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Nicole Rafiee

Nicole Rafiee

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hello hello lil cherubs. in today's video i talk about my experience with OCD, paranoia, anxiety, and parasocial relationships I'm struggling with while having a social media following. hope u enjoy and take care of urself xoxo nikki nasty
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@marissab2596
@marissab2596 25 күн бұрын
you can definitely ask your followers to disclose their following. it’s a boundary, it’s for your safety and wellbeing.
@youpoops
@youpoops 25 күн бұрын
Yes!!❤
@coffeegirl18
@coffeegirl18 17 күн бұрын
I'm agreeing.
@kirtsie
@kirtsie 25 күн бұрын
straight up jorking it... in the moonlight
@BlackRose-rp7kv
@BlackRose-rp7kv 25 күн бұрын
gorl..
@mhmbunbun1527
@mhmbunbun1527 25 күн бұрын
WHO SAYS THAT IVE BEEN GOING CRAZY TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHO SAYS JORKING IT
@fqiryzara
@fqiryzara 24 күн бұрын
and by it..i meant my peanits..
@meet-me-at-blue-diner
@meet-me-at-blue-diner 24 күн бұрын
​@mhmbunbun1527 Brittany broski🙏 (I think)
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@freepalestine4everrr
@freepalestine4everrr 25 күн бұрын
I CLICKED SO FAST THE GENUINE WORRY FOR YOUR SAFETY OML. A GIRL'S GIRL'S WORST FEAR.
@jjayjazz
@jjayjazz 25 күн бұрын
ME TOO 😭 I really thought she posted a whole video while being followed instead of calling someone
@rooboatdeer22yu51
@rooboatdeer22yu51 25 күн бұрын
Same I was like please noo
@freepalestine4everrr
@freepalestine4everrr 25 күн бұрын
@@jjayjazz HELP god bless u fr
@freepalestine4everrr
@freepalestine4everrr 25 күн бұрын
@@rooboatdeer22yu51 frr
@sommi
@sommi 25 күн бұрын
ANY girls worst fear wtfff😭
@ava3696
@ava3696 25 күн бұрын
ive heard this intro so many times this week that i heard lovers rock irl yesterday and geniunely my first thought was this channell😭😭
@superbloom_3
@superbloom_3 25 күн бұрын
THAT HAPPENED TO ME TODAY😭😭
@nalahd166
@nalahd166 25 күн бұрын
the first time I heard lovers rock I was thinking the same thing lol
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@aleighaHunt
@aleighaHunt 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__ you have 3 videos that have nothing to do with the shit she talks abt ..?
@Spaciemaciee
@Spaciemaciee 24 күн бұрын
Kilby Block Party⁉️⁉️
@tinygh0ul
@tinygh0ul 25 күн бұрын
I would be very uncomfortable having a convo with someone (esp for hours) then finding out after that they followed, watched vids, knew things about me, etc. and didn't make me aware until so much later... understandable that this would freak you out. Take care of yourself!
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@elliessneakers
@elliessneakers 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__ shut up lmfao you have no content
@pi-squared21
@pi-squared21 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__ what
@huskylluvr
@huskylluvr 24 күн бұрын
​@@pi-squared21It's a bot. Report it❤
@tendollarbovine
@tendollarbovine 24 күн бұрын
@@pi-squared21 it’s a copy pasted comment. this person has naz! imagery in their profile pic and is commenting this multiple times for attention.
@thwenny
@thwenny 25 күн бұрын
It's a misrepresentation of oneself and an imbalance of power to behave as if we don't follow you when we do and engage like it's a mutual blank slate when its not. It's a lie by omission. That's why that would make me uncomfortable in your shoes.
@RealElongatedMuskrat
@RealElongatedMuskrat 24 күн бұрын
perfectly put. It's definitely a lie by omission. It's also hard to think of a comparison but it's almost like, talking about your relationship with your sibling to someone new, only to find out at the end of the conversation that they're a teammate of your sibling and they've known them for years. It's very very uncomfortable to imagine.
@ramu-silly
@ramu-silly 24 күн бұрын
exactly. it makes sense why someone would do it but it doesnt make it any less hurtful. especially in this specific case
@-swxtchblade-
@-swxtchblade- 24 күн бұрын
I think it's unfair from a genuine connection standpoint. Nicole mentions it saddens her, and she also mentioned one of her thoughts about the interaction at the party I believe was that she was connecting with another person. After the fact it can just feel so ingenious....and honestl, from my perspectiv, unsafe. AND if I was in Nicole's shoe, I'd feel a little dumb bc I thought I was socializing so well and possibly creating a budding friendship only to learn this person already had the script.
@mxngos7493
@mxngos7493 24 күн бұрын
Exactly!! It gives off this sense that they have something to hide, perhaps even their motives. Maybe it was intended to be innocent and not weird Nicole out, but clearly that didn't work lol.
@ruthiemorton873
@ruthiemorton873 25 күн бұрын
OF COURSE those situations freak you out!! Nicole this is so so so freakin understandable. It’s such a nuanced situation that I’ve actually never considered as a subscriber but it makes total sense to me. Someone asking you questions they already know the answer to is honestly objectively weird as hell. I just want to validate you here because yes that is such a weird situation and for it to happen multiple times would be so unbelievably unnerving. Who you are as a person shows so clearly in this video and it is an extremely kind, sensitive, and empathetic person. You do not in any way come off as ungrateful. This is such a beautiful vulnerable window into your life and thoughts and it is so brave and strong of you let us in. From an outside perspective, please please know that this is ENTIRELY understandable.
@rowannnnnnnnn
@rowannnnnnnnn 25 күн бұрын
You put it into words PERFECTLY
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@lily-fq5mk
@lily-fq5mk 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__CAN YOU STOP OMGGGGGG ENOUGH
@eunjin9601
@eunjin9601 25 күн бұрын
nicole being a drake lover is like colleen hoover being a pulitzer prize winner
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@FernBlackwood1995
@FernBlackwood1995 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__ Stay ignored, Ville! 😂 Keep screaming lies on anyone’s channel but your own. It’s not like anyone watches you.
@omg_its_malika
@omg_its_malika 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__ SHUT UP BRO!
@sammichurl
@sammichurl 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__bro has a naz! sign as pfp and thinks he can say smth and people will listen to him
@freepalestine4everrr
@freepalestine4everrr 24 күн бұрын
u ate
@taylorhammond3578
@taylorhammond3578 25 күн бұрын
I think it is generally common courtesy to let someone know that you already know a bit about them, ESPECIALLY if you're talking to someone you're a fan of. I think it's super weird that they didn't do that honestly 🤨
@vorgebrauchschutteln3859
@vorgebrauchschutteln3859 24 күн бұрын
I could imagine they wanted to treat it as a first meeting since many people are different online and you shouldn't assume you know someone just because you followed them. But it's still weird, especially when the conversation is long. I also don't get how you actually do keep it secret, I would immediately tell any person I follow online how often we talked in the comments or on Instagram. Like, I would be so proud 😂
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@beanaguts
@beanaguts 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__is this a new type of bot or something? Who the hell are you
@robinabow
@robinabow 25 күн бұрын
The internet is truly a hellish place for people with OCD.
@briclare
@briclare 25 күн бұрын
it genuinely fuels my ocd (in the worst way)
@Aceofspades2006
@Aceofspades2006 24 күн бұрын
And just all neurodivergent people. I’m autistic so I have ocd, adhd, dislexia and more shii it’s really hard almost ended me cus I wasn’t diagnosed and didn’t get help or an explanation why I can’t do shii like others
@Aceofspades2006
@Aceofspades2006 24 күн бұрын
Oh damn dislexia I thought u said the world is… but yes internet to!
@yessem_
@yessem_ 22 күн бұрын
so true
@soupstoreclothing
@soupstoreclothing 25 күн бұрын
no you're so right i can't believe they pretended to not know you. i have actually been stalked online and it's very scary. i stopped twitch streaming and nukes all my socials because i was that scared. i can't imagine how scary that must have been.
@xCAEGx
@xCAEGx 25 күн бұрын
Same it's really hard to ease back online idk if it's even worth it for me 😅
@vickynosleepy
@vickynosleepy 25 күн бұрын
top teir username btw
@soupstoreclothing
@soupstoreclothing 25 күн бұрын
@@vickynosleepy thank you lol
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@French_Buddha
@French_Buddha 24 күн бұрын
@@ville__how? ive watched her for nearly four years now and anything shes outputted has been original. i keep seeing u comment this but like im not trying to argue or anything Im genuinely curious.
@ashleyraibenham3377
@ashleyraibenham3377 25 күн бұрын
I also struggle with paranoia! Subscribers probably want a conversation with no pressure and the possibility of a friendship, kind intentions sure, but it’s dishonest and deceptive. How you feel about this is completely valid.
@ottz_
@ottz_ 25 күн бұрын
NOT THE DISCLAIMERS!! SAME GIRL SAME!!!! I went camping with a good friend of mine and we were talking about the way we perceived each other in high school,, and she was like "yeah I always thought you seemed really cautious when expressing any sort of opinion you would always clarify to the nth degree before you even mentioned the statement. Then once you got there the actual statement would be the most asinine thing" OCD really be beefing with anything it can get its clammy lil hands on damn
@briclare
@briclare 25 күн бұрын
LITERALLLLY
@zayalorin9491
@zayalorin9491 25 күн бұрын
wait me too 😔
@RealElongatedMuskrat
@RealElongatedMuskrat 24 күн бұрын
I do this to the extent that I get mad at myself and people get really frustrated with me, but I've never thought about OCD as a possibility
@bonsthoughts
@bonsthoughts 24 күн бұрын
wait this also counts as OCD?!😳 i've been misdiagnosed for years...
@RealElongatedMuskrat
@RealElongatedMuskrat 24 күн бұрын
@@bonsthoughts I think it's a potential manifestation of OCD symptoms, not unique to OCD. You may not be misdiagnosed at all. For example, low mood is a symptom of both depression and anxiety. As is irritability. Some people get snappy when they're anxious whilst others will express more of a fear and sadness response, but anxiety is still the route. Same could be said of low mood, depression is quite obvious there but anxiety can lead to feeling low and energy depleted. You definitely might have OCD but you may have been perfectly accurately diagnosed with something else, I'd discuss it with your doctor first.
@jadelizz4667
@jadelizz4667 25 күн бұрын
this felt like a vintage car vlog, as someone who's been around a hot sec i just have to say i'm incredibly proud of how far you've come and how you're doing and admitting the hard things like in this video. your continued honesty and drive helped me get through lockdown college and moving forward through my own mental health journey. i'm glad to have been here through all the iterations of nikki nasty and cant wait to see where you go next!
@NicoleRafiee
@NicoleRafiee 25 күн бұрын
ahhhh so appreciate of you!!
@elizabuga4337
@elizabuga4337 25 күн бұрын
I think people pretend to not know someone from online because people are so afraid of seeming parasocial these days. It’s not cool to have attachments to people from online anymore, so if you meet someone you have to pretend that you don’t know them at all in order to connect. I feel like a lot of the conversations around “parasocial relationships” have actually backfired.
@MaxWilliamsReacts
@MaxWilliamsReacts 25 күн бұрын
So i’ve met creators both guys and gals of your same size following and after saying hi face to face I IMMEDIATELY disclose that i’ve been watching their videos and I even tell them specific videos that stood out to me etc. i could never fake that in front of them, would feel awkward to me. Also what you are saying is totally valid and I don’t think you should have to feel bad about it. Its quite weird to walk up to someone & pretend you don’t know a single thing about them. Also just on top of this, women get stalked, followed on a daily basis so having a big following on youtube just doubles that fear i’d imagine. I spend hours tracking back personal interactions about things i’ve been told and said, and so I totally get that as well. Completely valid especially in your position as well.
@Alexacake19
@Alexacake19 25 күн бұрын
Anxiety is literally the worst. Debilitating. I hope you’re okay❤
@ville__
@ville__ 23 күн бұрын
WHO‎ ASKED‎ +‎ MY‎ CONTENT‎ IS‎ WAY‎ BETTER‎ UTTP‎ IS‎ WAY‎ BETTER‎ THAN‎ GUNNAR....
@heyyjadeee
@heyyjadeee 8 күн бұрын
Ye true anxiety is literally the worst ever disease as hell like debilitatinggg
@ashsutterfield7579
@ashsutterfield7579 25 күн бұрын
i also have really bad paranoia around being alone ans stalked (i also have anxiety and ocd) and it is genuinely so debilitating and i wish more people understood how hard it is to be that paranoid all the time
@chadtorres8879
@chadtorres8879 25 күн бұрын
First off the way you articulate the initial traumatic situation and explain the events and feelings following that makes perfect sense and I completely understand why you feel the way you feel. I can reassure you that it’s very weird that even though they do not disclose that they’re following you they should say something within the realm of “I follow you” or “I’ve seen you before,” because then it becomes a very one sided meeting. They are also then masking their knowledge of you and trying not to slip by admitting they know a lot more about you then you do them. Truly I could not begin know that feeling but I see where each occasion triggers you and sends you back to that initial event which is why that anxiety and depression takes over. I’m not going to recommend anything or like you said treat this any different but just please stay safe and maybe develop a set of questions or icebreakers that could make them admit they’re following you or just talk about your life as an influencer/KZfaqr to reassure them you know people know you and of you creating a safe space for both parties?
@freepalestine4everrr
@freepalestine4everrr 25 күн бұрын
this comment oml, you ate!!
@briclare
@briclare 25 күн бұрын
fr like even meeting people in my town that i’ve seen on instagram or something i’ll be like hey i follow u on insta! not disclosing seems very creepy and it gives me shivers lol
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@pinky7400
@pinky7400 25 күн бұрын
I solemnly swear, if I ever see you in person, you will know immediately that I watch your videos. ❤
@ophenia1925
@ophenia1925 25 күн бұрын
I have OCD and you just summed up basically my whole existence. I’m also medicated and medication has changed my life, but I tell everyone I know that has OCD, it makes it better. It doesn’t make it go away. Instead of being paralyzed with dread for a whole day, I’m just like “I could die horribly if I leave my house. But I really need to take that chance because I have stuff to do.”
@RedSmirk54
@RedSmirk54 25 күн бұрын
Honestly if I had these kinds of experiences I would not trust anyone ever again and be JUST as paranoid as you. It would give anyone a complex, OCD or no.
@88yf88
@88yf88 25 күн бұрын
Both sides are so understandable because I feel like people know that if they disclose that they’re a fan/viewer then that changes the whole dynamic and the other person may act coldly afterwards or not be as into the conversation thinking that maybe they had an ulterior motive. And there’s lots of older fans who maybe just happened upon someone they watch but do actually just want to have a genuine conversation and get to know them with no ulterior motive at all. I know for me, I would be anxious about finding the right time to disclose that I watch them on social media, and sometimes you might think that it’s making it easier on them to treat it like a first encounter for both of you. I know I do basically anything to avoid awkwardness haha (this situation has never happened to me though). But on the other hand, being the “celeb” in that instance is terrifying because it makes you think that anyone just trying to be friends with you could be a fan and actually have ulterior motives. That could easily turn into paranoia (and has) even for people without a mental health issue like OCD or anxiety. That’s probably part of why celebrities mainly date within themselves because you just never know what someone’s motive is when meeting them unless they are someone equally as famous as you (and therefore unlikely to be using you for anything but also understanding of the situation). Times when celebs are dating “ordinary people” or are friends with them is usually only when they knew them well beforehand. It’s a more extreme example compared to a “content creator”, but I definitely think the bigger following people get, the more it starts to become true.
@m.jordan3008
@m.jordan3008 21 күн бұрын
I thought the same thing! Nicole’s feelings are valid and subscribers should disclose. I also think most of us subbed to Nicole are thoughtful ppl. The followers she met probably assumed (incorrectly) not disclosing that they follow would make her feel more normal/comfortable.
@Ross-ee3ht
@Ross-ee3ht 15 сағат бұрын
I'm definitely with your line of thinking at least from the follower perspective, I think people in those situations don't mind the fan to celeb dynamic when corresponding online, but in person would rather want to be seen as an equal and not a groupie, or like you said, can't find the right time to bring it up/ want genuine conversation
@Nivieee
@Nivieee 25 күн бұрын
It makes total sense for me that you're creeped out by people pretending not to know you. I'd be too. Once your sense of safety is shaken up by a traumatic experience, it doesn't take a lot to go back into this fear. But even without this factor, it still would make sense to me you feel that way.
@Nivieee
@Nivieee 25 күн бұрын
OMG 😂 Right after I clicked send on this comment you mentionned being scared to k*ll your cat, and I had this fear at some point in my life. That's the kinda thing most people wouldn't disclose to anyone. But now at 33, and knowing I'm not a freak for having this thought, I'm now the weirdo that will disclose that in the middle of a conversation, as if it was nothing 😂😂😂
@michaeldandelion3695
@michaeldandelion3695 25 күн бұрын
i have a stalker, a genuine watcher and it’s one of my close friends who obsessed over me in highschool to a point of making a plan to kidnap me, you’re fear is valid, feeling like your being followed/watched is awful
@kingoftheamandas
@kingoftheamandas 25 күн бұрын
I never assume anyone with OCD is doing great with it unless told otherwise. I have plenty of friends that have no clue when I'm hella struggling with my OCD/etc. bc mine is easy to mask in public while breaking down in private! Thanks for sharing
@briclare
@briclare 25 күн бұрын
yes and it doesn’t help that ocd is stereotyped to be a super wanted disorder because people think it means clean and neat. like no i was just bawling my eyes out last night because i can’t stand around sharp objects without thinking what if i cut my hand off!
@kingoftheamandas
@kingoftheamandas 25 күн бұрын
@@briclare dude yes, part of mine means I avoid mess, like I can't perceive it and have to actively work on trying to be clean and neat
@katc2040
@katc2040 25 күн бұрын
​@kingoftheamandas holy shit i relate to that but i dont have digonsis
@kingoftheamandas
@kingoftheamandas 25 күн бұрын
@@katc2040 that's okay! tbh a lot of anxiety-based disorders blend together so, for example, it's hard to say which of my symptoms and habits are a result of OCD vs anxiety vs my ADHD lol
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@lindseymetcalfe
@lindseymetcalfe 25 күн бұрын
Not only could I never do that with any youtuber I follow, I actively have multiple exit strategies in case I ever accidentally run into someone I follow online so that I know I'm not imposing in any way on their life in the outernet. It's wild to me that people do that.
@imjustdandy9799
@imjustdandy9799 25 күн бұрын
I have mad social anxiety, i relate so hard to a lot of what you said. I leave basically every conversation being like “wow they definitely hate me now” with no basis at all. I did exposure therapy for social anxiety and it suuucked (it helped tho) as an example, I was afraid of awkward silences in conversations so my therapist would have me talk to random employees at the hospital and they wouldnt talk 😩
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@EnenraKage
@EnenraKage 24 күн бұрын
I think pretending to not know you is definitely manipulative and creepy, you're very valid in feeling uncomfortable after finding out
@slyghostcat
@slyghostcat 25 күн бұрын
i feel like how you feel about it is pretty valid i mean in my opinion it’s pretty messed up for them to ask you specific questions they already know about you and to lead you to believe that they’re just now getting to know you. i get if someone doesn’t want to mention they watch you because maybe they’d feel awkward about it idk, but it’s the going out of their way to make it seem like theyve got no idea who you are. it just seems very manipulative idk ://
@slyghostcat
@slyghostcat 25 күн бұрын
and in my opinion it’s not that you’re complaining that people know you and people watch your content. you have a valid concern with people going out of their way to pretend to not know you just so you will talk to them. i don’t wanna be mean towards those people but that’s not a very nice thing to do and you shouldn’t have been put through that anxiety
@abbyg9043
@abbyg9043 25 күн бұрын
Girl you are 100% valid for feeling these things. I would be freaked out if someone had been following me on social media but didn't say anything. I have mild anxiety and that would send me down a spiral fr
@claireauu
@claireauu 25 күн бұрын
ocd is the worst, and it’s so hard sometimes because so many people will never understand how it works or how debilitating it can be. it’s actually insane that those people didn’t disclose that they’re subscribers
@ville__
@ville__ 24 күн бұрын
nicole should retire LOL and she has legit stolen my hard worked content and i dont appreciate you all ignoring me on a serious topic of this!!
@anonymouse903
@anonymouse903 25 күн бұрын
Girl, I have OCD and the scenarios you described about people not disclosing they know you is a fucking nightmare. I'm so sorry you go through that!
@Katherout
@Katherout 24 күн бұрын
i’ve been on both sides of the table - talking to someone i know from social media but not knowing when/how to best reveal this info and talking to someone who knows me but doesn’t reveal it… we need to introduce a guidebook to help us thru these nascent type of social interactions only brought forth via the internet
@freepalestine4everrr
@freepalestine4everrr 25 күн бұрын
live, laugh, love nicole!! i truly believe your paranoia is very valid. It's amazing how genuine you're able to be knowing what you feel. I'm glad you feel better. AND THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HELPING PALESTINE TYSM. i see the creators ignore it and just go about their day and i'm sitting here thinking about the children and parents seeing their life flash before their eyes everyday. the fact they have no hope but faith. thank you, genuinely, thank you so much.
@emiliaandrea9
@emiliaandrea9 25 күн бұрын
i donated! thank you for speaking up about Palestine! i love being able to confidently support creators that i know are standing up for the right causes 🇵🇸❤
@nause5311
@nause5311 25 күн бұрын
I have never felt so seen about the whole fear of perception. Seeing you be so open and candid is honestly so inspiring
@poppybingham8204
@poppybingham8204 24 күн бұрын
I’ve struggled with OCD for my whole life and I’ve never come across someone who describes it in such a relatable way, a lot of people don’t understand that the real torment of OCD is the constant feelings of paranoia and the obsessive thoughts that come with it, to the point where even the smallest and silliest things can impact you. Also the constant anxiety from social situations is so relatable! I think this video is such an interesting insight into how transparency and honesty can really ease the anxiety of those who struggle, and I so understand why these intersections would make you feel uncomfortable! Thanks so much for sharing your perspective and talking about your experience, it’s clear from the comments here that you have a huge positive impact on others who can relate to the struggle. You make me feel so validated, and for that I am thankful🖤
@hpkitch7356
@hpkitch7356 25 күн бұрын
Ive never clicked a video at 26 seconds before Praying for you!
@gabriellellanes9297
@gabriellellanes9297 24 күн бұрын
hey i got diagnosed recently with OCD a couple months ago around when i first got into watching your channel. i really really appreciate hearing you talk about your experience, even though we have obviously different ocd experiences i really relate to a lot of the feelings you share. i feel so crazy and irrational sometimes because im uncomfortable or anxious and it’s really comforting knowing someone understands. i appreciate you sharing and i really enjoy your videos
@111yip
@111yip 25 күн бұрын
Thankyou for yapping, I love hearing you yap, I don't have the same issues whatsoever but you explain things and yap the same way that I do, with fear of being misunderstood, thousands of disclaimers, fear of sounding dumb stupid weird. I feel comforted I don't even know why, I know that a lot of people are like this but maybe I don't get to share this side of my life with people close to me, and you bring that.
@111yip
@111yip 25 күн бұрын
it's so weird that we are so anxious talking about certain things but as a viewer, I see it as the most normal, understandable valid thing.
@DiMagnolia
@DiMagnolia 24 күн бұрын
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect someone to disclose that they follow you online. I don’t even have a big social media presence but when someone says “oh we follow each other on IG!” I really appreciate that transparency.
@Humanbean1100
@Humanbean1100 24 күн бұрын
Just wanted to thank you a lot for sharing this. Only recently have I gone to a doctor for my anxiety and depression and they brought up that I possibly have OCD. I thought about the generic stereotypes but you opening up I see a lot of what I do in that though not to that level because you have an online presence. Just overthinking everything and I usually would blame things on my past but nah this shit has been ingrained in me.
@adamlebrecht4489
@adamlebrecht4489 25 күн бұрын
*jorking in the moonlight
@dawndreamweaver8373
@dawndreamweaver8373 25 күн бұрын
Manipulation and lying by omission are definitely on the spectrum of abuse. Coupled with prior trauma and underlying mental health issues that already make emotional regulation hard, it’s very understandable why you’re feeling unsafe and struggling with increased anxiety. Your reaction sounds very logical and valid to me. It seems like we’re still discovering the unintended negative consequences of parasocial relationships as a society. We’ve gained some understanding about the imbalanced power dynamics, but your experiences demonstrate there can be negative consequences for both sides if we aren’t careful. Glad you’re talking about this and taking care of yourself. Hopefully more people talk about these issues so some social guidelines can be developed that help all parties stay safe and healthy. 🤗
@clairejkay
@clairejkay 25 күн бұрын
You are well within your right to tell people off for willfully deceiving you. Regardless of how they got to know you, they should have disclosed that info
@shaniah7293
@shaniah7293 25 күн бұрын
hey girl this is such an interesting an important video!! i’m a sociology major and i think a lot about the interactions between media personalities and their fans. firstly, this isn’t something you should feel embarrassed or ashamed to be sharing i think it is truely really valuable to have first hand perspectives in this convo!! i do think your feelings around them not disclosing their prior relationship with you makes a lot of sense- interactions hold meaning and symbolism and help to construct identity and personas, and media personalities should have the right to manage this persona when interacting with fans to protect themselves. your feeling of betrayal makes sense to me because you have the right to be different things to different people, and this was an act of deception on the part of the fan, who seems to intentionally want to see the private version of you. i have so many more thoughts about this but i will leave it there for now! i wish you all the best and thankyou again for being so candid about your struggles xoxoxo
@juliareste
@juliareste 25 күн бұрын
thank you so much for being this honest with us. its really comforting in some ways to hear someone (besides my therapist) reaffirm that anxiety is not a singular struggle, so many people experience it. ❤️❤️
@ana_yay
@ana_yay 24 күн бұрын
I recently met a "celebrity" that I have followed for years in a public setting in my home town. I didn't know what to say but I really wanted to meet them, so I came up and we started having a normal conversation, and really quickly into that conversation I said "hey I actually follow you on Instagram and know your music. I just didn't know how to say I know who you are and I'm a fan." They were thrilled to meet me and thrilled I knew their content. After watching this video, I feel good I didn't just pretend I didn't know who they were and freaked them out when they realized I have commented a lot on their posts before!
@evakramer8401
@evakramer8401 25 күн бұрын
i love these types of videos so much. personally i find conversations and stuff kinda draining because im focused on listening but just having you talk in the background of me working has helped so much!! thank you for making this, even if it was hard to talk about
@gremlin623
@gremlin623 25 күн бұрын
Nicole, you were one of the few that put the idea in my head that I have ocd. You were one of the causes for me to go and get my diagnosis and I am in such a better situation now because of you, thank you so much. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, and if someone didn’t let on that they knew who I was when I was talking to them, then I would be scared too. My heart goes out to you
@francesdenmark3135
@francesdenmark3135 25 күн бұрын
I was just diagnosed with ocd at age 29 and ironically around the same time found your chronically online videos and started watching your content and it’s great to hear you talking about the same things I’m going through! Thank you for being youu babbesss ! Also just donated everyone please donate or share if you can’t !!!
@coolsillyguy
@coolsillyguy 25 күн бұрын
thank you so much for this 💚 i can only imagine how hard it was to talk about this and then further to post it, but it has helped me and i’m sure so many others watching this, so truly thank you also such a sidenote but i’ve never been more happy to support your channel than when i saw you collaborating with the youtube donation project for Palestine From all of the UC encampments, thank you tremendously 🇵🇸
@stanler_hanler3385
@stanler_hanler3385 25 күн бұрын
You put into words how I've been feeling for years!!! Anxiety is wild but knowing that there's a path to socializing and being okay with the chaos is really comforting. Deeply appreciate the honesty and love the vibes
@izzy83592
@izzy83592 25 күн бұрын
your talking about your experiences really does help to make people like me feel normal. just seeing someone talk about ocd in a way that isnt a dramatic short film for an AP psych class or diagnostic criteria, but real life and how you can deal with it, is really encouraging. like yeah! i can live my life even if i have anxiety while i do it. thanks queen. also you’re funny and my fav to watch while i crochet!
@Cosmo1iquid
@Cosmo1iquid 24 күн бұрын
Thank you for talking about your OCD and mental health in general; it makes me feel so seen and heard to hear the words that come out of your mouth, it’s so validating and EXTREMELY relatable for me. OCD is something ppl are gonna grapple with forever and I’m still trying to accept that, but with a community it’s makes it so much easier !! ❤️👍
@livvy12000
@livvy12000 25 күн бұрын
You are SO VALID!! It’s such a nuanced position to be in! In a sense you’ve been denied the ability to maintain privacy in the same way the rest of us can, and that compounded with your prior experience being threatened would drive any of us to feel the way you’re feeling! Even celebrities and micro celebs are allowed to have boundaries 💛💛
@nefariousbum9982
@nefariousbum9982 25 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing. You are not alone. Anxiety is the most debilitating thing ever. And the DEEP depressive episode after sever anxiety is real! It’s like you’ve been completely emotionally and mentally drained. I feel empty and just terrible after an anxiety/panic attack. Shit sucks.
@kianawitwer4438
@kianawitwer4438 25 күн бұрын
this video makes me feel so normal. ive been really struggling with feeling normal about my paranoia and depression and this video came at the perfect time :)
@savkenn
@savkenn 24 күн бұрын
as a girl with ocd i am so glad you're addressing this. your safety and peace of mind is far too important to neglect for the sake of not hurting your viewers. i am so proud of you and appreciate your vulnerability in this so much
@bebel0ck
@bebel0ck 25 күн бұрын
Donated! ❤ Glad you’re boosting this cause. I’ve been really happy to see creators working this into their regular content, because I think paying attention to these causes should be a regular thing we do in our day to day life. The situation is urgent but not new, and the work is ongoing.
@julialazzara9247
@julialazzara9247 24 күн бұрын
hey girlll! i have OCD too and i just want to say that you literally just made me feel a million times better. i too have very very atypical ocd and spend hours psychoanalyzing my conversations with everyone to an extent i can't even count. you make me feel so seen and i really appreciate you putting this out here because it genuinely helps me so much. there's not much discussion of people like us even within our own community and it's so refreshing just to hear you talk and finally be able to relate with someone. thank you, truly. you encouraged me to finally get an ocd diagnosis and start recovery and i can genuinely say you've been a big factor in my recovery. you are so brave for being so vulnerable. just know those who get it ate really appreciative rn.
@xxleoxangelxx
@xxleoxangelxx 24 күн бұрын
I find your openness about your mental health very helpful and I am so grateful that you share like this. As someone who struggles with similar things it makes me feel much less isolated. Thank you ❤
@Mimble_Doodles
@Mimble_Doodles 25 күн бұрын
You make complete sense!! I dont have OCD or paranoia and I would also feel icky about having a conversation with someone I thought was completely new, but they heard about me from a friend/social media/orso before and they didnt let me know. Especially if it was a conversation longer than 10 minutes!!!! Feels unbalanced, would make me feel like they could have been judging me against an image they might already have had of me?? Like how you behave differently usually around different people? Idk. It just makes sense.
@jbone877
@jbone877 25 күн бұрын
I'm glad that you're mentioning this, publicly. I can see how these types of interactions could fuck with anyone in your situation, let alone someone with your history and condition. Wishing you well, Nicole. Your content is really helpful to me, personally, on an emotional basis, largely due to social isolation resultant of many factors. I hope that you're well, and that you have much joy and comfort in your future❤
@YoongisRapin
@YoongisRapin 25 күн бұрын
as someone with anxiety and possibly ocd as well this was really something i could relate to and am happy you felt like you could share. i dont have a public soc med presence or anything but i remember when i first discovered tiktok and there was this trend i think of people taking videos of people just existing on college campuses i was so paranoid and stressed everytime i had to walk to class because i felt like someone could be filming me and posting me online to make fun of me. i cant imagine how much more heightened that anxiety would be as someone with a public presence and with the traumatic experience you had. also at the end there where you were getting anxious about being too anxious was so real i had a really bad period of anxiety recently and i realized that feeling like i was getting anxious made me anxious and start to get really mean to myself. i need to take this advice myself but show yourself compassion, nicole! anyways this video did help me feel a little less alone so thank you
@anikalehr5181
@anikalehr5181 25 күн бұрын
Wait I haven't seen any comments about Palestine but I'm so happy to hear about your work! Also I hear you and I'm sorry that you're dealing with these situations that are so new to all of us. I think you're doing it gracefully!
@dummyynat
@dummyynat 25 күн бұрын
i clicked so fast
@briclare
@briclare 25 күн бұрын
19:55 no fr. it’s like oh you’re scared your mom might die? yeah she’s gonna eventually so deal with it!!
@cassidythompson6860
@cassidythompson6860 6 күн бұрын
Nicole I’m so glad you shared this. As a subscriber who’s never met you before, hearing you talk about how you feel as a creator makes me so much more aware of how I interact with EVERY person around me, online creator or not. We live in a wild world where parasocial relationships are becoming increasingly more important to talk about AND recognize within ourselves. I feel for your anxiety, and am also so proud of how brave you are to be so candid on your platform. I’m confident conversations like this can make a difference for everyone, whether they jork in the moonlight or not ❤
@paige3458
@paige3458 24 күн бұрын
I recently got diagnosed with OCD a year ago and your videos addressing OCD and being vulnerable about it has helped me so much with dealing with it. Its nice to realize im not alone, especially since its hard for me to realize i dont always have to be okay💕 thank you for putting yourself out there in hopes that it will help someone
@Kenziebaby16
@Kenziebaby16 25 күн бұрын
I feel this so so so much!! I was threatened and developed severe anxiety attacks for weeks to the point where I had to go to the ER and had INSANE paranoia. It still lingers in my thoughts from time to time. It's scary as hell and you feel so out of control. I would never wish that feeling on anyone. Sending you so much strength and love. 🫶🏻
@whosenma4634
@whosenma4634 25 күн бұрын
this video actually really helped me because ive been really anxious and overwhelmed lately and its nice hearing someones experiencing almost the same things.... thank you nicole!
@mallorymaisner
@mallorymaisner 24 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry you experience anxiety and depression and the other symptoms you described. I also have a mental illness and really feel for you. Can assure you your videos are always so funny and uplift by 🖤 (also the video title is so clever!)
@Variant.2008
@Variant.2008 25 күн бұрын
YOU WEREN'T WEIRD IT'S OKAY 💕
@mcplestreet
@mcplestreet 24 күн бұрын
i struggle with similar thoughts, though from ptsd rather than ocd. you don’t sound ungrateful at all nicole. these are all really valid and logical concerns seemingly exasperated by ocd. thank you for sharing. i hope people keep this all in mind when meeting you in the future. and if i ever get to meet you i’ll tell you all about how i love your content!!!!
@ardencollins7337
@ardencollins7337 24 күн бұрын
And this is why you’re one of my favorite creators. Thank you for sharing your feelings, it’s scary to be so vulnerable and I really respect how honest you are with your audience. I hope for joy in good mental health days and peace and safety in the hard ones
@Mars-lj3qq
@Mars-lj3qq 24 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience! I just got diagnosed with OCD recently and it made me feel very seen to hear your experience. Giving love to you, myself, and all of us living with anxiety disorders
@duohensheng
@duohensheng 24 күн бұрын
you put this so clearly and so kindly, and i feel like you were also kind to yourself when explaining which is so hard to do? this makes so much sense!! it’s engaging with you under false pretences, even if it’s with “good” intentions/totally not meant that way. thanks for talking about it so openly! from a fellow ocd girlie
@v4mpire_doll
@v4mpire_doll 25 күн бұрын
your channel has been the reason why i felt comfortable enough to bring up OCD with my therapist recently, I appreciate u sm
@handofharshreality
@handofharshreality 25 күн бұрын
just THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for talking about this, this couldn't have came at a better time for me.
@AlbinoBlueSquirrel
@AlbinoBlueSquirrel 24 күн бұрын
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing about this! When I was in college I had a few experiences with people recognizing me around campus from our school's social media pages and being super weird about it. Like people I'd never seen before would come up to me and just start talking like we already knew each other, calling me by my name, never introducing themselves and it was so uncomfy. Then I'd always get super paranoid about if we actually had met and I'd forgotten them and was going to hurt their feelings ugh.
@bridgetcaton2881
@bridgetcaton2881 25 күн бұрын
Firstly- YOUR STRUGGLES ARE VALID AND DESERVE TO BE VOICED (if you wish to share them, ofc) Secondly- I absolutely do not see this as complaining. I can't even imagine what social experiences like that feel like, especially with that level of anxiety.
@kensiwatts8318
@kensiwatts8318 24 күн бұрын
I completely understand where you come from with OCD and anxiety, thank you for sharing, I feel like with any time of disorder its really important to not feel alone and this definitely made me feel like less of an alien
@WhatWouldLubitschDo
@WhatWouldLubitschDo 25 күн бұрын
This is shockingly relatable for someone who doesn’t put anything out on socials. Just the reality that you have a real life *and* a perceived reality by strangers is odd, and sometimes bad enough. You’re not unreasonable, but even if you do eventually become a b**ch to some, I hope you’ll embrace it as truly sometimes the best outcome 😬
@izznt
@izznt 24 күн бұрын
Youre so valid for this . I relate so hard , i cant imagine how many intrusive thoughts would latch to content creation aspects and peoples perception and what they know and all that. Youre so valid and you're doing so well
@kenzieelle
@kenzieelle 25 күн бұрын
Thank you for continuing to be so real with your audience even as your channel has grown a lot recently. I’ve been watching you for a couple years now and when i first learned you have OCD and heard you speaking openly about your experience with therapy and working through all the anxiety you experience, it really gave me a lot of comfort and it’s just so awesome you’re continuing to speak about it because mental health is truly a constant battle and effects everyone differently at different points of their life. I personally have ADHD and had only recently been diagnosed when I started watching your channel and was going to therapy for the first time in my life to try and manage the anxiety and depression that accompanies my ADHD. I was surprised when I found myself relating to lots of the things you experience with OCD that I experience a version of with my ADHD, so I just want to thank you for continuing to use your platform in this way, you’re helping more people than you even realize 🫶❤️
@delonieblake
@delonieblake 25 күн бұрын
I love you the audio clipping is driving me nutsssss🥲❤️
@sagegreenheart935
@sagegreenheart935 24 күн бұрын
nicole your feelings are valid, our heads can be really against us sometimes, thank you for sharing your perspective 🫶🏼
@kate7369
@kate7369 25 күн бұрын
This makes perfect sense and is so valid. I can just barley imagine how daunting that realization in conversation would be. Thanks for sharing.
@unclewalnut8213
@unclewalnut8213 24 күн бұрын
thank you for opening up about this. your concerns and feelings are dear to us and as valid and welcome as we are to you. we love you and appreciate you setting boundaries and still stepping out of your comfort zone to grow. you got this!
@enomis000
@enomis000 25 күн бұрын
no you are so valid for this!! it is not privileged to still want privacy and transparency even when you have a big following. i hope i get to meet you one day as i live in north wilmington, but if we ever do i pinky swear to declare my following of you for years xx
@naudiamartin2798
@naudiamartin2798 25 күн бұрын
dude i really appreciate you being open about your ocd. i’ve been struggling with feeling isolated because of it, and i feel less embarrassed when i see you (or other people) talk about it lol so thanks
@elw1289
@elw1289 24 күн бұрын
It was nice to hear you say all the things I think daily, not judge you for it, and realize that I shouldn't be judging myself for it if I wouldn't judge you for the same thing. I thought the video was Incredibly brave and deeply validating, so thank you for sharing and all the strength it takes to do that. If your goal was to help at least one person, consider it achieved as you have helped me today
@albertqhumperdinck
@albertqhumperdinck 25 күн бұрын
I would just like to let you know that the insight you have shared about your experiences with OCD have really helped me, a non-OCD-haver (ADHD, hi) to understand and reframe some of the behaviours of people who are very close to me who do, where up until now I was doing kind of a lousy job of understanding and empathizing, but now I am like OHHHH... So thank you for helping me try to not be such a jerk! You have a real knack for illuminating and explaining what it`s like. PS if I ever sit next to you on an airplane I will let you know right away that I`ve seen your content.
@mecchamouse5535
@mecchamouse5535 25 күн бұрын
AW HELL TO DA NAW Those people who have a whole conversation with you without acknowledging that they follow you are freaking weird. OCD or not, anyone would feel creeped out and paranoid with that mess!
@mikannn
@mikannn 24 күн бұрын
I’ve been through similar situations and it was terrifying. I think the other person usually does not intend to creep us out, but it happens nonetheless. Thank you for sharing, it made me feel less alone ❤
@Bricichon
@Bricichon 25 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way it sounds so scary and you are so valid for how you’re feeling. I feel the same way after I meet people feeling like I was weird and have anxiety. While I can’t fully understand the fans not telling you they follow u part, I wonder if it would be helpful to bring it up to them when you catch on that you know them? Just like causally and in a “oh hey I know you!” type of way ? I hope things get better soon ❤
@brookpvige
@brookpvige 25 күн бұрын
if i’m being honest, i started crying at the end of this. thank you for talking about these these topics, i feel like many don’t talk about it in the same perspective you do and it just makes me feel so seen whenever you do talk about them. again thank you
@TheRealAlapain420
@TheRealAlapain420 25 күн бұрын
I literally started going to therapy again a few weeks ago and my therapist is highly suspicious that I have OCD. The way I’m relating so hard to this video; the overthinking, anxiety, paranoia. Thank you so much for sharing this
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