It is so important as a Christian to preach the gospel to yourself everyday.

"If your eyes are on the storm, you wonder if I love you still, but if your eyes are on the Cross, you know I always have and I always will"

This question is EXACTLY what I've been struggling with for years. Your answer was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. As with anything related to faith, we must actively choose to trust regardless of what our hearts tell us. But it is so freaking hard sometimes. The lies that come from our emotional center are so logical and convincing and powerful that ignoring them just feels like denial. And, yeah, while the Bible is full of the promises of God's love, the darkness that tells me I'm not included in them is very real. But, if over 40 years of walking with Jesus has taught me anything, it's that the darkness is a lie. Satan wants us to feel defeated and abandoned and alone. He derives joy from our pain. And I have no intention of giving him that satisfaction. So, despite the whisperings in my mind that tell me I'm not worthy, I choose to believe that I am because the Cross, and over 40 years of God's continual blessing, tell me so.

My dad has given the most helpful advice to me when I struggle with self worth because I truly don’t believe I deserve anything good… he tells me “you may not have deserved anything before you believed in Jesus. But you are now his child. You’re a princess and you should know your worth as royalty in the kingdom of God. You ARE worthy of good things BECAUSE of God” And man that wrecks me with overwhelming love that I can’t even comprehend

The Christian life is all about slowly learning three truths: 1. God is bigger than our suffering. 2. God uses our suffering for good. 3. God is glorified in our suffering.

This is my problem. Focusing on the feeling rather than the fact. Emotions don’t dictate reality and I know this. Emotional reasoning can be strong sometimes, can’t it?

Thank you for posting this. As someone who has always struggled with self-loathing and fear, it's difficult to wrap my head around these truths sometimes. I will pray and try to take this to heart.

My son, 12 years old, hasn't said he struggles with this, but I know from his actions and his tone sometimes he is struggling with this same issue inside. I struggle with what to tell him when something like this comes up. Thank you for showing this video. It made me understand what I need to tell him.

Journaling helps. Just writing down what your feelings are and what makes you feel that way, addressing them with God’s Word and pointing out why your feelings are lying, and mapping out how you can feel/act because God’s Word is true, is really helpful. Try it daily for a month without giving up. It really helped me. Basically self-administered cognitive behavioral therapy but with the gospel instead of baseless self-affirmations.

I'm a survivor of SRA, Christ delivered me out from a generational occult family. What's helped me is understanding what you said. Christ sacrificed himself for me and my sins, fully knowing what I did and who I have been. I remind myself that he delivered me out from something no other power could have. That he never makes a mistake, it's not possible. I ask him regularly to help me see myself as he does. It's been a process, and remains one until the day I see him face to face. Until then, I am often reminded that it isn't about how I feel, that's been messed with by the best messer upper. God is reprogramming what never should have been messed with to begin with. God has promised to finished the good work he began in me...I can't hardly wait...Maranatha...and God bless

I've had these types of issues for a while. Maybe not the "God doesn't hear my prayers" part, but certainly feeling like I could be dropped by those around me at any point. The solution (like Mike said) is genuinely trusting in what I already "believe." I've found that the easiest way to go about that is to do as scripture commands and root, or saturate myself in scripture. I feel worthless when I *forget* that my worth comes not from me, but from Christ in me. Starting my morning with prayer that is fueled by what I am reading in scripture, as well as memorizing even just one new verse a week have been ways of making sure I don't forget. The result has been a profound joy in the LORD. Rejoice in the Lord, again I say rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be made known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving make your requests known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 4:4-7

4:34 I am just recovering from an emotional injury that almost cost my life in 2010. My spiritual life has changed in a mature way now. I am a CHRISTian now solidly. Praise HIS NAME.

Props to Mike for not laughing at the name "Giant Mushroom Tree"

So tough to do when you have known is rejection, betrayal, constant misunderstanding! I suppose it really is just believing what He says no matter how I feel. Thank you for posting this. I really have been needing an answer for how to respond when all I feel is that I am worthless, or I need to earn God's love because it's felt like I've always had to earn love my whole life. I've understood obedience, and rule keeping very well, but true unconditional love has never been part of my understanding. I was converted 3 years ago, and when I felt that kind of the love for the first time, it scared me, and amazed me. I couldn't fathom someone loving me as I was. I was always rejected by everyone at school, betrayed by friends, emotionally absent parents, constantly belittled by a school system that failed me, etc (it gets worse in the details, but I'm keeping it short for brevity sake). I can see now after all that has happened, I can't keep giving into those feelings like they are still happening now. It's over with, and with God's help, I can now be healed from it to never be pained by those things again. I don't need to fear that's going to happen anymore, especially not with Him. I know in my brain He's trustworthy, now it's a matter of making His promise of love a matter of the heart. Thank you Pastor Mike. (P.s. the pastor at my church is also Mike, so I have 2 pastor Mike's!) To anyone else who have suffered alone terribly for many years with no one who seems to listen, or care hear this scripture. "Does He who formed the eye not see, and He who formed the ear not hear?" Psalm 94:9. He knows your pain, and He knows how hard it is to be vulnerable again. You can trust Him, He won't hurt you. You may have a heart like mine that had been almost completely turned off from love and trust because of what's happened, but I know He's trustworthy. He's been slowly opening my heart wounds and cleaning them up as I've surrendered. You may be able to be 100% vulnerable with God day one of you trusting Him, and I truly hope you can, but I know I have not been able to. I had no idea how to even be vulnerable! Good boy though I was (according to my parents), I had no real love, or vulnerability ever made known to me, or that I could be that way with anyone! You can know God loves you, and will work with you if you'll push past the fear. The most repeated phrase in the bible is "don't be afraid" and is said 366 times. One for every day of the year including the leap year. He intends us to keep that command as best we can, not suppressing our emotions, but laying them bare before Him, trusting Him with them and telling us how to deal with them based on His Word. Be blessed, in Jesus's name.

Well said brother Mike! Jesus is Faithful and True! God bless you and your ministry!

God speaks yet again through our brother Mike Winger. Mike thank you so much for this message today. I recently have been struggling with this very thing. Thanks for reminding me to get out of my own way and trust Gods word ❤🙏

Pastor Mike, I thank God for you and this ministry. I struggle with emotional emptiness (complex PTSD). This same encouragement here (cling to the truth of Scripture and believe even when I don’t feel it) has helped me recover from 4 yeas of persistent depressive disorder. My problem now though is that I have a hard time shaking off insecurity and actually LIVING this new life. Is this still a belief/faith issue I’m having? I hope it’s not but I’m afraid it is. I’m being patient and compassionate about the process of unlearning all the coping mechanisms I’ve used since childhood. But I still struggle SO bad with obedience. To be “free.” Sometimes I feel I reyoke myself when I feel I’m being called to do something I don’t believe I’m qualified to do. Maybe that’s my problem? Still stuck on self-sufficiency? Worried about my qualifications instead of Gods. Ugh. It’s frustrating. Because I want to grow and mature, and I have grown tremendously. But I feel I’ve reached a place that’s really challenging me to trust God for provision and idk I guess I’m scared still. Sorry… idk what my question is. I guess I also still just feel alone in life and like no one understands me. But God of course. And so when I watched this short I just felt SEEN. Please pray that I may find rest for my weariness and strength where I’m weak… in the Lord and trust him to see me through whatever it is he’s doing in my life. God bless you.

The Lord healed me recently in the most miraculous way. Where I felt there was no way, He stepped in and undertook in such a perfect way. If anyone needs encouragement today, please call out to Jesus....I shall never ever forget what He has done for me....

Self-worth is an identity issue. We need to focus on what it means to be in Christ and identify with Him.

This is super helpful. I struggle w/ abandonment and love issues too - parent's divorced when I was 10, no dad, emotionally vacant mother etc etc. It's hard. This was I think the first time I've heard an answer to this question and need that helps towards a closer relationship with God. Thank you.

I thought it was only me lol. You explained to a T, exactly how I'd feel, if I'd fall backwards here and there. It's hard to remember the constant finality of Jesus' sacrifice, sometimes we apply human emotions to it, and feel like God's shaking his head at us but that must be purely a human reponse to our guilt.

This is so true! But I want to add that this truth is sometimes a process to learn. Sometimes it takes time to shake off that hardened mud of lies that have caked on our hearts. Sometimes we need professional help as support while Jesus heals our hearts and embeds His word deep into us. So be encouraged that this may not be just a light switch transformation!

I want to add to this, sometime we feel these ways because it's a MINDSET and fall prey to thinking patterns. You have to relearn how you think and remind yourself the truth and not your fears

The title felt very relevant to me, but it turned out to be something quite different. I'm currently in a deep process which seems to be the next chapter of this story. I've given my life to Christ about 3 years ago, and have been building up trust in the Lord. At this point I am in that place where I completely trust Him, and I know that the difficulties I'm in right now are part of His healing process for me. That said, this healing process seems to be the second chapter after this topic. I still have low self-worth and I still have something like "abandonment issues", although I would rather call them "trust issues", in relation to other people. I've had my trust betrayed so many times in my youth it has made me anxious to get involved with anyone unless they've proven to be trustworthy. I feel, tongue-in-cheek, like I've been kinda tricked by God's design for me, since I have many talents and many things are easy for me, except dealing with people. And then it turns out the most important thing in God's kingdom is dealing with people... So I'm actually really quite useless at the moment and I feel pathetic. I don't trust people, which makes it very hard to build or even start relationship as part of spreading the gospel message. I've only recently become aware of just how crucial a problem this is, and now I'm in the process of working through this. It seems the first step is to break through my reluctance, persist through any setbacks, achieve successes in building relationship, and stay in close contact with God and my close Christian friends. I'll try to return here in a couple of weeks/months to share how things progressed, in case it may help or encourage anyone else. I'm optimistic that God will pull me through, providing healing and growth. Prayer is appreciated.

You hit the nail on the head. Exactly what I’ve been dealing with. Sometimes I wonder if I’m even saved because of this pattern of sin.. and that worrying makes the pattern worse. And then I have all this anxiety about dying and being rejected by Christ, etc. It’s horrendous. I know I am so unholy and not a good representation of Christ.. It eats me alive every day. It causes an intense feeling of emptiness and loneliness. This answer brings me some peace..

This makes sense. Something I struggle with. Thanks, Mike.

Low self-worth? Read the Bible. It’s a love story. So many promises, so many statements that tell us how much He loves us. Come to know your worth in Christ. He died for you that you can be saved from the penalty of death. How much is a life worth? A lot! He said He would never leave you nor forsake you.

Since leaving the chruch Ive found that a lot of my low self worth was coming from the men of God I trusted. I did lose faith and trust in those men, but held my faith in God. I still feel unworthy of Gods love but def know He loves me, watches out for me, and gets me thru each day. At times wanting to end it all, yet He would lead me to what I needed every time. Now I dont even think about ending it (life), only expanding on it. Thanx so much, Many Blessings

Thanks for this, Mike! The cross is a daily reminder of God’s love and forgiveness for me ❤️

YES Brother! We do have an Abchor! And we grab hold of Him, by trust.

Mike you answered that so well. Thankful to God for His truth spoken through you.

Dang. 🤦‍♀️. I’m old. More than a couple years as a believer, saved. And I STILL feel like things between me and God are broken and distant when I have done something wrong. Shame and lack of trust. But the turnaround is shorter. 😂 🙌🏼🙏🏼😊 Many years ago the Lord planted this in my heart “receive your acceptance in the Lord”. Every day he’s walking that out in me. ❤️🙌🏼

Thanks for this! Head knowledge and heart knowledge are two very different things. There is great value in obeying God, believing God even when you feel nothing. In fact, it’s such a blessing to glorify God in that way. Believing what He says because He is God - even if it will take time to sink into my heart. Faith doesn’t always manifest itself in great zeal or assurance, but in an unwavering commitment to truth. I struggle with low self-worth and a want for intimacy. I combat this by committing to what God wants me to do *today* and by remembering that no one will ever be more intimate with me than He who dwells in my heart at this very moment. Even when our hearts are weary and hard, the righteous shall walk by faith. ❤

This was an excellent answer. Thank you for letting God use you to minister to us, Mike

I'm extremely close to someone who very deeply feels these things... I think you hit the nail on the head... No matter how much love is given, if they don't FEEL it then it must not be real love... It's a struggle to believe the love is real regardless of how it feels...

This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear this morning. I have struggled with this for years and I know that God has been working with me to stop believing the lies the enemy tells me and that I tell myself and to believe HIS WORD - His written, irrevocable TRUTH. It may not happen overnight and though I may take two steps forward, sometimes there's a step back, but I will always get back up and persevere because in my weakness HE is strong; He will never leave me nor forsake me and He is the Author and FINISHER of my faith. I truly believe this. What helps tremendously is to know that I am not the only one who struggles with this issue. Thank you again, Pastor Winger, for bringing to light such an important topic for so many sincere followers of Jesus. I am so grateful.

Thanks Mike. Just started on some low dose anti depressants and have been on the mend lately. Thanks for helping me get back on the straight and narrow. God is good. Your channel has blessed me so much 💕

Thank you Lord Jesus Christ for your grace your mercy! Thank you brother Mike for being obedient to God. You have a wonderful gift of teaching and communicating things in a way that is truly edifying to me and to many others. Glory to God.

It seems like some of us high in neuroticism will always feel this way to a certain degree. We always have to fight the very strong feeling that we are unworthy of love even from God and no amount of prayer or faith can fully shake that feeling.

I too have been kicking myself for past mistakes. Your words were very helpful. Thanks for sharing!!🙏

Mike this is so good. You replied with sensitivity and compassion. Thank you for sharing so openly about your own struggles but at the same time considering your family. Yes there is a battle to believe in what God has said. I know this video will help a lot of people.

I have been listening to quite a few of your videos and find you to be the perfect blend of rational, reasonable, humble but not compromising the Truth to be popular. Knowing what I know of you this far from your videos you would take a comment like this, appreciate it,but not let it sway you from continuing to be authentic and God pleasing. The temptation to be full of ourselves is a strong one on social media platforms. I imagine if Jesus himself was a You Tuber He’d be inclined to have the same approach . He was constantly redirecting the attention away from Himself and onto the Father. Keep up the good fight of faith. We desperately need this in our day and age. God has provided us with a way of escape to stay strong in this current generation through channels like yours. Thank you!!

Amen! We all needed that.

This helped me. It made me think back to when God did act in my life in a very powerful way and reminded me that he chose me.

Thanks for this one Mike! I'm praying for the questioner! I hope they are able to sink into His constant love, and be filled. You're not alone.

I never knew I felt like that until you said this mark, thank you so much for this, and you’re SO RIGHT! I used to feel like I had to be good too for a while so I could talk to God again but I know it’s a lie from the Devil

Another side to this that requires a different answer is when one has been abused emotionally, physically and psychologically. Many live with this daily so it’s a constant battle to just live let alone get in the right headspace.

This was so what I needed to hear. Thank you mike for sharing!

Mike I have struggled with this exact issue recently and I completely agree with you. God bless you and everyone and thank you so much for your videos

Exactly what I needed today! Thank you so much!!!

Thank you, Mike. Your answer hit me hard. One of my biggest struggles is projecting other people's abandonment and rejection of me onto God. The *only* thing that helps is resting in the fact that God has proven His love for me (and everyone) through Jesus. Also, I *know* God is not like fallible humans, even though my 'feelings' try to fool me. Knowing these things doesn't take the bad feelings or numbness away, but the facts help me to keep holding on. I pray Giant Mushroom Tree will be helped by this answer too. God bless you both.

What a phenomenal answer.

I too lived most of my life believing God hated me & wanted nothing to do with me. I felt so alone & abandoned. And unloved, and worthless. But the past year or so has been chock-filled with many "a-ha moments." For years I hated God because I thought He was done with me. But now? I know He loves me, & for that I'm so grateful & I can love Him back. Yeah, this world is stupid & dumb things happen, but that's Satan messing with you - NOT God "punishing" you (yet another false belief I had for decades). What happened to cause this 180 for me? I honestly don't know. I'm just happy & grateful it happened. ❤️ So whoever is reading this, believe in the Bible, the living word of God (who loves you much more deeply & completely than any human can). God is our perfect Father who we can run to when there's nobody else to run to. Emotions can suck. Please don't let any emotions cause you to do anything stupid. Instead, rest in the loving arms of God, & unload every burden you're holding onto Him. 🙏

The enemy wants us to have those doubts..."Does God really love you?" Scripture says He does! The more we read the Bible the more we can get to know and grow closer our Heavenly Father. My mother died when I was young and my father was not a kind man, so I understand abandonment and having a Heavenly Father is the greatest joy! Praying is talking to God, but if you want to know how He feels about you, read His Word. That's Him talking to you. Just start loving Him with all your heart, mind and soul and see what happens! Love you all and I've prayed that everyone that is doubting, will know the Father's love for them as they think of the cross. He loved us first!!!! 💕

This is exactly how I feel!!! Thank you so much for this Mike :)

The advice you gave in this video actually helped me tremendously. I've been dealing with the sense of abandonment and low self worth since my PawPaw passed away on August 19th of this year, and hearing what you said about how we're already valuable to GOD and loved by HIM because of what Jesus Christ did by dying on the Cross. That made my entire perspective on everything change in an instant, because my conscience knew that to be true. Thank you, brother, and may our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ be with you and your loved ones this Christmas.

I needed this right now.

This was me ages ago. BUT, I heard... understood.. was struck by... the lyrics of an old song by Bob Fitts - "I will rejoice" The part that struck me the most was in the middle of the verse: "It doesn't depend on the way I feel, I've made up my mind." Whoa. Wait. What I know in my head needs to have precedence over what my feelings are telling me. My past still sometimes rears its ugly head, but I know how to shut it up. I don't live there anymore.

This right here is exactly what has kept me going all of these years!

I am just from The Beat Allen's KZfaq Channel after I had searched (The Biggest Christian Channels) so that I can learn from them. In his video your channel was number 3. I started a youtube channel on 7th of this month celebrating my 6yrs in Christ Jesus. I have already subscribed to your channel and I believe I am here to stay. Thank you so much for this sharing on self-worth.

Thank you, well said, needed to hear this.

Trauma beyond. Thank you you helped me so much. ❤❤🙏

Brilliant answer to that question Mike 🤗🙏

It blesses me too, Mike

His mercies are new every morning. Praise God.

Pastor Mike you are truly God sent I am currently going through this....Your word at the right time.

This was very relevant for me Mike. Thank you

Awesome response Pastor Mike, as someone who struggles with these issues, it really helped me a lot. Thank you!

Beautiful! Amen brother!

That’s pretty fantastic right there. I have felt that so many times. I think many have. Self worth, in biblical perspective of course, is something I think many struggle with, but alas, it’s in the scriptures. Thank you for your wisdom brother.

Yup! I started a thing that when I feel a certain way, I’d rebuke it with scripture or a biblical affirmation Eg: “ I feel as if no one cares for me”-> “ the creator of the universe died a gruesome way just to show how much He loves me” Makes me feel better

Mike thank you much for your ministry anf ypur heart. You really do emmulate christ.

very thoughtful and honest approach to this issue, thanks for another video these help a lot, brother

Amen, beautiful advice, thank you!

I found that the first step in combatting my own lack of self-worth was to remove myself completely from any Calvinist reformed exposure. The Calvinism causes those of low self worth to assume that they must be reprobate, and there’s nothing they can do about it unless God forcibly causes them to have the faith to believe that God loves them.

A grounded message from grounded man...

thx for this Mike really showed me im not alone. Continue holding strong in the faith bro.

Very good answer. Heavenly Father does love us.

This a struggle for me as well. Thank you pastor Mike. Right now I’m wrestling with Romans 8 and how if we are children of God the Spirit will testify with our spirit. And how those not of children of God their minds are hostile towards Him. There are times where my mind is hostile towards God. It’s so shameful. And I don’t feel like God’s child. It’s putting me in so much fear. I’m so scared.

I appreciate the fact that you did NOT give the pat answer. Thank you for actually thinking about the question and giving a genuine response.

Pastor Mike is a genius! Faith is the evidence of things not seen!!

Thank you very much!

Amen, Amen, Amen. Pastor Mike. Your so full of wisdom. Thank Jesus for you. I’ve been listening to you for a few years now and I have been truly blessed by your videos. Your one of my favourite people to listen to and I hope I get to meet you in heaven to personally say. Thank you for your hard work, humbleness and really being you. Bless you and your wife and the mods. ❤❤❤

It's amazing how often the message I need to hear comes up when I need to hear it. God is at work in our lives.

I think this will help a lot of people. Thank u.

Awesome advice Mike. Always on point!

Thank you Pastor Mike.

Very helpful advice and insight, thanks Mike ❤️🙏

Keep it up Mike Winger and staff. Glad that you guys try your best. You’re videos have helped me and changed my life. I have faith that God will bless you guys greatly. Blessing in Jesus Name!

Bro… I didn’t think I needed to hear that but I did. Super helpful… excuse me while I go work on my baggage.

Amen!! Well said!

Thanks for this!

Great vid! Relying on what we know about God and our salvation provides a much greater assurance than how we feel about our relationship with God.

This is a blessing to me, Keep up the good work Mike :)

Wow! I don’t know whether that answer spoke to Giant Mushroom Tree (who is not alone in facing such feelings), but it was as if the Holy Spirit was speaking directly to me through you! Thank you and God bless you for that very edifying and beautifully articulated reminder of the fact of God’s promises in His Word that we can and must trust if we claim to truly believe.

Congrats on 500k 🎉

Thank you so much

Great perspective !!! This is me --- I often feel like I fail God every day (which i do like everyone in some respect) and that HE couldn't possibly love me :). Thanks this helps!

I caught covid on Thursday and had to miss half a day of work on Friday and also all of Saturday (today). I'm in so much pain and trying to manage the symptoms, but I am not getting hardly any sleep. Please pray for me.

Excellently said!