How to STOP Others From Hurting You

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Is there a way to stop feeling hurt by those around us? Is there even a way to stop others from hurting us to begin with? How can we transform old hurt into peace?
There is a way out of this kind of mental and emotional pain. We know that people who are hurting often hurt others. But that cycle of hurt can be broken. Every act of cruelty is an opportunity to break that cycle of hurt and create a new, ever-expanding ripple effect of love and compassion. This video shows just how to do it.
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@kiddywriter 2 жыл бұрын

By not calling them out on their actions you become an enabler. If one cannot recognize their own behavior, then you will continually be their punching bag. I have had to let people go who I know will never see their actions and the impact those actions have on another.

@SFGiantsfan_in_NC Жыл бұрын

You should read the Four Agreements

@sheliajackson8667 Жыл бұрын

You will never change the other person's behavior. The change comes from you.

@Something-tz2vw Жыл бұрын

Water does not hurt a stone.

@Brownmahfun Жыл бұрын

So true, THIS IS ALL BULLSHITE.

@benf1111 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this. Staying present and out of our fantasies allows me to see when I am willfully enabling...it's a desire to live in fantasy and not the truth on the ground.

@KingaGorski Жыл бұрын

Vietnamese Monk Thai Nhat Han shared a story about anger. A monk was meditating in a canoe with his eyes closed-floating, feeling peaceful and content. Out of nowhere, the monk felt a jolt of impact to the side of his boat. He immediately felt a surge of anger flood inside himself, thinking: "How dare someone disturb me during my meditation?" The monk opened his eyes and spun around to see who could be so disrespectful and careless. To his surprise, the perpetrator turned out to be just an empty boat that had gotten loose from its tether and bumped into his canoe. Immediately, the monk was calm again. How could he be upset at such a random, momentary circumstance that was beyond his control? That was the moment the monk realized that anger wasn't outside of him- It was inside of him. 🕊

@elizabethfinneman5220 Жыл бұрын

Some people hurt others to make them feel in control over the person.

@naomiwilson3040 2 жыл бұрын

Hurt people hurt people. I absolutely love the concept of giving them love rather than accepting the hurt internally. You are an inspiration Todd. Keep up your phenomenal videos. I love you ❤

@jackiefindlay1264 2 жыл бұрын

"To go from I am hurt to this person is hurting" I had the unexpected opportunity to put this into practice the other day and the healing effect was immediate! Insights shared here are better than winning the lottery! Many, many thanks. 🙏

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. That is so good to hear. Peace and love 🙏

@debbietodd8547 2 жыл бұрын

I think my biggest hurdle is finding words when I am being 'attacked'. I am now at the place where I can see the issue lies with the attacker and centre myself but the words don't come......not until hours later. My body reaction is always immediate and visceral when I am needlessly being attacked because it is so unexpected.

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Debbie, that is totally understandable and normal. Sometimes stepping away to gather your thoughts and composure is essential. That is exactly what being mindful of ourselves and our needs is all about :)

@ChangeYourLife1122 2 жыл бұрын

People who project their fears into others are doing it unconsciously, they don't have enough conscious awareness to dissolve their unconsciousness, bless this people, we should not make them into enemies, because they are souls like us who forgot who they were, and thank you for the video🙏😊🤗❤️

@amberroney-staniec-hb7vd Жыл бұрын

"There are no others."-Ramana Maharshi

@minoukhazaeli2921 2 жыл бұрын

Don’t let people pull you into their storm. Pull them into your peace.” lets try it is deep stuff

@user-tk2wl6id3r Жыл бұрын

I agree with Alex cole. I have a relative who is always making plans with me and backing out the day before or day of. This is hard to have love and compassion for this person who completely disrespects me and most of all my heart ❤️

@harrietsand9715 2 жыл бұрын

I think in order for one to get to the place you’re describing, one must first genuinely get to the place of forgiveness. We can tell ourselves over and over that we forgive, but on a deep level do we really forgive? Mentally it’s so easy to forgive but emotionally, I’m not so sure. Some wounds leave deep scars that take time to heal, this should be understood in order to avoid a superficial forgiveness. I do agree wholeheartedly that one’s aim should be understanding and forgiveness to break this cycle of victim and perpetrator. This cycle adds greatly to the suffering in this world, only compassion and empathy can break the cycle.

@edwardramirez8589 2 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%! Forgiving mentally is so easy, but emotionally, that’s where the real work is!

@marypaulosky2214 2 жыл бұрын

So well put!

@natcat1984 2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

That is 100% true. But, forgiveness is like a muscle that we can strengthen and nurture. The more we practice it, the more we do loving-kindness meditation, and the easier it gets.

@davidlee1603 2 жыл бұрын

YES! Correct. Words can hurt. And silence is being a bully. Amen 🙏

@D_Isness Жыл бұрын

I think in order for one to get to the place that you're describing, one must first genuinely and deeply let go of their injured ego before an attempt at forgiveness is even possible through this understanding of human nature. Something which, for me at least, has proven to be very difficult in the past. HOWEVER, your advice here is so sound and precious. I'm very grateful that I came upon it this morning and I most definitely plan to save and watch this video again as soon as I feel insulted or offended by what I perceive as someone else's negative impact on me through their words and/or inconsiderate actions, most likely later today but that's a whole other story. Lol. Thank you immensely for these pearls of wisdom, Todd. Namaste, dear soul.

@jps8678 2 жыл бұрын

I used to be so offended when someone said you have gray hair or you have big stomach or you just are too quiet or something else. But not anymore because it has happened so many times and like you said to have empathy like love towards the other person. Being mindfull. Thank you.

@jomassey4207 2 жыл бұрын

There are people who hurt others to gain something....my sister causes chaos and I've had to let her go. I was shocked to know that she can't say sorry. She's aware alright. I do not desire to be hurt again and again. You must have heard of covert narcissists. When I showed her, her faults, she had a rage tantrum for 20 mins at our Dad. As an empath and person with pudendal nerve pain , I need to be careful who I let into my heart. I can try to forget her but I don't want to ever be hurt, the way she has hurt others, not just me. These people have a mental illness of a demonic kind....materialistic, sycophantic and are bullies. Surely, you realize this....its a modern day disease, to get ahead and make more money, while stepping on others. It's time these people were told their behavior is unacceptable and to call them out on it. Love, compassion and forgiveness isn't always the answer. I hurt everyday, but have never put my suffering on anyone else. My sister doesn't seem to have any empathy or even awareness of other people. She's 50 and her behaviour has become worse over the years. She pees in the bed, and blames the blanket. I have only shown love and acceptance towards her until I saw her real self. It has been like a death to me....

@marypaulosky2214 2 жыл бұрын

I can relate 100 percent.

@jomassey4207 2 жыл бұрын

@@marypaulosky2214 I'm sorry you have had to encounter these sub humans. If we continued to show our love and compassion, they'd continually step on us and abuse our good nature. Some people are beyond reach and I say this with experience, not malice.

@marypaulosky2214 2 жыл бұрын

What I tell myself now is that their actions and words have nothing to do with me. Setting boundaries has saved my life.

@jomassey4207 2 жыл бұрын

@@marypaulosky2214 I'm still writing quotes and notes to strengthen my ability to deal with her when it happens.....as she's my sister, there will be occasions when we will be in the same room. I'm also protecting my aging parents from her rage and gaslighting. It's weird how I let her carry on for so long, but inside I knew she is self serving and unable to love. I just couldn't let her carry on without standing up to her, as this time she got into my private affairs. I guess I snapped. Somewhere I just said enough is enough!!! And I'm relieved in a way, that it's out in the ether......she will never be satisfied with her life, even though she has so much to be grateful for. Funny thing gratefulness.....I suffer in pain everyday for 30 yrs now, but am so darn grateful of the birds in my garden, the flowers that bloom...kind words from strangers..... And my sister doesn't even know what it is..... Nite.....Mary.

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes setting healthy boundaries is the kindest thing we can do for ourselves and others. We can't control everyone, we can only maintain our inner peace and sometimes that means from a safe distance.

@meghatiwari9844 2 жыл бұрын

This is powerful!! This wasn't something we hearing first time but the way your words are coming out of you has great strength; making great impact.

@MaureenFell Жыл бұрын

Thanks Todd ❤ I too believe that forgiveness starts my loving our fears to the point that through them we can see where healing is needed. Our suffering “produce by others” is a reflection of their suffering. If we can start loving the inner child of us that got hurt years ago and snuggle it in our own love, that inner child can see the suffering in others. That which we describe as an “attack to us” is their inner child suffering too, their un heal wounds, but this time our reaction is compassion and deep understanding of their pain so we just send love vibrations their way. Thanks for your movie. Amazing photography, love your love, thanks for existing and sharing it with us ❤

@candicepantin 2 жыл бұрын

I love the cadence of the message, the tone of the words, and the simple nature of the delivery that communicates a complex human behavior. Thank you for sharing Todd 🌞

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

You are too kind. Thank you so much 🙏

@serenlove3270 2 жыл бұрын

I think you are an earth angel. 🌎 🙏

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

🙏

@benf1111 Жыл бұрын

I gaslit myself over the actions of another. Its hurting more now months latee as I'm allowing myself to finally see the truth of their actions.

@karmenrichardson7289 2 жыл бұрын

There are so many way’s how people are hurt. And I think a lot need a different approaches. I agree that it is better to find peace in your self, and forgiveness also. But on top of that we live in a dualistic world. We need to get touch also. So i suggest to get out of the victim part, sometimes you need to show people you are not to be messing around with. Gives a lot of peace by the way, you do this with compassion also.

@tiffanymartelli Жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear that today….in a tiny town full of egomaniacal idiots. I’m going to put it into practice immediately.

@GM-kp7hf Жыл бұрын

These words are so healing. Came into my life at just the right time. Thank you so much for that 🙏🏻

@maryseokley6061 Жыл бұрын

LOVE wins!...….serenity! realign UR perception w/ NOW!

@gemcolors9179 2 жыл бұрын

My ego instantly reacted inwardly,and I felt rejected and hurt yesterday.But what you've taught here,when I applied it this morning to what was said,Healed that hurt.Everything is here for ours and others Greater Good.Thank You❤ !

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

That is so great to hear 🙏

@Adoseofelly Жыл бұрын

Perfect timing. Every time I am facing a lesson I receive guidance. Today it is your wonderful loving guidance. 🙏 Thank you! 💜🌻

@elizabethmcmeens1436 10 ай бұрын

It’s difficult as a caregiver when there is so little support from a huge family. Everyone says how concerned they are but there is no action behind those words. The emotional and physical impact of the day to day care without that positive support can be overwhelming. I am working so hard at trying to understand from the perspective of: through the eyes of compassion and love but it wanes…it’s a tough lesson for me. I face it daily. I work on it daily. I am grateful to you for sharing these words of great wisdom and healing. Blessings to all. 🪶

@DheerajSharma-ro5ot 2 жыл бұрын

Very Important massage Sir , Thanx .

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, my good Sir 🙏

@ShalomUSA Жыл бұрын

And sometimes you have to love them from a distance, because not everyone will look into the mirror to see themselves and their behavior.

@mritzs5142 2 жыл бұрын

.... When we are hurting from other people’s actions we are “very narrow minded “ oh brilliant truth , that statement felt like a jolt! I am being rejected at a place I occasionally work at its so clique like often it’s like I am invisible among others ..I think the term is bullying by exclusion these are not people I would associate with anyway but non the less I have felt “insulted” ,someone said, Consider it a compliment, ha ha that is my ego trying to overcome it but I would rather conquer my feeling of hurt with the universal love you speak of Thank you Todd

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

That's so great to hear. 🙏

@Virvepaulina Жыл бұрын

THIS IS GENIUS! I mean, this is what I am going towards but the space left between cause and effect... I really like that!!

@alberthutchinson7569 2 жыл бұрын

Sunday was a really difficult Mother’s Day because of some hurtful things done in the relationship. Thank you so much for this beautiful message. It really put the whole situation into perspective.

@yogagirl33 2 жыл бұрын

I had the same experience on Mother’s Day. I had to do a week of guided visualizations to even be able to go see her.

@DG-lz4jx 2 жыл бұрын

@@yogagirl33 it's not easy to be near those who objectify others, especially those who hold a certain power/position, like a mother. if she's not willing to release her children to their own after they reach adulthood, and instead seeks to control for her own selfish desires it's painful. it's the way society is also, we are taught in school and everywhere to objectify, so, many objectify their children and many objectify all others around them. If you explain what the person objectifying is actually doing, and they still cannot see, it's best to stay away if at all possible. My mother objectified and I dreaded her, but, it's common, the world/society is run on objectification of other.

@yogagirl33 2 жыл бұрын

@@DG-lz4jx thank you. Yes, I’m trying to have space from her again now that the day is over. That’s nice of you to reply. God bless.

@sheliajackson8667 Жыл бұрын

There is only one Mother and Father that brought you into this world. Parents make mistakes; we all do. And if we knew better, we would do better.

@mike8669 Жыл бұрын

Thanks a million Todd for your wonderful guidance to be more loving and at peace with ourselves and others

@ChristinaKM 19 күн бұрын

People that have commented here don’t understand what Todd is saying. You’re not enabling people, if it gets that bad then you draw boundary and walk away from that person. People always end up taking themselves out. Eventually, they will realize everything they have done.

@sandramcgleish2645 2 жыл бұрын

I needed this video too! Thank you Todd! You would make a fantastic therapist!

@maryseokley6061 2 жыл бұрын

Thank U for UR great explanation.....we are all connected & reflection of each other; so best to just BE

@TheAbundanceVibration Жыл бұрын

Amazing.

@balur104 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much

@katiepougher734 Жыл бұрын

Again i like this concept an try to think on these lines more ..takes time ...wish id done this ot more in my life ..thank u todd..

@Divineinnature 2 жыл бұрын

Yep - the final bit of this video - you showed up for me with your videos - at a perfect time

@loha9489 2 жыл бұрын

Love this set up bro

@440SPN 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Todd i found this just when I was suffering a hurt caused by someone else. Your videos are very helpful and always relevant to my place of discovery. I am grateful. Blessings to you and yours. Love and light. 🙏💕🌟☮✨🐈

@maryseokley6061 2 жыл бұрын

Transcend....key to 💕!

@RobertBrown-mm3un Жыл бұрын

Perfectly perfect ‼☮💜🙇🏼‍♂️

@TeddyBearFarmer Жыл бұрын

Thank You 😁

@minoukhazaeli2921 2 жыл бұрын

To Bring mindfulness To The situation And. Realizing The other person is „you

@KEG242 2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said. Thank you.

@shekinahcrystal1011 2 жыл бұрын

I was meditating on this a couple of days ago and got to the same understanding. Thank you for sharing your light

@wowbitz 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this , perfect timing ❤️🙏🏻❤️

@evanburke5460 11 ай бұрын

Thank you chill dude

@philipchin3589 Жыл бұрын

good master , thank you. just too many poor souls out there on the traffics, too much wantings and competitions, everyone is ever in fear of being under average .

@catherinewilson1079 Жыл бұрын

I was able to do this just last weekend. I thank “God” I am finally aware enough to accomplish this🙏🏾

@TJKhara 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you... your contributions are beautiful

@margaretdonovan1649 Жыл бұрын

Thanks Todd. I would like more on this topic. Some more explanation and longer explanation of the tools we can use.

@newthing7744 2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you about it, awesome thanks for sharing this beautiful video!

@kirstenheynischpsychologyc6650 2 жыл бұрын

This is a beautifully gentle and strong video. Thank you 😊 💓

@tracyr.l.oflaherty2597 2 жыл бұрын

You are a gift. Thank you.

@MargarethHenkel Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this wonderful message!

@aliashnani5727 Жыл бұрын

Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. Freud

@maryseokley6061 2 жыл бұрын

Thank U....for UR great explanation; perhaps there might BE some awakened individuals who will comprehend the entirety of its meaning! Very vital !🎶🦋☘️👁️

@mamanova2657 Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🥰🦋

@ChooseLoveToday316 Жыл бұрын

I'm in a good place right now. I know exactly what you are saying.

@dihydrotestosterone 2 жыл бұрын

I like your style! Straight to the point explanation. I'm subscribed to your channel because I like your calm and peaceful energy! Thanks for your help. 🙋

@albeedoinstuff5509 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@Sheboss333 Жыл бұрын

Powerful and so eloquently said brother! I ❤ this concept you convey, and I WILL practice this, thank you! 💙✌️🤗

@mehdidaneshvari1938 Жыл бұрын

" Drop the key Lee, and get yourself free."... Paul Simon

@lucindawilson5510 Жыл бұрын

thank you

@lucveu Жыл бұрын

Verry true….❤….thank you Todd, to put your views on KZfaq for more people to learn. And we have to never forget: in the past we ourself hurt people too, knowingly or unknowingly, but Kosmos will always make balance. And it’s important to be aware of not only deeds, but also hurting feelings and thoughts. All counts for Kosmos, all is energie. If we try, we will experience that this is the truth. I’m not saying it is easy, it’s asks another mindset: to understand it’s not helping us to defend but it’s helping to understand and let go. And that is hard to grasp in the beginning. But…..To free yourself verry worthy . ( sorry for my english 🫣).

@maryseokley6061 2 жыл бұрын

Love wins....❤️

@jen3800 2 жыл бұрын

i like that you reach out to the wounded. they ( we ) are best equipped to make change. they ( we ) suffered, so we know what it means to fall. who better positioned to help the falling than the fallen ? we struggle together.

@surarnateli6462 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful!!!!!

@alalehmohammadi4054 4 ай бұрын

You are a star! Thank you Todd! ❤

@ToddPerelmuter 4 ай бұрын

You are!

@DogsReignSupreme 10 ай бұрын

Just what I am working on...thank you

@davedfrench859 Жыл бұрын

Not all people are hurting some are just nasty or cruel people

@jacquelineclark2432 Жыл бұрын

💜🙏Thank You

@deniskundrat7161 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, it never worked under attack of narcissist. I still love you - carry on, you are doing great. I agree with taking a moment to expand horizon, becoming mindful of situation, but ultimately, the generator of negative feelings can be found inside only. Just see politicians where all accusations towards them roll off their backs as a water from duck's back. They seem to be unaffected, So, it is possible. Thanks

@kombuchababy6542 9 ай бұрын

Politicians are mostly narcissists and psychopaths. That's why they are not affected by others.

@allisonhead1803 Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏿 So beautiful and true❤

@maryseokley6061 Жыл бұрын

The strongest muscle in the body...is the "tongue".....best to discipline it! Which comes from thought first; i.e choice!

@dipyrejeinder3203 2 жыл бұрын

Human s Actions speak😘😘

@alone15151 2 жыл бұрын

One of your most helpful talks, thanks Todd. Love your stuff, you do a service for the greater good ♡

@kennelson3848 Жыл бұрын

It came from within

@analea7717 Жыл бұрын

❤thank you

@hajji1509 Жыл бұрын

I'm trying. My love, the one I thought was the best and kindest suddenly left me. He changed overnight and became cold. İts been devastating to me and I'm still in shock and disbelief. İts the way he's done it which floored me. I'm trying to see it from this perspective - that he's hurting from something outside of our relationship, something which triggered him to run. İts very hard. I can understand logically but my feelings of sadness and loss are overwhelming.

@loganrun6010 2 жыл бұрын

Good video, but I actually don’t think you should respond with love when someone does something or says something wrong. I think you should respond with your true feelings of how it made you feel. When you respond with love the other person doesn’t learn anything cause you aren’t holding them accountable. I did this for many many many years. I actually was so empathetic in fact that it was impossible for me to get mad at people, I naturally would always see it as “well this person had a hard childhood” or “this person isn’t aware enough….” And what you are a doing is repressing your own emotions and believing that only you know what’s correct and not and the other person has no agency. Certainly we shouldn’t let other peoples poor attitudes be taken into the self- but to not respond can also lead to repression.

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the question. As it needs a long reply, I will answer it either in my newsletter or podcast.

@erinsuzy613 Жыл бұрын

I agree with this. It's complex but I watch a therapist on KZfaq (Patrick Teahan) to work through my issues over a narcissist father who verbally abused us and a passive mother who was loving but enabled his behavior with that very excuse, "he had a bad childhood". It rings in my head she said it so much, while I was crumpled up crying. It's still abuse, it still causes trauma to young people trapped and unable to get away. I moved across the country but I let them see my kids only once a year because he's mean to them too, but I speak up when it happens.

@pusteblume1373 Жыл бұрын

❤ Thank you!

@kirtimehta6836 3 ай бұрын

ॐ Hi, Todd, very very true whatever you explained is very important to implement in our daily Life as soon as possible, for own Peace of Mind. Our Scriptures too say the same . These are Triguna = the Qualities of Prakruti = Mother Nature, that work in each Names and Forms in the World. Because we all are also made of both Prakruti is Matter and Purusha is the Energy. So every bit of this World is made up of combining these two Matter and Energy.

@maryseokley6061 Жыл бұрын

Understand.... standing under! Or transcend! Say:. I do not own this! Or even...."I hear U"

@nadineflow Жыл бұрын

I just love it

@maryberry6067 Жыл бұрын

I would love to get to a place where in the moment that this is happening,I can respond with love ,and not take it personally.

@traebee333 Жыл бұрын

I am an autistic adult who lives alone. For the last 11 years, I have "killed" my misogynistic, ableist, hateful neighbor with kindness. I telepathically send him Love, I wish him wellness, I pick up trash from his lawn and watch over his house when he's gone. Eleven years and he still treats me like complete dog shit, verbally abuses my dog, has parties and talks loudly about me to his guests, blows garbage onto my lawn with his leaf blower, reports me to the city for extremely petty reasons, and even has thrown dead animals across the fence in my yard. I tried to believe he was "hurting" about something, but I have to start thinking that he's just a bigot who hates me because I'm different, and he targets me because I'm a woman living alone with no support. I have empathy for him, but I also have empathy for me...

@prernasharma4 10 ай бұрын

Superb 💯🎯❤️🙏🇮🇪

@constantinak6648 Жыл бұрын

The only people who have hurt me in my life were my ex boyfriends. It was emotional hurt, of course. And, each relationship was more difficult as time went on. No other people have hurt me, only them. My hurts have prevented me from dating involving myself in a relationship.

@ashleighgarry334 2 жыл бұрын

It can be sooo difficult to forgive someone who has walked out on my lovely daughter at the beginning of the Pandemic. Leaving her with three young children. I’m finding it impossible. He did the same with his previous partner.. left her with their two kids!!! My daughter seems able to forgive perhaps because of the children. Forgiveness in this case... easier said then done!

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

That is no doubt one of the toughest things imaginable to forgive. Be patient with yourself. Don’t forget to take deep conscious breaths when it becomes overwhelming. Each breath is like a free ride to the present peaceful moment. Don’t force yourself to forgive or DO anything, just allow yourself to BE. The more awareness you bring to your feelings, the more you may decide they’re no longer worth holding onto. Peace and love

@dipyrejeinder3203 2 жыл бұрын

😘😘words journey

@apsaraa8209 Жыл бұрын

I learned long ago love em and let em go. Never look in the rear-view mirror.

@nowornever07 2 жыл бұрын

But at d heat of d moment, i forget everything n i react d way Dey react.😑

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

The more you can stay present and aware of yourself, the more you will act instead of react.

@gporter1 2 жыл бұрын

I understand, but could you or anyone give a concrete example of what we could actually do. What does that look like, especially in the heat of the moment? Thank you!🙏

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

What that means is that when someone engages in hurtful behavior, we do our best to witness the painful emotions within us arising, witness our thoughts and not to resist them or be angry with them. Just observe and accept them. Then, as the present witness, we can remain calm and present, and through clarity rather than anger, we can see the best path forward. Hurtful situations don't need to cause us hurt when we can see the big picture in these small moments. We can respond with strength and compassion. Over time, every act of kindness we take will help lead to a kinder world.

@gporter1 2 жыл бұрын

@@ToddPerelmuter Thanks, Todd. I have work to do!

@Naomi-ev2oh 2 жыл бұрын

When I am able to do this, it is powerful and healing. I am struggling with when someone continues to hurt you, emotionally, over and over. It almost feels like I am a punching bag who will keep going back for more, who keeps allowing abuse... when is it enough? Any thoughts are appreciated.

@ToddPerelmuter 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the question Naomi. I will share the answer to it in my newsletter as it needs a long answer.

@garystahl1686 Жыл бұрын

You're not prepared to fully let go. Let that person go fully. Trust me😊😊

@funkymonkey8777 Жыл бұрын

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@amirwyvern2511 3 ай бұрын

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@angel_existential Жыл бұрын

Thinking this way does not help me. Someone who has tried to get me to commit suicide multiple times doesn't deserve me showing them love. In their mind, that would justify hurting me.

@ChristinaKM 19 күн бұрын

Boundaries, walk away cut off all contact