Clearly a lot of effort has gone into these videos to impact people with ADHD, short clips, camera changes, exaggerated facial expressions, funny side notes, all to keep the viewer's attention. There's no doubt you know your stuff!

"If we are still here, we are trying." *That hit me like a gut punch.*

I’m crying so hard. I’m holding the kitchen counter and sobbing. My family has believe dim lazy and unmotivated for years and I just never have been able to explain it well enough

I have a terrible memory, and whenever I’ve tried to tell my mom she just say something along the lines of “Oh, you’re too smart to have trouble remembering things! Someone intelligent always has good recall!” No, no they don’t.

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Another tip for chores: Suggest doing it together. Once you both get started you might find your ADHDer is more than happy to do the rest themselves (while you stay nearby). Companionship & teamwork = dopamine = motivation 😊

her: your reward system might work a little differently normal people: i get to do. (insert random thing person wants to do next day) lets go to sleep so we can do that sooner me: oooo i get to do (insert same random thing) lets stay up until it’s time to do that

As someone diagnosed with ADHD at the tender age of, 52, I can't tell you strongly enough how amazing your videos are. This one in particular got me teary-eyed by the end. ADHD and lack of understanding have caused a lot of destruction in my life. To myself and to others. It has destroyed relationships, destroyed careers...cost me my freedom. Cost me my family. And cost me to lose 1 and a half years of being a father to my young son. The last several minutes of your video hit me very hard. If certain people in my life were kind enough to empathize with me, rather than seeing my behavior as premeditated and willfully hurtful, things could've turned out better for everyone involved. Keep up the great work. George

I wish I could go back in time and show this to every employer and girlfriend I've ever had. There's no telling how many arguments and how much heartbreak I could've saved myself. But now I have a potentially awesome partner to whom I WILL show this!

Hyperactivity in emotion, never occurred to me

4:55 it brought a tear to my eyes. My wife always complained that I never tried. But she doesn't know that I had given up years ago.

"...which is why going to bed can be such a huge challenge..." > looks at clock > is 3:18am Me: ...I'm going to ignore that.

Dear Hearts--I have another one for the "Losing Stuff" section at 4:11: I would like to ask for your patience and understanding while I do an inventory check before leaving for somewhere. As someone who CONSTANTLY loses her things thanks to ADHD, it is absolutely critical that I look over my belongings each and every time I prepare to transition to a new location. Please do not rush me while I do this, or tease me about it, or otherwise try to convince me to skip it; For one, half-assing this procedure is not a good idea, and is an invitation for disaster (as I commented in another of Jessica's vids, last year I walked off the bus without taking my huge carryall purse with me). I am also already extremely self-concious about my forgetfulness and my religious dependence on organizational strategies, and drawing more attention to this routine only makes me feel more incompetent and silly. Just give me an uninterrupted minute or two to get my shit straight, and we can be off on our merry way--valuables and all. Thanks, Hearts. :)

I have showed some of these videos to my husband with ADHD. We are high school sweethearts and I've seen it effect his change to adulthood in so many ways. Your videos are helping him so much. After a few videos he said you should be president. :) Thank you and I look forward to more.

I just keep laughing at myself?? I feel so validitaded for the first time in 57 years. The bookstore one is soooo me!! I know you're probably getting tired of my comments I've been like non-stop watching you for two days now. Just feels good to finally be understood!! 😭😭😭

Wow, my girl sent me this video. I never thought about having adhd but this video hits A LOT of points and issues I deal with. Imma have to go through more videos of hers.

I can't cope without the routine. I have a strict morning routine yet still get small distrcrations so its become part of that routine to be late every day by 10 minutes.

Don't have ADHD, don't know anyone with ADHD, I just watch because I really like your personality lmao

When I told my best friend I have ADHD, she wanted to bang my head against the wall. She meant that as a joke, but it hurt. It hurt even more when she said she didn't think I'd be mentally ill for so long. I was first diagnosed with anxiety and depression before my therapist noticed my fidgeting and spacing out during therapy. I'm doing my best to move forward without hurt or grudges, and soothe myself. I'm thankful for this community and the support you're giving me. I'm pushing through life because I know I'm not alone.

I was diagnosed in my mid 50's after struggling all my life. I was sad at first, feeling I'd wasted my life having had lots of jobs, destroyed relationships etc. But now I'm now on a brilliant ADHD journey of discovery. The Meds are good, but your videos are awesome in helping me understand ADHD. Thank you so much!

This is so helpful, especially near the last part. I tend to parent my boyfriend and I hate doing it but he doesn't take responsibility or look after himself properly so I do it in his best interest. This helps me realise not to take everything on because I will become stressed by doing everything myself and I will likely become resentful, but I see how hard he works to make sure I'm happy and he's not too bad at remembering things. He's emotionally sensitive and one drawback pulls him back down again and negatively impacts his mood. I've been researching ADHD and being with someone with it and it's helping me understand his thoughts and how he views things, as well as how to support him when he feels overwhelmed in life and emotionally. Your channel is very helpful!

I love the fact that YOUR ADHD keeps MY ADHD interested in your videos because you move and bob around so much I actually focus on everything you say. Also, you’ve helped me understand my ADHD so much. I honestly thought it was just a learning disability for 17 years, but now so much makes sense! Thank you!!!!!

Every point, she hit home and with every point being hit home I became aware of how so many points were being hit home and I realized I’ve been misidentifying a lot of this as who I am (and carried a lot of guilt and shame for not being better) not what my brain does. And realizing these are all to do with ADHD made me cry.

Holy cow this is the most accurate representation of ADHD I’ve ever heard.

The last part of the video made me cry. Thank you :')

I've lived with ADHD all my life, and I think I am just now realizing that my spouse of 13 years might have it too. He has so many of these symptoms.

I love my partner so much and this made me cry. Cause he feels less than and Ive told him hes not less than any normal person. His brain is just wired differently. I love your videos thank you so much.

When I was a kid my parents used to say that if I put half as much effort into doing my chores as I do getting out of them we'd have the cleanest home in the neighborhood. I kinda wish my parents knew more about it at the time and maybe they would have put more energy into helping me cope rather than trying to convince me that I was normal.... Anyways great content.

As someone who has ADD whos also married to a hubby with ADD, this was soooo helpful! Sometimes even some of us who have ADD can forget to be understanding to our fellow brains. Thanks for the helpful vid! Love this channel

I learned I had ADHD when I was in 3rd grade. I'm now 28 and I have learned to control it most of the time but I just got married and still arguments with my wife are tough. I think this will help out a lot. I just found your channel.

Listening to something I already heard like one of my "comfort" shows helps me focus on conversations. Idk it feels like it engages one side of my brain while the other focuses on the conversation.

Girl, I literally cried over this video.No one has ever understood me and I was feeling so much shame and discouragement because I taught I was abnormal and that it was all my fault. Continue doing those videos, you have no idea how comforting it is to others. I am actually going to share it with the poeple that are close to me so they can learn from it. You are amazing. Thank you:)!

The one sentence "if we are still here, we do" hurts so much that I cried.

There’s no way our challenges don’t affect our love ones! It’s part of the guilt I’ve had forever!

I have adhd fidgeting hyperactive racing thoughts losing stuff i get discouraged I can only focus 1 thing at a time My favorite video thank you

This video actually made me cry. Everything about my partner makes so much more sense now. Thank you so much and bless you for this extensive content about ADHD. More people should educate themselves to understand.

I have a friend from church who I've become a lot closer with this year. I always thought she just had a crazy personality but she told me a couple weeks ago that she had ADHD. I looked it up the next day and that made everything make a LOT more sense. Many of the behaviors you're describing in this video are very apparent now that I realize what's going on!

Having a friend with ADHD and watching this video has helped me understand more about the struggles he faces everyday. This has been informative and helpful in so many ways...thank you

I really need this because I don't know what to say with the guy I'm talking to with ADHD, I grow fond of him and wanted him to feel that I genuinely care. Hope he's fine rn.

"Just because we agreed to it, doesn't mean we will remember it" Perfect. If you decide to sell shirts, that one would be awesome.

I am a parent to a child who potentially has ADHD and with just 3 videos here and the one that TED posted on Facebook, you have helped me so much at being a better parent. I could also have this brain difference, so it’s an incredible learning opportunity for me to have found you. Thank you so incredibly much for all of the work that you have done and that you continue to do!!!

I recently found your videos. I've struggled with ADHD for a long time and was officially diagnosed a few years ago, in my late 30's. I'm seriously crying about the "not trying hard enough" I've felt so alone feeling like just trying "to life" is so hard. Thank you.

To be so sensitive yet accused of laziness and/or apathy is so painful.

This is a great video and I really enjoy your videos and how you explain things. But I think people may underestimate how difficult it truly can be to be the partner or family member to someone with ADHD. It's not a failing on either parts, but sometimes it can prove to be too much. Thanks for your great videos.

Thank you! I almost cried. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but i am 100% positive that i have it. At least i know i am not alone.

I go back to this video whenever I feel frustrated with my partner who has ADHD. its honestly extremely helpful, thanks for making great content

"Blessing, and a Curse" phrase always makes me think of the TV show, Monk!

I am a heart, and I come to this channel to fill my cup with fresh perspective on adult ADHD.

THANKS! I'm in my late 30s, and have just been diagnosed with ADHD so schooling everything about it is a bit of a chore. The fact these are short and snappy is what I needed. Ive found it so ironic that many ADHD vids are about 30 mins or so long (I admit I found myself going off to another site mid-video with this - no reflection on the content)!

THANK YOU Jessica - for a video that I just shared on FB with my family & friends that explains for me without me rambling and overexplaining, and heading down multiple rabbit trails and thus getting lost.... well- you know.... I've only just discovered your channel a few weeks ago. Initially I binged watched.... I laughed. I became aware of WHY I struggle and that it's how my brain is, not that I'm broken. Knowing doesn't mean all is better - it just means I can be more aware and accepting I need to walk over a hill while others have a flat path. It means if I'm distracted by the TV in the other room as I'm trying to read a recipe and make dinner- I need to be proactive and have my Bluetooth headset charged up (and nearby) so I can turn on some music and focus on that recipe rather than getting frustrated and having a melt down. I really like that you work hard to make your videos short. So many other videos on ADHD/ADD get toooooo long and I can't stay with them. I hope you continue to keep on making videos and showing ADHD in the positive light- as it isn't negative, people have just made it that way. Thank you also for being fun about it- it's easier to remember when we have fun and laugh.

I nearly died at the cook book example at 1:06. So accurate its wonderful and hilarious. I love these videos. You guys do such phenominal job!

I love this channel, my self-esteem is better now, thank you 🖤

OMG! I'm watching this video as someone with ADHD just recently diagnosed (ugh almost 30) and I laughed at how amazingly on point these all were. I can't wait to show my husband. I subscribed to your channel yesterday and I can't wait to watch the rest of your videos. It's nice not feeling alone or for me "broken" as I've so long described myself. Much love and thanks. 💗💗💗💗💗💗

My "fidget cube" at work is a clicky pen that I click over and over and over and over...... But it helps me stay tuned into the conversation better.... While driving all my coworkers crazy. Lol!!

we do! As she stated so succinctly here"if we are still here ..."

Man, Finally I think i found a channel that might actually help me overcome/manage my ADHD and help me come to terms with not hating myself for my inadequacies

I wish my soon to be ex wife and I had this video years ago. Sadly, it's too late for us, but hopefully these videos will help any future relationship I have. And if either our children have ADHD, hopefully this will help her understand them better.

💙💚💜 You're doing such an awesome job with these vids and info. And they're so easy and interesting to watch. Thnx so much for sharing lovely. Sending love from Australia xoxo 💚💙💜

I was diagnosed with ADHD in first grade (6 years old). I am now 31. I have had such a hard time understanding my own diagnosis. And this made it so much easier to figure myself out. Just recently found your channel. And subscribed. Thank you! ❤️

I can’t stop crying this hit too hard

My boyfriend and I both have ADHD. heh. Our relationship is pretty fun though

You have made my life so much easier :) I have also learned to be more compassionate towards myself!

This is something i needed, my girl have ADHD, it helped a lot

Ive had so so SO many metaphorical spice racks through out my life.

These videos are awesome. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 12 and took medication till 16 then stopped. Now at age 27 I'm getting back on it. Now that I'm older and understand what it is. It's crazy watching these videos and noticing. Yea I do that or, ah that's why.

I'm hyper focusing now

I’m watching this in a train and I’m trying so hard to not cry. I feel so sorry for myself.

We found your KZfaq channel after viewing your TEDtalk, just a week ago. My 11 yr daughter (our ADHD brain) loves your videos! It has been amazing to see the impact on her self esteem and confidence in such a short time! She looks forward to watching a video each day and can't wait to share what she learns with us. She is so excited to have a community that "gets" her. Thank you so much! 🥰

I would like to thank you so much because I have ADHD and ive always have had trouble in my relationships (even some were emotionally abusive) and this makes so muuuuch sense!

I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my KZfaq channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤

My fiancé has ADHD that went undiagnosed until he was in his twenties. He’s being treated now but it can be hard for him (and me) at times. I’ve been watching your channel and it has been so helpful! Thank you for this video.

I just discovered this channel thanks to your TED talk. As the mother of a young adult with ADHD, I feel like I've found a lifeline for me and her! Can't wait to watch more....

I've been binge watching these videos. I was recently diagnosed with adhd. I had not been tested or treated during childhood. These videos are really helping me understand my diagnosis and how to cope with the symptoms that it causes.

I am a 43 year old ADHDer diagnosed at 37-38 which explained my whole childhood. YIKES. Now I am also a single mom with a 9 year ADHD son and talk about struggles. While I'm so glad to have found this channel (I tend to stay away from internet and social media because of the tractor beam affect) I am also feeling very guilty for my parenting style and the years of criticism I've shown my son (newly diagnosed) thinking that he just likes to make me mad, or purposefully ignores me etc. OBVIOUSLY, I haven't done a lot of research on the topic but have purchased many books on it. All of which I have yet to finish reading any of. (kind of my kryptonite-finishing a book). This channel in the 10 days or so that I've known about it has already changed my life (ok well, we're working on it.) We have made the calming glitter bottles and now have requests from my son's friends for their very own which has helped him be able to talk about his ADHD. I have sent a few videos to loved ones because I CLEARLY am over wordy in my explanations and sometimes it's just better to hear things from a different source. I write this today (never ever posted a public comment in my life) because my feelings were hurt this morning by a very close friend who instructed me to 'let things go' , ' learn to get over it', 'you see things very myopic'. I was only able to over look these comments because I realized that my friend has no idea what ADHD is like to live with nor does she know anyone close to her that has lived and suffered with it (yes, I've suffered for 37-8 years before diagnosis). I just sent her this video in hopes that she can gain some understanding in why I am how I am. Wish me luck. Thank you for being you and standing in your truth, you're helping me do it too. Love, a new brain

Hello Jessica,I have ADHD (though I don’t think I’m hyperactive) I struggle to complete daily tasks like any other ADHDer but there’s something that usually pisses me off about the family members that give me such instructions… THEY. DON’T. SPECIFY. They just give me vague instructions of what I have to do, and tell me that it’s “logical” or “too obvious” to over explain the instructions, but then when I do it wrong they get pissed off. And I’m just sitting here like 😐😑😤😤😤😤 And I’ve had discussions with said family members and I just want to scream at them at this point. As of this moment I am 19 and I was diagnosed with ADHD at 4th or 5th grade. BTW I found this channel thanks to ur interview with Anthony Padilla and I hope I can learn more about myself with ur videos.

Starting more than I finish is also why my home's usually very messy

"The house is either a mess or you've been taking on way more of the chores than is fair", when have you visited our house? I work from home and do most of the chores, simply because asking my husband and then reminding him ten times before he does it is too much work, when I can just do it right away on my own... Yes, we're working on getting him evaluated to get official diagnosis, but it would honestly explain so much about him and his lifelong issues.

OMG this video literally hit everything that makes my life difficult! Having discovered I have ADHD at 21 and trying to adult in college is NOT GOOD. Not to mention my family not knowing and my significant other of four years letting me go partly because of ADHD, I'm sooo glad I found your channel. Learning about my brain is gonna be a whole lot easier now. Thank you!

4:19 "the house looks great. we also have no idea where anything is" god this hits so hard

This made me cry, a lot...

Wow. Excellent. I feel as if I'm being advocated for. Thanks from a fellow ADHD brain.

I am soooo glad that I found your channel! My 9 yo sister was diagnosed when she was around 4, and constantly struggles with learning to manage her symptoms. And we are still struggling to learn how we need to react as well. I'm really hoping that your channel will help all of us as she grows.

The first thing I saw this morning was your speech on TedTalk and I'm glad that out of all the thousands of tedtalk motivating and self videos the youtube recommendation system was intelligent enough to show me the thumbail of your video. To be frank firstly when I saw the video I wasn't aware of ADHD and just saw as some other random video. For years I knew I had this problem and I was afraid to acknowledge it as problem as I didn't feel that I have come across anyone who has this or maybe I haven't focused enough to observe it. In that TEDTalk video of yours I was totally able to recall my childhood , the blames and cries I had because of this problem . I have always been the intelligent kid but have trouble when it comes to prioritizing and remembering things. Now 25 , I think still I'm pretty fortunate to know about ADHD this early and would dedicate time to learn more about ADHD and my brain. I want to thank you for lettting me know that ADHD and would look forward to get help from your youtube video content.

I'm not crying... YOU are!

Thank you so much for everything you do for the ADHD community!

Great and comprehensive and extremely helpful as usual :)

When you said hyperactivity doesn’t necessarily have to be physical but also mental it made something click for me. Thank you.

I have just discovered this channel and it is truly life changing. Thank you for helping me and my family understand what is happening.

I absolutely LOVE these videos. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 7, but I 've worked SOO hard in trying to not show it, that I successfully making people saying that I don't have it. But, alas, now when I'm in a relationship, everything. is. so. hard. Constant fights, and everything being thrown on me (by being the problem of things), and I recently just started thinking back that I actually have it. NOT getting help and pushing this issue away has hurt both me and my family and friends A LOT. tbh, watching these videos get me motivation to start fixing everything. haven't figured out how, but I think by sharing this video with friends, family, but most importantly, my girlfriend these videos. I LOVE your content, please do continue!

Hello! I just started as a freshman, and have been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 4 (5?) and I just discovered your channel and have found it super helpful in understanding how my brain works and how to deal with it. Where have you been like forever?! Everything is SO relatable...

What I have learned over the years is that music certainly helps. It can kinda calm your brain down

3:43 So that's why I always NEED music that I can sing along to when doing my chores, it makes so much sense. It also makes sense why I then absolutely hate using the vacuum cleaner, as it overpowers the music.

Thanks I was wanting a video to show my mum this is really helpful Keep being great Xx

Thank you guys for making this!! i'll deffenetly show this to my close ones!!!! This shuld be in every psychology class etc. !!

“Notice and appreciate our effort more often than our failures, and we’ll probably surprise you”… I hope I meet someone like this one day. Honestly. I wonder if ADHD brains and ADHD brains make good couples. It’d be hectic but the support, care and interestingness would always be there. 🤞🤞🤞

my husband and i are both brains *and* hearts as we both have ADHD. we were both diagnosed later in life, though he was diagnosed years (45 diagnosed at 38) before i was (47 diagnosed at 47). while i've always been able to "manage" my symptoms and found ways to help me cope without medication, he never gained that ability. hearing him talk about how his parents and teachers were towards him growing up and giving the stereotypical "try harder", "lazy", etc, it absolutely breaks my heart. i know that there is nothing i can say or do to reverse that damage and it tears me up (and he knows this, b/c we talk about it). and so i make it a point to encouragingly help him (like finding "fun" ways of doing tasks, positive recognition of things he does or progress he makes). sometimes, when we encounter situations where there are challenges when the coping mechanisms do not work as desired, i work with him to find other ways...sometimes, i tell him what works for me (sometimes it helps him, sometimes it doesn't). we are still trying to figure out how "remember" to do daily tasks, b/c things we have tried thus far aren't working. b/c we don't have anything in place that "works" (it's a trial and error thing...and we just haven't found it yet), i have to remind him to do some things (like empty/run dishwasher, mow yard, etc). but i have outright told him that i am not his mother...so, i refuse to parent him. i will work with him to help to the best of my ability. the down-side of us both having ADHD is that sometimes he forgets that i have it, too, and he'll get upset with me if i'm displaying the same kind of symptoms...i have to remind him that he's not on the ADHD symptom ship alone...i'm right there with him. additional down-side is that i also have OCD tendencies, so things have a place and i go overboard, sometimes, trying to keep things organized. i try not rearranging things (b/c, hey, i gotta remember, too), but when i do (sometimes it is necessary), i go over the changes with him to make sure he has been made aware of it

I lost my best friend because he doesnt understand ADHD and we tried being roommates...bad combo.

This was great for me to watch! I've been married for just over a year... my husband is ADHD and I'm just now starting to educate myself on how his brain works. It all makes so much more sense now. Thanks for making this!

The impulsivity and lack of emotional regulation is horrible. Finally seeking a diagnosis this Friday. Self sabotage and day where I literally cannot complete a single task are destroying me. I can’t go on like this much longer

That has become my life motto. Never try 100%. Always give up. Don't try harder. It's not as bad as it sounds. I skimmed through school n focus on skills that actually interested me instead. N made me try creatively instead of trying harder.