I Have the Perfect Job and Hate It

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@Yogurt4655 18 күн бұрын

A lot of these people in the comments are exactly what’s wrong with the world. Attitudes like “a paycheck’s a paycheck” and “welcome to the real world” when he just doesn’t want to lie to people all day are exactly how we get used car salesmen, MLMs, big pharma execs, scam callers and Raytheon employees.

@elainebmack 16 күн бұрын

BAM!! You said it. The world is full of hucksters, frauds, and con artists because of this. Add to that list all social media "influencers", rappers, and just about anyone in Hollyweird.

@makaylawoody2459 15 күн бұрын

Literally crying. At 25 with my first big kid job and feeling lost. So good

@redcomic619 14 күн бұрын

I’m in my late 20s. It doesn’t get any better, you just get your spirit beaten down to the point where you’re used to it. I’m honestly just waiting out the years until I can retire. 😢

@jordanh3782 20 күн бұрын

The best advice I was ever given was to try a bunch of different jobs because you won’t know what you like until you know what you hate.

@PenguTT44-sh2oe 18 күн бұрын

that's why I don't use my college degree.

@GlassJack 19 күн бұрын

As someone who has an interest in everything, but, a passion for nothing, I think you just changed this guys life. Good one, John. You nailed it.

@jh26pt2 20 күн бұрын

This rings so true for me. I thought I wanted to be a lawyer. Went through undergraduate, law school, a clerkship with a judge, and to a firm. Realized that I hated every minute of my work day. Eventually, I left the legal field entirely and found something else to do with my life. If you’re in a soul-sucking job or career, don’t just accept it as inevitable. Make a plan to get out. Blaze a new trail, one that makes you happy.

@crystalsnow1138 20 күн бұрын

May I ask what your job is now?

@denisesalles7248 20 күн бұрын

Good for you that you had the courage to get out of a profession you hated. Sometimes it's hard to figure out what makes you happy. I hope this young man finds what he loves to do.

@PeaceBeStill- 20 күн бұрын

Amen.

@alluringbliss4165 20 күн бұрын

That’s good to know, it took me a long time to find my way.

@glorias.2930 20 күн бұрын

There are soooooo many jobs you can do with a JD. I want to go to law school.

@Supergirl-oo5lr 20 күн бұрын

How brave of him to quit a job that made him miserable. Most people stay to pay the bills and are too afraid to leave. And I am not judging I have done it myself. Thank you for sharing this, this is exactly what I needed to hear today.

@MiaMizuno 16 күн бұрын

+ if you have family and kids, it's just getting worse.

@TheNinjutsuAlchemist 19 күн бұрын

Every kid goes through this really hard experience. We all feel like we need to pick a career as soon as we turn 18 and it has to be the right one or we’ve ruined our lives. Dr. Delony gave the perfect response. Nothing is a waste. Everything is a learning experience.

@matt3246-j7c 18 күн бұрын

This sounds just like me. I’m 24 as well and was premed my entire life. I majored in human biology in undergrad with a near perfect GPA. It wasn’t until I was 22 and started working as a medical assistant to get clinical experience that I realized I couldn’t do it for the rest of my life. I felt like I didn’t know who I was anymore because I loved medicine academically, but I found that in practice it was miserable. I was in that job for 3 months and quit. After 6+ months of hopelessness, shame and depression, I ended up finally applying for a bunch of jobs one day. I ended up getting a low paying corporate job at a major retail company which I wasn’t enthusiastic about, but I have grown to love the company. I’ve been there for a year and a half and have already been promoted twice to the point where I make a great wage, and I finally think I’ve found my place in the working world. When you change careers, ESPECIALLY in your early 20s, I think it takes time to mourn the person who you thought you would grow into, but eventually you just need to say “f it” and try something else. I’m so glad I did.

@blah7694 10 күн бұрын

Did you think about doing research? Just curious.

@matt3246-j7c 10 күн бұрын

@@blah7694 I took a few classes in a research related masters but I just found it wasn’t an enjoyable, lucrative or secure path.

@kellygreenii 20 күн бұрын

Then it’s not the perfect job. Especially if you don’t have to do it to survive. I think it was Steve Convey who wrote, “Nothing is more miserable than scrambling to the top of the ladder of success, only to realize that it was up against the wrong wall.” Life is too short to be miserable. No job is worth mortgaging your soul.

@Justin-td4bb 20 күн бұрын

This is what happens when you just float through the 'system' without experiencing tough jobs. You end up in a situation where you don't appreciate what you have and don't realise when you are on to something good. I see it happen a lot.

@kellygreenii 20 күн бұрын

Disagree. Some jobs are just a bad fit for some people. And some workplace are as toxic as a pit of poisonous snakes. There is no reason to subject yourself to this simply because it pays a lot, or it’s the job other people say you “should” want.

@PeaceBeStill- 20 күн бұрын

@@kellygreenii Bingo 🎯

@Justin-td4bb 20 күн бұрын

@@kellygreenii this is more than a bad job fit. It's easy for someone intelligent, qualified and in a growth industry to get another job that fits better. What he has is deep life discontent and disillusionment. Because he doesn't have the life experience to give his situation perspective.

@WoodyJ98 20 күн бұрын

@@Justin-td4bbbasically, he hasn’t accepted corporate servitude like the rest of us have. We need a revolution

@todd2324 20 күн бұрын

Facts!

@BREEZYM6015 20 күн бұрын

I'm fortunate to have a job that I like and pays $28 an hour; which doesn't seem to be a lot these days; but I live alone so it's enough to pay the bills and have a little extra in the bank.

@ceciliaaznaran3317 20 күн бұрын

I also came to a surprise of the field of accounting when I graduated and got my first job. Very cut throat environment and not fulfilling at all. After working for a couple of years, I decided to enter the social service field. I am happier and fulfilled in my new career.

@brendenagrela2466 16 күн бұрын

I think everyone in this world just needs Dr. John to tell them that he's proud of them and what they're doing. :)

@Raxus001 19 күн бұрын

This was so relevant for me. I’m so glad this man called in and that Delony posted this conversation. This one is was GOLD

@aprilcalkovsky2190 18 күн бұрын

As a career coach in a university, I love absolutely everything John has said here. 100% on point in every way. 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

@bleedinorangeblue903 19 күн бұрын

Quitting your job without having another one lined up is a JV move. He has the tools to do great things in life he just needs to learn from this and understand life is full of adversity- you must deal with it and overcome it - because that's what grown ups do ..he has a good foundation with a degree and no debt which is not the norm for most people in their mid 20s these days .I truly hope he finds his happiness

@PSi_14.7 20 күн бұрын

“Follow your passion” is some of the worst advice that has emerged from modernity…

@janelleg597 20 күн бұрын

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@redcomic619 14 күн бұрын

It’s actually good advice. If you love your job, it won’t feel so burdensome. Unfortunately most people’s passions aren’t easily monetized or lucrative.

@Gumby6583 11 күн бұрын

@@redcomic619or you just grow to hate the thing once loved as a result.

@drayko326 15 күн бұрын

The physiological stability (manual labor) he is talking about, is precious advice. Extremely humbling and also keeps your mind busy from being worried all the time.

@Z3sty367 20 күн бұрын

John’s face is my face reading the title of the video

@EricMoore790 20 күн бұрын

I'm starting to realize a job is a job no matter what.

@CCBBAA1 20 күн бұрын

One of the best calls for Dr. J ever!

@GallowayJesse 20 күн бұрын

work is work. some just pays better than others.

@jessicaguillen116 16 күн бұрын

If you want to help people try looking into Human Resources, depending on the company you can go into different functions. Or even be a recruitment or campus recruiter! It was hard for me to adapt to corporate America but with time and mindset I was able to make it work.

@emmawilkins5755 14 күн бұрын

Those new to the workforce have many decades of work ahead so I don't think its unreasonable to want to enjoy work or at least tolerate it. Good for you that you left a workplace that clashed with your morals, thats a noble thing. You will find the right thing eventually. I find working in the public sector and non profit worked for me because I enjoy making a difference. Use your skills to do good and that will make you happy.

@yenibobenny 14 күн бұрын

This call was so inspiring, loved it!

@melissab3217 8 күн бұрын

I actually think following your passion can still turn out well. You just have to very realistic and have other passions outside of the one you work in. And be prepared to have side gigs to make enough money. I had so many people tell me that my goals were pipe dreams, and I gave up on them for a while. Now I'm back doing what I love. I make less money, but I love going to work most days.

@joanlovelace7338 20 күн бұрын

The best thing about Dr John is that he can laugh at himself. I feel if you can't laugh life would be too serious,at least for me. I have to laugh at my dyslexia because what comes out of my mouth sometime is totally mixed up and is hilarious😵‍💫😂🤣😂🤣

@NaztyNate 15 күн бұрын

I worked at a car wash through college and I still miss working there everyday. I agree, get a decent manual labor job.

@chloe-ev3qk 12 күн бұрын

maybe you can start a car detailing business

@jacquelinetorres6462 20 күн бұрын

I loved this episode. What a treat! ❤

@kingofthehill7042 20 күн бұрын

This caller is the epitome of first-world, cushy problems.

@aisherwasher6959 19 күн бұрын

As silly as they sound, it's still important to solve the cushy problems when we have our basic needs. Neglecting to will negatively impact our mental and physical health. This call was an interesting listen.

@somethingelse7019 19 күн бұрын

It’s not the most pressing issue in the world, but addressing it is how we don’t end up in a false utopia of people being basically satisfied but unhappy.

@aishawf 20 күн бұрын

Great advice! You’ll be okay Josh!

@kyleeconrad 3 сағат бұрын

My husband had that happen with his mentour. Cornerstone of his community, foster parent. Pillar of the local church. Wife and kids all perfect, successful, charasmatic, gave back to the community.....and was doing shady backdoor business deals with Chinese companies, cheated on his wife and completely demoralized my husband in a public fashion by (including but not limited to): cutting his salary, changing his job title to a stupid ass one, installing a "co-director", not hiring actual IT and moving crew knowing my husband would bend over backward. It goes on. His world was shattered. He is not the same from it.

@9liveslisa 20 күн бұрын

He also needs to get back to work to keep the momentum going. If he wants to help people, he needs to find a job that helps people. Maybe a non-profit? They need people with marketing skills..

@WoodyJ98 20 күн бұрын

Nursing

@angelac8812 16 күн бұрын

Best advice ever. Hoping my 17yr will listen to this one. ❤. I totally understand where this kid is at. We all been there! I don’t like what I do. But I love my life and my family. So I focus on the positives of a not so fun job. I am a data analyst! lol blah blah snore 💤 BUT THE PAY 💰 makes it worth it. If I were to do what I love - I would be broke.

@TonyCox1351 20 күн бұрын

You know what my passion is? My passion is paying my mortgage, saving for retirement, and putting food on the table. That way every job is a passion job!

@devilsoffspring5519 20 күн бұрын

If you enjoy things that suck, you should have joined the military. Could'a made General by now

@denisesalles7248 20 күн бұрын

Very black & white answer, which nothing ever is.

@ch421249 20 күн бұрын

Miserable person telling others to be miserable. What a loser.

@hyperforxguy2210 20 күн бұрын

I'll say this instance probably isn't the best example of this topic he could have used, but in the end, you clicked on it because you were interested in the topic. Right there with ya pal.

@alluringbliss4165 20 күн бұрын

You have no choice but to pay your bills 😅

@daltonoftheyear 20 күн бұрын

apparently it's not the perfect job.

@MrLegitable1 16 күн бұрын

His history of ADD is very telling. That is likely why he is always pursuing the next thing with many interests. I relate to that

@erikaronska1096 17 күн бұрын

This was me when I got my first job as an RN in 1996.

@art.junk13 18 күн бұрын

I resonate so much :) great advice I’m also 24 thanks for this episode!

@marbs8615 20 күн бұрын

I think this is one of my favorite Deloney videos.

@snowdogmula 19 күн бұрын

Agreed. Such a relatable call about gen z in the current work environment.

@michss 22 сағат бұрын

josh we are on the same boat!!! love the advice dr

@andrewg_3285 20 күн бұрын

This kid should be happy that he even got a job with a useless marketing degree. I don’t know a lot of STEM workers who are unhappy. They may not jump for joy over manufacture engineering, but at least it gives them the free time to enjoy hobbies/live a life. All jobs suck. That’s why they gotta pay you to do it.

@dons1177 19 күн бұрын

Marketing is a soul destroyer, a purposeless, dark hole. I'd rather data capture or pack boxes for a quarter of the salary. It's a lucrative career where I live though, and I know of others who still hate it just as much.

@ruthirwin8222 19 күн бұрын

My daughter is in marketing and she is ok in it...she works 3 days and has rest of time with her family, she may not love love it, but it pays the bills, grow up

@melissaarmstrong1925 18 күн бұрын

You can do it, get back up. One step in front of the other. They told me couldn't I do it. I got a job with the biggest insurance broker.😮 find something you love. I was in Special Ed Classes in High school my teachers made all the difference.

@santafilipina9020 20 күн бұрын

He never really elaborated what was unethical about the old job. All jobs have aspects of "boring" and if he's got 50-60 years to go in the market he'd better start feeling comfortable with the idea. If you keep following your "passion" you will end up quitting every job -- stupidest career advise ever!

@BREEZYM6015 20 күн бұрын

I agree. He hould find a job that he likes but there is no such thing as the perfect job.

@jenniferwildflower4249 20 күн бұрын

He said lying was a part of the job. I think it shows high integrity for him to get out of such a job.

@santafilipina9020 20 күн бұрын

@@jenniferwildflower4249 There was no context.

@jenniferwildflower4249 20 күн бұрын

@santafilipina9020 context for lying? Hmmm.

@santafilipina9020 19 күн бұрын

@@jenniferwildflower4249 That was his claim but never explained. I don’t buy it at face value

@stephaniethytran3679 18 күн бұрын

Please drop the ad read bloopers lol

@semosancus5506 19 күн бұрын

This guy needs to start his own company. He's pretty smart so he's bored with marketing because it's largely vapid. He needs a more serious challenge.

@_JEBUS 20 күн бұрын

Telling kids that they needed to go to college was the biggest lie ever told to millenials. It created a society of depressed unfulfilled people. Thats why gen z is not doung that anymore. They see how miserable their parents, aunts, and uncles are. I know plenty of men my age 30's who would rathet work in a mine being active and earning less than in an office staring at a computer all day.

@256alexdt 12 күн бұрын

Do what you're good at and is needed in society ... as simple as that.

@Gumby6583 11 күн бұрын

But those two things don’t always align.

@redcomic619 14 күн бұрын

Work sucks. I honestly just want to retire and I’m more than 3 decades away from being able to. Work is absolutely the worst part of life.

@danielr951 19 күн бұрын

Just work in a place you don’t hate and do hobbies and have a family. That is the only fulfillment in life.

@describe_the_ruckus 16 күн бұрын

My grandpa said, "Don't look for the job you love, learn to love the job you have"

@ithinkigottalent4047 20 күн бұрын

There isn't a perfect job

@BrainWasherAttendent 20 күн бұрын

So many people in amazing jobs with great money have no clue how good they have it. All jobs are a lie on some level. Grow up and realize what kind of world you exist in.

@nilarene2088 16 күн бұрын

Morality above all!! 😊

@olufagosebambulagose 17 күн бұрын

There is nothing wrong with that this kid did. Marketing is definitely not for everyone and it is soul sucking. I could not imagine getting stuck in a job you hate for prelonged time but getting stuck in marketing sounds like living in the 7th circle of hell to me. You don't need to find your passion, but just find something you get any satisfaction from.

@bettysmith4527 19 күн бұрын

I don't understand how full grown adults can just quit their job before having another one!!

@JuanMejia-md8re 18 күн бұрын

Hard to believe no sich thing as perfect

@Mscookie3131 16 күн бұрын

Scrolling through the comments and then I hear…. “1st, I didn’t feel like what we were doing was unethical.” Goes back to the title to see if I maybe misread it… 👁️ 👁️… Nope… Its says, “I have the perfect job and I hate it”

@brightpage1020 19 күн бұрын

Deloney, don't worry about the ads. Nobody tunes in for them. Most of us mute those, fast forward, or pull our earbud out to hang until they're over. At least yours aren't obnoxiously louder than this program. Thank God you are doing that right! Go, Team! Don't worry about it. Nobody tunes in for the ads. We tune in for the callers and to hear your perspective. *And* for Kelly ♡. Yeah, we tune in for Kelly. How she handles you is so awesome. Thank you all so much for sharing.

@tshandy1 20 күн бұрын

Dude, you're in marketing. Of course you exaggerate. Everybody knows that. "World's Best Hotdogs" isn't really a lie.

@janelleg597 20 күн бұрын

But Best Comment is

@rachelgarbe3932 20 күн бұрын

IMO anyone that says they love or even like their job is a liar......😢

@567Kriss 20 күн бұрын

Hey!! Become an RBT, it changed my life, I sound a lot like you

@Maria-oz3rm 19 күн бұрын

What is RBT?

@567Kriss 19 күн бұрын

@@Maria-oz3rm registered behavior technician. I work direct with clients and families or schools. Special position

@ab-bd1kt 9 күн бұрын

You can tell this Josh guy doesn't want to hear the advice

@amare83 20 күн бұрын

❤

@davinasquirrel7672 19 күн бұрын

Marketing. I made it a rule not to use marketing skills for profits, but for non-profits. It's an ethics thing, not a 'do I love it' thing. At its core, marketing is about manipulation, far more base than sales techniques. It has a power about it, that you can only ethically use that skill for good, not for greed. Dude, just work for a non-profit. You either have the marketing 'gift' or you don't. If you don't, then go into another area. If it is a question of ethics, then redirect into a more ethical field. You don't have to 'join a band'. Delony off the mark on this one.

@chloe-ev3qk 12 күн бұрын

yeah I'm studying marketing in school right now and I do like it but I worry about feeling unethical and "scammy". I dream of owning my own business one day and I love looking at advertisements on TV and seeing strategies that companies think of to market themselves. I'm super creative and I love strategy and design which is why I chose it but hearing people say that they hate it worries me...

@davinasquirrel7672 12 күн бұрын

@@chloe-ev3qk You could set up a business for yourself focusing upon small business owners - giving them coherent corporate branding etc. Help 'the little guy' get a leg up. You may have to work at a regular job first as you set that up on the side.

@chloe-ev3qk 12 күн бұрын

@@davinasquirrel7672 thanks for your input! I have thought about doing that one day when I have more experience. I think it’s a lot more fulfilling to help smaller businesses as opposed to putting more money into the pockets of large companies. I did an internship in high school where I did graphic design for small businesses and loved it! I guess it’s all about finding your niche (even if it doesn’t happen right away!)

@Ronswanson734 19 күн бұрын

You said follow you passion is terrible advice. Isn't that Ken Coleman's whole schtick?

@jasonleatherwood2172 19 күн бұрын

Go into the trades man make 50k starting most jobs

@kschrop 18 күн бұрын

The content we watch especially on YT on a daily basis creates a false narrative for a better career/lifestyle... Even though he is succeeding in his own career, seeing how happy and successful these Tubers are hinders ones drive working within the corporate space.. It's a huge problem in the Gen Z generation that will only keep growing..

@evw0220 23 сағат бұрын

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@TartarianTopG 20 күн бұрын

Howd he get royalties?

@janelleg597 20 күн бұрын

Songs

@bleedinorangeblue903 19 күн бұрын

He sings the blues because he hates his job !

@Jongonz_algo 20 күн бұрын

No such thing as passion, just make sure the rent is paid buddy. Dude needs to grow up or life will come at him fast

@alluringbliss4165 20 күн бұрын

It’s just a phase.

@jake3028 2 күн бұрын

No such thing as a passion is a bullshit statement. Just cuz u don’t have a passion for your work doesn’t mean thats how it is for everyone else.

@elsahaas7116 19 күн бұрын

👍🏼

@PenguTT44-sh2oe 18 күн бұрын

He needs a trade job.

@JudePi-jx7yo 20 күн бұрын

Not sure I agree he should go work at Walmart for 6 months to 2 years. He should absolutely go to grad school. More credentials are better and you can always adapt as you go as John said from his history.

@TonyCox1351 20 күн бұрын

Is this a joke? Can’t tell if you’re poking fun at our education system but more credentials are absolutely NOT better. Not to mention the caller said it would require more debt. He should absolutely not go to grad school, he doesn’t even know what he wants to do with his life. He’ll probably graduate with $150K in student loans then decide he doesn’t like the field

@malenaqueteimporta5729 20 күн бұрын

He can do both. I did. I worked as a waitress when I was in grad school. I was also a mom. I’m a therapist now for the last 24 years. It is a grind, it’s heartbreaking work but it’s also the passion of my life.

@TimesUp8888 20 күн бұрын

@malenaqueteimporta5729 you are forgetting what grad school cost last century vs today. Waiteessing today + $150k+ debt would be the worst lifestyle I could imagine today.

@janelleg597 20 күн бұрын

Grad school? No. No. No.

@pris_pris 19 күн бұрын

If it was perfect you wouldn’t hate it. What’s wrong with people?! 😒

@angryox3102 19 күн бұрын

Never had to struggle in life. He doesn’t know what it’s like to have a job that is actually bad.

@pris_pris 19 күн бұрын

@@angryox3102 exactly!!! I think people just call him just to call.

@d53380 20 күн бұрын

How old is John 🤯?!

@flashthecorgi2053 20 күн бұрын

John is 46!

@kaptynssirensong2357 18 күн бұрын

Really? He looks great.

@gsmarkham 19 күн бұрын

John, your advice is usually good. This was all over the place, contradictory and at times harmful.

@gryffinberner 19 күн бұрын

Disagree. I thought it was excellent. He was absolutely right about careers as well as perceptions of self.

@flashthecorgi2053 19 күн бұрын

What, disagree?!!! I thought this was excellent advice and very helpful to this man especially about helping him get a people focused job so he can learn if that’s what he really wants to do. How in the world was this harmful???