How To Raise Confident Child

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How do you raise a confident child? It's important to always remember that our job as parents is to love our child no matter what and even if because these tips are nothing more than manipulation if we lose sight of our primary job. Here are a few things to help our kids to become confident:
1. Give your child a task that they can handle.
2. You're going to hope that they blow it.
3. Let consequences teach.
4. Give them the same challenge again.
Happy parenting!
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Dr. Paul Jenkins
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@teslinjohnson3174 3 жыл бұрын

When parents are smiling, kids are thinking.. Really true!! Thanks Dr. Paul!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Teslin.

@NireshaFalls 5 жыл бұрын

If you had a daily podcast I would listen everyday. Been loving the parenting videos. Keep them coming please.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Soul Of Ardor, I do have a positivity podcast that has been running for over 10 years. New episodes come out weekly and here is the link: drpauljenkins.com/podcast/. Happy listening.

@beaubloomer4426 3 жыл бұрын

Your sure right god I love my little boy so much and want him to have the BEST life

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

That makes me happy. Glad you are here.

@toneman335 4 жыл бұрын

A parent needs to love, motivate, and support the self esteem of a child.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

toneman335. love them no matter what and even if...

@kassiopeia1232 5 жыл бұрын

My 9yo son forgot his lunch at home this morning. I watched this video just in time to not drive to school to bring him his lunch box. What a great teaching moment. I will try him again next week. Thanks a million Dr. Paul!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Nice - let me know how it works out! DrPaul

@kassiopeia1232 5 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah, it worked really well! He came home, started sobbing the moment he saw me. I empathized. He then seemed to feel quite proud of himself for enduring "starvation". Early this morning he made sure he had his lunch box the moment he came down. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

@Slippy_187 4 жыл бұрын

So you let him starve?

@cvdinjapan7935 4 жыл бұрын

@@Slippy_187 He was given an "opportunity" to go on a fast.

@exmrsnowwomanscorned8369 3 жыл бұрын

Would this apply too if he forgot his school project?

@Strawberry_gal 5 жыл бұрын

Unconditional love. 💞

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Nailed it! Yes. DrPaul

@avelineb8239 5 жыл бұрын

Such wonderful videos and we so need this in today's times. Thank you for repeating that mantra of our job as parents "love them no matter what and even if" - it is really sticking.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

I love to hear that, Aveline B. Thank you for sharing.

@melisastone231 6 жыл бұрын

I really needed this. It goes against the grain. The instinct is to not want your children to fail! Ever. But as I watched this I realized I had an experience recently with my fourteen-year-old where these steps happened. (I didn't do it. I don't know what I'm doing.) But somehow they happened anyway and I can see how much it helped him. Thanks for the advice. I'll keep trying!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 6 жыл бұрын

You've got this MeLisa! You're a great mom by instinct, and hopefully these videos help you see why certain things work better than others. DrPaul

@MM-lr5hv 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I feel scared how can you see my inside motherhood sooo much 🙄 can’t thank you enough 🙏❤️

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Haha, I get that sometimes, M M. People think I'm looking in their windows at them, but honestly, we are all more similar than different. We get a lot of comments with parents dealing with basically the same issues. So glad the videos are helping.

@coreyneil8763 3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE THIS GUY.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

Corey Neil, we are glad you are here at the channel.

@sarina5352 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree with each point. We have been doing it with our 3 and half year old. He's turned out so wise beyond his age. Also, I really love it that every thing has a consequence. 👏👏👏

@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын

SARina, consequences are a natural law and when people learn that early in life they seem to do better.

@SADKHAN95953 4 жыл бұрын

Dr Paul thank you so much for your advice, every time I get angry I just remember your quote just love them no what and even if, that really calms me down , thank you God bless you from Pakistan

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Mama Khan, I am glad you have found something that works for you. More peaceful days are ahead for you.

@marianelaaguiar7453 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much ! You are a blessing for my family.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Marianela Agular. Glad to have you at Live On Purpose.

@aneelamahmood8925 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr Paul. Your videos are so beneficial.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Aneela - honored to be on your team! I think you might also like the Parenting Power-up course I just recorded with Vicki (my wife). You can get a free pre-listen here: parentingpowerup.com DrPaul

@nancymohass4891 2 жыл бұрын

I love my grand child & you ! Because you help us !

@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын

Honored to be on your team.

@fishinseasalmon 3 жыл бұрын

Gold! And thank you kindly.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@Kakitization 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This is so helpful!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@thumper6425 Ай бұрын

I’m back for a refresher 💜🙏

@dadof2767 3 жыл бұрын

Shout out to the great parents out there!!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

Kris Carroll, thanks for the positivity.

@francisuazamontealegre4819 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for what you do. God bless you!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Franci SuazaMontealegre, glad to have you at the channel.

@hibakusman4596 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I learn from you 🙏as a young mother of three is real challenge to do it

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Hibak Usman, those are very busy days. Honored to be on your team.

@kab9052 4 жыл бұрын

This is a great video. I would love a video on how do you love your kids when you're not feeling loving towards them. I love my kids of course but sometimes I don't feel it.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Kathryn B, great idea for a video, thank you.

@shadisaleh7354 3 жыл бұрын

Your are amazing. thanks for sharing these tips. Love from Palestine to you and to all the kids of this world

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

You are so kind, Shadi Saleh, thanks for being a part of our positive community.

@konstantinadoneva7836 4 жыл бұрын

You are a blessing dr Paul! The Best!!! 🌹🌹✨

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Konstantina Doneva! I appreciate you being part of the Live On Purpose family.

@konstantinadoneva7836 4 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV 💗💗💗

@user-uh2ix7ti1k Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. It realy makes a lot of scene and alsow such an important reminder of our job as perant. I would love it if you could make an example of tasks that could be appropriate for the steps in the video. Thanks a lot!

@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! Will work on that.

@lylala7574 6 жыл бұрын

So informative.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Lyla La. DrPaul

@euavalos2433 6 жыл бұрын

Thank SO much for sharing so much knowledge. I am new to your channel and I am LOVING it. So much great advices for the kids and parents. 🙏 thank you!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Eu Avalos! Honored to be on your team. DrPaul

@markushorner1991 4 жыл бұрын

I do not argue that you need to love your child. But this is not helping them to develop True Self Confidence. Developing True Self Confidence comes from accomplishing things that they enjoy. Telling them that they are loved, they are so kind, they are so good looking and on and on creates a false sense of Self Confidence. This type of confidence will almost assuredly cause them to get bullied. You need to help them build True Self Confidence based upon actual accomplishments. Something they have to work at to continue to get better. The more accomplishments they become good at the more it will boost their self-confidence. This subject is one of the main tenets of my book "My Do's and Dont's for Bully-Proofing Your Child."

@marwagad3034 5 жыл бұрын

Waiting for more videos Dr .Paul

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

They are on the way, Marwa Gad. Glad you are enjoying them.

@lagudeiver2561 3 жыл бұрын

Wish he had given examples of these tasks.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

Lagus Eiver, talk to someone who knows the child and brainstorm what you could use.

@Venus.actor.singer 4 жыл бұрын

I don't get tired listening to love them no matter what even if because there's a lot of new viewers so to make sure each one is clear with that vital advice to prevent child abuse.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, yes Virgie Mata. I want parents to learn and remember what their most important job is. Honored to have you at the channel!

@Venus.actor.singer 4 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV i love you and your spouse.

@ayeshaumair3344 5 жыл бұрын

Thanku for this video express love with them this is true

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Honored to be on your team at Live On Purpose, ayesha umair.

@humantacos9800 11 ай бұрын

Confidence has to come from something. Just telling someone they’re amazing because they exist creates fragile narcissistic ego.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 11 ай бұрын

We need to let them know they are innately good to get them behaving that way.

@tobim4ever 4 жыл бұрын

I love the point of hoping that they blow it. Before now i always hoped they did it or got it right. My biggest difficulty is coming up with consequences. Any advice on this? Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Tolu E, the best consequences are immediate and natural ones. It is hard to speak to every situation, so if you are having trouble coming up with something, talk to another parent who has children similar to yours or a teacher of even ask the kid. Often they punish harsher than the parent.

@leeloo8217 2 жыл бұрын

Parent: "Hunny... Go get your bike helmet on" Kid: "but, I can't find it." Kid gives up... (blows it) Starts riding before you had time to stop them and... Thump! They fall and bash their head on the pavement (possibly has a concussion) .... Parent: "But I love you no matter what and even if... (gives big hugs) Now go try it again" 🤣🤣🤣 PS: FYI this never happened to us in our family😂

@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching.

@muhammadshahidmahmood4248 4 жыл бұрын

Great

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

I am honored, muhammad shahid Mahmood. Thank you for watching.

@marianamartinez4106 5 жыл бұрын

👋 hello, first of all thank you for this channel I’m always coming here to educate myself, now when you mention to “ love them no matter what or even if “ as far as children are concern what does this exactly mean cause love language is a spectrum. Or if you did a video covering this subject would you kindly send me to that direction. Thank you again 😊

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

Mariana Medina, the phrase came naturally as I would tell parents that there number one job was to love their children and they would say, "Even if (fill in the blank)," and I would say yes. That is why parents need to talk to their child in a calm face, calm body, calm voice. The child may not like what the parent is saying, but they won't get confused with a parent who is exploding at them and wonder if their parent loves them. Hope this helps. Thanks for watching.

@marianamartinez4106 5 жыл бұрын

Live On Purpose TV understood, sometimes I over think 🤔. Thank you for taking your time to explain.

@TheBabyGeorgie 5 жыл бұрын

Do you have any video talking about electronic devices, because I don't want give my 8 year son cellphone like alot pearls do now day!!!

@Samy-sam 5 жыл бұрын

John Yonadim , really impressed to see your comment , thank God someone is here think like me. 👍🏻

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

John Yonadim, I have done a video on this since your comment, check out the parenting playlist.

@toordog1753 4 жыл бұрын

Dont give him one. My child is 9 and he doesn't have one. I actually question when obsee a kid with a phone..

@jennyd5728 2 жыл бұрын

I gave my son a phone at 12 years old for use in emergency only.

@matterplayz4691 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks i need it do to my three boys

@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын

And watch them become amazing people, roman Antiraga.

@DrumThruDriveIn 2 жыл бұрын

My daughter is 3, and although things seem to be going good with her growth, ive found her saying "i dont like myself" or when I ask her of she loves herself, she says "no". Its very heartbreaking. I dont know if its a small phase or its a very big lacking of something on myself and my wife's part. Im gonna bet on the latter. Help!

@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! Analyze what messages are being delivered, either through media (cartoons, disney movies, etc.) and what messages she is hearing from adults. Tell her what you think, that you love her and tell her why.

@DrumThruDriveIn 2 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV ABSOLUTELY, will do. I really appreciate the response, guys.

@SdmAngeL 4 жыл бұрын

Love them no matter what and even if 😉

@SdmAngeL 4 жыл бұрын

Step 4 - very clever. Thank you once again Dr Paul.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

SdmAngel., can you imagine what the world would look like???

@amazeyosa 3 жыл бұрын

Hi sir. Do you have video that how to avoid bullying from other kid especially older than them.

@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын

There are couple of videos on the playlist about bullying. Check them out.

@chynar1630 Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@GOLDSLF Жыл бұрын

Hi, I’m having some issues with my son. The mother and I are separated. In his education he’s not accelerating I’m having to get on him for everything chores, studying/math exercises. May there be anything underlying I should look into ? He’s often absent like his mind is elsewhere . His mother allows him to sit for hours on the video games and I know its messing with his focus. Is there a video or any advice you can share with this kind of situation. My parenting skills don’t match the mothers, so I have to restart my whole process every visit I get with him.

@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын

You can't change what is happening at his mom's, just at your house. I can't tell from one comment what all is going on. It would be good to have him talk to someone. There is a lot going on here.

@93andresen 4 жыл бұрын

Haha this is gold

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Richard Andresen, thank you for watching.

@cathandfamilyvlogs5275 4 жыл бұрын

My toddler is so loud and energetic inside the house but when we go outside he doesn't want to walk or smile back to other people, what I need to do? I'm from Philippines. I appreciate your reply. Thank you

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Cat M.E. TV, if he is a toddler, then he is very young and I would encourage and model what kind of behavior you want, but don't force. He is pretty young and may not have picked up the social cues yet.

@cathandfamilyvlogs5275 4 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you so much I appreciate your reply. God bless you, I hope yung make a lot of videos to help others in parenting

@camilkagex 4 жыл бұрын

🤩

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

camilkagex, thank you.

@preciousbell4573 4 жыл бұрын

What does ‘blow’ mean other than ‘explode’? Does it mean ‘succeed’ or ‘fail’?

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Francisca Hannah, thanks for watching! In this case, "blow" means to fail. It's OK if children fail at a task, because they can learn something from it and try again.

@preciousbell4573 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the explanation. God bless.

@preciousbell4573 4 жыл бұрын

Is it common for a 16 year old boy to not want to study anymore at all and just want to earn money even if it’s a very menial job? What do you do if a child has tremendous difficulty in concentrating, is unmotivated and very quiet, doesn’t talk much.

@preciousbell4573 4 жыл бұрын

By the way thank you so much for saying that our job as parents is to love our children rather than make them do something. It takes the heavy burden off my shoulders. God bless you and your work.

@Castro20231 4 жыл бұрын

Can you give an example

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Adilene Castro, not sure what you mean.

@philipphilos4886 4 жыл бұрын

Sir, why there are children are raised in the same family, environment but when they grow up, there are stupid and good? what is really the formula?

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Philip Philos, it all comes down to choice. We all choose what we will be.

@philipphilos4886 4 жыл бұрын

@@LiveOnPurposeTV also consider the chance and time, there is an occurrence in life that choices is not a matter, there is really an X factor in every area of life

@natasha-thesingingflower2362 4 жыл бұрын

How do I show something I didn't get from my parents?

@RaquelGonzalezShop 4 жыл бұрын

You practice. Good parenting is a skill that you develop as you open up to the possibility of being a better parent. You’re here and that’s trying, so kuddos, mama. My personal commitment with this (through a lot of fails obviously -and not a super easy childhood) is the fact that I can give them a better childhood than I had by just trying to better myself in the areas where I feel I could do 99% better. It can be very empowering to learn the tools if you open yourself to the curiosity of being a better parent. It is like being two people; a bit awkward at first but the more you practice what you learn, the more chances you have to make that a permanent parenting method. Sending you hugs and strength ❤️

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

Natasha - The Singing Flower, you can learn new skills and we can help you with our parenting power-up.

@R26Roman 4 жыл бұрын

So in theory of my child gets an F in his class he will learn if I keep cycling through the steps over and over again until he repeats the grade and hope he learned to try the challenge again?

@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын

R26Roman, thank you for watching and trying to understand. Remember, first you want to let your child know that you love them. It would be beneficial if you lovingly explained the importance of an education for their adult life and then supported them in that. We don't want them to fail in school, however we can't control whether or not they do. Perhaps another attempt could be seen as another attempt at a test or an essay. If the teacher does not allow second attempts, they could try to do better on the next one. When children don't understand their lessons, you can either help them at home or encourage them to get tutoring at school.