My Husband and I have been married for 51 years and we have definitely been through those times like You and Chance concerning our sex life. Early in our marriage we we like little bunny rabbits and later we had our ups and downs, having babies and more responsibilities sex wasn't our priority anymore. Now all of our are grown and married and have children of their own. We are enjoying each other all over again. Our communications together is very important. We hold hands, walk together, hug, kiss and it feel like we are courting all over again! He calls me his girlfriend and I call him my boyfriend, lol😂😂❤

“Don’t think about what you can get! Think about what you’ve got and how you want to keep it!” That was a powerful statement!

I love that Chance emphasized the importance of listening to a man when he's being vulnerable. Ladies, that is so important to let him open his heart so he can feel comfortable sharing. Like Chance said, if you shut down a man's vulnerability, that is damage that you will likely never recover from. A man may never open up again - and then we wonder why more men aren't emotionally available or emotionally intelligent. Take care of your partner's heart. ❤

They are talking like grown married people who have learned and are learning.❤

Love the fact that Chance is able to voice things from a man’s perspective. Feeling seen.

My husband and I are 33/34 and have been married 12 years. We literally just had this convo and I prayed and asked God what did I say wrong cause he got so defensive!!! And I got on KZfaq and this popped up!!! God is so good and this has been so relevant!!! Thank y’all for your transparency and obedience to God!!!!! This is so good!!!!

The friendship that they share is what allows for these uncomfortable conversations..they truly seem to not just love each other out of obligation, but like one another genuinely. The laughter that they collectively share is also so healthy...they're laughing with each other not at each other! Love this dynamic ❤️😊

THESE are real conversations and so very necessary. My husband and I both sat here saying "Have they been in our house???" #22yrsAndHolding You two are helping men, women, relationships, and marriages. You two are a Blessing to the Kingdom Team Brown!!!🧡🙏🏾🙏🏻

It feels like you can substitute “initiating sex” for basically any need that your partner has. it’s so difficult to navigate meeting each others needs within your relationship and I appreciate hearing how y’all unpacked your feelings and egos to work through it

Many couples divorce because of lack of understanding of each other. We have to be mindful of each other's life load and move accordingly with grace, kindness, compromise and gentleness for a solution that benefits both. 👑❤️👑

I love how Chance always says "we done helped these people enough!" hahaha

It tickles me whenever Chance tells Tab to "Stay Focused." Tab was about to drive that conversation to the left😁😁😁😁 It's great where you can banter with your partner.

Tab you hit the nail on the head!! When hubby isn’t initiating it rips us wives to shreds! It brings insecurities, makes us feel bad about ourselves, and wonder if we’re good or pretty enough. Chance you’re so right… Rejection hurts both husbands and wives. Let’s respect and honor growth in eachother❤ I’m so proud of you both for surviving the growing pains🙏🏽

These are the convos that our generation did not have. My marriage did not make it because of not knowing ourselves, what traumas we still had from childhood, not knowing how to talk about anything without it feeling like an attack or having the vocabulary to do so, etc…. I’m hopeful for the next generation and for my future relationship.

😂😂😂I laughed so hard at Chance trying his best to hold Tab back.."alright, you gonna have these old ladies in my DMs"😂😂

You guys are saving marriages with this video. May God bless yours abundantly. To hear Tab our bubbly positive american mom talk about going through sickness and not wanting it is so real, and healing to my soul. You 2 encourage people to not give up and that marriage has valleys and mountains but don't give up in the valleys. Omg you 2 are good. Where is the offering bucket?

It’s something about when us women hit our 40’s! They getting a whole new woman out of us!😁

I’ve never been married but I always wanted someone I can talk every thing to and about as a best friend in marriage, even the hard times and hard conversations. I enjoyed getting a glimpse of what people experience in loving each other through phases of difficulty instead of people pretending as if they don’t have/haven’t had issues and grew or worked towards change.

If I close my eyes and change the voices, I would swear this is my husband and I. Reassuring to hear how this is a very common theme in marriages and how you all work through it. I'm going to listen again with my husband. It will not only validate his feelings but see that it's not just him and it's not just me. It's not just US and WE can get through these same issues! Thanks Tab and Chance!

Omg I was just having a convo last night with my partner of 8 years. We get so swept away with kids, financial troubles, grief etc that we get easily used to the routine of not having sex and intimacy overall. I can tell you one thing after having these talks I too look forward to the fun...cause it really does make both people grow closer and fall all in love again. Yall know what im talkin bout 😅.

I applaud both of your for having this uncomfortable conversation that a lot of us need to hear. Me and my husband have been in a similar situation and it helps to hear both sides.

Stop thinking about what you can get. Think about what you got and what you want to keep. Words of wisdom from Chance

What an amazing and authentic conversation. Y’all out here saving relationships. You two are a gift

My Husband and myself will be celebrating 31 years of marriage on 6/26 and this segment of Tab & Chance is sooooo spot on for me! ✨💜✨ I love this Truth which is soooo very similar to our marital journey. I love the honesty because I too am very honest about our marriage and it’s growth. Our marriage grew up along with our growing. I got married at 19 and my husband was 24 and we literally grew up together in the good, the bad, the ugly and indifferent. But the growing has grown us to this peace and this equilibrium. Y’all, this is honesty of what many marriages look like and to get to this space is beautiful indeed! Thank you Tab & Chance for keeping it real! Love you both! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Kudos to y'all for recognizing the issue and working to improve. Many couples have turned to porn-addiction, side relationships, etc and consequently grew further apart until the great separation was inevitable.

Y’all had me crackin up!! “get the ice, get the ice” 😂😂😂 This was such a good episode that a lot of married and single folk needed to hear. I’m divorced and realize a lot of the things I did wrong. I’ve been single for 7 years working on myself and I think I’m ready to try again: this time a healed and evolved person. Anyway, loved the video! Many blessings to you two for sharing your journey with all of us. ❤❤❤❤❤

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.

This such a healthy and honest conversation

I feel like we encountered an inside joke at 19:30 cuz they were both laughing TOO hard 😂 I love y’all

Been married 27 years and we still having these conversations. Thanks for being real. It helps a lot of married couples.

Thank you for this conversation ❤ it was needed, I am 18 years married and I watched this with my husband. We were able to see each others side ❤ I apologized and now we can move forward. Watching the video made it less awkward and we were able to listen and not feel alone on this topic ❤ Thank you Tab

I wish Tab & Chance would counsel young couples so they know making it as far as they have is possible. Overcoming things together instead of apart. People change every decade. It’s inevitable.

I’m am crying. Chance say, aight NIE you gone have these old ladies in my DM again. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Great video once again. This will help a lot of households.

Tears thank you for this I’m 57 married 36 years to my one and only since high school I’ve been through it all this is so healing for me thank for opening up so personally you are helping a multitude of relationships!

This right here was Everything!!! As a married woman in her late 30's, with children, this issue has come up, and your experiences showed me I'm not alone. Thank the Lord Jesus for your transparency Tabitha and Chance. Thank you. You have no idea how your honesty and transparency helps others understand how to fix issues people tend to be embarrassed about, or if not, simply don't want to discuss because it is uncomfortable. But its it's Real and Raw in what we call Marriage. Because of how you both let God use you, I have learned what I needed to learn. My spouse and I will sit down and watch this together. This was needed. 👍🏽 By the way I laughed so hard along with both of y'all in this episode, especially with Tab because I was like girl yes me too 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂! And Chance helped me to understand my husband better then I thought I did when it comes to this. Yep overall great show👍🏽

This was a much needed conversation.. there is a lot of growth in you guys, it's obvious! But most of all the maturity of you guys listening (actively listening).. keep pushing.. keep moving forward... TOGETHER!!❤❤❤❤

When she swung that hair, and Chance just moved it outta her way...I lost it!!😂😅 I KNEW, this gonna be a GREAT segment!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👌🏾👍🏾🤗

This just helped me to release some offense from my ex husband. Thanks Tab and Chance .💯🙏🏼

Am I the only one who absolutely LOVES them? They are one of my top 5 Black Love couples!!!🩷🩷🩷

Sister Tab you are a mischievous mess! And I mean that in the most respectful good hearted way! Thank you to both of you for sharing this with us. This is so very needed. Very healing. Thank you.......Mrs. C. Lee

Chance is right. We get it. We don’t need to know the details. Sometimes too much will cause people to look at you differently. But make no mistake, you all give good advice & have helped so many of us. I’ve been married 40 years & have learned some great things from you. Things I didn’t necessarily realize. You all are hilarious too! Thank you & God continue to bless you! 💕💕💕

Can I just say that I LOVE the way the two of you laugh, giggle and lean on each other while doing so. It reminds me of that young, teenage puppy love except it's the mature, grown version, which has stood the test of fire and come out stronger on the other side. I like that you're honest about your trials and how you almost didn't make it. It gives hope to those of us who are in the fire right now and wonder if we're going to make it. Not all relationships can survive, especially when there is abuse and cheating, etc.. However, there are some relationships that are worth fighting for but sometimes we don't have the tools and the patience. Keep on loving each other and laught together until you cry 😂🤣. I won't call you 'couple goals' but I will say that you are inspiring. Blessings ❤

I like how you both admitted to some very rocky past years together. It speaks a lot to resilience, commitment, and sometimes sacrifice all playing a crucial role in a successful marriage. I’m glad you arrived at a place of continual love and happiness. 🥂🎊🍀 And ya’ll are hilarious, btw.😁

You guys are a blessing. Your vulnerability will be a breakthrough for others.

Tab and Chance Fridays Topics are Vital to our Community bc sometimes we don't have people in our lives, who can have these types of honest conversations. Thank you❤

Extremely hard when your not emotionally connect as she said. Having those emotions in checks brings the spark back

I am not married, but these conversations do help me to understand how to approach my relationship thanks alot to both of you ❤❤

🤣🤣 y’all are wild!! Tab was trying to tell all the secrets Chance had to get her quick and bring her back in 🤣🤣🤣Love this episode!!

Tabitha Brown 1.01M!!!! Congratulations!!!🎉🎉🎉

I'd love for you all to discuss how you adapt to changes in your relationship. If one person evolves, how does your spouse receive the "new and improved" you although they haven't changed? For instance, if you were typically more passive and become outspoken. Also, how can you encourage your partner to hear you instead of just listening? Love these discussions ❤.

When a couple is content with one another they can be this vulnerable... Beautiful

I hot my 40s and i became a whole new woman inside and out. I worked on my mental, physical body and and spiritual health. Y’all look. I walk into a room now making people wonder. And my husband is enjoying every bit of it.

This conversation and transparency is a much needed one! I feel like if my husband and I had someone speak so open early on in our relationship, this would have helped us tremendously in avoiding some arguments and very heated moments❣ Normalizing men to be vulnerable and don't cut them down or call them weak, as it may be a scar you may never be able to repair!!❤🥰

I don't think you understand how awesome it is that you bring these conversation topics to the forefront because when you stand for God sometimes people don't want to actually get into specific topics but with your courage confidence it helps me along my journey in the spirit world 🎉❤ he helps me to not feel guilty for having desires and it helps me to understand that just because you are for God does not mean that you don't deserve satisfaction🎉🎉🎉🎉

Chance is like, “Oh lord she putting all my business in the streets”

This conversation was necessary and a blessing. During my marriage we had horrible arguments regarding intimacy. The Female and Male perspectives are imperative. Friday’s with Tab & Chance .. Continue to Bless us.. Reveal:Teach:Heal❤

So glad y'all made it through the tough years, because y'all are beautiful now!

This hit home in a lot of areas of my marriage. I’ve learned ALOT and hope to have this conversation with my husband. Got me in tears. 😭😭. Thank you Tab and Chance for being transparent. Love you both ❤

It's the "add the n't" for me!😂❤ Gotta be honest... I haven't seen many couples like Hubby and I. You two are an incredible voice for not love... but Black love, 20+ year marriage, compromise, and joy! Keep being beautiful!!!! May Lord continue to bring success, great health, and good wealth!❤

“Stop thinking about what you can get! Focus on what you have and what you want to keep” Come on Chance!! Boy, you better say that again🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

I always let my husband make the first move, until he stopped,and acted like I didn’t exist anymore , so now things have turned around, so now I dress up , make up, and make 1st 2nd and third move. Trust me it works 🎉

I needed this episode SO BAD!!!!! Thank you for making this.

I have so much respect for this episode. When I was married to my husband, he had to initiate the sex because one time I initiated it and he rejected me. I was devastated. I love you boths' transparency and years of going through your trials and tribulations; now at the point of sharing. That is so awesome. I was married for 13 years, divorced and have been single for 12 years. At this point in time, you can help a lot of couples because you have years and moments under your belt. Some people are married for 2 days, and now they want to write books and have seminars. No. Get some experience, have about 100 fights, then come talk to the people, AMEN!

I love the authenticity of this conversation. This is what maturity looks like. This type of discussion with your spouse is also a part of the intimacy between partners. ❤

Both should initiate it. Everyone wants to feel desired, that isn’t exclusive to a particular sex. And if you’re too awkward to intiate it either that’s not your person or you may need to grow and or heal in some areas of intimacy.

This is very familiar. I told my husband, we need to start with fourplay, setting the move. My husband said he doesn’t always have to be the one to initiate. I said ok! I always have initiate so, It’s good to have theses conversations with our spouses amen! I’m going to push fourths through the layers of my life amen. Earth 😇😇💜✝️💜🔥🔥🔥

Its extremely hard on a marriage where both partners suffer rejection. My husband was abandoned by his mother and didn't know his father. He lacked affirmations. I didn't have my father covering me, but I saw how he treated women. It took God to mend and heal me and my husband. We still are working on ourselves, and this video is eye-opening. Resentment can build up. I wonder if midlife issues of men and menopause in women add to the stress on marriages? I don't need sex often, but my love language is TOUCH. He can go daily. I prayed my husband wouldn't step out because I've had surgeries. He had a few as well, but i made sure I was all in because I love him and dont wanna start over with someone else after 30 years😅.

I love how the two of you lean into each other. Like a human mountain. The body language is so powerful. Thank you both for sharing ❤️

I'm over here 😂😂😂😂 sooooo hard my stomach hurts... I love the way yall keep it real... Folks need to hear it straight. It's not TMI cause some folks just don't know what to do or say when faced with these types of situations...

Makes perfect sense. Time changes things and then things can change back. As women Theres health, chores? Tiredness and then surgery and kids get grown. We totally ready again.

Their transparency is amazing and I love to see couples laughing. So inspiring ❤🙂

In marriage it does get challenging, especially when your parents are aging and have health problems needing care it's very difficult I really appreciate you all honesty!!

Tabitha you guys crack me up. I enjoy your conversations. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH

I appreciate the transparency! Real conversations that partners need to be having!

Look! We thank you both for the must needed message..my husband and I had a great night because of you all. (Currently 4 months PP and our season is definitely a season) Very insightful and positive words for married folks!

Chance said don't say that😂I don't want these old ladies in my dms! Great conversation👏🏽 Love y'all❤

I loved this conversation with my whole heart! I wished I would've allowed myself to get to know me when I was younger but then again we are ever evolving. Now, that all my kids are technically adults, I'm getting to know me in this new chapter/space of life. Oh, GOD we thank you! 🙌🏽

I absolutely love Tab & Chance ❤❤. It’s been a joy to watch Chance open up over the years and now he’s encouraging Tab when she’s not feeling it. My husband and I have been admiring this show for a while and love what y’all are doing. From The Brown’s to The Brown’s, I salute You 🫡💓💓🙏🏾🙏🏾

He said ENOUGH....company time over😂😂😂😂😂 love EVERY bit of yall Thanks for being YOU!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Hands Down, this episode was so GOOD!! Auntie Tab and Uncle Chance, thank you for being transparent and vulnerable. Wow, so many golden nuggets of wisdom!! This conversation is so Needed and Necessary! Thank you !!

I love that you guys stuck it out and now living your best life.People don't stay together like that anymore through the good and bad.The slightest pressure and they call it quits.😊

Very mature and much needed conversation... This is probably one of the most profound podcast or KZfaq on social media. I love y'all. Tab I understand exactly what you saying. Delilah is overly sensitive 🥺 😂

Intimacy requires talk, time and togetherness. Too often we try to get to it without these three components. The conversation that the two of you had will clearly hence your intimacy and take it to a different level. It was awesome watching the two of you being vulnerable.

Watching you navigate these conversations with respect and honesty and compassion for one another is beautiful. Thank you for sharing! ❤

Hello Tab and Chance I enjoyed the conversation today. The reason why I enjoyed this topic is because you are teaching folks how to communicate with each other feelings, desires and expectations in our sexual relationships. So many of us have been traumatized in the past, and we carry these skeletons into our relationships. Communicating with our partner in a positive way will help us to succeed in our relationship. Thank you Tab and Chance for this episode I was enlightened and entertained at the same time.😅😅😅😅❤❤❤God bless.

As always another excellent Fridays with Tab and Chance 😊😊❤❤

You did His will. I woke up preparing to move today from my home. Looking at all these boxes I questioned my decision. This was the first video that popped up when I logged into KZfaq. Thank you for the message. Perfect.

Great subject, it’s a sensitive subject. The rejection can go both ways. Men can also reject their partners. Seems everyone thinks only women say no. I see Chance’s side. I cringed a little when Tabitha called it an excuse that he fear rejection. It’s real and it was a painful time. It’s human nature to avoid what hurts. I agree with Tab when she says women feel automatically it must be them when their partners don’t initiate or reject. It is a huge ego blow to women. Because I assure men there is more than one man who wants your woman. The key is mutual honoring. Tab & Chance thanks for being so open & vulnerable. Your relationship is beautiful. The years of struggle have put a lovely shade of love on you too! ❤

My husband just passed away suddenly May 11, 2023 at the age of 51 - we had only been married 7 years. I so wish we could've seen this before he passed, because we still had unresolved issues over this very topic. It is the hardest grief to bare knowing that we couldn't resolve what was actually just a normal season of marriage that just needed better communication and more patience with each other. I pray you continue sharing these REAL marriage discussions. There are truly needed, valued and often not discussed in the "real" way that you share. Many continued blessings, much success and a million years of marriage to you.

Constant communication relieves the pressure.

This conversation was articulated so well. I’m glad to hear it and hope it everyone that sees it can receive it if they are going through or have yet to go through this. Be strong for each other, have grace and keep loving them regardless. Try to understand both perspectives, if you’re the problem do not get offended and if you’re the confronter don’t make it offensive. Get to the root of the issue and work your way out is the best way to fix it.

These conversations become more hilarious week after week! 😂

Great episode. This generation is lucky to have a platform such as yours. I married at 19.. it would have been most helpful to have something like this to hear/listen too

I RESPECT and love y’all together so much!….Timestamp 16:53 the REALEST!… There are no words for what you do for myself and the community watching…Just amazing ❤️…

Congratulations 🎉 on 1 million subscribers!!!

I hear Tabatha when it came to first beginning couple. My husband wanted it everyday all day. Fifteen years after marriage we had twins and it wasn’t happening as often. The babies were born 13 weeks early and I was very tired taking care of them. Now at 35 yrs he still wants it regular and with my age I be tired. Y’all hit a lot of me and my husbands issues and conversations. Love this topic.

This episode was soooooooo good. Thanks Tab & Chance for your transparency because it definitely helps other couples have perspectives on this topic that they previously hadn’t considered. Your love for each other is evident and inspiring to others. Keep up the great work And keep the lines of communication open on being sensitive to your partners feelings as you’ve said, bc it’s workin! ❤❤❤

Can’t believe watching them is free I love Tab !!! 😍

I am so glad that this topic was talked about. I thought I was alone by having those seasons of not feeling physically or emotionally connected to my wife. As a man, it’s like you should just take emotional abuse and act like it doesn’t affect you when that’s not true. The male ego is very fragile and when words are spoken and neglect from your personal love one is happening, it’s hard to open up and view your spouse as that beautiful, caring, warm-hearted individual you once knew. I’m currently still healing from the rejection and just being honest with where I’m at.

I just love y'all. You give us just enough. It's amazing how so many give up in what seem to be the really hard times before really enjoying the level of love, intimacy, friendship and partnership you guys seem to have... I feel like I'm y'all family for real! Keep up the great work Tab and Chance!!! 💕