the archetype of the sigma male and if so what you have to say on the matter. As an introverted person I feel more relation to it than the alpha.

Great video. I really like that you mentioned that he wasn't her first choice. Never be someone's second choice. Whether you're a woman or a man, it doesn't matter. If you're looking for a serious relationship that has a potential to be long-lasting, look for someone who will be your first choice, and who will have you as their first choice. Anything else doesn't have any chance of working long term.

You, the individual is The Prize 🎁

Hey Richard, was hoping you could do a video with your take on 'dread game'. There is some TRP content on this, but very little on KZfaq, and I'm interested in your take on this. Thanks!

Glad I subscribed. Bit wishy washy for the guys but the Don Miguel Ruiz - Mastery of love. Talks about there is no such thing as ownership. Eddy Murphy Raw 😂 lol

Reading The Rational Male now! 👍🏾

Looking more gorgeous than usual. Is it the coat? Good video!

I found that, in my own experience when I surrounded myself with women, some very attractive and some not and I was dedicated to keeping them as friends, while with my girlfriend at the time, I had ZERO trust issues.

tks man. the garbage image was vivid, but i will definitively go with it. d, from Brussels/Belgium ;-)