Goodluck watching all that lol.

I love how he’s like “yeah we’re through” and she’s like “WE ARE NOT BREAKING UP OVER THIS” like bruh, she really just said nuh-uh to this poor man

I like how everyone in Reddit decided to make 'Sarah' the ultimate fake name. I've never seen so many Sarahs in my life.

This was unironically one of the best romance novels I know. The suspense, the betrayal, the healing(?), it has everything.

FINAL UPDATE (+link) for those who care: OPs brother told his wife about the OF girl in counselling and she let it be water under the bridge. She sees it as a consumption of porn and "its not like he's gonna run off with her." They've moved on and have different relationship boundaries than OP and it is what it is. OP had a private convo with SIL to make sure all was well. There "dead bedroom" is very much not dead and their marriage is fine. They made love like rabbits on the family vacay that would have been the honeymoon. OP didn't get much back from the wedding, except a bunch of frozen food from the caterer. Some gifts arrived and they're just waiting to send them back. The date just kinda came and went. He and "Sarah" spent the wedding date apart. Marty & Evelyn are definitely getting divorced, however Evelyn is kinda making it a process by begging for him to reconsider, won't be sorted anytime soon. Marty has gone a little dark from it all, no one can blame him. He's struggling a bit mentally with it all and isn't excited to have to return to his teaching job as spending time with his parents and kids has been a healthy distraction. Marty hasn't made a stink at Evelyns work even though he absolutely could get both Evelyn and Jake fired for sure. He also hasn't told Jake's wife. OP doesn't agree with this but it's not his place. When he pressed Marty, "I'm in no big hurry" because of all the recordings, pictures and screenshots Marty could ruin Jake's life at any moment. Marty seems to be getting some satisfaction that he is making this guy sweat it out. That or he enjoys making Evelyn realizes she's just a side piece to a married man. Marty has the power. Evelyn is with her parents and now only goes to work and home. The parents are not please with either of their daughters. However, they seemed to kinda forget about Sarah's cancelled wedding. Upon realizing Marty was very serious about divorce, the parents are far more concerned about having access to their grand daughters. They are very doting grandparents and are upset with Evelyn that access to the grandchildren will be halved. Finally, OP and Sarah's relationship. He's still struggling with his perception of her character. This stemming from the things he read in the text messages between Sarah and Evelyn. They aren't together like they use to be, but the relationship door hasn't closed either. They do not live together, Sarah wasn't pleased by this but OP said it need to be done to light a fire under her to actually get help instead of brushing it under the rug. OP wishes she had talked to him about everything before, but unfortunately that wasn't the case. She lives with her parents, though is looking to get out as it hasn't been good for her mental health. She's looking for her own apartment & OP has been paying back her contributions to the mortgage. He's been spending their time apart getting to truly know Sarah and the authentic parts of herself vs the parts she fabricated and where this behaviour of people pleasing truly stems from (it's her family, she's recounted stories to OP, hence why living at home hasn't been good for her mentally.) Sarah has been seeking help for her issues. He has not forgiven her, though he does still see her as redeemable and gives her the benefit that the night he walked into their house and found her and Evelyn, she never lied, minimized & generally took accountability for her participation. He's hoping to change the chapter instead of closing the book, however he is not delusional and if Sarah's emotional problems seem too much and they can't rebuild trust, he will leave. Or maybe one, or both, will ultimately get tired and throw in the towel, very well himself. But he wishes not to further complicate his life right now and is fine financially and is waiting to see if there's a sound resolution in a couple of months or not. He is seeking his own therapy for everything and their relationship is more in a "wait and see" position. His main struggle in counselling (maybe Sarah's as well) is not knowing if their relationship was based on genuine love for OP or driven by Sarah's deep seated need to please people and avoid anxiety. Once that question is answered, they'll likely have the answer to where their relationship stands, barring one of them doesn't throw in the towel first. *edit: spelling and wrong name www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/yoD3iCmg0L (OG POST - go to OP's profile for updates, there has since been a new one)

Dude’s so clear in his head, addressing his emotions, and making right decisions. I admire people like that, in complex situations like this I’ll shut down and flee all arguments. He also managed to get all those stuff done, I can’t even imagine me finishing all those without going autopilot or hiding away. You just can’t not love a emotionally mature person.

I speak for (Almost) everyone when I say this: "That's fucked up."

*me watching this video at 3am instead of doing my 3 missing assignments and 2 group projects due the next day:* papapepe

I’m sorry but it’s a double standard for him to inform Sarah’s brother in law but not his own sister in law when their significant other was entertaining someone else during their marriage. If he’s trying to move on and improve the marriage she at least deserves him to respect and honesty.

What a great stand-up guy. He really took care of Marty, definitely a friendship for life.

I actually watched the whole video and found the situation quite interesting. To sum it up, the woman of the dude needs psychological help and both have to find out if the relationship is still worth it or not.

It’s wild that he gave his brother the benefit of the doubt and considered the fact that there are two sides to every story for him when he was actually engaging in cheating behaviors… but didn’t give his fiancé a chance to even explain herself before cancelling the wedding.

This is one of those "obviously fake but still entertaining" stories, that or OP was really just trying to flex his writing skills in the later half. Still, a worthwhile watch

Sarah: what about us, what about everything we've been through? OP: Well what about trust?

As a 33 year old woman I'm sometimes sad about my non-existent love life but then I hear stories like this and think "things could be infinitely worse" so thank you for that. Also, holy mother of christ that was a fucking journey and a half!

Sarah doesn't seem like a bad person at heart, she was just incredibly unlucky to have grown up with a bully of a sister, and that sister sadly ended up influencing Sarah's decision-making. I hope her and OP hash things out and she gets the help she so deserves.

There are few things I would break up with the love of my life over and "helped cover up sisters cheating" isn't even remotely close

He made the right call at almost every turn, though I feel terrible for Sarah because she definitely needs help. As someone who had an "Evelyn" growing up, it takes a lot of time and effort to break that mold you end up making for yourself, then finding out who you actually are is even harder not to mention terrifying, even if it is something you'll never regret. I hope she gets the help she needs to accomplish it and that both she and OP find happiness.

This story honestly had me reflecting on my past experiences with infidelity. I’ve been in Marty’s shoes before, suspecting something but not having any evidence to go on other than a gut feeling. And I’ve also been in OP’s position. Learning something about someone you love and care about that just completely shifts how you see them. Realizing just how capable some people are at lying to those who they supposedly care about. It’s honestly disheartening sometimes.

I just watched a 45 minute youtube shorts video at 1am... I hope it works out for them, I don't think Sarah's a bad person.

I think he is hypocrytical. He accussed Sarah of covering her sister and then he went and covered his cheating brother

Whoa, finding out that OP’s own brother was also sexting and paying a lady for fap material was an M. Night Shyamalan plot twist.

i have never in my life been so interested in a story that I actually watched the whole video despite it being 46 minutes long.

Parpae. This dude ruined his whole immediate life for sake of helping someone. And potentially saving himself in the future

blud is casually cheating through the parkour course in the background

The dynamic of not knowing your SO after years of being with them as they hold up a mirror to you as if it’s they’re personality… I really resonated with this. I ended my longest ever relationship a few months back and towards the end I would ask my SO, “Where are you? It’s like I can’t find *you* anywhere.”

It was gruesome listening to all of that. I feel like there’s room for them to grow but it’s basically almost like starting over the relationship from square one. But it seems like a very odd thing to say, “but I just follow whatever my sister does ever since childhood.” Like how did they never get to talking about that in their entire 6 years of dating?

I'm kinda rooting for them to work through it and come out together. Sure this is some hard shit to recover from, but if they manage it, that relationship would be basically bulletproof.

The fact that it took 6 years for the guy to understand his wife and the wife to understand exactly how the guy would react to the sisters incident speaks volumes of how this all came to be. Personally I couldn't fathom being with somebody for 6 years and not knowing any of that. Blows my mind.

Idk why. But im literally addicted to these stories.

Holy shit that was an absolute SAGA. Very, very educational about human relationships though. SO much of this man and his wife's problems could be said to have started with simple miscommunication, words not said, actions not taken. Unlike her sister (and so, so many women these days) I cannot truthfully call this man's Ex-Fiancee a monster. Childish, perhaps, but not a monster. It goes to show how little we sometimes know about those close to us, and how important it can be to dig, to pry, even when it isn't always comfortable to do so. Problems cannot go unconfronted. If this woman had dug up the nerve (which, by all accounts, is hard to do, and I cannot really blame her for failing) to confront her husband over what she suspected to be adulterous behavior, it may have prevented all this. Conversely, it may have led to this bomb hitting his brother instead, well before they had a chance to rehab their marriage.

OMG that brother twist, I was in tears!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

the ending made me tear up. the story as a whole made my tear up a bit because if i, a socially inept person, was in OP's situation, i wouldn't be able to handle the incredible amount of drama

The Bimbo Mandy part fucking floored me. This story is one hell of a short film waiting to happen (well not really, they're real people in a real mindfuck of a situation).

gotta say. this is one the smarter people i have seen on the internet.... bro just flat out said people were stupid 💀now that confidence tells something

"She has never done anything wrong to me" - well, nothing you would *know* about. I suppose Marty would've said the same about Evelyn in the first months before he figured she was having an affair.

Whether this story is true or not I've seen enough similar examples in real life to know shit like this happens, and it always amazes me how people can live so long with a partner and not even think to talk about "deep stuff" like their formative years of childhood and the like. Yeah, it can bring up trauma and shit, but what is a relationship if you don't even know why the person you claim to love is the way they are, and what shaped them? How do you navigate through the relationship without understanding why something bothers them, why they do something you find odd, and without ever trying to really learn the answers to that?

Of all the twists and turns in this, possibly the thing that shocked me the most was how much I recognised myself in Sarah at the end when he started about the way she goes along with things in order to please people. Pretty much everything from going along with things to insecurely needing to appear useful could have been about me. I'd like to think that I'd never help someone in the way she did (especially as cheating broke up my parents' marriage when I was a kid), but I feel like I have some self-reflecting to do.

I watched the whole thing (papapepe) and the part about her being a people pleaser, reflecting back what she thinks other people want, never saying no, and them not having any disagreements sounds a lot like me honestly. Unlike Sarah, however, I am aware of this tendency and can (and have been) work(ing) on it.

Kinda unfair tho that when Sarah finds out about the OF stuff, that she needs to tell him first so hen can explain himself, but he cancels a whole ass wedding before giving her a chance for anything.

That was intense. OP responded well at basically all turns, and I even responded physically to this. I thought I got the flu.

cant believe i just watched a whole ass 45min reddit novel without pausing.

If this is all true, it sounds like OP still loves Sarah, but needs time as much as she needs therapy. Hopefully things work out for them.

Remember kids, "Only cheater (or a soon to be one )will cover another cheater"... It is a major 🚩

You know, one day Evelyn will most likely to courage Sarah to cheat on OP if OP and Sarah end up together without OP finding out about this all stuff. I'm glad he made a good decision for his future.

Only thing I disagree with was not letting jakes wife know. You found a web of lies and cheating and misleading, it’s not fair to cherry pick who you let know is being wronged. Also I can’t say whether or not he should have told Karen, but I think cornering the brother in person first is a good idea

My head cannon. They go to therapy. Couples therapy and she also goes to solo therapy. A year or so passes and she comes into her own and he realizes he loves her more now than before, especially because she can be her own confident person. One evening they are just sitting on the couch and she laughs at something completely out of the blue and he has no clue why and he just falls heads over heels all over again. They get re engaged. They get married. They have 2-3 kids. They grow old. They move to a nice side of the country , sit on their porch and watch sun sets and sun rises and love each other to the end of their days

Bro is massive hypocrite. He exposes his fiancee's sister's cheating but will gladly cover up his brother's sexting. EDIT: I don't know why all of a sudden this 6 months old comment started getting several replies, so for anyone who might consider replying to this in the future: I don't remember the details of the story and I don't care enough to rewatch the video, I didn't even remember writing this comment until the notifications started showing up. I have pretty much no clue what any of the people replying are talking about and I'm not gonna bother finding it out.

Lol this story is hilarious "I didn't marry my girlfriend bc she was okay with her sister cheating- anyway turns out my brother was and I mean- he's family and I don't wanna ruin a marriage. Kinda a moral gray area for me tbh." (??????????)

I'm just amazed at how elaborate and detailed this reddit post has been. Got me genuinely interested and for a certain part, made me reflect on my own life. Makes one realise how someone you love can be someone else entirely. O P had been observant and really thought it through. May you live a good life and find someone as wise as you have been.

Okay I’ve binged a lot of these minecraft reddit story combos but I’ve never gotten so dizzy and motion sick like I did with this one. I think the fact that it was one continuous video made my brain try to keep track of the whole landscape and that’s why I’m sick lol

I like how he saw the letter under the door, saw how long it was, went "I aint reading allat" and then went to work 😭

I know this story is supposed to be the main focus but I watch the parkour in the background and thought "IT WAS ALL A LIE" 😂

Dang it. I hate cliffhangers. Would really love to know how OP and Sarah are moving forward with the relationship. And also, what is he going to do about his brother

Would dump his girlfriend for covering up her sister's infidelity, but decides to do the same thing for his brother..

I was understanding of OP's reasoning for calling off the wedding until he basically did the same thing for his brother. Definitely hypocritical of him.

I'd say that OP should probably stay with Sarah on the condition she gets into therapy and learns to stand up for herself and effectively start the 6-year relationship all over again as he learns her real self and not what she thought he wanted in her.

The one thing that bugged me about OP was that he completely trashed Sarah for covering for Evelyn, but (as of his posting) kept quiet about Carl and his online escapades. I don't support what Sarah did at all and I would probably have called off the wedding, as well, but OP was willing to keep mum about Carl while he blew the lid off of Evelyn's affair immediately.

papapepe x) Edit: Jokes aside, I once was in a relationship with a "yes woman" like Sarah in the story. It was the most energy consuming relationship I've ever had, because I was basically the one trying to help her break that darn mold of trying to please her sister and family while completely disregarding her own needs and opinions and sacrificing her livelihood. It was tough, because her Family started seeing me as "The Bad Guy" who was a "Bad Influence". I didn't care though, because I loved my partner so much at the time. I can't tell you how HAPPY I felt the first time she mustered the courage to place her foot down and stand up for herself. In that moment, I was overcome by an immense feeling of Victory and Pride. Our relationship didn't work out in the end, but if I was able to help her break that unhealthy barrier that had been following her around all her life, I did my part.

The fact that the older cop just instantly went to trying to fish for a reason to arrest OP is just.... Concerning 🤔

Movie quality writing honestly. Everything was so well described and explained I had zero trouble following.

I don’t think his fiancé would have cheated on him because she backed up her sister. I think it really was what OP said, she reflects back whatever somebody wants from her an OP ostensibly would’ve wanted a loyal wife. However it is almost certainly better that they break up-it doesn’t sound like a healthy situation. I hope she gets some therapy and grows a spine.

UPDATE: Evelyn claimed that ger husband committed SA against their daughter with the support of her family. Thankfully, in an attempt to take responsibility of her actions Sarah informed the ex/current fiance and told Marty. She gave a written statement to his lawyer and was recorded. So when they went to an emergency custody hearing and Evelyn made her claim, Marty lawyer gave the evidence to the judge. The judge ordered primary custody for Marty until the custody hearing and only supervised visit by Evelyn. Charges were filed against her but not prosecuted. Also this seems to motivate her to stop fighting the divorce and her lawyer contacted Marty'e lawyer for settlement. OP and Sarah are spending Christmas with his brother and sister in law in Australia and Sarah is cut off from her family for snitching on them.

it took me ages to realise this is a text-to-speech bot

OP did good for pressing charges. She aimed for the eyes which could lead to terrible eye sight or even damage beyond repair and even if it was not fatal she could do it to other victims of her.

This guy is great. Reminds me of my dad. He learned a valuable lesson about what really matters in relationships of all kinds: understanding each others' issues and traumas.

This shit NEVER CHILLS Literally EVERYONE is being affected by this nonsense. One cheater destroyed 12+ relationships

my GOD. i watched the entire thing. this needs to be a BOOK! that was such a rollercoaster of emotion. the ending where sarah's true problem is revealed almost made me cry. why. WHY does such an incredible story have to be conveyed in such a strange media form. so poetic and pointed. it was not "wishy washy" it was directed. it cut like a blade. there are so many people who have this kind of problem. such a brutal tale. papapepe

OPs self awareness about his situations and his surroundings is extremely impressive, which I'm assuming comes from his field of work. Personally I can relate to this story on a spiritual level as I hold similar beliefs to OP in a lot of these cases, I'd consider my self more observant since I had been raised around people who lie constantly, I have had a stupidly good sense of intuition on what people are thinking and how people act from a very young age, which basically makes me a human lie detector. Not saying I was raised in a bad home, I actually have really loving parents, it's more like they lied with good reason but I was always overly aware of all the discrepancies. Unfortunately I have sub par communication skills as being able to process everything in a moment and come to the proper outcome with a properly presented explanation is where I fall short, unlike OP who only had a few social slipups, I would have much more then that, which is why I tend to mull things over and think critically about them before making a decision. I probably would have notice Sarah's predicament of always being a "yes man" early on as I am also one of those people who enjoys the company and opinions of my partners, as I get bored easily by only doing things I want to do. Personally I think OPs decision to get Sarah help is a proper one. I also think that her being firm about not leaving the shows more that she really does love OP, not that she's just being stubborn. His thoughtfulness in not "nuking the relationship from orbit" was a proper one as from even how OP describes Sarah's she seems to deeply regret her mistake and is self aware of the situation she is in that her lack of personal decision making and just "following orders" all her life made all of this happen. Personally can't tell if she's lying as we have a second hand account, but if we trust OPs observations I think the best course of action would be to put her in counseling and also couple counseling after some time so he can get to know her. Also would recommend moving or finding some way to limit contact with Evelyn as she seems to be a bad influence on her Sarah (as OP also stated) and you don't want her putting any ideas in her head to get back at OP out of spite.

I think its a bit hypocritical for him think that bad about her when she obviously needs help when he just shook off the things his brother did

I find this guy very self-righteous

While I cannot confirm the legitimacy of these confessions, they still nonetheless motivate me to eventually adopt instead of marrying to have kids. Papapepe be blessed.

let's be honest... he did the right choice to call off the wedding.. if the ex was willing to cover her sister's affair, then it would be a matter in time that she would end up cheating on OP. Basically the sister would have returning the favor on her...

That feeling when you realize the person you thought you knew was a total fabrication in your mind is truly life altering. Took me almost a decade to see my ex-wife for what she was... What her own family and best friend tried to warn me.

i hope she gets better thru therapy. this guy is such a stand up guy that he can realise all this and empathise with Sarah. he's really emotionally mature!

This just showed up in my recommended and its possibly the best thing KZfaq has ever given me, I only wish at the start of this video you’d have told me to get popcorn.

This. Was. Awesome. I don't know if it's fiction, it sure feels like I just finished watching a feature length film. But this guy sounds super human, and is in the perfect career, but could not see his girlfriend was a yes man for 6 years? Crazy. Thank you for posting this.

damn Op reads into EVERYTHING all the way. its good to pursue some things, but you gotta know when to let it go.

When he said “Yeah just what we all were thinking”, I was like this chick is dead Sarah killed her.

When he hid it from his brother's wife it was justified but when Sarah did the same it wasn't ?! Sarah sweetie , u got out with the better end of the deal

After making it to the end, all I can even think is: My god Sarah. Who are you? For real, who are YOU? Sarah seems like she never got the ability to blossom because she was choked out by her sister. I'm so sorry for this couple and if there is salvaging this relationship, its gonna be a long journey yet. As for Evie, I'm sorry but drop the NUKES on her. She did the crime, let her do the time.

do NOT let the parkour dude cook again 💀 papapepe

This person handled the situation quite maturely, although I do feel bad for Sarah. I think she's a bit of a victim in this ordeal. One could only have wished she'd been more honest with herself and her close one's, and not always put up a persona to each person in her life to please them. Also, yes, this would make a good novel

the dude playing minecraft is cheating more than evelyn

He'd better not keep this secret for his brother. Otherwise he's being a hypocrite.

Wtf was the cop thinking ??

Damn that denial is strong. 'we are NOT breaking up' I thought relationships were a two yes thing? One no one yes means a no.

Jeeeez, this was a rough one. But at the same time... I enjoyed how it has a spark of hope. The fact that OP's fiance at the end wanted to fight for the relationship kinda shows how she's willing to work through it. I think it exists in this place of, "I'd love to see a happy ending here, but I also understand if the trust is gone." Honestly... I just hope they work for it. papapepe

Longest video yet, cant wait to watch the rest of this at 2am 😂😂

I love these long ass ones, really fun to hear drama, i listen to them while i work, like a podcast

Anybody that doesn’t see cheating as instantly relationship ending is somebody I’m not associating with. No exceptions. People that help are disgusting too.

getting her arrested was sublime. this is better than the movies

Better life story than most movies ^^

Listening to this at work, christ what a rollercoaster.

Recently, i have been through the same "I feel like i didnt really knew about my SO" feeling, a certain incident made me feel it. My gf has never been open and always hides somethings behind a calm smile and stats silent from her elementary school time. I know her for just 3 years but it resonates with me so i will type a long rant. I kind of resonated with this guy when he said brought up "mirror behavior" of her girlfriend. My girlfriend has this too, i recognized it as she imitates some of her friends in chat and irl too. She has had problems making friends and being open, it all came infront of me when i confronted it and also said my part of stories. She was bullied by boys, spat on and attacked. All those bad stuff made her not like boys and closed. I told her i will be her mirror. I will reflect how she actually is and now she reveals a lot more and is a lot more open (as i am being a lot open too) All the past "love" (one sided) and other encounters are being shared with me now, like how i recently heard of her best friend (male) who hadn't been talking to her for years since childhood and now when their friend group got active again he is kinda flirty with her, saying if i was your husband stuffs and other things. (I DONT BELIEVE IN PSYCH) But i had a dream where she was being taken away from me, a week later i confronted her, and the man in my dream was actually that guy. She spilled everything and she thought of just ignoring it since she didnt knew he had feelings for her. While i didnt confronted the guy as i don't want unnecessary disturbances (preping for uni) i told her to do what's best and i will support her. She decided to break off friendship. And soon after her childhood friend (childhood crush) also started talking w her and she broke it off. Earlier this year she also encountered a guy online who was trying to get a session of sexting from my gf. She didnt knew how to react and she was against it. Lastly she said she has a boyfriend, the guy stopped doing the acts but persisted to do some kind of weird sis-bro roleplay? I dunno i found out about it later this year when she had slowly pushed him away. I got pissed at the guy, logged into my gfs acc and told him he got cat fished lol. I really think that stockholm syndrome, to an extent, is at play, for both my gf and "sarah" like they don't really know that they are being wrongly taken advange of. My gf confessed that she really took the online guy as a brother, the guy who talked about being husband as a best friend. And u get it but i was pissed at her for not sharing while from the start of our relationship (we were close and had mutual crush from starting) i suggested her to occasionally talk about something that she's been hiding from other's, that i was safe to talk to. But i never heard of guys and she always insisted that guy's weren't even an inch of her life. This all made me feel like i didnt knew my gf. I didnt knew what she was really thinking and how she'd lie when i asked and hide when it's really important to share. Recently when i got such a dream i used the "Jesus showed me" me chip. Don't get me wrong, i am a Christian but i wouldn't know for sure. And i believe in God. But i just used his name and said that he showed me all this, and as she is a firm believer she literally broke friendship with her best friend. I didnt wanted it to go this way, and i think there were other options like confrontation and all but she choose it. I will confront next year when i will be in a uni. Well thats it. Thank you for reading thus far it was just a rant. May you share your story as well

Lesson learned: If you don't stand up against injustice, in the end, you will hurt everyone else around you and in turn only hurt yourself.

The plot twist at 28:00 killed me 😅

Somehow the line at 21:15 is really funny "but Sarah was obviously losing her shit" with the tone used. It's a sad story, so much pain caused by their selfish behavior.

Not the guy doing the parkour cheating like ten times while we're hearing about this poor man's life collapse 💀

I'll take "Shit That Never Happened" for $200.