How to Speak up in Meetings

How to Speak up in Meetings - with Confidence

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3 жыл бұрын

One of THE most common things I get asked is, “How can I be more confident and speak more meetings?”
While this is a challenge not limited to women, the question seems to mainly come from women who work in male-dominated industries.
If you feel that you struggle with being heard in meetings or that you want more confidence then this video will help. In it I share practical tips and strategies that I train my own clients, and that you can apply immediately at work.
The ability to to be a valuable participant in meetings is a MUST have skill that is vital to your career advancement. It can also strengthen your influence, and it will more likely get you noticed, promoted and recognised for your leadership potential.
You can't afford not to level up your meeting skills and confidence.
In the comments below let me know what you struggle most with in meetings - do you get cut off and interrupted all the time?
Do you find it hard to even interject and share your ideas?
Do you preface everything you’re about to say and apologise for taking up the space like “I’m sorry to interrupt the flow of conversation, but...”
Let me know what you do and let’s tackle this together.
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@aqeelkirmani7391 3 жыл бұрын

I can't help but appreciate the symmetry of ur position in between the two vases 😐

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Haha, that was my husband's attention to detail!

@aqeelkirmani7391 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai He has a good sense of "wait, just a bit to the left, perfect, now go on" !!

@abhishekdatta8800 3 жыл бұрын

😀

@myth6627 3 жыл бұрын

Its green screen i guess 🙂

@dziembaj 3 жыл бұрын

Shadé Zahrai that husband thing isn’t gonna work. Simps will most likely unfollow

@KCSMITH86 2 жыл бұрын

TECHNIQUE: One way to make sure you get heard is to wait for a pause or silent moment. If someone starts talking at the same time, advise the room that when that person is done speaking, that you have something to say. Be ready to speak and jump right on in when that person is done. A second way, is to raise your hand to let it be known that you have something to say. You may have to raise it a few times. Once the room knows that you have something to say, they will get on your side and make sure you have a chance to speak. At this point, they can't wait to hear what it is that you have to say which will be encouraging giving you more confidence to speak. You only have to say excuse me to get their attention never having to apologize. Speak, knowing that what you have to say is valuable and they will receive it as just that. Speak, not caring what anybody is going to think because if it matters to you, thats all that matters.

@ipconfigearth102 2 күн бұрын

Important lesson! To speak up!

@feelthethunder119 3 жыл бұрын

Watching this as a guy, cause why the hell not

@aap9167 3 жыл бұрын

True that

@ashu2502 3 жыл бұрын

@@aap9167 True that...

@SagarAbhishek 2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@busterbuster8193 2 жыл бұрын

Easy on the eyes and ears - with substance - what else can you ask for?

@iamyourcoach_Rosy Жыл бұрын

Congratulations. I'm so glad this channel is growing so well, great to see a channel get the recognition they deserve. Can't wait to see where this channel goes from here.

@idselseno2306 Жыл бұрын

English is my second language and I can use it in above average level. The biggest challenge for me is how to explain things specially technical ones to non technical members of the meeting. It takes some brain power to think for the technical solution(solved inside the head using native language) then translate them into English. In some occasions it could make me look as if I don't know enough answers because of stuttering and a lot of filler words (uhmm). Oh those bad memories! 😅🤢

@bradleysica5640 2 жыл бұрын

This woman is so amazing in how she relates to her viewership. She is very likeable and talks very sweetly. Brad (Maine)

@faakhir-5871 3 жыл бұрын

Great content Shad‘e. It's actually the need of hour and you just earned a subscriber:) Keep up the good work!!!

@abubakerbugembe7000 2 жыл бұрын

Have been so much apologetic but with these clues you have shared, I will rock well in meetings. Thank you.

@unbelvbl 3 жыл бұрын

I like that this didn’t turn into a male bashing session. Women get cut off by women as they are by men. Women should speak up when they are interrupted, without anger, BUT even if the anger is there, they should not hold back because of it and speak up anyway; they’ll get better at it with time. - A male listener

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing these constructive ideas and agreed - never respond in anger. I recently posted an abridged version of this video on LinkedIn. It was interesting to see both men and women writing comments about them experiencing this problem - even ones in senior leadership positions.

@dharinisridhar8151 Жыл бұрын

Your videos are quite useful, thank you for sharing! The trouble I face often times is either I second guess myself about what I want to communicate in a meeting or my thoughts are way ahead of what I am actually communicating. Because of the mismatch I sometimes find it difficult to speak coherently.

@unstoppable-ar3292 3 жыл бұрын

You're articulate. I love how you break down the video to small sectors. Thank you. I'm a man who has all the confidence in meetings and I will implement this to further enhance my presence in meetings and others around me.

@waelfaraj6705 Ай бұрын

Something I have noticed is that people listen more if you speak less and act more ... People favor concise speech and I am doing my best to practice concise brief speeches ...

@purpy7y 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shadé! As a man starting off my career I find your videos very helpful!

@infinitybless7132 Жыл бұрын

I usually don’t say much in meetings. I just listen. I’m the kind of person that takes backstage. I make things happen by doing it and showing how it will be efficient. I’m more of a doer than talker. ❤

@rico1648 11 ай бұрын

Beware of posers who take credit for your effort.😅

@infinitybless7132 9 ай бұрын

@@rico1648 been there, not concerned my dear. God is with me. 🙏

@pierrevia6599 Жыл бұрын

It is very rarely for me to comment on any video but all your videos are awesome. Your contributions to the social media should be recognized. Thanks so much!

@maggiesun5423 2 жыл бұрын

Watched this long time ago. Never thought a time would come for me to dig this up and saver every bit of it for my next meeting! So very helpful!! Recently I've been quite frustrated with one of our meetings where I was constantly cut off by one of my colleagues. After a while, I found myself feeling dreadful to even go to the meeting anymore. Now examing it, it's really like what you said - a male dominated (I'm the only female of us 4), and it seems ok among the three of them. I will try your technique in our next meeting. Thank you so much for providing so so much values in your videos!

@kunjalsahu3504 Жыл бұрын

How is your experience now ? Plz share

@Anurag_Saxena 3 жыл бұрын

I first ignored your procrastination clip but later found interview tips fascinating... Keep them crisp concise and come considerate 👍

@sacchitsreenivasan3487 3 жыл бұрын

Clicked for the beauty, stayed for the insights

@cristiantovar4068 3 жыл бұрын

You just made my day, thanks for your valuable advices, I'll apply from this point forward

@sadafs9910 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Thank you for sharing, just found your channel and loving the content! ❤️

@madhavendrashenoy 3 жыл бұрын

Very nice and useful video!! 👍. It's true that when you start with calling out the name of the person first, they take a pause. And this is a strategy I learn somewhere and use in heated discussions with clients. Keep up the good work 👏👏👏

@HenryRph 11 ай бұрын

Thank you Shade! This is incredible info to be caring and aware and stellar talker!

@maheshmohan3011 3 жыл бұрын

Your content is high quality, shade. This channel is destined to hit a 100,000 and then a million subscribers soon.

@emiliodejesus8519 3 жыл бұрын

This is so organized and structured, I love it

@kgeorge1736 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I am a firm believer in effective communication and I am constantly learning. Your contribution is greatly appreciated.

@ashrafhassan6610 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful minded, Shade . All my respect 👌

@johna-s6757 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciated & thankful for your motivation & helpful guides, Miss Zahrai.

@rudrakshvats5398 3 жыл бұрын

This is very valuable. Not only in a meeting or a discussion. We can apply this in our daily life with family and friends. Thanks Shade.

@jafarshan4887 9 ай бұрын

this is awesome, superb tips keep going Shade👍

@ranu6982 3 жыл бұрын

Although ma'am you have designed it for women, but as a man I can also extract some part from it, because it gives me insight to better understand women, as far as their working-professional behaviouralism is concerned.

@ranu6982 3 жыл бұрын

And it *good to see you ma'am with longer videos.* 👌

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! 🙏 And I’m so happy to hear that you’re also able to find value from it - whether giving you a better insight into some of the challenges women face, or even if the content is relevant for you (which I’m sure a lot of it might be- if not from this video, from future ones). 🙂 Thanks for the support! 🙏

@ranu6982 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai Ma'am your all videos are worthy. 👍

@shaheerali3121 3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I felt the same

@ranu6982 3 жыл бұрын

Shaheer Ali hmmm.... I think being men, we all encourage the moral values of women without any discrimination, and that will definitely empower them. 👌👌

@karimkaan8700 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your precious advices

@akshitamehta-rashid6401 2 жыл бұрын

Women generally are not considered smart enough to contribute their ideas and opinions in a male dominated meeting. But with your confidence you can ensure you are heard. Very valuable tips, great content n you are a beauty with brains. I am a new subscriber n love both your content n the delivery style which is so elegant n classy

@sirena0772 3 жыл бұрын

So true what you are saying ALL of what you're saying...PLUS you're beauty is so hard not to notice. Thank you for sharing just subscribed too.

@mohammadaghajani1400 8 ай бұрын

So useful video thank you ❤❤❤

@kokmunloh Жыл бұрын

Way beyond my expectations. Applicable to all social situations.

@Anonymous-kn8ph 3 жыл бұрын

Your Beauty dragged me in but your Brain is equally as astonishing as you are.

@marcus.the.younger 3 жыл бұрын

one might even say, Beauty with Brain !

@dhimanbhowmick9558 2 жыл бұрын

Good pick up line, Lol, :p

@kazingmei. 3 жыл бұрын

Wow can't express her presentation its too perfect...thanks for this video again...

@meer-vrcontentdac4868 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for valuable points to pick ourselves during meetings, i always hesitate to speak in a group settings!!!

@CalmReflectionsHarmony24 3 жыл бұрын

I am getting more confident after seen her video.

@mavericksantiago319 3 жыл бұрын

I bless you ... you will reach 1 million subs soon .... keep going brave lady 🙌🙌🙌

@bhimpokhrel4059 2 жыл бұрын

This topic is so useful. You have provided such an incredible ideas to speak up in meeting.

@kimberlytate2623 9 ай бұрын

THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS GREAT AND USEFUL INFORMATION🙏✝️❤

@gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb 11 ай бұрын

Essa pontinha da aula é muito bonita ❤❤❤❤ amei sim ❤❤❤ obg prof ❤❤❤

@zubinzaheer551 3 жыл бұрын

I believe working out having a good physique along with the proper attire.. fragrance.. accesories body leads to confidence skyrocketing even before entering the meeting room ready to take anyone and everyone.

@mohammedabdulrazzak1367 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this wonderful tips on meetings... It will really helpful for those who are suffering... May God Bless You and More Power To You... 👍👍👍

@businessstudieswithsimatel6713 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks dear. As a content creator, I honestly feel this is a great channel angel. Great content, Keep on keeping on

@vranataraj Жыл бұрын

The third point of bringing another team member was a big learning. Which I will for sure bring in my next meeting.

@triciajensen9679 Жыл бұрын

I am definitely going to try this in my next department meetings, thanks!!

@johnthreesixteen5643 3 жыл бұрын

You are just amazing, i have not seen many videos but the ones I've seen have been on point i tell you what

@hanquenaga8535 Жыл бұрын

Give them space but by first creating your own space, wow! Learning new in every video..

@trewaldo 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes, when you open the floor for questions after a presentation, people know what to ask about but they don't know how to phrase the questions. So they end up with the response "None, so far." 😅 Great tips, Shadé! 🥰🤓😍

@Grace-zo2lg 3 жыл бұрын

I didn't begin to type my comment until the video ended :-p Desiderata is like what you talked about in this refreshing video

@tramnguyenngocphuong7639 3 жыл бұрын

1. Don’t apologize for interrupting/ bothering before sharing your ideas. 2/ Tack back 3./ Value your ideas, thought 4 /create space for others

@usmansani7486 2 жыл бұрын

I'd say you're lovely, your presentation style is perfect, I subscribed your channel yesterday, and almost in two days I watched all of your videos, which I found very interesting and helpful. Thanks, you're appreciable

@gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb 11 ай бұрын

Amo ❤️ suas aulas prof ❤❤❤

@adityayadavx447 3 жыл бұрын

I just discovered your channel , Just love it., The content , topics are so helpful and informative.. Love from india miss :)

@larrybird3729 3 жыл бұрын

This seems to work for me... 1: Find out what the "Milk" of the meeting is. 2: Find out who are the key players this "Milk" matters too most. 3: Research that "Milk" like your life depends on it 4: *Compress* and *Simplify* that "Milk" into away the key players will understand 5: Every word you use needs to be important, direct with no fluff 6: Be short and sweet when giving your opinion. After 3 or so meetings you wont need to fight anymore for your opinion because the key players will ask you directory for it... 🍼

@mirwaheedzehri421 3 жыл бұрын

Yes Shade madam I was feeling same way I always talk before I learned this thanks

@MuhammadZubair-co5jl Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind opinions. As I am a little introverted hence my CEO recently told me: "You are enough good but have less forthcoming ability". 😊

@aqibrehmanpirzada4552 Жыл бұрын

Such a Marvelous Work Shade. I would be glad if you make more videos on the Professional Communication and Presentations😊

@sbehera215 2 жыл бұрын

Your videos are too good the way you present & very much useful and thanks for sharing.

@everythingsamsungpro445 3 жыл бұрын

Seems like A perfect and gorgeous lady.... I am not gonna lie...her beauty dragged me here ....but when i reached here, she is a motivational speaker which is rare combination for a beauty ,plus her voice & Accent is also very very good. Clear words..... This is called the beauty with brain

@BlackCatBelzebub 3 жыл бұрын

I needed this. Thank you

@boyharwin652 3 жыл бұрын

This is pretty interesting n valuable topic, my straggling in a meeting is how to wrap up my idea nicely, structurally and logically, so it will easily for others to digest, accept n appreciate it. I want to hear ur video about it "wrap up ur idea nicely". Tq

@JerelTeh 3 жыл бұрын

This is so important in my life as a student

@ritugoel2187 Жыл бұрын

Thankyou for sharing !

@abhinavtripathi970 11 ай бұрын

Awesome presentation and skill. What I felt people dont speak is because of 2 reasons: 1. They don't do homework before going in a meeting thus they lack the information or knowledge of the agenda and subject. - You will feel confident if you know your audience, have enough information and have done your homework. 2. They do think before sharing anything what if I am proved to be wrong. - people should understand, Most of the time if not always, in any meeting people want to have your idea and get corrected.

@broto8 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely amazing!!

@rajeevSreenivasan Жыл бұрын

That’s right,in my work place there is always a coworker (female) cutting everyone off when they starts speak, next time I will follow your tips, thank you

@gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb Жыл бұрын

Poxa como é gostoso estudar com vc prof Very thank prof amei sim ❤❤

@shaheersk721 3 жыл бұрын

These tips are quite applicable, even in general.

@surimenon9260 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your time. PATIENCE, and Listen.. Convey what is much need with a Smile... I am Aviation man.. Into Sale and Leasing... 🙏

@tusifahmed2033 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much Shade Zahrai for such a valuable vidieo

@Mr_criminal_gaming506 Жыл бұрын

I really like your simplicity and the way of speaking.

@silvanaokbit1464 3 жыл бұрын

I love ur ideas tanks

@User-hh3gg Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your videos. Each n every video has given me usefull inputs to be used in corporate world 🙏👍

@mohammadghobadzadeh3801 2 жыл бұрын

Keep going , that was absolutely applicable ♥️🌷

@evadeanu1 Жыл бұрын

Why am I reading this now? I’m glad I found you! Better later than never. Thanks.

@Lady-A000 Жыл бұрын

Great video. Something I really need to work on. I am a female and almost all the colleagues I work with are also female. Cutting off during a meeting or one person leading the meeting is just regular in our meetings. I always felt like when I have to say something it either get interrupted or change the topic. I mostly stay quiet in my meetings because of these and only respond if they have any questions for me. I really want to change this and involve more in the meeting and have others to hear me. How do I go about doing that,

@yaldaazamee9166 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for such a nice video and topic! Most the time I have many ideas and openion to share in the meeting, but I can't share it is not that the host of the meeting don't give us the opportunity to talk but feel extremely nervous. Even I blush when there is too many attendees. So please give me advice. Thank you!

@masoodrana9425 3 жыл бұрын

. Very important content. . Excellent tips for a common problem to proceed / participate in routine meetings. . Mostly few of particepnts just want to monopolize expressing verbosity.

@gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb 11 ай бұрын

Congratulations for you ❤❤❤❤ prof ❤❤❤ amei sua aula ❤❤❤

@Swift1756 Жыл бұрын

Beautifully Defined....Thanks..

@Rose-xk5sy 3 жыл бұрын

I just discovered your channel..and i just subscribed. And i can't help but let you know a few things: 1. Your content is amazing. 2. The way you're presenting your content has a lot of things one can learn from on its own. Its very elegant and gentle. 3. You're extraordinarily beautiful

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Agnes, thank you for the very kind and encouraging words! I'm happy that you see value in the content and welcome to the channel 😊

@Rose-xk5sy 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai you're most welcome✨😊

@parthvadera1 3 жыл бұрын

Don’t get distracted by her looks, the content she is sharing is invaluable

@basharalrefaee6953 Жыл бұрын

Makes a lot of sense, thanks!

@user-vp9pd8vn3z 3 жыл бұрын

Your videos have really good content 😃!!!!! Thanks a lot 😊 You are a really inspiring woman!!!!😊😃 I enjoy your videos a lot 😊😊😃😃👍🏻👍🏻

@habibytchannel3076 3 жыл бұрын

I like your style to speak. It's fully confident. 👍🏻

@shashikaushik2663 3 жыл бұрын

Fabulous tips to shineout, Kudos

@rifatnahiunhossain9540 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a big fan of urs... Love from Bangladesh ❤️❤️

@moniquerosalia5643 3 жыл бұрын

It is so hard for me to speak up in meetings! I loved the video. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@66nagarajreddy 3 жыл бұрын

Even men also watch ur videos:) We really love your video tips

@patrick_527 Жыл бұрын

Your personality is just brilliant!!

@SG-hj2hv Жыл бұрын

I liked the idea that we need to value our on thoughts and ideas before anyone would and well that's the most difficult thing for me. I gather courage and speek up an the moment I see others are not welcoming it I start feeling less valued and stupid.

@SG-hj2hv Жыл бұрын

My most difficult thing is whenever I have an idea related to my work that I feel is useful i get so much carried away that lose the inability to look through the bigger picture.So whenever I present the idea, my teammates bombard me with what is said won't work because of so and so reason and I feel stupid and valueless

@nawajali7406 3 жыл бұрын

Thank uuuuu God is GOOD 💖😊

@gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb Жыл бұрын

Amo vc prof ❤❤

@rapatel1642 2 жыл бұрын

Excuse let me finish, 👌Good advice.

@Chronade 3 жыл бұрын

And if a daughter's what my future holds, I'll get her to subscribe to your channel, I hope she'll look up to you like I do, yeah. Thanks for equipping women to make a difference in the world, now that I know women are usually cut off in meetings, I'll be protective of them concerning this matter. My subscriptions are private, so you can't tell that I have subscribed to your channel! I'll see you in your next video! :) 🤍