Great!

Good

Good

Stressed, drained out

Good

Where are you watching from lol?

Omg so relatable

relatable

@@Psych2go Apparently we’re very far from you guys, it’s literally almost 3 AM at the time of posting this How did this get over 50 likes 3/24/2023 Edit: Apparently you live on another continent lol

Same omg

Don't worry you'll be fine, the fact that you constantly worry about being a bad person means you're a good one. ✨NOW FEEL INSPIRED.✨ :D

It is a balancing act, like everything else in life. You should stick up for yourself, but like in physical self defense, avoid causing unnecessary harm verbally. Also, do not be surprised that other people are insecure, and thus, do not take it personally if they get hurt due to their weakness. Everyone has some weakness, but everyone should strive to grow stronger, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and perhaps financially. Considering you watch these videos, you are on the right path. Try looking up Emotional Awareness and Emotional Intelligence exercises. The best thing you can do, in terms of communication, is fine tune how you say what you want to say. People at work sometimes say I sound educated, and sure, some theater classes and being a reader helps, but I owe it to Facebook. I would argue politics on there, think about how to type it to be blunt without unnecessarily insulting, and my way of talking ended up reflecting how I began typing. Unless drunk, of course, then I keep my answer short and I talk slow and methodical, someone said I sound like the chill guy at work. This video brings up another point. If you criticize someone's work, not only try to be direct without being insulting about it, squeeze in some honest compliments if you can. Also remember that others are toxic, consciously or not, so it is good to be able to spot lies. Seriously, I know one person I do not know if she actually believes in her selective memory (I had witnesses to show I did not have selective memory) or was gaslighting me.

A wise person once told me, “The fact you don’t want to be a certain type of person desperately means you’re not” (As long as you are trying your best to replicate a person who’s not that way, you’re fine)

@@Pounamu104 this made me feel better, I’m trying but I always end up feeling mean. I get really mad at my little sister when she hurts and tosses my cat in front of me, So I sometimes lash out. I want to stop that

@@jeremybrummel3254 *What the he-*

Yes, they say the people we attract are sometimes a reflection of ourselves too.

@@Psych2go If I'm innocent and vulnerable and I attract people who manipulate me, does that mean I'm manipulative too?

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Yikes. Sad but true

@@DawnshieId no, not at all, as much as i Remember that doesn't fall into the unintentional manipulation category (unless by being kind you make It look like you di everything by yourself)

Ong yes I'd love a video like that 💯🙌🏼

Agree! That'd be great! Turns out I'm not toxic also. All C's for me.

hey at least she gives me better advice then my older brother. honestly I only have 1 sibling…and his advice seems kind of toxic sometimes lmao 😂👹🫠😈

Yes we need this video

Wdym humoring you for good? I have mixed feelings about how humoring one can be a good thing, like sugarcoating feedback when it’s better to be honest so that their improvements will be real.

I agree!!

so relatable my father is all a's he's a bitch

Mhm, usually with my mom are A's but everyone else that isn't my family (exception: brother and sister in law), is just C's. I have no A's for most people and have B for the last question because of my severe problem with Jealousy.

Same, I chose mostly Cs, but if the person were my mom, it would be A’s mostly.

Unfortunately I have all A's and B's for most of my family. (Not my grandparents. They have B's and mostly C's.)

I suffer from OCD ( HOCD ). It is absolutely hell. It not give me peace. Force me to do specific thingz to get peace. This illness is hell. Also i had problem with boundaries. But i don't care now i put myself first. That mean i shoud make boundaries to others. I don't think you shoud apologize for that. Self care is more important.

If they are good people, they should understand when you set boundaries! My mother also struggles with saying no to people, so we did this exercise where I ask her for stuff, and she's supposed to say no.

@@inseptus712 My mother is same she is just too nice. I think i inherited my niceness from her. That is very cool idea 👍 to exercise your mother. I will try same exercise to my mum too.

I have that too! I feel like I’m mostly toxic to others but everyone is like “oh you’re kind and such”, and I was scared people would also think that’s not true.

We’ve all got toxic traits to an extent. You’re probably just more self aware of them and able to keep them at bay which is good!

@@brienethefox853 thanks 👍

@@brienethefox853 true

i feel the same

Toxic and poison are two different things lololol

Exactly.

Makes sense but maybe tone it down even if it's just for a little bit

@Melinda Smith It's hard to. I was honestly way too polite and agreeable, which made people walk all over me. I'm not instantly mean either. Someone has to over step my boundaries first. It's usually someone I kind of know as well. With a friend I let them know what they did. With a non-friend though... Had this D-bag try and insinuate he doesn't play video games like me because they are a waste of time, then he gave me a face with derision. I lost it because there was no reason for that. I told him he looks like he mindlessly stuffs his face with calories, because he put on 30 pounds or so, so I can't imagine how boring his life is. I then said weren't you a mediocre competitive smash player, and I don't go to video game tornaments... I said think about what you say before you say stuff dumbass. I went on to ask if he has down syndrome or something pointing out his ugly features on his face. Told him he has the tendency to over smile, which annoys me because he has one gummy smile. All I can say is he won't be talking to me anymore which is how I like it.

Wow we’ve basically done the same! And tbh I think most people are jealous of other people’s success so I don’t even feel bad about it xD I don’t even judge people if they score less than me, I just try to be better than others because it makes me feel more self confident

The best thing is ur honest to yourself and acknowledging it☺️

My scenario's the same! I'm great on most of these, but I have a major lack of simply being happy for people if they surpass me in something I want to excel at, and I feel a little threatened if they get close. An odd flipside is that I want highly intelligent people around me to bounce clever stuff off of! A strategy I came up with that can do both of these goals is to surround myself with super smart people intentionally, so I'm among intellectual equals, so I have to take the pill of not necessarily being the smartest person in the room.

@@inseptus712 I’m the exact same, I like to surround myself with people who are smarter than me. It just helps me learn and grow from them.

Exactly in the last one I also choose b, I mean I really happy for the success of my friends but at the same time I cannot avoid comparing them to me, and lately I feel bad for feeling that way.

I’m sure you will get there in the end. I used to struggle with a lot of the same stuff too. If I was right, why should I apologize? However after working on it for a long time, I have gotten better. I’m sure you will reach that point as well. Wish you the best on your journey there.

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All the best 😊😊

Hey, it can be a hard thing to do. Don't beat yourself up for it, the fact that you're acknowledging it and want to improve on it shows how mature you are and willing to improve yourself. Im proud of you!!

@@TurtleReefReal is hard if you warn her

Exactly.

I'm INTP so I can't relate but I'm more on the B sode of toxicity I try to be a friend but sometimes I slip

I'm an enfp and I adore infjs

And setting boundaries can also help protect you from quite good people unintentionally harming you. If you don't communicate your needs, they will sometimes have no way of knowing how to navigate your specific situation!

when they said that, I felt it, peapole always take advantage of my kindness. Btw I'm an INFJ

Same, to me i think it's normal to be jealous sometimes

Similar - I had 4 C's and 3 B's. The other B that I recall is that I don't feel awkward most of the time if I "win" an argument, though I'm typically not trying to crucify someone by making it overly contentious - it's more about being able to convey my perspective to where they have an understanding/ appreciation for it.

@@LastEarBender there was 8 questions

I agree, I got about the same results as you. I definitely agree with the jealousy part. I try hard not to be jealous but when you see people living their best lives and seeming to go through life easier (aka, having college paid for them, getting a lot of achievements, etc.), it just hurts and i cant help but feel jealous. I don’t let them know im jealous though. I try my best to keep it in check.

​@@-chirpchirp- maybe they got one a or smth

Same here

Yeah same here but only happened with 2-3 problems and they were mostly B's

Not just that, this is a horrible measure of toxicity imo. I say this as someone who would’ve been pretty strongly all C’s a few years ago. The non-toxic person in this circumstance has no self-acceptance or respect. It’s kinda scary how this video frames the perfect abuse victim as the ideal. Like yeah on a surface level - being happy for others, apologizing for your mistakes, being understanding are great characteristics to have. That said you shouldn’t have to go to the ends of the earth to understand someone in an argument or compromise with them - sometimes it’s best to just disagree internally and move on (ie talking with a racist family member). Also it’s not wrong to have a slightly heated discussion if both people are fine with it, especially as long as you recognize that you won’t loose yourself because of this conversation (ie arguing with said racist why racism is bad), and understand that this conversation is something you do outside of building the rest of your life. (It’s not your duty to fix a racist) Also it’s not wrong to feel anger, hurt, jealousy, insecurity - it’s wrong to use those feelings to hurt others and/or to let them consistently overwhelm you - it’s a part of being human. These aren’t things you should be repressing until they aren’t there at all, but rather acknowledging so you can move on from them.

Tbh, I only disagree with the "arguing with other people" toxicity. Not wanting to argue with people isn't always the best trait to have in my opinion

​@@halbgefressen9768 why not?

​@@halbgefressen9768why wouldn't that be a good trait?

What about 2024?

@@Psych2go 2024 is like the best friend you havent seen in 10 years but can still talk to as if nothing happened. It can't come fast enough

@@Psych2go 😆

If you're watching this already, you definitely will.

Jealousy is normal, but it's all about how you deal with it.

Jealousy can be good at times, but can you share what your thinking process is?

Jealousy is fine when experienced short termed and if you have self control to not act up on it mostly. Unless you're acting up on it frequently without valid reasons in general.

Jealousy and envy are both normal... I wish there were easier ways to reduce them

@@Psych2go I've had significant others in the past that would cheat and whatnot and nowadays when my current partner has someone getting too close I naturally get jealous

No worries! Where are you from?

@@Psych2go OMG- I'm form Bangladesh- 🇧🇩🇧🇩 👁️👄👁️

@@Psych2go hello its me 😄

@@Yukiyusitzmeh me too

Why did I read this as "ty for the traumatizing experience"

i too am hungry for noodles 🍜

That’s honestly me rn, glad im not alone

im over here sitting in bed at 2:36 am doing exactly the same thing 💀

When you get an C- but it’s the thought that counts

Couldn't agree more. The best way to love the people around you is to work on yourself.

Likewise to you!

Good job

@@wholesomeedits thank you 🙏

same

@@GigiAndContent nice

@@tripletflamesrainbowstarpeople thanks

Thank you for watching!

Being clingy dosen' t make you toxic, it makes you human.

Aww. Thank you! What's your favorite part about it?

Woo hoo!

@@Psych2go 👍

when my best friend and I were dissolving the friendship she told me "you are just really toxic and showed every red flag" in the same conversation she told me "i should've communicated by you triggered my trauma so I withheld communication and affection so you would take the hint" ie admitting to stonewalling, and abusive behavior, while blame shifting and giving a fake apology. she also accused me of breaking her boundaries, when that conversation she was referring to I specifically asked if I was okay to ask those types of questions, gave her a free out, and still dropped the topic shortly after based on tiny cues over text, it was all over text so I verified this reality. took this test and mostly Cs as well. absolute cruelty

High five! Krisha is amazing isn't she?

@@Psych2go Yeah!

samee

I also had all C's

I'm hard C until someone makes fun of my twin.