it's crazy how much power parents, especially the mother of a son, has over their child. They can literally dictate their entire lives for good or for bad.

Unfortunately I’m 26 and still trying to escape I feel like I’m going to die stuck here honestly.

My mother did that with my youngest brother. He turned out to be a real piece of work. Me and my other brother (he's the middle) both left home early. She's a nightmare.

My mom was the same. It backfired. I left when I hit 18. I joined the military. I didnt developed any practical skills, so the military was extremely hard because it was so under developed and my mom did it on purpose. My mom and I were extremely close when I was a baby to a kid. I laughed a lot and always want my mom to hold me, but I wanted to grow up and she didnt. I fought her every single time and literally begged her for me to do something beside nothing. I guess I am a very conscientious person. My mom would yelled at me for doing my laundry and the dishes. I mowed the grass in our backyard and said said I did a terrible job. Mom said My sister did a much better job. I tried to process some paperwork and she said my sister should do it because she just does better job. She cant trust me. When I actually worked, I was one of the best workers in the military and my civilian life. I was super surprised because my mom told me I did a terrible job and I believed it. I also did terribly at school before I left and I got a math degree with honors and a social work degree. My mom literally made it up that I did a terrible job to destory my selfesteem and developed zero confident, so I can stay a dependent child. My mom resented that I wanted to grow up. She made all my family hated me since I fought with her to just letting me do something. My mom was so resentful; she literally stop feeding me for years. I also always hungry and I went to doctor in the military and they treated me for an extremely painful disease which I had since middle school. I told my mom about it since middle school and she said I was making it up. I converted to Christianity because I had no one and the bible says to honor my parents and to forgive. I amend our relationship with my mom and I even told her I love her. She said she is proud of me. My other sister not the one my mom said did a better job than me took my spot because she is 45+ and still living with my mom and dad. After This sister divorced her husband, she hated my mom too for doing the same thing to her as she did to me. This sister had a mental breakdown after her divorce and went homeless. This sister cant take care of herself. Everybody wins at the end. I'm independent, my mom has a kid to take care of, and my sister doesn't need to live on the streets.

My brother suffered the Oedipal mother, and before she died she made him her. Yup, you heard that right. So now, he IS her.

This kinds of psychology should be learned in school. This way kids are more likely to find out if their situation is toxic and save themselves. Tyrannical fathers, oedipal mothers, narcissistic parent, borderline parent. We should teach kids about all of these.

believe me that is a real issue with mother, mother could crush their sons💔

My mom did that for a while until I caught her. The solution is simple and delightful - cut all communication and run.

Thanks for the guide

Very true! 🙏 AMEN!

Looking forward to the video on the "Oedipal Father".., The man who builds resentment, fractures the family, controls...

Hi Jordan, What do you think about the book Iron John for younger men in order to help them to understand the concept of stealing the golden key from under the protective mothers pillow. I thought it was a valid, metaphorically symbolic book for young men that is written into folk lore story which has been around for a millenia.

At 21 I started to bloom. At 24 my mother tried to tighten the noose only for me to yet outta there real quick. Glad I realized my dad wasn't the only one messed up sometimes. She's got all my brothers wrapped around her finger

Knock Knock. Hi..... May I come innnnnnnnn?

It's important to expand on some of Peterson's points here. While I can't deny that he's stated many times that hypermasculinity is an issue (in the sense he means it here), there's one way this defiant response to the oedipal mother isn't hypermasculine at all. Since he cited Jung here, to make my point I'll reference the Jungian text "King Warrior Magician Lover". The authors discuss two different depreciated forms of these four male archetypes; one depreciated form of the King archetype is the "high-chair tyrant". The high-chair tyrant exhibits the same hypermasculine defiance that Peterson mentions when the former doesn't get his way. The crucial thing here is that the devouring oedipal mother is only too happy to accommodate the objective(s) of having such a tantrum. Most times, deceptively, defiance against the oedipal mother is exactly what she's after.

I’m wondering if me being MTF transgender has anything to do with this situation. I had an abusive immature narcissistic stepfather who would call me things like “sissy girl” and “gay boy” etc. and my mom who would do exactly this in this video. Because everyone just affirms being trans around me or says nothing, I’m here incessantly studying the archetypes trying to make sense of it because I have a very strong masculine side that doesn’t let me have peace as I transition. I think my development may have been wounded and underdeveloped.

25 year marriage to one of these monsters. As we were parting he uttered 'I'm just a little boy in a man's body. I HATE MY FUCKING MOTHER!!!' Sadly it was 25 years too late and I was too exhausted to take any more or start from scratch. My son committed suicide, one of his biggest fears being 'I don't want to grow up to be a dickhead like my Dad.'. Daughter took ex-husband's word and path, borrowed his narc script and vehemently began trying to annihilate me using his tactics to a tee. We've not spoken for nearly 9 years. Very sad outcome after 25 years of good mothering while shackled to a non-starter. Can't believe I blamed myself for 2 decades. Nightmare.

my mother's a widow and spends like mad. As the oldest son, It's difficult. I am being drained, I know we are to honor our parents and I can't just let her go too. My father took his own life and she's destroyed.

At 18 I started to rebel, I was drunk six nights a week. At 21 when I could enter clubs I was drunk seven nights a week. My mother ruined relationships between myself and any girl I dared take home to meet the family. When I got married she became extremely abusive to my wife until I laid down the law that the first part of my life was with my parents but my future lay with my wife. That stopped the open hostility but covert action went on regardless. Finally I walked away from the family relationship. I have never grieved my mother's death, I don't think I ever will simply because of what I see as her abuse of me and my sister who received physical as well as mental abuse. Where was my father through all this? He was working, he worked 6 days and 3 nights a week to hide from the reality he faced at home.

i become 25 and stuck they did me dirty 😅💔

Would the mother from the movie ‘Anatomy of a fall’ be a good example of Oedipal mother?

Exactly what my ex did to my kids.

I’m allowing my son to choose who he wants to live with since we are divorced . I want him to have independence and value his wants. He is in high school and I don’t want to smother him . I want him to flourish and grow into a great young man

how do i fix this shit that was done to me?

I don't even know what my father looks like. I've never seen a photo. I grew up blaming her constant unhappiness on my existence. I used to wish I didn't exist just so I never had to hear her say how she "wished she could go to sleep and never wake up again." So at 16 I got arrested for armed robbery and I actually felt better incarcerated than I did with her. Incarceration had structure I could understand. As a grown man I found out my mother's family knew her problems and did nothing about it. Talking to two of my 3 uncles (my mother has 3 brothers but only 1 will talk to her) I found out that all the things I thought were insane in my youth, were true and they knew about it. Christianity is what lead me to forgiving her, she doesn't make it easy though. Now she has dementia/Alzheimer's and her nature to lie and accuse everyone else of everything seems to have carried over with it. Always accusing everyone of lying, stealing or being the source of all her woes. It's sad. I had always hoped she'd change, or at least those traits would diminish. But she always seemed to take pride in never conceding to others. It's not like she was all bad, there were good times as well. But my mother never understood that there are things you can say or do that can't be taken back and won't be forgotten. Apologies don't mean much when you apologize and then just repeat the process, again and again.

this is exactly what Jesse Lee Peterson talks about but not in such and elegant eloquent way 😅

There is an epidemic of this behavior

My stepfather, my first husband, and my second husband were enmeshed by their mothers...disgusting mothers.

Grandpa is not hearing any of this kind of crap, unless you prove you’re better. You think I’m just going to wait around, wondering what will happen?

There’s not a win in chronic dysfunctional or highly narcissistic families or relationships. This route isn’t good or healthy, the route of alienation/estrangement isn’t good or healthy. So essentially the only one who is content is the one who is viewed as having more power in the dynamic.

Why isn't this classed as domestic violence?

without necessity the videos, makes the experience less fun. Just focus and get "happy"

Ridiculous. Stinks of Che. 😂😂😂

Odd that he doesn't talk about escaping from tyrannical and authoritarian father figures. Because he is one.

Repent and trust in Christ. Don’t psychologize it, get on your knees and say sorry to the King. You may be pleasantly surprised.

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