I Have Bipolar Disorder and She Wants a Divorce
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@shelbysycamore637 Жыл бұрын
5 kids and a bipolar husband. Bless her heart.
@shelbysycamore637 Жыл бұрын
Nah, I know what I said Ben.
@Immigrantlovesamerica Жыл бұрын
She's probably messed up too. Trauma attracts trauma.
@williamehlers5158 11 ай бұрын
Why are you even watching a counselor on KZfaq if you have a lack of empathy for people with mental illness? It seems a bit counterintuitive.
@shelbysycamore637 11 ай бұрын
@@williamehlers5158 I enjoy trash TV
@williamehlers5158 11 ай бұрын
@@shelbysycamore637 but this isn’t tv… maybe you just enjoy trash. In that case, just take a look in the mirror.
@elizabethpieters7798 Жыл бұрын
Bipolar Disorder is no excuse for abusing your spouse or for being rude. Its OK to get divorced. It's OK to save yourself.
@AishaMBudgets Жыл бұрын
It's not an excuse. It's life.
@johntrevestal912 6 ай бұрын
Life is not self-destruction.
@kayleerivers2083 2 ай бұрын
That's all the life we live is! @@johntrevestal912
@shachede6828 Жыл бұрын
How does an 11 year old not “have a good relationship with her mom” and had to be sent away? Bruh the whole family is in chaos
@EmpressMermaid Жыл бұрын
I'm thinking this guy is minimizing his whole situation
@Pickle2222 Жыл бұрын
Who sends an 11 year old away because the mom isn’t happy that’s pretty bad
@doctorposting 3 ай бұрын
right?? i’m like wait so the mom sent her away?🥵🥵🥵
@AdrianaWhitney Ай бұрын
I thought EXACTLY the same!
@kimberlymorrison4880 Жыл бұрын
My husband was diagnosed 4 yrs ago after a manic episode in which he was caught by myself being sexually inappropriate. I was in disbelief. In public no less. His moods, behaviors through out our marriage have been tumultuous to say the least. It is an destructive disorder. He's attempted suicide, been to rehab. He is now medicated, therapy, goes to bed at 10 pm. He does everything he should BUT it doesn't wash away all the pain that I've endured. It's alot for someone to handle.
@SandraLuz3 Жыл бұрын
God bless you and your family on this tough situation
@ChardeeMacdennis339 Жыл бұрын
I’m also married to a bipolar spouse and I feel this very deeply. I have suffered through years of CPTSD. And you just never get to breathe easy because even when things are “good” you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop. You know it won’t last. It’s awful. Sending love ❤️
@elizabethpieters7798 Жыл бұрын
It's OK to leave and file for divorce. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Don't stay out of obligation and dont let anyone guilt you into staying.
@user-he6rs8xi7u Жыл бұрын
@@elizabethpieters7798 yeah, vows before God mean nothing. Do you, sis.
@elizabethpieters7798 Жыл бұрын
@@user-he6rs8xi7u no God wants anyone to be abused mentally or physically. Vows and a marriage certificate doesn't give anyone the power or right to treat you badly.
@Gabster1990 Жыл бұрын
Bless her. I dated a man with bipolar disorder. It wasn't easy.
@Price8903 Жыл бұрын
Ppl with severe mental health problems can be very draining to deal with. They will literally suck the life out of you while blaming you and/or others rather than take the necessary steps to ensure their own good mental health
@AishaMBudgets Жыл бұрын
Which has nothing to do with this man because he's reaching out and trying to get the help that he needs.
@Price8903 Жыл бұрын
@@AishaMBudgets maybe, but who knows how long he’s put off treatment and all that his mate had to endure before he got to this point….
@nancypicchi9224 5 ай бұрын
For the moment only. The track record will likely be the future. Sad, but true. I lived through a mentally ill parent who played games with their medications.@@AishaMBudgets
@pennyannvincent8831 4 ай бұрын
Yes, unfortunately I am one of them and now divorced. I dont hide behind my illness but it is an illness and very difficult for family and surrounding community to deal with...and they really dont want to. I cant blame them
@deforestshell3037 2 ай бұрын
And who are you to judge?Because you don't know what this man has been through or has done.The greatest tragedy of mental health is that you can do everything on paper correctly and still not fucking feel better.@@Price8903
@Nah-ah Жыл бұрын
He’s trying and that’s all that matters. Wishing him all the best with his healing and his family
@littlewoodchopper2659 6 ай бұрын
Bipolar is extremely tough but i think alot of people is using that to keep from admitting they are assholes. I lived with untreated bipolar until last year, i started taking meds. Ive always been super close to my kids and family . Of course ive always been held accountable too so maybe that is the difference
@abbypierce4196 2 ай бұрын
Bipolar 1 is often more severe in it’s symptoms. Manic and depressive episodes are deepened and often they can be more destructive then BP Type 2.
@kekejefferson9219 Жыл бұрын
Best Advice I've heard in awhile. Only have as many kids that you could handle and afford alone.
@HufflinPuffs Жыл бұрын
My husband is bipolar. He does everything he needs to do so I don’t have to worry about him taking meds, seeing a therapist, etc. But he still has ups and downs.
@ChardeeMacdennis339 Жыл бұрын
I think people who aren’t experienced with bipolar might not realize that even when medicated, the mood fluctuations still happen. They’re just less intense and are less likely to turn into full blown mania or psychosis. My husband is bipolar too
@AishaMBudgets Жыл бұрын
@@ChardeeMacdennis339 Thank you for explaining that, Chardee. I'm bipolar 2.
@mssdn8976 3 ай бұрын
We have a bipolar very close relative, it’s so hard to have any consistency unless we walk on eggshells the whole time, so we don’t upset her. If she gets offended by anything we say, she stops talking to us altogether, but won’t say why. We’ve been going through this for 20 years and once she didn’t speak to us for years. You have to not take it personally, but it’s impossible to like her a lot of the time
@melodywilliams9124 2 ай бұрын
I have bipolar disorder type 1 and I can't see what her behavior has to do with bipolar. I think the problem is her personality. She's acting like that because that's who she is. People attributing all bad behavior to bipolar is disheartening and is a real disservice to those who have it. I constantly read comments attributing any and all erratic behaviors to bipolar which is frustrating. It's possible that people act certain ways because they're a bad person and not because they are a sick person.
@lynnmcquillan2338 6 ай бұрын
Excellent advice & great honesty from the caller - he’s definitely on his way just on the honesty factor alone / keep up the great work man! Good wishes & God Bless too 😊👍🙏
@rosamoreno4794 Жыл бұрын
Dr. felony just made him realize his marriage is over and the caller didn’t like that. It is over buddy. 🤷🏻♀️ Do better for YOU first. Then you could be good to everyone else. 🤷🏻♀️
@lexalee5795 Жыл бұрын
These A**hole men like him don’t understand or get it… he’s the type that’ll kill his whole family then himself
@wLBlue 4 ай бұрын
But...till death do u part...in sickness and in health...they not divorced
@dahliacheung6020 2 ай бұрын
Yeah you can hear it in his voice how unhappy he was to hear that taking his medicine and seeking help wasn't enough to save his marriage after he's admitting being abusive so much so that the 13 year old daughter is traumatized and wants nothing to do with him. I wonder how many times, while he stuck to his general practitioner and refused to take medication that he says working- how many times did his wife beg him to seek the actual help he needed only for him to refuse? I'm glad he's seeking help now but he needs to realize that not doing so for all those years while being cruel and saying hurtful things due to his mental illness isn't just something his family can forget. They're likely all scarred in some way and his wife needs to protect their children. It's really sad. And all the people shaming the wife for leaving saying that God hates divorce and that she said "til death do us part," need to step out of the bubbles of their church congregations and spend some time volunteering in a women's shelter or something- take care of "the least of them" like Jesus said to.
@ChardeeMacdennis339 Жыл бұрын
My husband developed bipolar about 7 years into our marriage. We’ve been married 9 more years since then. I don’t know what to say other than it can be and frequently is very difficult… even though my husband takes care of himself and takes his meds. It’s much better than it was before he was properly diagnosed and medicated but yeah it’s hard 😞
@jackcoleman5955 Жыл бұрын
You’re AMAZING Chardee. It is so hard, and harder when culture says ‘get away from him’. May God bless you with some joyful and good and calm times with your husband. And I hope you can find a few solid friends who will actively support you for the long haul - you cannot and should not do this alone. God bless you, j
@ChardeeMacdennis339 Жыл бұрын
@@jackcoleman5955 thank you so much for that 😊
@leela7366 4 ай бұрын
I admire your courage to share about your journey. Can I ask if you ever wondered if he had a mental illness before he showed significant symptoms? I got married to a man in his early fifties. Three months into our marriage he was displaying some very extreme emotional outbursts and other concerning behaviors. He began saying that he was going to have a nervous breakdown and that he needed to go to a mental hospital etc. He never mentioned anything about mental illness while we were dating so I was completely shocked by everything that was happening. At his age he says he has just now discovered that he is struggling with mental illness and I feel like he has deceived me by hiding his mental health issues. I spoke with his relatives and close friends and they say that he has always been like this. I just don’t believe that he is just discovering this and I don’t know what to do with this marriage now. It’s very sad and painful to go through this.
@fatvegan4621 4 ай бұрын
People can develop Bipolar after some time? I thought it was just undiagnosed but still present 🤔🤔🤔
@BeanMacdui 3 ай бұрын
@@fatvegan4621I know that it’s common for bipolar to happen during the early to mid twenties. At least bipolar one. Bipolar two can go undiagnosed or misdiagnosed for years. And yes, I believe it is present and not something that just develops.
@darlayeates510 Жыл бұрын
What a deep, dark hole some people live in. Hope they can find some light in their life someday.
@smpittsburgh264 Жыл бұрын
I will pray for you, young man. I hear your struggles, trouble, and grief. Jesus Christ redeemed my life and is near to all who call upon him in faith: Turn thee unto me, and have mercy upon me, for I am desolate and afflicted. The troubles of my heart are enlarged: O bring thou me out of my distresses. Look upon mine affliction and my pain; and forgive all my sins. (Psalm 25:16-18)
@erismana2105 Жыл бұрын
🙄
@BeanMacdui 3 ай бұрын
@@erismana2105I respect if you don’t believe in this man’s faith and if you don’t agree with it. But can you stop with the pointless insult and negativity? Especially in a forum that has vulnerable people in the comments. We each are trying our best and if people find comfort and strength in religion then I am happy for them.
@Whatorwellsaid21 Жыл бұрын
5 kids, poor kids
@mrsladdy Жыл бұрын
He really gives amazing advise best therapist I have seen in a long time.
@cococarter54 11 ай бұрын
He is always so empathetic ❤🥹
@elainenilsson5472 Жыл бұрын
This guy may be trying and I give him an A+ for effort but I don't see how he can run a home.
@kellharris2491 Жыл бұрын
Maybe he can't and he needs to accept that. Separating may be the right thing. Instead he should work on being better. He should continue to provide child support. If she is open to phone calls and zoom he should do that.
@badass1g Жыл бұрын
Bi polar is legit scary stuff.. my buddy lost it and blew his head off. Was such a nice man. Stay on your meds peeps. What’s scary is he told his wife he was gonna delete her before he deleted himself. Left behind 4 kids 💔
@jamesstanton3280 11 ай бұрын
So many for your loss so tough ❤️
@karenmassey8354 Жыл бұрын
It would probably really help if he stopped saying abusive things to his wife and kids. I (very briefly) dated a man with bipolar. The stuff that would come out of his mouth was vile.
@erismana2105 Жыл бұрын
That's who they really they just use being crazy as an excuse
@karenmassey8354 Жыл бұрын
@@erismana2105 Exactly right!
@littlewoodchopper2659 6 ай бұрын
That's an asshole thing. Not all bipolar people are that way. Don't get me wrong when I get extremely mad, I'll eventually tell you how I really feel but that takes someone just dishing it out for years.
@karenmassey8354 6 ай бұрын
@@littlewoodchopper2659 He had medically diagnosed bipolar disorder that he claimed he was on medication for, but after briefly knowing him either he was lying about being on medication or his dosages needed to be increased A LOT. Also he wasn’t mad or upset, just psychotic.
@wLBlue 4 ай бұрын
But was it true what he was saying?
@zakiyaseedat3180 Жыл бұрын
This was hard to hear as the conversation went on. I to struggle with bioplar and I know how hard it is. I hope he successful in his recovery and he builds an amazing relationship with his kids.
@sherryd.3425 Жыл бұрын
Hi, love. Me, too. My family, too. The medication experience has been horrific. There are no drugs that will heal you. Avoiding alcohol and street drugs and psychedelics will help your longevity. Lithium is a winner, but almost no one can take it without immediate horrific side effects. I am a mandated reporter. I have raised other people's children for forty years. No one ever gets to torture the children...ever.
@TPWK216 2 ай бұрын
I feel so sorry for this man and his family. Please remember he is a victim of this diecise. And so is his family. Not one of them choosed this! I hope everything works out for him with his meds and he gets the support he needs when his head betraying him.
@954dreamer1 Жыл бұрын
Usually men leave wives when they have cancer etc. To the point medical staff include it in their care plan. Tough luck man
@ArijanaLukic 4 ай бұрын
😢😢
@wLBlue 4 ай бұрын
As wives leave husbands...both similar
@supermodelatlanta1354 Жыл бұрын
My dad took the hinges off the door. Yup I'm bipolar too btw
@abbylebaddie Жыл бұрын
My parents took the hinges off my bedroom door as a teen. It was beyond traumatizing.
@DominickSpano Жыл бұрын
I like Dr. John most out of Ramsey's group. He seems different from the others like he understands every day woos or issues. Ramsey himself is cool, but I get the impression his children cannot relate to the everyday Joe like a Dr. John type can somehow. It probably isn't for this reason exactly, but you can tell Ramsey's kids grew up w/ $. Yes I know Ramsey had his ups and downs and was likely strict about how the kids were treated in said way, but he was very successful. My point is Dr. John can relate to the 18 year old kid having a porn addiction or the 60 year old man who just lost a son.
@Raminakai Жыл бұрын
You have such a great head and heart John. I am just left here, praying that this man finds a a solid Rock, an anchor of Hope, and a friend that sticks closer than a brother ( or therapist or counselor) Not that those roles aren't important, but one thing is needful. 🙏🕊
@supermodelatlanta1354 Жыл бұрын
General practice don't work long term. Even county offices don't work bc care is split shrink does this dr perscribed that it's too much to get rounded care
@a.ereuthalion183 Жыл бұрын
That was a hard call.
@JJJJ-he8bz Жыл бұрын
If a woman wants to leave just let her go and don’t chase or beg.
@AishaMBudgets Жыл бұрын
Absolutely right! Don't fight for things that matter!
@supermodelatlanta1354 Жыл бұрын
I'm bipolar too this should interesting
@supermodelatlanta1354 Жыл бұрын
4:20 eating meds & sleep is for you. That's hard for us to do
@lorirogers9304 5 ай бұрын
No alcohol and limit caffeine.
@Jackmcars12 4 ай бұрын
Why is bipolar not placed more with cluster B? I dated a malignant narcissist next, after domestic violence from a 20 year Bipolar spouse, both awful!
@wLBlue 4 ай бұрын
Damn...u ever check why u picking these types
@Jackmcars12 4 ай бұрын
@@wLBlue I know why.
@ASmith1917 29 күн бұрын
Bipolar-II here but my father was a Malignant NPD initially misdiagnosed as Bipolar-I. The problem is that cluster-B disorders are often MISDIAGNOSED as Bipolar because of the unpredictable behavior, but they have wild mood swings because of their personalities, not because of their moods. Cluster-B is also more due to poor environment/upbringing whereas Bipolar is more biochemical (obviously nature/nuture is a factor in BOTH).
@margol2168 Жыл бұрын
I suspect my wife is bipolar but poorly diagnosed by a gral practitioner in a 3rd world country. Given paroxetine just fed up her mania & mood swings, and right now, i am watching her packing up just before leaving me. She changed from 100% freedom lover to a sad face now. Not my fault, always been perfect, lovin, carin husband and beg her not to leave. I'll feedback u in a couple of weeks.
@pennyannvincent8831 4 ай бұрын
Doctor John...are you a physician? Psychiatrist?
@wildwill1970 2 ай бұрын
She needs to leave and never look back. Sorry fella, putting her through this for the rest of her life is not right. Get yourself right so hopefully you can have some sort of positive impact on your kids later in life.
@danielkroeze8218 7 ай бұрын
My ex bipolar wife, no thank you ! It was hard to rid her!
@Maremare680 Жыл бұрын
I’ll be bipolar too if I have five children 😫
@wLBlue 4 ай бұрын
But the letters to the daughter would be b.s.
@joannedovey9710 4 ай бұрын
Why did he wait so long?
@tiffanydrouin2622 Ай бұрын
A lot of people who are like this are in denial and don't think they need help and/or it's like they blackout and when they come to they don't remember what they did. It's like the surge of emotions/hormones is so great it's an overload to the brain and they have no idea what happened. My mom was the latter when growing up. She'd always get confused why I was crying after she had an episode then came to and I would tell her it was because she hurt me. I thought her answers of "Why would you say that I wouldn't do that to you!" was her lying to and messing with me to be cruel when I was young. Now that I'm older I'm pretty sure she was acting honestly. It's still difficult dealing with her though and we don't have a good relationship, for many reasons.
@ronaldnichols9945 Жыл бұрын
Please research keto/carnivore way of eating. What a person eats and does not eat affects behavior. The keto way of eating is documented to help people with problems. Please look into it.
@TheAgentmigs Жыл бұрын
Dude sounds like he needs a nap.
@SL-ud7tf Жыл бұрын
I wondered too. Think it's the meds or/and he feeling depressed. Poor guy.
@marycollum3824 Жыл бұрын
Run from somebody who is bipolar.
@AishaMBudgets Жыл бұрын
What a loving response.
@TTHeavensent 5 ай бұрын
@@AishaMBudgetsYou’ve been all through out the comments encouraging the caller’s behavior or sympathizing with him,yet berating his wife who has had to deal with verbal abuse and having her life turned upside down. You’ve stated that you also suffer from bipolar disorder and you need to get help. If this is how you are online the people around you are suffering.
@esd_des3606 2 ай бұрын
Yeah bro. She made a vow to stay with you in sickness and in health until she dies. But women are allowed to take it back at any time. Didn’t you read the Bible ?
@wutang23361 Жыл бұрын
For better or worse, anybody?
@nai5949 Жыл бұрын
I guess it only counts for a physical illness🤷♀️
@kellharris2491 Жыл бұрын
@@nai5949 when you abuse your children then you need to leave.
@pennyannvincent8831 4 ай бұрын
forget it. signed 21 years and dumped
@leela7366 4 ай бұрын
Yes. For better or for worse and it’s okay to be safe too and make sure that your children are safe. Do you have any suggestions on what that should look like?
@abbypierce4196 2 ай бұрын
If my spoused harmed my children emotionally or physically - you’re done. Her children are top priority - not a grown adult man.
@robertcomfort2186 Ай бұрын
Even when he’s in the wrong, the husband is self reporting. You’ll never see a woman accept accountability their own behavior let alone on a public platform.
@GardenerEarthGuy Жыл бұрын
I wonder if being married to her has caused this?
@julesm9498 Жыл бұрын
You think his Wife caused him to develop bipolar disorder?
@GardenerEarthGuy Жыл бұрын
@@julesm9498 Yes, it's typical when someone marries and regrets it.
@julesm9498 Жыл бұрын
@@GardenerEarthGuy Disagree. Bipolar has a genetic component, its not caused by regret.
@GardenerEarthGuy Жыл бұрын
@@julesm9498 Listening to him sounds like the wife has some lib doctor helping her convince him he's crazy. It's her fault and he needs to see it this way.
@LulaMae21 Жыл бұрын
Lol that's not how mental illness works, AT ALL.
@edithandlez Жыл бұрын
awe a grown man playing victim. Cute!
@RatMouse444 Жыл бұрын
What a disgusting thing to say.
@SaystheTruth3 Жыл бұрын
That was mean! Looks like someone has her own issues to work on......
@Z3sty367 Жыл бұрын
The cold and jaded Evelyn has come out of her cave spitting venom🧙♀️ Need a hug love?
@lexalee5795 Жыл бұрын
Exactly. He’s the asshole and acts like it’s the wife 😂 typical manipulative man.
@user-he6rs8xi7u Жыл бұрын
Thanks for telling me all about you, Ev.
@mba2ceo Жыл бұрын
The best thing that society can do is take the messed up in a field on his knees and deleted them CHINA SYTLE. My opinion
@megalopolis2015 Жыл бұрын
Interesting. The window of near-perfection for humans (because absolutely no one is perfect) is between the ages of 25 and 33, provided physical and mental health, as well as financial circumstances are also at optimal levels. Where do you fall in this window? When you are deemed expendable by your benevolent government, will you go willingly, or will you finally realize you had worth all along, even though they cannot see it, just as you cannot see others' worth right now?
@user-he6rs8xi7u Жыл бұрын
@@megalopolis2015 boom, sis.
@sobeliever1638 Жыл бұрын
You first you sound disgusting.
@erismana2105 Жыл бұрын
Or at least not had kids with people who have mental illness
@AishaMBudgets Жыл бұрын
@@megalopolis2015 Perfect response.
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