How to Make REALLY Good New Years Resolutions and Make Them Now + Free Worksheet

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New Years resolutions are more than the punchline of a joke. They are actually a powerful tool to help you cross over the threshold of the new year into new possibility with a clearer idea of goals and strategies for living a bigger, bolder, and truer life. Join me as I talk about how to do this and why you should be doing it sooner than later to give your goals a fighting chance.
Here is a link to a worksheet that can help you organise your thoughts. You can go to my website and see the original along with an example of my own brainstorming or keep reading to find it here in the text box.
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NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS WORKSHEET
Take stock of the last year. What are the things that stand out, both good and otherwise? Brainstorm: books, music, walks, cooking, making, learning. Can you list at least five things that stand out about this past year? Feel free to add more, as many as you can think of, on a separate sheet of paper. Pay attention to:
• What did you learn this year?
• What did you try this past year?
• What did you make that you really enjoyed?
The next questions may throw up some scary and/or sad emotions. Feel free to take it slow and take lots of breaks in this section but be as honest as you can. You can’t heal until you face up to it. Facing the truth is your first step in healing and transforming.
• What is in your life that does not serve you?
• How do you trip yourself up?
• What are you afraid of?
• What are you afraid of missing?
Now, take what you have thought about and written and use it to make your goals for the year to come and to give you some context for what you desire.
• This year, what do you want to learn?
• This year, what do you want to try?
• This year, what do you want to change or remove from your life that does not serve you? Is there anything that you just want to stop?
• What are things that you would add or change in the coming year if you could? (Do this quickly, no editing.)
• If you could have any wishes and knew that they had already come true, what would they be?
• What would it look like if you knew you could live a bigger and bolder life? Add details - lots of details.
• What do you have to do to die with the right regrets?

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@robertakeirn1870 7 ай бұрын

What a beautifully thoughtful post. This is what I enjoy so much about your work and why your videos are often my first suggestion to people who are searching. Excellent art work and a beautiful spirit. Thank you. 🖤 Gilly

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

MY goodness what a nice thing to read, Gilly. My early life had a lot of challenges. Persistence and imagination (and luck) got to another side of stuff and I believe in this so, so much, also that persistence and imagination have a lot to do with making way for luck. I just wanted to get that out there in case there was someone who needed to here it. Thank you for touching base with your kind words. Kelly

@denisecope 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this kick in the pants! What fun to step back and take stock, and begin again. P. S. I love a good worksheet too.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hi Denise, thanks for touching base. It is fun to take stock and at the end of the day, a luxury we owe ourselves. 😺😺

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Here is the worksheet that can help you organise your thoughts about the year that is passing and the one to come and turn them into resolutions: bookandpaperarts.com/a-worksheet-to-help-you-organise-your-thoughts-and-goals-for-the-new-year/

@kristinev7671 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for these excellent ideas and for being genuine and generous. 🌞💚❣️

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

What a lovely message, Kristine. I just have found that these techniques work, with persistence, and had to get it out there! Have a lovely December. Kelly @@kristinev7671

@MP-or6zn 7 ай бұрын

Kelly, thank you, this video is very helpful for me. I usually don't make New Year resolutions. I just decide what I want to do when ever. However, when it come to my artwork, this strategy never worked out so well. I do need to write out my goals. The prompts are a big help. I have to watch this over again and take notes. Your hair looks super.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hiya. Thank you for this charming message. Actually, resolutions (goal making) are such essential tools in my life and creative life toolbox that I also "set" mid-year resolutions around the end of May. Not even kidding. I take stock of how the first of the year resolutions are faring and see what needs to tweaking or more. Creatively I suspect most of us are not quite honest with ourselves about wanting more and pen and paper are genius tools for getting that going. On a less lofty note, I am pretty darn pleased with how the hair is growing out! Kind of an old lady, bad ass shag. I try to do my bit. 😺😺

@jlojai 7 ай бұрын

I love this! I think this is why mine have always failed. No prep. No real thought went into them. I’m going to do this now, and at Samhain 2024, I’ll do it again, as that’s when my “new year” begins. Thank you Kelly!!

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hi Julie. Thanks for touching base. It is weird how no one ever tells us to gives our dreams and goals a heads-up so we can warm up. And yes! to checking in for Samhain. I didn't want to sound too obsessed in the video so I didn't go on about how I ALWAYS check in with mid-years resolutions, to tweak the beginning of the year one. Keep me posted on how it goes. Kelly

@sandybe11 7 ай бұрын

The worksheet is a wonderful invitation to center ourselves and be present to our thoughts and feelings. Thank you for the encouragement! I needed this today.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hi Sandy, thank you for letting me know this. I strongly suspected that there might be someone who needed this nudge. It is, as you say, that luxury of being present and letting our thoughts be less cluttered and BOMBARDED and see what's in there trying to get out. Pen and paper is all we need. I hope you find a path. Kelly

@inkagarden8939 5 ай бұрын

This! Exactly this!

@lynnboyd33 7 ай бұрын

Kelly, Just finished the second half of this brilliant video! Man, I just love you! You are SO genuine, honest and open, right down to the eyebrow topic ;) And again, I really like the idea of starting your goals NOW! Thank you again Kelly. I'm printing your sheets out as I type this.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hello, dear Lynn. Thanks bunches for this. It is sometimes a tightrope to get the right amount of sharing for insight and not fall off of it into look-at-me land. It is telling that getting this resolution video up and out there has been on my list of resolutions for four years. It works!

@dianabrandt330 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Kelly. Lovely ideas that I will start on today. A different take on being mindful and using creativity to make a difference to our lives. Thank you

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this lovely message, Diana. As a teacher and as a creative person I find that it is so easy not to give ourselves the luxury of reflection and being truly honest with ourselves about we allow ourselves to believe and reach for. Writing it all out is the most powerful tool I know for getting past that. I hope you come up with some good ones!

@CatherineSunnysideJournals 7 ай бұрын

Great ideas! I will put them to good use. My challenge is: mentally, MY new year starts in September. I find that the Tuesday after Labour Day "feels" like the beginning of another year. I think, for me mentally, it hails back to the beginning of a new school year. But I do like your suggestions and ideas and plan to use them.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Catherine, the truth is that I start mine in October like religion and I fully meant to do this video then but Stuff Happened. But as it is has been on my list of resolutions to do this resolution video for three years, this is real progress.

@reginaeid1568 6 ай бұрын

This takes resolutions out of the drunken’ party game experience and raises it up! Thank you so much for this video and the insight of right regrets- love that❤

@BookandPaperArts 6 ай бұрын

Thank you, Regina. There are wheels within wheels here as getting a video up about the importance and meaningfulness of resolution-making has been one of my resolutions for four years. 😊Happy Resolving and Happy New Year to you, my dear.

@MrsPatJones 6 ай бұрын

Thanks for this - it's a great resource to get an overview of the year and to plan ahead.

@BookandPaperArts 6 ай бұрын

Now go get 'em, Pat.🙂

@MrsBednar 7 ай бұрын

Seriously a great post to set me up for success this year! I’m going to reflect on all the questions. Thank you.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hi Margaret. Resolutions are a big part of my year: I even make mid-year resolutions to tweak the first of the year ones. I hope you have a creative December and a very happy New Year! Kelly

@SillyThingsArt 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video ❤ It's SO important! I will think about it and write down my notes. Maybe I'll come back to add something to this comment. Greetings from Germany 🦋

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, Jutta. You are right, it is important and this time of year can be busy and crazy and it can also be a time for reflection and being honest with ourselves. I hope you make some super goals for the new year! Kelly

@shreevas6160 7 ай бұрын

thanks for keeping it real kelly. we never just come up with a resolution that we stick to. it has been turning around in our heads for a while and its that lead up / warm up that eventually sets the habit. great video.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Hiya, Shreeva. Nah, there is no need to "fail". In fact, one of the best things I discovered was that there is something called Lady's Day which is in March and not that long ago in history it was the beginning of the year. So sometimes if I get a wobbly start I just practice and keep getting stuff into place and then when 25 March comes round I think, Happy New Year and here are my resolutions and goals all put in place and ready to go.

@lynnboyd33 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for these very wise words Grasshopper! ;)Kelly, at the end of every year, you always have sage advice for everyone, no matter how we live our lives and what we want to accomplish in the near future. I love the suggestion of starting NOW, because Jan.1st, usually for me, always feels a bit heavy from all the goals and ideas you had just a couple weeks back! Thank you again! I'm always am drawn to your voice, ideas and creations. Happy Holidays, my creative friend!

@cassiezcreates2878 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this wonderful walk through of New Years Resolutions! To be completely honest, as much as I also love the new year and all the things it represents, I have always been someone who, for whatever odd reason, feels like I can’t really start work on my new year’s goals until the new year starts. And as you said, that puts so much pressure and strain on those goals that a lot of the time I feel overwhelmed and I always end up not reaching those goals. This is such a fresh perspective for me. I’ve already been struggling this January because I had some hiccups the first week or so and it feels like I’m already “behind”. But watching your video has helped me to understand that not only is it not too late for this year, but has also given me a new outlook to better set myself up for success next year!

@BookandPaperArts 5 ай бұрын

Stay tuned, Cassie! This weekend's video is for you and for all of us who stumbled going over that New Years threshold. Don't give up now. We are just getting up and running. The good stuff will follow. Kelly

@cassiezcreates2878 5 ай бұрын

@@BookandPaperArts I look forward to it!!

@loisraphael9748 7 ай бұрын

Another inspiring video, Kelly. I have some resolutions that I want to start working on. I love the idea of starting now, rather than waiting for January 1. I'm looking forward to downloading your worksheet and seeing how it helps me with the next steps. Thank you for the worksheet and the inspiration.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for touching base with this message, Lois. I know you read my written posts in the past and can see how important this is to me; that's why I keep yelling it from the rooftops. I have you find your goals and it starts you on a path or two to you creative - and other - goals. (Who am I kidding? I am always hoping to lose a size. Not very spiritual but there it is. 😎)

@loisraphael9748 7 ай бұрын

@BookandPaperArts Strength training and fitting back in some of my cool old blazers are two things at the top of my list. Don't discount your physical goals. They are equally as important as your spiritual, emotional, and creative goals.

@BookandPaperArts 6 ай бұрын

Darn straight, Lois. The thing is most of my life this has been driven by vanity but now I am at a time of my life when I am going for strength, health, and balance. To say nothing of those cool old blazers - I know exactly what you mean. @@loisraphael9748

@debrawaterman7970 7 ай бұрын

I usually write down New Year’s resolutions, but only around January 1st. I love the idea of getting started early. Thank you for the inspiration and the freebie. May this Christmas season full of much joy!

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, Debra. Yes, it is so crazy easy to just start the whole thing before we are standing on the starting line. That way we can practice and flop and get up and dust ourselves off and repeat and THAT'S IT, THAT'S ALL IT TAKES and then come 1 January we can have clearer sight of that path and step out onto it. Kelly

@jessicaskok 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video and for the link. I've wanted to do something like this but it felt overwhelming to do. Your presentation today makes it more doable now. I'm excited to start, because as you asked questions, my mind had all kinds of answers. I just need to get them down on paper now so I can feel empowered to continue to create my life.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this lovely message, Jessica. I know from teaching (and my own experience!) that is can be difficult to give ourselves permission to be honest with our creative dreams, let alone go big with them. Paper and pen and some quiet (I sometimes go to the library and I have my own studio - libraries are just so very quiet and that helps) can keep us honest and dreaming. Here's hoping you have a very happy New Year. Kelly

@user-if8bb5eq7p 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, Kelly. I appreciated your candor in this video. Your work is lovely. I wish you healing over the loss of a loved one, and a happy new year. What a good idea to start early!

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, my dear. Losing my sister and mom this year was a big wake up call to take my work and my life seriously. I started working through my thoughts of loss and of what is given a few weeks ago and intend to allow myself the luxury of more so that in a few weeks I can come out swinging! All the best, and happiest of New Years to you. Kelly

@roksannastephens4375 7 ай бұрын

Very nice Kelly. Appreciate the list and warm-ups to start our new year's resolutions! Ty!!

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thanks bunches, Roksanna. I hope you come up with some stellar creative goals for the coming year. And yes, warming up is such common sense - we would never treat our work outs or even our craft projects without some planning and arranging and stuff. So go get 'em!

@roksannastephens4375 6 ай бұрын

Indeed friend!! Thank you again.

@theresapalmer7892 7 ай бұрын

Kelly, I love this my birthday was Friday 74th and was just thinking about all these things. How it makes sense to have a plan quideline head of time rather than a rash idea or statement on New Years day. I too am planning on drawing everyday because I need and want to get better at it. So I started on my Birthday. I think this will help me direct my collage journals I've been going to start. I just finished making all my Holiday cards to post tomorrow. Thank you so much for this inspiring post today. Have a wonderful week. I'm proud to see that you have already shared with us some changes you made to be more creative in your new focus and path. I'm here for the tag along.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this thoughtful message, Theresa. As a teacher I have seen all of the ways we will derail our creative goals if we are not super vigilant and persistent but the great thing is, we can be those things! Those collage journals sound fascinating. I want to find a way to combine original painting (not great at it but I enjoy it) and collage. Keep me posted on how yours go. And Happy Birthday. I do hope cake was involved. Kelly

@barrylytle5118 7 ай бұрын

Interesting thoughts! I'll have tonthink on this and watch this a couple more times... I gave uo on resolutions as I never completed one, nothing changed and it g gave me a negative to once again beat myself up. So I stopped making them.

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Then you are the very person I made this for, Barry. If you started your holiday doings on December 24 you would probably "fail" but you start nice and early with a plan and lists and get all of your ducks in a row. You can do the same here and find that you are situated come 1 January and can follow through. Give yourself a chance. And keep me posted. Kelly

@sandrawheeler2295 7 ай бұрын

Ok, I'll start with a confession. I love your videos but I didn't think this was my thing. I don't make resolutions...my motto is kind of "what will be will be"...but this was intriguing and got me thinking why the hell don't I?? I even brought this up with hubby and both of us started to list the things we want to achieve. Who knew he pined to return to Nepal? Um, not with me though 😅 Your pep talk succeeded here, and I'm off to make a list...

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

Wow, Sandra, thank you for this message. I did realise that it is not exactly on-brand (🫤) but it has been on my list of things to get out there for about four years because I believe it in so, so much. I even make mid-year resolutions to take stock and tweak how the year is going. Yogi Berra said, "If you don't know where you're going, you'll end up someplace else." I guess resolutions are my way of knowing where I am going. Probably. Nepal? (Nah.) But listing and then giving shape to what you want to achieve is powerful. Thank you for giving it a try. 🌷🌷🌼🌼🌻🌻

@leonievieira6986 6 ай бұрын

How beautiful ❤ can you please tell me where I can find your worksheet please, I'd really love that🌸🌸🌸

@BookandPaperArts 6 ай бұрын

Hi there, Leonie. I always put links in the textbox below the video and usually also in the first comment, also below the video. But here you go! I hope you make meaningful resolutions and Happy New Year. Kelly bookandpaperarts.com/a-worksheet-to-help-you-organise-your-thoughts-and-goals-for-the-new-year/

@alexandraalmeida3661 7 ай бұрын

Hi, Kelly! I’m one of those people for whom resolutions make no sense, I’m sorry to say. I could never understand why we should make resolutions in the beginning of the year, when, in fact, time is continuous and 1st January is just the day after 31st December. Being a teacher, the school year begins in September and, having been in school all my life (as a student and then a teacher), the year actually begins in September. In January it’s simply the beginning of the 2nd term. I think that “having to” make resolutions in the New Year is so stressful. What if I don’t have any, because I made them throughout the year? Or what if I don’t feel well pressuring myself to make resolutions because everyone is doing that? When you did that video on journaling, I started journaling. I had never done that in my life, but it’s been 200 plus days that I journal every single day (I then cover it all up with art pieces, I will never read it again). It has helped me a lot, specially regarding my mother’s death. So, everyday I reflect on what bothers me, what makes me sad, what I want to change, what I want to do, what makes me happy, etc. In fact, today (5th December) I did something that was a resolution made a few days ago. Having said that, I don’t understand why I should write about resolutions, specifically this time of the year, when everyday I reflect about my life... Anyway, I always love your videos and I have nothing against people who make resolutions, I have a friend who does that and also on her birthday. So I understand it, but if you journal, isn’t that redundant? 💙💜💚♥️🧡💗🖤💛❤️

@BookandPaperArts 6 ай бұрын

Hello, dear Alex. I guess for me there is a threshold between the end of the year and the beginning of the new one - although you are quite right about time and the calendar I am using has not always been the same calendar as the past. So for me, it is a gesture and I do love a good gesture. Well done on the journal work. I am sorry for the loss of your mother and I hope this helps you with therapy, grief, and acceptance. All the best. 🌻🌼🌷Kelly

@alexandraalmeida3661 6 ай бұрын

@@BookandPaperArts I understand. I think that the change of the calendar for me would be my birthday, when I feel that a new beginning is happening 😊 Thank you, the journal is really, really helping 🙏♥️

@lalitha2702 7 ай бұрын

What do you mean by right regrets?

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

That is a good question, Rita. I mean that when it is out last day here what might be the thing that we are sorry we didn't let ourselves do or try. The regret part is that even though we may not "succeed" as the world counts these things, maybe our wild dream was a detour from the norm that costs us in other ways, but it would have been a mortal mistake not to try. 🌻🌼🌷

@lalitha2702 7 ай бұрын

@@BookandPaperArts Ah, now I understand what you meant, and I completely agree. Thanks!

@BookandPaperArts 7 ай бұрын

🌻🌼🌷@@lalitha2702

@inkagarden8939 5 ай бұрын

This video is one of the best videos I found in youtube about new year resolutions and goals in general! Your list is gold, I am so thankful for it. I took the time and answered them and gained something incredibly precious: CLARITY! also, it started me dreaming again 🙏 🙏🙏 God bless you! I wish you the best of years and the best of vibes on your way!