How To Love In Freedom (No, It's NOT Hard!)

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How To Love In Freedom (No, It's NOT Hard!)

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Love and freedom seem to be mutually exclusive, but they're not. You can love in freedom and I'll teach you how by:
- Showing the difference between love and attachment.
- Helping you let go of attachment.
- Describing exactly what "freedom" means.
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@paulbarnett9620 5 жыл бұрын

A Buddhist monk once said to me, 'it's all very simple, not always easy, but very simple.'

@kathrynphillips3710 4 жыл бұрын

My mum always said to me we dont really "own" anything as everything is only on loan to us..she was a wise lady 🙏

@sandragomez7905 4 жыл бұрын

My late mum said the same.

@ieattoes467 3 жыл бұрын

Someone once said that to me. But I put something onto that. So I just heard. Everything is borrowed. But I just remembered something. and I acted like I was an alien and I'm new to Earth really commit! Do jokes!(x LMAO, see someone and then dissapear!!! LMAO

@amcgee0668 2 жыл бұрын

Definitely✨

@diamondmami7440 5 жыл бұрын

Nothing is mine, EVERYTHING is borrowed !! LOVE IT !

@appleheaddefender 4 жыл бұрын

Then whos is it

@sylviakanz8088 4 жыл бұрын

You pass it on to the next generation 🤣 Love it 2... everything is borrowed... that's why when I die, annoying my body in oil, and wrap me in a cloth. No clothes nothing. Those can go to someone who needs it more... unless my daughter wants them🤣🤣

@kellyhiggins1691 3 жыл бұрын

I just met my twin flame and it's a lot different than I thought. I feel my heart flutter around him. Only borrowed. Thank you for your help and advice.

@loveliveheal 4 жыл бұрын

This is my ultimate downfall. I get jealous easily and can get really possesive at times and made me cry seeing this video because I know I need to change to better my relationships not only romantic ones but other forms of relationships in my life

@selfelements8037 4 жыл бұрын

Wholeness. Wholeness is freedom, and freedom is love.

@juneporter6465 5 жыл бұрын

We own nothing nor no one. We are all love and the more love we emit unconditionally, it is then returned tenfold and passed on tenfold. Peace and love to everyone ❤️

@ByAnyDreamNecessary 5 жыл бұрын

I Love You

@almaalas2756 3 жыл бұрын

Loving with attachments was hard for me to understand. I needed to make sense of it through my own personal experiences in order for it to resonate with me. Now I know I'm still learning but so far I have found that when I love with attachment I find myself feeling lots of anxiety, restlessness and frustration and I find my thinking and decision making to also be more fear based.

@RRijesh 2 жыл бұрын

If you have attachment then it is about "you". Something inside you which needs your own attention to get it fixed. If you feel jealousy just observe it. Is being in love means you can have jealousy/ possessiveness/attachment? For love to express fully between the two these aspects should not be there between both of you. Love flow fully & blissfully when we don't allow these things interfere in our life.

@penthesilliaas 5 жыл бұрын

I love how when you look at things (and people) as "borrowed" you see them differently. The positives shine and the negatives melt away. Thank-you for this. What a fabulous way to see 😊

@txangurl1297 5 жыл бұрын

My twin flame research led me to your videos. I could never understand why being jealous felt secondarily. I now understand because my ego ruled every single thought and emotion.

@mattleong9856 4 жыл бұрын

I will add love freely with boundaries for in the absence of boundaries the darkness infiltrate. Have a think about it. Property are fenced, danger zone in beaches are fenced, protected forest zones, preservations, vice and light. In these limited examples from a larger perspective, there must be boundaries in that freedom

@Ash-yo1mu 2 жыл бұрын

I wholeheartedly agree with boundaries. I can’t accept an “open” relationship as love. It seems to lack depth and is self serving; warping the meaning of love and using love and freedom as a form to justify pleasure seeking behavior.

@semperoccultus1969 3 жыл бұрын

Met my twin last year, which filled a life long void in myself that I didn't even know I had. There was attachment at first, but now it's turned unconditional...even though I get upset if she doesn't make me a priority 100% of the time. I know I'm unreasonable and the emotion is anger, but I'm aware of the emotion and working on it. I think it's a trust issue and attachment.

@bridgetmary9867 4 жыл бұрын

U got me smiling Nothing is mine,,, Everything is borrowed 😂😍 Thank u

@shellybellyluv 8 жыл бұрын

I think it's really interesting when you talk about wholeness and pure love. I have only felt this once in my life and that was during a period where I decided to devote my life to God. I made the concious choice to be single and only focus on myself and my relationship with God. I suddenly started to see the world around me in exactly the way you are describing. I viewed everything as temporary.. I also practiced being grateful to God and understood I was given everything from Him. I think that one practice is what really allowed me to feel whole. I swear I walked in pure joy every moment of the day and it was the greatest feeling ever. Eventually someone came into my life and we started a romantic relationship. I think without even noticing, I replaced all the joy and wholeness with attachment towards this new guy. My identity was no longer in God, it was about this person now. I believe he is my twin flame. Perhaps God brought him to me to work through all of my issues and to become better in general. It did lead me to my lowest points though. We separated for a few years and are now coming back together. I can't say it's easy, but I think I am at least starting to understand these forces better. Christina, do you think it's possible these practices you talk about...freedom and love, being whole, etc. come from God? Is it possible our brokeness as fallen human beings is made whole through accepting God into our lives and conciously choosing to walk in that light with Him? It can't all be coincidence.

@shellybellyluv 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for remembering and responding! I will check it out today. :)

@ashwiniramesh7411 3 жыл бұрын

@ mondo even I felt the same like yours without any attachments practice love with God and universe but the moment one guy came into my life everything changed and till now not able to discover and recover from the pain of separation as I am always afraid to touch this part

@melissaoconnell5648 8 ай бұрын

In many ways it takes time to really love and know who you truly are 💖 peace

@nemo5090 5 ай бұрын

thank you for living a resurrected life; being in a state of thus ness with openness, such an inspiration

@TysonMichael77 3 жыл бұрын

I can also say everything is experienced, nothing is actually promised.

@abelltiger 3 жыл бұрын

In terms of what someone might allow... love without expectation, does not mean love without orientation. You are still allowed to have boundaries for a relationship. If a lover would choose infidelity in that space then maybe they are not the lover for you. And that is ok

@michaeltrys8962 5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful video! You’re so fluid with your delivery. It’s as though you were singing a song! A Love song! 🌞❤️

@silentgrove7670 5 жыл бұрын

I have been working through this myself. It is particularly relevant as I am in the midst of unrequited love for someone. It began about six months ago. I realized it is my attachment to a particular outcome with this person that creates the suffering. To avoid this problem each day I let them go to be the person they wish to be. It is hardest when they are upset as my heart goes out to them very strongly and I wish to be there for them. I realize now even that is an attachment idea. An attachment to a belief that I *should* be there to support them. Whoever the person they go to for support is their choice not mine. I feel this lesson is a great lesson for me to learn detachment from outcomes. I am noticing as I write this that I have attachment to seeing her again because it is pleasurable to just see her. Desire again manifesting as seeing her beauty once more and general feelings of well being in her presence. When I exhale it feels good to release the tension of it. Part of love is letting go.

@brettany_renee_blatchley Жыл бұрын

Listened again after many months, and Christina's advice is so wise and compassionate. I love the mantra which came to back to my mind so easily when she mentioned it: "Nothing is mine; everything is borrowed" -- which rings true to my intuition and is _so helpful_ 😌💜😌💜😌

@mayael1547 8 жыл бұрын

That is phenomenal! The best i have heard.

@barefootjamie143 Жыл бұрын

I am so grateful for the algorithm to have brought me to this video. I really did not know 🎉

@PaidforinFull 4 жыл бұрын

Such a powerful topic to wrestle with, as the answer for me was in scripture. My perfect example is with God above. My 15 yr old daughter wanted to spend the weekend with her boyfriend at a Frat house out of town, after 3 days of prayer, I explained why I would not want her to do so, but said that I would not stand in her way, because my perfect example believes in Freewill, so much so that he never interferes with my choices in life. So following his example, I will not interfere with her decision and instead be there for her no matter what. It was a painful decision, but the right one, as fear says, are you crazy? But love says, it will be OK, Trust and Love were proven correct, all was well in the end. Thank you for the reminder.

@alexisbalchunas6332 5 жыл бұрын

I love you laughed..... nothing is mine, everything is borrowed ❤️

@mariannamaximouse3027 4 жыл бұрын

You have a wonderful and contagious laugh!

@jasiahschuyler369 Жыл бұрын

That is actually happening to me... i love him... but i dont expect anything... i can do anything i want and he can do anything he want too... my priority is just me... but i love him ....

@sannajohanna5579 3 жыл бұрын

The best way is to live alone, not to have relationships at all. In this way, you avoid all relationship problems. I have made this solution. After some terrible trials, I thought, that I must be insane, if I, again and again, want something that is so painful, so hurtful land only damaging my life, like a relationship. Maybe in this lifetime, I was supposed to live alone and that is my path to peace. I give freedom to everyone now, but also to myself. Love does not need a relationship. I can love anyone and anything without any commitments. Living alone (with cats) is nothing away from me. In general, this life is such a BIG DISAPPOINTMENT that it is just hard to recover from that knowledge. Of course, I wanted to have nice relationships. Everything turned what bad I have done to deserve this hell. I do not even want to try relationships anymore. I got enough. I cannot do it any more.

@nanasabia 5 күн бұрын

I do hear you. It’s disgraceful.

@todreamawake Жыл бұрын

This video feels like a soft weighted blanket ❤

@callmeahshuh 4 жыл бұрын

Wowwww. Thank you for this! It was beautiful! “Wholeness is freedom” you give versus wanting to take.

@sharicrocker5841 5 жыл бұрын

Detachment while loving wholely

@shirley_valente 2 жыл бұрын

This is the best explanation of freedom and love I have ever seen. It’s the kind of love most people will never experience in a lifetime on this planet. Thank you for posting! 🙏🏼🙂

@Angela-po7cr 4 жыл бұрын

i love who you are and so sweet and yet just humble and caring thank you

@michelst-amour9082 Жыл бұрын

This is the way I think for a long time

@rajinderkaur334 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this🙏😊

@kristinaconic9571 3 жыл бұрын

This video made my day! The mantra is on point, I'm going to write it on paper and pin it on a board in my room, so I will remember it first time in the morning. Thank you 🙏🍀

@slug1988 4 жыл бұрын

You came into my life at the perfect time ❤️

@paulakeys8343 Жыл бұрын

Your videos are very easy to understand. Thank You!

@misfitted4874 3 жыл бұрын

I am truly grateful I found your channel! Thank You for sharing your light. :)

@crazyc99 3 жыл бұрын

Christina the idea of the self being an illusion just hit me like a freight train 🚆 !!! Wow I can see it now! Thank you! Just pure undefined consciousness is what we are ... the definitions and personalities are just molds and masks were wearing!

@Ombouwservices 5 жыл бұрын

You really found the right words to explain this. Please give each other the freedom to love each other. Please don't demand love... It's fake

@scc9973 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing.What you're saying is just what I'm finding.I'm grateful to you!

@GeoffGaul 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Christina!

@consciousdreamlifecreators3584 Жыл бұрын

Sm times few of our loved ones gets attached to groups, posts etc and consider it belongs only to them. Love the way who believe in oneness and feel that it's ok if same concepts, things, group, posts, places and even people or animals can be liked by many as many of us can have same liking 🤗🥰💃

@chelseyl880 2 жыл бұрын

So so so so sooooooooo grateful for this message!!! Helped me ALOT 🌹

@thechatbox18 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Christina, you've spoken wisely. I'm a follower now. Thank you.

@endigosun 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you on nearly everything, but I do not agree that attachment is “bad”. Human life is supported by attachment in very positive ways. Social interactions and attachments support healthy familial bonds and the broader kinship culture. This is evolution. As long as love and attachment are “balanced“, they both are essential for supporting good human health and development.

@BaByCaKeZ106 2 жыл бұрын

This sounds like my early childhood education classes

@Ash-yo1mu 2 жыл бұрын

I am glad you mentioned that. I am not completely sold on the idea that love and attachment are opposing forces. We all have a longing to belong. But the problem lies where most of our identity is formed by outside influences.

@barefootjamie143 Жыл бұрын

One thing my smartass mind thought about, "I own nothing; everything is borrowed" is (and I don't know how it is going to be received but here goes anyway), "I don't know how the credit card companies are going to like that."😮😅 😂❤️ MUCH Love Christina

@juliomatos122 Жыл бұрын

Excellent Wisdom !

@sherylAA 2 жыл бұрын

"ding ding"💡 nailed it again Christina ! Thank you💫

@abdouboss 3 жыл бұрын

Love is authentic only when it gives freedom. - Osho

@KT_571 4 жыл бұрын

Incredibly powerful and life transforming! Unbelievable! Wow! Thank you!!!

@anastasialymperopoulou5142 2 жыл бұрын

Love it too! We shall not use anything external to make us feel good. ❤️

@Sumrsnothere 4 жыл бұрын

I just found your channel, I'm loving it! So much wisdom it's a gift 😊🙏🏼

@amcgee0668 2 жыл бұрын

Gratitude💙

@jazzkaur9173 4 жыл бұрын

I love this! Breathe... Nothing is mine everything is borrowed!

@louisewhiskeyjack953 5 жыл бұрын

Well I have been with my partner for 25 yrs, I have gave him 25 yrs of my life, & I have gave my youth life to the father of my children. I have been trying to let go of him but I keep pulling towards him lol now I know he is a part of my pathway and I will truly get through this because I am all in my heart thank you. You are such a blessing

@dr.haidyelsaid8706 5 жыл бұрын

Nothing is mine. Everything is borrowed 😇 thank you 🙏🏻♥️

@antonvinther31 10 ай бұрын

This is beautiful 💚

@happysmurfette 3 жыл бұрын

Christina, it’s liberating to hear & understand about freeing myself within wholeness✨🌟❣️💕🌪 Your teachings have been so helpful in learning and letting sh*t go🙌🙌🙏🏼

@deanpaulkeen4291 3 жыл бұрын

Thank You for this video. I know this information already, but you have a way that allows me to understand it on a new level. All of your videos convey information on another level. Thank you.

@user-ee5om8wy7u 3 жыл бұрын

I want to hear about not only the benefits of freedom IN relationships but also about the benefits of freedom FROM relationships, please.

@solyoluborovic5751 5 жыл бұрын

Love IT! Love the mantra and I'm starting to use it from today on..thank you!😊😙

@kitslezak1627 5 жыл бұрын

I wish this were taught to us as children. Then holding the knowledge that with any kind of relationship we have to think about reproduction consequences and how everyone involved feels about it. More personal responsibility with sexual awareness and less promiscuity/abuse.

@Developinglandk 4 жыл бұрын

This resonated on a soul level! I am grateful for your channel.

@ChristinaLopes 4 жыл бұрын

❤️🤗🙏

@withlovevivi808music 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Christina, thank you so much. Listening to you heals my mental health ❤️ I am beyond grateful that I was guided to your beautiful channel ☺️

@arunimasingh4942 3 жыл бұрын

One of the finest KZfaqr....❤️❤️❤️❤️

@sueb6662 Жыл бұрын

Love ❤️ ❤️ this video learnt alot love and light to you

@goddesscapricorn 5 жыл бұрын

Another beautiful and light video. I am a new subscriber and I absolutely love the lightness of your videos. It resonates with my soul 🙏❤️✨

@davidalbro2009 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I love this. This is so practical to someone who is just beginning to awaken. I thinking just practicing this behavior and mantra would help free the true self from the mind.

@jillhill5421 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your feelings and your time. James

@kelseaballerini4529 2 жыл бұрын

All thanks to the help of *Mistress Celine* for restoring back my broken relationship. She is the best.

@simalzeesh5790 5 жыл бұрын

Outstanding explanation.Thankyou

@ngozitalibah8174 4 жыл бұрын

Thank You, Christina Lopes for connecting with me on my spiritual journey. Thank you for your selfless energy to empower others on their journey. Understanding what you're trying to convey in your videos lets me know how much I've grown spiritually And I'm headed in the direction of growth. Thank You

@thatosegopolo9072 5 жыл бұрын

Oh wow Christine well done great job love this very much!!!

@MissMarievalencia91 4 жыл бұрын

You are amazing!!! Thank you for all you do!!!🥰🙏❤💜💙💚💛

@shivangi678 2 жыл бұрын

Christina you used to look lovely back then. Nice to watch your old videos. It's very gentle yet informative. Thanks for sharing this with all of us

@chrissemenko628 2 жыл бұрын

She looked beautiful didn't she?

@shivangi678 2 жыл бұрын

@@chrissemenko628 yes :)

@teresinasullo4922 8 жыл бұрын

so those of us that think we love so deeply...are just deeply attached to love feeling like attachment? i have never looked for another to complete me, or make me feel whole. I did feel whole, I am a giver, but then why the pain not subsiding from a broken heart? I know it lies in this topic...thank you so very, very much.

@fredericksharon6908 4 жыл бұрын

This made so much sense , healing on a soul level 😘 thank you. Namaste ❤️

@lillianrocha8647 2 жыл бұрын

Ha! You’re ridiculous……. Ridiculously amazing !!! 🤩. How do you explain things so perfectly? You speak to my heart. Thank you 🙏🏽

@kearaallbee5644 4 жыл бұрын

Love love love this thankyou sooooo much. I needed this on this night so bad.

@divinelight4475 8 жыл бұрын

Freedom and Love. Big topic! Thank you for your valuable and authentic advice. Love your laugh! So light and happy,

@patsygarrett1301 5 жыл бұрын

On a more serious note, I was extremely jealous and it didn't calm down till I got older. Now the love of my life is in Spirit. I know he knows I'm sorry for that now but what a waste of energy it was. Just saying.....

@kathrynphillips3710 4 жыл бұрын

Everything is energy..and energy changes and therefore transforms such is nature and the universal laws of life..🌷💐♥️🌸🌼🌹🦋🧚‍♂️🦄💚💜💐🌷🌼🌸

@lifeisbeautiful7047 2 жыл бұрын

Nothing is mine, everything is borrowed

@lovepeace9929 3 жыл бұрын

Everything is borrowed ♡♡I love it Thanks ♡

@lsuebooker5349 4 жыл бұрын

Wonderful 😊 Thank you 💞✨

@charissacocomire5805 4 жыл бұрын

Nothing is mine every thing is borrowed" Thank you I enjoyed this one a whole bunch, 😭💛

@sunbeam9222 2 жыл бұрын

Life got easier when I decided to take the entire responsibility of what's happening to me. Wholeness arised. You don't mind what happens when you accept it with love and freedom.

@deevamuir8106 2 жыл бұрын

Wow!! Thank you

@kalpanichithra 2 жыл бұрын

thank you so much.Your videos are so enlightening and useful in life. xoxo

@erik64in 11 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@jho9132 2 жыл бұрын

i love this, thank you christina lopes. - jho

@infinitedestiny6328 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@serratoanthony 2 жыл бұрын

Another fantastic vidoe.

@MichaelFG 2 жыл бұрын

Im no longer attached.... When i sing a song that reminded me of someone everyone thinks in still thinking about that certain person......im not (very few songs remain with a person)... My love for the song outweighs my love for them...ill still cheer them on .... Because "its build baby build not burn baby burn"

@loisraymcinnis6006 2 жыл бұрын

Even birds stay together.

@karenweger6314 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Christina. Very helpful.

@alexh8244 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@michaelmansvelt9843 Жыл бұрын

Thanks great video

@davecsaszarable 2 жыл бұрын

I am a 45 gay man! There’s something that’s called open relationships. Meaning you can be in a relationship and also experience your sexuality however you want. If my boyfriend’s sex fantasy is to have a threesome with an Asian and black guy, I will never be able to provide that. I also wouldn’t want to be the reason somebody didn’t do something. I used to have this idea of love and ownership going hand by hand. I have been in long term relationships since I was 17. In the queer community is very normal to celebrate somebody’s unapologetic choice to do with their body and their sexuality whatever makes them happy. But we tend to only be happy when others are doing only what we want them to do. That’s not love. That is attachment. Instead of trying to change somebody so they will fit in the parameters of our own minds, shouldn’t we be letting people be who they wanna be asap? In my opinion (and I respect your choice to disagree) this idea that we get married in our 20s and we literally sign a contract that basically states that the only person you are allowed to fvck is me for the rest of our lives sounds like a prison. Not to mention that this normativas that society imposes on people is basically giving away a woman away as a piece of property, from man to man (father to husband) This is your movie. You are the director, writer, producer and actor! If a monogamous relationship is not for you, then people should respect that. And if they aren’t able to do so, maybe you are the wrong choice as their partner

@maisliz7325 5 жыл бұрын

This mantra actually makes me anxious! 😂😝

@ChristinaLopes 5 жыл бұрын

There's some work to do then! 😉

@kaylasheppard7746 4 жыл бұрын

@@ChristinaLopes how do you accept this mantra, with having kids? How are you supposed to feel like your kids aren't your own? It feels unsettling to think absolutley everything can be taken away from us at a moments notice. What a horrible thought

@epicnessendshere 4 жыл бұрын

I really need the answer to this question. I've been asking this ever sence I've tried to detach myself from the ego.