I Can't Meditate

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I Can't Meditate

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4 жыл бұрын

I Can't Meditate! (3 Myths That Are Getting In Your Way and a Guided Meditation to Help). Have you tried and feel like you failed at meditation? Or you just feel "I'm not good at it"? If that is so, it is because of some common misconceptions about what meditation is and what it means. I'll share three common myths about meditation that may be impeding your ability to practice and I'll guide through a short meditation.
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@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Do the three "myths" resonate with you?

@AbhijeetVermaEE 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, for sharing your personal experience with 2nd myth about calming effects. Achieving constant state of bliss is really very difficult.

@jaimekatz6645 3 ай бұрын

I have wanted to learn to meditate for a long time, and this is the best video I have seen. I think I will re-watch it many times. You remind me of Eckhart Tolle quite a bit, which is a compliment. Your teaching style is a really good fit for me. I just came across your channel today and have already watched a bunch of your videos. THANK YOU! ❤❤❤ P.S. Something that was helpful to me was thinking of my thoughts as passing clouds, being the observer/ awareness of the thoughts, and then releasing the thought like it was a cloud blowing away with the wind. This is not my original idea, but I wanted to share it in case it's helpful to someone reading the comments.

@DodaiMelea 10 сағат бұрын

Im so grateful to have found your videos they are lrady helping me,just learning about my bain and the cycle ive gotten myself into and made my anxiety and panic worse has helped me,i knew nothing but tht ive been living in hell for five years nd its only gotten worse because of my lack of knowledge about it and i have been seeking help for the whole five years my therpist who ive only been seeing three months and you are my first glimpse of real hope and real help so thank you from the bottom of my heart.❤

@debbiethompsoncoaching 4 жыл бұрын

This is such an important video! It's so common to think we can't meditate, and those myths aren't widely known. Thank you!

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Debbie!

@lindabiles8277 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant video. Very enlightening as to how meditation can and can’t be at every moment. Just brilliant. I live in the past and the 7mins of meditation bought me back to the here and now and it also gave me some clarity on why possibly I keep going back in time.

@laisborin 4 жыл бұрын

Every meditation I tried before said for me to close my eyes and I really enjoyed the experience with the eyes opened, I thought it was way easier for me to stay aware of the present moment and not lose myself in thoughts. Also I enjoyed your more realistic approach to meditation, it made me feel better about myself, you described exactly as it is and I feel like no one else does that, they usually try to sell it as this amazing experience and it’s just not always like that. So thank you, you inspired me to keep trying to meditate!

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome! I am so pleased to hear all of that!

@DanielFordVideo 4 жыл бұрын

Meditating can be so hard for me because I am such a high energy person. Though I do agree that it is so helpful and healthy.Where did you first learn to meditate from? Just wondering what a good starting point would be.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Daniel: What a great question! I do think it is most effective to learn to meditate with a group. I began with the Integral Yoga Institute in NYC in the early 90s. That won't be an option now with social isolation! But there are some online classes. High energy is great and doesn't have to be an impediment - and meditation won't slow you down the rest of the day :). If anything, it helps me feel more centered and clear while being energetic. Hope that helps!

@kristinapitalskaya9884 3 жыл бұрын

Did the 7 minute meditation 🧘‍♀️ on a train. This time passed very soon for me. I’ve had several major thoughts bringing me back to my past (my eyes became full of tears then) and nearest future, but I quickly refocused my gaze and brought myself back to my breath. Thank you for this video. I think I’ll definitely give meditation several more tries. I am just not sure if I should first do this with a professional or I can start trying myself?

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Hi: Many people start meditation by themselves. I do have a playlist with meditation videos that may be helpful:kzfaq.info/get/bejne/l7J3m5WWlcvSnHU.html. However, I often recommend that people look nearby for a center to join - it is super helpful to have a teacher and a group of people to meditate with!

@ghostpine 2 жыл бұрын

Had trouble with aches & pains,Brian

@AbhijeetVermaEE 4 жыл бұрын

I also feel the same, time slows down. I do it eye closed but I'm not very regular. For me it was calming. I was curious about your years long practice with meditation and mindfulness, if I may ask... How this practice changed you as a person? Thanks to you, it was my first open eye meditation session.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Abhijeet: What a great question! I'd say it changed me a LOT as a person over the years. I'm more patient and more calm. I feel incredible clarity in my life, which I did not before I started. I've made much better choices in my life. I'm more open-hearted and compassionate. Have you noticed changes since you started?

@AbhijeetVermaEE 4 жыл бұрын

@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you, for sharing your experience. It means a lot. As, I said earlier I'm on and off with meditations, but with limited practice I had, I have observed that I'm more aware of 'now' and how I spend my day. I'm less on auto mode when I'm regular with meditations. On instant side- Meditation makes me think clear and have calming effect but not all the time, lets say 75% of the time. It's really astonishing for me to know that you have decades of continuous practice of meditation and mindfulness. You are truly inspiring, I will try to stick to incorporate it in my daily schedule. May be some other day, you may share with us how you stick with your practice or tips for continuity. :)

@AbhijeetVermaEE 4 жыл бұрын

@@BarbaraHeffernan Thought of sharing it here, Scientific Testing of effects of long practice - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/Z5Z6acajt8fHips.html

@janetfrehley2835 4 жыл бұрын

I felt I need to know and understand the 3 myths so thank you. I enjoyed just sitting here hearing your voice through it and the 7 mins silence was great. I became very tired but still relaxed and alert at the same time.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

@@janetfrehley2835 So glad to hear that!

@jawad4120 3 жыл бұрын

Is there cbt for depresion?

@nanl5332 4 жыл бұрын

I have flashbacks when I try to meditate and I have physical feelings of the abuse and come away in a panic. I think it makes me feel off guard or too relaxed and unprotected.

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear this, though it is not uncommon for survivors of abuse. The free "mini-course" I have might be helpful for this: awakenjoy.thinkific.com/courses/the-aah-mini-series (I consider it pre-meditation almost). Or I'd recommend trying yoga, grounding exercises, chi gong or another movement mindfulness practice.

@olyashalnova4562 2 жыл бұрын

For me, I'm ok with not overloading my mind with work, but I go from anxiety to anxiety within 2 topics connected with physical and mental health of beloved once, will meditation work for me?

@vickimartin7601 2 жыл бұрын

That wasn't so bad. Had to let a cat out of the house, but otherwise the time went pretty fast. The fact I can steer my thoughts back to breath and sound makes it okay to have thoughts and still get something out of the quiet time. Thanks.

@BarbaraHeffernan 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful! Yes, ok to have thoughts!! And just bring attention back to the breath! So pleased this was helpful.

@sunglassesjohn 4 жыл бұрын

Are we allowed to meander with our thoughts or must we always dismiss them one we become aware and return to the breathing? I really enjoyed it by the way. 🙂

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Sunglassesjohn: So glad you enjoyed it!! Of course, you are "allowed" to meander with your thoughts :)... although with the mindfulness meditation, the practice is to come back to the breath whenever you notice you are meandering - non-judmentally, gently, and just continue to return to your breath.

@raakbas1 3 жыл бұрын

I am depressed and sad. Can you put up more videos on CBT exercises? Also can you do videos on self therapy sessions please?

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Hi: I am sorry you are struggling so. I don't believe that self-therapy can always help. For those who are really struggling, I encourage them to reach out for professional help.

@cococha 4 жыл бұрын

I never meditate, i think am missing out

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

I think it is super helpful!

@toericabaker 3 жыл бұрын

the 7 minutes was hard but it went so fast!

@BarbaraHeffernan 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting that it was both hard and went fast! I hope you try it again - and it can be curious how varied the experience can be!

@greekmamalife 4 жыл бұрын

The first time I meditated I just couldn't stay still. I couldn't find a position and my mind was restless.

@BarbaraHeffernan 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Christina: Has it improved since then?

@mistjh 3 жыл бұрын

I've tried so many times but it always ends up with me feeling frustrated and resentful, a negative experience everytime. I have a C-PTSD diagnosis which is probably making the attempts so unpleasant. Very envious of those that get something out of this practise.

@Mark-wz4ql 3 жыл бұрын

Checkout everything polyvagal theory for C-ptsd as well as the "Crappy Childhood Fairy" channel as she is quite good. Try Samantha meditation (concentration) as taught in the Theravadan tradition. Start at 5 min (yes 5min) of doing it right and build from there. I like my current teacher Bhante Suddhaso of Buddhists Insights channel. Best.

@mistjh 3 жыл бұрын

@@Mark-wz4ql thanks for the reply Mark, I'll have a look