Submitting To Your Spouse

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@aureecee3781 Жыл бұрын

Chileeee one thing about Glenn he don’t do no fake marriage or shacking up 😂😂

@TheHarrisFour Жыл бұрын

Glenn's reactions to the first email 😂😂😂. Sis is being bamboozled

@miaserenavega Жыл бұрын

I hope one day y’all do a tour of this podcast solely for the fact that we can all sing the theme song together

@Shayvette Жыл бұрын

I agree ☝🏼

@fruit032 Жыл бұрын

Yessss!!

@loriannathioune1579 Жыл бұрын

Based on Glen's facial expressions while you were reading the email I thought he was going to go OFF. But, he pulled it together and gave good responses.

@Lalaphive Жыл бұрын

Glen's face was my face and I came here to say exactly what you said lol.

@DF-gq4gp Жыл бұрын

I was screaming at the podcast "No Yvette, NOOOOOO". She's at least 15 years late to the hype of moving to Atlanta. Your children are thriving WHERE YOU ARE! And as much as you've mentioned women coming for Glen(n) you will be multiplying that by 1000-fold moving to Atlanta. Yvette, don't let FOMO blind you to the solid and fulfilling life you have. If anything, you've been fortunate to have missed out on a lot of foolishness. Don't go searching for it, Sweetie. Appreciate those beaches and mountains and space and a man with keen forethought!!! Trust him on this one 100%. -An original (and older) 🍑

@Gwaycee Жыл бұрын

On the other hand, California IS sinking and their losses will be great if they hang around there.

@whenyouwishuponastar6643 Жыл бұрын

I agree! I watched the whole podcast haha. Submission is really hard to understand if you don’t understand obedience to God. You can’t submit to your husband if you’re not submitted to God. Submission is a spiritual tool to have your family under Gods will. It’s not about doing everything your husband wants or asks, it’s about doing what you have to do when God is using your husband to bring glory to His kingdom. Glen is also right when he says when your husband is dying to himself to serve Christ through his family, why would the wife not submit to that? Anyway, this was a needed convo because so many people have a negative/incorrect understanding of submission. Biblically it is different than what we often think of.

@highlyfavoured73 Жыл бұрын

"And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21 This verse gets so overlooked. Before it says wives submit, it says submit to each other. Submission isn't a one person thing.

@MananaMoeng27 Жыл бұрын

I'm not married or in a relationship but i watch you guys religiously and i loved every bit of this episode and your advices will definitely aid me in my decision making in my future relationship.

@jasmineherisse-packard7330 Жыл бұрын

This first email is giving he bf makes promises and doesn’t keep them, is exhibiting a bit of control. Malicious or not this relationship is just rubbing me the wrong way. Thank you both for talking through this! Why do people think submission between husband and wife is like that of a master and slave/servant?

@kimberlyhampton5332 Жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was thinking.

@natashaadams8195 Жыл бұрын

submission is for MARRIAGE, we can't talk about anything if the foundation is not together first

@latalyajenkins6213 Жыл бұрын

Amen sister!!!

@shaymayhello Жыл бұрын

Correct!

@jasmineherisse-packard7330 Жыл бұрын

I am re-listening to this episode, and suddenly it just hit me: Did she meet this man seven years ago and he was 26 at the time? Or, is she saying that she is now 23 and he is now 26? Seven years ago she was a teenager. Seven years ago she was 16 or 17 years old and if he was 26 at the time he’s a predator.

@TheYanna2009 Жыл бұрын

I think an episode with an older couple(30/40+ years deep) would be cool! With deep questions; forgiveness, grace, patience etc. (it could get biblical too). But that would be interesting and informative.

@jeffgiles4693 Жыл бұрын

Glen, bro, 💯 on the seasons and time of loving your wife well. Just like the church to Christ, our wives should submit to us because of the love and actions we have ALREADY shown. God loved us 1st and submission is a response to that. It's not just mindless slavery. Young lady in the letter was given a pinky promise forreal, better and greater is in her future if she's willing to grasp it.

@amalik_333 Жыл бұрын

Hey Evette and Glen I made it to the 59:02 mark. P.S. y’all said to comment if we made it that far into the podcast. Love y’all

@meshiapowell5113 Жыл бұрын

How I got away from the negative connotation of submission was with the word ALIGNMENT. I am to align with my husband. If I don't agree with the decision, I can still align with his mission

@delossantoskhazia Жыл бұрын

I believe ultimately we should be submitting to God first in foremost. Then as wife and husband we should be moving in our relationship and making decisions based on what God calls for us to do. Therefore, when we are submitting to our husband we are ultimately submitting because we see that he is upholding the values of God - but we're not submitting blindly. If our husband is out of align with God we should be bringing this to his attention and I believe it is the same vice verse for the wife.

@lavenderpearlvintage1846 Жыл бұрын

This episode was deeper than deep!! Sooo full of martial information, I had to totally sit with myself and meditate on future decisions. Man!! I "was" married for 31yrs only to realize how selfish we both were.... he's remarried and I'm "shell shocked" when I even entertain the idea of getting married again. Sigh* The good thing is, I'm still in therapy.

@lovelyLo321 Жыл бұрын

17:15 this mic in the air is by far the highlight 😂

@sydneyjones1338 Жыл бұрын

It’s so interesting learning about other relationships. Our counselor gave us the best advice: “ We BOTH submit to God and our marriage. And the purpose of our marriage is to heal each other’s hearts.” Healing each others hearts looks different for every couple and keeping our marriage healthy is a WHOLE purpose. Everything else is tertiary to those things(including who cooks dinner, takes care of the kids, works outside the house and what we do for our careers). We just chose to marry a person who is compatible with how we know how to show up as our best to serve God. So for example I happen to cook because I don’t like his food but he does dishes as a love language for me when I don’t feel like it. the “roles” just fall into what works for us. If my husband said I had to “submit” to him like a student does a teacher I would say that’s weird as heck but sure 🤷🏾‍♀️ because I just honestly trust his judgement for our families well-being….he’s not into the whole woman under him thing and he’s a SOLID leader. I guess if you don’t want to submit to a man who doesn’t submit to you also…don’t 🤷🏾‍♀️. Especially when he’s so unprepared/indecisive/time-wasting/complacent to take over 5 years to marry you.

@LoveFirstYou Жыл бұрын

"The whole purpose of our marriage is to heal each other's hearts." This is not biblical, sis. Christ does not state that this is the purpose for marriage. Please be careful not to misconstrue the biblical institution of marriage by relying on a worldly perspective. It is God's way or no way. What does God's word say? Rather than answering that for you, I encourage you to read and learn for yourself. ❤

@sydneyjones1338 Жыл бұрын

@@LoveFirstYou Interesting…I guess I forgot to communicate that we start with what the Bible literally says as to how we function. This isn’t at all to convince you, but here is what I meant and I get it still may be the opposite of Biblical for you. It just works for us 🤷🏾‍♀️The Bible gives us quite a bit of actionable steps to cover with how we show up in a marriage and as people in general. By aiming to follow the word first we are ultimately showing up for each other in the way God expressed. Obviously it’s always a work in progress but the effects of that is we are able to see and be there for each other in a way that does in fact care for each others hearts. So me respecting my husband and him loving me as Christ loved the church is Bible but it also heals our others hearts 🤷🏾‍♀️. The reality is we show up in a marriage broken and full of sin and us loving each other Biblically allows us to help each other show up for God the best we can. We aren’t being each other’s “god” we are supporting each other to function at our best. It’s kind of hard for me as a wife to find/figure out/fulfill God’s purpose for me if I’m distracted with the worldly thing of what a therapist and healthy marriage can address (with God of course). Considering we started our marriage with going through the Bible, this is what works for us and I’m content in how it lines up with what’s Biblical. We have a central theme in our marriage of checking in to make sure we are aligned with the word first because that is actually the only way to “heal your heart.” Also I said “a whole purpose” kind of like it’s a whole vibe…not that it’s THE purpose. As a woman I have multiple purposes-im a mom, a person, a wife, I choose to have a career. I will definitely take this as a moment to look into it though 🙂 we try to be flexible enough to pivot if we are off track

@MsVee7 Жыл бұрын

She needs to ask God to show her the real face of this man she's with. She'd see this IS NOT her husband! Railroading at its finest!!

@jasmineherisse-packard7330 Жыл бұрын

I think(unmarried person here) the way that we submit is, showing up honoring and respecting the other person. It’s showing an ability to come up under the mission of what the wisest decision and/or what will be the most overall healing thing. “The Bible says submit yourselves one to another” marriage or not that’s a healthy mandate as a believer, period.

@caliBornbEauty 8 ай бұрын

I genuinely Love this podcast. You two are very compassionate towards each other and I admire that so much. I'm hooked!

@sweetzbubbletea2326 Жыл бұрын

When Yvette was reading the email, Glen’s eyes went 😶😳😶😳😶😳 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@recipebandit3563 Жыл бұрын

Ha ha, Belief a.k.a Petty Labelle with the altoids container 🤣

@chocolatemama6262 6 ай бұрын

This was TRILL you. Bless you both for addressing this in such a real way. I think the delivery was darn near perfect. #PowerToThePeople

@amandahooverlester Жыл бұрын

I’m glad Glen prayed or meditated or got his composure together, and talked toward the girl because I wanted to go in on this dude myself. Before I met my husband I was in a couple of relationships but there was one in particular where her speech based off hear current relationship is bring back memories and I am so thankful God delivered me from that relationship.

@SimiOludemi Жыл бұрын

I definitely made it all the way to the end. I love being apart of the wedding party. Yvette and Glenn thank you for this podcast because there’s so much wisdom filed within every episode. Every time i listen i know that I’m gaining time!

@marinac9339 Жыл бұрын

This was a great episode. Love listening to you guys and getting your perspective. I find myself often nodding my head in agreement.

@jainejane107 Жыл бұрын

I loved everything about this episode for real!!!

@bioncam3231 Жыл бұрын

I love this conversation.

@sarawilliams9763 Жыл бұрын

Love the way you explained it in a example Glen! Thank you

@lovelytia1 Жыл бұрын

This was a great episode, I’m glad y’all really let her know that the situation doesn’t sound the healthiest. I hope she starts therapy and gets the course because it will truly help her work through her thoughts and emotions.

@latoyamontague1879 Жыл бұрын

Such a wonderful Word from the Henry's. I pray this young lady really hears what they are saying. So many nuggets of wisdom. My favourite (I'm Canadian lol) podcast to date!

@danescabaez2896 Жыл бұрын

Man! Man! Man! This was such a good episode. Yes Yvette you should do another episode to answer that last question. I can relate to being a woman feeling stuck in a relationship thinking I was doing all the things to eventually get married until I started listening to the Lord and really spending time with myself, therapy and my accountability partners. I thank God to getting un-stuck because like Glen said he was a pinky promise type of dude who said all the right things but didn’t intend to sacrifice self in the process.

@MrsSSmith77 Жыл бұрын

I made it through the entire podcast. I always do. I enjoy your perspectives on those young ladies questions. My husband and I are coming up on 17 years of marriage in the next few months and I can say the roles change. We often have to submit to each other depending on who has greater understanding and wisdom in particular areas. We are on the same team and have the same mission as parents, business owners, etc. so we make sure we check our egos and allow whoever that will help us reach our mutual goals lead in said area. It’s truly a dance.

@msakira73 Жыл бұрын

Great episode 👏!

@caira3984 Жыл бұрын

This episode was definitely a blessing. I didn’t experience the same trauma that this woman had, but I do think it’s affected how I’ve chosen

@arelymurguia2003 Жыл бұрын

Yes do a podcast with someone older to talk about that. I hope this lady finds her answers soon and understands her value. Most of all you have to understand your value

@Liyah339 Жыл бұрын

Glenn came with a good word! Yvette stay trying to make something not sound as bad. 😂

@Aminaish Жыл бұрын

the EDITINGGGG on the altoids. 👏👏👏

@missj9879 Жыл бұрын

It seems to me that the boyfriend is emotionally abusive. He seems to use the Bible and religion to control the young woman. He gives off manipulative vibes to me. I sense a controlling spirit.

@kieyamcclung Жыл бұрын

I would love to hear an episode of a woman’s expectations with the home!

@Great01Dane Жыл бұрын

at 10:30 BeleafMel I wholeheartedly agree with you

@Great01Dane Жыл бұрын

that question @beleafmel asks @15:51 i felt that in my spirit

@Great01Dane Жыл бұрын

glenn spitting facts at 30:00

@ckks0nyoutube Жыл бұрын

I think that we should not pick and choose what aspects of the Bible we obey I am not married, however, the young lady’s email, seems like doctrinally some person is pulling the wool over her eyes, they both need counsel

@CaseKitDotCo Жыл бұрын

I knew glen was shooting a thumbnail when he did that lol

@Handler22134a 8 ай бұрын

I didn’t finish the entire response for the first Email. But yeah He may be older than her and because of that power dynamic it may feel like his maturity and his ability not to be an human garbage may feel so wonderful. It may feel like he’s special because he was the first man she can trust with her body. But it doesn’t mean he’s unable to be wrong and behave ignorantly in other ways. And to be real with myself as a 23 year old black male, who do seeks marriage and a not seek a patriarchal relationship I have a similar effect I have a handful of women that gravitate to that, sometimes thinking I can’t do no wrong because I’m not as bad as the men they encountered and it’s annoying because I’m still able to do wrong, I’m still could be practicing bad habits, etc. And I bet if I was 26 dating 18-20 year olds i’d be easier to take advantage of someone’s naivety or If I was disarming someone who’s been through abuse as one of the only men to do it. I’d be easier for me to have it my way. I’d like to date someone who’s able to criticize me and sees me as human as they are. I think she needs that same experience.

@kahughes1 Жыл бұрын

I'm an unmarried woman and some scriptures I remember studying to say, "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands." Also, "submit yourselves one to another. " To me, submission supports leadership in a relationship. Someone has to lead, and the other follows. But, the Word says "submit yourselves one to another," which means there are times when individuals take turns leading in a relationship.

@saab75 Жыл бұрын

I made it to the end

@alx4real Жыл бұрын

“Shorty” needs to throw up the deuces to this dude…

@fruit032 Жыл бұрын

..."well who the wife and who the husband? Cuz they ain't married." Exactly, it sounds like her boyfriend doesnt want to actually make her his wife, and I think she knows that.

@handmadewithchristiwade9693 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like she is being taken advantage of

@brandonzachary6342 Жыл бұрын

I think there are instances where the husband's mission could be one of support of a wife's mission. Listening from your previous episode, there can be cases in a marriage where the mission changes and hopefully there is some discernment on the husband's part to understand that maybe his mission is one of support in that season. Listening to the instances where Glen spoke on saying "no" Yvette's trip can sound abrasive (in my opinion) but they may have been on a mission to get out of debt (think that's what he referenced). I just think there are seasons in a marriage where while there can be an overall mission where the husband leads, there should be room where pivots can be made to support each other that doesn't effect the overall mission of that marriage. I suppose that is where that compromise word comes into play.

@golightly123456 Жыл бұрын

59:01 Oh I made it. This was an interesting email. I’d love to hear a podcast with a 60-year old woman 😂

@amberstar6296 Жыл бұрын

Moved to Atlanta for 2 months and was over it😮‍💨

@shkase398 Жыл бұрын

Find women who have marriages where the roles are varied and gather them together to get a variety of POVs.

@stefaniefulcher2010 Жыл бұрын

It's so hard for me to comment on this subject. I feel like my husband and I have different views on what submitting is and how we should submit to one another. I'm aware that our emotional maturity is also on different levels. That's how married we are- it still somehow works after fourteen years. I will be praying for the young lady that emailed in. Counseling is for everyone!!! I'll just be over here praying.

@zsaqiacamphor9483 Жыл бұрын

Please do an unplugged on this

@Affranchie Жыл бұрын

Submission is so much bigger than a wife taking care of daily chores. She is your wife, not your child, you're not supposed to tell her your position in her life.

@Joce-bl7qi Жыл бұрын

Glen don’t be too hard on yourself or redirect Yvette’s compliments for you (saying what she saw/trusted in you at the beginning of your relationship was actually your trauma/fears manifesting). There’s an intuition and a ‘seeing beyond’ that comes into play… Not negating the growth you had to do, but what she said can also be true- words/actions/mindsets/character traits she saw compelled her to trust you in a covenantal way. That’s beautiful.

@shkase398 Жыл бұрын

I am not going to lie, this episode is very confusing. I am currently at 29.23 and I need a breakdown

@AwesomeMsT Жыл бұрын

Made it this far…

@handmadewithchristiwade9693 Жыл бұрын

You're not lost Yvette. It seems like you're saying you're lost because Glenn is not responding immediately 36:30

@aniaandmarius Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 this is why people need to be in church. Lol

@CoachLWearableTech Жыл бұрын

A good book is Liberated Through Submission by P.B. Wilson God’s Design for Freedom in All Relationships

@belvamoore8169 Жыл бұрын

Submission should be easier since you've already dedicated yourself to your husband and he should hold to his part also, it all should have been in the vows and something that you observe before you marry him. A women won't get a assignment apart from her hubby. Once you get married you don't separate from your body the wife is the rib and you are joined together. You can go on vacation or something like that but never ( I feel) for a long long time . Moses did go to the mountain though.

@valenkennedy3879 Жыл бұрын

To be honest, Huggies wipes and diapers are a 20/10 when it comes to Pampers. Pampers is more expensive. I got a whole bunch of Pampers diapers and wipes for my baby shower and I returned them all for Huggies. Just saying lol

@HowMarriedAreYouPodcast Жыл бұрын

I’m (Yvette) dying that you commented on that! 😂🤣 Love it! 😆🤗

@Tiacocoa Жыл бұрын

That girl sound like she’s getting groomed, manipulation can happen at any age. MAYBE RUN 😢

@tsharilucas2385 Жыл бұрын

Her boyfriend sounds like he looking to start some kinda cult with him at the center.

@shaymayhello Жыл бұрын

I am physically reacting as well. In this letter...This dude is wack. Although, this environment was not created by him alone👀 The end. Fix it Jesus!!

@natwillboyd9571 Жыл бұрын

Move to TEXAS instead!

@AskIveSolar Жыл бұрын

Maaaannn, doctrine is wrong. That sums up boff-of-em. Submission is such a misunderstood concept that people love to wield.

@Gwaycee Жыл бұрын

That lady is just playing house. If he's really committed, he would have sealed the deal with marriage from the first. They're living as man and wife without actually being man and wife and that complicates everything because they want stability without the stable foundation stone of marriage.

@shkase398 Жыл бұрын

Y'all sound so mentally exhausted from this podcast. I pray you ended in prayer for these people and released it to God. Relinquish that burden of helping further to Him.