HOW TO OVERCOME REGRETS IN LIFE | Overcome Regret Guilt & Shame

HOW TO OVERCOME REGRETS IN LIFE | Overcome Regret Guilt & Shame | Wu Wei Wisdom

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Discover how to overcome regrets in life and make peace with your past… 👉 Work one-to-one with David: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies...
☯️ EPISODE # 46 of our Life Lessons teaching series
You’ll learn:
- What causes regret, guilt and shame and how to release these painful emotions.
- Why you get trapped in a cycle of self-punishment and how to break this self-harming habit.
- The importance of learning the ‘Life Lesson’ from past mistakes and how to do this.
- Why seeking self-forgiveness or forgiveness from other people will never work and the secret to finding lasting inner peace.
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@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

❓ Did you enjoy this video ❓ Post your comments, questions & suggestions for future videos below - we’d LOVE to hear from you! 🌱 Want to work one-to-one with David? ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ 🌱 Join our private Facebook Community Support Group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ 🌱 Sign up to receive a RELAXING GUIDED MEDITATION GIFT, plus our weekly newsletter + offers via email ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/signup/ ▶️ OTHER VIDEOS YOU MAY ENJOY The Stuck Inner Child | Why Can’t I Let Go of The Past? kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ratyfdyWy5m2YGQ.html Healing Toxic Shame kzfaq.info/get/bejne/pZyGhcx-t6-snY0.html Mistakes Are Lessons | How to Leave Your Comfort Zone with Inner Child Work kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hd17appjtKrNmmQ.html The Self-Love Secret: How to Begin Loving Yourself kzfaq.info/get/bejne/Y6-Cg5lj1cerink.html Let Go Of The Past & Heal Your Inner Child kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oN6dgK6Entfdc6c.html Letting Go of The Past - Childhood Trauma & Living in The Now kzfaq.info/get/bejne/m9WZjcipl6mdg30.html Finding Yor Higher Self - Your Spiritual Self Explained kzfaq.info/get/bejne/j8t6asKmms3UY6c.html My Spiritual Life - How to Be Spiritual In Daily Life (Without Religion) kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hdGGqqWT35-plac.html The Inner Child Explained: How to Love, Guide & Heal Your Inner Child kzfaq.info/get/bejne/eLNgn9CXp9KpYnk.html Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 1 & 2) kzfaq.info/get/bejne/idSUiteT0bzKYok.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/eL-Fq6SCvtbXe5s.html How to Understand Your Emotions | Heal Your Emotions kzfaq.info/get/bejne/b76loq9q1be3gmw.html Anxiety Therapy | Powerful Anxiety Help & Treatment kzfaq.info/get/bejne/a7RnpqZi3q2-f2g.html How To Stop Being A People Pleaser - The People Pleaser Explained kzfaq.info/get/bejne/rd1iktGp2diXqnk.html How to Stop Caring What Others Think of You kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gdyCZM-Hx7eVe2Q.html

@elliepascoe5954 4 жыл бұрын

I accepted a long time ago that I can (and did) make mistakes. The big life lesson I got today is: other people can make mistakes, too. I can be hurt, I don't have to agree. But I must learn to accept this too and still be my authentic self. Thank you, have a beautiful Sunday!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Great share Ellie... and yes, ff we apply the acceptance teaching to ourselves we must also apply it to others. No CCJ for you or anyone else. Remember also that you create the emotional 'hurt' or Red Light Feeling, so you can now choose to create this or not... x

@elliepascoe5954 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Touché...we will talk soon:-)

@laurasilvajimenez2200 2 жыл бұрын

Thank u so much. I’ve been dealing with this “life sentence” self punishment for years. I made a life-changing mistake and I believed I needed to feel guilty for life even if it doesn’t change anything

@t-bone6467 2 жыл бұрын

Someone once said if God forgives you, then who are you to not forgive yourself.

@lillynava3298 Жыл бұрын

Me too! In fact, multiple life changing mistakes. I’d love to talk to you more about how you overcame them 💪🏼

@beerman1957 2 жыл бұрын

I have issues figuring out why I cheated on my wife… not just once… many times. Finally the divorce has really hit me and has tremendously affected my inner child. I spend a lot of time crying and wishing I was a different person. I know this isn’t the way I should go, but I am still having this issue. I do take the responsibility and I really want to become the best person I can be. Sorry if this got too long, but I needed to write this out.

@MagiMystik 4 жыл бұрын

I like the way you put it "I accept what you have done."

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Magi Yes, 'acceptance' clear the confusion and hierarchy that being judgemental about another person can create! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

@mirelladlima5278 3 жыл бұрын

No one is perfect. Not our parents, not our caregivers, not our siblings, not our relatives, not our friends. No one so we are all imperfect and we all make mistakes and that's how we learn the hard lessons of life. Very true each one of us has to find our own balance and flip the bad experiences to learn something from it and help others with what we learned from it.🙏

@cynthiapate9138 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you both for this teaching. The difference between acceptance and forgiveness really struck home with me. Beating yourself up is a pattern I have repeated. Now I see that I am doing that for the payoff of not being responsible....what a light bulb. I also liked the saying “Poacher turned Gamekeeper”.

@studiopolycultura 2 жыл бұрын

This was a very powerful and difficult video. I think it's because I personally had to re-enter the situation in which I made the mistake and relive it in order to really understand what belief systems were impacting me at the time.

@CraigTara113 4 жыл бұрын

I am sure I have watched this video ten times but listening to it tonight it really sunk in. A point that struck a chord quite deeply is that we really don’t like to admit we are not perfect and that we make mistakes. This is quite bizarre when I consider the weight of guilt I have carried round over the years. You think we would accept quite early in the process of making mistakes and obsessing over the feelings that we get from the judgements we place on ourselves that we are not perfect. It’s also a very curious thing to say to ourselves I.e. that we are not perfect as it kind of implies that there is a standard of perfection around somewhere. Of course perfection is a perception and I never quite knew what perfection was but for me I think having the flash car (a red Porsche) and a million other qualities was probably my bar lol. Admitting I made mistakes isn’t so hard to yourself it’s when I won’t admit then to others. Then I build a wall of lies I end up believing. It’s hard to be humble but it’s beautiful to know that I am human and that being human I am not perfect never will be 🤭 and it’s actually okay and extremely necessary that I make mistakes for my development, maybe just try to make a few less each day 😁😁

@kalice119 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so, so much! Because of this teaching I could move on from a situation that kept me in for three years.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Kalice, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@judithwallace2091 4 жыл бұрын

💖This is perfect for me right now. My family just returned from a vacation. While on vacation ( and in day to day life) we had alot of details to watch over and get right. We had an issue with the rental car that will now take time to sort out. It's so easy to fall into self anger and condemnation. This helps alot. Thank you.

@heathercameron1176 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this FANTASTIC info! I appreciate your teachings so very much. Thank you for all of your hard work and dedication :-)

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Heather! We appreciate your support too :) If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

@mirelladlima5278 3 жыл бұрын

So true David. Too often we pass on the power to others to forgive us. Once we learn to forgive ourselves and get resolution. Yes we don't want to take responsibility and find excuses to justify our behavior. Yes I want to live in truth to my HIGHER truer self. Yes we have to stop continuously moving on this self torturing path. Tks David and Alex. I love the term "Carousel of Despair".🎠🌝🍕🍕🌺🌺🌻🙏

@redladyrose7208 4 жыл бұрын

Hi David and Alex.. This video is amazing.. visiting the dark places is awful.Some times this journey makes me question alot of issues , and I get frustrated..Still thinking of the light at the end of the tunnel ..Always greatful for your support xx Love to you both. ♥️

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed the video Denise :) xx

@wendyfish2482 3 жыл бұрын

I listen to you everyday and you guys are amazing you really have helped me and I thank you

@WuWeiWisdom 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Wendy Fish, thanks for sharing your thoughts! We value your support. Alex + David x

@astrocatcity 2 жыл бұрын

This is a brilliant video, I’ve watched it three times and I am gaining some insights about a couple of core beliefs I have which resulted in some mistakes I cannot undo. Moving towards acceptance takes time. But thank you 🙏🏻♥️

@Melinamiu007 2 жыл бұрын

You both bring kindness to KZfaq and KZfaq needs it!

@victoriamiller77 7 ай бұрын

I think your advice is the best I've heard, thank you for making these videos! 😊

@WuWeiWisdom 7 ай бұрын

Hello Victoria, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.

@littlelizzie5092 4 жыл бұрын

Fantastic ... as always, learning all the time. Growing in confidence, reducing red lights. Thank you David and Alex. Your both fantastic. ☯️💜👌🏼🙏🏼xxx

@TalcomoelSol 3 жыл бұрын

I've not listened all you have to say already, but to me is important making a pause and write: THANKS FOR THIS PRAGMATIC AND SOLID PERSPECTIVE. IT'S ACTUALLY HELPFUL.

@WuWeiWisdom 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Cuerpo es alma, thanks for watching! We value your support. You may find our Golden Thread Process / Emotional Health Video Playlist helpful: kzfaq.info/sun/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD ~ Alex + David x

@WuWeiWisdom 3 жыл бұрын

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@lindafisher5799 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, wow, wow! New to your series....love what you have to share. This discussion hit my achilles tendon; it has been part of the core problem - guilt, shame. I had not forgiven myself. I now see the many reasons that the guilt arises. I am now able to see what work I have to do. The inner child needs so much attention, so much love. Thank you for the myriad of ways to love myself as a HUMAN BEING>

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Linda We're glad the videos are helping you! We have lots more videos on healing past hurt and old trauma and Inner Child work here that you may also find helpful: kzfaq.info/sun/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

@rachelbarber8814 4 жыл бұрын

This is something I will need to keep re watching. I think I struggle with stepping away from forgiveness as a ideal is that it is a key Christian concept and I was brought up in that tradition. This has such deep ramifications for me personally to think that how forgiveness been taught is wrong and the focus is more helpfully on acceptance. It's going to be powerful to get to acceptance of all of these things and also the things that I've done wrong which are causing me guilt, shame and regret at the present time.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Sanjana, Thank you for your question as you know from our videos, the teaching is you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim. Anger is an emotion, therefore, you are creating it! To find out the root cause or Fountainhead of the anger, you have two practice the Golden Thread Process that we demonstrate on many videos to understand the underlying life lesson. David

@jenwilliams5260 4 жыл бұрын

Alex and David: Thank you so much for doing what you do. I only just found you! For years now I have been suffering waves of regret, guilt, shame that sometimes feel like tsunamis. I am guessing these are red light symptoms? Almost like panic attacks. I feel like i'm going to get sick. The "I can't believe I did that." or "Oh. My. God. What have i done?" It just washes over me and colors everything I do or don't do. In fact I am paralyzing myself. I never thought of all of this in terms of "acceptance, not forgiveness." It makes so much sense. It never occurred to me all this time while alternating between these bouts of self-punishment and bouts of this need for forgiveness that really I have only been desperately seeking ways to avoid acceptance. I've been skipping a step, THE step. And if that's what I'm going to keep doing, then I will be doing it til the day I die and STILL NOT FORGIVE myself. For the first time in a long time I am feeling hopeful. And I want to learn how to get to the bottom of it and change truly.

@christinaashcroft8716 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this I've been feeling guilt of my part in a situation which NEVER should have happened, it was back in the 70's. I now need to put it to rest.

@bernadettemeade7259 4 жыл бұрын

Great video and one I really needed to hear today, as have been one deep in guilt, regret and especially shame over past events. Aware there was a life lesson that I needed to learn... struggling with self responsibility and going into victim mode, staying on carousel of despair!

@sj2024sj 3 ай бұрын

Love this channel, thank you ❤❤❤❤

@WuWeiWisdom 3 ай бұрын

Hi @sj2024sj, Thank you so much for your love and support! We're thrilled to hear you enjoy our channel. It’s our pleasure to share this journey with you, and we look forward to continuing to provide content that resonates and supports your path to peace and fulfillment. Kind Regards, David

@rebeccaobanion5053 4 жыл бұрын

Best message ever!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Rebecca! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

@sharonc.3777 3 жыл бұрын

I would like to work with David by video on this issue. I placed my Dad in a nursing home 30 years ago (I am now 67). I have been punishing myself for 30 years because it was a rash and unnecessary decision and he suffered and died there. I was overcome at the time with urgency and negative emotion which I longed to escape from. What I am taking away from this video is the idea that I cannot undo what I did, although I have the strongest desire of my entire life to undo this decision. And that I must accept that I was a flawed human being, actually AM a flawed human being. This is what's difficult to accept because I don't think I'm lovable if I am not perfect and forgiven. Not deserving of love towards myself. I have learned the lesson of not making rash decisions, or letting feelings flow and not acting quickly upon them without sitting with them. There was a lot I didn't realize, a lot was simple ignorance. Yet I cannot forgive myself for that, either.

@breanna886 2 жыл бұрын

I know that this is old but your comment really resonated with me. I’m currently going through something that I regret doing and it goes against my morals and values and it is something I cannot undo.. I made the quickest decision possible because it was something I would have preferred not to wait long on. Instead of sitting in my emotions, I made a really quick, stupid decision. I too understand that I am flawed and will make mistakes just like other people, but I just feel like I’m better than what I did and should have known better. I feel bad just as you do but while I was reading your comment, I felt compassion for you which is something I do not feel for myself. I would just like to tell say that you were probably doing what you thought was right at the time although you realize now it was not exactly the best decision. I would also like to tell you that you should try to be compassionate to yourself just as someone else would be to you. That decision doesn’t make you a bad person and it definitely doesn’t mean you did not love your dad. Also, you are a good person for looking back and realizing that there was another decision you could have made and just the fact that you feel emotion about it shows that you truly are a good person. Good luck to you!

@sharonc.3777 2 жыл бұрын

@@breanna886 wow so great to be heard and to know that there can be forgiveness and understanding for terrible mistakes. I think my lack of self forgiveness is just something that’s going to be there it’s an old tape and it’s just going to run. I noticed that it takes on different thoughts but it’s basically the same kind of anger toward myself. I got a lot of help from one thing that Eckhart Tolle said. This is really paraphrasing and putting my own spin on it, but…He said you didn’t really make the mistake. It was the pain body that made a mistake it was something in your consciousness at the time but you are the awareness and the presence not the acting out against pain from pain.

@charleshurstreinvention3959 2 жыл бұрын

The key isn't to focus on the past. The regret is formed by not changing your future self. This is what I tell my subscribers. Fact is that most will die with regret of things they didn't do versus the things they did that were failures. Failure is far less painful than than the pain of never trying at all. Trust me on this as a former skilled nursing home provider. Everyone in their last days said the same thing--how all they did was pay bills, how they never wrote that book or saw Nepal. I can tell you that I have had massive failures of things attempted that just weren't meant to be. But I have minimal regret because I DID attempt them. And that is the key to having minimal regret in life. Everyone has regrets but they should be small. If you pursue everything you dream about--failure or not you will have a sense of at least giving it a best shot. That's the secret. Hope this helps---Charles

@thekiaramonet 2 жыл бұрын

These videos have really been helping me change my view on things in the most positive way. Just wanted to say thank you !

@stenialeo8700 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this amazing video. I'm in the process of healing because I'm very hard in myself and sometimes its hard to accept my mistakes so I keep on punishing myself for that but thanks God I came along this Chanel. Hope to learn my on the and help others in the future

@amy14helen 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you this has helps me so much

@NoreenHoltzen 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, subscribed. You are right to speak about regret as it is what Jesus made us. Good point. I used to feel guilty less often but since turning to Christ and church groups I have started to feel guilty more often, and you know what - it is for the better. When driving away from Jesus I feel more confident but when returning to church, the guilt comes back. At church we bring it up sometimes and our group agreed that part of faith is to celebrate our guilt, because it keeps us clean and beneath Him. Encouraging guilt is be part of our Christian culture that we inherited. I would not be ashamed of guilt as it is part of being a good Christian, and those that are not guilty might not be forgiven and thus might not reach heaven. I myself often have guilty feelings of not enough faith in God but I use this guilt to ask for forgiveness so I can be saved. I don’t think we should try to overcome our guilt but recognise it as part of being a Christian, even if it is difficult to live with. Even if we feel worse with this guilt, it I better to have it and know that we are true Christians. It brings us down, but it brings us together. Together, and down. Amen.

@hoorano 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video. It has helped me to address and unravel my own dilemmas that have been experiencing throughout my life. As both of you explained the process of how people remain on the carousel of despair in connection with regret, guilt, and shame, my inner child explained to me the vows (the irrational beliefs I made as a child) that kept me stuck. He also expressed the critical mistakes he did. I couldn't stop bawling. I then imagined my adult caregiving self, the one who is very loving to other people's children and popular with them, hugging my sobbing and quivering inner child cuddled on my lap. I then spoke to my inner child like how I talked with children I've worked with and acknowledged the anguish and shame I couldn't express as a child. I know the sentences may be confusing since I'm working with myself as I write. I then addressed my inner child's vows. I continued to cry as I asked why am I keeping my vows. As you prescribed, I listened and reflected his thoughts and feelings back to him. I never cried so hard. This video truly helped me do my own self-therapy. Thank you again.

@nicestuff8755 Жыл бұрын

So glad I found this! Thank you.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@silvercrypto4284 4 жыл бұрын

Another great video. Wishing you a happy and vivacious new year! 🎉😊❤️

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Silver Crypto... wishing you an AWESOME New Year too :) x

@runwiththewind3281 4 жыл бұрын

Happy Good Sunday to you Wu Wei wisdom

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Wishing you a peaceful Sunday and Christmas week! x

@lollipop3136 4 жыл бұрын

Such a brilliant and relatable video. Thank you both.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Louise! x

@lollipop3136 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom thank you, Ur both so soothing I sometimes listen to ur videos as I drift off to asleep :)

@zatowichie 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! This is very helpful.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@Bobcatspiritdude 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate this information. But I truly wish I could say this video helped me ,but it has not. I do wish everyone on Earth eternal divine health and financial Abundance! God-bless you all !🙏🙏🙏

@labradormcgraw 2 жыл бұрын

She came to me in the sleeping hours And she sang to me in the moonlight: "Where did you dance when you baffled our chance, And when did the motley bells chime?" I summoned a verse from a chorus of blame, But it drowned in the ghost of her song. He came to me in the sleeping hours And he called to me in the moonlight: "Why does the fold now weep to behold, And how does it feel to be free?" I tendered the words from the tears of the same, But they dried as the dawn came upon. They came to me in the sleeping hours And they whispered to me in the moonlight: "What did you reap when you floated the keep, And whom did you trust with the key?" I buried my head in a cushion of shame - And I woke to find them all gone.

@johnsantos3392 5 ай бұрын

What a helpful video

@WuWeiWisdom 5 ай бұрын

Hi @johnsantos3392, It warms our hearts to hear that you found the video helpful! We believe that each step in understanding and applying these teachings brings us closer to resolving issues and living in harmony with our Shen spirit. If you're ever inclined to delve deeper or share your journey, our Wu Wei Wisdom community is a welcoming space for that: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David

@nomg563 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Thank you and Thank you!

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Kind regards, David.

@Presiustajah Жыл бұрын

Great video

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@mirelladlima5278 3 жыл бұрын

@Colin O'Hara - This is so true.🙏

@mohammadshafiullah9393 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for the teaching. I feel a lot of guilt for even a small amount of mistakes. I will work on that. I am wondering if behavior addiction like internet overuse or porn addiction has something to with the feeling of guilt or shame.

@christinaashcroft8716 3 жыл бұрын

Would like to talk to you about a personal situation that happened in the 70's I got involved in a situation that was not good drink was involved which got me drawn into something that I knew was wrong now years later I am left consumed with guilt especially now as one of the people involved has died, it's brought it all back again and feel I need to work on this

@briancooper9983 3 жыл бұрын

For me "forgive" means we both know you owe me something, but the debt is cancelled as a gift. And I think forgiveness has its place. But how do you cancel your own debt? For me, that's where this teaching about acceptance really comes in. I accept I did that something that hurt you. Regardless of whether you forgive me, I don't want to do that or anything like it again. So I want to understand why I did it and how it hurt you. And that understanding begins with acceptance.

@sqrfoot6548 2 жыл бұрын

After I release regret shame and guilt, when do other people let go

@pussmun08 4 жыл бұрын

For me the word acceptance points to something ‘dryer’, and something that does not necessarily include my ‘heart’, than the word forgiveness. I believe that I can accept almost anything. If I intend to only accept and then be done with it, I believe that I may end up doing nothing about something that would have been better dealt with. I am speaking from my own experience.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Hakan Jacobsson, Thanks for your comments, I don't understand why you would choose not to do something that should have been dealt with through action? Acceptance has nothing to do with what you authentically choose to do or not do. I'm unsure what the 'heart' has to do with your point about the word 'forgiveness'. David

@pussmun08 4 жыл бұрын

Wu Wei Wisdom Of course, you are right that it is possible both to accept and to act. For me, accepting something has often made me stop worrying/caring so much about the matter and eventually do nothing about it. In my case I believe this has been an unexpected danger with mindfulness. I still love mindfulness and I love your teachings especially.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Hakan, I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process on why accepting something means that you eventually do nothing about it. David

@Last.Dark.Emperor 3 жыл бұрын

The mother i loved most and my only parent died and i could been there before etlist month before but i didnt see a need to go and visit her cas i didnt think that she will get so ill and die,and all she wonted is to see me,no greater regret than that,i cannot never fix that mistake cas i have nobody else who i love more

@inds6753 3 жыл бұрын

What if you are the perpetrator And the receiver? Essentially harming Yourself .

@lollipop3136 4 жыл бұрын

My human centered mind is very much in control, its painful.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

You can change this right now Louise... this is your journey and just watching these videos is an act of self-love that is shifting your energy and reconnecting you to the truth of who you REALLY are! x

@lollipop3136 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom..beautiful, thank you for pointing out that its self loving of me to be watching and trying to learn from ur videos.. ur right, I'm very disconnected frm my true self and have been as long as I can remember. I will continue trying to reconnect to myself. Not being my true self has cost me dearly, both internally and externally. I didn't realize until a few months back that I was so disconnected and I'm in my forties. But now I'm starting to see my mistakes although scared of not learning the lesson. I need to find my loving and powerful voice and self trust/worth. This same lesson I face is getting harder and harder each round. My wonderful human mind is doing a great job of trying to protect me. For that I'm grateful. It does drown out my true self though. This video was awesome for me thanks again, I'll be watching it more than once as needed.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

@@lollipop3136you can do this! It is never to late to learn... you are BLESSED to have this realisation and awakening now :) . Please watch our videos on Shen (your true self) if you haven't already - here's our Shen video playlist : kzfaq.info/sun/PL9NQ_PWX4zIBmp50wYcmU7jCBLp1Qvl-j

@lollipop3136 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you for the link. x

@sophsheff6335 4 жыл бұрын

Great video, thank you. Please can I ask a question, what if your mistake doesn't directly hurt anyone else but is very much against your gut feelings, it feels dark for example, and if other people knew about it it could change their perception of you and perhaps even hurt them in some way? In this sort of situation, would you recommend talking to those people or trying to find acceptance in yourself? Thank you :-)

@cheechchong3021 3 жыл бұрын

Acceptance in yourself and giving yourself the chance to quietly and lovingly moving on. I can relate to you and what I tell myself

@holla_j 3 жыл бұрын

I beat myself up better than most I think. Made some mistakes, upset and hurt people. I lash out when I am going through hard times. I never wanted to have a negative influence on anyone. I guess I beat myself up because I am currently very unhappy with my life. It's mainly about failed relstionships with women that have come amd gone. It's probably the lonliness that I experience and the depression I going through yet again. I honestly regret things I did in my relationships but I have also been hurt before when my exwife left me for another man. Im currently beating myself up over a relationship from last year that I could have handled differently. Sure there is a life lesson there but I punish myself soo much that I had go back to meds for depression and sleep. Now I know why people commit suicide. They are lonely and live with regret and can't live with themselves. Sure I can be more upbeat in the hopes that things will improve but Im demoralized by my choices and I can only go by my past. Sometimes I feel like I have messed up to the point of no return. The losses with love and business are mostly because of poor decisions on my part. Im not a bad person but regrets are piling up. Some are the result of bad luck but not much. I need a miracle or a change in fortunes to get my life back and be happy.

@WuWeiWisdom 3 жыл бұрын

Hi jeremy hollings, thanks for watching! We value your support. You may find our Golden Thread Process / Emotional Health Video Playlist helpful: kzfaq.info/sun/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD Alex + David x

@autumnrosek9761 3 жыл бұрын

What about truly evil people. How does this apply to them? How does a person get ride of shame that was caused due to a perpetrator?

@rinaward3195 3 жыл бұрын

Who defines 'truly evil' people? Is there judgement here? The word perpetrator implies a victim too. I have very slowly, tried to take total responsibility and not to keep looking back at actions performed by others who were not conscious at all. Possibly also suffering too.

@autumnrosek9761 3 жыл бұрын

@@rinaward3195 - society, the law, ( rapists, kidnappers, murderers) people who commit acts of violence against others. How do we remove shame from situations where these times of things occur?

@DAVEONFYE 3 жыл бұрын

AMEN

@bishalgurung3225 3 жыл бұрын

Hello sir/mam I was a cashier in department store I took some cash and didnot print the bill.. it was my mistake My boss saw it and slap me and fired from job... i regret so much why i have done that. I accept my mistake and appolize also But that event and slap regularly play in my mind... how to forget it Please give me some solution

@mirelladlima5278 3 жыл бұрын

is the human centred mind the same inner child that keeps springing up?

@wayaoh997 4 жыл бұрын

🙏🏻🕉☸️☯️⛩🌹

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Waya Oh! x

@olive2.0.2live3 Жыл бұрын

🙈🙉🙊💋

@lochan8180 2 жыл бұрын

"And I saw the dead, small and great, standing before God, and books were opened. And another book was opened, which is the Book of Life. And the dead were judged according to their works, by the things which were written in the books. The sea gave up the dead who were in it, and Death and Hades delivered up the dead who were in them. And they were judged, each one according to his works. Then Death and Hades were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death. And anyone not found written in the Book of Life was cast into the lake of fire." (REVELATION 20:12-15 NKJV) Today, while you are still alive and able, may you repent from your sins, believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that JESUS CHRIST is your Lord and Savior, so that through Him, your name will be written in the Book of Life. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever BELIEVES in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved." (JOHN 3:16-17 NKJV) By God's GRACE, the gift of Salvation and Eternal Life is available to all. You can RECEIVE it. You can REJECT it. May you choose wisely..✝️