The guest list is key. Don't let your parents write the guest list for you.

Is no one going to acknowledge the fact that at the beginning that is Murph and Emily's REAL engagement video?

From now on, anytime I want to end a conversation I'm going to cry "That's gonna clash with the table runners" and throw myself against a wall

And then your friend explains how wedding dresses are white because of queen victoria being rich

How we planned our wedding, 1. went to a park and said we need it for a party. It was 75 dollors to use the large pavilion for a day 2. We did the paper work at the courthouse that morning. 3. We said screw formal 4. Got parents to help by burgers/hotdogs/fruit/potatoes etc for a grill out. 5. We said our own vows (no pastor) the park also had swimming, playground, people brought canoes and kayaks for the lake and everyone had fun. 6. Everyone took there own pictures and we just got cupcakes from a local bakery. We didn't stress, we only spent about $150 for the whole thing and everyone still enjoyed themselves. Plus we had a lot of extra for our honeymoon

It's your wedding, stop inviting people that you don't care about being there just to please others!

I will fucking elope with a ring forged in the fires of mount doom. No diamonds for me!

Events by Bill: "I gotta shed out back, with some Christmas lights in it, $1,000,000,000

I eloped. Worth every penny I didn't spend.

I'm so glad that ours was super low-key, pretty cheap when compared with other weddings and its always going to be be memorable because someones hair caught fire, the septic tank backed up and my friend went into anaphylactic shock induced labor.

When people complain after a funeral during the free lunch: now that's disgusting.

Yeah, I don't understand people ho complain about being invited to weddings. It's only one evening, and they are paying for everything.

My idea is to do the marriage itself at a court and then throw a small after party for close friends and family emphasis on friends no extended family you never see. Sorry cousin Generic but if you wanted to be a part of this day you should have been part of my life more.

my cousin had her wedding as a surprise wedding in her back yard. invited everyone as a family reunion/friend party. They made it out like they were hosting a get together for our Nana (90 at the time) and sprung it on us. Best, cheapest wedding ever!! no annoying long sermon either... just them reading about their life and how happy they were to have us there. :3

How to have the best wedding: 1. Don't.

Interesting fact: This video is actually a prequel to "Adam ruins weddings", the priest and the location are the same Emily and Murph ordered here!

Both of my siblings eloped. My sister had a small reception later on. And my brother is doing the "ceremony" in the Final Fantasy MMO. (He's a nerd)

are Emily and Murph actually a "thing"? They always are like the couples in the skits

When my parents got married they invited all their friends (enough to fill the church's auditorium) and family to the church they met in (a franciscan church on the top of a mountain) and then gave everybody KFC.

I share this with every person I know who gets engaged or who asks me how my wedding planning is going. I'm in the last month of my logistical hell, and this is just so true and makes me laugh every time.

Step 12: Congratulations! You are married! Nothing says true love like it being slightly more legally difficult to split up now, but no other changes! Except I guess that if your relationship can survive planning a wedding it can probably survive the aftermath.

Hey Murph where's my invite?

My brothers best friend is getting married. He gets home and just says: “I spent the whole afternoon putting candle wax on letters.”

Are these two actually together in real life? They always seem to play the role of a couple.

how about say fuck it, get your immediate family, your best friends and then get enough food to feed them and do the fucking wedding. I've never seen myself getting married but if I ever do, it sure as shit aint gonna give me no migraine.

We need an "adam ruins everything" on this subject

Its easy-when I got married we got married in a small chapel downtown, they did all the paperwork. my cousin did our flowers I had three friends whom were photographers, and my friend whom is an amazing baker did our cake. we knew people in each area and boom our wedding planning was zip to zero. and no stress. then after we got married we went to a diner everyone got what they wanted to eat. :)

Elope and later have a pot-luck reception somewhere cheap and open air and ask that all gifts be in cash so you can better pay for things in the home. Problem solved.

MORAL OF THE STORY MARRY SOMEONE YOU LOVE

Where's George R. R. Martin?

Apparently, they really got married a month after this.

And then Adam arrived

Or you can hire a wedding planner that will make everything easier but fuck your budget even more.

Oh my gosh. This is so true. *sighs* I remember when we got married almost 4 years ago and how I was trying to satify everyone's opinion. I even changed the date of my wedding a couple of times. The last time I changed it was because my friend decided to have her baby shower on the same day as my wedding. *sighs* and didnt show up because she had to be at a meeting. You will be tempted to just say "Eff it!! Lets just elope, forget everyone and just be!" The party and all that is for people who don't even really care about you. Just focus on the honeymoon and your marriage!!! Period!!! My advice.

"Hey, I was just wondering if you were coming because you haven't RSVP-d yet and IT'S EIGHTY DOLLARS PER PLATE, DARREN." XD

I can vouch for this video, I got married and had to deal with EVERY step

To be fair, if you get married, there are ways around a lot of these. For example, if either of my parents wanted me to invite all their friends, I'd have none of that. Some of my parents friends I've known for ages so I'd probably invite but others I'd be like "Sorry nao." And I'm not gonna lie, I'm kind of a cheapskate so I would make sure that wedding did not cost me thousands. I am kind of someone who wants to get married to have an awesome party, not gonna lie. Who doesn't want to throw an awesome party? Least I'm honest.

I'm still on Step 0: Find a woman.

My mom said we have to invite all the couples she met on a cruise last year NAH BRO THIS IS FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS SCREW THAT NOT MOMS FRIENDS ITS YOUR WEDDING BRO YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT

Our wedding cost about $120 - really simple, really relaxed, party in the garden, friends made the food - wonderful

I never understood the point of a wedding. Seriously, why in the world would I want to wear an uncomfortable dress and stand around for hours when I can just pay the court to marry us and blow all of that cash on a sweet vacation?

"EVERYONE SHOULD JUST ELOPE!"

My advice, make sure people know not to propose or announce any big news at your wedding. If they can’t be adults and attend something knowing it’s not about them, they should stay home. Also, don’t let people pull favours at your wedding. Don’t let your family dictate who’s invited, don’t let them decide who you hire because they owe someone, and if they give you advice you didn’t ask for that only helps them, ignore everything they say. Finally, avoid telling people it’s for a wedding. People genuinely do jack up their prices for the same service at weddings.

I'm getting married this year and I managed to disappoint my parents so much with my wedding choices that none of them are coming! :D

arent these 2 actually getting married?

This is why im going to get married in court and have a small party for close family and friends emphasis on friends and close that means no extended family I have little to no relationship with. Sorry cousin generic I haven't seen since '03 but if you wanted to come you should have been part of my life more.

Been with my girlfriend for over 5 years. No wedding planned, much to the dismay of everybody. We just have our own vehicles, jobs, bank accounts and friends. It's wonderful! No kids planned, just animals! Wooooo

When planning just say it's for an event, graduation, birthday. Things get sooooo much cheaper, it's sick. Advice from my aunt who is a wedding planner.

This is just too funny!!! I'm in the first stages of planning my wedding and it already seems to be overwhelming so thanks for shedding light and also making light of this event

Well, if I wasn't already against getting married, I sure am now. Thanks, CollegeHumor!

Basically this is how my friend explained it to me: The Wedding and Reception is for your friends and family The Honeymoon is for the couple. So even if you can't afford something big or don't want it, still do something and invite people to it so they can cry and fawn over you, and then they can feel fufilled or whatever.

Is it just me, or does a Shetland pony sound like something in the wedding, the hill billy arranged, not the fancy British Wedding.

As a wedding Dj this video was hilarious! I literally start off every dance with I got a feeling xD

I tried to elope and my family followed me making thing expensive and awkward.

You know, I've never been to a wedding reception where I really found anything to complain about (like he said: free party; besides which it's an important day in the life of one or more of my friends, and not my place to ruin it). Also, regarding what she said about how her parents said that they have to invite every couple her parents met at the cruise, as much as I love my parents my response to something like that would be, "Guys, it's our wedding. We'll invite the people who are important to us. That should be good enough for you, and if it's not then I'm sorry but you'll just have to live with it."

My family doesn't do save the dates....they say come or don't

This describes exactly how my fiance and I have been feeling. We've been engaged for 2 years but have been putting things off because we couldn't afford a venue. We decided to go ahead with our original date and have our wedding in 3 weeks. It's a potluck wedding. Show up with a food dish, a chair, or some toilet paper in order to gain entrance. We are too broke to deal with the marketing B.S. associated with getting married. We only want to be with each other and for our friends to enjoy with us. Opinions and judgments are welcome to wait outside. :)

Just to say... Thank you for using Clair de Lune at the start of the video. I love that piece of music.

in my country people who got the invitation need to put some money in the letter and give back at the event(not specify how much to put but if you put in too little they'll silently judge you) so it's not exactly a free party for us but as long as the food taste good and there's enough seats for everyone with nice music then no one will complain

2:15 I screamed he’s the perfect officiate

I have 3 weddings to attend this year. I gotta say, the amount of money spent on bridal showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties, the catering, the DJ or band, the venue, the cake, the suit, the dress, and the booze is astronomical. I really don't know how they do it. I'd have to downgrade to a 1 bedroom apartment from my 3 bedroom house just to pay for it. People will pay for what's important to them but I guess I just don't get it. I'd rather elope, and spend that money traveling Europe for 3 weeks than stress for a year about minor details. Also, the money that guests have to pay for gifts for the bridal shower and the wedding seems unfair. Why should I feel obligated to give you a crock pot or fondue pot because you decided to get married? Sorry if I sound snarky. I literally just got home from a Bridal Shower and it really is a personal hell for me to go to these things. "Oh, hey! Let's watch the bride-to-be open gifts for 2 and a half hours! That sounds like fun!" said no one ever. I'm sorry, but I don't want to watch you open fifty presents full of silverware.

My sister got married at a court house in jeans and all I had to wear was a pullover shirt. We later had the after-party at Carrabba's, best wedding ever.

And this is where their relationship advice book began!

This sums up everything about my planning right now. Thank you for your humor.

I never understood the point of "Save the Dates". Like, if you're telling me when your wedding will be and asking me to make sure I'm available, you want me to come to said wedding, right? Why waste twice the amount of paper instead of just inviting me in the first place?

Oh crap. I just remembered I didn't RSVP to my friends wedding invitation lol.

Love how she throws in the glitter.

This is hilarious!! As a Wedding Planner some of these are so true but don't have to turn out that way.

I was about to comment something but I forgot what I was gonna comment.

Am I the only one who didn't find this funny? Thanks Murph.

This was a funny one. I loved watching the invitation getting assembled.

Really ? 10 mins of scrolling through the comments and nobody mentions the banana unpeeler ? WHERE CAN I GET ONE ????

LOL, I feel sorry for people who do this. Do you know how much getting married cost me and my husband? $90. Marriage license + civil ceremony fee. At this point in time most people already live together and have sex, so WTF is the purpose of spending all that money? Use it for a vacation or a down payment!

Free party? Is it only in Israel where it's pretty much the most expensive party anyone can ever go to?

😂😂😂💀 i needed this laugh because this wedding planning process does make it seem like that. Thanks

this gave me some ideas for my wedding, actually. thanks!

Now waiting for "How to Plan a Wedding in 10 Steps (The George R. R. Martin Version)"...

Why would they let their parents tell them who they have to invite? "You have to invite all our friends from our cruise." How about no this is my wedding and unless you're paying for it you don't have that sort of say?

The accuracy though!

So funny! You should have added a segment on the honeymoon.

I'd just bring her to mcdonalds in a wedding dress and have whoever is taking our order at the drive-thru, I'll have pronounce us husband and wife.

When I get engaged I'm going to start crying and when people ask whats wrong I'm going to shout "I have to plan a f****** wedding"

Ahaha, I love Murph's post/subscribe-scene

Everytime I watch this I relate to it more and more

I can vouch for pretty much all of this... if I had to do it all again, I would probably elope. That said, I have some amazing memories from our wedding day that pretty much top my list of best life moments.

I was the wedding photographer for my friend. They eloped to the courthouse.

This is sooooo much better than the Buzzfeed one. Very accurate.

Yep!

Hahaha Totally Get This! Getting Married This Coming May!! :D

You don't need save the dates inless your having wedding on a holiday or bussy weekend or have family coming in from another country

So sharing with engaged friends.

This was frickin hilarious!

For an asian family, the weddings not for us, it's for our parents. They decide, they spend and they make the guest list. All we do is sit and namaste people whom we have never met before, but is our parents childhood friend.

I guess collegehumor isn't about college anymore

I love the classics.

i feel like i am looking at what my life is right now. I am so to the lets just elope part!!

Im gonna get down voted get laughed at, called so many bad words for saying this: It is so sad so many people either view marriage, women or men to blame and how in conclusion, marriage sucks etc. I am happily married and no, it's not easy. You balance many things in life, and often times cannot do things you love at times, and maybe for good. You put your family first and put much of your time trying to keep them safe and healthy. That being said, I think many people focus on these aspects and say "omg no life can't play video games, clubbing etc. marriage sucks" or "my wife takes my life out of me." Which in honesty, can be true if you plan to never really give your time and dedication to your family. Marriage cannot be done alone. You need synergy. you both need to work towards trying to lift one another without really "calculating" the loss beforehand. This requires trust. Things often go sour especially with your wife because naturally, she didn't grow up with you. you two are different, and have lived separate lives until you met. It's really about not "tolerating" but accepting the person for who they are. If they suck at doing dishes, fixing the bulb, jogging, doing cartwheels etc. whatever, to accept that they lack that talent perhaps you can fill it in. You all know the corny lean back and fall and don't look back and trust they will catch you crap. To be honest this is the attitude BOTH of you need to have. Sadly in this day and age, alot of people don't do this and often times think about getting hurt from another. Calculate "if I put this much in, will I lose this much? What if he or she hurts me? they don't do this and that ...etc" You need communication, willingness to support another and sometimes even be able to really complain and tell that person why you are mad or even stupid things like "omg i wanna at least one night play video games and drink till i fall!"

From now on, when a family member asks me why I don't want a wedding, I'll just send them a link to this video.

Got engaged last weekend, already getting these feels

My husband and I have watched this sketch so many times when talking out wedding ideas, and in the end, we had a courthouse wedding/eloped...