Do you feel like you put effort in to how you look everyday?💕

“Self care doesn’t come second nature to me” yessss I feel you 100% on this I’m so glad I’m not the only one that feels this way. Most relatable KZfaqr and I’m so glad I found your videos and subscribed

I had to learn this too. I threw away all of my busted t shirts and leggings to basically force myself to look put together everyday ( not saying anyone else should do this) & I wear matching pjs to bed or comfy matching sets around the house so I can be put together in the house too.

I’m in my mid 20s too and it’s crazy how we both had this epiphany at the same time. For the past week or so, I’ve started taking more time in the morning to look my best and honestly my mood has been better than it has for a while. Looking good really does equal feeling good!

I feel you on this. Especially being a stay at home mom right now.

"I present how I feel." Wow Tay you done said a word!!!! I agree. I'm right there with you, I don't care too much how I look when I step out but I do love getting dolled up once in awhile and feeling even more cute, making people double take and look back at me. This made me want to get my hair & nails done!! The hair girlies be trippin with the prices tho lol!! 💕

Thank you this video, your relatability and honesty is admirable. I just turned 24, and I was just talking about how I wanted to start dressing more like a woman. I want to start dressing myself up, and enjoy exploring different looks.

idk why this made me emotional lol but I just hope you want to do this for YOURSELF and not b/c you feel like you have to. People love realness

I definitely needed to see this video. I’m 22 and I’m a stay at home mom while I am in school and I never feel like doing my hair or being presentable bc I am tired or just don’t feel like putting forth the effort. But I need to put forth the effort bc I will be a teacher in the next 2 years. And this video definitely put things into perspective. Thank you for this video!!

10000% agree that’s where I’m at in life too 😭😭 it’s so hard to stay consistent when dealing with life, depression, anxiety. But we shall push thru 👏🏽👏🏽 we trying ❤

My good sis is always on time with the videos. You never fail to always have me laughing, and smiling I always feel like I’m talking to a home girl or a sister. We love you because you’re relatable nothing wrong with the 24/7 glam girlies but it’s refreshing to see someone as authentic as yourself. Sweatpants, bonnet, heels, dress we like who YOU ARE! You are absolutely stunning by the way ✨ Love you Tay 🫶🏼🥰

I felt this I am a mom of two and I never make time for myself all of me gets poured into my family and it’s time give me a little more love and self care ❤

The thing is, you are allowed to change and evolve. It’s growth, it’s maturity. And what’s so great is that you do have others in your same field as a public figure that you can be inspired by, but it wasn’t their influence that brought you to this point, it’s based in your own feelings and thoughts of how you want to present and be perceived in the world. You’re just learning yourself and growing into that. Totally normal and natural at your age.

This was perfect timing .. I’m legit going through this rn .. I couldn’t describe it at first but you described it perfectly

I'm glad you said scratch the makeup because makeup unfortunately usually has some amount of heavy metals in it. So it's definitely good for you that you don't where it often. But besides that I like that you're taking time to reflect and act upon that self reflection. It's clear that this is a part of you that's been there before you shared it with us, but it's really cool to see. Thanks for sharing. :)

This!! My NY resolution was to be more presentable. I know I’m not ugly or “bummy”, but most of time I’m in a hat with a dry ass bun. I told my self to step more into my soft-girl era/feminine side. Which to me is just how I present myself. Even if I’m running errands, I don’t want to look like I just threw anything up. I want to look well put together & still be able to carry the look somewhere else other than just running errands. I tend to save looks/outfits for occasions that never happen & I want to stop that. I don’t need to only put lashes on when I’m going out, I don’t need to only throw makeup on if it’s for an occasion, etc. etc.

First off!!! Your hair is beautiful! Now let me finish watching because i was ready to run 🏃🏾‍♀️ to the comments to let you know!!

I feel this fr, I was raised to "just put on something so we can go" and "ain't nobody worried about what you wearing" but I cared. I wanted to care and be put together but it was kinda suppressed until I fr didn't care anymore. I'm 28 and I just started to take care of myself more and I feel so weird but better lol. Definitely feel you on the survival self care too

But I totally understand exactly what your saying because I do the same thing its just not being in the state of mind of being confortable looking "bummy"

I relate to this so much! I want to look nice, but I just don’t have the motivation. Most days I can only do the bare minimum. Anything more feels like a task.

I def feel this! Taylor you are beautiful and you deserve to show it off! I can relate as I'm a grown woman too who wants to feel more beautiful...It's to the point where I compare myself and give excuses to 'why I'm not pretty enough' to be a social media influencer, or even simply to take pictures. And this wasn't how I always was. I think after the panoramic I gained so much weight that now I hate seeing pictures of myself or even wearing certain tight clothes I use to wear...I never take full body pictures anymore sadly and I want to change that... I'm with you Taylor, we can all find our true confidence while giving ourselves grace!

I most definitely was finna race to the comments with the most thoughtful message about how you're gorgeous. I mist definitely was

Yasssssss!!! I felt this on a personal level! I’ll be working on this, I’ve been in the mindset of I only need to put my “better” on when I’d be out with my friends, but doing for myself is def a confidence boost that’s needed Thank you for this ❤

First off, I love the editing in this video. It’s such a vibe. And second, thank you so much for sharing this Tay. I find that my outer appearance is often a reflection of my mental state. When I’m super stressed or going through it I opt for baggy or super casual/cozy clothing because it’s comforting, almost like a security blanket. When I’m in a great place mentally and emotionally I feel more drawn to wearing dresses and cuter outfits. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dressing super casual or in baggy clothing but I just noticed I tend to do so when I don’t feel like I’m at my best. I think it’s partly because when I’m in a bad mood I literally feel icky about myself so I don’t feel like dressing “pretty.” 😅😂 Also, when I’m in a bad mental state I just want to be invisible and avoid human contact when I’m out in public, and I feel like people are more inclined to look at you or talk to you or when you’re looking really cute. 🤣

Oh wow I truly love this video!! I can definitely relate,,, I started a self-love health and wellness journey for the past 4 years and when I tell you it hasn’t been smooth at ALL but man I came a looong way 🥲. I do wear makeup daily (for work or for lunch) , I do my hair and nails on a regular , I lost 100 pounds (again it’s been like 4-5 years to do) and I THANK GOD!!!!!! Because I didn’t even want to be here on earth 🌍 I was ready to go!!! BUT GOD 🙌🏽

To me that just make you more relatable in my opinion yes I know we feel our best when we’re done up but that not us all the time I think meeting people I’m you “raw” state and not influencer state speaks more

Man I had the same epiphany when I looked in the mirror the other day !! I wanted to start taking more pride in my hair !! I needed to hear this and it feels good to know I’m not the only one . I’m a sahm of two and feel like I don’t put enough effort when I’m a nice looking girl . Kinda makes me feel insecure/motivates me when I see other women put together sometimes

Sameeee....I always look dusty too😢😢 part of it is definitely laziness and I need to change that fr

I’ve always been someone to just look/dress nice where ever I go even the grocery store it just makes me feel good & it’s worth it when others recognize it and compliment you

I myself always had a mother that made me feel insecure for not looking "put together" when going outside. Rather than being taught to look put together for myself, I was taught to look put together for another people, so they wouldn't judge me. As I've grown and learned to be put together for myself, I have become more confident having dusty days and presentable days. Personally, having too many dusty days makes me feel down and bummy, but having too many presentable days makes me feel pressured to always look good and makes me feel like everyone is staring at me and expecting me to look amazing which makes me feel even more worse when I am having a not so good day. The balance of dusty days and presentable days are key for me. I feel like having too much of one side can have its negative affects. It's best to mix it up

I love how relatable this is I have been slacking on my self care because I’m always working but now I need to find ways to put time in for myself❤

“I need to change what my default is” I love how you worded this! ❤

This! I'm working on this RIGHT NOW. Thank you for being so transparent 🌟

This is really inspired me to continue on my self care journey and healing i just turned 22 so I need to step up my game on just me being me plus I have a one year old. Me being a single mom I need to put my best self first all the time.

Same I feel so much better going outside put together instead of looking crazy ….I have to start keeping up with the BARE minimum…I wash my behind brush my teeth all that but I stopped putting in effort to keep my nails and toes done and thread the brows. Thank you for this video !

Sis why are we so in alignment!!! Like omg. I literally don’t have a consistent bone in my body when it comes to self care BUT I’m changing what my default is like you said! I just never felt the need to present myself for PEOPLE…. And I also present how I feel too so it’s like … it’s like ugh. Bottom line is we just never had to do too much! But a little razzle dazzle never hurt💚

Ugh i felt this video. I literally wear the same clothes all the time. I have sp much self hatred that its hard for me to add new clothes to my small stash. I hate shopping. Im a mom so when i do out i always end up shopping for my daughter or my bf instead of myself. I always feel so ugly even tho i get told im pretty. This goes deeper for me. This is years of insecurities since a child. I need to try harder and work on it because i cant teach my little one self love if I dont practice being kinder to myself. Baby steps tho. Thanks for reminding me. ❤

This describes me so perfectly! It don’t come second nature to me either! I wasn’t taught this at all!

I related to this too bad omg I lost myself

I agree after I had my two kids I just let my self go I always looking at other people and saying wow she look put together and then I loose confidence but watching this I will try spend an extra 10 mins to make myself presentable😊

Girl I'm going through this same exact thing....

YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL 💕.

Yes omg I struggle with this since young I always asked older girls for tips on how to shop etc but never got that and still kinda hard 🥺

weeee loveee youuu tayy, girl i love your videos sm you always make my day !

First off you were the very first person I’ve ever subscribe to on KZfaq. Before finding your channel I never would subscribe ever. I literally used to feel like I was watching myself….however I can honestly say self care was second nature to me a few years ago. I always looked presentable because I grew up being told I had to. After I had my first child at 22 I let myself go. The thought of doing my hair was like draining, yuck. My gma and friends would tell me like you used to be so pretty and always kept your hair looking nice what happened??? I would defend myself saying who cares, it’s my hair in its natural state appreciate it. Or if I went out with my bonnet I’d defend saying people wear hats and head wraps all the time what’s the difference. I be wanting to look and feel like my old self BUT it honestly is hard. Depression is HARD!!!!!

I definitely feel the same way. I’m trying to tap more into my feminine energy because I’ve been use to suppressing it because I hate attention and people looking at me but then on the other hand I’m like I need to put myself out there more and dress how I want and be confident. I absolutely love you Tay & thank you for always being transparent 🫶🏾😍🥰

I LOVED everything about this Video Tay💕i completely get where you Come from. I learned about looking Good from influencers and people I watched online. It definitely wasn’t second nature for me . But I get what you’re saying girl , when you look good you feel good . I just became an assistant store manager at a clothing store and I briefly felt I didn’t belong because I wasn’t wearing what everyone else was wearing and I wasn’t coming in with a beat face. But I was like girl . Why aren’t you dressing the part??? So now I’m putting more effort into my look 🌸

I relate to this so bad! I’m in my mid 20s too and i been having the same thoughts. Not caring about what other people think of you is a blessing but can also be a curse

i love that you talked about this because I do the same thing, just throw on whatever and don't worry too much about my appearance. However, it's like you said, you want to put that extra effort in because it'll make you feel better

i feel u girl!

Same here girl I felt this, you not alone! I’m trying to get into the same habit of self care when I go out, even when I stay in. Stay beautiful!!

As a psychologist I love and support this message as this is what I definitely tell my clients do - which is to invest and take time in things that make you feel better about you. There is a direct correlation to self-esteem, self worth, self validation, self appreciation, your own abilities and how you feel when you walk into a room. So big up to you, Taylor. You should make this a series on your channel.

I find that we women will do all this one day n the next we back to that depressed look

I was just thinking about this earlier, I was gonna start doing it next week but imma take this as a sign and start tomorrow

I love this video so much, I used to always get done up no matter what. Then lost myself and stopped caring. I’ve been feeling the sameee I gotta look presentable ❤

This video was for me because I was thinking about this last week. Thanks for the motivation

FactZ 💯💯🔥🔥 You Are Really Beautiful ❤️❤️ Self Care Is The Best Care

I love this! I just started having the same realization about myself this year, and started making changes, but I have been slacking lately. You motivated me! I love your videos girl

I loved every single thing about this video👏🏽🥹

Heyyyyy Tay, we missed you ❤. I resonate with everything you said.

See for me, I used to be that girl that always looked put together. From age 18-21. After I dropped out of college & life got to lifing lol I just stopped caring. Now I’m in this weird place I have to REteach myself self care & im so lost idk where to start *sigh*

I’m so glad I’ve came across this video ❤️.

You deff giving in this viddy. This video resonates with me.

I related to this so much I’m feeling this exact way ❤️

What defines someone as pretty: Taypancakes❤

Girl your messages be so damn powerful!! I know exactly what you mean. I too didn’t grow up with self care as a priority, and it does make you feel better about yourself. We’re growing and learning, and your doing amazing. We love you girl keep doing you Boo❤

Love this Tay! Congrats on your new journey 🫶🏽

This right here !! I needed this !! Love you always tayyy !! 🫶🏽🥹

i literally feel this way but idk how to change it

I wish I could hug you I say it so much and you never see it but YOUR SUCH A DOLL BABY I PROMISE YOUR BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT no matter what

This was everything I needed this talk

I love this so relatable!

I put in effort when I go to work, other than that, DUSTY.

Glad someone put into words what I've been thinking lately

Personally, I work in a warehouse and I don't really go out like that so I don't really focus on trying to dress up every day just something comfortable and don't wear makeup most days. Most people are going to the store in regular clothes if it's not sweats or even pajamas, most of the ladies who are looking more "put together" are doing it for a reason because they feel like it's worth it, maybe they are going to work or they just like that boost of looking good or they might not feel like being judged that day. A lot of people aren't looking like that every day even if that's what they choose to show on social media. Most people are chilling in regular clothes unless they maybe want to look good that day, you don't always have to feel that energy to put in more effort than you feel like that day. Self care can mean different things like healthy eating, working out, skincare and moisturizing whatever, things that can help you in multiple ways and last longer than the more temporary treatments like manicures and shorter term hairstyles. I'm trying to get more into beauty type things but I don't really know how to do makeup and a lot of these things just cost money.

I love this video girlfriend. I definitely relate bc I feel the exact same way.

I absolutely love this!!!

Loved this video Tay!❤️❤️Going through the exact same situation!

I don't think just because you leave the house bare face doesn't make you any less put together but I still love the video❤

Wow this really like woke me up, because I realized I do the same exact thing

Thank you Taylor for this video, I deffo needed this boost of motivation today and for the future 💕💕💕

Yes girl thanks for being real, honest and relatable. I sometimes too don't feel pretty (as maintaince wise); yes I know I'm beautiful, I get attention and compliments blah blah but I wish I took more time with my maintenance. I'm in my mid twenties as well, I see the girlies be feminine, and I walk around not caring, go to the gym, school, work etc but the pandemic made me comfortable into not being put together anymore and I'm struggling going back to the pre pandemic me and stop doing myself dirty.❤ thanks for making me not feel alone

I love the transparency!!! Thank you for sharing and I pray this journey goes so well for you! May you prosper and flourish 🩵

0-3:16 I understand where you're coming from. It's like an uncut diamond vs. the refined stone. Both are the SAME diamond, but once it's been cut and polished it's a better version of the SAME diamond.

i love this

The energy in this world lately has been “self journey and self discovery” and I LOVE IT SM!!!

This is definitely what we needed to hear! I thank you Tay for speaking for most of all of us, I am sure we all have these moments! I most definitely related to everything!!! ❤❤❤❤

I have been struggling with going out any type of way lately, I thought I was in a funk but it just became how I presented on a regular, this video feels like a wake-up call to get myself back together.

I relate to this so deeply it’s insane! Literally the same age & always thought we have so many similarities personality wise based off your videos & you just got even more relatable lmfao love that you’re trying I am too girl I just take it one day at a time. Like big on the never dirty but the effort be very much bare minimum on my part which will solidify how bad I’m feeling but the extra effort definitely makes a difference when I attempt

Yea I thought this lately whew it's a slap

You are gorgeous!!!

Thank you for speaking up on this! I’m in this era now at 25. I feel more like the woman I’ve always wanted to be when I put daily effort into my appearance 🩷

I LOVE THIS 🥺❤️❤️

I love the hair

Love this message ❤️

I like this video. This is a constant reminder for me

This is very relatable ❤

Come onnnn its giving put that shit on eraa 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

This was so relatable.❤

you have no idea how many girls you've helped heal today. as a subscriber i absolutely love you and miss your weekly content, we miss you queen!