My parents got divorced when I was much younger, I live with my grandparents and my brother lives lives with my father and stepmom. I noticed that my brother tends to stay away from girls even if they’re much younger than him (he’s 10/11) and I thought he just didn’t wanna be judged for hanging out with girls (which is stupid but lots of boys tend to have that mindset) but then I realised that he doesn’t have a woman who is present and involved in his life since our mother left us and our stepmom is horrible to us (despite me not living with her) so I decided that it’s my responsibility to provide my brother with the help that he needs when it comes to his mental health, building his confidence, setting future goals…etc. Thank you for this video. ❤️❤️❤️

love this, thank you so much!

Very grateful, thank you ❤️

God Bless You.

Loved it, thank you so much!

Thanks I needed this for my kid

Incredibly helpful, thank you. I'm a trainee counsellor working in a primary (elementary) school and have learnt so much from your videos! Rhiannon (London) x

This was so golden for me today, so much that I’m crying 😢 Thank you TEACHER :,)

Your videos are awesome and so helpful! Thank you so much!

Thank you.

Thank you so much for sharing! As a therapist who works with children, this was really insightful.

Good advice

I am a social work intern and this seems like an awesome idea! Thank you very much for the helpful information.

Awesome. I apply the exact same process, however before these three steps, it feels for me the real work is done. We go back to the experiences where the negative (self critical) thoughts rooted. This makes these final three steps about 95% more effective (transformed thinking actually sticks). So: self critical talk often flourishes in homes where the parents or brothers/sisters are (self) critical. To truly help the children, you need to find the role models conditioning the child and the experiences in which the thinking rooted. And help the role models first

Very powerful and useful therapy thank you.

This is such a freaking awesome video! This helped me immensely. My 4 year old has recently started a bit of negative talk and I was really searching for something that would suit us and this is it. You’re great! . 🥰♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

I’m in pain Habib g so much trouble rn with my 3rd grader. I’m ready to hear from youuuuu

@the Grateful Therapist : Thank you fo much for this video. I'would love to see a video about how you conduct your first intake session with a child to make it fun, safe and engaging

I think how to do an assessment on child and adolescent counseling would be quite great. Together with interventions to proceed with In different scenarios. Dealing with highly sensitive children. Depression. Abandonment. Neglect. Separation anxiety. Whinny behaviour.

Thank you so much for sharing this video. I watch most of your videos and it helps me a lot. I would appreciate if you could make a video on how to work with teenagers who have strong fear of losing people in their life ( family, friends, etc.) Many thanks!

Hi, thanks so much for your helpful videos! I’m from nz and our 13year old is having some behavioural problems at school. He tends to have a very pessimistic negative view of everything including other people. How can I help him to observe/notice his own negative thoughts? This video you did was great, but is based on an adult identifying the negative thoughts to the child. Can you do a video of how they can identify their own thoughts? Thanks so much!

I loved the video. It’s very simple but very useful and practical. I have a 16 year old daughter that doesn’t want to take therapy after me and her mom separated . How can I help her open up and share all the stuff that she tends to bottle up inside? Thanks a lot.

Hi Quenby! I love your channel & content and recently discovered your Etsy shop (letter writing template was sooooo helpful!). Do you have any tips and techniques for working with siblings who are frequently bickering & genuinely seem to dislike each other? Thanks!

good morning, Do you have a video about autistic children? it would be so good.......un abrazo lindo domingo

Hi thank you for this content. Is it possible to do a video on helping kids with their school stress? I work with high school students as a counselor and I’ve been working with cbt and negative emotions and trying to get to the root however I feel they need more immediate relief dealing with their school hw and assignments. There’s a lot of procrastination, low motivation, and overwhelm with the bigger projects and assignments

How do you feel when people question your reality, questions your feelings or emotions? I feel lousey when that happens & that's basically what's happening

Help be feeling angry and stressed today

I subscribed. Can you do a video on teens with irrational thinking/ dramatizes a lot etc

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Do you keep the cards or allow the client to keep it as reminders at home?

Great examples. Thank you. My child creates terrible scenarios, very pessimist.. how do I help him?

Great content! I needed a tool like this for a particular client. I am wondering if you can make a video about counseling a teen with extremely religious/legalistic/authoritative parents who cannot choose much in life. Client cannot pick clothes, books, shoes, school electives, friend….parents go through the teens things so client cannot journal. Clients self esteem & efficacy is very low. 😬 thank Q

To be honest, it's a great point that decorating positive thoughts and loved ones. It means to say to deal with much helpful ones. Does it mean we do ignore negative thoughts?

Do you mind sharing where/how you got some training on trauma informed art therapy? Def something I’m interested in as well!

Your vidoes are wonderful. If you can make more videos on how to work with negative thougts, it would be great. Thansk a lot!

Can these tips and suggestions that you gave for a therapist be used by a parent with their children ? I have a teenage daughter who is going through stress, anxiety and perfectionist, and we live in another country, and she learns in the local language. Language of the country we live is not a problem, but our family structure is itself mixed culture, and we did have issues between the spouse, I am also getting into healing myself, and I tried asking people around for counselors..but I as a teenager was a stubborn rebel who would shut down, but my teen daughter is an aggressive rebel. And she had to face so many issues adjusting to different places. Now she projects her fear on our 8 year old son ....We as parents know that her fear is from her perspective, and our family tiffs did have a challenge. I ended up enrolling for diploma in counseling, and I know for a fact that family members cannot counsel their children, because we have emotions attached. However, because I have started getting a lot of awareness, I want to know whether I can use these techniques to mold it into my parenting. Can you please put up a video on this where we can help as parents, although we may be therapists or counselors. Even if I get a counselor in school, I know that she will not open up easily, and I am letting her vent and show anger, as earlier she would shut down totally. So, I am holding space for her anger, because she does voice her opinions, yet this yelling and anxiety if prolonged can cause a long term damage on her. So I would like to know if you can help in any way through your videos on this, given the fact that I will still take time to get a counselor, and the place where we live is a little conservative and has some rigid beliefs. So, I am working on healing myself so that I can hold space and try to understand her better. Right now she is not ok with sitting and have a talk with me, so I have to be patient.

What is wrong with negative thoughts & feelings & sitting with them & validating those thoughts & feelings? I think part of why the world is in such disarray is because children were taught that negative thoughts & feelings were bad & they're NOT bad they're just thoughts & feelings & They have a very real point of origin (probably a bully who needs some behavioral boot camp) But adults are not comfortable with negative things, including negative thoughts & feelings & so they forced young children to self abandon & replace their reality with the reality that is more palatable & comfortable for the adults. This is such a problem. Let's not punish the child for having negative thoughts or feelings, Let's punish the bullies & the people who call those feelings wrong. Let's ask kids what they want to do with those feelings rather than replacing them entirely with some fake plesantville positive psychology. If a child says to you that nobody likes them & you say to the child well that's a harsh thought you need to change your thought, that's wrong. You should say yeah it is a harsh thought, what would you like to go with that thought? Lets go deal with the bullies who make you feel that way. Don't change their natural thought patterns deal with the root issues!

Hi Do you a video on dealing with a smart hard working teenage girl who is dealing with some negative thinking and some anxiety? Thank you.

Hello, thank you for your videos! What is the duration of your sessions with elementary students? How many minutes per sessions?

CBT

Thank you for the video. I am preparing for practicum, and I do have a question. The comments you made after the client said they stink and nobody likes them. Your answers or actual question is a great response. On the other hand, if the comments were culturally based, correcting them could cause a rift in the familial structure. Parents may tell their children they are failures because they are not doing well in school. Is there a way to build the child's self-worth without dividing the family?

Any ideas on how to help a child who believes her dad loves her brother more than her?