Do you feel like you put effort in to how you look everyday?💕
@lavaman1997 Жыл бұрын
Yup I do forsure I just gotta feel confident and look the best I can be by the help of the Lord
@AndreaG214 Жыл бұрын
I just finished watching and I understood where you were coming from and what you meant. I had that epiphany in high school about my weight and how I looked. I made a change and I’ve been consistent in my confidence and how I dressed ever since.
@ParisHayes1989 Жыл бұрын
Girl no! I relate to every word. Oh I'm just running in and out, nobody there to impress, imma be late if I don't go now, just like u said outside reflection of the inside but we can reverse it. If we make our outside look better in turn we will feel better inside. Thanks for this on time video I needed this message today
@kajunsquad5510 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely don’t and I feel that the only time I get dressed up and do my makeup and hair I have to be going somewhere. I’m so used to being a stahm that I have definitely lost myself for sure and I definitely need to work on getting myself together and not allow it to be because I’m creating content but to do it for myself.
@alimeninelisleri1289 Жыл бұрын
Merhaba canım kolay gelsin hayırlı sabahlar eline emeğine sağlık
@Dalybabyyy Жыл бұрын
“Self care doesn’t come second nature to me” yessss I feel you 100% on this I’m so glad I’m not the only one that feels this way. Most relatable KZfaqr and I’m so glad I found your videos and subscribed
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
♥️♥️♥️
@Mytwoocents Жыл бұрын
I had to learn this too. I threw away all of my busted t shirts and leggings to basically force myself to look put together everyday ( not saying anyone else should do this) & I wear matching pjs to bed or comfy matching sets around the house so I can be put together in the house too.
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
love this! that’s my next step lol, I was just shopping for cute pjs!
@janelfaith18 Жыл бұрын
Yess!! I’ve been doing this as well. It’s definitely been helping my mood
@ItsMollyMae Жыл бұрын
I thought I was the only one like this , I hold onto messed up clothes but I started to let them go
@iLoveMoney309 Жыл бұрын
I’m in my mid 20s too and it’s crazy how we both had this epiphany at the same time. For the past week or so, I’ve started taking more time in the morning to look my best and honestly my mood has been better than it has for a while. Looking good really does equal feeling good!
@tichellegarrett9143 Жыл бұрын
I feel you on this. Especially being a stay at home mom right now.
@nenenord6320 Жыл бұрын
"I present how I feel." Wow Tay you done said a word!!!! I agree. I'm right there with you, I don't care too much how I look when I step out but I do love getting dolled up once in awhile and feeling even more cute, making people double take and look back at me. This made me want to get my hair & nails done!! The hair girlies be trippin with the prices tho lol!! 💕
@Lauryn22Love Жыл бұрын
Thank you this video, your relatability and honesty is admirable. I just turned 24, and I was just talking about how I wanted to start dressing more like a woman. I want to start dressing myself up, and enjoy exploring different looks.
@chuchicrucial Жыл бұрын
idk why this made me emotional lol but I just hope you want to do this for YOURSELF and not b/c you feel like you have to. People love realness
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
it’s definitely for me! 💕 just taking steps to feel better and take better care of myself.
@destineeanders6380 Жыл бұрын
I definitely needed to see this video. I’m 22 and I’m a stay at home mom while I am in school and I never feel like doing my hair or being presentable bc I am tired or just don’t feel like putting forth the effort. But I need to put forth the effort bc I will be a teacher in the next 2 years. And this video definitely put things into perspective. Thank you for this video!!
@GoddessNigiste Жыл бұрын
10000% agree that’s where I’m at in life too 😭😭 it’s so hard to stay consistent when dealing with life, depression, anxiety. But we shall push thru 👏🏽👏🏽 we trying ❤
@alexisrushing7518 Жыл бұрын
My good sis is always on time with the videos. You never fail to always have me laughing, and smiling I always feel like I’m talking to a home girl or a sister. We love you because you’re relatable nothing wrong with the 24/7 glam girlies but it’s refreshing to see someone as authentic as yourself. Sweatpants, bonnet, heels, dress we like who YOU ARE! You are absolutely stunning by the way ✨ Love you Tay 🫶🏼🥰
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
Love you! ♥️♥️
@chanelc924 Жыл бұрын
I felt this I am a mom of two and I never make time for myself all of me gets poured into my family and it’s time give me a little more love and self care ❤
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
♥️
@soundslike_markeetuh Жыл бұрын
The thing is, you are allowed to change and evolve. It’s growth, it’s maturity. And what’s so great is that you do have others in your same field as a public figure that you can be inspired by, but it wasn’t their influence that brought you to this point, it’s based in your own feelings and thoughts of how you want to present and be perceived in the world. You’re just learning yourself and growing into that. Totally normal and natural at your age.
@itsjustkeria Жыл бұрын
This was perfect timing .. I’m legit going through this rn .. I couldn’t describe it at first but you described it perfectly
@Gabekhp Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you said scratch the makeup because makeup unfortunately usually has some amount of heavy metals in it. So it's definitely good for you that you don't where it often. But besides that I like that you're taking time to reflect and act upon that self reflection. It's clear that this is a part of you that's been there before you shared it with us, but it's really cool to see. Thanks for sharing. :)
@liciaandrea9789 Жыл бұрын
This!! My NY resolution was to be more presentable. I know I’m not ugly or “bummy”, but most of time I’m in a hat with a dry ass bun. I told my self to step more into my soft-girl era/feminine side. Which to me is just how I present myself. Even if I’m running errands, I don’t want to look like I just threw anything up. I want to look well put together & still be able to carry the look somewhere else other than just running errands. I tend to save looks/outfits for occasions that never happen & I want to stop that. I don’t need to only put lashes on when I’m going out, I don’t need to only throw makeup on if it’s for an occasion, etc. etc.
@AndreaG214 Жыл бұрын
First off!!! Your hair is beautiful! Now let me finish watching because i was ready to run 🏃🏾♀️ to the comments to let you know!!
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
Thank you ♥️♥️
@marycollins5823 Жыл бұрын
I feel this fr, I was raised to "just put on something so we can go" and "ain't nobody worried about what you wearing" but I cared. I wanted to care and be put together but it was kinda suppressed until I fr didn't care anymore. I'm 28 and I just started to take care of myself more and I feel so weird but better lol. Definitely feel you on the survival self care too
@alexiphillips702 Жыл бұрын
But I totally understand exactly what your saying because I do the same thing its just not being in the state of mind of being confortable looking "bummy"
@borahaechan Жыл бұрын
I relate to this so much! I want to look nice, but I just don’t have the motivation. Most days I can only do the bare minimum. Anything more feels like a task.
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
I completely feel you on this! take baby steps and push yourself a little more each day, until it doesn’t feel like a task & turns into a habit💕
@CierraHatley Жыл бұрын
I def feel this! Taylor you are beautiful and you deserve to show it off! I can relate as I'm a grown woman too who wants to feel more beautiful...It's to the point where I compare myself and give excuses to 'why I'm not pretty enough' to be a social media influencer, or even simply to take pictures. And this wasn't how I always was. I think after the panoramic I gained so much weight that now I hate seeing pictures of myself or even wearing certain tight clothes I use to wear...I never take full body pictures anymore sadly and I want to change that... I'm with you Taylor, we can all find our true confidence while giving ourselves grace!
@princessmia1553 Жыл бұрын
I most definitely was finna race to the comments with the most thoughtful message about how you're gorgeous. I mist definitely was
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
♥️♥️♥️ I appreciate it
@Shortdna31 Жыл бұрын
Yasssssss!!! I felt this on a personal level! I’ll be working on this, I’ve been in the mindset of I only need to put my “better” on when I’d be out with my friends, but doing for myself is def a confidence boost that’s needed Thank you for this ❤
@candacew.6453 Жыл бұрын
First off, I love the editing in this video. It’s such a vibe. And second, thank you so much for sharing this Tay. I find that my outer appearance is often a reflection of my mental state. When I’m super stressed or going through it I opt for baggy or super casual/cozy clothing because it’s comforting, almost like a security blanket. When I’m in a great place mentally and emotionally I feel more drawn to wearing dresses and cuter outfits. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dressing super casual or in baggy clothing but I just noticed I tend to do so when I don’t feel like I’m at my best. I think it’s partly because when I’m in a bad mood I literally feel icky about myself so I don’t feel like dressing “pretty.” 😅😂 Also, when I’m in a bad mental state I just want to be invisible and avoid human contact when I’m out in public, and I feel like people are more inclined to look at you or talk to you or when you’re looking really cute. 🤣
@TheeAfroHippie Жыл бұрын
Oh wow I truly love this video!! I can definitely relate,,, I started a self-love health and wellness journey for the past 4 years and when I tell you it hasn’t been smooth at ALL but man I came a looong way 🥲. I do wear makeup daily (for work or for lunch) , I do my hair and nails on a regular , I lost 100 pounds (again it’s been like 4-5 years to do) and I THANK GOD!!!!!! Because I didn’t even want to be here on earth 🌍 I was ready to go!!! BUT GOD 🙌🏽
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
love this♥️
@melaninatedbeauty8470 Жыл бұрын
To me that just make you more relatable in my opinion yes I know we feel our best when we’re done up but that not us all the time I think meeting people I’m you “raw” state and not influencer state speaks more
@almondkissed3794 Жыл бұрын
Man I had the same epiphany when I looked in the mirror the other day !! I wanted to start taking more pride in my hair !! I needed to hear this and it feels good to know I’m not the only one . I’m a sahm of two and feel like I don’t put enough effort when I’m a nice looking girl . Kinda makes me feel insecure/motivates me when I see other women put together sometimes
@shaniahobbs Жыл бұрын
Sameeee....I always look dusty too😢😢 part of it is definitely laziness and I need to change that fr
@kayalex78 Жыл бұрын
I’ve always been someone to just look/dress nice where ever I go even the grocery store it just makes me feel good & it’s worth it when others recognize it and compliment you
@d1ckndba11z7 Жыл бұрын
I myself always had a mother that made me feel insecure for not looking "put together" when going outside. Rather than being taught to look put together for myself, I was taught to look put together for another people, so they wouldn't judge me. As I've grown and learned to be put together for myself, I have become more confident having dusty days and presentable days. Personally, having too many dusty days makes me feel down and bummy, but having too many presentable days makes me feel pressured to always look good and makes me feel like everyone is staring at me and expecting me to look amazing which makes me feel even more worse when I am having a not so good day. The balance of dusty days and presentable days are key for me. I feel like having too much of one side can have its negative affects. It's best to mix it up
@lulaniharmony6695 Жыл бұрын
I love how relatable this is I have been slacking on my self care because I’m always working but now I need to find ways to put time in for myself❤
@lvlyons89 Жыл бұрын
“I need to change what my default is” I love how you worded this! ❤
@tinaoliver7836 Жыл бұрын
This! I'm working on this RIGHT NOW. Thank you for being so transparent 🌟
@riaha9902 Жыл бұрын
This is really inspired me to continue on my self care journey and healing i just turned 22 so I need to step up my game on just me being me plus I have a one year old. Me being a single mom I need to put my best self first all the time.
@SierraBlair Жыл бұрын
Same I feel so much better going outside put together instead of looking crazy ….I have to start keeping up with the BARE minimum…I wash my behind brush my teeth all that but I stopped putting in effort to keep my nails and toes done and thread the brows. Thank you for this video !
@zful291 Жыл бұрын
Sis why are we so in alignment!!! Like omg. I literally don’t have a consistent bone in my body when it comes to self care BUT I’m changing what my default is like you said! I just never felt the need to present myself for PEOPLE…. And I also present how I feel too so it’s like … it’s like ugh. Bottom line is we just never had to do too much! But a little razzle dazzle never hurt💚
@zful291 Жыл бұрын
& I even sometimes get compliments when I look dusty and fresh out the bed so it’s like… 😐
@ritzismynamo Жыл бұрын
Ugh i felt this video. I literally wear the same clothes all the time. I have sp much self hatred that its hard for me to add new clothes to my small stash. I hate shopping. Im a mom so when i do out i always end up shopping for my daughter or my bf instead of myself. I always feel so ugly even tho i get told im pretty. This goes deeper for me. This is years of insecurities since a child. I need to try harder and work on it because i cant teach my little one self love if I dont practice being kinder to myself. Baby steps tho. Thanks for reminding me. ❤
@lolabunny1157 Жыл бұрын
This describes me so perfectly! It don’t come second nature to me either! I wasn’t taught this at all!
@ItsAaliyahsLife Жыл бұрын
I related to this too bad omg I lost myself
@britanybullard1 Жыл бұрын
I agree after I had my two kids I just let my self go I always looking at other people and saying wow she look put together and then I loose confidence but watching this I will try spend an extra 10 mins to make myself presentable😊
@alexiabanks4585 Жыл бұрын
Girl I'm going through this same exact thing....
@MunaKarim Жыл бұрын
YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL 💕.
@ShonnaBryonna Жыл бұрын
Yes omg I struggle with this since young I always asked older girls for tips on how to shop etc but never got that and still kinda hard 🥺
@c.hrx0nii Жыл бұрын
weeee loveee youuu tayy, girl i love your videos sm you always make my day !
@TayPancakes Жыл бұрын
♥️♥️
@driasdream Жыл бұрын
First off you were the very first person I’ve ever subscribe to on KZfaq. Before finding your channel I never would subscribe ever. I literally used to feel like I was watching myself….however I can honestly say self care was second nature to me a few years ago. I always looked presentable because I grew up being told I had to. After I had my first child at 22 I let myself go. The thought of doing my hair was like draining, yuck. My gma and friends would tell me like you used to be so pretty and always kept your hair looking nice what happened??? I would defend myself saying who cares, it’s my hair in its natural state appreciate it. Or if I went out with my bonnet I’d defend saying people wear hats and head wraps all the time what’s the difference. I be wanting to look and feel like my old self BUT it honestly is hard. Depression is HARD!!!!!
@BrwnskinUnicrn Жыл бұрын
I definitely feel the same way. I’m trying to tap more into my feminine energy because I’ve been use to suppressing it because I hate attention and people looking at me but then on the other hand I’m like I need to put myself out there more and dress how I want and be confident. I absolutely love you Tay & thank you for always being transparent 🫶🏾😍🥰
@darnai17 Жыл бұрын
I LOVED everything about this Video Tay💕i completely get where you Come from. I learned about looking Good from influencers and people I watched online. It definitely wasn’t second nature for me . But I get what you’re saying girl , when you look good you feel good . I just became an assistant store manager at a clothing store and I briefly felt I didn’t belong because I wasn’t wearing what everyone else was wearing and I wasn’t coming in with a beat face. But I was like girl . Why aren’t you dressing the part??? So now I’m putting more effort into my look 🌸
@tiamonique8984 Жыл бұрын
I relate to this so bad! I’m in my mid 20s too and i been having the same thoughts. Not caring about what other people think of you is a blessing but can also be a curse
@AjaJanai Жыл бұрын
i love that you talked about this because I do the same thing, just throw on whatever and don't worry too much about my appearance. However, it's like you said, you want to put that extra effort in because it'll make you feel better
@ONELUV28 Жыл бұрын
i feel u girl!
@marii4445 Жыл бұрын
Same here girl I felt this, you not alone! I’m trying to get into the same habit of self care when I go out, even when I stay in. Stay beautiful!!
@anisadlamini6385 Жыл бұрын
As a psychologist I love and support this message as this is what I definitely tell my clients do - which is to invest and take time in things that make you feel better about you. There is a direct correlation to self-esteem, self worth, self validation, self appreciation, your own abilities and how you feel when you walk into a room. So big up to you, Taylor. You should make this a series on your channel.
@italiangoddess8073 Жыл бұрын
I find that we women will do all this one day n the next we back to that depressed look
@miyae.2290 Жыл бұрын
I was just thinking about this earlier, I was gonna start doing it next week but imma take this as a sign and start tomorrow
@AjanisPalace Жыл бұрын
I love this video so much, I used to always get done up no matter what. Then lost myself and stopped caring. I’ve been feeling the sameee I gotta look presentable ❤
@lazyjoys12 Жыл бұрын
This video was for me because I was thinking about this last week. Thanks for the motivation
@melvinknight5076 Жыл бұрын
FactZ 💯💯🔥🔥 You Are Really Beautiful ❤️❤️ Self Care Is The Best Care
@Amber-um4rc Жыл бұрын
I love this! I just started having the same realization about myself this year, and started making changes, but I have been slacking lately. You motivated me! I love your videos girl
@nadiakearney4961 Жыл бұрын
I loved every single thing about this video👏🏽🥹
@ms.temporary8414 Жыл бұрын
Heyyyyy Tay, we missed you ❤. I resonate with everything you said.
@Markaylaa0 Жыл бұрын
See for me, I used to be that girl that always looked put together. From age 18-21. After I dropped out of college & life got to lifing lol I just stopped caring. Now I’m in this weird place I have to REteach myself self care & im so lost idk where to start *sigh*
@asianevaughn5806 Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I’ve came across this video ❤️.
@grahamcrackerjay Жыл бұрын
You deff giving in this viddy. This video resonates with me.
@Theblackbratt Жыл бұрын
I related to this so much I’m feeling this exact way ❤️
@belleville6928 Жыл бұрын
What defines someone as pretty: Taypancakes❤
@kan8296 Жыл бұрын
Girl your messages be so damn powerful!! I know exactly what you mean. I too didn’t grow up with self care as a priority, and it does make you feel better about yourself. We’re growing and learning, and your doing amazing. We love you girl keep doing you Boo❤
@patri-gailallen3761 Жыл бұрын
Love this Tay! Congrats on your new journey 🫶🏽
@lovelynisii2247 Жыл бұрын
This right here !! I needed this !! Love you always tayyy !! 🫶🏽🥹
@Onyourmind300 Жыл бұрын
i literally feel this way but idk how to change it
@msteekelley Жыл бұрын
I wish I could hug you I say it so much and you never see it but YOUR SUCH A DOLL BABY I PROMISE YOUR BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT no matter what
@doquewias3367 Жыл бұрын
This was everything I needed this talk
@monae842 Жыл бұрын
I love this so relatable!
@krissygirl2609 Жыл бұрын
I put in effort when I go to work, other than that, DUSTY.
@nicholeu2952 Жыл бұрын
Glad someone put into words what I've been thinking lately
@gensai93 Жыл бұрын
Personally, I work in a warehouse and I don't really go out like that so I don't really focus on trying to dress up every day just something comfortable and don't wear makeup most days. Most people are going to the store in regular clothes if it's not sweats or even pajamas, most of the ladies who are looking more "put together" are doing it for a reason because they feel like it's worth it, maybe they are going to work or they just like that boost of looking good or they might not feel like being judged that day. A lot of people aren't looking like that every day even if that's what they choose to show on social media. Most people are chilling in regular clothes unless they maybe want to look good that day, you don't always have to feel that energy to put in more effort than you feel like that day. Self care can mean different things like healthy eating, working out, skincare and moisturizing whatever, things that can help you in multiple ways and last longer than the more temporary treatments like manicures and shorter term hairstyles. I'm trying to get more into beauty type things but I don't really know how to do makeup and a lot of these things just cost money.
@WhitneysScript Жыл бұрын
I love this video girlfriend. I definitely relate bc I feel the exact same way.
@ChloeJohnsonBey Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this!!!
@camyachantelle3690 Жыл бұрын
Loved this video Tay!❤️❤️Going through the exact same situation!
@lixy3599 Жыл бұрын
I don't think just because you leave the house bare face doesn't make you any less put together but I still love the video❤
@ariannafigeroux4574 Жыл бұрын
Wow this really like woke me up, because I realized I do the same exact thing
@jaybae0144 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Taylor for this video, I deffo needed this boost of motivation today and for the future 💕💕💕
@NaomyP Жыл бұрын
Yes girl thanks for being real, honest and relatable. I sometimes too don't feel pretty (as maintaince wise); yes I know I'm beautiful, I get attention and compliments blah blah but I wish I took more time with my maintenance. I'm in my mid twenties as well, I see the girlies be feminine, and I walk around not caring, go to the gym, school, work etc but the pandemic made me comfortable into not being put together anymore and I'm struggling going back to the pre pandemic me and stop doing myself dirty.❤ thanks for making me not feel alone
@jadanicole7538 Жыл бұрын
I love the transparency!!! Thank you for sharing and I pray this journey goes so well for you! May you prosper and flourish 🩵
@user-oh8et3xz1z Жыл бұрын
0-3:16 I understand where you're coming from. It's like an uncut diamond vs. the refined stone. Both are the SAME diamond, but once it's been cut and polished it's a better version of the SAME diamond.
@annliseloveysmithin279 Жыл бұрын
i love this
@cupofchi_ Жыл бұрын
The energy in this world lately has been “self journey and self discovery” and I LOVE IT SM!!!
@Toyae86 Жыл бұрын
This is definitely what we needed to hear! I thank you Tay for speaking for most of all of us, I am sure we all have these moments! I most definitely related to everything!!! ❤❤❤❤
@myalene15 Жыл бұрын
I have been struggling with going out any type of way lately, I thought I was in a funk but it just became how I presented on a regular, this video feels like a wake-up call to get myself back together.
@Junejan1908 Жыл бұрын
I relate to this so deeply it’s insane! Literally the same age & always thought we have so many similarities personality wise based off your videos & you just got even more relatable lmfao love that you’re trying I am too girl I just take it one day at a time. Like big on the never dirty but the effort be very much bare minimum on my part which will solidify how bad I’m feeling but the extra effort definitely makes a difference when I attempt
@kaylam1252 Жыл бұрын
Yea I thought this lately whew it's a slap
@spencercobb Жыл бұрын
You are gorgeous!!!
@janelfaith18 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking up on this! I’m in this era now at 25. I feel more like the woman I’ve always wanted to be when I put daily effort into my appearance 🩷
@ItsDamiajanee Жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS 🥺❤️❤️
@metrichannel2729 Жыл бұрын
I love the hair
@taylorsedell Жыл бұрын
Love this message ❤️
@concealdontfeel0 Жыл бұрын
I like this video. This is a constant reminder for me
@alexisgaines9675 Жыл бұрын
This is very relatable ❤
@Nosleepsusan Жыл бұрын
Come onnnn its giving put that shit on eraa 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@bigmanifester9193 Жыл бұрын
This was so relatable.❤
@gosele777 Жыл бұрын
you have no idea how many girls you've helped heal today. as a subscriber i absolutely love you and miss your weekly content, we miss you queen!