How to Set Boundaries Unapologetically!

How to Set Boundaries Unapologetically! | Protect Your Peace!

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You need boundaries! They protect your peace, and create better relationships.
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@chelseabruce5675 Жыл бұрын

I've been too nice my entire life. Still working on it at 33, much better than I was at 23! 🙌🏾🧡

@mgatlin3210 21 күн бұрын

My peace is my peace. If it pushes people away, offends, or hurts- oh the hell well.😴😱

@jamiewilliams8107 7 ай бұрын

As I've gotten older my peace is utmost important and I'd rather be alone with my peace than be surrounded by people who give me a headf@@k

@Lillysaidthat1 Жыл бұрын

This was right on!!! Yesterday I was writing in my journal about this. My peace is my peace and I will not let anyone destroy or infiltrate MY PEACE! Thank you MJ❤

@malaikahill321 Жыл бұрын

🙌🏾 yessssssss !!! My health is everything….. if there is no peace or growth in a relationship I have to walk away!!! Even family!!! It took me 51 years to get to this point … and I have been following this for a year now …. And baby….. I feel good all over now !!! Thank you MJ you’re beautiful inside and OUT ❤

@missjackie7983 11 ай бұрын

Alright now, Stephanie Mills!!

@belindalacey5037 Жыл бұрын

MJ your speech is always liked . I'm learning to live my life now better than before . A piece of mind is better than no mind at all. ❤😊

@imaniford119 Ай бұрын

This was really helpful for me. I think that sometimes people and relationships that have been "rotten to the core" have not wanted me to show up with healthy boundaries because they have not wanted me to be empowered. I am black, femme, and trans-masculine. So I am working through my own fears about claiming my personal power and the guilt and false beliefs I have about being empowered as a black gender variant being. So thank you for sharing.

@AntonioBarbee Жыл бұрын

Thank you MJ. This is a word that I needed to hear! As a Pisces, we want others to feel happy and we shouldn’t have to comprise our peace for anyone. Setting boundaries is healthy and absolutely necessary to maintain a healthy and happy life. Thank you so much!

@tcbroussard9562 Жыл бұрын

♓️

@mignongreen8557 Жыл бұрын

♓ = Peace

@pearlrodrigues372 11 ай бұрын

That actually happened to me and then I threatened to call labour laws and report them and suddenly my cheque appeared, they thought I was sweet and shy and they could walk on me. People suddenly wake up when they think they’re going to jail for abusing their powers.

@realpristine Жыл бұрын

Amen, protect your peace at all cost! We only have one life to live and we shouldn’t allow others to stress us out or treat us bad. This is a form of self love 💖

@harlembeloved7052 Жыл бұрын

Thanks MJ.. I needed to hear this. After years of condescending talk and disrespect I had to set a boundary with a family member just recently... I actually did it respectfully and in return she just stopped speaking to me altogether... It is what it is...🤷🏿

@kadinelindsayart 2 ай бұрын

Rejection is protection

@shambramulder4082 Жыл бұрын

i love when we communicate and allow people to make the choice of whether they want to be in relationships with us (on our terms).

@laurenwilson339 10 ай бұрын

You are so right myself people I love the most it’s hard for me too set boundaries with that person because because I think I going to llose them for ever

@kevintucker6007 Жыл бұрын

So true. Protecting my PEACE

@Reddiva16 Жыл бұрын

Your message was a golden nugget for me. I have always tried to please people all my life. As of this year and moving forward no more taking other people's crap 💩 it's about me.

@ladyjack7616 Жыл бұрын

I am a people pleaser. And I had to learn this. I feel so much better! I agree with you MJ 💯!

@f.maria7835 Жыл бұрын

I won't allow people to hurt me and disrespect me just because they are family members......I I'm loving my self now..I moved 9 hours away and feel great

@wandashell36 Жыл бұрын

Protect your peace ✌️

@bevfromnc6607 Жыл бұрын

MJ, You don't seem like a people pleaser to ME! Seem like you'll put someone in their place REAL QUICK! But thanks for this.

@iloveTool 11 ай бұрын

I've never heard it put that way - entitled to our peace, I like that. I constantly get taken advantage of at work. Videos like this are so helpful to keep in the back of my mind at work when it's happening in real time. At some point you have to stop putting everyone else first and yourself last, getting walked all over.

@carolynlove7639 Жыл бұрын

Yes MJ even your own children think you are a door mat l had to go flat and say l raise you all now you raise your children l will call you when l want to spend time with our grand children so the phone calls are less oh well we love peace and quietness 😂be safe

@angelarojas4877 Жыл бұрын

This is 100% correct MJ. I just dumped someone because he was harassing me for favors he said he needed from me. Certain favors you doing even do it with husband or wife, getting in into your personal accounts, oh no baby good bye.

@MsTwilightSpeaks Жыл бұрын

Former people pleaser

@erikas9945 Жыл бұрын

I love my peace, standards and boundaries

@lcdesigns6145 Жыл бұрын

MJ this came ROT.. I want to stop seeing my personal trainer and I was more concerned about her sensitivity…I missed session Friday in celebration of my birthday. She called asking if I fired her; same scenario a month ago when I paid but cancelled within 24 hour. Clearly I’m still working on people pleasing 😅

@GlendaGray-xi9uz Жыл бұрын

I like when you said to continue in a healthy relationship respecting each other boundaries. The closest people in my life can find it difficult to keep a relationship because I have mentioned it to them. thanks for mentioning it MJ. You always on point with your content . Much peace to you, and I love your blouse. 💕

@servanaaranda 7 ай бұрын

My issue is , i have good relationships with family but soon as i do a boundary im the asshole and im chewing their head off. Its incredibly frustrating especially when that fam is my boss

@pearlrodrigues372 11 ай бұрын

I was like that when I was younger, now at the age of 44 years I please myself more and stop being a door mat to other individuals. In the long run being a people please doesn’t benefit anyone in the long run, and you’ll end up angry and bitter and possibly emotional damaged. No one needs that, live your life balanced as much as possible, if you’re not good at it then practice living a balanced life style.

@lccdavis2023 Жыл бұрын

I am still working on this, and truly needed to hear this. So many of us are raised to the motto of "do unto others..." I'm sure you know the rest. But in my older age, I've realized that doesn't always apply or leave room for you to set and enforce boundaries. It can sometimes set you up to be used. Thank you for your insight and words of encouragement for those going through this.

@cheriearcher6643 11 ай бұрын

You are so right. We try to please people who most of the time does not care about you. Yes, we need to set boundaries

@alicebrown6442 Ай бұрын

Good Morning you really know how to beat that face down i just learn new tricks i love it thank you for sharing have a great day

@jensteroneR Жыл бұрын

SPIT THAT

@diamondbolton2944 Жыл бұрын

Exactly you can’t be my friend and my enemies friend. You start to wonder why people acting different it’s cause they around different people.

@all-just-familyajf8177 Жыл бұрын

I agree I’m going through transition now

@wensimm6006 Жыл бұрын

MJ hello! Your video is spot on. I’m learning to set boundarie4s. I can’t allow negative, hateful, bitter people to cloud my life.

@tanshakespeare9469 Жыл бұрын

Relating... receiving.

@missjackie7983 11 ай бұрын

Protecting my peace by keeping my legs closed, living in solitude and remaining single. Do whatever you want, however you want, with whomever you want to for as long as you like to do it as long as it's legal, you just won't be doing any of that crap with ME!

@dvmn444 Жыл бұрын

If someone benefits from you not having boundaries they can go to hell 🤣

@jalisa8236 Жыл бұрын

Thank you , you explain things so well.

@vanessaa.chisley362 Жыл бұрын

Thanks, I needed to hear this today

@sallycasiano2606 Жыл бұрын

I feel like we are 1 in the same what a blessing to me please no disrespect but when I listen to you it’s like I have just heard what I spoke of yesterday to my daughter you can love someone it doesn’t mean that I like them

@pearlrodrigues372 11 ай бұрын

Exactly if you set a boundaries and then others vomit on it, this on them, it’s literally over. Life’s about lessons and consequences, the quicker you understand what you will put up with and what you will not the better your life will become. Not everything in life is for you and to make you happy. The things that bring stress into your life stay away from. Make sure you’re clear in the beginning when you’re communicating with individuals about the things you need and the things you’re willing to give to others. Happiness, love, respect, loyalty, understanding, etc.. is a circle of hard work, done every day so that we can all be happy, together or apart.

@blackdiamondtarot2446 Жыл бұрын

many blessings and peace your way fellow brother

@Asiathegoddess-id8yb Жыл бұрын

The universe knew what it was doing when it introduced me to MJ Harris

@TDardensmile Жыл бұрын

I miss seeing you and the boys together

@wejoin Жыл бұрын

I had to do this recently and it’s tough, especially with family! I appreciate this reminder❤ Thank you, MJ

@supertalentize 2 ай бұрын

Beautiful message, thank you MJ for content like this and sharing your wisdom 🙏🏼♥️✨

@keysha2030 Жыл бұрын

You are golden❤❤

@lauras610 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your generous sharing of life lessons!! I wish I had this kind of instruction so long ago... 💓

@mtbmwtb Жыл бұрын

Save button ✅

@carolwilliams7937 Жыл бұрын

speak on it!!!

@Shawnda46 Жыл бұрын

This is very true for the last couple of years I realized how important my peace is and I'm willing to protect it at all cost my BFF of 25 years loves using the B word so one day I told her I don't want to be call that I don't play like that long story short she likes to slip up and say it anyways so I've distanced myself from her because if you can't respect that then what are we doing

@concernedgreatly5291 Жыл бұрын

Speak it.❣️

@essieberry4290 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!

@kieshaspady4923 Жыл бұрын

Straight Facts 💯 MJ

@one2inV Жыл бұрын

thank you MJ

@beauphomasterpiece3795 Жыл бұрын

ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS . Yes all caps . I LOVEDDDDD THIS . THANK YOU

@shandal4668 Жыл бұрын

WORD!!

@kckgirl78 Жыл бұрын

Well said. ❤️

@andromedatownsend3226 Жыл бұрын

I needed this message. Thank you 🙏🏾

@kianashardae Жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this. Thanks MJ❤

@TheJawn_G 9 ай бұрын

I agree mj!

@aliciajarvis5526 Жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤

@pacitataylor1079 Жыл бұрын

Ooh I needed that …. U seem to come in at the right time

@beatriceakoth5721 Жыл бұрын

True❤

@jensteroneR Жыл бұрын

Ty!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@simonwilson4087 3 ай бұрын

Excellent!

@34ronette Жыл бұрын

You betta preach! 🔥

@angelamartin1147 Жыл бұрын

I’m listening. Thank you.

@TheBlackICEQueen 6 ай бұрын

Thank you! ♥

@pampam6580 Жыл бұрын

Well said. Thank you

@theblackpearlmediagroup Жыл бұрын

Hi MJ

@Khadijafinance369 3 ай бұрын

Love you mj❤

@adriennealexander1729 11 ай бұрын

Excellent teaching Mj Harris. Your doing good.

@soiledskin Жыл бұрын

You articulated this perfectly MJ. Thank you for sharing!💫

@SweetJordan87 Жыл бұрын

You are such a blessing MJ. Thank you ❤

@ITSCHANELSWAY 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much MJ I need this

@ros957 Жыл бұрын

Thank you MJ ❤Yesss set them boundaries and watch how they react 😂😂😂Bye👏🏽

@atlantafoodstar Жыл бұрын

Love you ❤ forever. Thanks for your word to all of us 😊

@Ego-centri-City Жыл бұрын

Why are you so great..👏👏🙏🏻

@ettesiwel6055 Жыл бұрын

Dude I love you and the way you put this information…

@karenraines1738 Жыл бұрын

Amen…Thank you MJ❤ Can’t wait to read your Inspirational Devotional book!

@sunshineflower9380 Жыл бұрын

So true MJ..love your video's ❤

@user-fu9iz3oz2g Жыл бұрын

Thank you and well said so keep talking.

@venessamoon3741 11 ай бұрын

Great advice!! I agree that having peace & boundaries is important.

@tonyarichelle8380 Жыл бұрын

You are a special hun Luv the way you move!!!❤

@simplymayrionwashington8408 Жыл бұрын

This is amazing stuff, so real. The best MJ🎉🎉🎉🎉

@TYP1970 Жыл бұрын

Yes I liked and shared with 3 people.

@sage8889 Жыл бұрын

🔥 🔥 🔥

@jj-2223 Жыл бұрын

Love It MJ ❤ Thank You.... & Your scenery there looks so peaceful & calm..i would just curl up there with a book, a cool drink and simply Be Still.🧘🏾‍♂

@djthefootballmom Жыл бұрын

This is critical for a healthy relationship!!

@MsTwilightSpeaks Жыл бұрын

1:15 👏👏👏

@mariahflowers9009 Жыл бұрын

Yes🎉

@drochaable 8 ай бұрын

What a necessary and important video! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@sugar-spice38 Жыл бұрын

Yes this Is for me I have set boundaries everything you said you use to be I use to do the same thing MJ Thank you for this reminder

@U2B40 Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU For THIS and ALL YOUR EMPOWERING MESSAGES ❤❤GOD BLESS YOU❤❤

@hienienguyen6766 Жыл бұрын

This is me. I can relate I need to set boundaries. Family especially is toxic. That is so true. I gotta set it boundaries. Relationships are toxic i gotta learn this. My trauma coach told me this too😊

@yahyah9184 Жыл бұрын

Thank you MJ 🥰for sharing your divine intelligence and healing 🌀💚wisdom.I was definitely a people pleaser . I’m practicing unconditional love for myself and others and ,setting boundaries. This has allowed me to receive joy,peace of mind ,and good health, a priority first in my life.🤲🏿🕊

@sheiladay-od2me Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this informative video. I do set boundaries with people. Sometimes I feel that I have to keep setting the same boundaries over and over. I do not do well with manipulators who employ different strategies for trying to extract the behavior they want from me. Sometimes, I just have to let them go because what they want is inappropriate and is all they really want from me. Thanks again for this video. I identify with you so well.