I feel you

I don't even know how to respond to this... It's right on the nose on how it works. I almost feel like drug and alcohol addictions are easier because if you don't have the substance around you after you heal, then less of a chance of relapse... it's obviously still hard, don't get me wrong. But like, in the age of the internet, where even Facebook, KZfaq, Twitter, where social media has SOME kind of sexual/porn content... how are people like us supposed to stay away and heal? My brain, and body drive me to give in, where my brain and heart is calling me an idiot... then my brain starts kicking itself for giving in.

@@AxleMyths I feel the exact same way. The only way one can HOPE to get rid of it is shutting down the entire internet but sadly that would have massive consequences for the entire world and secondly it would only delay the inevitable. The horrible truth is, unless the medical community can come up with a miracle cure that will EXTERMINATE EVERY OUNCE OF URGE we cannot win! We cannot! I don‘t see why people in the comment section are trying to give us hope when we all know it’s HOPELESS! And yeah I also agree with the whole drugs thing since it’s your OWN BODY yeah normally I don’t do caps but this is ridiculous!

I am too

I understand the challenge. I’m a sober sex addict for nearly 11 years and my sex addiction was severe along with Methemphetamine and alcohol. Sex was my core addiction. It took my arrest and an advisor to finally change my life. Feel free to reach out, I love talking with people who are where I used to be.

I'm at a younger age, 18, and I was leading to the same dark path bro... It all started from viewing porn when I was like 11, and it has been ups and downs since then... It then went to hooking up and obviously viewing women as an object uncounciously more and more; and then cravings to pay for sex. I still have a lot of work put in my life goals and not everything is lost, but I realized if I didn't stop this madness I would end up throwing it all away and who knows what kind of pervert i'd become later in my life... I'm praying and getting more involved with God so I can get my sanity back, and i've made a lot of progress up until now, and I hope you too do well with your own fight. Stay strong 💪💪❤

How did you deal with that ?, I'm going thru the same I need advice

@@ve1488 i’m sober from sex addiction 11 years now at 52 years old, and after 30 years wrapped in the grip and the horrors of sexual behavior that literally brought me to a humiliating demise. I’m so grateful to have discovered a new way of living a new design of thinking, and have gained a peaceful, serene life today successful and grateful to be where I’m at, but it took losing absolutely everything to a very humiliating embarrassing demise doing things I never imagined I would do a sex addiction along with methamphetamine addiction that fed the sex addiction. But I am nearly 11 years sober from drugs, alcohol and sex addiction and I am a grateful person today. I see so many millions of Americans, struggling to find their way out of sex addiction into a healthy, thriving individual and the challenge and difficulty to do that is certainly before the sex addicts. But there is a new design of living in a way out. I would love to chat with you and others. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or would like to chat.

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Me too

You can join a SPAA group online or try to find SAA meeting locally. Quitting porn is very valuable. I'm 94 days into my recovery and while I know I'll have cravings for a very long time I feel a lot better than when I was acting out in my addiction!

You're not alone.

I understand all too well, the powerful grip certain sexual behaviors have on the brain in the body. I am a sober person for nearly 11 years now from sexual behaviors that are addictive, and also drugs and alcohol that enhanced and fed my sex addiction. It took a Very humiliating embarrassing destructive demise for me to finally discover an entirely new design of living free from sex addiction. It is an unusually powerful force where over 24 million Americans suffer with this addiction and the addiction is growing due to the availability online and a transforming social norm. I am grateful to be sober from sexual behavior, drugs, and alcohol for nearly 11 years and love chatting with people who are searching to find their way. Free from sex addiction as well. Certainly feel free to reach out. I would love to hear from you and others, who are looking for a new way of living.

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@@jd.gecko580 aww it doesnt need likes my friend. this comment is meant to inspire people and to remind them that your not alone

God bless you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@@ProdSketti as to you my friend. Stay close to Jesus. Always

Anen

You can do it remember that

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I’ll look into it, thanks for sharing. With me it’s totally connected to my extremely strange dysfunctional childhood where I wasn’t listened too and I was emotionally hurt by girls and women. Pornography served a purpose in the beginning because the images in the magazine didn’t talk back to me and didn’t put me down. As the years went by the comforting mechanism became an addiction very much like a major drug. I battle with this demon every day of my life. It’s very psychological with me. I hate myself after acting out. I feel sick to my stomach.

Sex is a natural instinct. Women just can’t keep up.

Hello brother, if you are still in need of a friend to talk to, I am available, blessings 🕉️

@@thebouc Well if that’s the case then woohoo doctor told me he‘ll get me a therapist but it might take a while so now more waiting because waiting 9 years isn’t long enough clearly, how‘s your recovery going?

@@SpecialWeaponsDalek 10 yr problem and only 2 weeks into recovery. it is not easy. these are the hardest and strongest feelings ive ever experienced. i slowly started disconnecting from my partner a couple of months ago, really fixating on her body and started subconsciously comparing her constantly. and in the many years we've been together, this was the first time i've felt this. it took me a while before i realized what the problem truly was. always thought whenever i got an urge i was doing her a service by not cheating, but in fact i was causing further damage. i know that i have to buckle down for these 6 months for my dopamine levels to balance out but i am willing to do whatever it takes to be happy everyday again. and more importantly enjoy time with her again. looks fade over time so you really only stay with that person's mindset, which i realized is more important. everyone has a chance to be happy again. dont be scared to open up. blessings 🕉️

@@thebouc Ouch. Sad thing is I can’t go 2 weeks without it. Best I can do is almost 2 weeks, sometimes it‘s a couple of days. I know my doctor says he doesn’t want to prescribe me medication just yet but I honestly hope the therapist will give me some form of medication, because I know I don’t have the willpower to stand up to it and it’s only going to get worse from here. The only way I can hope to get rid of it is medication. Honestly parents should monitor what their children do and discipline them when necessary to prevent them from becoming, well, the way we sadly ended up. But that’s just me trying to blame something else for the way I am even though it is utterly my fault. Good on you for being brave enough to have a relationship. Really, I can’t dare start one because I know how it will end so what’s the point in even trying.

I would recommend not just waiting on the therapist as there is significant recovery steps you can take by yourself. Have you gone Sex Addics Anonymous meeting (SAA)? There you can find likeminded individuals who you can open up to who will understand your struggles. They do either in person or zoom calls these days. I've even gotten help for sex addiction by going to alcoholics Anonymous meetings even though I'm not an alcoholic. Basically what I'm getting at is this, addiction is isolation or at least best thrives in it. Out of all the stories of addiction I've ever heard, isolating always seems to be a common denominator. And out of all the success stories I've heard, finding a community or group of people you can open up with seems to be the common denominator of success. Kudos to you for reaching out online but you need some face to face contact and real relationships with other men to insure success. Lastly, a few tips to help communication with yourself as communicating for me starts with opening up to myself as well as others. Get in a routine of things like Journaling (you can keep a private journal or a shared journal with your partner to read and respond to your posts. I find it easier to say somethings on paper that I couldn't in person), voice recordings of your own thoughts, reading sex addiction literature (try out of shadows by Patrick Carnes to start with), and commenting on reddit posts and sex addiction videos. Build a routine that works for you and that you don't hate. When, not if, you fail again, ask why this happened and re-strengthen your recovery plan. All the progress you make DOES NOT go away because you gave in binged on porn for a night. And lastly (for real this time) remember that there are two aspects to recovering from addiction: physical cravings and emotional cravings. You must deal with both or you will go back to this behavior. Use things the covenant eyes, an internet program that blocks explicit material on your computer and phone, to physical separate yourself long enough for the physical symptoms to go away. Also consider leaving your phone off of you during tempting times such as during bedtime and use you devices in public areas if you need to go that far. Find a safe place that you know you won't watch porn such as an SAA meeting or a Starbucks as this gives your willpower a chance to relax from the constant stress. For emotional cravings, you need to replace what your addiction does for you mentally with something else. For me, pornography got me out of bed, entertained me when I was bored, was a reward when I was succeeded, and a pick me up when I was down. Even if my physical cravings are gone, I am simply unfulfilled in life and will want to back to porn if I do not deal with these emotions. This is where all the communicating and building relationships come together to replace and actually heal what the addiction was covering up and this leads to lastly long term sobriety. Hopefully, some of the points you in the right direction.

It goes deeper than that, it ruins people lives and feels like a severe drug addiction

Sex is not bad. Sex addiction is. Too much of anything is bad for you. This is talking about balance.

@@BillyWilliamsMusic yes sex addiction is incredibly powerful. What happens is the brain becomes a drug manufacturing machine through certain sexual behaviors. Sex itself is not what’s addictive, it is certain sexual behaviors that release the drug chemicals from the brain that is addictive. I’m sober from sexual behavior, drugs, and alcohol for over a decade, and I understand how complex how powerful the sex addiction is. I have finally discovered an entirely new design of living that frees ourselves from sex addiction, and the horrors that come with it. Feel free to reach out I love chatting with people who are searching for self betterment and escaping the horrific grip of sex addiction.

@@BillyWilliamsMusic nothing feels better then sex. Women and some other people are just never happy and going after natural instincts as a target. No sex eventually make a man angry s d want to fight instead

Thank you for sharing your lived experience. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.

I understand all too well, the power and force of sex addiction on the mind and body. I understand the obsession and compulsion that certain sexual behaviors have over the sex addict. The isolation the shame, the guilt, the self disgust, the secrets that the sex addict holds is certainly mentally and emotionally debilitating. I am 52 years old and very very happy to say I am 11 years sober from drugs, alcohol and sex addiction. Freeing myself from sex addiction. After 30 years of its grip tormenting my life I have discovered that there is a new way to live a new design, and it only comes down to a few key strategies and pointers that work. Feel free to reach out if you have any interest to chat a bit further about your sex addiction.

Same..

@@miruu977 after my wife left me i started using my pet rabbit

@@nolxve7021 the fuckkk ????

@@miruu977 yooo 😂 I’m lost for words but I need help too… I’m a sex addict & it’s bad I’m smashing lots of broads

same help mee

😂😂

I hope you’re able to find the right therapist for you

@@justinnew4591 i hope so

Kinda wanna give the celibacy thing a shot sucks i gotta go that far but may be the only way to help myself escape definitely think the withdrawals are gonna be tuff but i will get through this

Me too

Focus on yourself and the areas in your life

goddamn too confusing

It’s hard to follow what any of that means honestly

Y’all are different. Most people don’t engage in all these labels and the majority of relationships I’ve seen where 2 lesbians are involved one has a clear masculine role, and the other a clearly defined feminine role. In your circumstance- you’re basically gender bending roles because neither of you know what you want. It hinges on how you feel and that’s not good for long term relationships. If intimacy can’t be a common ground than it won’t work. Also sounds like you’re buying her prescriptions for your sexuality hook-line-and-sinker. Y’all are both unhealthy as fuck. Break-up. Go to therapy. Nobody else here will tell you this.

Sounds dumb, just focus on each other, not arbitrary labels

You don't live without sex you have to do that

Well, the good news is, you don’t have to live without sex. However, sex addiction is not about sex, it is about being addicted to certain sexual behaviors. I was very addicted to pornography Sexting cybersex an anonymous sex for decades, and then 52 years old and nearly 11 years, sober from sex, addiction, drugs, and alcohol. I just want to make it very clear that sex is not what addicting it is certain sexual behaviors that are addicting. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or you’d like to chat a bit further. I absolutely love talking with Ann helping people who are struggling to find their way out of sex addiction, and into a life where they can thrive as healthy individuals.

Hey I would love to talk to you. It’s the behaviour like you suggested. Not the actual sex

It comes from believing the lie about stolen water being better, and bread eaten in secret being tastiest. There sure are spirits at work, but thank God for Jesus!!!

@@nicj5354 thank you for this

You just ruined this thread 🤦🏼‍♂️

That’s not true think about having a loving wife & side chick, but your having sex with prostitutes just cause…….. I have heard some stories my brother died from this behavior in addiction

Addiction is addiction love, once you start seeing it as as bad as drugs you’ll glorify it less subconsciously. Your’ saying that is a lie you made up to feel less bad about doing it. If u have it I hope u overcome I believe in you

It doesn't. You addicted to sex but it ruined sex for you, you can't even orgasm anymore and any orgasm you may feel will be overwhelmed with shame. You will constantly be looking for sex even when your genital can't handle it. It sucks because you can't even focus on anything and sex fantasies just cloud your mind.

Ifkr

Only more sex

Hi, my name is Rob, I am 52 years old and after 30 years suffering from the horrific grip of sex addiction, I am nearly 11 years sober from sexual behavior. I was also addicted to methamphetamine an alcohol, which fed my sex addiction. I was severely addicted to Sexting, cyber sex, pornography, and anonymous sex. I lived years in secrecy, feeling dirty, ashamed, anything guilty. But it was the masks of confidence I wore a mask, depending on where I was who I was hanging out with, and there was so many masks. I forgot who I was. But that is over 11 years ago until I finally hit a humiliating, embarrassing terrible devastating demise. But through a spiritual mentor and an entirely new design, I have discovered a place in life where I am peaceful, successful, serene, happy and free from sex addiction. Feel free to reach out. If you have any questions, we would like to chat.

if nothing works here below, then look up

@@Ether-pb5gb there is no GOD also

​@@LashZhvania-Movies-MMA-Science of course there is.

Then go to heaven - Jesus can do it! I've seen Him do all kinds of wild stuff setting people free from all manner of things and circumstances. What have you got to lose!?

@@Ether-pb5gb I love God and I believe in him but that didn’t work either

He is definitely The One!

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