It’s so hard to live in a messy household when you’re the only one who wants it clean while your family doesn’t care

Waking up to a clean kitchen, priceless!

I totally agree with you. I find if my home is messy, I can’t relax.

I love what you said about "who am I cleaning for" - that's such a simple statement but it has such an impact!!

Best memories of growing up,fresh clean and sunfilled house.I love a clean home and i still love to open windows when weather permits and let the fresh air and sunshine in

When you clear clutter from your home, you clear clutter from your life! My home is clean and airy.

I am making my home clean and tidy for me. I hate clutter.

Getting rid of clutter (it takes time but it is worth the effort) and making sure everything you keep has a home...that keeps the place "company ready" also a routine is essential for bathrooms and kitchen.

Excellent message. I'm in the hospital recovering from surgery. My nurse stopped her work to listen to you too. She said she had a light bulb moment. 😊

My husband lovingly told me this wisdom about 10 years ago when I was the frantic morning mom who made everyone frantic and couldn’t find shoes! 😂 Sadly, it took me a few more years til I got that lightbulb moment. I was always wanting to do projects to update the decor but not actually keep it organized and clean. I’m very grateful I finally got it! It’s a joy to be a mother to 5 kids and be married to a man who loves me through all my faults.💕

It's really great to hear & watch how passionate you are about the way you care for your home & family. Not to sound too touchy/feely but you are truly ministering to a lot of folks who are/could be dealing with very stressful situations. You are really a blessing to me by encouraging me to be a better mom, wife, & home caregiver. THANKS!

The way I do it 1) declutter 2) declutter 3) DECLUTTER

This video should be named: "The zen of house-keeping"

Hi Melissa I love your “epiphany” about cleaning and organizing your house first and foremost for YOU and your loved ones! One can be more inviting, hospitable, and spontaneous when they live in and run a clean and tidy house. Modeling this concept to your family will prepare your children for adulthood! I would train everyone in your family to “leave NO footprints” (no evidence of them messing up the clean spaces that you have worked hard to create and maintain!) A good houseguest always does this! They clean up after themselves and they don’t leave messes for the host/hostess to find! Many parents are doing themselves and the world a disservice by not training their children to become neat, tidy, and CONSIDERATE!

Man, 40 years old. I have found your channel just today, I was searching for "get your house clean and organized". I literally had tears in my eyes when you started talking about the "who am I cleaning for" bit, it enlightens me about my relationship with self. And, the fact that you wanted so much that your loved ones have a safe haven in your home, made me more emotional because I hadn't had a mother like you, it made me see a hole in my soul which was hidden before. Thank you, madam, I subscribed.

you remind my of a story regarding grown children who donated everything from their mother's house, the house they grew up in. I wondered why, they said all the beautiful dinnerware, table linens, best linens and towels were SAVED for special guest. In otherwords, they were not considered the special guest in their own childhood home. What ended up happening is, there were no fond memories that had been established through the everyday use of these those items, sad really! I never forgot that, and use my dinnerware for the guests that matter most; myself, and my family. Yes, even when I'm dining alone I will still put a place setting to create the gift of the food that I have prepared that inturn sustains me. I reflect on all the hands and steps it took to get it to the market before we purchased it, and I make my meal. For that I am thankful! Thank you for sharing your story.

I searched for motivational videos to help me get organized-help me to want to maintain my home-there was always an excuse for me- I’m in my 60’s -it was always, oh my hips hurt, or I’m too tired etc…and now I have an overwhelming home that I am playing catch up with- I can “so” relate to “someone is coming over, so let’s tidy up for them” but to your point- and a light went on in my head-who are we cleaning for? I also related when you said cleaning and organizing affects us in every way… it can totally ruin my day when I can’t find something because my house is in such a disarray, I am moody because I am overwhelmed… etc… Thank you for this video. It’s the first one that has really hit home opened my eyes and got me moving, aching hips and all 😊

My grandmother always said you should mop the kitchen floor every night before you go to bed. It keeps it clean, calms your mind for sleep, and keeps midnight raids of the fridge from happening. A sort of meditation.

I appreciate your helpful and uplifting video! God bless you and your family! Happy Homemaking! 💜✝️🏡

Totally agree! Cleaning and picking up is totally self care. I feel better when my dishes are done. 😊

Melissa, your morning routine video was so inspiring to me and I love waking up early. This video is SO spot on about our mindset. I know this one is going to help inspire me as well! Thank you!

You are such an inspiration! I love your videos I’m learning so much from you as I recently became a home owner 😃

Great message!! Your mind set of who you are doing the cleaning for is perfect. I will keep that in mind when I approach the chores around the house.

I really loved what you had to say. I think we are all guilty of getting caught up people pleasing outside of the home and worrying what those people will think than worrying about those inside of our homes Great video looking forward to more.

This video showed up in my recommendations today and i just had to subscribe after watching!! I had this exact revelation a few months ago!! I wasted so much time in reactionary mode throughout my kids childhood and I regret so much of it. I was blessed with an amazing husband who made it possible for me to stay home with the kids, and now that they have almost all moved out, I was searching for a new calling. The thought settled on me “make your home a haven”. For your husband, who works in the ER, he takes care of you, take care of him. So that’s what I’ve been working towards. Making a haven, not just for him, but for me as well. For our children also, even if they don’t live here, but so they feel it when they visit, and they feel it in their parents.

I love your message. I just adopted this routine maybe a month ago and am working really hard to make my home a fun, clean, peaceful place for my husband and children. My kids love having a tidy house. They argue as to whose room they want to play in because they dont want to make their room messy. They are three and five.

Great video! I've recently changed my thinking in this aspect, and it has made a world of difference!

You have such a calming spirit

What helps me keep my house clean is to think of doing everything while it's easy. It's easy to run a load of laundry big enough to fill a pillow case than a load 5 feet tall. It's easier to wash 10 dishes than a sink full of dishes like a restaurant. Do everything while it's small and easy. Only takes a few minutes.

Beautiful and meaningful message! Your family is blessed by you

I just found your channel & have to tell you, you are very calming, inspiring, & motivating!!:) Looking forward to catching up on videos. I have been a sahm/wahm mom for many years & am just now going to work part time outside of the home (20 hours/week), along with still running my home based business from home. My son is almost 18 & my daughter is in college. I hope I can find good balance with everything but you have motivated me so thank you for that:)

I also hate clutter and dirty floor, food drops on the countertop, but I rather have a home then a house. There is a difference between a lived in home and a messy home. My husband doesn't want the kitchen counter to have anything on it. I keep reminding him that we are living here, all the furnitures, stove, countertop are here to serve us. Not the other way around. We need to keep our home clean for ourselves, to keep germs away, to keep furniture last longer.

WOW Thank you so very. Much. I have 2 girls in college, soon they will be on their own, you really helped me view my home as a Blessing I can give them and myself by better caring for my home. and by shifting my mindset. these last years together under the same roof can be some wonderful memories for a lifetime.

So true! Thanks for reminding all of us! We've all had that running quickly to spruce up when we know someone is coming and the feeling we get when someone comes unexpectedly!

Wonderful video. My busy homelife is kind of over now. I am retired and its just my husband and I in our home now. I worked outside the home our whole married life and when the boys were children it was really hard sometimes to keep up with things but, it was also very rewarding. I feel that we always had a clean and calm home and that it was appreciated. I feel lots of young mothers and wives can really benefit from your message.

You are such a lovely person ...thank you for sharing .God bless you

Love your video. I came to this same realization a couple weeks ago. This will look different for everyone. And everyday is a new chance to do better.

such a light bulb moment - doing it because it makes ME feel better rather than for someone random who may call! Thankyou Melissa!

Hey! I’m a new subscriber and I just had to comment. I agree so much with shifting your mindset. I used to feel so burdened by everything. And one day I just asked myself “why?” It was a lightbulb moment. Just being grateful I have two kids and a beautiful, safe home really makes a world of difference in enjoying the process of caring for it.

Italian woman invests 24 hours per week into cleaning the house. That's how they show love towards family.

I love that you are making homemaking be so valuable. I have always felt these sediments. Where I struggle is in social settings. My husband is also in Health Care Admin. Radiation Oncology division often at work functions I attend with him , It’s seems as though I’m ignored or spoken to in a condescending manor. I should have thicker skin at 52 but still kinda feel awkward given his position in the organization. I’d love to know how you address these kind of sometimes uncomfortable situations. Bottom line I love being a homemaker this is how my husband can be his very best he has no worries on the home front. Thank for sharing your life I’m learning lots from you.

I really enjoyed this. Thank you for sharing this mind shift tip! I definitely feel more motivated to clean my home when i think about cleaning for myself and for my family. It takes a lot of pressure off of me when i think about this mind shift! ❤️

Bravo!! Well said, Melissa!!! *claps and gets off my behind to clean* :)

Yes!! Such a great way to look at cleaning. Thank you!

Thank you for this new mindset, I have always been the "what if a family, friend or colleague drops in" Now I'm thinking more about what we in the home want in our surroundings, absolute eye opener here

In my experiences with recovering I found that those days when I feel really good I have a tendency to overdo things without even realizing it. Then I am down for the count for the next day or two. But that’s all part of the healing process as long as we accept those down days. Hills and valleys for sure, sometimes a few hills in a row and followed by a few valleys in a row. Listen to your body. Hugs 🤗 and prayers 🙏

My wife and I swapped roles when she was struggling at home with our baby. I don't need as much sleep and was happier spending time with the kids than her. I am still so focused on outside and the typical jobs that I used to do while working and just playing with the kids constantly and taking them on adventures. But I notice that my wife is so different with a clean home compared to a messy one. Thanks for the help with the mindset because I really should start keeping everything clean and organised since I'm the one in the home the most. I know I'm not your target audience, but it was very helpful nonetheless. Thank you.

I don't think you pick up your house for family members and other people. Let's be real. I think you do it for YOU and that's okay if it makes you a better parent, spouse, etc. I'm similar to you - I keep a very tidy house but I acknowledge that I do it for ME. It makes ME feel better, efficient and organized. Most kids don't really care. They would much rather spend time with you than watch mom clean AGAIN. You're very talented and have lots of great tips.

Wow, what a mindset switch. I truly needed to hear this and you shared this 4 years ago and what you put into this video is still reaching and helping people like me all these years later. Thank you, thank you for sharing👍

I have ADD.. this took too long to get to the point... Bless You!

I totally agree with you and before I got married I’m sorry to say I worked full time went to school and my room was never picked up by me. But the minute I got married I keep a clean home for me and my family!! I love your video ❤️❤️❤️ !

You just described my life right now... I have been feeling so down on my side because I can’t seem to keep up with all the junk my husband and child makes... it’s overwhelming

Thank you for this video! We all need at times a new perspective on how we see things and how it is all about a mind shift we are willing to take. Sometimes it just takes someone to help us make a better change. Thank you for your message. You have very beautiful eyes but what's more beautiful is the heart. Have a blessed day!

Peace be to you! I'm a new subscriber! I'm a Hospitalist PA in Washington, D.C. where I live with my wife and four children. I REALLY appreciate your channel. My wife and I have the same issue with our home!😅 We would RUSH-CLEAN in a PANIC😨, "WE'RE HAVING COMPANY! OMG!"😰 We an "waitaminute"😕moment and were like, 😞"Why are we more concerned about the people OUTSIDE of our home than OURSELVES!?! Being a functional family takes WORK! Working together (and especially, for the Lord), makes it easier! May the good Lord grant you and your beautiful family continued success in your positive endeavors!

Wonderful video and very eye opening information. I feel the same way. When I know I'm having company I create a spotless space but I don't normally take into consideration on a daily basis the effects of our home for my family.

Omgosh..... just found this... thank you thank you thank you. We jumped off grid and have been in total chaos while building our home for 3+ years.... the house has been driving me crazzzzy... and ppl stop all the time to check out what were doing and I feel a literal panic.... for strangers..... complete strangers that want to peek..... this video hit home how crazy my thinking is.... I need to be focused on finishing and making this house, no matter what stage of construction, into a HOME.... for my ppl. ♡♡♡

I’m so glad I came across your video! I had a mental breakdown being so overwhelmed with getting my house clean before family from out of town gets here tomorrow and was having a lot of anxiety and stress and your words reminded me who I am doing this for and what’s most important❤️ thank you!!!

Thank you so much. I believe you have just changed my life. Gonna have a cup of coffee and get busy for me and my Princessa.

Yes!! I agree. Another big part of taking the stress off for me is realizing that people who come over and judge the state of my home are not my kind of people anyway.

Savior!!! I am so glad you did vlogmas! It has been great seeing you on you tube again. I hope to see videos regularly.

This is a breakthrough for me.. this is gonna help me tremendously. Thank you & God Bless You 💐

I had this thought recently...well, a few years ago, but it really hit me recently. I thought, why am I cleaning up for everyone else (if my father visits, or brother, etc.) and not for me? Why did I decide that I don't matter? I DO matter, just as much as everyone else, and I don't like living in chaos. Right now, I am in a chaotic home, and it does reflect how it's been for me internally for a long time...but I am not in that chaotic place in my life anymore, and it's been years since...but I guess I got used to chaos. However, my mental health, my own feelings of rest are important. I thought today that I have a very stressful job and I'm also caring for my elderly father (who lives across the street) and as much as I love him, it's stressful and then I come home to a completely overwhelmingly messy house. There's no place that's peaceful for me. I need my home to be clean and peaceful for my own sake. Your video has really help solidify that thought. Thank you.

I can completely relate to what you are saying. I just recently left my job and this is the first time in 6 years that I haven't had a job outside the home. This is now my job, being a homemaker and I want to do it right. I really think in order to be on track with this lifestyle it is a mindset shift and you want to be able to help yourself and the others in your home so they don't have to worry about cleaning when they work for 8 or more hours outside the home each day.

Melissa you have changed my life. thank you.

I agree! To keep my house clean I love 'The Organized Mum Method' (aka Team Tomm) x

I just found your channel and I’m definitely subbing. I’m sober for the first time in over 10 years and I’m pregnant ., I have this need and want to make up for lost time when it comes to being an actual adult. Cleaning my house almost daily has been a huge part of keeping me distracted and busy and feeling good - I’m looking forward to watching your videos for tips and tricks 🙂

This is such a great video and it is exactly what I needed! Thank you friend 😊

Thank you for making this! I’ve been struggling with keeping my home clean or even having the motivation BUT I want to! I want my husband to feel comfortable and at peace in our home ❤️

Wow! You nailed that! Like you had an insight to how I feel! Stressed every time we want to have company! Great mind set... Please share more... routine etc. Not that my house is a train wreck but I definitely need motivation! First time finding your channel... Loved your calm and sweet demeanor! 💖

Thanks for the inspiration! I’m going to try to change my mindset.

So glad I stumbled on this video! I needed to hear this. I am now a subscriber!

THIS WAS AN AWESOME VIDEO!!! AN ANSWER TO MY PRAYER!!! LOVED IT! A MILLION "THUMBS UP" FROM ME!!! MAY GOD FOREVER BLESS YOU FOR SHARING❣❣❣

Hi, Melissa !!!!! Great video !!!! I have learned so much from you !!!! Thank you for sharing! Kisses from Brazil !!!!

Than you for your perspective, it really resonated with me. God bless you!

Thank you for this video!! You have inspired me to look at things differently.. Even at my age, (and as a grandmother) I admit that I don't have it all together, and I'm sure my loved ones have suffered from it...I am looking forward to watching and being encouraged by the rest of your videos and sharing them with others. You are my new best friend! :)

Wow, wish I had seen this 3 years ago. I’m a single dad with a 10 year old daughter and I’m constantly fusing about the house and saying “what if we have company?” You have the right perspective and I’m going to try to do better. Thank you.

This is the most importent video i have ever seen about cleaning Thank Y❤U

It's easy for stay at home mom's to keep a clean home 24/7. But for single parents who works real jobs with real careers and very small children, it's a lot more difficult.

I totally agree. Im a mom of 5 and feel im constantly behind on housework. But your right the dynamic does shift when everything is in its place. Thank you for this video.

Super refreshing video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. Im a single mom with a little one. Im reading The life giving home by Sally & Sarah Clarkson because my goal is to create a safe place of belonging for both of us. Even though is a lonely road its super encouraging to watch this video. Thanks again. Good bless.

I love this!! Thanks for sharing♥️

Beautiful message! God bless you, your family, and your home. Thank you ❤

When I was listening to you , I felt I was listening to myself... as if u were me 🙏🙏

This is my first time watching you....wow, you are beautiful inside and out. God bless you. I made this mind switch a few years ago and it has made a huge difference in how I take my time and just enjoy the blessings I have.

Wooooooow love how you put that 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️

I know just dont let sticky things like, grease, trash, and old food get on any thing but the sink shower, bath tub and trash can What else is you should also make sure to wipe down on the furniture with antibacterial wipes, vacuum the floor chairs and couch and use windex to wipe down and clean the windows.

Best video I have seen on housework! I totally agree with the cleaning when entertaining..why am I only putting all of this effort in for people that do not even live here?!?! Thank you very much for this video, it touched my mamma heart ❤️

Completely agree ...until I decided it was worth it for Me, house chores were tedious. Change of headspace is the switch to keeping a "presentable " home, and actually enjoying rhe keeping part as well. Great video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us today.

What a great concept. Make it a lovely place for the people inside the home, not outside. Wow. Thanks for that.

I agree! And i really enjoyed this!

Could you share with us your weekly cleaning routine then? I know you used to follow the Fly lady method but I remember you saying "I am cleaning the bathrooms today" so I was wondering if anything changed in the new house. Thank you.

Love your mindset! Thank you for making me realize what I have been worrying about and now what I need to worry about! 😊

I enjoyed your video. I learned to feel the same way about doing laundry for myself and my family but I'm still working on cleaning the house.

I love you Melissa and thank you so much.

Yes ,you said it right. That’s the same dilemma I have; who am I cleaning for? That is the question!

This was a good video. I'm g lad you talked about the importance of one's family feeling safe and comfortable at home.

I think your look at it is awesome & right on! Thank you for sharing!

This is the best cleaning tips advice 👌 🙌 😍 thank you so much 🙏

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My friend shared a great tip, every night before going to bed, walk backwards im every room, so you can see it completeley and if you something out of place, pick it up. It has worked wonders for me