Thank you for this video. It has been almost 20 years since I lost my son in a car accident, and I have learned to live with this. Your method of controlling grief is a valid concept. I had a lot of complications over wondering what really happened that night, how the police and coroner responded, feelings of guilt and all the "What if" questions, along with spiritual crisis. I found that my morning showers were the safest place to grieve, as well as in bed at night, and many times throughout my days (I'm very private and wouldn't cry in public with anyone). You are doing a brave and compassionate thing producing these videos, and it is so needed. We are not alone. Bless you.

3 years tomorrow since I lost my eldest son to a Hit and Run. No-one charged. I miss him so much. It seems like a bad dream that keeps replaying. I'm 56 and it seems like this grief will never go. I'm struggling to cope with the date , I'm struggling with if my younger son will even contact me. It has destroyed our family. I've cried so many tears , battled with the what ifs , and nothing can change. The only comfort I seem to find is spending a few minutes each day talking out loud to him , trying to have a conversation as if he were sitting with me. I feel like I'm just heartbroken and numb still - photos of him as an adult make me cry , so only have 2 of his baby photos out. We were so close, very alike. I know he would want to me keep going - I have to fight the ex - a Narcissist , who then took all my belongings once I left when he used this time to show his true colours ( not my sons' Dad ) . It is this anger that propels me on. I don't know what happiness is anymore. Only God knows , all I can do is one day at a time - but I wish I could just die too.... My Auntie told me we will meet again one day. Controlling grief is like controlling depression - constantly finding distractions. I have to physically exhaust myself so I can sleep through the night. I'm thankful to God that I had him , so I hope God is looking after him now. We went through so much pain in this life together - he was my hero and my best friend. Tonight and tomorrow I will sit in the garden and light candles , and remember our story as best I can year by year.

Oh Dr. B, i cant even wrap my head around what has happened to you. How can this be? My son passed in Feb. 2023 i just want to go be with him. I dont need to be here anymore. Im 66. Ive done my time. I would love to hug you though. You are precious.

Thank you. I lost my 13 year old only child three months ago. I am a mess. God bless you.

I lost my son on July 2023… he’s my only child and he was my best friend. We are so much alike. He was 23 and super healthy and happy. We went for a swim to the pool. He held his breath too long and passed out and drowned. I was only gone for less than two minutes. When I realized he was under water I took him out and did cpr, called 911. He was my life and being a single mother I put all of my life and sacrifice and love into him. I lost my everything that evening. It’s the worst nightmare that I re live everyday. I never knew life could be so cruel to me.

Yes again being a Christian too… losing my children and everything else my faith in Christ made it more painful

The fact that you sitting there,not crying or falling off and teaching is alot,God bless you and continue to keep you Mine was 2 months ago and it feels like yesterday everyday when its time to pick him up from school and am here just sitting,i get home and there's nothing much to do which is unusual...the pain is just too much

The fact ur standing, is a miracle to me, if u only knew how much u personally mean to me and so many.

So good 🙏. I’m so incredibly sorry that you had to say goodbye to three of your beautiful children. I cannot imagine, but none of us can imagine the pain of losing one until we’re in it. God bless you on your continued journey and thank you this incredibly helpful advise. I lost my oldest daughter seven months ago and the pain is immense.

I am so sorry for your losses.....but I heartfelt THANK YOU for making these videos. I really needed to find you.

I live it everyday, also lost my only son Feb. 2023, I'm a mess, it feels almost impossible to keep going..I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless us and our boys! Sending so much love ❤🙏

How did you survive,I lost my only daughter,I do not wanna live without her. The pain is indescribable.

❤ sending you so much love and strength. You are so brave to share your experiences to help others. I am a grief councellor too.

Thank you so much for all you do ,you are really helping me x

Thank you so much! I really needed this!!!

Thank you for this video

I’m definitely going to try this. I think that my place will be the park. We walked a lot together there. Ty for this video. I am in a group online that I’m not enjoying at all. I have so much admiration for you due to the fact you have lost 3 children. God Bless!! ❤️❤️🙏🙏

Every weekend is my appointment for pain. This is the only way I can do my 8 hour a day work week. My 16 hours a day are for me. The other 8 I work. Even tho...sometimes at work I hit the wall for a minute. Shit never goes away. Never.

Thank you I have scheduled grief for the pass 3 years Scheduled after sitting with my grand children after unexpected death of my 49 year son

Thank you for your content. For some, it's a lifeline 🙏🏻

I’m in grad school for counseling and this was really helpful ❤ going to try to support my client with your tips.

Thank you for this! We have also lost three children. Kris 1996 forever 16, Rachel 2013 forever 34 and my Eric Lee 2016 forever 28. All tragic accidents. You are helping me. You are in my heart and prayers.

Thank you 🙏 looks like you still fresh on your grief and I admire you speaking and encouraging others! I lost my 22 yr old daughter 10 months ago we r near holidays 😢I am having hard time I need to do a control grief!!

I really appreciate 🙏 your content on all your information . I have lost 2 children and found out my fiancee also lost 1 before I met her and yes this is a struggle for us , Regardless I stand by her. Again thank you so much 🙏 on all your information and knowledge.

😢😢😢😢 thanks for this maam,its quite a journey that only self examination and hope for tomorrow can help,thanks alot for sharing ❤

Thanks for your videos. I recently lost my mother, I know it's not the same, but your videos have helped me put clear ideas in the moments when I'm calmer about this grieving process that I'm just beginning. My native language is Spanish and I only tolerate watching videos with the theme of loss in English. Thank you again.

I lost my 11 yr old daughter December 18,2023 after a fall at school and a rush to the hospital for an XRAY on her knee it was discovered she had cancer all over her body. Cancer took my baby 2 months after diagnosis. My only child. I am devastated. Had her funeral January 6th and I haven’t been out of bed since. Im torn. I want to die. I don’t want to be here anymore.

tomorrow is my son's funeral and i cant sleep..i am numb and exhausted. I am also strangely calm,. i don't know how to go on as before and i'll never be the same, i do know that my faith in God has helped me and will help me in the days to come

I lost my Daughter a little over a year ago. She had Breast Cancer. And CKD . She went into a Coma . I NEVER got to say GOODBYE to her. I've joined Facebook groups. I've watched videos like this. I'm still lost, numb and heartbroken. She left behind 3 children. 19,6,7 yrs old. She passed on the 18 yr olds birthday. I'm going to start seeing a Therapist hopefully this month. She was only 38!😭💔

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I’m a dad and I feel my heart is ripped out. It’s unbearable

I lost my daughter to cancer 7 weeks ago and I am grieving every day and the pain is unbearable, maybe I need to feel my grief before I can control it 😢

Thank you for this information. My son was murdered by a random shooting on October 25,2020. He was 27 years old, every since then, I drink alcohol every day, it seems the only thing to make me feel a little better but randomly at different times have gotten myself into trouble with all of the drinking. I'm getting to the point of completely giving up. I need help.

They told me to forget about I've heard that from because they said because they're gone and I need to forget it for me to forget about that's what I was told

And I blame myself for not bringing able to help him cause I always was there to help him 😢😢😢😢

I came across your KZfaq channel and I'm a mother that loss her firstborn son October 27,2017 suddenly and unexpected and yes the injustice bothers me very bad especially when things were overlooked and the local police wouldn't even investigate... So how should i approach this injustice?

I lost my 5 years old daughter in 20 july she was admitted to hospital for some allergies like fever and sneezing she was on iv and on second iv she took her last breath infront of me 😭 i begged God to bring her back but she never came back its been months and i still feel her😭 i dont know how to overcome with this .. her death was sudden and unexpected 😭

Dear Dr. B. I recently lost my son as well who died in his sleep on Nov. 13th 2021. Although the healing process has been harder since Its still debatable from what was the cause of his death? Anyways hopefully I will get some peace of mind someday.

It’s year and half my son is not with me anymore I’m still in denial he have 3 years old son I fill like I’m raising him all over again but he has his own mom many times I’m pulling myself away from him just reminding myself it’s not him his gone The days he’s with me I’m better but if I don’t see him a few days I’m getting into dipration is this going to pass it’s sooo painful 😢😢😢sometimes I think I can’t breathe I can’t look at his pictures if I look at his picture more than a min I fill like I’m going to loose my mind 😢😢😢

My grief is so different. I had to make a choice. My life or theirs. I already had 3 other children who needed me. But I think I made the wrong choice. March 1st it will be one year since I made the wrong choice. Because I can’t live with the guilt. I’m pro life. I can’t handle the choice I had to make.

It been six years, I am so lost I cant function. I have not found meaning or purpose in doing anything. Whats the point. I live in isolation now, I have no friends, I stay at home everyday with my two dogs. There is no other human around during the day. My husband is gone for 14 hours a day. We talk chit chat stuff, budget, errands, but I have totally given up on faith, on God's love, on hope for tomorrow. So tired of grief. I have found a majority of people around me do not want to hear or talk about a loss of a child. I hate this life.

I lost my lively 11 yr old son on 28.10.23. Dont know wat to do. Tears dont stop. Help

What do you with pictures or old cell phones of your deceased child? Yearbooks?

I'm going to try this .l lost my only son 4/2/2024 lm heart broken😢

I lost my 14 year old son a month ago and I'm in a mess can't function 😢

I've lost 4 children.

February 7th....i'm so lost...

I didn't lose my child someone murdered my son in front of me .. I think I got the wrong video fr wat I was asked by of you tube