Confidence is not “they will like me.” Confidence is “I’ll be fine whether they will like me or not.”

normal people: how to become confident Joey: *how to stop being unconfident* 😂

I literally embraced the idea of "Whatever happens I will be fine anyways, might be a little uncomfortable in some situations but in the end its not like it matters" and it really is a blessing once you get use of it

I love the way you shot this Perfectly showed the idea

This man is building up an entire generation's self esteem single handedly

I cracked up when he groomed his hair, it's the best shot

Questions from video you can write down: 1. What kind a person do I want to be in this world? 2. How can I live my life in a way I would be proud of? 3. What kind of habits does my ideal self have? 4. ... and if I was my ideal self - how would I interact with the people around me? 5. How would I spend my time when nobody is around? 6. Does my ideal self make mistakes sometimes? 7. If so - how does my ideal self respond to them? 8. Would I learn from them and encourage myself to do better? And I think there are some questions you need to answer to in order to compare: 1. What kind of person am I now? 2. How am I actually living my life at the present moment? 3. What kinds of habits do I have now? 4. How do I interact with people around me? 5. How do I spent my time when nobody is around? 6. Do I make mistakes sometimes? 7. If so - how do I respond to them? 8. Do I learn from them and encourage myself to do better? Enjoy

Whenever you're faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable or rejection that strikes deep to the core, just remember this powerful one word question: *So?* "They won't like me" *So?* "She said no to me" *So?* "What if I fail?" *So?* "What if I make a mistake?" *So?* Really think about it...how does worrying help in anyway? This one word offers liberation and awareness of just how much we really stretch things to an unnecessary degree. *So?* doesn't mean that you don't care, it means you don't stress over it bc you don't need to. In the absence of our judgement, everything is just fine. Remember, *worrying doesn't mean you care, it means you fear.* So smile! Now you're feeling the sleeping confidence within you begin to awaken as you remove the need to worry over. Be patient with yourself ❤

Was expecting some "thanks I'm cured" type ideas, but this is actually very actionable

Confidence doesn't come from being the best at everything. It comes from being ok with your short comings, and being ok with failure. You aren't confident when you ask someone out because you know they'll say yes, you become confident when you ask someone out if you're ok with them saying no.

You should write a book called “better ideas” with all the lessons you have put in your videos. It would definitely be a best seller.

Confidence is all about character building. Doing something outside your comfort zone, trying new things, putting yourself out there and doing something physically demanding have been my go to confidence building exercise. Particularly martial arts, which is the best form of character building in my opinion.

Joey's production quality does NOT disappoint!

Literally been wondering where my confidence has gone the last few weeks and here is this man again reading my mind

I love the duality of the narrative scenario. The lighting says it all.

Leaving the sponsors at the end of the video!!! Thank you so much 🙌🏼

*"You will always have a good excuse to start later, just don't listen to yourself."*

Plot twist: he really has a twin-brother and that’s why he is able to produce so many videos and be more efficient than an average person.

bro you genuinely are saving my mental life, ive been so hard on myself the past few years (distracting myself from responsibility via drugs, being negative all the time etc) i just wanna take the time to say THANK YOU. you are such a genuine person and i really wish there were more people like you, in a world full of hate you give me hope in humanity. you truly care for others, and for that i am thankful. may the Lord bless you 🙏

what a great video. it is so true that sometimes when people are around, i will pretend to be more attentive, talkative and confident. but at the bottom of my heart i know it is fake . it actually happened just today when i was visiting one of my friend and he introduced his colleagues to me. but i try my best to be the same me with people around or just me alone. I try to let people see the real me instead of a fake one. if I think real me is not good enough,I try to improve myself.

Things that kill confidence: - Social inhibition - Negative thinking - Overthinking and doubting past actions - Caring too much about what other people think - Focusing on your insecurities instead of strengths

Authentic confidence is not something that you "step up" to. It's something that you relax into. It's about being genuinely comfortable in your own skin and with all that you lack. 💫

I don't know why but almost every time I watch your videos I tear up a bit and can't help but be excited to change myself and the future. Thank you for showing me light

Thanks Joey. I needed this. I've had some pretty good life habits for about two years now, and since early september, I moved in with some old friends for a month, and now those habits are all gone : my sleep schedule is fucked, I haven't worked out in ages, and I went back to smoking weed regularly after years of quitting. And I'm not blaming anybody but myself, because I made all those choices. And now I feel like human garbage. Your video really hit home and inspired me to turn things around. Thanks again for helping us all 👌

Confidence comes from understanding one’s own worth, and that takes a long time to learn. But once you find it, you become a different man. Another great video man, keep it up.

Feeling of self confidence: "It´s to be unapologetically YOU in the presence of others or while you are alone. It just doesn´t really matter. You are YOU no matter the circumstances."

i genuinely think that your confident self is always there, always in reach. you don’t have to build self-confidence, because you already have it since birth, it’s just being hidden under many subconscious beliefs or fears that you have developed over time. so all you have to do is get past these limitations and there it will be! confidence will be all yours!

My dude, this one was so...fun! Production quality equal with the message. That POV balcony shot and the subconscious first reveal was perfect! Bravo, my bro

I studied my behavior for years, and I always got to the same conclusion : I can be so confident to people around me, the thing is that once my brain caughts me acting confident a terrible sense of fakeness voids my thoughts and leaves me cold and scared untill I start acting weird and chuckly 😐😐😐 self destruction is a thing.

*”However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.” - Stephen Hawking*

Absolute genius. The way you broke down our mirrored subconscious & our connection to everyone that echos onto ourselves was immeasurable.

0:45 this was hilarious! 😭😭 the look of pain in your eyes had me dying

Literally was just thinking about this topic. Then your video appeared writing: 1 minute ago. Really feels unreal, not going to lie.

Confidence is known as SELF EFFICACY in sports psychology. Self efficacy = The belief that one has the necessary skills or abilities need to perform a task or execute a task.

I actually went into youtube thinking about a video on confidence and this showed up in my recommended. Perfect timing as always. Keep up the amazing quality, im loving your work!

I've been saying to myself recently a lot "unapologetic". Meaning, your social interactions are not mistakes and you do not need to be ashamed of them unless you honestly realize you messed up and hurt someone else. Otherwise, you are who you are and you have every right to exude self confidence and character as the ideal confident guy. You don't need to hide your positive self esteem so to speak, which is something I had never realized I struggled with until recently.

The subconscious character lurking in the shadows while keeping notes was genius :) Your acting is getting good!

Confidence is one of the most attractive traits a person can have.

"And this what confidence feels like, is to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU". This is very deep and touched me so much.

You nailed it when you said we are a fly on the wall of our own lives. I put way too much pressure on myself. Once I was able to disconnect from myself and my ego, my confidence shot through the roof.

4:08 Please give Joey some admiration for these editing skills, it's so good!

Once you really _know_ that you behave blamelessly, your outer composure will reflect that. The Buddha named "confidence before assemblies of people" as a major benefit of moral behaviour

This technique is really the only one that has helped me grow in self-confidence, and I come back to it whenever I’m feeling low again. Consciously living out your own values is a game changer guys. Love this channel!

You are always so to the point yet deep. Love it!

The quality you put into you're videos is insane, glad I found you a while back! 🔥

Everytime I m in the trouble this channel immediately comes up with a solution, don't who why this is so synchronised.

I feel like you deserve a lot more exposure. The production quality and quality of the actual material and ideas presented in these videos is getting insane. Like I feel like the only reason your channel hasn't exploded is because your videos are actually realistic, helpful, and actionable in contrast to more "10 Steps" clickbait. Good luck dude!

There’s a new cinematic quality to your videos and it’s very calming. I appreciate that. Thank you!

You have it. You have what you need to achieve all of your goals. It's time to stop looking for what you don't have, and put your full attention on what you do have. It's time to bring out the best version of yourself, so that everyone around you can grow too.⁣ All the best fam

I feel like this is one of the most valuable videos you’ve made, it’s not just for confidence, it’s helping you understand yourself more and hoping you find peace within yourself excepting the good and bad parts about yourself that everyone has and can’t get rid of

This is the best video on confidence i have ever watched. What you’re doing is not in line with what you want, so confidence drops. That’s what i got. Very real. Thank you

Bro, everything about this video is gold. The storytelling, the angles, the personification of the sub conscious - GOLD! Love this man!

I love this guy , everytime I see his videos I gain a whole new perspective to things. Wow !

Love the great perspective and actionable advice! Another fantastic video!

I just found your channel and even if I was subconsciously aware of the things you talk about. Having them spelled out in a clear way as you do really hits different. Keep doing you man.

Man this video is fantastic Joey! Not only what you say, but the way you have illustrated it, I loved the 'subconscious you' being surprised when you waved at him! The level of detail, the camera shots, the creativity as well as the powerful message are excellent. I realise you've been doing this a long time, but I wish I could make little videos as good as these.

Thanks Joey. I had a really bad struggle with this issue. I ruined my whole weekend because of it. Your video was just what I needed. Now I understand how to sort things out and regain my confidence. You have a big point there, Confidence is more like how to be the ideal self, not what seems ideal.

The edits made me laugh but I liked them In the same breath. Your insights aNo the way you express things I really resonated with me.

This man is spitting straight facts. I’m 23 years old now, of course I still have much to learn in life but I gotta say, I feel like I went from the age of like 15 to 60 within just the last year. I feel like I’ve matured and have come to understand life and the key to happiness so much more when before I was totally lost and clueless. Still have plenty of things to work on myself and a lot more to learn like I said, but like he said, and as cliche as it sounds, you have to truly be yourself and accept who you are. Whenever you force shit, it never works out and people see right through your bullshit as well as you being upset with yourself that you’re being this fake person forcing yourself to always talk cuz silence makes you uncomfortable, or trying to make a joke everytime you open your mouth because you feel like you have to entertain people. That’s how I used to be for so long, and just recently I finally said fuck all that and naturally I began to improve my social life so much more and I would be able to actually make funny jokes every now and then naturally than make all these forced cringey jokes. Idk if anyone relates and I’m kinda jumping all over the place but there’s just too much to cover how this broad understanding of life works. I’ve just been so much happier than I’ve ever been and finally feel at peace with myself, whereas for years I was just beyond miserable and just such a depressed negative person that nobody wanted to be around. I would always question and Google, why am I treated differently than others, why am I picked on in every group of people I hang with, why does nobody respect me, and so on and so forth. The way I carried myself and my body language screamed how insecure and unconfident I was, and I still am a little, but I’ve learned to just stand up for myself more, represent myself in a much more respectable way, and just appear more secure and confident around others and it def showed results.

These videos are great visually. The quality of your filmmaking really helps get the message across. Kudos man!

What actually helped me through my cognitive therapy, is to ask, what do I actually value ? What is success to me ? What is good ? and what is bad ? Am I good or bad ? Or if there are any reasons to put labels on myself, just like on the others ? Why do I put labels ? Does it really make me feel worthy ? And you know what, I realised, that success to me, is to understand myself and to feel myself. Intellect will solve everything else. Great video, as always.

I think it's also important to consider that confidence comes from experience, especially experience from overcoming struggles. People who have performed a job for a few years would usually have gone through a few hard projects and survived, and are now more confident in dealing with similar situations. So don't be afraid to struggle, and focus on overcoming them. The experience you gain will add to your confidence

How in the world did you start your KZfaq channel off so confidently?? I was watching your really early videos and other than the difference in video quality (b-roll or lack there of, worse gear, etc) they were still incredible!! You didn't seem nervous on camera at all and you still had humor threaded throughout the videos.

Loved your video!! The waiting was worth it. Your ideas were on point, kind of like the epiphany of personal development. Also very funny and great quality.

Great as always Joey, love the storytelling with your b-roll.

Being 'confident' to others is only valuable if you are confident in yourself.

It’s so weird and also makes sense getting know ourselves. I didn’t know keeping the promises to yourself matters this much. As much as the fun in the editing, very inspiring video thank you!

All of your videos are literally hitting the right spot in the right way. Thank you so much i cant express how grateful I am.

I‘m to be quite honest really confident in myself and very extroverted, that‘s the way I‘ve just always been and i can assure everyone that being confident always helped me more than it hurt me. Two of my best friends are actually the complete opposite, pretty introverted people, so i know you can‘t change that so easily. One thing that takes any fear out of me when I‘m around people is that to them I may be just a tiny spec in a huge pile of social relations, just as they are to me. Always analyze the people sitting in front of you and make a list in your head which includes things you can and things you can‘t say. And if the things you can say actually are the same as the things you want to say, you can stop behaving adapted to their personality and just start being yourself. I know all of this sounds weird and that‘s just the way i act in such situations, but maybe this was helpful to some xD

"to be unapologetically you" really hit the nail on the head for me

This video is one of your best Joey. Thanks for the nostalgic jazz background music as well. ....I really do have some critical thinking to do about myself

Love the perspective you have to things, I always get such lightbulb moments from your videos!!

the scene when you spotted your own subconscious and just said ' wassup ' . i really felt that .

I've realized that the main antagonist within myself, that holds me back, is in fact, low confidence. It really do be holding me back from racing after those things I really want to do, learn and achieve. And in the process it just puts me at a stand-still in which I just go about like a clock, ever really reaching the goals and the growth I want. It's tough.

It seems so simple when it's spoken in a such and elegant way (like in this video) but I think these are some actually legit and deep insights. As someone who's been struggling for years with profound insecurity these ideas really clicked for me. Thank you!

Hey man, I just want to say Thank You. I love your videos and some of them have really helped me change my life. This one I really took to heart, as a guy who has spent a lot of time alone I have undoubtedly caused a disconnect from my subconscious and the person that i strive to be. I was at a family reunion lately and I couldn't really talk to anyone, I felt ashamed and disconnected. Every sentence I wanted to speak was tainted by my negative thoughts. Today I'm starting a new relationship with my subconscious and its going to be better than ever.

This actually makes a lot of sense. If self-confidence is by definition thinking positively about yourself, you have to do things that make you think good about yourself. Just like with other people. There's no "because I myself am the same entity, I can be negligent about what I see about myself". No, just like with other people, you have to build a good concept of yourself to yourself.

WHY is this video SO good?? Like, wow! Really great quality speech and precise, accurate information. This man is helping loads of people with his incredibly easy to understand and transparent explanations towards healthier lifestyles and behaviors. Thank you so much Joey! Keep going, you can't imagine how positive and great is the impact you provoke on our journeys to getting better. Sending you the best of wishes and most sincere of thanks! We really appreciate your work💗

Ok I just started binge watching your videos and besides them being extremely educational and inspiring, they are also comedic gold. The two together is like a breath of fresh air. Bravo 👏🏻 👌🏻

One of the best videos I have seen on KZfaq for a long time! Thank you for your work, really good stuff! 👍

This was a big topic where I've put in last of research in this past week. You have optimal timing bro, thanks a lot 🤙🏼

I think imagining myself in a hoodie judging my every move will help a lot thank you 😂👍 but in all seriousness I'll legitimately try to match my values with my behaviors, never considered how much it has to do with self confidence. Great video!

bro i think youre saving my life with these vids. incredible at carrying an explanation and extremely motivational. Thank you

Killin it. This one was so well put together and impactful. Your personification of the judgy self-conscious was great!

Omg, I can only dream of making a video this good. Great job, confidence really does come from being authentic, this is something not a lot of others mention. I still believe a big part of it comes from being ok with your short comings, but other than that loved the video 💙

I was almost crying laughing when u waved at ur subconcious 😂. But on a serious note. I dont know if u realize it. But you actually made that whole spiritual thing about “finding urself” understandable and measureable. While a lot of spiritual/motivational speakers focus on certain aspects of the psychology (which doesnt solve the root cause), you directly addressed the root cause by going to the fundamentals. And u also gave a fool proof understandable guide. U actually said what we all know deep inside. But with a step by step plan! Do u even realize how valuable this info is? It seems like u are figuring out psychology and life more and more day by day and Im here for it. I will definitely try ur method. Its not easy but I am sure it will help with this process called life.

I always love these videos and how well they’re put together. Thank you so much for these. They’re super impactful 🙏

The cinematography in your videos is super great man. Great work!

Okay dude so, this is the first (and probably last) video I ever comment on youtube. Thanks for creating this masterpiece, perfectly balancing (very) humouristic elements and applicable knowledge bombs. I was enlightened on how to live my life. Keep helping people. Thanks again !!!!!!!

Confidence is a function of having something to offer the world.

You’re channel is always pulling me out of a dark place. I salute you.

Production quality, the way information is picked and organized, the realism, the humor This is legit bro keep doing that

I love that the bleep at 3:54 served absolutely no purpose Great insight tho, thank u for the vid nonetheless

Seeing this mans comb his BALD HEAD has changed my life forever.

You're really very underrated. This video is exactly what I needed. Thankyou.

I love your videos man. You hit these points right on the head with each video and help not only me, but so many other people. Thank you.

Confidence is the result of a lack of shame. As long as you are ashamed of something about yourself you will never be truly confident.

Hey man, I think your subconscious robbed my house last week! 😂

That smooth background music doesn't stop me to watch his videos, it feels kind of addictive. What a algorithm strat he uses. Love this guy!

Great video! You keep getting better with your production, script and performance ! Awesome to see as well as thank you for the value.