Have you ever talked about the relationship between desaire and sex?

Me too.

Me three

same

As do I.

Hell nah!

I missed the last one smh

Yep! They keep getting better and better, and I keep understanding it deeper and deeper. I feel like he’s given me the passport to the rest of my life!

Another way to view this is that you are in the process of learning what you want. In that context, discovering that you don't really want something you thought you wanted is a useful part of the learning process. It is not a failure. So you are doing well by continuing to learn.

Try imagining the opposite. Even if your mind tells you you are silly and wrong. It might be easier than you think. Or remember a situation or time there was the opposite and feel that feeling. For example if you feel abandoned by someone, do you have a memory of someone, like a friend or experiences with people where they made you feel wanted and included? Visualize that memory and linger into the feeling of acceptance etc remind yourself you are worthy of it. Just imagine yourself being the opposite of what you are presently feeling, weather it’s a memory or a complete fiction of your imagination.

⁠@@headbandassasin thank you! But if I do this isn’t it a form of me avoiding the feeling of abandonment and sadness? For some reason I think that I am supposed to allow these abandonment feelings to be felt. I think on some level if I imagine being wanted and included it means I have to give up the other feelings and I think then that I abandon myself. 🤯 thank you ❤

@@ceciliabruma3658 So feeling that you are wanted and included is abandoning yourself? That means you define yourself as abandoned. So you must feel bad to feel good?

Hi Cecilia. You have identified what you are doing...at least part of what you are doing. You write that you think of how a relationship did not work out. In order to think of how a relationship did not work out, you are most likely seeing something and/or hearing something. And you are doing it repetitively. If you are seeing something (in your imagination), probably you are looping that same painful scene over and over. Try this: consciously go back in your imagination before the relationship. Then play the "movie" in your imagination from before the relationship, through the relationship, and after the relationship continuously all the way to now. Do that several times if needed. That may help you to stop looping that painful scene when you give yourself the proper context. Let me know how that helps.

I’m in a similar scenario except i just need to get out of the 9-5 as soon as possible, i loathe it, that’s just the truth. This is after 10 years of fulltime work as an assistant nurse too. Doctors said i had ADD as a kid, tried some meds but soon after felt that something was off. This issue is in my mind/body, my body can literally heal itself, why would i need pills for that? Lol. Anyway, i struggle to focus on stuff etc. The way around that when i’ve REALLY needed to get stuff done is to either schedule it and do ir as efficiently as possible in the spirit of ”let’s just f get this done”. Or i just get pissed off and do it right then and there lol. Now i just want self-employment and financial freedom (who doesn’t i know, eureka, we get it). I’m just open to pretty much everything at this point. But come from a working class background so it’s a new world in a sense. There’s a lot of bs to filter through in the category of self-development too. Loads of people just hopping on the band wagon to make money but who can blame them ig. All i can say thus forth is that internal freedom is unparallelled. I believe in aligning with my truth. I believe i can create it, i’ve manifested smaller things though. It’s a journey. Regardless our worth or value is instinsic and never tied to our productivity in the eyes of society. It’s fundamental and unchanging. I believe we make our truth according to our sense of value. In terms of focus and attention with attention disorders. I’d wager you would need to find something you really are passionate about, this way, it wont feel like a chore. I’m trying that myself, just connecting to myself (without the interference of the outside world and others) it just feels right.

I think Joey still does free intro sessions. Otherwise you could join a Monday Meeting Live and ask him about this during the Group Coaching. There's layers to the problem you're describing. It could take a few minutes to unpack it.

@@TheVitalAesthetic OK thanks alot.

Get clear about what you want. Focus on that regardless of apparent size.

@joeylott568 thanks!