Janie H Thank you for posting this! Whew

@@nikkih7949 you're welcome

Hello the reality is that many woman have seen the potential in a man & have stood by the man planning for a combined future expecting he will appreciate her efforts and faith in him since the beginning ... BUT. 🛑 Once the man is up and running he very often leaves the woman for someone younger prettier fresher. - So nice to know that in Tony’s situation it worked out well for the wife 😁 But because many women have been left & heart broken the new train of thought is it’s safer to go with the man who already has it together. Which makes a good man scarce! There are many more men or women to choose from if they start with men that are preparing for success if only the man would be kind faithful and standby and yes women can take some responsibilities by testing a man’s character for a long time before they commit .

4Seasons I agree with you. There’s nothing wrong with dating a man of good character but I also understand where the other women are coming from because I’ve been there. I dated a guy who didn’t make a lot of money (I would say our income was the same at the time). I motivated him, taught him how to drive etc. once he got his promotion and started making more money than me, got his License, and bought a BRAND NEW car; He started cheating on me. I will admit that he did help me pay for school, bought me nice expensive gifts but his entire character changed. He never cheated on me until he started making money. I like Tony messages mostly but I do believe that he doesn’t have an open mind about other people situation. He comes off as if he knows everything and when someone voice their opinion he tell them that they are speaking from hurt/bitterness. Yes, it’s fortunate that he didn’t do his wife like that. But from my own personal experience I built a man up and supported him through his dark days and he ended up with a BIG head and cheated on me after he came up. I left him, and once he realized that the women he was chasing after only wanted him for what he can do for them and was not with him for him, now he want me back. And I honestly am not sure if I want a man like that. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@@4seasons546 I understand your point about seeing the potential in the men of the world and standing behind them. My 1st question is, is his potential at work or he has a vision and has yet to put it into play before you'll met. Per Tony, he had an income and his vision was in play already but moving at a slow pace. Therefore giving Mrs. Gaskins hope into what their future can become. I find that quit often these men has shown us their true colors but we have chosen to look past it because we see their potential as being bigger than their deal breaking flaws. We become fearful that that fake/lazy potential is going to flourish w/o us and they'd find another woman, so we hold on. When whole time we should've let go. If he moved on let him. He was wasting your time anyway and you knew it; but didn't want to believe it. So yes we have to take responsibility for our part. But if us believing that that financial support is going to help us ignore that they are broken We'll be right back at square one. Broken ourselves.

Shunna W seriously Sis ooo

Truth.... 💯 💯

Majority of the broke men I met had no vision and no ambition and were asking for money....so never again lol

Shunna W 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ true 🤷🏽‍♀️

This is true.

Amén!!

To Nikki H, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, respectfully ❤️

Loudt

Exactly... not a match if you're lazy

Why? Many of them have a purpose- PlayStation games every night 😂.

Wow I’m going through that right now, except he has 3 children he’s raising on his own. I am blessed beyond measure. Man of character and integrity

Wow! I'm so happy for you!😊 Your testimony helped to reframe my perspective. Thank you for sharing!❤

Thank you for sharing your story. It gave me hope and was so encouraging. I've been praying and celibate for over 10 years now. I wish you and your husband and family all the best that God has for you in life!

Say it again

yes sis

Amen girl! 🙌🏽

Well said.

How ?

@@heide-raquelfuss5580 Thank you so much.

That's a blessing sis❤

@@heide-raquelfuss5580 💕💕

That's what a great woman can do to a man.

What a blessing indeed. I love hearing stories like yours, except I am so sorry for your husband's passing. Wow! I would love to hear more about you & your remarkable marriage. May God bless you 🙏❤️ @Lady Shenna

Cherlyrese Montgomery 🎯

Amen Cherlyrese Montgomery!!! This is so absolutely true!!

Amen that's facts

Well said👏🏾

💯

Exactly! You can't have character and ambition and be broke...

Yes!!!💛✌

Exactly! This point is literally going over some people’s head smh!

Truuuue that.

No he won't be as long as he has his ride or die step up chick

So with you I PRAYED to GOD to allow me to be around people of GODLY character that HE hand picked and chose for me to be around

But it is hard to have a man with Godly character and your lights are off, your cupboards are bare. Many things are a struggle. You do not have to live high and mighty, but have peace of mind with whatever is necessary to survive.

@zadose Yes Amen!!

Why he say he done tore a LIGAMENT IN YOUR THUMB............I am weak in my KNEES.

Amen sister i agree with you hunderd percent i never been a gold digger

Same here x 2, never again. Some people are just lazy as f. and want a mama not a mate.

People, please take the time to watch the WHOLE video. Watch it (3) three times. Believe me it’s worth the time. This is a gift from Jehovah Jireh

Linda Geiling THIS !!! Whew I empathize with you

We all have sis, congratulations for leaving. Celebrate yourself. Heal and prosper 💕 greater is coming for you !!!

I won't either bc a man w good character is chased down by God's favor. He will work harder than me. Even if not making a ton.

This is what I'm about to do sis because I just can't with today's dating scene

Exactly

I agree with you!

Absolutely agree with your statement. Wait. The right man will find you.

@@bgsntn Truth. Too many women accept anything,anyone or the first man that comes knocking... Most men, dont desire commitment, especially NOT until they're done playing & sleeping around. Ladies, wait on the Lord's divine best for you...& put yourself first.

This the first video where I can't agree where Tony coming from I met my kids dad and that's his lifestyle he broke and soely rely on weak single females such as where I used to be I met broke man wit good character but he's lazy and rely on me to keep pushing him forward.

Completely agree on that. You have to be the prize and make him work to have conditions to have you by his side. If you work together they’ll find the chase of the prize in another woman because you were the step for him, not the prize.

Yup they will. Went through this

There are always exceptions to the rule. ALWAYS

@@lareignprunty3930 his character is missing something. He's not truly a good man if he's not God fearing. He wouldn't be lazy and leaving you to handle things. If he loves you truly he'd want to make your burden as light as possible. Reduce your stress or load

Amen sister i feel same way no one buy me not for sale that's like being a prostitute

That’s right I to was in one of those. and I left with the quickness’

I'm talking to a rich man now and you are right they will try to throw money at you for sex. He has just learned I cannot be bought so now we dont see each other anymore since I am not having sex. I'm glad the trash took itself out. Move out the way so my husband can see me.

@@Khadijah_respectfully I JUST experienced this, and still a little heartbroken and hurt... We met while both customers at an auto repair shop to get work done on our own Mercedes-Benz vehicles, and I love how his surname is literally "Benz" (lol yes I already fantasized about having his last name! 🙈) and I'm all thinking he'd be like my own Dean Martin Italian romantic... we'd talk about listening to Frank Sinatra, making homemade pasta and watching old Hollywood movies... him introducing me to his huge Italian family... the whole thing! He then started texting more than calling, not calling when he'd say he would, and then texted very sexual stuff which I reciprocated because I was too sprung on the _fantasy_ of all this than the reality of him NOT being a man of God, me feeding my own lustful desires, and he _still_ hasn't taken me on a date. 😫 Tried to tell me he DID ask me for a first date (to fly with him from Seattle to NY for a week...) and after our last phone call where _I_ was the one to bring up meeting somewhere local for a casual bite to eat, he ended the conversation to say he'd call back and hasn't in two days... 🤦🏻‍♀️ Ghosted me after being SO persistent saying he wants to see me, but when I told him he's not coming over to my place after I participated in texting back and forth with him when we were both aroused... I'm sadly not surprised. I'm glad I kept my legs closed, but I feel like I failed to do so mentally- and have a bit of regret. 😞 I'm an only child of divorced narcissistic parents so I'm more avoidant and actually like being alone, so I've gotten used to being single... But his awakening me to what _could_ have been and what I dream of has really thrown me off. 😞 Like I'm glad he showed me who he really is a couple weeks into getting my phone number, but I'm just sad at the loss.

Same. I met this guy who use to send pictures to me of all of stuff with no context & of him with his shirt off. I confronted him about it & told him that I didn’t care about his money or things & he got upset 😂. So yeah , we don’t talk anymore. But it’s like these would be the same men that say women are gold diggers like sir obviously that’s what you want.

It must be a southern thing sis, I've heard it before! My mom had a trunk full of these euphemisms! They are funny!!

What does it means pls?

😂😂

It means if you shoot someone and don't finish the job, you will be astonished when he comes back for you. So it's the fear and amazement that will be on your face. 😲

He had me thinking “on your bike” was another metaphor 😂

Sonya Young absolutely

Both are not good. I need both in place.💛✌

@@gogoldiego While we as women were growing up; with all the opportunities we have in this present world; you can excel in many areas; it is actually up to you and what type of lifestyle you want. Nothing to do with 'keeping up with the Jones'; it is survival and comfort. Justly understood. I agree with you totally. I am being honest to myself and to whomever, I will eventually settle and marry.

@Shawny Love Dern....it"s always something is'nt it.

So true!!!

Lannie Dee please .

I try to get my 14 yr old daughter to watch Tony's videos with me! Every once in a while she we say "wait ma, go back and let me hear that part again". At least she hearing spiritual, positive, and motivational, words in between the mess she see/hear on social media.

I want to do my adult daughter like that too lol.

Lannie Dee 🤣🤣🤣🤣

And I'm 28 trying to get my mom to listen lol

Thank you so much! Means a lot!!

So true ❤️

Saudia Lynn I totally agree with you sister. Tony is a blessing to so many I would have loved to had a father in my life giving me advice such as Tony or even a brother. I truly thank GOD for Tony’s anointing.

jame tj he learned us something with that right?

@@marshellepayne4020 Sho nuff

EXACTLY !! Good intentions and potential ain't feeding children or keeping roofs over there heads. I think the man should be stable mentally and financially enough to be able to provide for his family in an honest way.

Your instincts are correct. A man needs to be together b4 he gets a woman & create a family.

Early years are a challenge.

No ! To the beginning of this ! Because I need to survive he shouldn’t be looking for love he should be looking for security

Amen!

@Dorcas Deroneth I agree..broke, empty, and depleted!

@zadose I'm unconcerned with who you take!! You're so ignorant & pressed from a true statement Tony made that I agreed with, which also didn't imply who I date.

We need have both.

Ok pickmesha I see you, thank you from saving from these duties

Tony has another video stating if you pay for gifts and things for a man he will start to eventually resent you

Chanta C A woman can't be a men's provider. Doesn't work.

Chanta C Did he have good character ? mmm🤔🤔

Well that doesn’t sound like good character at all

He said don't live with a man before marriage. or sleep with them.

Lamika C this!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Agreed 💯💯👌🏾

Facts!!!!

Body mind and spirit Amen

You are right on your assessment- no crazy drama - he’s got to have his head on straight 💯

🙌🏾🙌🏾

Exactly! That's wonderful. When they have character, the money will come.

Please adopt me lol

My husband faked his character for years!! Came out and said he cheated multiple times and wants to start over...

Shante S do you?

Some people too busy dippin with the people who already have full families, meanwhile single people out here like huh okay 😂😏☮️

Girl I’m cackling at that part..RITE NOW!😂😂😂😂

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Nope!😂

Yes but he wasn’t about anything, poor character.

So damn true

The man is to find you. Tell God what you want and let Him send you the man you need. Can’t settle for anything. Discernment is key! Best of luck to you on this journey! ❤️

I surely is

MsBdoll87 so true

No it ain't yall just see men of good character as weak.

@zadose The point is to see potential in that broke man, build with him first before considering other options

But a broke man with good character will NEVER be broke forever.. understand that, because of his vision and ambition.. also just because a man with a lot of money has that when you meet him doesn’t mean that he’ll have money through out the whole relationship.

@@aliciawoods8925 Right! Amen

That is like the lottery unfortunately for many women they get used for that purpose and when the man reaches his goal he leave for a younger woman🤦‍♀️

@@moons4363 right, unfortunately I have heard of that scenario as well.

Nope

Not Neva

Yes! I know my self-worth.

A broke dude’s energy dwindles enthusiasm. Definitely a WASTE of time.

Stephanie Mills 😂😂😂

When he has character, the money will come so great choice.

@@tiffanydiggs7625 Hey Honey 👋🏼. I hope you have a blessed weekend ❤🙏🏽.

@@anointedstilettos Yes it has! We're building together. 😊💞

@@nursekillm Yessss! That's how it is supposed to be.

Im with you Sis

Girl stay on these videos. With prayer, bible study, and these videos....you will be back to normal quick. I am a living testimony. Take care of you sis!

I've listened to MANY coaches on You Tube and I dont bother with them anymore. Tony is the best by a long shot. You are in good hands. xx.

kellee ransom thank you very much sis your message made my day. You are so right the only way to get through it is sticking to God completely and consistently. Ephesians 3:20: “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory” Hugs from Italy

Bibi Lafleur I believe so. Tony is anointed. I’m glad to join this community. Thank you very much xoxo

@@LucreziaGirelli Yes girl yes!! Hugs from Kansas City!

No its means waiting on God he give you the desires of your heart

I know. It's sad money is not the message

Chrisann Maye true

Chrisann Maye You May wanna watch the full video two more times

Chrisann Maye please watch the WHOLE video. Watch it thrice. You won’t regret it. Peace.

Go back to mins 38 and 39

Exactly.

Authentic Leatrice period! I talking to a man that makes like 10k less than me, but he has a degree, he already has a business and his character is there. It’s just I see the ambition! But If he ever cheat on me, I’m dipping !

Girrrrl I do too. Omgosh he sooooooooooooooooooo funny let me tell you!!!!!!!😜😜😂😂😂

me too! lol

Those initial points.

And above all its coming from a christian brother..... I used to watch another relationship coach, he tells the truth but because he's not a christian he uses curse words in his teaching which makes it uncomfortable to listen to.

Desoray Williams YESSSS !

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P .

This generation of men is nothing but a joke. Low income women of color should not be allowed to breed. It very discouraging

@@11940ful you would be shocked to know their are more white and hispanic women having babies.....and seeking public assistance (welfare). Black women have become highest population with college degrees in decades. I am a Hospital Administrator, my husband is a Surgeon.

Agreed. At a certain age , you should have at least the basics. If you don't, this is a major problem and speaks volumes as to your character. If you don't invest in yourself, why should I. I shouldn't have to lower my standards or quality of life because of someone else's lack of ability or drive.

I agree a man needs a job and vision and goals.

@kymistry My father always taught us to stand on our own two feet and my mother taught us about having our own money as well as "mad money". If you need to step off, your security is not impacted because you're self-sufficient.

kymistry ... what woman dosent? Lol how did she survive before he got there? I don’t get why people say this. What adult in 2020 isn’t already making money or at least able to find ways to provide for themselves?

I also prefer when his message is more longer cos God is really using him.

Amen i listen to Tony alll day because he has so much godly wisdom he be speaking the truth💯 some woman's not ready for that

Linda Geiling watch again sis, the Whole video this time around

It's a dangerous game. In this day and age, I wouldn't reccomend it because the vast majority of men will use your money and then leave when they get on. And some never get on at all. The number one reason for high divorce rates are finances, so it all can't just be based on good character.

You don't take care of a man. You let a man be a man. Let him stand on his own. The only help you should give is support and peace of mind. I did it before with a grown boy so I understand how you feel. I don't want you to allow the past to have your miss the wisdom out of it and carry the hurt.

@@lilkathytaylor 💯

Linda Geiling I am guilty of that too. Twice! No more.

Yep

Exactly ! They don’t really want just you or you at all but they don’t want anyone else to have you .. and treat you well.

Yes ma"am!!!

Tameeka Harris YES 🤣 🤣

@@JBrazielGreen 🤣

When he says 'caveats and nuances'

@@serentalina401 😂

Emotional intelligence

Amen!!

Thank you for this comment.

I watched the entire video and I do agree with Tony, however the fact is there are a lot of broke men out there with bad character as well.I have dated both and this is just my experience. Also, as Tony says over and over again, his situation is an exception to the rule.

Omg this is a good idea! Fr

@@skwilson34 I've dated both as well and I also find that men with money tend to treat you better, they will pay for it all and they have ambition, I had to leave those situations because it seem like they were heavily into drugs or alchohol and I was not. Then I've dated guys who made $40,000 a year and was verbally, physically and mentally abusive. The thing, I believe he is trying to say is ambition plus good character, is what you're looking for. If they have good character they should also be ambitious. Good character is something that should never be over looked but Don't let good character be a pass for laziness, the guy should be ambitious as well.

I tell ya Tony, each video just blesses me more and more! GOD BLESS YOU!!!

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU SAID ESPECIALLY THE PART WHERE WE AS A BLACK COMMUNITY NEVER REALLY PLAN FOR CHILDREN‼️

I agree with this 100%

I'm 46...I can't afford to start over with a man. He needs to have his own.

Felisha Pittman And definitely have his head on straight.

I have the same concerns...being over 40. I realize I have to use discernment and pay close attention to a man’s character more than his money situation because I don’t have a lot of time to waste.

Exactly my thought! At 20 I wasn’t looking for financial stability in a man! Today it’s normal for me to expect that I am successful so he will be too and ready for me!

@@cochrancochran66 Indeed!😊