"All my life i've been crazy busy, but i've never gotten anything done." My god. This is my life.

I'm actually laughing about the "waiting until the important stuff becomes urgent" because it's too true

Important but Not Urgent = Beneficial but Not Stimulating (at the moment)

Life is like a horse race and ADHD people are just another horse in the race. Except, the ADHD horse does not get to wear the blinders to focus on the race.

"When's the last time somebody gave you until Tuesday to eat a vegetable?" I love your scripts

me trying to prioritize but is instead watching a video about it

This explains why I work in the ER

"We often wait for the important stuff to land in the URGENT box before we ever address it." This sentence just made so much sense I literally had chills.

You literally JUST explained everything that drives me crazy about my husband! While also explaining why I am always crazy busy without ever actually getting things done. Neither of us were diagnosed with ADHD, but your videos describe our lives - AND give practical tips to do life better. I can't thank you enough for these videos! Oh, and then there's the reason I started watching your videos in the first place - professionally. I work with students who have ADHD. Again, you are the only resource I've found that speaks directly to people with ADHD, rather than about them. I can see the whole demeanor change in my students after they've watched your videos, more empowered, understood and not alone. Thank you.

Omg. This is amazing. You are amazing. How does someone with ADHD understand and combat it so well???? I know how ADHD effects me, but i can barely explain it without sounding like im complaining about everything. Thanks so much. Ive started coming to your videos every time my symptoms are bad and it really helps. ♡

wow all these techniques are making me feel overwhelmed

Ugh I feel like I will never be able to distinguish what is important and what isn't. My brain wants what it wants and doesn't let me truly figure out if it's needed :'( It must take a LOT of practice to have the strength to put something stimulating on the back burner and convince yourself it isn't important

What if I procrastrinated too long and ended up in a pile of obligations that are urgent, important, and time-consuming? I usually end up procrastrinating even more because I can't decide which task to do first so I do something else (ie. something that doesn't require much effort), even if I try doing one of the necessary things just knowing that I also have OTHER necessary things to do (or that I'm not doing it fast enough) steals my attention

"I've been crazy busy but I never get anything done" exactly! How am i always exhausted but never have anything to show for it? Before your vids I've described myself as not procrastinating but over-committing because I think I should do everything and I think I can do everything but somehow the hours of the day are not as magical as I perceive them to be. Thanks for the great info!

Tfw I should've started studying five hours ago and now I've gone through motivational speeches, lectures on adhd and a couple dozen of your videos.

I set out to clean my room and end up reading the buried-but-now-found long lost story I wrote five years ago. And now I'm watching KZfaq... And now my mom is asking why I'm taking so long.

I LOVE POMADORO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ahhh that beautiful tomato has helped me sooo much!

I just finished setting this up in my office because i was totally drowning in work. It is actually helping.

i love this blog because its hilarious and yet manages to stay so damn relateable

I accidentally took my meds twice once, and ended up with heart palpitations and a near panic-attack. No matter how much I tried to breathe slowly and calmly and sit very still and try to settle my heart rate down it was just going totally wild. Checked the rate on one of those chair things they have in clinics and I was at about 140bpm. For about 2 straight hours. x.x NEVER AGAIN. ....I hope.

I just love your upbeat and informative videos. Thanks for ”dumbing it down” for an older ADHDer who is still struggling with priorities. I will be 59 this year and still working. So I really need this! Thank you for teaching me ”how to ADHD” and not freak out! 🥰

This video was awesome. From the creativity of the video to the practical information on how to prioritize. You nailed it Jessica and you have made me feel less alone in this struggle while making me laugh. Much appreciated. Jessica, you were made to do this work.

Can we see a day in the life of someone with ADHD? Someone like you and your thoughts and emotions. THX:D love ur vids!

Ooooo, I can have an #ibnu page in my #bujo!

is it weird that i keep scrollign through the comments whilst listening to video... at 1 in the morning

3:05 seconds into your video I just realized I wasn't paying attention 😂😂😂. Now I have to replay it again lol. #ADDLIFE

I've just found you videos and have been binging them, and they are great. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but mostly I think because I've been diagnosed with BPD. I do have a lot of the issues you talk about, though, and I think your advice will help quite a bit, or at least make me not feel so bad about it... hmm... Anyway, can't wait for more!

This girl is making history. She is is just as important in terms of divulging ADHD info as Barkley has been! GO GO Jessica! And his BF too.

"Important stuff often never gets urgent" is such an eureka moment, that explains why I have a sprawling list of very important things I haven't done in a year...

Have you had any interaction with Gretchen Rubin's "Four Tendencies"? I have been a using this concept the last year or so to help me further understand my brain and how I process things (including what's important or urgent). I'm interested in how you would see this in conjunction to the ADHD world. I'm a rebel and coupling that with ADHD can make my life an overwhelming, emotional mess sometimes. Thanks for all you do; this channel is wonderful and a great resource (I regularly cry when you bring to light points that made me feel completely alone my entire life...)

Thank you so much for these videos. They've helped me take all that information I've gathered in my mind and give it some order and usefulness. I'm not 100% sure I have ADHD but your videos help me so much!.

Thank you SOOO much for you videos! My son (12 yo) was diagnosed at age 7 which lead to my diagnosis about 6 months later. I had NO IDEA that this matrix thing even existed!!! I am always researching to learn more and find new coping techniques so I can help my son and myself!! Again, thank you!

I love your sense of humor. You’re very smart and relatable. Thanks for posting these videos and keeping yourself on task to do it! That impresses the heck out of this ADD girl. I hope I can get my life together, and I think your suggestions will help. Thank you!

I've never heard of this and its the most amazing thing I've ever read. Thank you. I'm actually crying but happy tears. wow. This is really going to help me. Thank you!!

your channel has literally saved my life, thank you so much, you're an angel

The whole video is great -- a new favorite! I needed the phrase "skeptical internal monologue" to add to my mindfulness toolbox. Thank you!

Genuinely one of the greatest organisational videos I've seen. Suddenly everything makes sense?!?!

You are so helpful and insightful on ADHD. I've been struggling with my symptoms for all of my life and my family doesn't really understand the stress I have to go through on a day to day basis. it's nice to have someone who understands what I go through and tries to give people helpful tips to better cope with this disorder. Thank you for your hard work to try and research different systems on how to cope with ADHD. I don't know about anyone else, but you have really helped me with you insightful tips. 😊

I thought I'd stop by the comment section and say thank you for all of these awesome videos!! My fiancé has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and we've had a great time watching these vides together, coming up with solutions and learning a lot about how each other's brains work...plus, you're freaking adorable!! Keep on keeping on with all of the hard work, I know we really appreciate it!!

You are making so much sense it's crazy. How did I not realize this before! Hopefully this information will help me being more productive, and also doing the stuff I want to do, but somehow always are being put off, in favor of all the urgency swirling around everywhere.

Amo este canal, es tan informativo y práctico. Ame la parte de encargarse de las cosas que son importantes pero que aún no son urgentes, es tu mejor seguro. Y vaya que necesitaba esa frase, pasan los meses y me siento miserable y frustrada por no haber hecho nada por mi, o algo que es importante. Me acabo de dar cuenta de que normalmente, cuando algo importante y urgente surge por alguien externo, me lleno de excusas para no hacerlo porque precisamente en ese momento surgió la urgencia de hacer todo lo que no había hecho por mi en meses XD Es impresionante descubrir cada día que muchas de las cosas con las que he batallado se pueden explicar con mi TDA

Thank you for making these videos, I found out I had adhd this year and it was really hard on me, it was very unsettling to know that I was actually different than other people, and as selfish as this sounds I felt like I was the only one that struggled with this issue. One day I was on KZfaq and ended up on your channel, when I watched your videos I started to become intrested, so I started researching, I am honestly addicted to learning about it. Researching about this really helped me tell my friends in a way so they can understand. Thank you sooo much! All of your videos have really changed my life. My other friends who don't have adhd still want to be able to help me and there is a group chat we have labeled "How to ADHD" where we are constantly talking about this channel. Without this channel I don't know how I could have done all of this. I am also able to concentrate on projects (obviously with my one of a kind kitchen timer.) Thanks for reading my extremely long essay! I hope this was motivation to you to keep going, because you really helped me get my adhd under control. Keep it up!! :D -Nikki

I love/hate how beautiful your eyes are.

I love what you do, thanks a lot for helping us live our lives In a much easier way with your advises and tools (I love to have tools 😃) In such a funny and at the same time accurate way. You have a amazing skill. I think you deserve thousand of thump ups, and a lot more of subscribers. A big hug for you!

I've lately noticed that I often say "I haven't had a chance to" when what I actually mean is "I only ever think to do that when it's a bad time."

Has anyone told you lately that you rock? No?? YOU ROCK!!! I am old enough to be your grandmother and you are helping me SO much, it is unreal. Thank you (you young whipper-snapper)!!

Your content has become pretty much the only thing I actively make time for on KZfaq anymore. So informative and your sense of humor is refreshing. I'm in my mid-40s, never been diagnosed ADHD, but I'm 1000% convinced I would test positive. No idea why my folks never investigated it growing up or why I hadn't thought to myself until now, but I just took the first step and started hunting for psychiatrists in my area. Gotta figure this out.

This is why people think everyone has ADHD. But hey, can I just say this stuff is more URGENT for us. Lol. Can I also say your videos are SO WELL MADE! The graphics and animations are helpful and are so well designed! And you too! Total package! Wait, is watching KZfaq urgent or important? Well these videos are both.

Im an older person and have gotten a lot out of your excellently-produuced videos. You rock. . . Thanks, TS

im thankful for this channel. im not diagnosed by a doctor but some costumer at my work rlly drove home what my parents have joked abt; so im here now. im glad to know theres tools to help w this situation and that i was on good paths before. i felt ostracized for operating the way i do bc ppl are generally confused. this makes that easier (: thanks.

This channel is amazing and you're the best person to present it

Thank goodness you made these videos thank you!!! I almost played your Matrix video for the Important vs Urgent chart for my therapist, but decided a screen shot suffice. Haha That's how my project mgmt spreadsheets look in color code!! Great brains think alike! Luckily this new therapist is cool about me wanting to dive in and get the most. Ur vids r so helpful girl! You and ur Matrix goggles rock!!

your video quality, editing and overall confidence has improved so much, and I find so much of you videos extremely helpful and knowledgeable. also, thank you so much for always providing links!

all those videos about time management etc. are so motivational to me! Thank you so much!!!!

You're very intelligent, This video deserves a re-watch, it is packed with useful information and ideas

Wow, this video is incredibly helpful for me! I am shocked! I watch your channel a lot, because it helps me relax and feel supported, but most of the tips are either "i know it already" or "ok, good to know". But this one... This one... Hits right in my heart! Many thanks to you for your brilliant content!

Newly subscribed and its crazy because you call out ALL of my issues.. When you said you were terrified of voicemails in another video I busted out laughing! Its so true. Thank you for all the great tips and advice!

Thanks again for another wonder video!!! I love how you break this stuff down so that I can understand how it applies to my life!!! One important but not urgent thing I need to take care of is car repairs. Everyday I drive my car it reminds me of how I need to take it in. I know that if I don't do it soon it will jump to the Urgent box which means I will need a tow truck and probably miss a day of work. So I need to set aside some time on my next day off to take it in. Now the next issue I deal with is how to prioritize all the important stuff I have in my life that is not urgent!! I only have so many hours to use so....... Anyway, thanks again Jessica!!!

This has been so timely as we've been looking at this matrix with work too. Amazing.

I can't believe how helpful these videos are. I've been living with ADHD for 49 years and I'm learning a lot!

this is honestly the best explination for the matrix I've heard! i always have trouble figuring out where to put what because i didn't understand what Urgent and Important really meant! keep up the great work! 😄

Love your videos about ADHD! My daughter and I watch them together! You have some really great tips!

You are my lifeblood. Thank you. Every video is extremely well made/edited and has amazing advice.

Please never stop doing this videos its sooo helpful to know that i´m not alone with this bs disorder

I love this channel so much makes me feel heard and I keep learning so much ❤️ I have ADHD and as a adult this whole video screamed at me

That's the clearest most practical explanation I've had re that flippin Matrix, it's always previously sent me into a panic!! Thank you so much, you fab creature with an AWESOME brain! (From a UK fan)

This woman is the most amazing human ever to live

I spent most of the video feeling very called out but reluctant to write everything down in case it made a mess in my notebook and I forgot stuff, but then you said there's an app for it. This changes the game, people!

Your videos got me out of a depressed slump. It's nice to know it's only ADHD, and not something existential going on with me. Keep em' coming!

i have ADHD and these videos have really helped me get through that so thanks and keep doing what your doing

My car has taught me so much about this lately.

This video is great, thank you!! Best almost six minutes spent in quite a while 😘

Ok, this is very important information! Knowing this I feel I'll finally be able to get things done and to not feel like a disaster and a failure. Thank you so muuuuch😊.

Its crazy how accurate ALL of these videos are...

I love love love these videos, extremely useful!

Oh my goodness. This makes so much sense. Thank you for your videos!

this channel is gold

I really enjoy your sense of humor!!!

Thanks Jessica, I needed this video!!

Why didn't I discover this 5 years ago? I liked it at the Matrix reference and stayed for the matrix reference. Well done!!

Really love your videos, thank you so much!!

You explain this so well, thank you for this video.

Clicked on this video while I was browsing KZfaq instead of finishing the task that I was in the middle of at work. Downloading Priority Matrix app XD

I’m doing this with my homework right now. I’m trying to get out of the habit of only doing homework that’s about to be due and instead work on things that are really important assignments, even if they have far off deadlines, and stay on top of work that is important but doesn’t get graded, like reading my textbooks or reviewing the recorded lectures.

This is an awesome structure to help me know what tasks to do! thank you so much

Thank you so much for this wonderful information! I am creating my weekly ToDo List at the moment, and this was very inspiring!

i thought you should know, i discovered your channel today. then burned through about six of your videos at 2x while i was taking an exam online. an exam i started too close to the deadline so my time was cut short. that urgency is one heck of a drug.

The point of actively seeking this video is because reducing stress and overwhelm so I can finally work toward thriving instead of surviving is important to me and it’s sat in the important but not urgent box for far too long. I couldn’t decide what to do today, there isn’t anything urgent and important (that I could identify) on my list today until get ready for work and I have a couple of hours where I would normally end up doom scrolling or getting fixated on an urgent but not important thing. So what better way to fix the decision paralysis is there then to learn a new skill and enter THE MATRIX. I’ve seen this matrix before but I don’t think I fully understood what urgent and or important really meant… thanks to your digestible definitions I think it’s helped sort that out a bit… I do think I also need to do some journaling to discover some of my values and goals or clearly define them for myself to help me figure out what category I should put things in… time for another massive to-do list mind dump that I may actually sort this time and may actually get to check off instead of just loosing that list to obscurity. Thank YOU!!!!!

Oh my gosh this video helps so much! Because of my ADD I procrastinate a lot on my homework and I end up doing it on the day before it's due. It's a really crappy habit but now that I see this video im pretty sure it will help me in the future. Thanks for the video!

me right now; "MOM! Where's that old whiteboard? I need it?"

You've inspired me. Right now I'm folding the laundry, well after I write this comment, that has been on the couch on a rotating basis for...pretty much forever. It's important to fold and put away my clothes for the following reasons: 1. If people come over I look like a slob and I'm embarrassed to let people in my house, 2. If is folded and put away I can access it quickly in the morning rather than spending time search through the pile. 3. It's an important part of decluttering my house and decluttering my house is important because my cluttered house increases my anxiety level. It's not urgent because no one is scheduled to come over right now, it's not the morning and I'm not getting ready for work, and there are other urgent things distracting me like FB. So, here goes. #ibnu

looks good, thanks for making these great videos for us to watch, you are the best

As someone without ADHD it's amazing how useful some of the techniques you've suggested could help me

This woman is my savior

My psychologist told me about this method and I tried it but I didn’t understand how it worked. So thank you for explaining! it makes a lot more sense now and I’m definitely doing it.

Fantastic! Thanks for telling me about the Matrix! I urgently want to watch the movie now! Cheers!

THIS IS GENIUS

This is my favorite video till now.

This is beyond embarrassing to admit but I've watched this a few times hoping to be inspired enough to actually put this into practice. Maybe sort out my priorities so I could actually finish one goal vs sorta of do many things but never finish them. It took accepting medication and starting medication to get myself to actually put this amazing advice into practice. Thank you for all your videos and transparency. It's hard at times accepting who we are but much needed for growth.

#ibnu But seriously this helps soso much. Deadlines are great because it forces you to get stuff done (for the most part), but if there's not a deadline or if you never have visitors to clean up for, or a reason to renew your license other than you might get sick of public transport one day, things generally just don't get done. This and treating your life like a video game are two of the best ADHD tips I've ever come across. Thanks for making this channel and making coping mechanisms for ADHD so accessible. 💖💖