How to Decrease Aggressive Behavior Hitting and Throwing

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This video is about "How to Decrease Aggressive Behavior - Hitting and Throwing."
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@missmemissy 2 жыл бұрын

My 22 month old watched Kung Fu Panda once and has now been karate chopping people for over a month 🙃 you're not wrong.

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching!

@uhohnoseatbeltTV 5 жыл бұрын

I love that you point out that “no” and “stop” are SURVIVAL words and that kids should know them. I hear and read all the time about how we shouldn’t use “no” .. but it is important for them to know and understand it. Thank you for sharing all this advice!

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 5 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Please share on social media!

@luanagomesgoncalves7985 2 жыл бұрын

@@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy There is a grown woman on Netflix but she needs to learn to say no.

@virginiam.garcia692 Жыл бұрын

Thanks

@warholcow 6 жыл бұрын

Really enjoy your videos. Thanks!

@rosekay9773 21 күн бұрын

Wonderful! Thank you!!! You are so kind.

@rochellenavarro28 5 жыл бұрын

Wonderful videos! My son is 4 years old and a late talker. He's been in the same school/daycare since he was 4 mths old and in speech therapy. He has been increasingly getting better, but still a lot of jargon. Thank you for your videos! Very informative.

@giffyarts9486 5 жыл бұрын

My little gir also is a late on speech she is 3 and going to 4 august its crazy the tantrum she does

@tammiemcdaniels4838 4 жыл бұрын

@@jonboll-LGM if you can't comment on the topic and be a positive member of the group then you should NOT be here trolling for improper word choice and grammar. We understood exactly what she meant. Her name is Rochelle Navarro not "hey lady". If you want to be specific!

@monikachakarova5177 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Rochelle! How is your son doing now? I’d love to know as I have a 4 years old boy going through the same situation and Im really hoping for the best… thank you!!

@Ciggysuperchick Жыл бұрын

This is great advice. Thank you

@silviagonzalez5275 2 жыл бұрын

It's 11:51pm and I'm a mom of a 6 year old who is non-verbal and has autism. I have just gotten my son to go to bed. Often I try to redirect him to something else. Today that didn't work. I tried to comfort him with words and hugs. That didn't work. I tried to ignore it that didn't work. Today was really hard. Nothing seemed to work and I couldn't figure out what was bothering him. I feel for all parents in my situation. It's not easy. In the end today, I didn't figure it out and eventually my son tired himself out from all his screaming and fell asleep. Now I'm just watching videos to better educate myself on how I can reduce his aggression and hitting.

@rebeccajackson4398 11 күн бұрын

My son is 4 and AUADHD and I'm going threw the same thing atm I hope things turned out okay for you and if you have any advice it would be so much appreciated x

@zohrajamani3476 2 жыл бұрын

Parents need a looooootttt of patience even my daughter she gets angry fast but I keep patience and she’s a good and discipline girl now 😘

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 2 жыл бұрын

Nice

@sszahid758 7 ай бұрын

Absolutely true

@11kiren11 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your brilliant advice!

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@DevineLoved 4 жыл бұрын

This was very helpful especially since I deal with autistic kids!

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 4 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help.

@mily87ful 5 жыл бұрын

You are so sweet this videos help a lot. I work as a home care nurse and the atrocities I see is beyond crazy , some parents do not have any boundaries, they let a 2 year old rule ! Am not even talking about my patients ( their siblings) I am watching videos on how to deal with a 4 year old biting, throwing my waters, and even trying to hurt my patient ( the sister) . I try to be so patient and acknowledge his feelings, but lately I can’t even look at that child.

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 5 жыл бұрын

I'm glad it could help. Best of luck!

@mehwishkanwal8707 7 жыл бұрын

I m thnkful to u

@linseyhuffaker2304 3 жыл бұрын

thank you this was very helpful!

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@musicopensminds5555 3 жыл бұрын

Very helpful .thnx for sharing

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 😊

@DevineLoved 4 жыл бұрын

I would even fake cry and it gets to them to be able to see I’m sad and they would randomly comfort me 😂

@tannyasuquitana5694 5 жыл бұрын

This vídeos are amazing.. I’m studying for speech pathology and I really liked to see this. It will help me a lot💜

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 5 жыл бұрын

Walkie Talkie Speech Therapy Inc. I'm so glad! Please share on social media.

@almaskokni584 6 жыл бұрын

Today I am doing this .it's really work.thank u so much

@luislara2557 3 жыл бұрын

You seem to have a solid foundation in ABA! I graduated in SLP but I’m currently working as an RBT while pursuing my masters. Great tips!

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Good luck!!

@kevingordon8302 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Welcome

@bernicejohall3644 Жыл бұрын

It's when I tell my 2 yr old no he either hits or throws things

@karlacipriano7807 Жыл бұрын

Or knocks things down

@1tomariah321 5 жыл бұрын

What if I just generally get very easy very fast....? Everything literally and I can't control it and apparently people fear me when I'm angry but they tell me they like me alot when I'm not angry and that I'm very nice and polite

@Huskylove12300 3 жыл бұрын

I liked your video it is helpful thanks

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it helped

@monica_30 3 жыл бұрын

I will take these tips🥰 thank you

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

@matyueh6016 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the tips..done subs👍

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@cleanandambient4387 4 жыл бұрын

helpful, my almost 3yrl old, is hitting, throwing and spitting... Ithank you :)

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 4 жыл бұрын

Hope it helps!

@ruchisingh4253 3 жыл бұрын

Mine is continuing to hit and say sorry after 5 min.... He makes it a routine.... Can you help

@veerasundriyalpawar3212 3 жыл бұрын

Even my three year old daughter throws things, gets angry very soon, doesn't want to listen , back answers also.. don't know how to deal with this and I am so stressed out due to this..

@veerasundriyalpawar3212 3 жыл бұрын

@@ruchisingh4253 my daughter too says sorry but again she does the same..

@A4969Z 2 жыл бұрын

Plz help I'm suffering, my lil sis is crazy and my neighbours are fed up with her loud outbursts and violent actions

@TheChristocrats Жыл бұрын

My son is 6 and Autistic, he is partially verbal and leaning new words everyday. However he gets angry and starts hitting ONLY when he is tired and wants an object really bad. He recently has shown an interest in taking pictures...and wanted to play with my really expensive camera I use for work. I obviously couldn't let him play with it and we were trying to find him an alternate camera he could use but he got fixated and spun out of control and started hitting me because I wouldn't let him have the expensive camera. Once they spiral into screaming and hitting....is there no way to bring them back down? My wife took him out of the room and finally got him to lay down....but MAN was he angry.

@colettelander6984 Жыл бұрын

Hi! I work as an LSA with autistic kids and I'm just trying to figure this out myself. What I've found works is firstly giving them some space, then quite often they'll seek comfort and you can get closer. It's really helpful if they have any objects that can act as comfort objects, like a blanket or a specific teddy! Other than that they usually just need to be soothed and have the safe space to feel their emotions. Good luck to you!

@lucinda6286 2 жыл бұрын

I'm a new para educator. What do you do when a child 5 years or older are throwing chairs and tables and destroying the room?

@gracesequeira7907 6 жыл бұрын

Hi I am a preschool teacher and work with under three age group of children I would really like to help my student who has language and social development issues. Hitting is one of my big concern at the moment, I used to do the gentle hands approach but the hitting has become very intense. I want to protect other children from being hit and also use strategies for the child who is hitting.

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 5 жыл бұрын

That sounds tough! I'd encourage you to seek advice from other people at your school.

@SRoseBlog 5 жыл бұрын

1 An enclosed time out area like a crib 2 u can restrain the child by holding him in a baclwards hug until he calms down

@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes behaviours become learned you have to evaluate the function of the behaviour then you can find the right strategies

@AmanBansil 4 ай бұрын

hi, we have a 3 year old who won't share toys. She goes to other people's homes and gets mad if kids play with their own toys. she thinks they are hers. Any suggestions?

@lamyaataha4931 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the information!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

@evelynaguilar4055 5 жыл бұрын

Hi my 2 year old started daycare this week my sons is aggressive at daycare but at home its just him no other siblings just my husband and I he is the most sweetest boy when he is at home. I just need advice of how to deal with this behavior at daycare. Also he is delayed in speech. Love your videos very helpful.

@emp2003 5 жыл бұрын

Evelyn Aguilar I am having the exact same issue. Were you able to find help???

@SRoseBlog 5 жыл бұрын

Home school him

@thatslife3637 4 жыл бұрын

Hey, really liked your videos I've been through some today! Actually I've been told by my mom that when I don't give my baby 2yo a proper time which he expects from me then he started to GE frustrated and annoying. Since I'm living in UAE there's no big family only your own so here's only me n and my husband here whether I'm my homeland there were so many people around my son he never hit me that time when I was there but when I came back he doesn't like to. Me to go anywhere nor in kitchen to do some work not even allowe me to go to washroom. And he just wants me to get him play with him or give him my all. I tried so many things to let his attention on learning toys or names or some words but as he's very hyper active Mashallah he doesn't even listen to me really 😔

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 4 жыл бұрын

Hi! Sorry to hear it's been difficult. Here's some more tips kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e7qJrLdo29iug58.html

@urvashipatel5214 2 жыл бұрын

Hi...i am in abudhabi n my nephew is in india gujarat he is 2.5 n.is in nursery n.we have so many complaints about him being aggressive n hitting pther kids n the nursery teacher singles him out...she has no.clue how to control

@missjess3292 3 жыл бұрын

My 3 year old hits me anytime I have to say “no” and I’ve tried these tactics before and it doesn’t work. If she knows it hurts me she laughs and calls me names and has a smile on her face. Not sure what to do at this point. Been through a lot of videos and haven’t found one that has a solution for her horrible evil behavior. She’s defiant. Therapy starts wensday . But still trying to educate myself more

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Best of luck with therapy starting! hang in there!

@mirrormirror444 3 жыл бұрын

Going through the same with my 4 yr Old son

@nikkid8519 2 жыл бұрын

Yea my grandson will hit or say awful things. When i tell him it hurt me, he says i want you to cry. 😬 I'm worried about him. Here can be sort sweet though so i hope he is just learning emotions and cause and effect. 🤷‍♀️

@nikkid8519 2 жыл бұрын

Do you think she is needing extra attention? One on one play time. A better connection with you? Im no expert but this could be it in some instances. 🤷‍♀️

@amandafield1459 2 жыл бұрын

What did you end up doing ? Having similar issues with my newly 5 year old

@lamiabundakji1843 4 ай бұрын

❤

@david_blomquist131 Жыл бұрын

💗💗💗

@nelsreji 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Nice to see your videos. Really useful. I would like to view videos for Autistic child 3 years old. Focusing n speach therapy. Thanks

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you like it.

@DevEspanol Жыл бұрын

My younger son is 2 and so different from my older son is 4. My younger son is kind of aggressive but not really. He do things like push, hit, bite and head bump to call for attention, for example to try to my older son run after him. but he does not show sign that is mad or angry, just do it and that start worrying us. we do some of this tips already but We wonder how we can help him more.

@aselamalawa 4 жыл бұрын

Hi this tips will useful for me. Because my 2 years old baby girl start to hit me. I'll try these tips. Thank you so much.

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 4 жыл бұрын

Hope it helps!

@MrjordanYT09 2 жыл бұрын

Tv and movies and toys

@ImChickenLittle 2 жыл бұрын

Kids shows are way less violent then stuff I watched between 1998 and 2005 and my reaction to not getting my way wasn't to hit other kids or an adult. The child needs a better outlet for being upset and know if they continue this means to release anger there will be consequences, just like if an adult starts attacking other adults they can go to prison or other things

@mariahconklin9345 3 жыл бұрын

This is great but I work with adults who have special needs so would this advice work for them?

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

I really can't advise on working with adults. May want to seek help from a behavioral specialist.

@nichgorman8806 2 жыл бұрын

I don't understand tip #4 pls elaborate

@SamanthaPeregrina 3 жыл бұрын

Ahhhh. No wonder why my cousin hits his sister! His dad lets him watch boxxing and fighting.

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching I am glad you found this insightful.

@rockbandman9 3 ай бұрын

Maybe all of this while wearing protective gear like motorcycle clothes with armored plating? Might as well have them learn that they will get hurt if they hurt you. That I’m sure will make them stop.

@gpalla8072 6 жыл бұрын

My little girl has had multiple kids hit her, what is your recommendation to correcting other people’s kids in front of parents

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 6 жыл бұрын

Hi! Thanks for watching! That's a super tough one and I think it depends so much on the situation. Best of luck.

@sszahid758 6 ай бұрын

what to do when boy is 20 years old with autism. If we say anything when he is angry thats make them more angry because of sensory overload so staying quite is only option and works better in most cases.

@ishaishasheikh Жыл бұрын

My child slaps on his own face to show his anger

@wendy2001217 2 жыл бұрын

What do you do when you said soft hand ? Like touching gently on cuddly toys?

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 2 жыл бұрын

You would pet the toy or cuddle the toy and show the child how to do this.

@OZ-hn2sh Жыл бұрын

What about if the child is 8 years old??

@Jared__Bowden 4 жыл бұрын

I’m not so sure visualizing fighting in kids shows necessarily results in the child mirroring that behavior. This has been a common misconception that’s often suggested as a cause of bad behavior. Kids shows today are significantly less violent than they used to be. I think you nailed many of the other causes however.

@SLC09 4 жыл бұрын

I'm a support worker for a man with autism and mental illness, and whenever he becomes aggressive he speaks of transformers (the movie) and begins destroying things as if he were one. It may be due to past experiences or just simply frustration, but he definitely takes on and tries to embody the various movies/songs he's seen/heard. This may be different for each person with Autism, hence the spectrum, but I 100% agree with what is said in the video. 🖤

@TentOfShalom 2 жыл бұрын

Not Jeffy!...Jeffy has ruined my son! Because it appeared to be innocent and I didn't look closer. Then heard fuck this fuck you mother fucker one day coming from the iPad...then Mario beating princess peach. That shit should be illegal. He watched it for almost a year before I even realized it was an adult show masquerading as a kids show.

@nikkid8519 2 жыл бұрын

@@TentOfShalom that's hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm sure he will be fine😂😂😂

@jaweriamasood758 3 жыл бұрын

My 1.5 old child is being hit on a daily basis from his 2.5 year old cousin. Now he developed an aggressive behavior and started hitting me and his own head on things. What should I do

@TU-qc5xr 3 жыл бұрын

I would stop play with that child or talk to the mother and have both decide on how to stop that childs hitting around your child so dicipline is the same for both kids.

@kusumbhattacharjee8062 Жыл бұрын

My 3 and half old son is throwing toys on others and if teacher give him paper to write he throw the paper in dustbin and stand on the table .. if anyone ask him to come down he try to bite them..

@JaneenFebles Жыл бұрын

My friends 5yo is hitting teachers everyday. None of what you suggested has worked. No one even knows why he really hits because he says the most ridiculous reasons like the sky is cloudy, or his marker dried out, or sometimes there is no reason and he ignores you when you ask him. He has had all his stuff taken away because everyday before school his mom says "no hitting today and you get your stuff back and a surprise!" He goes "I'm going to be so good today"... 10 minutes later hitting and trashing stuff. Can you suggest anything to help with this situation?

@niveditapathak6513 Жыл бұрын

Might have ADHD. Get him checked.

@Rishaan9665 5 жыл бұрын

hi my kid pokes other toddlers eyes how to control that

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 5 жыл бұрын

Hi! That's tough. Generally speaking with negative behavior the key is to teach an alternative more appropriate behavior instead.

@emergencyfood5407 3 жыл бұрын

So my sister (she is 8) hits herself with her hands when she wants something and we don't give it to her like phones or she want something but we don't understand what she want because she doesn't talk and i don't think she understand us what should we do ??

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 3 жыл бұрын

Hi! Has she been evaluated? I highly recommend she be evaluated professionally.

@emergencyfood5407 3 жыл бұрын

@@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy No she hasn't been evaluated yet. Thanks for the advice.

@user-pp9sy2hj6k Жыл бұрын

im going to try this with myself i have a bad habit of me and my sibling fighting 😭🤚

@hienienguyen6766 Жыл бұрын

i take away my son's toys. i am learning to do time outs and etc. it's not easy when you are the only parent doing the work.

@eraa4339 2 жыл бұрын

It’s true this that what my son run to shopes take staff and run 🏃‍♂️ and no listen no behave I am very tired I don’t know how to behave with him

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry to hear how tired you are. Here is another behavior video kzfaq.info/get/bejne/sMCle8Z9m76so4E.html I hope this helps.

@jill274 4 жыл бұрын

It's before. Bedtime he takes medicine to help him sleep after he takes the medicine that is when he becomes violant

@tammiemcdaniels4838 4 жыл бұрын

Jill, I would suggest that you talk with his doctor. That sounds like a reaction to the medication. You might ask for a different type of medication.

@silverrose9248 2 жыл бұрын

When I reach the #3 and #4 my 3 year old follows me and cries and continues to hit, throw, and she starts biting. If I continue to move away, say no, stop , she only cries harder and continues the behavior

@sareenanishad6801 2 жыл бұрын

Is hitting biting and throwing behaviours are common😭??I am very much depressed in my 2yr old boy's agreessive behaviours in public

@mattie4775 2 жыл бұрын

My girl does that sometimes especially when we’re out and she’s tired

@barikopman5550 Жыл бұрын

I hit when I get frustrated with my behavior person

@samarpitachoudhury712 6 жыл бұрын

Hi...... My son is 22 months old, and he is into this habit of banging his head against objects, when he is stopped from doing something.. he does it also sometimes to get attention. He speaks monosyllabic words but hasn't started speaking as such.... Could you help, please

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 6 жыл бұрын

Samarpita Choudhury thank you for your comment. Kayla suggests ignoring the behavior when it's for attention and distracting him with another activity. He is probably frustrated by not being able to communicate. If you have not already, contact your doctor and your local state agency (if in the US) for a developmental evaluation for behavior and communication. You can google "early intervention evaluation" and your state. Hope this helps. Feel free to email therapy@walkietalkie.education

@marybrewer6244 6 жыл бұрын

What if I leave and they keep following and hitting??

@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy 6 жыл бұрын

It's tough to say. In general when that happens to me, I continue to move away. I know it can be tough.

@Kaletheist 5 жыл бұрын

I would explore emotion coaching. The suggestion of moving away is nothing more than isolating the child and removing much needed connection. It's giving the child the message that you love is conditional. Instead, keep calm, as gently as possible yet still effectively hold the child's arms by their sides and verbalize for them, 'you must be so mad, I won't let you hit. Hitting hurts bodies. Show me how mad you are, stomp your feet. Now, breathe with me. You are safe, you can handle this.

@mirrormirror444 3 жыл бұрын

@@Kaletheist I think she doesn’t mean leave them completely but step away from them enough not to hit

@almaskokni584 6 жыл бұрын

You are looking so beautiful