Caring, Empathy and mutual understanding. Coming at a common ground and look at the conversation like a discussion and not like a Debate.

Shout louder than them and insult their rather large mother

Most people are afraid to admit what they don't know. The only way to get there is through honest conversation. Doing this on the internet is a failed proposition. Some random person jumps into the conversation and starts yelling "Your wrong" derailing the conversation. Honest conversation, where you both admit what you don't know, you both admit what you actually want to solve. But there are also people that believe they are right and will not give up on that belief.

I like her book, Beyond Your Bubble. It has been helpful.

The fact that a debate/argument nowadays is something you can "win" instead of serving to come to a mutual better understanding of each other's point of view is why I have lost all faith in ever having proper discourse again. Add to the fact that most people do not argue rationally but emotionally, that they are almost always convinced that their notion is the "correct" one and that they will cling to it screaming and clawing in the face of counterpoints because that's easier than having to challenge and potentially change your own perspective, and any sense of having an actual debate is lost. No wonder ad hominem and other fallacies are becoming more and more the norm.

As a aspiring politician this helps a lot, for i want to be a honest good politician who'll listen to the complains of the people, Age 16.

It is okay not to win everytime. Its called growing up.

The only way to win the game is to not play!

The fact you think you need to win instead of finding a common ground is the issue.

we just all need to go out into the world and accumulate as many different experiences as we can in order to become a more well rounded human beings, too many people stay inside of their circle and never step out to meet new ideas, seek discomfort!

I appreciate your willingness to encourage one to listen to the"uncle" as that is how communication succeeds. I am that uncle you speak of and I always welcome that conversation.

More people need to watch this

Absolutely perfect demonstration! Thank you!

Some people believe you win by simply saying "Cope" and "Seethe"

"winning is not asserting position, but strengthening connection"

Winning is the problem.. winning is when 2 sides are mutual; give and get, anything else is just one side labeling the other irrational.

This sounds great in theory.

That uncle and I would get along

Honestly, this is what I already do. But others tend to think I’m trying to debate and they get upset with me. I know it’s probably because I usually have the unpopular opinion. But, this is the BEST method because it keeps you sane and calm. And if someone is trying to start an argument while you’re calm, you already won!

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

Wow…this Ted Talk arrived JUST at the right time. Unbelievable! THANK YOU TANIA ISRAEL!

After 30 seconds I could see where this was going.

i feel like whenever i make an effort of having a discussion, the other person cuts me off instead of listening to me... and perhaps i do that as well now that i think about it Lol

This feels like a skipped stone over the surface of a deep pond. I am curious to know if the speaker believes in any form of objective reality?

Totally agree with you. It's a good psychological trick when you argue with your appointments. Thank you

Beliefs and opinions are just that, they are not facts. The trouble is, facts are ignored or dismissed based on beliefs.

How to win any argument: "I'm offended".

Assuming the other person is rational. Most people are too triggered and lack anger awareness.

People don't care unless they see you care, very brilliant! Thank you!

wow really insightful!

Choose family relationships over being "right"!

oooh noo… im scared of what the comment section is gonna look like

Could you add subtitles, please, because sometimes it's really hard to follow, yes, I speak English, but sometimes I miss it. Thank you for sharing, by the way, 😊

This needs to go viral, NOW!

holy carp, I didn't know i needed this so much

Humans arguing is the only reason we got anywhere. It is to strive to perfection and invention. To surpass that which we thought already good enough.

Thanks for your talk, it was interesting to hear, especially considering my sociology background. Now, I have just written my Msc thesis on political discrimination. I am curious to know what you think of this: if everybody is affected by this confirmation bias (and we largely underestimate the extent to which we are in fact influenced), how can we classify something or someone as 'extreme'? In fact, how can we even make any plausible assumptions about politics in general?

This is so timely. Thank you for this.

No one can truly be a good judge without hearing both sides. Unfortunately the young are idealistic. Unfortunately the old become set in their ways.

To win is to tell the TRUTH for the truth will set you FREE

First you have to hold the right opinion. There are right answers in life. There is always a lesser of two evils.

So this woman is equivocating. First off, there is a “fact of the matter”. Two people can agree, disagree, or have no opinion on a subject but there is always a fact about what is or is not true of a given subject. That truth is independent of whether we agree with it or not. So sure, my uncle can say that racism doesn’t exist but he is in fact false. Or my brother can say that more equity would improve everyone’s quality of life but he is in fact false. And what would be worse than “losing” an argument with someone who never intended to argue but instead planned to vomit already regurgitated views at you, would be to ascribe those views with the same value and respect as well-informed, well-articulated views. If you want to win a political argument, start by making sure it’s an argument. Are both people willing to accept that they may be wrong not only about the situations they see but also the facts and morals that ground them? If yes then have a healthy argument and talk about what you learned. If no, just don’t engage. The lack of frustration is winning in itself.

nah, this ain't it. there's a clear right and wrong on certain of these issues.

Her very first example was based on politics and media influence. Having assumptions and conflicting ideas bundled in is EXACTLY THE PROBLEM with our we think about things. I can believe all people should be treated with respect... period! Both of those labels create more divide, paranoia, anxiety and defensiveness. Corrupt media/politicians wouldn't have a job or income if we stopped taking this bait to fight each other (insert any group on any topic people are passionate about). We could also spend more energy on productive cooperation, rather than pointless and time-wasting arguing about assumptions, things taken out-of-context, hyperbole, gas-lighting, logical fallacies...

I like how you display your confirmation bias in your example for confirmation bias.

I didn't like the title since winning a political argument isn't about the "how", its about what you're standing for and if logically it makes sense in the world and so on... I did like the total message though, of having a discussion that expands each others thoughts which strengthens the connection between family like with your uncle like she said...

How to win a political argument. Use facts, data, and real world observation. Also use well thought questions to their positions. If facts ( like 2+2=4 type facts ) arent listened to and rational qestions arent allowed then you arent dealing with rational people. Dont associate with irrational people.

Quite interesting though to see how much deflection of this concept there is in the comments. Dr Israel, maybe your next talk needs to be not show, but why.

1st impression bias is a muh my money is on the uncle.

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Great talk! Simple but profound. and Dr Israel explains it with such clarity.

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wanting to win a political debate will just turn into selfish gains of ego and pride imo. you state your political views bc you believe in those views to be true and beneficial, regardless if it’s fun or not and not bc it will boost your ego at the end.

I have arguments all the time on a range of subjects and there are these great things called "facts" which often help me to win. Like, the Earth is round, the Hillsborough disaster was covered up by the Police and The Sun newspaper, there were no weapons of mass destruction, etc

How about just agree that everyone should and needs to be treated equal and not get into what slogans and stuff should or shouldnt be used. Why segregate people with things like this, we need to focus on bringing everyone together not rip them apart even more.

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I need more weed, to listen to this...

I win all political arguments by telling people I am a political atheist and I don’t believe in bullish!t.

The way she acts like pro life vs pro choice is comparable to palestine vs Israel proves that eventhough she claims to benevolently understand the political situation she cant actually understand facts

Correct answer is: NO politics

Yeah but how do you grind them into the dirt so they scream for their mommy

This will never work in the real world. Unfortunately, people just don't care anymore.

Did she describe democrats as the Left?

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My mom and dad were all ways told me the truth know matter what I might believe in or not believe,and I have learned from the best and I am so mad at the one that is called critical theory and I don't want myself or my children to learn this one in the school and come back home and then have a fight. Please understand that we have to be able to pray about this one message from you guys and gal's. God bless us all people 🙂.

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I first came here to listen to her and saw her hair 😍😍😍😍

I have found that shaming and demonizing the opponent is not a way to win any argument, political or not, but simply being right actually is. Who would've thunk?

Andh bhakt:let me introduce myself

Wow, I learned absolutely nothing new from this Ted Talk

Omg

Oooh, I thought the one who yells loudest wins.

Refuse to speak about politics! Game won!

Ma'am, I've "conversed" a LOT about BLM, and you chose the wrong topic to use as an example. As soon as you touch on abortion - in any context - as BLM does, (in America) while in conversation with an evangelical Christian, there is only empty explosion. #1 Rule for participating in an argument - DON'T HAVE ONE WITH ANYONE WHOSE MIND IS CLOSED. Research also shows that having rational informational conversations with people whose minds are closed pushes them further and further into their beliefs/delusions.

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Democrat or Republican i don't care anymore just don't screw up the economy.

Lol the argument is over a catchphrase by a scam organization?

Change the premise and insult their grammar?

I deal with it like I do my ex wife. I'm not arguing LALALALALALALA

This is an unbelievable performance. This is also a real ideology. I think she also believes this… I know it sounds crazy, but I really think that she does. I think she might not be acting. Hear me out, I don’t think she was trying to be funny.

Or maybe you're wrong, and your uncle is right.

Sounds great in theory but say that to Nazis or Communists in the 40s. There is a thing like objective reality and objective BAD political views and Standpoints and sometimes a shift in viewpoints of a population leads to above stated horrifics.

The concept of everyone wins is ideal but unrealistic on numerous levels. Thus this video is relevant in theory but useless in reality

"All lives matter" - is wrong.. Well, well...

You start by not having israel in your name

Gaslight and play linguistic games, of course. The left is very good at this.

Just sounds like a centrist who thinks that “all sides are valid”

Unless your arguing with a trump supporter

Free Palestinian

How to win a political argument? Good luck on that. When emotion over-rules facts and logic, there is no way to 'win' an argument. Emotion closes off all forms of listening and any sense of rationality. And could the speaker possibly be anymore condescending in the presentation? Judging from her comments and tone, I'm going to guess a CA left winger.