I am 23 and feel like a failure | breakdowns on my birthday, wanting to quit & a recovery chat

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I’m so grateful to be 23 and to be able to share it with you 🫶 Celebrate yourself every single day my friends - your existence is so important. Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit betterhelp.com/SUN and enjoy a special discount on your first month. GO EAT SOMETHING YUMMY AND SHOW YOURSELF SOME LOVE
places i ate!!
➯Baker’s Bench: 6 Bukit Pasoh Rd, Singapore 089820
( i always get so much work done at this cafe. I love the vibes + the plugs + the sticky buns)
➯5 the moments: 73 Tg Pagar Rd, Singapore 088494
(get the buttermilk waffle, trust me. I really like their ice cream flavours. This is where i got my bday dessert hehe)
➯A9 noodles: 190 Middle Rd, #02-26 Fortune Centre, Singapore 188979
(cheap quick noods & dumps. Honestly not my favourite, i felt like it lacked DEPTH and FLAVOUR but it’s always PACKED so people must like it HAHA)
➯Mother’s Dough: 3 Jln Kledek, Singapore 199259
(the biggest almond croissant you ever did see. I wish i tried their other pastries too they all look SOOOO yummy)
➯Common man coffee roasters (several locations)
(the avocado focaccia toast i had blew my mind. So did the price but they use good quality ingredients and nice ambiance and good service)
➯Genki Sushi (several locations)
(if you’re looking for the best quality sushi, don’t come here. But if you’re looking for a fun time then i recommend hehe)
➯Corner cove: 371 Beach Rd, #B1-48, Singapore 199597
(my favourite acai in Singapore. Unlimited toppings. Granola texture SLAYS. Owner is the sweetest human alive (hi michelle), and UNLIMITED TOPPINGSSSS)
➯Nalan restaurant: 13 Stamford Rd, #B2-54 Capitol Singapore
(i really liked the naan and everything i tried, not my favourite indian restaurant in Singapore but great option for vegetarians)
➯Tipo Pasta Bar: 28 Aliwal St, #01-07, Singapore 199918
(i like the build your own pasta concept but the portion size is SO SMALL it made me sad and i’ve had much much better pasta in my life, i sadly probably would not eat here again)
Music:
Music by AJ Abdullah - Sunshine, Nevermind - thmatc.co/?l=DA210CDE
Music by Lyle Kam - fine - thmatc.co/?l=DE6B11AC
Music by Mason Murphy & Jordan Jack - Sadie - thmatc.co/?l=C8A1D3D3
Music by MP3vius - back in the day - thmatc.co/?l=06D6063F
Music by Blue Sirens - Less Traveled - thmatc.co/?l=C9AAF1E0
Music by Narrowhaven - Songs I'll Never Write - thmatc.co/?l=825CEA76
Music by ystr - daydream - thmatc.co/?l=753DD9DA
Music by Kim Chi Sun, QQQ - don't say you love me - thmatc.co/?l=D94C5FD8
Music by Tuesday's Refuge - Crown - thmatc.co/?l=B3278759
Music by TossedOnion - It's A Good Day - thmatc.co/?l=78A98472
Music by Sam Celentano - Earl Gray Tea - thmatc.co/?l=DC33F7E9
Music by TossedOnion - Ukiyo Station - thmatc.co/?l=CA30A4D8
Music by Starbloom - What Comes Next - thmatc.co/?l=92CE5E80
Time stamps:
0:00 - big dreams
0:45 - reality check
2:37 - messy & smelly
4:14 - am I a failure
6:20 - what’s wrong with me
8:36 - bdays are bad days
10:40 - when i grow up
14:59 - less stuff more snacks
18:00 - you kept going
19:56 - thick socks & happiness
22:33 - you were right all along
*inspiration for part of the voice over was from a poem that I heard on instagram by @josiebalka - she is so good and gets me in the feels every frikin time

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@simoneoelias Ай бұрын

Are you kidding? you have so so many people watching you heal and grow, and it helps them. In no way are you a failure. You help so many!

@aussieland1783 Ай бұрын

Very well said 💯

@ketlintokan939 Ай бұрын

mkx liat sekali kali ke bawah, msih byk org yg hidupx lebih sulit, susah dr lu.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

words of truth spoken 💯

@heaefrancineae Ай бұрын

yesyes this is so true and well said❤

@maineng18 Ай бұрын

Second this!

@xwang615 Ай бұрын

listening to your mom say those things to you healed a part of my inner child. i grew up speaking mandarin with my parents too but was always told to work harder, to never take a break, and was always compared to others around me. and i feel so similarly to you, i'm also 23, have no clue what i want to be doing, but this video reminded me that i'm definitely not alone and that i'm enough. thank you linda and happy birthday! and thank you mother sun!

@TheOscarfish1 Ай бұрын

THIS! I'm 30, and felt the same as both you and Linda when I was your age. I believe that you two will find a way to be happy.

@luren3987 Ай бұрын

Hi Linda , I speak mandarin and listening to your mom, how supportive she was , was healing to me and my childhood. Thanks Linda and mama Sun for the advice and for making me feel ok ❤

@emalinel Ай бұрын

Ditto, mama sun is erasing all the pressure I and my family put on myself when I was Linda's age ❤

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

reminder that you are enough simply because u exist and u don't need to prove it to anyone like I often say in my own KZfaq videos the only thing in life that is constant is change so we have to change things around to slowly unfold who we want to be I just enter my 20s and im just realising thing like this and that is why I want to continue doing KZfaq to share my growing journey with others to realise sooner how wonderful they are

@rachael5611 Ай бұрын

God loves you and has a purpose for your life He wants to have a relationship with you if you accept Him You are worthy in His eyes and i hope you can see how much love He has for you and has a purpose for you you dont need to feel this your battles can have a meaning with Him

@helloy11 Ай бұрын

I'm 32 and still have no idea what I want to do or where I'm going but you live day by day, do what makes you happy and be more present. The rest will fall into place.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@sylvielafleur Ай бұрын

31 and still trying to figure it all out. I think everyone feels a but lost and confused no matter the age. Were all trying to our bests.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@@sylvielafleur exactly it's like I said on my latest KZfaq video we all have our journey to go through and that is unique to us

@bkhaang3193 Ай бұрын

I am turning 27 and feel the same! Just recently quit my toxic job and have no clue what I want to do or what I’m doing but I’m giving myself grace and allowing myself this time to truly rest. Wishing everyone the best of luck on their journey.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@@bkhaang3193 girl I am so happy u quit a job that was not. for u I hope u find something that resonates better with u

@anotheramfan2273 Ай бұрын

"why is my brain like this?" this is the thing that struck out the most in this video. you have no idea how many times i felt that i am broken, my thoughts are broken, i will never succeed because i don't even know what i want to succeed in. everyone has goals, everyone has found their passion and i don't have a single thing that i would want to continue doing in the future. you're not the only one who's lost linda, you're strong, you're compassionate and you are enough. you make people like me feel like we're not alone and i want to thank you.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

literally how I feel almost 24/7 like there is always wrong with my brain and that might be bc of my adhd but recently I've realised that as long as I am me there is nothing wrong with me and like you said about passion everyone has different passions and one is not superior to another I actually made a KZfaq video about it recently would love for u to check it out and let me know what u think

@Moose185 Ай бұрын

Not everyone finds their passion, sometimes you’re just surviving but you have to do things which make you happy in life. Does this girl have Bi-polar? As she says she’s super happy or super sad.

@isagoldfield7393 Ай бұрын

🫰🫰🫰

@xerilaun Ай бұрын

❤

@Jesus_lovesyouuu 29 күн бұрын

Jesus loves you Psalms 34:17-22 (NIV) 17 The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. 18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 19 The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all; 20 he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken. 21 Evil will slay the wicked; the foes of the righteous will be condemned. 22 The LORD will rescue his servants; no one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.

@charlene1413 Ай бұрын

your mum's words made me cry.It was like a warm embrace i needed.

@isagoldfield7393 Ай бұрын

♥️♥️♥️

@juuuww Ай бұрын

same here!!!

@madisonsylura825 Ай бұрын

Same my mom says stuff like that all the time and i felt just like linda

@Jesus_lovesyouuu 29 күн бұрын

Psalms 34:17-22 (NIV) 17 The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. 18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 19 The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all; 20 he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken. 21 Evil will slay the wicked; the foes of the righteous will be condemned. 22 The LORD will rescue his servants; no one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.

@Jesus_lovesyouuu 29 күн бұрын

@@madisonsylura825 Psalms 34:17-22 (NIV) 17 The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. 18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 19 The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all; 20 he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken. 21 Evil will slay the wicked; the foes of the righteous will be condemned. 22 The LORD will rescue his servants; no one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.

@kowalawala Ай бұрын

“when i was 13, i thought i’d be in love by 23, and i guess … she was right” this had me CRYIN, it struck such a chord! SHEESH 😭😭😭

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

the best kind of love that we often forget that we can have is the one we have towards ourselves that is what I am coming to realise the more I go through my healing journey and the more I want to share this message with people on my KZfaq channel

@xa1706 Ай бұрын

that was so beautiful honestly

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@@xa1706 agreed

@i.k4207 Ай бұрын

me toooo

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@@i.k4207

@julliii2615 Ай бұрын

Im 20 years old. Im struggling with my dad's cancer and my grandsma's alzheimer at the same time. I work and study online, at the same time. And still, theres people who don't even care and think that Im doing nothing. People will always talk, they always are going to find a way to make you feel less special. But Linda you are special, even if you dont know yet what to do, you're still trying to know. And not everybody trys. Love you!

@brianabull2288 Ай бұрын

actually i don't know what to say. Cause i'm not in your position meaning i don't know how you're feeling. But you are doing great. You can be strong but there's nothing wrong with beeing weak at the same time. one thing i know your life is only yours to live. the worst thing you can do is compares yourlesf to others. you can do it but like in from a healthy criticism. best of luck

@ToniMonteroroman 26 күн бұрын

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@BestOffer-ii9ny 26 күн бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@FabioPioFersini 26 күн бұрын

Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@KenDeep-ky8oi 26 күн бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@BestOffer-ii9ny 26 күн бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@FabioPioFersini 26 күн бұрын

Yes he is dr.porass.

@abblauren Ай бұрын

Your chat with your mom is so healing and she is right you are more admired than you know!!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

and this is true for all of us we often think we are less than we are but like I've realised on my last KZfaq video that I uploaded we are so unique and amazing and I hope one day I can spread this message to a lot more ppl

@jazztonish Ай бұрын

Life after graduation confused my young self the most. No more classes to register for the next semester. I would no longer have the usual dorm room I could go back to. Suddenly, I was alone in this journey. Friends and classmates seemed to know what they were headed next. I didn't want to join a corporate world like everyone else, but I didn't know what I wanted either. I was lost and confused for years. Thanks to my mom who's patient and supportive of whatever I choose and never pressures me into becoming what I'm not. I hope you can get used to being with your confused self. Despite not knowing a clear path, let's do something anyway, accept and stay with this uncomfortable state and learn more about yourself, what you like or dislike.

@Mookei Ай бұрын

Maybe this is weird but as someone with autism that constantly feels lost and like a failure I try to think of it like flowers. Each flower grows at their own pace, requires different needs more water less sun etc. each flower can only truly bloom in certain seasons. You can’t rush it or change it! Maybe sometimes they have a few dead branches every now and again but they always keep on growing. Please never feel like a failure you are doing so much you have grown so much you still are growing so much. You are incredible Linda you help so many and I hope one day you can help yourself just as much. You deserve it!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

I love your way of seeing it with flowers I normally explain it on my KZfaq channel with dogs like we cannot expect a poodle to do and be the same and need the same as a golden retriever so why do we think we need to have the same as others I hope that I can also help as many as Linda has

@debbystragier2154 Ай бұрын

Yeah i’m autistic too and still live at home at 25 years old with barely any social relationships except for my family. Sometimes it makes me feel like a failure but I also know I have improved a lot in recent years.

@elyseirwin2587 Ай бұрын

I’m 37 and just now finding what I want to do and what I truly enjoy. Believe me, you do not need to know who you are and what you want yet. You have all the time in the world. Just take it day by day and you’ll make it through. I absolutely love all your videos and the voiceovers are so over. They are all so insightful. Sending you lots of support and love

@Mookei Ай бұрын

@@oxanadc ohh looking at it as dogs is such a good example too!

@Mookei Ай бұрын

@@debbystragier2154 same here I can't even leave the house on my own. I've tried my best all these years so even if other people see me as a failure I'm doing the best I can and that's what keeps me going.

@bridgettaylor2467 Ай бұрын

Hey !! I’m 25 and turn 26 soon, I’ve taken so many career turns and changes, moved so many times in my life, failed relationships and more I’ve had to start my life from stratch over and over again, but also that was hard doing alone I wouldn’t change it for anything, life isn’t about being perfect or knowing what your doing 24/7. It’s about enjoying your life with people you love and you’ll find you’ll natural change and grow around the right people. Do I know 100% what I wanna be? No! And I trust it because I know if I continue doing what I love everyday my life will continue to grow in the way it should, 23 is so young, man 25 is so young, don’t beat yourself up you’re doing amazing sweetie x

@chikari123 Ай бұрын

When I turned 23 I blasted “what’s my age again” while day drinking to prep myself for the host shift at chilis, in central Florida between two sundown towns and was the only black woman/black person within a 30 mile radius. My (ex) boyfriend was cheating on me and I knew it but I had no home to return to. I’m turning 29 this year and soon will finally be able to kiss my 20s goodbye; don’t believe the hype it’s the worst years of your life but it lays the foundation to build a sense of self. You’ll figure it out!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

glad u got out of that relationship

@xerilaun Ай бұрын

❤

@coleo1356 Ай бұрын

I just wanted to say…I’m 37 and the way you’re feeling is totally normal. You’re not a failure or weird. You are a driven woman and have high expectations for yourself. People NOT having these feelings in their early twenties may wake up later in life and realize they were keeping their heads down and carrying on with what they were “supposed” to do…then it’s even heavier because it starts to feel too late to adjust. I would be grateful you’re having the feelings now…you’re so emotionally intelligent and in touch! We love you!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

that a very nice reminder we often feel pressure to continue with the first thing we choose but like I've recently discovered that I shared on my latest KZfaq vlog is that we can change and often it is exactly this change that makes us discover a new part of ourselves

@soojn0072 Ай бұрын

Thanks for this comment 🥺🙌

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@@soojn0072

@viannedemirel Ай бұрын

Your mom‘s words are so soothing

@friend7031 Ай бұрын

I am old enough to be your mother and YOU inspire me!!!! PLEASE do NOT be so hard on yourself!!! Listen to your mother who is such a wonderful mom, encouraging you and reminding you that YOU are ENOUGH!!!! I would love to have a mom support me as much as your mother supports you!!! Please look at the blessings you have in your life-breaks my heart to see such a beautiful young woman with so much wisdom doubt herself!!! You have so much to be proud of and this community appreciates you!!!❤

@justinehelene4831 Ай бұрын

From the agesof 23 to 30 I beat myself up for being a "failure" I've turned 34 now and no, I don't feel like a success but I know now that berating myself through my 20s was so sad. You're so young and you have so much time even though it doesn't FEEL like it. You do!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

thx for this reminder, I needed this I am currently in a rut, but what has helped me a lot is doing my KZfaq vlogs which I hope one day can help others heal as much as it helps me

@aiyadatantiphong7745 Ай бұрын

🤍

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

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@i4.44h Ай бұрын

listening to you on that call with mom sun honestly made me cry so hard because i'm currently experiencing what you're also going through and listening to her comfort you was so healing. it's hard to explain how hard it feels everyday to really think what you're doing is useless since you have no idea where you'll end up, what your plans are, what the point of all this is. it's been like this for the past year and half bc of uni and i really want to quit but i also feel like i failed, i'm failing. i really want to do stuff when everyone around me is so successful but i know i never try hard enough. i'm sorry for venting but i think i really needed this video, or actually your videos are always so therapeutic and everytime i'm feeling down i always come back here where i feel safe and validated. thank you linda

@paula_m_ Ай бұрын

your moms words really touched me

@anyssareads Ай бұрын

starting crying while listening to that conversation you had with your mom about feeling like a failure, because it reminded me so much of the conversations I had with my mom the entire time I was in college. for some reason I never believed her, but sitting here listening to you talk about how you're feeling the exact same things, and hearing her say the same things to you that my mom says to me heals my heart in a way, and I hope that you be kind to yourself while you deal with these difficult feelings. you deserve grace, Linda, and I hope that you give it to yourself because it is oh so deserved.

@sycamoreleaves74 Ай бұрын

First, I love your videos. Second of all, I am turning 50 at Christmas this year and I still struggle with these things. We have these expectations and whatever else, and life doesn't work out the way you want it to. Be an achiever while others are just left in the dust. We live in a very agist world where we throw away anything and everything that we're done with. You are never too old to set a new goal, dream a new dream, or achieve. Just because there are people out there who tell you that you should be ashamed of certain things are negative and hate themselves and put down your self esteem because it makes them feel good about themselves. Live the dreams. Be who you want to be and don't let others who failed let you feel bad. You CAN.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

omg I needed this reminder I had an awful week but I editing for my next KZfaq vlog has helped me calm me down as i love it so much, I hope to share exactly this through them that we can always improve and set new goals and that age should never stop us

@selmario Ай бұрын

Don't mind me I'm just here to drop a few quotes of the oxherd boy webcomic cause why not🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️ "Have you ever noticed," asked the boy "that nature never rushes and yet all thing are accomplished?" "How do you know which path to take?" the rabbit asked. "Maybe there is no path" replied the boy. "Maybe the path is simply made by walking" "Sometimes, it feels like I have no idea what I'm doing" the ox admitted. "Maybe that's OK," said the rabbit. "Maybe that just means that you are alive."

@Sanjana_green Ай бұрын

Wow, that's incredible. Thank you for sharing.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

I needed this

@G23417 Ай бұрын

I LOVE THESE OMG

@jainysanghavi7936 Ай бұрын

my 16 year old version wanted to heal, love and feel good about my body and that version of me started watching your youtube videos, i feel like there are so many videos where people talk about life and makes video on it but yours is just truly relatable, so amazing i'm 19 rn and i feel good about my choices. you are just amazing.

@mai.berryy Ай бұрын

I had this type of day so many times recently. I’ve just finished uni all my friends have grad jobs and I don’t. I didn’t think it would affect me this much, but it does. But my dad says the same thing your mum tells you. I just got this video recommended to me. Idk I just feel like I’ve gotten a hug, so many people including you feel the same way as me and have the same struggles. I will take each day as it comes. 💗💗

@AK-rt4yl Ай бұрын

girl, just want let you know that you are not alone! But we will handle this! Because we strong! ❤❤

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

exactly we are stronger than we think

@deep981 Ай бұрын

Your mom is a legend she is amazing and you are so lucky to have

@roisin296 7 күн бұрын

There are times that I take breaks from watching KZfaqrs, it's not intentional I guess it just happens, but I always manage to come back here. This channel has helped me out in so many ways and your videos have brought me to tears so many times too 😭 I think I began watching you when I was 13 and I've struggled with my insecurities, my weight, losing friends, bad grades, losing my mam, and the realization that I am and had been living with a toxic family. But this channel reminded me that I'm not and never will be alone and that I have the strength to push through and be the person I need during the hardest of times. I still remember when it felt like I had no hope in the world or myself, but now I know better. I've learned to love myself and everything around me, well most things and to forgive and appreciate what I can't love right now. I still have my problems (who doesn't?) but I've taken the time to learn and love myself to have some sort of idea of the best thing to do in the hard times. Life has improved so much for me and I don't think I would have been able to do it so well without your support and even if I never got to meet you, I will always be grateful for that. Thank you Linda, Happy belated birthday! I hope you enjoyed this one and the many more to come. :)

@hi-ro4ku Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this! It makes everyone feel better about what we are feeling. Last weekend I cried and cried and cried while talking with my mom because I felt like I just couldn’t do it anymore. It didn’t help that most of my classmates and friends always think I have it all together while I do a lot of other stuff, but it rly isn’t that easy as it may seem to them. I have bad anxiety, stress, and my mom always says I’m too hard on myself, but it’s hard to unlearn what I’ve been doing my whole life. I know I will struggle in the future, but I also know I will get better. Your videos are so much help! Thank you so much!

@Julianna-xg8rs Ай бұрын

you are the last person i would call a failure. i’ve actually been bingeee watching your vids for so long. they are so wholesome and bring me joy every time. they really have been helping me since i’ve been having a hard time with having a good relationship with what i eat and my body image. i just want to thank you so much for the support you’ve given me. ❤

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@jessicaredman-27 Ай бұрын

Two seconds in commenting based on the title alone so far. I'll be 28 next month, and I still feel like a failure in life because by now, I thought I'd have a degree, good job, house, and kids, etc. Instead, I live with my parents, dropped out of school, and to top it off, I don't drive.. 😬 So if you think you're a failure Linda, you're not girl! It's all a matter of perspective. You've got your while life ahead of you girl 🤗

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

that is so true, ppl forget often that it is often all about mindset, this is what I've realised as soon as I've started to do my own KZfaq vlogs about motivation and inspirational tips where I want to help other through the healing journey

@marinaluna2799 Ай бұрын

And neither are you. You’re so young and can turn your life around tomorrow! You got this

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

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@chineseinitaly Ай бұрын

you're spreading so much good joy, that's precious

@samihabintarahmat Ай бұрын

Girl you are my inspiration. Don't be so hard on yourself. Seeing you struggle breaks my heart

@shellytng8 Ай бұрын

Linda, please try not to be so hard on yourself. From watching your videos, you have made so many accomplishments than most people at 23 years old. I am 32 and if I could do it again at 23 knowing what I know now, I would tell myself to appreciate what’s in front of me right now. I, like you, had put so much pressure to become a certain person, to do things at a specific time point like getting married by 28 and buying a house by 30. I did all of that - but it’s only temporary satisfaction. I gave away my 20s to school and working at a company until I burnt out and became mentally exhausted. I ended up switching careers doing something different at 30! At 32, I still feel lost but with therapy, I recognize that I don’t always have to have things figured out. I stopped craving to DO more, to BE more than I need to. I like to think that my 30s is my new 20s, except with back pain :) Also, I loved the snippet of your conversation with you and your Mom. Like someone mentioned in the comments, it was healing to my inner child because I crave to have that kind of a relationship with my Mom and just being able to communicate without a language barrier. Thank you for sharing your life and struggles with us. Sending you lots of love and please remember to take care of yourself.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

thank you for this reminder I needed this cause I have felt like a failure this week I haven't been able to finish the vlog for youtbe I wanted to upload I feel like im not studying enough for my exams and just overall so alone but doing KZfaq really helps me as well as cooking I hope to help others realise that they are amazing bc it took me too much time to realise I t

@mmschwartz84 Ай бұрын

I heard this on a podcast and thought it was one of the best pieces of advice: TRUST THE TIMING OF YOUR LIFE. We all have these ideas in our minds of where we want to be, who we want to be, what we want to be and when. None of it is based in reality. Most of it is instilled in us by well-meaning adults as we grow up. The pressure to "know" what we want to be is absolutely absurd. It is like asking a newborn what their favorite food is. When you have yet to experience so much of life and are still figuring out who you are, trying to choose one path to one future life is just... insane! Sometimes I wish I could go back in time knowing what I know now and do it all again. You have an amazing mother who is telling you everything I wish someone had told me when I was 23. She is wise, and so are you. Trust yourself and don't take this one precious life too seriously ❤

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

I agree with what I shared in my last KZfaq video about passion ppl expect to have one passion in life and just go for it but in reality life is constantly changing and so can our passions

@hidaeqbalp2217 13 күн бұрын

Heyy I'm 23, and as I finished watching this video, I realised that it's not only me but everyone goes through this same stage of their life where they feel failed, but trust me, it will all fall into its own place all you have to do is just keep breathing and just do what your feeling best for you don't try to impress anyone just think for you and everything will give you happiness and strength to move forward. And our plans don't always work but still keep going it's ok to take a break when the whole world is ahead, take slow steps, but always keep trusting you cause if you won't no one will.🎉 it's all about you, dear, and when we stop letting, comparing us with others there, you will win

@Louiuiuis Ай бұрын

I have tears in my eyes, this literally means so much to me. Thank you Linda

@fearlessfelines7535 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I love your videos! You have changed my life! I love you! Thank you will never express how grateful I am for you!

@rrrrreaderrrrr9609 Ай бұрын

I needed this video at this exact moment!! (Seriously crying right now)

@zephaniedalafu Ай бұрын

You're so blessed having Mother Sun. Such full of wisdom. What a warmth and moral support. ❤❤❤

@bre23bree Ай бұрын

I found your channel this year, when I really needed to be reminded that I can "do the things" and I want to share that I turned 30 just this past November, and I am STILL figuring out all the things. It's comforting to see someone else navigating this life in the ways you are and being able to see myself in those moments and it inspires me to do more and be more, to share more and to give back to everything more. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and your journey. We are all on different paths but I am so glad to have found your channel this year. I watch as many videos as I see in my notifications and I appreciate "knowing" your path and being able to share some of these versions in different ways of yourself.

@niathomas4371 Ай бұрын

Happy birthday Linda !! You’re not a failure your videos literally give me life !!!

@babygirl81069 Ай бұрын

Happy birthday, Linda! Let's celebrate another year of your wonderful existence.

@Itsstrait Ай бұрын

happy belated birthday 💕 i just want to say thank you for being vulnerable with us.

@Sofia-gr1jk Ай бұрын

Thank you so much Linda for all the compassion and comfort you spread on your channel. I saw myself in many of the things you were saying and it's so comforting to know that we're not alone. It's so easy on social media to think that you are the only person with these problems, but your videos truly are life-changing. I'm a few years younger than you but you're really a role model and so happy I found your channel

@JWJCmo Ай бұрын

Your moms words are so healing, thank you for sharing that ❤️

@user-ng5kn2ms6f Ай бұрын

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LINDA!!🎉❤

@AIGuyReacts18 5 сағат бұрын

Having supportive parents is a blessing. They don't compare you with anyone else. You just got to focus on you're progress and not that of others. That's what will truly make you happy.

@teentene Ай бұрын

Hi Linda, First off, just wanted to greet you a belated Happy Birthday! You have made such a difference in my life ever since I stumbled upon your videos back in covid times. The reason why I love watching your videos is because you are one of the most real and authentic human being on this platform. You are soooo relatable and just know that you are not alone. I am almost going to be 30 and I'm still figuring life out too. You are more than enough and enjoy the small wins everyday. I hope this year brings you a fruitful year with all the love and happiness life brings to you. Know that we're all here for you and rooting for you! Have the best 23rd year of your life. Happy birthday again!

@AngelxNiwa Ай бұрын

I always feel so uplifted and so heard when I watch your videos! I turned 31 this year and have all the same questions and thoughts in my head that you have but only recently have I accepted that everyone else does too! We're all just figuring it out as we go along :)

@EverydayAves Ай бұрын

Linda, you've accomplished so so much!! You're not a failure, you've helped and inspired so many, including me. You're such an idol and please know that. All of us here support you, and we all know that you're such a great person who's achieved so much and will continue to achieve more. ❤ Happy Belated Birthday!! 🎂

@trashyfandom7072 16 күн бұрын

I can’t tell you how much I relate to your videos and it’s so hard to know what we want to do and so many people including myself feel lost and don’t know what they’re doing in life. I feel like lately I’ve been placing so much pressure on myself to do things because without success or being productive I feel worthless, thank you so much for posting your videos because you are not alone in your struggles and it’s inspiring to see how far you’ve come ❤🎉

@sandyhuangng Ай бұрын

i resonate with this so much as a 22yrold med student. im not working, i still have so many yrs ahead of me and its inevitable to look at myself from the lenses of others. i feel so behind sometimes bc i see people around me already graduating and working their way to life. but then i remember that it doesnt rlly matter. my timeline is entirely different than theirs, therefore, what i accomplish and will accomplish will happen at the right time and in the right moment. i hope you find relief knowing that youre never alone in this and that you have so many people around you that understand and care for you. i came upon you once covid hit and since then, youve helped me sm with my self-esteem and self-love. so thank you for everything, i hope you keep finding yourself thru life and never give up whatever makes you happy and in peace. ill be cheering up for u on the side 🫀✨

@mehrineyarally5653 Ай бұрын

I had my birthday 2 days ago and I had a major breakdown. All the goals I've set was nothing like I expected I would be today. I feel like I am not doing anything in my life. Everyone is progressing and growing their career and I'm just here. I went to my mom but she was like ' you are overthinking this whole thing.' What I truly needed was finally heard by your mom. I didn't know how much I needed this. Thank you so much for your videos.

@estelle_makes_music Ай бұрын

you are literally such a comfort person to me and it helps me so much knowing that I'm not alone with my struggles. I actually have similar feelings that you mentioned about my bday in a couple of days. It can be so hard and challenging to grow up and having this kind of feeling of not knowing what's next and not having anything figured out yet and this video was kind of a reminder that I'm not alone with them. Your and your moms adive also helped me so much and reminded me that there is no need to always let the pressure society puts on us control ourselves and that it's fine if you don't know what's next or just take a break and breathe. Life can get so overwhelming but your videos always ground me so much and bring me so much peace. Thank you so so much for sharing your life and journey with us! You are such an amazing soul and i appreciate your content so much!! 🩷

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

first of happy birthday second now what ur not alone I've recently also felt like that but like I share on one of my latest KZfaq videos life changes so what we feel passionate about will change and that is okay I think you will love the message from the videos and would love to know your thoughts

@jillianwallace4387 Ай бұрын

Your mom is so wise - her words made me cry. Exactly what I needed to hear

@leesaw6 Ай бұрын

I love your conversations with your mom, she’s so supportive and you’re so lucky to have her💛. I wish I had somebody that supportive! Sending you both love and good vibes! You’re doing great!

@rosaleeforest8207 Ай бұрын

Aww I love your mum, the way she speaks to you and helps you is amazing. I don't often see people my age struggling with what I'm struggling with. Thank you for making this video. Your doing well and these videos help others too with the support and the acknowledgement that someone else feels the same. The reality of how ppl feel that's something we don't talk about as society's

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

I agree people often only show their ups but we all have lows that is why I love sharing my KZfaq channel to show the ups and lows bc both make up my day and my life they both teach me and from both of them I can learn so much

@stelladeferaudy6426 Ай бұрын

This video had me in tears in the best way! Go Linda! 😊

@deebo6836 7 сағат бұрын

that conversation with your mom was so heartwarming and made my heart throb so hard SOBBING!

@janvigaikwad9674 Ай бұрын

Thank you ❤ you have no idea how much your videos help others.

@mlovess3813 Ай бұрын

I didn't realize how much I needed this video. Thank you for being you and sharing your struggles to help others ❤

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

they always seem to drop just when one needs them I really want to help others through their healing journey with my own KZfaq videos, and I hope I can continue to inspire as many as she has as I love it so much

@asraazeem1023 Ай бұрын

thankyou linda. i didn't know i needed this

@aspennord9144 Ай бұрын

i feel so seen with every video i watch from you. i always need to hear exactly what you are reflecting on. and i also love you seeing you happy and smiling especially after you show raw moments of sadness because it makes me happy to know you've had good moments

@alobiennicky7407 Ай бұрын

I just love how vulnerable you are, it helps me a lot to allow myself to cry whenever I needed and understand that in life you need to be kinder to yourself on the rough days so may face. I will be 27 in 26 days AND this video really inspired me to don't think about the things I haven't done but all the growth and self development I have achived in the past year.

@alexandrarubinstein1523 Ай бұрын

Thank you for what you create 💜

@stellakim5136 Ай бұрын

Linda, you always have that strong powerful message at the end. After your last voice, i’m just wowwed in a pause. Such a moving and inspiring message 💕

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

so inspirational like I was feeling so down lately and like a failure bc I couldn't finish editing the next KZfaq video I had planned, but after this I just feel motivated to do it even more

@courtneyseale4194 Ай бұрын

Your channel and videos are so refreshing. I love how you put yourself out there understanding that everyone struggles and showing relatability helps others in the struggles they think they’re going through. We all feel so along because we’ve gotten so isolated and lost those community structures that we really need. Thank you for providing that community

@Brian-3000 Ай бұрын

Your mom is such a blessing. Truly an angel :,)

@Pswl875 Ай бұрын

YOUR SO INSPIRATIONAL 💕

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

100% agree Idk what I would do this week without this cause I was having an awful one but this + editing for my next yt vlog + cooking has helped me

@ze_multistan_Jay Ай бұрын

You literally are my therapist!❤

@germaine7490 2 күн бұрын

linda, thank you so much for your videos. you have no idea how much of a positive force you are in this world

@karafolkerts Ай бұрын

so soo much love for you. all versions of ourselves are beautiful, whether we see it or not. and often the 'low points' or 'in betweens' are what bring us closer to expansion and growth. you inspire so many!

@mirchen01 Ай бұрын

The best to you ❤

@user-pi9bf8cu4b Ай бұрын

Hey Linda 👋 You probably won't see this comment but YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE I think you improved my relationship with food last year and you definitely inspired my internal glow up e.g introducing me to yoga and baked oats which I now live by I love your videos and I hope you love making them as much ❤ I remember watching your last video and couldn't help but think about how great it would be to be your friend irl 😊 I wish you a blessed and happy life in which you continue inspiring people

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

omg obsessed with anything with oats, and yoghurt bowls like I might be yoghurt by now, I literally had to take my obsession to yoghurt bowls from my KZfaq channel to TikTok where I have now a whole series dedicated to finding different yoghurt bowl toppings

@vycao8016 10 күн бұрын

Your mom is so sweet 🥺 I feel like she was also conforting us as well

@sssimonat Ай бұрын

you have such a beautiful soul 🩷 just keep going, you are perfect as you are 🌈✨

@euiwism Ай бұрын

I needed this, someone i kinda relate to? i needed the encouraging words from both you and your mom. but we all support and love you linda! stay strong!! happy b-day, u deserve the world!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

sometimes all we need is someone to relay to and some reminders that we are stronger than we realise that is one of the main reason I love doing KZfaq vlogs where I hope to motivate others to work on their beautiful self

@Israa_ali95 Ай бұрын

Your vulnerability is the only reason why I started therapy you just being brave gave me the courage to do so to so thank you for being you ❤ :)

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

that was the only reason why I started my own KZfaq channel, she also gave me the courage to put myself out there

@renee8302 Ай бұрын

linda!!! i love it everytime you post - it's so rewarding to see you grow as a person, and also hear your reflections about what you've learnt during the past weeks, months, and years even. it really makes me think about how much i've grown as a person myself, and to not discredit all the little achievements i've made along the way. so, thank you for believing in us and yourself!!!

@spicy-scorpio Ай бұрын

Ok, now I'm crying. Your videos are amazing Linda! You are amazing

@yaranammour1620 Ай бұрын

I really love you❤ you give me alot of good energy, thank you❤❤

@LmanBylrova Ай бұрын

Dear Linda. I am your big fan. I am Azerbaijani. You are a very strong girl. Everyone has problems. There is no problem-free person. Nothing in life comes easy. Every bright end has a thorny path. Just remember this, there's nothing we humans can't do. You need to work hard and not lose heart. I would love to have a friend like you.❤

@babsje_m Ай бұрын

Wow....I cried almost the whole time watching this video. It hit me so hard and it was so relatable. Thank you for sharing this video, because now I know I am not the only one who is stuck and does not / did not like herself. It's like a warm hug you give to insure that you are not alone. I really love your video's and they are so honest and real. Thank you, you are an amazing person even though you sometimes don't feel like that. I can't wait to go on this journey of self love, happiness and contentedness even though it kind of scares me. ❤✨

@gastronomee_ Ай бұрын

been here since 2 years ago and you're part of the reason why i was inspired to start my own channel (around food - even though i used to struggle so much with it). i hope you know what an impact you've made on our lives!

@Ahwwrestling596 Ай бұрын

Lin we all love you your not a failure your one of the most amazing KZfaqrs ever pls don’t let negativity ruin your life we all love you Lin ❤

@Sushi14 Ай бұрын

You literally made me CRY, darling!😢 I'm also in the same phase of my life. Sometimes, I feel like quitting everything and disappear for forever but I again make myself realize that there are so many people out there who are going through soooo muchhhhh, whose condition is much more worse than mine but they still are going strong. If they can do it so can I. If I can do it so can you. No matter how hard you think your everyday life is, remember that YOU ARE NOT ALONE. And yes there are so many people who seems to be very happy and living a luxurious life and working three or four or five jobs. Seeing them, it feels like they have such a beautiful and wonderful lifestyle. It instantly makes us feel like a LOSER. We start to comparing ourselves with them. They might be hanging out with huge circle of friends, partying everyday, going on an expensive vacations..............but who knows what's going on inside!?! That's why, know your worth and keep going. Everything has it's own time. You deserve everything in the world. It might takes some time, but I know you'll be there one day. LOVE YOU❤ KEEP TRYING AND KEEP SMILING😊

@Veagence100 5 күн бұрын

Never let anyone tell you your doing so much and you have to chill. theres always something for you to do

@kay.cottrell Ай бұрын

all of your feelings are valid and your videos make me feel at peace you’re doing great!

@hereiam587 Ай бұрын

'Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.' - Matthew 11:28

@afrofaeries Ай бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾 ❤ As a 19 year old college student, I grew up in a emotionally abusive environment and I never knew Jesus besides church hurt and religion. Now, I permanently left that place in my life and adulthood is more doable knowing that God is in my life first and foremost ❤🎉✝️

@fiat_maria Ай бұрын

Amen. I felt exactly how Linda feels in this video for the longest time.. and the only thing that could save me was our Lord.

@voilesty1586 Ай бұрын

I am 25. I still dont know what im doing with my life. I'll be done with my thesis in 5 days. I do not know what to do after this, but please know: it will alllll be okay in the end. You. Will. Be. Okay. We all will be.

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

good luck with your thesis currently in exam period and I feel so lost already and overwhelmed I feel like I need ot have everything figured out now

@voilesty1586 Ай бұрын

@@oxanadc You can do this! You will be okay!

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

@@voilesty1586 thank you

@alissosonvasq 28 күн бұрын

I’m so grateful you posted this❤

@MarianaHoyos Ай бұрын

Lindaaa, your videos give me literal chills! In a good way. While I was watching this one, I smiled to see you making friends and being happy, I cried when you cried and when I listened to your mom’s words. Thank you for all of the good energy and lessons that you give through your videos. You have no idea how much I identify with you. I’m so proud of you! ❤️

@M_a5l7 Ай бұрын

If you didn’t fail you’re not going to succeed. Don’t say that your a failure your videos and vlogs are amazing 😻

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

without failing no one ever succeeds that's literally what I've come to realise in my latest KZfaq video which I think was one of my best 😄

@taiiciirhd9938 Ай бұрын

my favorite girl 😍 i love your videos so much

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

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@kellytokarski258 Ай бұрын

Thank you for being so vulnerable Linda, I needed to hear a lot of the things you said!

@hiianaya Ай бұрын

Your mom's advice is so amazing and validating!

@cherryblossom6125 Ай бұрын

On tiiime 😭💔💔i was feeling the same wayyy

@oxanadc Ай бұрын

me too I had an awful day yesterday and this was just what I needed to get me through the week but I am excited to upload my new yt vlog soon

@youthslivingfaith5797 Ай бұрын

Call on Jesus Christ, we need a relationship with God. Without God we are unfulfilled ❤️

@sushmithamunibathyappa2749 Ай бұрын

this video felt like a hug ( a hug that didnt let go ). i am so glad you kept on going! thank you so much ! ❤

@viktoogood Ай бұрын

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@kemciclekemi6453 27 күн бұрын

I'm 26. Went through the same issues. Nothing was never enough. Everytime I obtained something, it would only give me momentary happiness before I'd try to acheive something else. Thought taking breaks and doing nothing meant i was being lazy but since finding Jesus Christ, I realized that even he, the God that created all things, took a break.😂 Sometimes simply living and doing the things that interests you, whether temporary or not, Is just as proactive as these "grinders" are. Don't let social media or how others choose to live their lives, make you feel like trash. Always recall your past to understand that you've actually did more than you thought. I recommend pursuing Jesus, really anyone that reads this, pursue JESUS! He answers all questions, fills the void in your heart, and FINALLY satifies you!