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"There is no such thing as good or bad emotions, there are only good or bad reactions to emotions" - Golden, thank you!

very rare to find intelligence,amazing voice and look ...all packed into one with you ...god bless you ...very inspiring ...a fan from india

Men need to stop complaining about her addressing women. Men already have so many channels catering towards men’s goals and needs. She is doing a great job at helping women.

Emotional Intelligence, quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger. ❤

My most favourite was the last sentence "Recognise that every conflict does an opportunity for you to grow as a person

She is so well spoken. Good advice for not getting triggered.

I’m a man but as a latino, I fall under a minority group that also benefits from your inspirational wisdom. Thank you for all the great advice you provide😊

Your vid helps. I saw all my emotions fit on one small plaque a few years ago. They were, "Eat, sleep, rodeo."

Though I'm not a woman, I'm actively taking in your invaluable suggestions. Keep up the Good Work!

Dear Sis, Definietly,God was in really good mood when he created Ya. Bless.

If you are my therapist i am happy to be in therapy forever. Jokes apart your video has given me hope which i needed the most.

take a step back when confronting conflicts is the best thing to do. im not good at concealing my facial impression😅. especially with my boss..

I’m not a woman but I appreciate self improvement videos. Especially one of this quality.

I have always been told I'm highly self-reflective and aware and been told I have a very high emotional intelligence even though I have depression and anxiety. With this pandemic though I have been overly irritable and my anxiety has been sky high though I have managed to remain balance to degree it hasn't been super easy like it has been normally. I guess being inside 24/7 for 5 months will do that someone

Any conflict is an opportunity for me to grow as a person…❤ love it

This is so helpful to know. I am a person who always shows emotions on face & I often get into trouble because of it. now that I know ,I can save myself & grow as a person. Thank you .

Love it - "There is no such thing as good or bad emotions, there are only good or bad reactions to emotions"

2:37 1) Identify your Emotional State 5:51 2)Seek to Understand 7:09 3)Focus on Relationship

Masterfully done. This is very helpful also in the home. Sometimes I don't know why I'm mad or who I'm mad at. Learning to understand the nature of my emotion, can lead me down the road of learning how to deal with it.

I liked the way you compared outbreaks of emotions to our upbringing. I absolutely agree with this, most of the behaviourial issues individuals face is the reflection of their subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is a library/storage of all the information and believes (as a result of our past experience) accumulated throughout our lives. Information only becomes part of the subconscious mind when its associated with strong emotions. Instead of controlling your behaviour outbreaks at a particular point of time, which is extremely difficult, feed your subconscious mind with only positive information (make sure to associate strong emotions with it) and this would naturally improve your EI.

You make a lot of sense and I love it.

Very aptly said. I really like the point ‘seeking to understand others’. I was terrible at it earlier, I am better now but progressively I want to be best. This is key to any relationship I believe. Thanks for the video.

you describing expaining the complicated in simple and effective way, it justifies that "simplicity is the ultimate sophistication"

Three things overwhelmingly appeal to me from this lady. knowledge, eloquence and prettiness.

The way you explained about understanding the cause of emotions really gave me a new perspective to handle my emotional state. Thank you for such important and life improving content and keep this up!

I liked all 3 of points. To start with its good to look with in and check your emotional state. Seek to understand is play good role especially when your working with your colleague or senior. Lastly it could apply anywhere (not to workplace). I like especially bring in humor in tensed or stressed discussion which work all the time. Thanks again to summarize and put it such good way!

You explain things fluently and very clear. You can be a great motivational speaker for the younger graduates. I love watching your shorts.

I am a 49 year old male diagnosed with ADHD three years ago. I’ve been on a journey of self-awareness since then and have learned just how impaired emotional regulation can be in people with ADHD. Emotional dysregulation is not very well understood yet by science, and is not covered well in mainstream ADHD resources, unfortunately. In retrospect, my entire life has been impacted by my emotional dysregulation. Despite my handicaps, I’ve been able to be successful at work and have become a top performer. However, my stress and anxiety levels rose exponentially and I began having depression episodes along with other health consequences. Then I happened upon an emotional intelligence class at work two years ago. What I learned there became the key that allowed me to start regulating my emotions and living more in the moment. In short, I did everything you covered in this video, and it’s been an incredible transformation for me! I’ve been trying to share with others how what I’ve learned about EQ can be applied by neurotypical people to improve their work performance and lives as well, but it’s been hard to effectively communicate these concepts. But then this video comes along and expertly communicates everything I’ve been trying to say all along, and it’s brilliantly succinct! Thank you so much for this video. I will be sharing it as much as I can and I hope it will improve the live of many people, both in and out of your target audience.

How can someone be this perfect

Thank you so much! you are such a brilliant lady! " seek first to understand " is what we need the most, not only in this situation but in all walks of life !

Low energy is defintaely something to manage its all about the positive vibes! keep shining!

Thank you for reminding me to ask “what am I feeling?” When I notice boredom, I need to create, clean or workout. This has helped so much , thank you.

That graph become my new rule of thumb to check my E.I Thanks, I think men relate to your videos more. Also if someone is preparing for English speaking test, this is the channel to listen to. Rich vocabulary, balanced voice tone and her expressions at key moments. Excellent.

She's got the voice of all these online trainings I take at work. She's great!!✨

Taking on their perspectives and seeking their world through their eyes. "This is huge" and enable you to not only connect on far deeper level with people but to actually offer help and support to those who need it. A big part of seeking to understand is putting all judgement and prejudice aside and being present. 👌👌

To introduce the graph 📊📈 of *'Intensity with Emotions,'* was fantastic. 👍

Brilliant yet to the point. Only place success comes before work is in the dictionary. Your work is quite extraordinary. Not many people do what you are doing to help people get to success. Thanks for sharing this with us. Well done ma'am.

Just here to hear her voice...so soothing

What a Girl & her knowledge personality. Just fall in Love with your knowledge.

Even though the speaker wants to address women, this applies to everyone in all situations whether it’s school/university or workplace. Quite informative, looking forward to more such videos. 👍🏻

Positive reactions is attractive while the opposite is true for negative reactions. Compassion and empathy invites positive reactions while anger and hatred invites the opposite. If we can master the ability to remain calm and serene even in adverse situations we can be more effective in solving problems and gain respect and affection from others in the process.

it is rare to see the right balance of beauty and brains. you excel at both dimensions.

Watching your videos is like reading the latest psychology research paper. I don't have to read or research, you provide the best and most widely accepted information. Thank you.

Lots of love to you Shade from India & keep sharing such good knowledge.

I've learned many things of your every video's and it's helped me to get many things for my life,my career.. Thank you very much Ms.Shade and good luck..!!

She is really good and articulate. Enjoy her videos. She is so helpful and makes sense.

I'm a man and i admire your way of explaining this..We can apply this too. You're wonderful Shade.

Shade’ you are awesome. You have honed your skills in presenting a complex subject in quick, simple presentation with the right choice of words. Great communication skills that include effective use of fonts and graphics. I enjoy every one of your presentations and learn a lot. Look forward to many more.

Huge love from India Shade 🤗. Keep Improving and Inspiring us

This was pretty useful to re-establish a foundation for how to approach social situations. As a young man with social anxiety; I truly appreciated it.

You are the real life coach, hats off :)

Timestamps: 2:36 1 Become better at identifying your own emotional states. 5:50 2 Seek to Understand. 7:08 3 Focus on relationships.

So interesting, I'm gonna be careful the next time that I'll feel angry and what exactly is the reason for, thanks.

Honest from the ❤️- the most enjoyable thing about the clip was your calm, clear way that you put the points- your soft toned voice and smooth body language are warm and encouraging. I will say your clips are eye-opening and 🧠 boosters for me.

Your eyes speaks so well.

Really insightful... open my mind.

Shade, You are truly amazing. One request to you, if you could publish a training material for Teens that would be very helpful.

Your communication skills are next level

Thank You Shade Zahrai...God Bless You Shade...Thank You

I love the way you speak and articulate every word clearly. That graph of EI index has been working on me ..also I am focusing more on my relationships and people have really started liking me...I am grateful to you for this. Keep providing us with your fascinating thoughts and work! Lots of love from India🇮🇳❤️

जिस तरह से आपने भावनाओं के प्रकोप की तुलना हमारी परवरिश से की, वह मुझे पसंद आया

I'm not a woman, but I've learnt something from this video! I'm here to support you, because you talk sense. My favourite point is the "seek to understand," because many have told me I'm a good listener; I love to feel what other people are feeling and doing whatever I can to get them to enjoy life, but before I saved someone else, I had to save myself. I appreciate you Shadé, and I'll see you in your next video! :)

I am starting to like your contents. This is really helpful. Keep up the good work❤

I became your fan shade. Good Speech.

Thank you for being you! I love your content on self development. These are the things that I love learning about and experimenting with 😊

I love your shorts Shadé; keep making more of them

Well I am definitely not a female but I could see how I can apply this advise into my life. Thank You

Thank you for your videos! I've learned so much from you. I recently graduated and looking for jobs, so your videos have helped me a lot and always motivate me!

Your work not only for the woman ,thats helpful for the men as well !!! thank you !

Excellent analysis about human emotions and behaviour.and I think the first one is the best.. the biggest enigma is to uncover and understand ourselves

You're very good influencer working for woman empowering

I love to hear her ❤️ Her lesson helps me to Synchronise Mentally my mind with my body.. Recommend you're valuable lessons to my friend 👍 Keep Growing #Peace 🙏

We should learn this in school. Thanks for opening our eyes.

Very well articulated! Becoming better at identifying our own emotional state is surely the foundation for our own growth.

Very concise video. I liked the first strategy the most. It is not easy to identify the energy state. Under high intensity negative emotions people fail to understand the feelings and effect it has on the body. I think one needs to develop the habit by being mindful and aware of present moment. I liked one point the most. "There is no such thing as Good or Bad emotions. There can only be Good or Bad reactions". Your initiative to help women professionals is commendable and is the need of the hour. I wish you a lot of success!

Not a woman but your info helps me to build my team. My teams are care givers who help Adults who are IDD (special needs adults) in the autism spectrum and Shake fetal Syndrome- and we help create new environments that work for all of us. ❤️ Just want to give a thanks for this.

This is wonderfully concise. I had a realization about myself. I realize that I have thought of any high intensity emotion as a negative thing and so as I begin to feel excitement or ecstasy, it almost instantaneously morphs over to fear or anxiety (occasionally anger, but not too often.) and then I really feel happy when I’m in a low intensity state so I generally just associate that with those calm serene feelings. You have opened the door for me to explore why I may feel this way. This is something for me to think about.

Emotional Intelligence, being loving and caring. ❤

😎You are #DIVINE😎 ❤Love You and Your Work❤

im a nervous wreck, i spent too much time figuring out why im the way i am. instead of categorizing myself as an introvert or empath. i find it better to understand and do my best to change for the better. so glad i found your channel, and see i'm not alone. thanks!

It’s hugely positive impact on me and others also base on your sharing honestly. Always take time for each of your videos. Thanks

Hi shadee I am an Isfahanee psychiatrist and am fascinated by your knowledge of psychology and your skill and performance in communicating your ideas.

Loved your content :) New subscriber here!

Quick question, (for anyone) I've seen people use anger and aggression as a motivation for doing things, and they succeed at them. Is it healthy to be so determined and resolved, to the point where you'll get mad at just about anyone who you feel is a threat to your aspirations

What you Said.. 1.10. helping women only... But I am here following you, and getting very clear idea of the market.

KZfaq please preserve this video. This is gold

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Your videos are very Motivational. What made you want to do such videos and move from Law to Psychology? You are very positive. Mark my words, you will soon be on TV and a famous personality !!

Any conflict is an opportunity best one !! Positive approach towards any situation.😊👍

A man here - please spread this video as much as possible. Usually a lack of calmness or the inclusion of emotions when speaking to a man is what causes him to become agitated and / or dismissive - it's just hardwired into us. It causes unnecessary escalation at the office. And men, don't be afraid to study this as well, it's an incredibly important part of being human to really hear your body and to know what you're feeling, and not just at the workplace. Empathy is something the world could do with a lot more of.

Shadé: "Hi, I'm Shadé Zahrai, and I help WOMEN like YOU hack their careers" Me: I need a bigger beard.

How can I speak like you.

I love the way you spoke so well and quick..You can also coach non-native english speakers in English communication skills,You are a Jewel Keep up the good work👍👍

I came across your videos randomly and even though you gear them more for women I've found them to be helpful in personal and professional life for anyone. Keep up the great work! - Ross

How did you develop that accent???

Learned a lot from this. This does not only helped women but men as well. Thank you so much for sharing this to people . To be able to grow and be a better person is an achievement. May god bless you more and keep you safe . Keep it up. 👍🏼

I like how you simplified the process of EQ, and your right; IQ can get you the position you desire in the Organisation; however, EQ allows you to not only retain the work but also get you promoted/ higher rank. Rest is base on luck... Like how you break up the process of what Emotions are, a pure form of data, check what is means and where it come drom..using our emotional radars. Absolutely fabulous. Thanks.

Thank you so much for providing this amazingly helpful content. Emotional intelligence is something I’ve struggled with my whole life and I was recently diagnosed with high functioning autism so having actionable content like this that’s broken down into simple building blocks is a way of learning that really resonates with me. Thank you again!

I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. Emotional intelligence is a set of skills and behaviors, while some people will be naturally more adept at certain aspects. Emotional intelligence can be learned, developed, and enhanced. Our ability to identify and manage our own and others emotions is fairly stable over time, influenced by our early childhood experiences and even genetics. That does not mean we cannot change it, but, realistically, long-term improvements will require a great deal of dedication and guidance. Thank you.