How is your relationship with your kids over the years? Did they hate you as a teen etc? Did they move far away and stop talking to you? Would love to know if this book is worth diving into, my children are still young but oldest is now a kindergartener so I hope I’m not too late. 😢

@@RememberTheLord They're now 31 and 29; we're good. One went out of town to a school for math / science scholars when he was 16, and some issues did arise, although not with our relationship. I suspect he was experiencing boredom. He later got a Ph.D in astrophysics, lives about a mile from me, and we're good. The other has long been an athlete and manages a gym; also works for me part time.

Look up The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff and also Simplicity Parenting with Kim Jon Payne as well as reading all the books that Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish wrote. Then you have true treasure!

I know right.. ;)

Redo your childhood in your mind the way you would have liked it to be and the negative energy will start to loosen up, unravel, and soften into something of comfort and even joy!

You can use these methods with your parents too, modeling what you'd like to see in the relationship. They likely didn't know how to do this.

How did it go with your reflection together?

I'm glad you found it helpful! :)

Hey it's a wonderful book and you have done such awesome job , I was wondering is that okay if I translate your review in Urdu language plz let me know it might help a lot of mother of this language

Hi, Sorry for the late reply. You can easily translate this video on my channel. KZfaq has a very easy process. Just go to the video, click on settings, add subtitles, pick a language, and translate whatever you can! You can choose to be credited if you want as well! Perhaps more people can benefit as you said.

Yes I agree. I find the comics and Summary Pages very useful. I left a link in my description for anyone interested in buying the book!

Agreed!!! Read the books… all of them… keep them on hand when you feel you’re going a bit nutty and just open a random page to get some sanity and ideas back.

Wow, you must have learned so much from them just by observation. Their legacy will live on through the education and knowledge they have passed on.

Indeed what a blessing to have known them!!! Elaine and Adele and their families have been wonderful angels of Loving Light on this planet!

Hi Casey, Sorry for the late reply. I think that's a wonderful idea! Some of my videos have already been translated to Spanish. But this one hasn't yet. You can easily translate this video on my channel. KZfaq has a very easy process. Just go to the video, click on settings, add subtitles, pick a language, and translate whatever you can! You can choose to be credited if you want as well! Perhaps more people can benefit as you said.

It's a great book indeed. Glad you found the summary useful. Wi

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jazakallah khair...so you know my passion for Urdu...!

Ur neme is very beautiful, so I thought u like & understand Urdu,that's why I send u Urdu video .This channel has good videos with excellent Urdu accent.

Hi, Thank you. There are several different programs you can use. Just google whiteboard animation programs. In this video, I used videoscribe.

I would try wording it as options. Do you want to wear you pajamas first, or brush your teeth first? Usually giving options works if you do it from the beginning. If the child responds, neither, then I would say, I guess I will choose for you then (choose the one you think they least likely want to do first, while physically standing up and putting out your hand as if you're going to physically take them by the hand to do that option). Almost always the child will start protesting, noooo I want to do option a (or b) first!!! This was either from this book or the book, Setting Limits With Strong Willed Children.

@@RealHappyEndings The problem that i see with this book its that is very easy to write that and think that the kids are gonna do what you told them to do, but usually even with 2 options they don’t want to listen and don’t do the things. I would love to see the people that wrote this book doing it with real kids that are problematic. And see how they would handle a kid when they have to end TV, ipad, go to bed, wash their hands etc.

@@SM-gm6hr It does work with all children bit by bit because it is a flexible guideline based on the mindset that there is a win win way and we can come from creative respectfulness towards all of us. You might like to also check out Kim Jon Payne’s Simplicity Parenting.

You are right... Your comment has made me think purposefully about something I always felt was present. I could explain the structure of creating content to you... and explain away the circumstances that would lead to these results, but it does not feel right to be defensive. Instead know that your comment has been taken in earnest and that there is a lot of work to be done with much care. I must ensure that I do my part to make sure my videos don’t leave a bitter aftertaste in anyone’s mouth.

@@RealHappyEndings Thank you for responding and for revisiting that response after the initial comment. For a bit of context, I recently completed moderating a panel related to disparities in health care and the rising rates of Black youth suicide, which is happening despite declines among other youth populations. A key dimension of helping adults support young people's daily creation of hope (nod to James Baldwin) is the ability to communicate openly and effectively. I have long been a fan of the book highlighted here and was excited by the possibility of sharing a pithy, enticing entry point in the form of a video. But, the audience of Black educators, parents, and guardians I would have shared it with would have had to contend with the representational insults (a significant emotional labor with significant cost) while also trying to absorb the message. Because we are grappling with enough trauma, I am careful about what media I share. I decided not to share this video with nearly 2,000 people to avoid reproducing psychological distress. The issue here is not a bitter aftertaste, it's much more serious. I am so glad that you'll be thinking about this as you create content moving forward.

Unfortunately the software I used to create this video and others like it, never had many image options. They're getting better, but still have a long way to go.

When you're children start communicating (although some people find it beneficial even before then), all the way up to adulthood.

Lol! Good point. I can't remember if that example was taken in its exact form from the book or not. Maybe it was an older child? Or maybe it was just a terrible example on my part that I never thought through enough!

@@RealHappyEndings Of course, it totally makes sense if you're talking about my kids!

@@RealHappyEndings The book deals with various ages, not just tiny ones! It depends on how we raise them as to how familiar they become with the tools we have around. I always assumed they would want to learn and adjusted what they used according to their current ability, giving more responsibility with advanced tools as I saw they’d mastered the ones before.

Actually it works really well. I’ve seen it in action and the results are children who grow up interdependent self assured inquisitive and caring.

​@@louisegogel7973 I've also seen the opposite happen too where the child becomes a spoilt brat and narcissistic 😅

@@oneness1_ Then it was not applied properly.

@Louise Gogel you're going prob right but then you're prob wrong!